Terrible, Thanks For Asking
You know how when someone asks "How are you?" you just say "Fine,” even if you’re totally dying inside, so everyone can go about their day? “Terrible, Thanks For Asking” is the opposite of that. Nora McInerny asks real people to share their complicated and honest feelings about how they really are. It’s sometimes sad, sometimes funny, and often both. From American Public Media.
Cynthia is a Latina adult woman living with autism. In this episode, she lets us in on her world, what her life was like growing up, and what she experiences today as an autistic adult.
Oh! Also, Cynthia made a Spotify playlist just for you, dear listener. You can find it here.
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Teresa fantasized about falling in love as much as any other teenager growing up. But because Teresa never saw people like her on TV or in movies — people living with disabilities — she could never really SEE herself having that kind of romantic relationship. That all changes when Teresa heads off to college.
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Leah loves to make things. Growing up, she loved to draw and paint. In college, she started her own comic. As an adult, she’s built tiny homes from scratch. And after an unexpected accident, she’s tasked with finding new ways to be the maker she’s always been.
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Gina became a caregiver at a young age. By age 6, she was emotionally responsible for her mother, her brothers and herself, and she learned to mute her own needs for the sake of others. As an adult, she’s still shaking off the long-term effects of being parentified and learning to attend to her own human needs.
Information about Prader-Willi syndrome & additional resources:
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32877518/
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/2360065/
https://www.pwsausa.org/
https://www.fpwr.org/
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Caregiving has always been hard work, and heart work. It has always been challenging, rewarding, grueling and life-giving. It has always been work worth doing, and work whose worth is challenged, or hard to quantify. And adding COVID to the mix…didn’t help. This episode is filled with stories from caregivers; people who were thrust into this role by COVID, or found the role further complicated by COVID. It is a reminder that you are not alone, even when you are bone-achingly lonely. An piece of recognition and appreciation for all of you.
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Our friends at Still Kickin have *two* upcoming caregiver workshops to help you find connection and support.
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In the third episode in our series on care, we’re talking to Ai-jen Poo of the National Domestic Workers Alliance about domestic work and the workers who take care of our homes, our families and our communities.
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In the second in our series on care, we’re talking about care at the end of life. It’s not just dying that is hard, it’s not just the prospect of death… it’s the recognition of it. It’s the conversation around it, which is often no conversation at all. In this episode, we’re having that conversation with Dr. Sunita Puri.
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We’re in the midst of many crises right now, and one of them has to do with care. Women are leaving the workforce in staggering numbers, buckling under the pressure of managing the responsibilities of the household on top of their work. In this episode, you’ll meet Eve Rodsky and re-examine what it means to value care and time in your own household.
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After losing his mother and his first wife Karen, Mark found new love with Melissa, one of the nurses who took care of Karen in her final days. They’re working together to overcome Mark’s fear of more loss, more death. And now, they’re ready to have children.
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There are (many) crossroads in a relationship, but Mark is at a big one: his girlfriend Melissa wants kids, and he doesn’t. In part 1 of this story, we explore how a difficult choice becomes a simple one, and what it means to embrace life in the face of loss.
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Way back in 2017, we did two episodes with Nora’s friend Chelsea, who was sure she was going to be alone FOREVER...and then met Brian. Their relationship was complicated by Brian’s relationship to alcohol and for years, people have been asking what happened. In this episode, you’ll find out.
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Are stars just like us? After a conversation with Busy Philipps… you will 100% think so. Hers is a story of finding and owning your weirdness, using revenge as a fuel source to drive you to success, and what to do when you get what you want and it doesn’t feel the way you thought it would.
After we recorded and mixed this episode, Busy announced on her podcast that her child Birdie uses they/them pronouns.
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Morgan Jerkins spent many months piecing together the patchwork of her own family history, and many weeks literally wandering in the lands they had been rooted to so many years before. This is a powerful conversation about the privilege of documentation, the search for self and what it means to redefine yourself through your ancestors.
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Good vibes only? Not on this podcast, and not when Susan David is in the room. For years, Susan has been leading the conversation about the value of *all our feelings* and how no emotion is bad or good. Here is the antidote to Toxic Positivity.
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This episode features conversations with people doing the best they can in difficult circumstances. Like Dr. Lucy Kalanithi, whose husband Dr. Paul Kalanithi was a notable and rising brain surgeon who wrote When Breath Becomes Air, a bestselling memoir about his fatal battle with cancer. And comedian Amber Tozer, who tells a funny and poignant story about walking in on her mother’s wedding… on Christmas Day. We will also talk with some of the women of the Hot Young Widows Club on their hopes and dreams for the upcoming year. Plus, stories of people’s worst Holidays ever.
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We all have to find our way to our adult selves. As an author, filmmaker and co-founder of a mass movement -- the Women’s March -- Paola’s adult self is … very impressive! But even the most impressive among us can struggle with belonging, especially in the systems that are set up to reject us.
