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Ep. 42: Breathwork: Calm Your Nervous System, Reduce Anxiety + Increase Joy

62 perc 42. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

What do you do in sobriety when you’re feeling stressed out, overwhelmed, angry or anxious?

You need to calm the adrenaline coursing through your body, regulate what you’re feeling and restore peace - without pouring yourself a drink.

Today I’m sharing a new sober tool to add to your toolbox.

My guest is Jen Broyles, a Holistic Health Coach and SOMA Breathwork Instructor.

Jen’s going to introduce us to Breathwork as a next-level meditation technique that can be a quick and effective way to calm your nervous system, rewire your brain, and release emotional trauma.

Plus Jen’s going to lead us in a SOMA Breathwork Meditation - a complete holistic system of breathing techniques. SOMA Breath takes fundamental Pranayama techniques put into a sequence that combines rhythmic breathing to beat-driven music, for therapeutic function.

In this episode, Jen and I discuss

What is SOMA breathwork and what are the benefits of incorporating it into a daily health practice
How women who are quitting drinking can use SOMA breathwork to support their physical, mental and emotional health
The unconscious mind and stored trauma
How to soothe your emotions by controlling your breathing
How and when to practice breathwork
The 3 phases of SOMA breathwork

Benefits of SOMA Breathwork

Awaken dormant functions of the brain.
Enhance creativity and problem-solving.
Create heightened states of consciousness and inspiration.
Improve brain function and mind power.
Cleanse and purify the bloodstream and lymphatic system.
Stimulate self-healing.
Reduce depression/anxiety.
Clear negative imprints and traumas from early life (0-7 years).
Reimprint your mind with more empowering beliefs and habits.
Set intentions and create the motivation and energy to complete important goals.
Self-realization: discover your true self and your deepest inner calling.

3 Key Phases of SOMA Breath

Rhythmic breathing
- Inhale from the NOSE as much as possible
- Inhale into the BELLY as much as possible
- Breathe in a smooth RHYTHMICAL pattern
- Music is a great way to “train” rhythmic breathing, or Breathing in Beats
- Doing this creates a higher heart rate variability, which harmonizes your blood flow and balances all the systems in your body.
- This is the first step to gaining control over your emotions and to also trigger a state of self healing in the body
Breath retention AKA intermittent hypoxia
- Intermittent Hypoxic Training (IHT) is used to treat a range of disorders including high blood pressure, diabetes, Parkinson’s, emotional disorders, and more. the first Yogis – thousands of years ago – already knew about this. The most revered breathing technique of Pranayama lowers oxygen levels in the body for a brief period of time. Your body adapts to having less oxygen and starts to become more efficient in producing energy. This also where you put a positive stress response on the body making you more resilient to stressful situations. This is also a time to access your subconscious mind for you to fall deep into a meditative state and you can begin reprogramming imprints that hold you back from being at your best Awakening To Your Full Potential.
Mula Bandha lock
- The Mula Bandha lock isolates and engages your pelvic floor muscles. In this phase you will hold all your breath in, lock your muhla bunda and rush blood flow and oxygen to our brain. This can have a powerful feeling of energy and excitement. This can awaken dormant parts of the brain helping to Increase creativity and cognitive Functions. Here’s how to do it:
- - Gently squeeze your pelvic floor muscles. They include the genitals, the anus, and the perineum. These are the muscles that you use to hold in your urine. It’s the floor of your body.
  - Hold the squeeze for about one second, then let go and fully relax.
  - Repeat a few times or as much as you like. It should feel like a pulsing sensation as you engage and release the muscles.

About Jen Broyles

Jen helps individuals restore and optimize their health by calming the nervous system, reducing stress and awakening their inner healer. She recognizes that in an overstimulated nervous system, compromised, gut health and suppressed emotions lead to imbalances throughout the mind, the body and the spirit. Jen combines the healing power of breathwork essential oils and other holistic modalities to help clients create a lifestyle of health, vitality and freedom.

Connect with Jen Broyles

To find out more information about Jen and the services she offers, check out her website Jen Broyles - Breathwork, Essential Oils, Holistic Health

To learn more about the Sacred Breath Community, head over to Sacred Breath Online Community

Follow Jen on your favorite social media platform

Facebook: Jen Broyles, CHC - Home

Instagram: Jen Broyles | Holistic Coach (@jenbroyleshealthcoach)

Twitter: Jen Broyles (@JenBroyles1)

YouTube: Jen Broyles

LinkedIn: Jen Broyles - Dallas, Texas | Professional Profile

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Check out The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process.

Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days

Casey’s interview on Lori’s To 50 & Beyond podcast - No Rock Bottom Required

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Ep. 41: Aging, Sobriety and Women’s Wellness After 40

61 perc 41. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Worrying about your drinking is a lonely and dark place to be, especially in midlife when women often feel stressed out, unfulfilled and lonely.

And that’s where my guest, Lori Massicot, says she lived for too long.

At 45 Lori says she was an over-drinker, overeater, "sky is falling" type of gal who, after questioning her drinking for two years, finally decided to stop drinking.

And then she discovered all the possibilities available to her now that she no longer spent her evenings on the couch drinking.

Lori is now a life coach specializing in sobriety, mindset transformation and holistic wellness for women over 40 and hosts the podcast To 50 And Beyond.

Being sober has given Lori a second chance at life and enabled her to become who she genuinely is, without the façade she was trying to keep up with for decades.

In this episode, Lori and I explore:

Why more and more women are deciding to stop drinking at age 40, 50 and 60
How “aging sober” empowers women to live healthier, happier and more confident lives.
Why midlife is a good time to reevaluate your relationship with alcohol as you look to the decades ahead
The perimenopause journey and how to get beyond it sober
The correlation between drinking and weight gain in midlife
How women’s wellness after 40 is improved by being alcohol-free

SHOWNOTES: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/41

About Lori Massicot

Lori is a Life Coach specializing in sobriety, mindset transformation, and holistic wellness for women over 40. Lori is an advocate for aging happy, healthy and confident, and free. Lori has a certification in Nutrition Coaching, and is the host of the To 50 & Beyond podcast, a podcast that celebrates women in the middle of life.

