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#MenTellHealth is back! Alema Harrington and Koz talk about how religion can be an issue when trying to make changes in your life that include breaking addiction habits, depression, or even other mental health issues. The problem is that for some people it's a cornerstone. Unfortunately praying, and talking to God doesn't help everyone to break the cycle of mental health issues.
The question isn't one that some people feel comfortable asking. Does having faith mean that you can't get medical help with your mental health issues.
Stay tuned for the full video!
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You can find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.
If you aren't getting the love you want, check out this episode. The Just Koz Show's host David "Koz" Kozlowski breaks down how a female-male relationship works, and how you can get the love that you may feel like you are lacking. Everyone in a relationship wants to feel respected, love, and that you are being heard. Koz wants you to go first, and do something nice for your significant other. Make her feel emotionally safe and secure! You've got this!
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You can find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.
The guys talk about the Super Bowl. Koz isn't a Patriots fan but rooted for them. Alema went for the Eagles because of his son being a fan for years back when a lot of BYU players were playing for the Eagles.
Alema does pre and post game for the Utah Jazz on television and they are currently on a winning streak. He talks about how much better everything is when the Jazz are winning. It makes his job easier and has even talked to business owners who say that business is better when the Jazz are winning. That is because it elevates their emotions when they are winning. For example, when the Jazz beat the Warriors by 30, fans felt like they won the game and they weren't even playing.
Koz has become a fan of teams in Houston because of what they went through this past year due to the Hurricane. But everything seemed better for a short period when the Houston Astros won the World Series.
The first #Mentellhealth question comes in from a listener. He is a sports drinker, which is when he watches his sports teams and his drinks while watching them. He also had a gambling problem but didn't have problems gambling until he was drinking a lot. Koz and Alema advise him to be very careful. That if he is a gambler in recovery that he needs to go back to a meeting.
The second #Mentellhealth question comes in from a listener that is having a hard time with her husband always helping his mom and going to her all the time. The mother-in-law lost her husband recently and is going through a hard time but it's been tough on the marriage because he isn't there for his wife. The advice that was given by Koz and Alema to her is to have the mother-in-law attend a support group that is specific to this issue of grieving after losing a loved one. Also, she has to be understanding to a point as well as the husband.
The last #Mentellhealth question for Koz and Alema comes from a father whose son is being some what bullied at school. The school hasn't done much about it and the father is tired of it. The guys gave a couple of tips for the dad like keep on talking to the school administration until it gets handled. They have a lot of problems each day so stay proactive. The other is to maybe try out a Brazilian Ju-Jitsu class. It is purely for self defense.
If you have any questions regarding mental health for men, use #Mentellhealth. You can message Alema Harrington on Instagram or Twitter @AlemaHarrington or David Kozlowski @DavidKoz_ or you can message the Just Koz Show Facebook page.
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You can find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.
Renaissance Ranch is giving back to the community. They held two free events in Utah, where families of those affected by addiction could come out and ask questions to a panel of experts.
David Kozlowski is holding an event with Unified Fire Department that will teach parents how to deal with what the youth is going through. It's on March 8th.
#Mentellhealth question comes in from a listener who had an affair about seven years ago. He and his wife worked through it and are still together but whenever an argument comes up, that comes up with it and he just wants to move on.
The way to look at it is that if he is still with his wife having an affair 7 years ago, you are probably doing something right. His work continues to be on being able to be okay whether his wife forgives him or not.
Tell her that you are going to make up for it but you don't need her to forgive you.
A #Mentellhealth question comes in from a listener who is trying to help his son with Asperger's become an independent man.
If it is in his best interest to move out and become an independent person and if he is capable of doing that. Then the father should demonstrate his support. Another thing that the father can do is model for him, take him driving, share your insecurities and struggles and open up a dialogue.
The main thing to help his son is to connect and relate.
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You can find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.
#Mentellhealth question coming in from a listener. He is a sports drinker, which is when he watches his sports teams and his drinks while watching them. He also had a gambling problem but didn't have problems gambling until he was drinking a lot. Koz and Alema advise him to be very careful. That if he is a gambler in recovery that he needs to go back to a meeting.