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Ten years ago, Rebecca Black was a 13-year-old who made a music video. It… wasn’t great. But it also wasn’t great that it went viral on YouTube, and being mean about a teenage girl became a national sport.
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Something to get your mind off of the craziness of this 2020 Election Day!
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In 2012. Rosie became the first Black woman to win the Miss North Dakota pageant. Here’s what it’s like being a Black pageant queen in a state that is 90% White.
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We know that romantic and familial relationships are work -- and we tend to respect the time it takes to maintain healthy relationships with our partners and our siblings and our parents. But...what about your friends? Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman *literally* wrote the book about friendship. Lucky us.
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How do we talk about addiction in more productive ways? How do we hold empathy and boundaries together? What does it mean to recover? I have no idea, so Dr. Nzinga Harrison is here to educate, comfort and reassure all of us.
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Sam Irby has been pretty terrible, but she’s okayish now! She’s also the funniest person in the world, and this episode will make you laugh.
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In May, a viral video filmed by two young men pushed them to the top of everyone’s news feed. We tracked them down (it wasn’t hard, they’re on Instagram) to get past the story of what happened to them and into the bigger story: who they are.
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What happens when the place that feels like home...decides that you don’t belong anymore? When the person you trust to be a safe place for you violates that trust? Heads up: suicide, sexual trauma and eating disorders are a part of this episode.
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Leslie Gray Streeter is...well, look at the title of this episode.
Her very, very good book is available here.
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Yes Theory
Drayden is a solid, good human. He doesn’t lie. He tells it like it is. He is a Black boy with Autism Spectrum Disorder, and his mother Dana has been fighting to get him the diagnosis and services he deserves since he was just a few months old.
Dana and her children wrote a book about what it’s like to have a sibling who has autism. You can purchase “Come Meet Drayden” here.
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Every subculture believes that they are truly unique in their wild, passionate love for whatever it is they love. But honestly? Horse people win, hands down, and this episode proves it.
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We have always told you that we will not call grief a journey. But David Garcia’s story involves grief… and a physical, literal trip. So maybe it is a Grief Journey?
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This episode is the second in a 2-part series. Before you listen to it, listen to the previous episode, Untying Knots.
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Sometimes, our parental relationships are a little… tangly. We’re wrapped up in big, old knots from strings that were tangled up before we were even born. This is a story about the knotted threads of one family.
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There are certain parts of motherhood that you can count on: sleepless nights, self-doubt, unpredictable emotions, complete and total heartbreak. And you know what? You’d do it all again. To learn more about Impact Missions: http://imworldwide.org
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For many people, the killing of George Floyd in Minneapolis was the latest graphic instance of a Black American being killed by the police -- and his homicide the most recent national example of historic, institutional discrimination against people of color and indigenous groups.
Our colleagues at Call to Mind -- an APM / MPR initiative to inform and mobilize new conversations about mental health -- recently put a spotlight on the trauma of Black Americans and how it intersects with policing. Today, we're sharing the panelists' important conversations with you.
Thank you to:
- Angela Davis, host of MPR News with Angela Davis on Minnesota Public Radio. Find Angela on Twitter: @AngelaDavisMPR
- Resmaa Menakem, founder of Justice Leadership Solutions in Minneapolis and author of "My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies." Find Resmaa on Twitter: @ResmaaMenakem
- Justin Terrell, executive director of Council for Minnesotans of African Heritage. Find Justin on Twitter: @JTerrell41
- Brittany Lewis, founder and CEO of Research in Action and University of Minnesota researcher at the Center for Urban and Regional Affairs. Find Brittany on Twitter: @Brit_Lewis
There are lots of rules, all around us. They tell us who is in, and who is out. They tell us who belongs, and who does not. What does it feel like to cross that line...and what is on the other side? What happens when an insider becomes an outsider?
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The Terrible Writing Club is back, baby! Sign up today and join the club: ttfa.org/writingclub
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Layoffs. Redundancies. Furloughs. Right-sizing. There are so many ways to say “you don’t have a job here anymore,” and Sarah has already lived through a few of them.
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Raise your glasses! It's a 100th Episode Extravaganza!
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The world has *always* been uncertain, but some of us are more aware of that than others. But once the rug has been pulled, once the trapdoor has opened, once your perfectly planned future is no longer perfectly planned...then what? Kate Bowler doesn’t have the answer, but her story will still light your path forward.
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Do you need to laugh? Do you need to laugh REALLY HARD? Well, good. Because Nora turned the hilarious movie Bad Moms into a novel. It’s fun and funny and a perfect escape for right now, and you get the first three chapters right here.
It’s never been more important to order local. Our favorite bookstore has a bunch of signed copies of this book just WAITING for you to order. You can pre-order Bad Moms here.