Links mentioned in the podcast

Connect with Lori Massicot

To learn more about Lori and to find out more information about her coaching services, head over to www.lorimassicot.com

Follow Lori on Instagram at @lorimassicot

Listen to her podcast To 50 And Beyond

Learn about Lori’s group coaching program for women over 40, Elevate.

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Check out The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process.

Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Ep. 40: The Sober Diaries - Stop Drinking, Start Living

69 perc 40. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

My guest today is Clare Pooley. Her book The Sober Diaries: How One Mom Stopped Drinking And Started Living is based on her blog, Mummy Was A Secret Drinker, which describes her first 365 days of living without alcohol.

The Sober Diaries is one of the first books I recommend to all of my clients as they stop drinking.

In The Sober Diaries Clare tells her story of building up sober days while at the same time uncovering how deeply her love of wine was connected to her identity as a successful working woman, a fun adult and her life as a mom of 3 children.

I love the way The Sober Diaries takes you through the days and months of early sobriety in a funny, insightful, relatable and realistic way.

If you read it during your first few weeks or months, you'll see your own experiences in Clare's as she moves through Day 14 "Sober Mornings", Day 26 "Oh God, It's Friday", Day 91 "The Wine Witch", 100 Days and when it gets easier - all the way through Day 365.

It's a great read (or listen), especially for women with kids, who started drinking in the corporate world or in the mommy wine culture.

Clare, at the time she stopped drinking, was a middle aged woman, over educated, overprivileged, formerly overweight mom of three, who had a long love affair with high priced good quality wine until she realized that the relationship was going nowhere but downhill. So she started blogging to take her mind off her broken heart.

In this episode, Clare and I dive into:

Why immediate benefits of giving up alcohol (better sleep, clearer skin and eyes, a healthier body) are good, but the biggest benefits come much later
The fact that well educated, middle aged women are becoming the most likely group to drink problematically
How Clare (and I) stopped drinking without traditional 12 Step Programs like AA and why choosing that path to living alcohol-free is even easier for women today
Why Clare thinks we need to change the “brand imagery” around not drinking and reframe going alcohol-free from something that one might ‘have to do’ to something you want to do
How our social media feeds are doing us a disservice by normalizing excessive drinking
Why the the most difficult part of quitting drinking for Clare was learning to deal with emotions without having wine as a crutch
Why Clare thought that her life without drinking would be dull and boring but discovered that it was way more exciting than when she was drinking

About Clare Pooley

Clare is a British blogger, author and novelist. She spent twenty years in the heady world of advertising before becoming a full-time mum.

Realizing that her ‘wine o’clock’ habit had spiraled out of control, Clare started writing a blog, Mummy was a Secret Drinker, which has had nearly three million hits. Her memoir, The Sober Diaries was published in 2017 to critical acclaim.

Clare’s debut novel - The Authenticity Project, was inspired by her own experience of exposing the rather grubby truth about her own seemingly perfect life, and is being published in twenty-nine territories in 2020. Clare’s talks include a TEDx talk - Making Sober, Less Shameful.

Clare lives in Fulham, London with her husband, three children, two border terriers, and an African pygmy hedgehog.

Connect with Clare Pooley

To learn more about Clare, head over to www.clarepooley.com

Follow her on Instagram: @clare_pooley

Connect with her on Facebook: @SoberMummy

Connect with Clare Twitter: @cpooleywriter

Order her books, The Sober Diaries: How One Mom Stopped Drinking And Started Living and The Authenticity Project

Subscribe to her blog: Mummy Was A Secret Drinker

Listen to her Tedx Talk: Making Sober, Less Shameful

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Check out The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process.

Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days

Listen to the podcast on The Best Quit Lit For Women Quitting Drinking to hear more about The Sober Diaries and other books to inspire your alcohol-free journey.

Get the free guide to The Best Quit Lit Books For Women

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Ep. 39: Tired Of Thinking About Drinking With Belle Robertson (My Sober Coach)

71 perc 39. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Today my guest on the podcast is my very own sober coach.

Belle Robertson from Tired Of Thinking About Drinking was the person I emailed on my very last “Day 1” 5 years ago, after I woke up at 3am and decided that I needed support to stop drinking wine every night.

After that first day, and over the course of 2 years, Belle and I exchanged over 800 email messages!

Belle held my hand through my first week without alcohol and gave me advice and support as I navigated dinner parties, crappy days at work, date nights, sick kids, camping trips and my first sober vacation in Europe.

I love Belle's approach because it's practical, approachable and positive.

When I started working with her I heard this message - and it set me on the path I’m still walking today.

She said, “So I want you to imagine that there's something else for you, something better than what you're doing now. I want you to think about what could be rather than what is. So if there's a you who right now is a person who's drinking, and you want to be something else, and you want something else to happen in your life, and you don't know how to get there. And you don't know how to get this voice in your head to stop. I know what the answer is. I know that you don't believe me when I tell you I know what the answer is. Because the answer is stop drinking. And when you stop drinking, things change.”

In this episode, Belle and I discuss:

The benefits of not drinking and having a sober coach
Why having a positive mindset will help guide you through sobriety
Why repeated relapse is normal and how to change your strategy to support sobriety
How being sober takes work, it doesn’t happen overnight
Why removing the booze will make things better for you and your relationships
The drinking cycle of quitting drinking and how it affects your mental health
The importance of self care during your sobriety journey

If one of your goals in 2021 is to drink less + live more I can help.

I created an on-demand course, The Sobriety Starter Kit, which can help you make 2021 the year you stop drinking.

The Sobriety Starter Kit is the online, self-study sober coaching course that will help you quit drinking and build a life you love without alcohol.

The course is based on the sober coaching work I do with my private clients and is available at a cost that’s significantly more affordable than one-on-one coaching.

Plus the online Sobriety Starter Kit course is ready, waiting and available to support you anytime you need it.

When you purchase the course you’ll have lifetime access to it. You can start today or at any other time.

The course is self-paced, so you’re never ‘behind’. You can move through the lessons as quickly or slowly as you need to and revisit earlier lessons at any time.

In the Sobriety Starter Kit you’ll learn the framework, plus all the skills + strategies you need to stop drinking and build a life you love without alcohol – without white-knuckling it or hating the process.