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You can find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.
Anybody have any guilty pleasures? Koz does. One of them is a couple of podcasts that he listens to. He was a guest caller, he randomly called him on his personal phone. The podcast is "This past weekend." The host is open with his pornography addiction. He takes calls from average guys and one guy called in and he and his wife made an agreement to both lose weight. He lost the weight but his wife didn't. Now he is not sexually attracted to his wife. Now he looks at a lot of pornography. He doesn't know what to do because he didn't want to bring it up to his wife. He was sad because he isn't attracted to his wife and mad that she didn't lose the weight and he doesn't feel good about looking at pornography.
Koz called in to the show. He was giving a lot of advice and was talking fast. The host chose Koz as one of the feedback advice to give to the guy. Think about her insecurities of being overweight. Women's insecurities are way worse than men. Koz's suggestion is that it is easier to give compliments for what they have done rather than criticizing them.
Koz had a friend who had a bad attitude with him. He approached him and gave him a compliment and thanked him for being patient with him.
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You can find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.
#KozKnows is about your best friend. Which is you. Kos is going to tell you how to best friend yourself. We normally go to our best friends when we struggle or get advice. Sometimes your best friend is not around. If you are your best friend, it’s free access to think outside the box.
Koz was a sophomore in college and had a problem with a girl that he was dating so his other friend was talking to him. Koz kept complaining about the girl he was dating. He was given advice to just tell her how he feels. It was something that he needed to hear.
If you have had friends tell you what you should do, you will sometimes remember some advice that you have received in the past. That’s how you best friend yourself. It might take some practice but the next time you are in a situation, just remember what your best friend would say. Your best friend will usually bring you back down to earth and keep you in check.
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You can find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.
Stevenson Sylvester joined the Just Koz Show with David Kozlowski and Alema Harrington to talk about what he is doing to give back to the community in Utah and his career at the University of Utah and his time in the NFL.
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You can find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.
David Kozlowski is helping people through his friend Alema Harrington with people who know someone who struggles with Opioid addiction. Alema works as a counselor at "Renaissance Ranch." They are holding two events in Utah. February 6th in Davis County and February 8th in Sandy, Utah. What these two events will be discussing is what to do when you don't know what to do. A lot of people are in that situation when they know someone is dealing with Opioid addiction. They will have a great panel of speakers that will be hosted by Alema Harrington. It is free to the public to just help the community. This is simply a place where you can get information to help with this crisis. For more information on the events. Go to renaissanceranch.com.
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You can find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.
Have you ever listened to someone and as they are talking you realize they are crazy but you still try to understand. Then it turns around and you feel crazy about it? You waste a lot of energy and worry and try to figure out what they meant what they said and so on. This is called "Don't try to make sense of nonsense." This was inspired by a seminar that Koz gave about a specific mental health disorder called "Borderline Personality Disorder." It's basically Bipolar disorder on steroids. Most people know what bipolar is and even use it as a joke. But it is a very serious mental health issue. They usually have lots of talents and great things about them but they have a hard time with deep relationship issues because of the fear of being abandoned.
Think for one moment about any sort of relationship in your life. Then a person behaves in a way that doesn't make sense to you. But you don't want to fight with this person. When someone is not making sense with their behavior, take a moment and say to yourself "I need to stop trying to make sense of this nonsense." When you say that to yourself, it allows you to back up and have realistic expectations of yourself and the person. If the person is highly emotional (which is usually the case). If you are trying to make sense of their emotions, they likely won't have the same emotions the next day, or even 15 minutes from now. You can get trapped in an argument with someone. If you just gave it more time, then the person will have cooled down their emotions. Now you don't need to use all of your energy on nonsense.
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You can find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.
It's Koz knows! Are you familiar with the "Parent/Teen Partnership Agreement." If you are dealing with a teenager not listening and going through difficult times. Maybe the grades are down. Most parents are not okay with that. They look at the worst case scenarios. The philosophy is based off a contingency agreement. If the parent and teen agree on something and both accomplish the agreement, you become successful.