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Dispatches from the era of isolation...
This podcast is about getting to the honest answers. But sometimes, it’s hardest to be honest with ourselves, especially when something terrible is happening EVERYWHERE and we don’t want to call too much attention to ourselves because, could be worse, ya know?
Do us all a favor and check in with yourself with the questions we included in the episode:
How has your life changed?
What keeps you up at night?
What are you doing during the day?
What have you learned about yourself?
How’s it going in there...really?
Thanks you to Dan, Hans, Sophie, Ralph, Sue, Tory, Nicole, Kate, Joyce, Stacy, Jessica, Brianna, Jen and Josse-Lynn for participating and sending us your stories.
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There’s room for everyone when everything is falling apart.
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The story of one woman with two identities. One frozen in time, forced to relive the worst night of her life over and over and over...the other out in the world, pretending to be the same person she was before.
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When you believe that love will never, could never happen to you, it feels like a miracle when it finally does.
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Everyone has a *thing* -- something your life would be better without. But, uh, it’s hard to stop doing things that are bad for us! We hope this episode helps, whatever your thing is.
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Dan and Darren spent the better part of three decades as best friends, until Darren died of cancer. Everyone dies, and everyone knows people who will die. So why does grief feel like such an individual sport?
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Grief. Addiction. Endometriosis. It’s a trifecta of hurt for Jessica, who just wants the pain to stop.
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Additional references:
Women and pain: Disparities in experience and treatment
Recurrence of endometriosis after hysterectomy
For women of color, the 'healthcare gap' is real and deadly
Lena Dunham on Her Decision to Have a Hysterectomy at 31
Other resources:
Endometriosis Foundation of America
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Finding love is unexpected. Losing it is unexpected, too.
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As we all know, the Internet giveth us joy and kitten photos, and it taketh away our free time and sometimes our self-esteem. How can we make our own version of the internet a little less crappy?
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What happens when an athlete’s body is in peak condition but the mind is throwing flags? On Tremendous Upside, Women's Basketball Hall of Famer Chamique Holdsclaw interviews some of the most fascinating stars in sports who, like Holdsclaw herself, have faced real mental health issues. In this episode, Chamique talks with her childhood friend, NBA All-Star Metta World Peace, formerly known as Ron Artest, about anger, meditation and that infamous night in Detroit. Produced by American Public Media.
In life, the only thing that remains constant is change. As TTFA goes through our own major changes, we explore what change really means to us.
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It's something we all dread. It's also something most of us probably don't understand too well: Alzheimer's Disease. Drug companies have spent billions, so why isn't there a cure?
Our colleagues at APM Reports dug into this question.
Listen to what they found, and learn more at: https://www.apmreports.org/story/2019/10/15/senility-alzheimers-amyloid-plaques
It's our third birthday, and to celebrate, Nora is crying.
Also: book recommendations for grievers are below.
“The Body Keeps The Score” by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.
“Mindsight” by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D.
“When Bad Things Happen To Good People” by Harold S. Kushner
“Felicity” by Mary Oliver
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This is the third and final episode in our series on childhood trauma and we're going big-picture. So buckle up, because the train is going to make stops in Rantville, Can You Believe This Burg and OMGtown.
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If the terrible things that happened to you during childhood can affect your health later in life, how do you NOT live out the worst possibilities for yourself? Is that even possible? In this second episode of our series about childhood trauma, we look at protective factors and resilience.
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We all kind of understand that what happens to us as a child affects us as an adult. But there is recent evidence that the way our childhoods affect us is so much deeper and more surprising than we thought.
This episode was produced in partnership with Call to Mind, American Public Media's initiative to foster new conversations about mental health; And St. David's Center for Child and Family Development, which is building relationships that nurture the development of every child and family; With support from the Sauer Family Foundation, which is committed to improving the lives of disadvantaged children and their families in Minnesota.
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Caleb Campbell always knew there was a plan for his life. And he went for what he thought was the plan with everything he had.
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When a supporting pillar is knocked out of a family, the consequences can be costly.
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When Karen’s dad’s health isn’t doing well, she decides to take action.
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Love is like... a rollercoaster. Highs, lows, and UGH WHY DID WE SIGN UP FOR THIS? Here's one couple's ride.
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When something is a symbol, it might not reflect reality. And when something is a policy, It might not reflect the humanity of any one individual.
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Some changes you anticipate. They are eagerly awaited — sometimes you work for them. And some changes just jump out at you and turn everything upside down. But no matter what, when change happens, you go from your capital "f" Former Life to something new.
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We have an update on a past episode!
Harris Wittels was the executive producer of "Parks and Recreation," the coiner of the word "humblebrag," a Phish enthusiast, and the funniest person in any room he walked into. He died of a heroin overdose in 2015, leaving behind his mother, his sister, and a lifetime of talent and potential.