And I’ll hold your hand each step of the way.

Click here to get all the details.

About Belle Robertson

Belle is a writer and a sober coach with a website, Tired Of Thinking About Drinking. She's written a book about how to quit drinking, and has worked one on one as a sober coach with 3258 individuals. Belle hasn't had a drink in over eight years and she started her own sober journey with a sober trial, a period of time off alcohol to see how she liked it. And apparently she did. When she's not recording sober audios or coaching by email. She works as a caterer and a text designer, originally from Canada. Bell lives in Paris and Vermont with her husband, who's also a Canadian.

Connect With Belle Robertson

To learn more about Belle and how she can support you on your sober journey, head over to www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com

Follow her on Instagram: @tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking

Order her book, Tired of Thinking About DrinkingTake my 100 Day Sober Challenge by Belle Robertson

Listen to Belle’s audiobook: https://gumroad.com/l/Belle-TOTAD-audio, Tired of Thinking About Drinking Take my 100 Day Sober Challenge by Belle Robertson

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Check out The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process.

Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Ep. 38: The Sober Girl’s Guide to Dry January

32 perc 38. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Today is The Day! It’s January 1st, 2021.

It is DRY JANUARY and you are ready to stop drinking.

It’s the perfect time for a fresh start.

You’re ready to

Take a break from drinking to be healthier and happier, more fulfilled and confident.
Sleep through the night and wake up feeling good.
Get out of the drinking cycle of feeling, tired, stuck and defeated.

And I’ve got all the tools you need to start strong and keep on going!

In this podcast I’m going to share all my best tips and tricks to set you up for success so that you get the most out of Dry January.

You’ll learn

How to use Dry January as a springboard to building a life you love without alcohol, not as a short break from the drinking cycle.
Why Dry January gives you the perfect reason to tell others you’re not drinking, without labels or explanations.
How to build up sober momentum in Dry January without worrying about questions of ‘forever’ or ‘never again’.
Where to hook up with other women doing Dry January so that you can cheer each other on.
How to step up self care this month and use treats and rewards so that your time not drinking is really pleasurable.
How to take advantage of this month to change your go-to habits so that after the 31 days you won't want to go back to drinking.

And if one of your goals in 2021 is to drink less + live more I can help.

I created an on-demand course, The Sobriety Starter Kit, which can help you make 2021 the year you stop drinking.

The Sobriety Starter Kit is the online, self-study sober coaching course that will help you quit drinking and build a life you love without alcohol.

The course is based on the sober coaching work I do with my private clients and is available at a cost that’s significantly more affordable than one-on-one coaching.

Plus the online Sobriety Starter Kit course is ready, waiting and available to support you anytime you need it.

When you purchase the course you’ll have lifetime access to it. You can start today or at any other time.

The course is self-paced, so you’re never ‘behind’. You can move through the lessons as quickly or slowly as you need to and revisit earlier lessons at any time.

And I’ll hold your hand each step of the way.

Click here to get all the details.

Resources mentioned in this episode

Episode 34 - The first episode on using Atomic Habits to Quit Drinking with Identity Based Habits

Episode 35 - The second episode on using Atomic Habits to Quit Drinking on how to break your habit of drinking in four simple steps - without relying on willpower or hating the process

Episode 36 - The third episode on using “The Habits Tipping Point”, that magical moment when choosing not to drink simply becomes a part of who you are.

The Sobriety Starter Kit Online Course

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Check out The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process.

Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Ep. 37: How To Manifest The Shit Out Of Life

62 perc 37. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

As the end of 2020 approaches many of us are ready to turn the page on this year and start anew.

And it’s time to start fresh and look ahead to what you want and how to make that happen.

And in this episode I want to tell you just how to do that. How to not only turn the page on last year and set new intentions for 2021, but also to keep your intentions strong as motivation fades after a few weeks or months.

Too often in life, we’ve stopped dreaming. Or if we have dreams we dismiss them as impractical or impossible.

We feel weighed down by responsibilities or what other people might think.

Or our own habits, fears, limiting beliefs and assumptions of what is achievable, appropriate or allowed stops us in our tracks.

My goal is to get you centered on what lights you up, fires up your imagination and brings you joy. To change what’s weighing you down because you deserve to feel happy and fulfilled.

We think it’s our busy schedules or responsibilities that get in our way, but it’s not that.

The biggest thing that stops us from achieving our dreams is ourselves.

Our fears, our limiting beliefs and our negative self-talk.

Here’s what you need to do to manifest the shit out of life:

#1. Replace your negative thoughts and limiting beliefs with new, positive affirmations.

Repetition becomes reality. What you look at everyday, the media you consume, the people you interact with most every day and what you whisper to yourself matters.

Turn your most repeated negative, inner critic thoughts inside out, find the opposite affirmation and repeat it often.

You can retrain your brain from pessimism to optimism, from feeling powerless to knowing that you are able to achieve anything you want. You can manifest the shit out of life.

#2. Create a vision board to keep your goals and dreams front and center.

Vision Boards are a powerful tool to bring clarity to what you want to experience in life.

A vision board will keep you focused on who you want to be, where you want to go, and how you want to feel long after willpower and motivation fades.

Instead of being dragged down by daily life experiences that could steer you off course, you’ll have a consistent, powerful reminder of your ideal life with your best self.

Your vision board will keep your dreams top of mind, so you’re always looking for ways (consciously and subconsciously) to move closer to your goals.

Inspiring images and can shape your beliefs, change your self talk and remind you of your goals.

#3. Notice what makes you feel good.

Sometimes we don’t know how to move forward because we don’t even know what we want. I’ve got good news. It’s actually more important to know what makes you feel good than what you want to achieve.

So your job is to pay attention to how different people, places, ideas, things, activities and dreams make you feel. Find the ones that light you up and follow them. They’re the divine breadcrumbs that will lead you somewhere amazing.

#4. Choose the people you spend time with carefully.

The more time you spend with people who light you up, encourage you, see the best version of you and are doing things you want to be doing, the better. People you admire, inspiring voices that make you think and dream bigger and make you feel excited about life and it’s possibilities.