How you work the partnership. It is better to involve a counselor. But come up with three things that you want the other person to do. i.e. chores need to be done, certain GPA. Also, the teenager comes up with some ideas that they want the parents to do. But keep it simple and measurable. Some things that are not good ideas is to have your teenager be respectful and honest. We all know that it is difficult with a teenager. If things are not being accomplished in the agreement. You don't just end the agreement. But don't give a consequence in the heat of the moment.
With school, a parent should not track their kids assignments being turned in on time. Put in the agreement that you check the grades one day a week. If it isn't done, rather than a consequence, you get something taken away. Allow a little flexibility too. Be sure that you are calm when an part of the agreement isn't followed.
It is a lot easier for teenagers to come up with three things for parents. i.e. Parents don't constantly check on teen about getting school assignments done, not constantly checking on the teen. Unless the agreement states otherwise. But the key for parents is to give their teenager enough space and freedom.
Remember this is all about learning to be discipline and to be successful. Also, give them opportunities to make money. Teenagers don't ask for an excessive amount of money. Parents shouldn't have anything related to religion or specific things from the past.
Also, make a list of three things that your teenager will go without when they have a consequence. i.e. 24 hours without cell phone, one day without hanging out with friends, can't borrow the car. But leave it up to the teenager.
Ultimately, this agreement helps your teenager get ready to become an adult. It helps them to be responsible and it helps them grow and progress.
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You can find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.
You can learn and get better at whatever you'd like to do just by having connections with other people. The Just Koz Show's David "Koz" Kozlowski talks about having someone there to support you in whatever you do, which means you're more likely to meet your goals to figure out old problems, or to figure out solutions to new problems. Even in this technological world, there are so many ways for you to learn more things through the connections available across the globe.
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.
2017 has been a difficult year for a lot of people and it has let to a lot of drama and negative emotions for a lot of people. The Just Koz Show's David "Koz" Kozlowski talks about how life happens, and you can't rebuild if you are in defense mode in your life. Whether you are dealing with relationship problems, health problems, or anything in your life, maybe you see 2018 as the year you will shine. Rebuilding mode can lead to great success as long as your defensive time is in the past. Koz says Big Sean says it best in his song Bounce Back: "Last night took an L, but tonight I bounce back. Wake up every morning, by the night, I count stacks".
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.
When a young man approached Koz at a speaking installment, he told Koz about a friend of his living on the other side of the country whom he only communicates with via social media. So how do you tell if it's a cry for help, a cry for attention, or them just venting? The Just Koz Show's David "Koz" Kozlowski discusses how you can interact with people struggling on social media, and whether or not they really are struggling or just wanting attention.
Social media can be tough to have these difficult conversations, but sometimes it's a necessity.
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.
It's easy to fall into old habits when having conflicts with others. being aggressive in response to aggression can often lead to more feelings of anger and frustration. The Just Koz Show's David "Koz" Kozlowski talks about how to break these cycles and offer someone a pass instead of reacting negatively to a harsh situation. Offing someone a pass means you walk away as the bigger person, plus, you leave the situation in the past.
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.
These days, it's really hard to feel needed in this modern technological world. It's incredibly hard since face to face interaction has been replaced by interaction on social media sites that may not even be noticed leaving today's youth feeling undervalued, underappreciated, and under loved as a tragic byproduct of an attempt to tell someone that gets lost in a feed. The Just Koz Show's host Koz explores how young people in today's society don't have a real purposeful struggle that they are dealing with.
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski who used to play football at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow
When you have someone in you your life who is struggling with addiction, you have a front row seat to something that is really painful to watch. The Just Koz Show's host, Koz, talks about how all too often when we watch our loved ones in pain, it can directly coincide with pain signals that you have. Empathy and compassion are absolutely necessary for the person struggling, and for the entire support group. When we go through painful times, we store those memories in our mind, and we store the feeling and emotion behind it, which can elicit an emotionally negative response if put into a similar situation. Koz talks about how to improve some of these situations.
The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski who used to play football at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow
You need to understand a few things about pornography. Koz deals with it a lot in his work. And there are a lot of misunderstandings.