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A lot of people share a national tragedy. But not everyone shares it personally.
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We learn about gender - and how we SHOULD express it - from... just about everywhere. Sometimes we choose to question and examine those shoulds. And sometimes that choice to question is made for us.
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There are things - like the death of a child - that are unimaginable. Actually, we'd mostly just prefer not to imagine them. But for some people, like Jayson and Stacy, that thing is their reality. Sometimes it just happens. Whether we want to imagine it or not.
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Feelings! We all have them! So what are they and where do they come from?
The amazing show Brains On! has a new series that explores the science of feelings. We love this and want you to listen, so we're giving you a little taste.
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Constance wanted to be a face in the crowd, not the face of the event. But sometimes we don’t have control of our own stories.
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Food is a social and psychological minefield. How much do you think about what you eat? How much do you think you should think about what you eat? And how much do you eat what you think about?
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Even when life is going great, sometimes you still feel all the feelings. And you want to ask Nora about them.
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Cane Roberts has lived in a number of places, but which places can he actually call home?
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As a psychotherapist, Lori Gottlieb sees her role as helping patients understand their stories. But how does she help a patient understand a story in which she is a character?
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It's that special time of year again. Where we look long and hard at our own mothers. And at ourselves as mothers. So... how does everyone measure up?
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We love this podcast, and we want you to hear it.
Hope Chest is a personal essay audio series written, produced, edited, and sound-designed by Stacia Brown. It tackles motherhood, single- and co-parenting, raising a Black daughter in America, and the impact of cultural and political happenings on the experience of parenting.
We will be back with a new TTFA episode next week.
While we are away for a few weeks we want to make sure you are listening to what we're listening to. And what we're doing.
So today, an episode of the podcast TED Talks Daily, where hear a new TED talk every day. And this one... is Nora's. TED Talk. That's right! Nora did a TED Talk and it's on TED Talks Daily and we want to make sure you get to hear it.
We will be back with new TTFA episodes in mid-May.
"Stronger Than Hate" is what everyone said in response to the mass shooting at the Tree of Life synagogue. But what does that mean? In this third and final episode in our series from Pittsburgh, we talk to all types of people about who and what is Stronger Than Hate.
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Days can be significant for many reasons. For many people. At the same time.
In our second of three episodes from Pittsburgh, PA, two stories of parallel lives on a big day.
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In the first of three episodes from Pittsburgh, PA, we talk with three women about how the ripple effects from a shared public tragedy have affected their lives.
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Sad! And Lucky! Those are things you can be! Includes an essay from Nora's book, No Happy Endings, available where books are sold except like, Walgreeens. But always at noraborealis.com/book.
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Jenny and Michelle are twins. Twin telepathy, switching places, the whole deal. Pat and Teddy are big parts of Jenny and Michelle's lives, but no one has been HERE before.
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Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction by Judith Grisel
Deya and Sandra are two moms who are stuck at the intersection of maternal love and uncertainty.
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Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction by Judith Grisel
Every wedding has a at least a little bit of drama. For Mai Neng Moua and her mother, Yer Vu, their mother/daughter wedding drama was about who they were, and who they wanted to be.
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Parenting is *never* what you expect it to be. Maiya knows that as well as anyone.
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Rachel Haines makes everything look easy. Even when things are very very very not easy. A gymnast, a competitor, and a champion, Rachel endures and survives... with a smile.
Rachel's book is out April 12. You can pre-order it here.
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Our episodes end. Obviously. But the lives whose stories we tell… they keep going. So today we are going to get back in touch with some old friends and see what has happened and what they’ve been up to since we first got to know them.
WARNING – spoilers ahead for some past episodes of TTFA.
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Need a slight daily readjustment of your point of view? A moment to focus and meditate on something besides your to-do list?
We want to introduce you to The Slowdown. It's a podcast we love where every weekday, U.S. Poet Laureate Tracy K. Smith delivers a different way to see the world -- through poetry. It is produced in partnership with the Library of Congress and the Poetry Foundation, and is very very good. Nora takes a few minutes to talk with Tracy K. Smith and to share with you a couple of examples of the show.
You can find The Slowdown at slowdownshow.org.
In our final episode of the season we are talking about... The Holidays. Which are a time of reflection and anticipation. Of looking back at what we did... and what was done to us. We will hear from comedian and writer Alyssa Limperis and the shine-it-up Holiday letter she wrote the year her dad died from brain cancer. We will talk with Jay Mathews, a 48-year-old father and son who, with stage IV cancer, is probably experiencing his last Holidays with his family. And we will ask listeners what they took from 2018, what they're looking forward to in 2019, and what it is about hoping for something that can be so scary.
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Two things that grief brings you: Kleenex and hotdish. Two other things? Anger and people telling you what you should do.
This week, stories about grief, anger and Hans' Gramma, written and read by Nora.