Some people hold you back and others can pull you forward. They can drag you down or lift you up. The people you surround yourself with shape who you are and what you believe you can achieve.

People who discourage you, tell you your dreams are unrealistic or have a negative or pessimistic view of life will keep you stuck. You can't hang out with negative people and expect to have a positive life.

Consciously edit which opinions attitudes and life philosophies you allow into your life. They determine what conversations dominate your attention.They affect which attitudes and behaviors you adopt. You begin to think like they think and behave like they behave.

Now you’re ready to go out and manifest the shit out of life.

My challenge to you is to focus on what you want to feel and do in your life (regardless of what others think) and take small and large steps towards your dreams.

And if one of your goals in 2021 is to drink less + live more I can help.

I created an on-demand course, The Sobriety Starter Kit, which can help you make 2021 the year you stop drinking.

The Sobriety Starter Kit is the online, self-study sober coaching course that will help you quit drinking and build a life you love without alcohol.

The course is based on the sober coaching work I do with my private clients and is available at a cost that’s significantly more affordable than one-on-one coaching.

Plus the online Sobriety Starter Kit course is ready, waiting and available to support you anytime you need it.

And I’ll hold your hand each step of the way.

Click here to get all the details.

Resources mentioned in this episode

Download The Ultimate Vision Board Starter Kit

Blog: How Vision Boards Work & Why You Need One

The Sobriety Starter Kit Online Course

Brené Brown: The Midlife Unraveling

Jen Sincero’s Book: You Are A Badass

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Check out The Sobriety Starter Kit. The private, on-demand coaching course you need to break out of the drinking cycle - without white-knuckling it or hating the process.

Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Ep. 36: The Habits Tipping Point - When Choosing Not To Drink Becomes Easy and Simply Part Of Who You Are

45 perc 36. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

The Habits Tipping Point: When Choosing Not to Drink Becomes Easy and Simply Part Of Who You Are

Welcome to Episode #3 in the Atomic Habits series on how to break your habit of drinking based on the research into what works in changing behavior for long term success.

In part one of Atomic Habits, Episode 34, we discussed how to quit drinking using identity based habits. We talked about how every action you take supporting your goal to be alcohol-free [like listening to this podcast] is casting a vote for your identity as a happy, healthy woman who doesn’t need to drink to have fun or cope with life.

In part two of Atomic Habits, Episode 35, we talked about how to break your habit of drinking in four steps by changing your cues, cravings, responses, and rewards habit loop.

And in today’s Episode, part three, we're going to talk about the tipping point.

The point when your behavior changes and shifts into your identity.

There is a tipping point where by choosing not to drink you are simply acting IN ALIGNMENT with who you are.

The struggle not to drink is gone.
Your mind is not constantly thinking about drinking or not drinking.
You're someone who used to drink but don’t anymore, because you feel better without it.

In this episode we’ll dig into:

How to avoid the stumbling blocks that have tripped you up in the past and led you back to drinking.

The most common thing that trips women up in their efforts to stop drinking is fear of the unknown and our natural inclination to stay where things are familiar and comfortable.

I’ll help you break through this resistance to discover a new experience that is so much better than living in the drinking cycle.

What to do when you’re in the ‘plateau of latent potential,’ the time period when the work you’re doing builds until you hit the tipping point.

It’s easy to get impatient and frustrated when you hit 30 or 60 days without alcohol. It’s not as hard as it was in the beginning, but you still have moments when you want to drink and you wish that you were past that point.

But the work you’re doing in this middle piece, between no longer and not yet, is important. You’re storing energy that’s building until you hit the tipping point. The point when not drinking is simply a part of who you are. You’re on your way to being a healthy, happy, confident nondrinker. You just haven’t reached the tipping point - yet.

I’ll share with you how to look at this time period in a way that validates the work you're doing before you hit the identity shift, so you don't get bored and frustrated and decide to drink again

Good habits make time your ally and bad habits make time your enemy.

Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement.

In the same way that money multiplies through compound interest, the effects of your habits multiply as you repeat them across time.

At first you feel better and your progress is small and incremental. But as more time goes by those small improvements compound exponentially.

The positive or negative trajectory of your life is immense depending on which habits you keep or change.

When you change your habit of drinking, you’ll have a bunch of immediate benefits.

You’ll have more energy and sleep well. You’ll look better and have more patience.

And you will also change the trajectory of your life. From one that’s declining slowly and then more steeply, to one that’s improving slowly and then improving exponentially over time.

Impressive results are the natural outcome of many small improvements accumulating over time.

Are You Ready To Stop Drinking?

I invite you to take a look at my new on-demand course, The Sobriety Starter Kit.

The Sobriety Starter Kit is the online, self-study sober coaching course that will help you quit drinking and build a life you love without alcohol.

The course is based on the sober coaching work I do with my private clients and is available at a cost that’s significantly more affordable than one-on-one coaching.

Plus the online Sobriety Starter Kit course is ready, waiting and available to support you anytime you need it.

And I’ll hold your hand each step of the way.

Click here to get all the details.

Atomic Habits links and resources mentioned

Grab a copy of Atomic Habits by James Clear

Episode 34 - The first episode on using Atomic Habits to Quit Drinking with Identity Based Habits

Episode 35 - The second episode on using Atomic Habits to Quit Drinking on how to break your habit of drinking in four simple steps - without relying on willpower or hating the process.

Podcast episodes on how to prime your mindset, physical and social environment for success in quitting drinking

Episode 2 - 5 Mistakes Women Make When Quitting Drinking

Episode 3 - 7 Strategies To Get You Through Your First Week Without Alcohol

Episode 10 - 10 Things You Need In Your Sober Toolkit

Episode 23 - Feeling Bored In Sobriety? Things To Know + What To Do

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Episode 35: Break Your Habit of Drinking in Four Steps - Change Your Cue, Craving, Response + Reward Cycle

60 perc 35. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Have you been trying to break your habit of drinking using willpower, positive inspiration or negative, fear-based motivation by trying to avoid negative consequences?

If you haven’t been successful in your attempts to stop drinking using this approach it’s actually not your fault. Instead you've likely just been trying to make a long term behavior change in all the wrong ways.