Pornography is an intimacy issue. People that do not have intimate connections (sexual, spiritual, emotional) can suffer a lot with pornography. Pornography has a unique effect on people who are lonely because it temporarily makes them feel good.
It is very possible to develop a serious addiction to pornography. How do you know if it's an addiction, or a habit or just an activity? Koz looks at how it's affecting your life. Is it harming your relationships? Is it making work difficult or jeopardizing your career? That's one way you can see if someone is addicted.
It's true, this is a case by case thing. Different people have different reactions to social media, alcohol, or any other thing that we know can be addictive.
Koz does a lot of work with people struggling in relationships. In this episode he talks about good communication in a relationship, especially when it's time to end it.
He tells the story of a young man struggling with a girlfriend who keeps going out socially with her "guy friends".
He's uncomfortable with it, and she's defensive about it. It's wrecking their relationship.
Sometimes people who want out of a relationship will try to blow up the relationship instead of just leaving. So they will create situations that force the issue. Cheating is an example of behavior that may be designed to blow up the relationship.
It's better to be honest with your partner about where you are in the relationship. It's hard. You can be in love with someone but still know the relationship has expired.
You didn't get put in the "Friend Zone", you put yourself in the "Friend Zone".
Koz has helped a lot of people recovering from the friend zone. The danger you face in the friend zone is you can trick yourself into thinking you have a relationship with someone who just thinks you're friends.
The friend zone is the result of poor communication. You need to establish your intention in the relationship. Tell this person that you are interested in pursuing a relationship with them. Otherwise, you may just become a frustrated friend.
It's hard to be this direct with people, but the person will really respect you for being forthright and honest. Maybe that will help them see you as relationship material.
If you have any questions for Koz, use #KozKnows
Koz gives a lot of relationship guidance. He often works with people who are starting to date again after divorce. When you're making a new start, it's important to not fall back into old habits. If you want to meet the right person, do things that will help you find that person.
A lot of people go back to the techniques that delivered the wrong partners in the past.
Make sure you are clear about what your expectations are. Prospective partners should know exactly what you want and do not want. Then it's easy to know if the relationship will work.
You'll also be respected for being up front and honest. Both you and your dates can avoid feeling deceived.
Koz answers another listener question. If you have one, use #KozKnows.
The listener has lost a sibling and empathizes with a friend who recently lost her sibling. It's coming up on the one year anniversary of her friend's loss, and she wants to if she should reach out.
The holiday is a tricky time for someone suffering from a recent loss. Koz recommends keeping it simple. Texting is okay. Let them know you're thinking of them and that you have a similar experience. Make sure they don't feel pressured to respond. That pressure just adds to their burden. Make the invitation open.
If you promise to check in again later, make sure you follow through. Don't promise then bail. That happens all the time with people who grieve. There's lots of support early, then it fades. Stick with it but keep it open and pressure- free.
Koz takes a request from a listener. She's in her second year after her divorce and her first Christmas without her kids. This is all she can think about and she's now over eating, drinking too much, and is neglecting herself. What can she do?
Koz knows divorce. He's been there and he knows how difficult it is. He recommends a change of perspective. Start a special tradition for the years your children are not with you for Christmas. That will help give the holiday meaning and purpose when your children are not present.
Missing your children at Christmas is a time to reaffirm how much you love them. That doesn't have to bum you out, but get you excited to see them again.
The holiday season is hard on a lot of people. Especially those who have suffered loss in their family.
Koz shares his feelings on this holiday being his first since his father passed away. The season can highlight the losses we feel. This hits everyone differently. Sometimes people want to talk about those who've passed. Others don't want to talk about it at all. It hurts. The pain is real.
Koz has some ideas for changing your perspective during the holiday. Just because you're away from certain members of your family doesn't mean you no longer have their love. Listen for some ways to make the holidays less painful and more purposeful.
There is a lot of social pressure during the holiday. People schedule events and expect you to be there. You may also be expected to interact with people who are a bad influence on you or who are abuse and a problem.
Koz has a simple way to manage expectations around the holidays. By managing expectations, you can avoid being the bad guy if you have to cancel an appearance at a planned event.
