The Sugar Jar Podcast
As a teacher and writer of self-healing work, I’ve learned that hearing other people’s stories helps us release, heal, and grow. The Sugar Jar Podcast episodes will include conversations and stories from people all around the world sharing their healing journey. I’ll also have episodes where I share what I’m learning (or unlearning) around my self-healing journey.
In this episode of The Sugar Jar Podcast, Yasmine Cheyenne interviews Dr. Edith Eger, an American psychologist, writer of The Gift and New York Times bestseller, The Choice. She's also a survivor of the Holocaust and as she will tell you, she is not a victim, that she had been victimised. Listen as she walks us through how she has learned how to choose joy, and how to choose peace in the midst of still experiencing everyday grief, the type of trauma that sometimes doesn't go away.
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“Forgiveness has nothing to do with me forgiving because I don't have God given powers or do, we are given as a gift that I give myself and not allow anybody to take residence in my body” - Dr. Edith Eger
Timestamps:
2.32 - How are we able to move forward from trauma such as the Holocaust?
3.00 - How do we begin to programme ourselves to choose something different?
6.16 - Dr. Eger’s thoughts on if we don’t forgive, we are not moving on
14.42 - Dr Edgar reveals what she learnt while writing her book The Gift
22.03 - What has Dr. Eger learnt about the healing power of storytelling?
24.30 - Dr. Eger on what she loves most about life
Resources:
Read Dr. Eger’s books The Gift and New York Times best seller The Choice
Download Dr. Eger’s Victim or Survivor worksheet here.
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On this episode of The Sugar Jar Podcast Yasmine Cheyenne interviews Chrissy Rutherford, who is a journalist and advocate for mental health. Listen as she walks us through how fashion has so many ways of mirroring all of the things that we're experiencing in our healing journeys and how to navigate it in new ways.
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“Racism exists in many, many different forms and I think what we have all very much learned this year is that you cannot be passive about racism.” - Chrissy
Timestamps:
2.01 - Find out what started the mission around racism in fashion for Chrissy?
6.49 - I’m glad this is now happening, but I’ve been saying this already
8.33 - What does the future hold for diversity in fashion?
15.20 - Hear about Chrissy’s interest in Astrology and Tarot
20.38 - Chrissy talks about how she has been taking care of herself without letting things take over?
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Check out Chrissy on Harper’s Bazaar
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On this episode of The Sugar Jar Podcast I answers the 3 most common questions I gets asked. The reason why these are incredibly important is because they're pillars to what I consider to be our self-healing journey. They are ways that we begin to dive into our strength, our courage, our empathy, our belief in ourselves. I do believe that we can have beautiful community, beautiful partnerships, beautiful families, beautiful careers before we really see ourselves fully but sometimes it is hard for us to really allow ourselves to enjoy it to let it in to receive it.
“There is no person, no place, no experience or opportunity that is worth you not choosing yourself.” - Yasmine
Show Notes Quote (Timestamp):
1.59 - How do I choose myself?
6.14 - How do I move on?
8.51 - How can I move in a way that meets my needs?
11.51 - How do I learn how to talk to myself?
17.01 - The reason for passing this on to you
21.28 - What do you have authority over that you have given power to someone else to have authority over for you?
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On this episode of The Sugar Jar Podcast, Yasmine Cheyenne interviews Christopher, also known as Plant Kween, on healing, taking care, and using plants as a portal for self-care. Plant Kween shines a light on their experience as a Black, Queer, Femme person, sharing how we can unapologetically choose ourselves even in the midst of the tough stories. They also discuss caring for plants and how it can also be a mirror for how we can take care of ourselves.
“All these things have always existed; racism, homophobia, transphobia, capitalism, all the things they've always been here. Everything that has occurred this year is kind of beginning to pull back all those layers and folks are beginning to see that this country has a lot of work” - Plant Kween
Timestamps:
1.41 - Diving into plants and how it started for Plant Kween
4.59 - Discover whether plants have plants been healing for Plant Kween
11.26 - What does it look like to choose joy every day?