There are easy ways and hard ways to break a habit, and research into the science of behavior change shows that willpower just doesn’t work in the long term.

In this episode I’m going to talk about how to break your habit of drinking in four simple steps - without relying on willpower or hating the process.

We’ll dive into:

The four laws of how to break a bad habit and how to build a new one, as outlined in Atomic Habits by James Clear.
Why understanding your personal habit loop of cues, cravings, responses and rewards is critical to helping you stop drinking without relying on willpower or hating the process.
How creating and sharing an implementation intention is fundamental to succeeding in change where you have stumbled in the past.
Why environmental design is key to achieving your goals. Making small changes to your physical and social environment will make it easier to break the drinking cycle.
What has likely tripped you up in the past and practical and specific ways to set yourself up for success, not self-sabotage.
What you should learn from times you’ve tried to stop before, without shaming yourself for going back to drinking.

What is the habit loop?

It’s a four step pattern that’s the backbone of every habit you’ve ever formed.

A cue is the first step in the habit loop. A cue triggers your brain to initiate a behavior.
- A cue is a bit of information that predicts a reward. Because the cue is the first indication that we're close to a reward, cues naturally lead to craving.
Cravings are the second step of the habit loop.
- Cravings are the motivational force behind every habit. Without some level of motivation or desire, without a craving to change, we have no reason to act. And what you crave is not the habit itself, but the change in state it delivers. So at the basic level you actually don’t crave drinking a glass of wine, you crave the feeling of relief it provides. If you're with a bunch of people, you don’t actually crave drinking a glass of wine, you crave the feeling of being included and doing the same things as other people. The sense of belonging.
The third step in the habit loop is the response.
- The response is the actual habit you perform. So this can take the form of a thought or an action. It's the buying the wine, the pulling the wine out of the fridge, pouring a glass, taking a sip. That's the response. And whether a response occurs or doesn't occur depends on how motivated you are to do it, and also how difficult it is for you to complete the behavior.
The fourth step is reward, rewards are the end goal of every habit.
- The cue is about noticing the reward, the craving is about wanting the reward and the response is about obtaining the reward.
- The first purpose of rewards is to satisfy your craving. If you open a bottle of wine and you drink, you are satisfying that craving. The reward delivers contentment, and relief from the craving.
- The second thing rewards do is they teach us which actions are worth remembering in the future. Your brain is a reward detector. As you go about life, your sensory nervous system is continuously monitoring which actions satisfy your desires and deliver feelings of pleasure or disappointment. Those are part of the feedback mechanism that helps your brain distinguish useful actions from useless ones.

There are four laws of how to break a bad habit and how to build a new one

First, start with your implementation intention. It’s a stated plan to solidify your plan to be alcohol-free for a specific amount of time.

The first law of how to make a new habit stick is to make it obvious. The more visible and available a habit is, the more likely you are to stick to it.

The second law is to make it attractive. The more appealing a habit is, the more likely you are to feel motivated to do it.

The third law is to make it easy. The easier, simpler, more convenient and frictionless a habit is, the more likely it is to be performed.
And the fourth law is to make it satisfying. The more satisfying, enjoyable, and pleasurable a habit is, the more likely it is to stick.

Are You Ready To Stop Drinking?

I invite you to take a look at my new on-demand course, The Sobriety Starter Kit.

The Sobriety Starter Kit is the online, self-study sober coaching course that will help you quit drinking and build a life you love without alcohol.

The course is based on the sober coaching work I do with my private clients and is available at a cost that’s significantly more affordable than 1:1 coaching.

Plus the online Sobriety Starter Kit course is ready, waiting and available to support you anytime you need it.

And I’ll hold your hand each step of the way.

Click here to get all the details.

Atomic Habits links and resources mentioned

Grab a copy of Atomic Habits by James Clear

Episode 34 - The first episode on using Atomic Habits to Quit Drinking with Identity Based Habits

Podcast episodes on how to prime your mindset, physical and social environment for success in quitting drinking

Episode 2 - 5 Mistakes Women Make When Quitting Drinking

Episode 3 - 7 Strategies To Get You Through Your First Week Without Alcohol

Episode 10 - 10 Things You Need In Your Sober Toolkit

Episode 23 - Feeling Bored In Sobriety? Things To Know + What To Do

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Ep. 34: Quit Drinking With Identity Based Habits, Because Willpower Doesn’t Work.

71 perc 34. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Are you ready to change your relationship with alcohol, stop drinking and create a life you love without alcohol?

I’ve got you, my friend!

Over the past year I’ve spent every free moment I’ve had creating the online course you need to get out of the drinking cycle and start to feel better. And the waitlist is open now!

The Sobriety Starter Kit is the online, self-study sober coaching course that will help you quit drinking and build a life you love without alcohol.

It’s based on all the work I do with my private coaching clients all wrapped up with a pretty online bow- and available at a cost that’s significantly more affordable than 1:1 coaching.

Plus the online Sobriety Starter Kit course is ready, waiting and available to support you anytime you need it.

And I’ll hold your hand each step of the way.

Join the waitlist here and get all the details as soon as enrollment opens

Now back to How to Quit Drinking With Identity Based Habits, Because Willpower Doesn’t Work.

There are easy ways and hard ways to break the habit of drinking.

And if you’ve tried a bunch of times to get sober momentum and given up after 2 weeks or 2 months, I’m betting that you’ve tried ALL the hard ways to stop drinking and it’s brought you back to the same place.

In this episode I’m going to share with you the research and framework behind how to break your habit of drinking once and for all, without relying on willpower, white-knuckling it or hating the process.

What I’ve found in the coaching work I do with women is that approaching not drinking based on the research into what works in terms of long term behavior change is the most powerful, logical and sustainable way to become a happy and healthy non-drinker.

And the best book I’ve found on how to change your habits and behavior is Atomic Habits by James Clear.