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Sheridan's dad died by suicide when she was 6 years old. And for years she feared that was his legacy. And her birthright.
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For more stories on this topic, check out the upcoming memoir "Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity and Love" by Dani Shapiro, who also has a podcast called Family Secrets on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.
Did I stutter? Erin did. Erin does. And here's what it's like to live with a speech impediment that people still make jokes about.
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I've heard there are like, seven circles of hell? Ashley's been to at least six of them.
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If we're lucky, we can learn to love ourselves. But if we love the way we look? Well, people tend to look down on that. But not Gigi. Gigi loves herself. And how she looks. And you know what? YOU SHOULD, TOO.
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It's winter in Kansas, and Heather is back in her hometown, facing her abuser for the first time.
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A quick update and clarification on Episode 51.
Dating is tough. Especially when there's strict expectations and rules. And ESPECIALLY when you finally find someone... and they don't turn out to be who you expected.
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OCD is one of those acronyms we use to say, "I'm a little quirky" or "I like my room to be VERY clean." But what does it mean to actually live with OCD? I have no idea, so we asked people who do.
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We're *still* not done talking about suicide. And neither are you.
If you're looking for resources on suicide, here are some good places to start:
Be The One To - https://www.bethe1to.com
National Alliance on Mental Illness - https://www.nami.org
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org
The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention - afsp.org/about-suicide/suicide-statistics
Center for Disease Control - https://www.cdc.gov/vitalsigns/suicide
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You know what people hate talking about? Dreams. Politics. Religion. Your birth story. Also: suicide. Which is why we asked you to talk about it for us.
For resources on suicide and mental health, nami.org has a wealth of great mental health resources. Text NAMI to 741741 for immediate support.
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Nathan grew up knowing he was different. And what scared him more than who he is, was the idea that who he is was at odds with God, and his family, and the world he belonged to.
thetrevorproject.org provides crises intervention for LGBTQ+ youth. Text TREVOR to 1.202.304.1200 for support.
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Annie's husband Jim died by suicide. After his death, she got into a bad space of her own. Then came the letters.
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No, like, really. We ask this question of all of our guests, but we asked you, too. And you answered! You're...all over the place. And that's okay. PS-- please help Nora make #fansofhans happen.
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The murder of Nation's wife was headline news around the country. But the headlines can only tell you so much.
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Third time's the charm, except for when it's the third time your life has been completely upended. Then it's extremely disruptive. Maybe Tinder could help?
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You Only Live Once... unless you're Leilani. This week - a heart, a transplant, and a mystery.
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Nora steps in to guest host the podcast that just might be Too Beautiful To Live -- a delightful daily show about life, current events, pop culture, puttering, laser baldness helmets, and tonight pants. While regular co-host Andrew Walsh is out of town, Nora and other co-host Luke Burbank discuss sheds, consumer culture, parenting, and because it's Nora, officiating the funeral of a man who married a stranger at the Mall of America.
Borrowed Interest is a podcast hosted by three ad-women of color -- Leeya Jackson, Shareina Chandler, and Amalia Nicholson - kicking it in the advertising business and working it all out with thoughtful discussions, screams and laughter. They're your workplace wokebaes with something to say, so listen up.
In this episode, they get into the ups and downs of being labeled a difficult woman aka an angry black woman aka a woman. They chat with Black Twitter queen/PR powerhouse Alexis Wilson about white feminism and being the lone black lady at your company.
Learn more at borrowedinterestpodcast.com
This week Nora wants you to listen to an amazing podcast called Forever35. Kate Spencer and Doree Shafrir talk about self-care and how to get some in their (and your) lives. On this episode, they also talk to an up-and-comer named Nora McInerny. Nora talks about dealing with tragedy, how to actually help people who are grieving, and the many joys of drugstore makeup. You can find Forever35 at forever35podcast.com.
Matt's wife died a decade ago. Now, everywhere he goes on the internet, he can't escape advertisements for clickbait sites with her picture on it. This week, Super Tech Support tries to help out.
Further reading:
Stories from our parents and grandparents are a sort of intergenerational game of telephone - even the ones we think we know for sure change as they are told and retold.
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Here are the Englishlyrics to the song featured in the episode:
SONG - 1975
In the beginning, the year 1975
The heaven twisted, the earth flipped
The heaven turned, the earth unraveled
The little country of Laos fell
The foundation of our nation fell apart
There was anger, anger
From common soldiers to royalty
We thought about not fleeing the country, but we could not survive if we stayed
With regrets in our hearts, with our power, we lay our weapons lay down and put them away
Crying as though we were burying our love ones in death
The year 1975
The heaven flipped, the earth twisted
The heaven unraveled, the earth turned
There was nothing left of the little country of Laos
The foundation of our nation fell apart
There was anger, anger
From common soldiers to royalty
We thought of not letting go of our country Laos
But we were scared we would die if stayed
With regrets in our hearts, with our power, we lay our weapons lay down and put them away
And cried ourselves to sleep, we cried in our dreams, waking up from those dreams, we cried
The little country of Laos fell
There was anger, anger
From royals to the rest of the nation. Those who had the money to escape the country
They had money to pay their passage on boats
They royals ran away to the other side.