16.42 - Who has influenced Plant Kween on his journey to where he is today?
26.35 - Find out what Plant Kween has learnt this year about himself
29.53 - Plant Kween’s tips for starting your own plant garden
You can check out Plant Kween here on their Instagram and also their class with Skillshare.
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On this episode of The Sugar Jar Podcast Yasmine Cheyenne interviews Latham Thomas, also known as Mama Glow, or Glow Maven on Instagram, and she is a doula. She's a healer. She's a mother. She is a pioneer in the wellness and healing space. Listen as they take an introspective look at healing. They also discuss maternal care, doula work throughout all of the different spectrums that women experience, and the disparities in care for black and brown people in comparison to non-black people.
“In spite of all that works against us, to know that we are still a mighty people, and to know that we come from a rich lineage, and to know that we have so much culture. That all of this has brought out in us more incredible goodness, how is it even possible that through all of this we still ooze excellence?” - Latham
Timestamps:
2.24 - Latham gives her thoughts on how her perspective as a doula influenced her book
6.54 - How does the relationship a doula gives you support your healing?
13.19 - Yasmine talks on her healing experiences with a doula
23.31 - Latham discusses the disparities in care between black and brown people vs non-black people
37.16 - The difference having the knowledge to be able to advocate for yourself can make
42.12 - Latham on how healing has evolved
You can learn more about Latham on her Instagram pages:
@glowmaven and @mamaglow
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In this episode, Yasmine chats with Zuri Adele. In this episode Zuri has the opportunity to ask the questions that Yasmine may not normally ask herself. Listen as they dive deep into romantic relationships, find out about some of Yasmine’s healing journey, and also see some of the places where you may be healing that you didn't notice. It's an episode filled with lots of vulnerability, compassion, joy, laughter and just amazing sisterhood.
“When we show up with our partners to do this work, or when we show up with anybody to do this work, we are giving ourselves the opportunities to see the truth of what is already real.” - Yasmine
Timestamps:
7.47 - Being healed before finding love
20.55 - The forever partner vs the temporary partner
24.54 - How can I use these experiences as teaching tools?
35.15 - The importance of both partners choosing themselves
40.32 - How do you approach loving yourself whilst in a constantly evolving partnership?
44.47 - How do you make sure you have your own self-care practice when balancing motherhood, partnership and work?
53.26 - How do you navigate healing in an interracial partnership during a period where the race conversation has been prevalent?
Be sure to catch Zuri Adele on her show, Good Trouble, on Freeform, and follow Zuri on Instagram.
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In this episode Yasmine chats with Maryam Ajayi of Dive in Well, on being well. Listen as Maryam talks about her current healing journey, the journey that she's been on, and diving into what wellness can mean to us individually. Ensuring we don’t make it about or compare it to what society or the media says that wellness should look like, allowing us to define it for ourselves.
“There’s a lot of missing humanity when it comes to what we endure everyday” - Maryam
Timestamps:
2.50 - Maryam discusses setting the stage for work by grounding through meditation
6.32 - Find out about what Maryam calls The Black Square Movement
10.11 - Maryam on working through habits, pattern and trauma of her lineage
13.36 - Yasmine questions how to make sure her intentions in what she writes is what she is being led by
22.33 - Healing is for us too; how can we lean it to that notion when we are presented with a different reality
29.57 - Discover what helped Maryam settle into the healing journey
Connect with Maryam Ajayi:
- To learn more about Maryam Ajayi and her work, follow her here on Instagram.
- Also, follow her organization, Dive In Well, to learn more about diversity, ways to support, and opportunities for BIPOC people.
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In this episode Yasmine talks to Les from the Balanced Black Girl podcast. Listen as they talk about peace, their healing journeys and learning to accept where we are even if our lives look different than we imagined. They also talk about this holiday season and how Les is changing her outlook on it this year.
“I think for me when my healing journey shifted, it was when I realized how much power I truly had.” - Les
Timestamps:
1.34 - Find out what inspired Les to create the Balanced Black Girl podcast
4.54 - Has Les found that the podcast has helped changed the conversation in the wellness space?