Here’s what doesn’t work when you’re trying to stop drinking:

Shaming or blaming yourself for drinking again when the physical, social and emotional environment you live in has set you up for failure
Relying on hitting a low enough ‘bottom’ so that you’ll finally have the motivation to not drink and the willpower to resist alcohol
Keeping your wine (or your alcohol of choice) in your home (so that you don’t have to ask your partner to change their behavior)
Relying on your partner, family and drinking friends as your main source of support for changing your relationship with alcohol

If you’ve tried to stop drinking before and don’t seem to get very far there are a lot of reasons why what you’ve been doing up until now hasn’t been working.

Here’s what you’ll learn in today’s episode about the ways to change your behavior and stop drinking in a way that’s easier and set up in a way for long term success.

How to prime your physical environment and social support to overcome the moments when willpower isn’t enough and motivation fades
Why true behavior change is based on identity change - who you believe you are. Because when you change your identity from a “red wine or chardonnay girl” to a “healthy, happy, confident and inspiring woman who doesn't drink anymore because she feels better and does more without it” - then, when you don’t drink, you are simply acting IN ALIGNMENT with who you are
How to get rid of the limiting beliefs and fears you have about what your life will look like without drinking
Why it's important to focus on your trajectory (the path that you are on and where it is leading you) rather than your end goal
How altering the media and messages you surround yourself with (including the messages you tell yourself) can be the difference between success and failure

There are two more important ideas I want you to take away from this podcast

First: The things that you believe can influence the way you act, and the way that you act can influence the things that you believe.

The core argument that James Clear makes in Atomic Habits is that true behavior change is identity change, because once you start to see yourself as a new type of person, then you don't even really have to force yourself to do it as much.

You’ll recognize this in what people have said around you as they go through habit transformations.

They'll say things like, “Yeah, I don't know. It was hard in the beginning (for example when they start a fitness practice), but now I can't even imagine not working out.
It's just part of who I am,” or “I don't really motivate myself to meditate. I'm a meditator.”
Once you start to assign those labels—I'm a meditator. I'm a writer. I'm a runner—then it becomes much easier to stick with it.
You're not even really pursuing behavior change anymore; you’re just acting in alignment with the type of person you already see yourself to be.

Behavior and beliefs are a two-way street.

Second: That willpower might be able to overpower your environment for a day or a week or an hour. But in the long run, your environment almost always wins that battle.

And one of the biggest elements of that is not only the physical environment like the drinks in your fridge.
But also your social environment. The desire to belong often overpowers the desire to improve.
And so instead of relying on motivation to drive you, work on priming your physical and social environment for success.

When you listen to this episode on how to stop drinking with identity based habits I hope you’ll take away some practical ideas you can implement today to stop drinking in a way that makes it easier on you to not drink - so that you can stop relying on motivation and willpower and blaming yourself when you’re not successful.

I'm hoping that this episode will help you rethink your approach to not drinking and create your new identity as a healthy and happy, powerful, confident and inspiring woman who doesn't drink anymore because she feels better and does more without it.

Links and resources mentioned

Grab a copy of Atomic Habits by James Clear

Podcast episodes on how to prime your mindset, physical and social environment for success in quitting drinking

Episode 2 - 5 Mistakes Women Make When Quitting Drinking

Episode 3 - 7 Strategies To Get You Through Your First Week Without Alcohol

Episode 10 - 10 Things You Need In Your Sober Toolkit

Episode 23 - Feeling Bored In Sobriety? Things To Know + What To Do

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Ep. 33: Quitter: Drinking, Relapse + Recovery with Erica C. Barnett

83 perc 33. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

There is no cookie cutter way to quit drinking.

Often it takes many tries to find out what level of support you need to navigate life without drinking as a way to cope with life and what framework of recovery works for you.

My guest today is Erica C. Barnett, the Seattle author of the book Quitter: A Memoir of Drinking, Relapse and Recovery.

Erica’s experience with drinking and quitting drinking illustrates that it often takes a lot of trying to know what works for you. And that being able to move from relying on drinking pretty heavily as your main coping mechanism to not drinking and being able to sustain that often takes a number of tries.

I loved my conversation with Erica and we covered a lot of ground.

We talked about the good and the bad in drinking, quitting drinking and life in recovery.

Plus Erica shared a ton about the ins and outs of the world of outpatient + inpatient treatment and detox facilities, which I knew very little about before our conversation.

In this episode, Erica and I chat about

How awesome it is that we’re now able (with a few years distance from quitting drinking) to laugh at ‘all of it’ (our drinking, the situations we got into, the things we screwed up, the times we tried to stop drinking and failed, our paths to sobriety and everything in between)
The rapid increase in women binge drinking and drinking daily during the 2020 quarantine and COVID pandemic and the relentless messaging in our society encouraging (and pressuring) women to drink everyday
How fucked up it is that our society first encourages and trivializes women’s reliance on wine as “cute” or “funny” and then blames women for becoming addicted to an addictive substance
Why despite the fact that alcohol use disorders are more common than opioid addiction and kill more people, alcohol is positioned as an almost entirely fun and harmless substance
Why relapse is more often than not a part of recovery yet relapse is treated as a personal failure rather than a near-inevitability
The differences between the many paths to recovery including cognitive behavioral therapy, 12 step programs, online alcohol-free groups, inpatient and outpatient treatment facilities, medically supervised detox services, sober coaching and everything in between
The judgement surrounding addiction and how it can be harmful to recovering addicts.
The treatment industry and how it relies on repeat customers to keep it profitable and thriving - as well as Erica’s personal experiences (what worked and what didn’t) at various treatment centers

About Erica C. Barnett

Erica is a longtime political journalist and the author of a great book, Quitter: A Memoir of Drinking, Relapse and Recovery. She founded and edits the website PublicCola.com, which covers local news and politics in Seattle.

Links and resources mentioned

Grab a copy of Quitter: A Memoir of Drinking, Relapse, and Recovery

Check out Erica’s blog, Thecisforcrank.com

Check out http://PubliCola.com and I Was a “Fun” Drunk. Until I Wasn’t.

Connect with Erica C. Barnett

Follow Erica on Twitter @ericacbarnett

Connect with Erica on Instagram @ericabarnett

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain by John Ratey

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Ep. 32: 10 Ways Running Can Jumpstart Your Recovery

57 perc 32. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Developing a running practice can jumpstart your recovery.