Depending on the family drama, the holiday may take some courage on your part. Make sure you have some good guidance on your side.
As your teen gets older, they are closer to adulthood than they are to diapers. Are you still trying to parent them as if they're children?
In this episode of Koz Knows, Koz talks about transitioning your relationship to a partnership. As an experienced adult, you can be a very valuable partner to your teen to help them succeed. But they have to be able to trust your perspective and want your support.
Avoid bailing them out of problems, instead help them execute a solution just like you would another adult. Eventually they'll leave your home and if they see you as a partner, your relationship will stay strong.
If you have a problem you want Koz to discuss, use the hashtag #KozKnows on social media.
Healthy relationships have to include good communication. But this can sometimes be really hard.
Koz has some great tips for engaging the hard conversations that you shouldn't avoid.
If you have questions for Koz, use the hashtag #KozKnows on social media. He'll put your questions in the show.
Shame can do a lot of damage in your life. Koz knows this personally.
In this episode, he talks through the process of overcoming debilitating shame.
If you have an issue you want to hear Koz address, use the hashtag #KozKnows on social media.
Koz knows how attractive social media can be. It can be validating and fun. But there are a lot of pitfalls as well.
Doesn't it sometimes seem fake? Instagram filters can't fake happiness. Facebook can't help you be happy if you're not.
Even though "likes" or re tweets on Twitter can provide some immediate satisfaction, it's not a substitute for real life happiness.
Koz recommends this self assessment: Why are you posting? Are you doing it for the high? If you do that too often, you can become addicted to it. Our brains are not set up to get so many rewards for doing so little.
With a stigma currently floating around the buzzword, "Vulnerability", is there a more positive way to look at it or are we simply seen as weak if we choose to express ourselves?
In this episode, Koz breaks down what it truly means to be vulnerable. Whether that be in a relationship, at work, driving on the highway, being a parent, or even just opening yourself to the willingness to change and to be available.
Everyone will experience depression. Some will suffer from serious long term depression, others will know it through more temporary moods.
In this episode, Koz talks about how depression is serious and also treatable. Good human contact can be key to helping you back to good mental health.
Koz talks to Utah Senator Daniel Thatcher about mental health from the perspective not just of a resident of Utah, but as a political and community leader.
The conversation takes place at the Walk Out Of Darkness suicide prevention event.
At the Suicide Prevention Walk, Koz talks to his friend Stephanie who works with high school students.
Stephanie works with a high school Hope Squad, which is peer to peer suicide prevention.
They also recently held a Hope Week to focus on suicide prevention and mental health education.
Camee Adams lost her brother Tanner to suicide several years ago and she is a big supporter of mental health. She participates in the Suicide Prevention Walk to remember him.
She and Koz talk about how important it is to be honest about the experiences we go through.
Camee teaches self defense classes for women, helping them be empowered through physical ability.
Koz talks to Charles Mathis. They met at the Suicide Prevention Walk.
Charles is a resident at Odyssey House.
They talk about how difficult it is for families to recover from suicide. Suicide doesn't have to define our loved ones. It's something they go through but we know they're more than that.
Koz interviews Tony Vainuku, the award winning director of In Football We Trust. The film follows four talented polynesian football players in Salt Lake City as they try to navigate a complicated world of family, gang violence, and football. One of the players is Harvey Langi who now plays for New England Patriots.
Koz and Tony also talk about Tony's current project is a film based on the life of Junior Seau, a football legend from Oceanside California. Seau played in the NFL for San Diego Chargers, Miami Dolphins, and New England Patriots.
Alema Harrington tells Koz about his work with addicts at Renaissance Ranch. Sometimes it takes an addict to reach and save those struggling with addiction.
Alema Harrington shares his story of addiction and redemption.
Koz talks to Alema about his history playing football for BYU and his subsequent addiction to painkillers then heroin.
Koz interviews mental health and suicide prevention advocate Heidi Swapp.
Heidi lost a son to suicide and is an amazing resource for parents as they try to help their children in this life.
Heidi is also an amazing artist and designer. You can check out her stuff at HeidiSwapp.com