7.29 - How does Les’ journey now compare to when she first started?
12.34 - Your healing journey isn’t about having the answers
13.58 - How to unlearn what is no longer you
23.54 - Discover what balance is for Les?
29.58 - How is Les navigating new ways of dating during Covid?
Connect with Les from Balanced Black Girl
Be sure to listen to Balanced Black Girl Podcast and check out their website to stay updated on upcoming events.
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In today's episode, Yasmine talks to Kevin Curry, also known as FitMenCook on Instagram. Listen as they discuss his brand today, which is not only about food and fitness and his love of sneakers, but also his vulnerability and his journey through mental health and how he has prioritized it. This has led him to run his business in a way that encourages vulnerability, sharing and talking about the importance of all of us taking care of ourselves.
“I’ve realized over time that there’s a lot of healing and there’s a lot of growth that happens when we share our story.” - Kevin
Timestamps:
2.13 - Find out why sharing mental health has always been important to Kevin
4.56 - There is a place for negative self-talk as well as positive
10.08 - Going through the hard times is just as important as the good
11.18 - How do you begin to accept the growth and good things happening in your life
16.49 - Kevin reveals how he has been prioritizing himself during covid
20.50 - How has being a black man in the health and wellness space felt during this time?
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In this episode I chat with Dr. Darian, an emergency physician who's been on the frontlines of the covid 19 pandemic. We get to dive into systemic racism, and how the disproportionate amount of physicians of color are affecting black communities. In addition to that, we talk about how it's affecting the LGBTQ community and how we can begin to advocate for ourselves in our spaces, but also use boundaries as a way to protect ourselves from being drained, and overwhelmed in these kind of atmospheres where we are being othered and looked at to educate at the same time. This is a powerful conversation that I was so honored to have.
“I’m fighting against a system that wasn’t meant for me and hasn’t been built for me, and I’m representing it now. It’s a dichotomy that I’m trying to battle with every single day”. - Dr. Darien.
Timestamps:
2.52 - Dr. Darien discusses what is was like being a black man in a whitewashed educational program
7.17 - The disconnect between advertising for medicine and the reality
11.15 - Dr. Darien on why there is a lack of black doctors in the medical system
15.09 - The importance of trying to break down the epigenetics of trauma
17.46 - Find out how Dr. Darien is taking care of himself throughout all that is happening in the world right now
20.50 - Navigating the world as a Black, queer man
29.45 - What has Dr. Darien learned about himself in the last year?
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How are you making time for yourself to be aware of what you need? Taking the time you need to think in these tumultuous times is what season 2 of The Sugar Jar podcast is here for. Listen as Yasmine expands on the conversation around The Sugar Jar and how we can take care throughout all of this.
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“When we really allow ourselves to lean into the discomfort of, this is hard, this is tough, then we give ourselves the space to really let things go” - Yasmine
Timestamps
0.30 - Yasmine expands the conversation around The Sugar Jar
2.00 - Discover how these tumultuous times can wear away at our Sugar
3.35 - How are we taking care throughout all of this?
5.59 - Yasmine expands on the experience of The Sugar Jar
7.49 - Find out how to start your own free Sugar Jar Challenge
Resources: (books, products, websites, other podcasts)
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In this episode, I close out Season 1 of The Sugar Jar Podcast, sharing my thoughts on continuing the work, further explaining the Sugar Jar Metaphor, and more.
Yasmine Cheyenne - For me, we can't talk about healing If we're not talking about racism. We can't talk about healing If we're not talking about oppression. We can't talk about healing If we're not talking about accessibility. We can't talk about healing If we're not talking about the tough stuff.
Timestamps
00.28 - The vulnerability of guests on season 1 of The Sugar Jar Podcast
01.45 - Look at our healing work as a lens of awareness
04.24 - If we don’t talk about what is happening around us then we lose an opportunity to really see ourselves
05.14 - The Sugar Jar is an opportunity to see how truly sweet all of the parts of us are
08.37 - The true act of service is showing up for yourself
11.46 - How can I shift my awareness that makes space for me to be human?