Running is a layer of support that helps you set goals, boost confidence, and fill your time with a healthy alternative when all you want to do is pour yourself a drink.

My guest today is Margaret Ward. Margaret is a mother of 4, a multiple marathon finisher, a retired chardonnay drinker, a life and sobriety coach and a former lawyer.

She’s been featured in Trail Runner Magazine and her main passions, beside her kids, is finding adventure through traveling and running around the world.

Margaret’s Recovery Run Adventures offers alcohol-free adventures to destination races in Iceland, Norway and Italy and more.

In this episode we discuss,

The struggles of motherhood that can drive women to drink as a way to cope with stress and anxiety
The mental and physical benefits of running that will help you heal
How developing a small, consistent running practice can ease early sobriety
How running can help you build up small wins and boost your confidence
The way in which running helps you become more in tune with your body
Fun and exciting running adventures around the world in Iceland, Norway and Italy

10 Ways Running Can Jumpstart Your Recovery

Running requires little financial commitment and you can jump in at any time. Just grab your running shoes and head out the door.
Helps control your cravings, especially in early sobriety. When you run, your brain releases endorphins. Endorphins is a chemical released by your brain that triggers positive emotions. This is also known as the runners high.
Running decreases stress and anxiety. In early sobriety, your stress and anxiety levels can increase. Running increases your heart rate which in turn changes your brain chemistry. Your brain releases an anti-anxiety neurotransmitter such as GABA.
Moving your body allows you to practice mindfulness. When you run, you connect with your breathing and get into a state of flow. Running is a form of moving meditation.
Allows you to set goals and see immediate results. Setting running goals builds confidence and it gives you something to celebrate once that goal is accomplished. Start small and commit.
Provides structure to your day which is an important tool to have during early sobriety.
Counteracts Boredom.
Running is a natural way to release energy. Releasing build up energy helps regulate your nervous system, control anger, and will physically tire you out which will help you sleep at night.
When you start running, you open yourself up to a whole new world. A community of women who will cheer you on and hold you accountable. Joining a local running group helps you establish connections with other women.
Running provides you a great reason to stop drinking. You’re getting your body healthy. You are giving yourself a great tool to jumpstart your sobriety.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/32

Links and resources mentioned

Born to Run by Christopher McDougall

Connect with Margaret Ward

Find out more about Margaret’s life and sobriety coaching and her travel + running trips at

https://recoveryrunadventures.com/coaching/

You can also get Margaret’s free guide, 5 Steps to Jumpstart Your Running and Recovery, at

https://recoveryrunadventures.com/coaching.

Read Margaret Ward’s feature in Trail Runner Magazine.

Follow Margaret on Facebook at Recovery Run Adventures

Connect with Margaret on Instagram @recoveryrunadventures

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Ep. 31: How To Get Through The Holidays Without Drinking with Jean McCarthy

78 perc 31. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

The holidays are both a wonderful time of year as well as a time that can trip up women who have stopped drinking, from those in early sobriety to those that might have quit months (or years) earlier.

A lot of us might get to November and December and think, I've been doing this not drinking thing for a while now. I've got this.

But the holidays are a unique combination of back-to-back drinking events + occasions, family dynamics, memories of previous years drinking, physically being surrounded by alcohol with powerful emotional and social triggers.

The holiday season can undermine your recovery if you're not prepared to navigate it in a way that supports your sobriety.

In this episode, Jean and I share all the tips and tricks to having a wonderful holiday season without drinking.

We talk about:

How to socialize sober + reduce stress and anxiety around attending holiday gatherings
Specific strategies for navigating Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas + New Year’s Eve
Practical advice on attending + hosting holiday parties, traveling + staying with family or having family members stay with you
What you can share with family + friends so they can make not drinking easier for you during the holidays
Why annual traditions and the specific expectations around what events happen during the holiday season, who hosts, what is served, how long people are together, who travels + for how long, can lead to resentments + challenges for your sobriety
Why it’s important to identify your expectations around the holidays + evaluate how they might impact you physically, mentally and emotionally
How to say no, modify traditions + set boundaries without feeling like you’re high maintenance
The fun stuff: why to set up a seasonal or holiday ‘bucket list’ with ideas of how to make the most of this special time that’s not centered around alcohol
Ideas for new traditions that can make the season more joyful, memorable + fulfilling

About Jean McCarthy

Jean McCarthy is the host of the Bubble Hour Podcast, an award winning blogger + recovery advocate. Jean is an author of two books.

Her book, The Unpickled Holiday Survival Guide - staying alcohol free during the festive season is a wonderful resource about sobriety for people in recovery and for their families.

Her collection of poetry, The Ember Ever There - Poems on change, grief, growth, recovery and rediscovery was published in early 2020.

I interviewed Jean for this podcast in episode nine about her poetry and her story.

Jean started her blog, Unpickled in 2011, and has continued to chronicle her alcohol free lifestyle. Since her first day of sobriety, thousands of readers have credited Unpickled as a motivating factor in their decision to quit drinking.

SHOWNOTES: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Links and resources mentioned

Connect with Jean Mccarthy

Link to buy Jean’s Holiday Survival Guide and The Ember Ever There books: www.jeanmccarthy.ca/books

Instagram @jeanmccarthy_writes

Facebook pages for Unpickled (www.facebook.com/unpickled) and The Bubble Hour (www.facebook.com/thebubblehour)

Also websites: https://jeanmccarthy.ca/, https://unpickledblog.com/, https://jeanmccarthy.ca/the-bubble-hour/, https://www.amazon.com/dp/1999299906

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

Get support during the holiday season from women who are on the alcohol-free path with the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Ep. 30: The Enneagram and Transformational Habits

72 perc 30. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

The Enneagram is a tool of self discovery. It can help you understand yourself and why you respond and act the way you do.

Today my guest is Jim Zartman. Jim is a certified Enneagram coach who walks us through the Enneagram types as well as transformational habits that can change our lives.

Since Jim has done Enneagram work and typing interviews with over 50 women who are on the alcohol-free path, I asked him to talk about how the Enneagram work can be viewed through the lens of women who have relied on alcohol as a coping mechanism and are now leaving it behind.