There was nothing left, leaving behind countrymen and women, who did not have money to pay the passage on boats
They fled for their survival but did not make to the other side, dying the way they came...drowning in rivers, lost in the jungle, starving to death in valleys
They had no clothes or cloth to cover their bodies, no coffin lid to close on them
They gave their flesh as food for the ants to feast
My heart is tormented, there is no end to the pain and sorrow
The time of losing our country and land has been 43, but even now I am still frightened.
The punishment is supposed to fit the crime. But sometimes, when the sentence is served, the punishment is far from over.
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This is a story about a dad who is sometimes a stranger, often a mystery, and always loved anyways.
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Lesly is a mother of three and a three-time cancer haver (there may be a more medical term for that) living on borrowed time. When the treatment you need is out of your reach, what the heck do you do?
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Captain Rosemarie Chapman flies airplanes for the Air Force. She met her boyfriend, a fellow soldier, and fell deeply in love. But a deployment to Afghanistan ends their relationship abruptly. And soon, Rosemarie is faced with meeting his family in an unexpected circumstance.
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Chris was brought up to be positive. And to get on with it no matter what. But getting on with it isn't always so easy when others won't make room for you to be a full person.
Sometimes a person's absence can become a presence. A dark, unspoken void that can suck you right in if you don't address it.
What's worse: keeping the people you love at a distance, or showing them your true colors and losing them forever? Patricia doesn't want to find out.
Chelsey and Kevin are parents, public servants, and two people just trying to make sense of the absolutely senseless. If this is God's plan, I have a word or two for God.
It's not just a hashtag. Transformation is inevitable (and not always a choice). But nothing transforms us more than love.
On the eve of Kelli's 25th birthday, she found herself running for her life in a dystopian nightmare. It was supposed to be an incredible weekend to celebrate the dawn of a new phase of her life. Instead, it was the deadliest mass shooting (so far) in America.
Charlotte’s career is built on organized chaos. As an Operating Room nurse, she has a protocol for every tragedy, a THEN for every IF. Until one night, when she takes a new route home, and everything changes.
The INTERNET never forgets (dang it).
There's a thin line between life and death. Between what's here -- now -- and what was. Between what's here -- now -- and what will be. Taz Ahmed knows about that line. In a dark house in Kathmandu, she and her aging grandfather toe up to it to look for her mother.
Sometimes, it all just falls into place. For Megan and Clark, a one-week span showed how things can work out perfectly to create the best days of your life... and the worst.
When the world breaks everything, when everything is The Absolute Worst, you’re lucky if you have people to lean on. You’re even luckier if they’re your siblings. Meet Alex, David and Liza Achilli. Which… I really wanted to call this episode The Achilli’s Heal, but I just… I couldn’t do it. Or could I?
At 32 weeks pregnant, Cat and Jim find themselves planning for their son’s death while hoping for his birth. This is a story of a life and a death, extraordinary in every way.
TTFA is live from the historic Fitzgerald Theater in downtown St. Paul, MN! Featuring conversation with writer/rapper/entrepreneur Dessa, who took to science to overcome a bad love. And with comedian Alyssa Limperis, whose father died of glioblastoma. So funny! Plus, music from the amazing composer of our theme song, Geoffrey Wilson.
Lauren’s brother died at Thanksgiving. And her mother at Christmas. So… this time of year it’s not all Ho Ho Ho for her. Or for a lot of other people. Because the Holidays can really and truly suck for some. So we’re back with our second annual Holiday radio extravaganza that will once again bedazzle this difficult time of year with humor, stories, and the very real realness of reality. We will hear Lauren’s story, talk with memoirist Augusten Burroughs about a childhood Holiday gone wrong, and enjoy comedian Maeve Higgins becoming one of the Three Wise Men.
Malena is 10 years old, and she worries a lot. About her grades. About her procrastination. About her dad. Especially about her dad. Kids are the best. They’re smart and funny and deeply empathetic. And they – and their thoughts and feelings – deserve to be taken seriously. Why are we saying this? Because we had an idea for a new show, and we want you to take a listen. Let us know what you think at https://www.apmpodcasts.org/ttfa/.
Amee doesn’t have a dad. But she used to. He was the best. He was the worst. And he claims that he doesn’t remember any of it.
Dead sister. Dead grandma. Dead grandpa. Dead uncle. Dead mom. Dead dad. Dead brother. The list of loss goes on and on for Jaamil, and so does his list of professional accolades and accomplishments as he moves from trauma to post-traumatic enlightenment.