13.48 - We can create a life that looks exactly how we want it to look and feel
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In this episode, I chat w/ Dr. Dsouza, an Integrative Medicine & Functional Medicine Doctor on the benefits of Integrative Medicine, and we walk through my personal health experience to share how exploring your medical history can benefit your mental health and overall healing.
Dr. Anjali Dsouza - All of medicine can be beautiful and can be helpful
Timestamps:
01.43 - What is functional medicine?
05.50 - Yasmine’s story and medicine
07.45 - What were some of the red flags with my story?
13.28 - Are my health problems caused by getting older?
14.03 - Yasmine’s treatment plan
18.24 - Why are the things you prescribed me so important?
23.16 - What can people do to find people to help them?
26.08 - Mental health and Physical health can’t be separated
Resources: (books, products, websites, other podcasts)
Healthaim.org
ifm.org
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In this episode, I chat w/ Dosse Via on all things astrology. She eloquently explains astrology from an African perspective in the most amazing way.
Dosse Via - That's what I'm passionate about, helping people get to know themselves, realize there's no good or bad. A lot of energy is neutral, malleable, whatever we wish it to be.
Timestamps:
02.40 - Astrology is a tool for healing
09.21 - How can people begin to connect the ways they experience the world to when they were born?
13.10 - Stereotypes and astrology
20.11 - We all have every single sign in our chart
26.24 - How do you begin to go deeper with astrology?
33.45 - Where does retrograde get its bad rap?
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- Follow Dosse Via’s Astrology Account on Instagram. Be sure to look for your specific astrology sign, and follow those accounts too!
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In this episode, I chat with Nedra about childhood trauma, boundaries, and learning to advocate for your healing.
Nedra Tawwab - “Childhood continues to show up in our relationship until we recognize that wow this issue was happening before, I met my partner, before I met this friend, this is a deep wound, this is not a current wound.”
Timestamps:
01.57 - What is childhood trauma?
04.17- How does childhood trauma impact us as adults?
10.34 - There are so many things we can do before we cut people off
17.04 - You have to cater your “no” to the person you are talking to
19.29 - When I have the worst boundaries, I have the worst resentment
22.10 - How can we allow our adult selves to act based on what is happening now rather than ourselves from 25 years ago?
26.07 - What do you say to the person who is on that journey?
28.25 - I can’t afford therapy, how can I start my work without working with a therapist?
Resources: (books, products, websites, other podcasts)
Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents
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In this episode I chat with Jon about allyship in activism, discovering your identity as a non-black POC, and more.
Jon Rivera - "The day that George Floyd was murdered by the police officer and just feeling like this is insane that this keeps happening, honestly, not that I was shocked because I think there are policies in place that allow this to happen. So, it's going to keep happening until the institutions and policies, honestly, not only reformed but completely change."
Timestamps:
02.15 - The alarming amount of racism in Jon’s college experience
07.46 - This is a podcast that is geared towards the importance of all healing
09.53 - Is there potential for support within your friendship groups?
13.34 - The difficulty of “Politics” and being surrounded by racist Dominicans
17.52 - How hard it can be trying to determine where you fit within your own race
22.42 - Jon talks of experiences at a Black Lives Matter protest
27.18 - Protests are amazing but is there a next step and what does that look like?
32.48 - How has all of this impacted how you see your future?
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In this episode, I chat with Ev’Yan on Sexual Liberation, Navigating Interracial Relationships, and more.
Ev'Yan Whitney - "When you heal yourself sexually everything else really begins to fall into place."