Hope and Aaron died on the exact same day. Each leaving behind their spouse, their child, and all the love their small families had created. Nearly three years later, their spouses have remarried. But don't you dare say they've moved on.
Sexual violence thrives in silence, and it's hard to talk about... so we don't. But rape survivor Sarah Super refuses to be quiet, and has dedicated her life to helping other survivors Break the Silence. If you or someone you know has experienced sexual assault, you can contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673.
If you are or ever plan to be in a relationship, you need to know Esther Perel, The Patron Saint of Relationships. Known for her TED Talks, her brilliant book, Mating in Captivity, and her captivating podcast, Where Should We Begin?, Esther believes that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. Your life is about to get better, because Esther joined us live on stage at the Now Hear This! podcast festival to hand out sparkling gems of relationship wisdom to real TTFA listeners.
You can find Esther Perel’s new book, The State of Affairs, anywhere you buy books. Season 1 of Where Should We Begin? is available everywhere. Season 2 is coming out on October 24, 2017 exclusively on Audible. Go listen to it.
In our last episode, we met chronically single Chelsea, who was looking for love in all the same places we all look for love... and coming up empty-handed. Now, we meet Chelsea's new boyfriend (!!!!) and explore what happens when the love we find isn't what we expected.
As the saying goes, "There’s a lid for every pot." There’s someone for everyone. Chelsea has been looking for her lid — her someone — since high school. Nearly 15 years after her only real relationship ended, she still hasn’t found her person. It’s not like she hasn’t been trying, and it’s not like her life is totally miserable… but in case you haven’t had to date lately? MAN, IT IS EXHAUSTING.
There are friendships, and there are FRIENDSHIPS of the all-caps variety. The latter ones are harder to forge the older you get. Which is what Janya is struggling with after the loss of her best friend, Michele.
Courtney and Jay are parents to 9-year-old Bruce, who they affectionately call Baby Huey. Bruce has never had a friend. Never had a playdate. Never been invited to a birthday party. What. The. Heck.
Nora is back from her honeymoon with a special announcement – TTFA is doing a live show!! (Plus this week's episode will be out on Wednesday – so stay tuned!) TTFA LIVE!!! In person!! Hear us perform an episode right in front of your face! November 17, 2017 at the historic Fitzgerald Theater in St. Paul, MN. With musician and writer Dessa, comedian Alyssa Limperis, and Geoffrey Wilson -- the amazing writer of the TTFA theme song! Find out more info and get tickets (starting Tuesday, September 19) at www.fitzgeraldtheater.org.
Harris Wittels was the executive producer of "Parks and Recreation," the coiner of the word "humblebrag," a Phish enthusiast, and the funniest person in any room he walked into. He died of a heroin overdose in 2015, leaving behind his mother, his sister, and a lifetime of talent and potential.
How do you want to die? We’re willing to bet the answer isn’t, “Very painfully, please!” Brittany Maynard was 29 when she died of brain cancer. Aaron Purmort was 35 when he died of the same thing. But their paths to death were very different. Nearly three years later, Brittany’s husband, Dan, and Aaron’s wife, Nora, reflect on their spouses' decisions on how to spend the end of their lives.
When Lea Thau’s fiancé left her, she felt all the feelings. Then she had their baby, and decided to start dating again. But, despite going out, nothing seemed to be clicking. Over and over. And eventually, she wanted to know why. Why didn’t men want to keep dating her? So she asked them. And recorded the answer. From the amazing podcast Strangers comes the episode "Love Hurts."
What do you wish your grown-ups had said to you when you were a kid? Especially while dealing with really hard stuff?
We wanted to know, so we asked the Terrible Club - listeners who support the show - and they had some thoughts. Geez da wheeze, did they have some thoughts.
You can join the Terrible Club any time by going to ttfa.org/donate. A huge 'thank you' to everyone who submitted. You are amazing.
Khaleel Thompson is an 18-year-old who loves music, reading, and his cat, Domino. Naomi is his mother, asking why four police officers fired more than 12 rounds at her son in a public park two weeks ago, leaving him in critical condition. The two of them are the humans behind a news headline – caught in a story that is just unfolding.
Grief is always fresh for someone, somewhere. Right now, someone is losing a friend. A partner. A parent. And they are entering a new role, a new relationship to their loved one, and to the world. Holly felt that grief. And she came in to share it with us. Fresh and undiluted. Just hours into her first day as a widow. And then again with a follow-up 8 months later.
When someone dies, you're supposed to say something. Someone is supposed to say something. Someone is supposed to summarize this person, prove that they existed, that they mattered. But what do you say when a complicated person dies after a complicated life?
Alysha-Aubrey sent us a story about both her parents falling seriously ill at the same time, and the toll it took on her as a teenager. And she ended her story with a question about whether or not it’s OK that she doesn’t feel OK. Even though her family has recovered from trauma and is doing OK. We thought that the best way to answer Alysha-Aubrey’s question was to ask it of you, the audience. And you had so much to say to her.