Timestamps:
02.27 - The importance of sexual healing
08.09 - So often we have sexual identities that are lived through somebody else
09.25 - Sexual healing starts with us first
12.08 - Being able to step into your power and say this is what I need
16.34 - How will healing yourself sexually directly transform the relationships your children have with sex
18.49 - Impacts of sexual heling work in a relationship
26.08 - All of us need sexual healing
28.09 - The difference in approach within interracial relationships
37.38 - Does being in an interracial relationship feel as though it has opened up a portal of healing you didn’t realize needed to be healed
Resources: (books, products, websites, other podcasts)
Podcast - https://www.sexuallyliberatedwoman.com/
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- Website link - https://evyanwhitney.com/
- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evyan.whitney/?hl=en
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In this episode, I chat with Zuri Adele on how we can heal through grief, learning to let others be there for us, and surrendering to the unknown.
Zuri Adele - "It's very, very, very clear and undeniable when a corporation or person, especially with the power of social media is very clear when they are claiming to be about the movement now for, for fear of being perceived as one of the racist people, because there would be political and economic consequences to them if they were perceived as being an enemy to that to black liberation."
Timestamps:
05.07 - Recognizing our power and energy
05.44 - Sharing grief and what the process has been like throughout this pandemic
14.23 - Feeling my father’s joy around me at all times
17.13 - The recognition of the lack of control we have
23.14 - Boundaries and receiving love
27.01 - How does it feel going back to acting knowing that you will be tapping into all these parts of yourself?
30.12 - The grief that we are experiencing with so much Black death at the hands of the police
33.06 - What are your thoughts around the current movement?
40.21 - What are you using your self care for to look forward to the other side?
Resources: (books, products, websites, other podcasts)
Be sure to catch Zuri on her show, Good Trouble, on Freeform, and follow Zuri on Instagram.
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In this episode, I chat with Layla Saad on the power of language, healing after experiencing racism, anti-racism work, and her NYT bestselling book, Me and White Supremacy.
Layla Saad - A lifetime of being conditioned by white supremacy means a lifetime of unconditioning.
Timestamps:
01.36 - How have you been receiving people resonating with your work?
03.35 - Calling it what it is
11.30 - What has white supremacy and the dominant culture of whiteness taught me about myself?
14.43 - How have you walked through this not being emotionally captured by it?
26.12 - The “Big Folks” who advocated for you when you began to shift in your power
32.27 - A Model Minority
36.30 - Going forward what have you been leaning into?
46.42 - Did you think it would be such a healing tool?
Resources: (books, products, websites, other podcasts)
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- Podcast - http://laylafsaad.com/good-ancestor-podcast
- Website link - http://laylafsaad.com/
- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/laylafsaad/?hl=en
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In this episode, I chat with Alex Elle on empowering Women in business, finding your joy during grief, and her new book After the Rain.
Alex Elle - "Black people deserve joy and we also deserve to make space for the moments of joy that present themselves, and we are worthy of that. You know, the revolution is not going to stop because we lean into joy."
Timestamps:
02.03 - Alex Elle on amplifying Black women in business and creativity
04.09 - Sharing as part of the community and making the light brighter
07.32 - Taking care of yourself is an important part of activism and healing
08.45 - Using social media as a means of amplification
11.05 - What are the things you are using to prepare yourself for people showing up right now?
12.29 - Black people deserve joy
17.32 - Our mourning doesn’t stop here
18.25 - What we can expect from After the Rain
Resources: (books, products, websites, other podcasts)
Buy her new book, After The Rain.
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- Twitter - https://twitter.com/_alexelle
- Website link - http://www.alexelle.com/
- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/alex_elle/?hl=en
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In this episode, I share my teachings around “the Sugar Jar” concept as a way to assess our boundaries, as an energy exercise, and explain how to use this self-healing tool in everyday life.
Yasmine Cheyenne - "The thing that I love the most about The Sugar Jar is it allows us to really think about how we have the opportunity to show up and claim our time, claim our money, claim our energy, and say, I love you but I don't have space for this."
Timestamps
00.50 - What is The Sugar Jar?
03.02 - The importance of realizing your boundaries
03.55 - What I love most about the sugar jar
06.34 - What are the things that put sugar back into my jar?
10.05 - Why The Sugar Jar Podcast was created
12.26 - The power of language
15.52 - The Sugar Jar is holding everything
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