March is #trypod month, where everyone should force their loved ones to listen to podcasts. Not sure which one to subscribe every family member to? Well, we have one for you. It’s called the The Hilarious World of Depression, and it features open, honest conversations about depression. But funny. Because the guests are professional comedians and sometimes you just have to laugh at the darkness. Today you are going to hear an episode of The Hilarious World of Depression with guest Maria Bamford. She’s an amazing comedian with a lot to say about the stigma of mental illness. When you’re done listening, tell us what you thought using the hashtag #trypod.
It’s 12:00. No, 1:00. No, 4:45 in the morning. You should be sleeping — we all should be — but you’re not. You’re laying there as the minutes tick away, thinking about…what, exactly? One sleepless night, Nora took to Twitter to see what was keeping you up. And you answered. This is an episode made by you (and Hans. Okay, mostly Hans), about what keeps you up at night.
So many people start off their stories by saying that it doesn’t compare to what happened to someone else. But this isn’t a game of Who Has It Worse, so why do we act like there is some sort of imaginary yardstick for struggling?
This is the first episode of our in-between season while we are hard at work on Season 2. We’re going to hear from you, talk with some amazing people, and get to know each other a little bit better.
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When Nora McInerny’s dad died, she lost his stories. The ones that she’s not sure she can can’t quite remember right, and the ones she never knew. Like those from his time as a Recon Marine in Vietnam. So Nora decides to look up some of the men he served with, and discovers one day in 1968 that forever shaped a group of boys into the mercurial, complicated men they would become.
If you have a veteran in your life (and you do), you should sit down with them and ask about their experiences. And, if you can, you should document it. The Story Corps project has a great app that can help walk you through interviewing, recording, and submitting your oral history interview to the Library of Congress.
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Damon’s grandparents were murdered 18 months before he was born. And, for the first time in his life, he prepares to see his grandparents’ murderer face to face.
For most of us, death is scary. And what happens next is just as mysterious. But what if we could see death as something beautiful? Or holy?
Sarah Gottfried and Heather Olson share their experiences of being with people who are transitioning from this world to whatever comes next.
Sexual violence thrives in silence, and it’s hard to talk about…so we don’t. But rape survivor Sarah Super refuses to be quiet, and has dedicated her life to helping other survivors Break the Silence.
Colleen Barton is a pediatrician, a wife, and a mother to a beautiful son named Henry. Since Henry’s stillbirth, Colleen and her husband have been working to build their family while dealing with miscarriage and secondary infertility.
Dawn Pereda is a nurse who was injured by a patient while working. And this injury resulted in a brain injury that has changed her life completely. Dawn and her family open up about what it can be like living with Traumatic Brain Injury, grieving for the person they used to know, and getting to know the person who is here now.
Danni Starr had everything she wanted: an enviable career, a husband, and, finally...her first baby. But off the air, motherhood wasn’t what she expected it to be. She had taken all the classes, read all the books, bought all the stuff...but nothing had prepared her for what was to come.
Two days after Nora’s husband Aaron died, she celebrated Thanksgiving with her family. Well...maybe not “celebrated.” Actually, why would you do that? Try to be normal when clearly everything isn’t?
But every year millions of people do the same thing during the holidays. This week we are going to talk with some of those folks, including Dr. Lucy Kalanithi and comedian Amber Tozer. We’ll also spend some time with some of the women of the Hot Young Widows Club, talking about their hopes and dreams for the upcoming year. Plus, stories of some of the worst holidays ever. That’s for real. Worst. Ever.
The year is 2007. Eva Hagberg is a 20-something writer snagging bylines in the New York Times by day, and partying herself stupid by night. It’s all going great, until she gets her big break, and her big breakdown...
Toddlers Ralphie and Bronson have lived most of their young lives with dead fathers. Their mothers - Nora and Moe Richardson - struggle to understand how to help their boys remember the dads they won’t know directly. And as they worry about what long-term effect the losses will have on the kids, Nora seeks perspective from Ambra Markos, whose mother died when Ambra was 2.
Nora McInerny is in love with two men. With one man, who died two years ago this week, she has a child. And last week she had a child with the other.
She didn’t tell many people about the new baby. Or her pregnancy. Because feelings.
Falling in love again didn’t take her grief away, and didn’t diminish it at all. Her grief scooted over a bit to make room for someone else, it invited him and their relationship to live in her heart at the same time. But happiness, love, are so much easier to demonstrate than grief. They are so much easier to see. And something about that made Nora uncomfortable.
Mostly, she didn’t want to perform love and happiness and grief, this emotional stew she was cooking inside of her. Have you seen stew? It’s disgusting to look at, no matter what it tastes like.