If you’re stepping away from alcohol the Enneagram can help you understand your unique core drivers, core needs, beliefs and patterns that have been influencing your choices and decisions.

Jim shares that your core drivers can show up as superpowers or as a shadow that can sabotage the best parts of you.

Jim shares, “The best of you is permanent. The worst of you is temporary. You never want to be less of yourself. You want to be the best of yourself with fewer sabotaging patterns. The Enneagram can help you uncover the best parts of you.”

In Jim’s Enneagram work with clients he sees that:

Understanding your Enneagram type can help you gain a better understanding of your core motivations, driven by your desires and fears
Your Enneagram type is not a landing place, but a launch pad - it’s a tool in your growth, not the list of behaviors you are now held to
Your Enneagram type doesn’t put you in a box. Rather it gives you a framework for your tendencies and the lens through which you interact with your surroundings

In this episode, Jim and I chat about:

What the Enneagram is and how you can use the Enneagram as a tool to help you stop relying on alcohol as a coping mechanism
Transformation habits that can make a big difference in your sobriety
- How you show up + being consistent
- Acceptance
- Curiosity
The three types of the main intelligence centers: the body center, heart center, & head center

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/30

Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

To get the full guide of the best quit lit for women go to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/quit-lit

About Jim Zartman

Jim is a certified enneagram coach and the co-founder of The Art of Growth, which is a team of coaches and consultants who work with individuals and organizations to help them achieve the transformation they want in themselves, their work and their relationship.

Connect with Jim Zartman

Website: www.theartofgrowth.org

Listen to The Art of Growth Podcast

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more.

Ep.29: How is Coaching different than AA with Dennis Berry

58 perc 29. rész Casey Mcguire Davidson

What is the difference between Life, Recovery and Sober Coaching and a 12 step program like Alcoholics Anonymous?

I get this question a lot and I think many women who are thinking about stopping drinking aren’t sure what options are available to them for support or how they differ.

Most people who are trying to stop drinking have preconceived notions about what goes on in 12 step recovery programs such as AA based on what they’ve seen on TV and in movies and are also confused about what exactly “life coaching” or “sober coaching” involves.

Some people wonder if a life and recovery coach is just a private paid AA Sponsor (spoiler alert - it’s not!)

Going through a 12 step program, like Alcoholics Anonymous, typically involves attending meetings where members follow the 12 steps laid in the Big Book of Alcoholic Anonymous as a process that recovering alcoholics work through to successfully achieve and maintain sobriety. Many of these steps are ideally taken with the help of a sponsor, an individual who has gone through the AA program and helps others who are new to AA as they navigate early sobriety.

Unlike AA, most life and sobriety coaches use a flexible approach to identify your personal goals around not drinking and succeeding in other areas of your life and create a plan to achieve them based on individual needs, motivations and preferences.

I think that hiring a coach to stop drinking is similar to the decision you might make to hire a personal trainer or a nutritionist to increase your fitness levels or refine your eating habits.

You have a goal you want to achieve (to change your relationship with food, drinking or exercise). You’ve tried to make changes to your habits and behaviors on your own but have not been successful. At some point you may decide that it’s easier and helpful to bring in extra support, a new approach and external accountability to help you stay on track and achieve your goal.

Recovery coaches, like personal trainers and nutritionists in their areas of specialty, provide support and resources, expertise in changing habits and harnessing motivation, accountability to follow through on goals, new ways of approaching challenges and creative approaches to situations that you haven’t considered previously.

A coach is there to help you identify where they have gotten stuck in the past, what inner or outer blocks have been holding you back and how to remove them.

A coach will help you create a motivating plan to achieve your goal of living without alcohol, address limiting beliefs about what your life will look like without drinking, provide accountability in reaching your goals and provide guidance and structure in changing ingrained habits and changing your cue-craving-reward-response cycle.

I’ve invited my guest, Dennis Berry, to have this conversation with me because he’s not only a skilled life coach who is passionate about the benefits of coaching, but he is also in recovery and found recovery in AA and for many years was an active participant in the program. He both sees all the benefits of 12 Step programs and the difference between AA and coaching.

Dennis and I had a long conversation about the benefits and synergies of both approaches as well as talking about where the program of AA stops and the work of coaching begins.

We chat about the concept of independence in sobriety and the work you get to do after you stop drinking, in looking forward to what you want in your life now that you’ve removed alcohol.

In this episode, we discuss:

How life, sobriety and recovery coaching differs from the approach used in 12 Step Recovery Programs such as Alcoholic Anonymous.
Why most people need layers of support to stop drinking which may include a combination of coaching, therapy, exercise, 12 step programs, podcasts, books, online support groups and other hobbies, habits and healthy pursuits.
How coaching differs from the work done by sponsors in AA or therapy in being goal and future-focused.
The benefits of the Alcoholics Anonymous as a program which is widely available (with an estimated membership of 2 million people around the world), free of cost and offers fellowship, support and a structured program of steps to take to stop drinking.
The limitations of AA as a program created 85 years ago, in 1935, by two white men. In 1939, the Fellowship published its basic textbook, Alcoholics Anonymous and in 1953 AA’s 12 steps (the guidelines by which to get sober and recover) and 12 traditions (the principles behind the steps meant to keep members focused on the primary purpose) were written. Criticisms of AA have been that it can be seen as a one-size-fits-all approach that is rigid and antiquated.
The importance of developing independence in sobriety and why Dennis believes AA’s philosophy and approach can foster dependence on the program.

About Dennis Berry

Dennis is a Life Coach based in Colorado, who has been working with people recovering from addiction worldwide for over 15 years. Dennis has been in recovery from drug abuse for 17 years. His recovery has helped him find his mission in life, which is to help others on their journey through sobriety and achieve inner peace and success in every area of their lives. Dennis is also the host of The Funky Brain Podcast.

The 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous

We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, that our lives had become unmanageable.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

The 12 Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous

Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon A.A. unity.
For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority, a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience.Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
The only requirement for A.A. membership is a desire to stop drinking.
Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or A.A. as a whole.
Each group has but one primary purpose, to carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers.
An A.A. group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the A.A. name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.
Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
Alcoholics Anonymous should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
A.A., as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the A.A. the name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need to always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films.
Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/29

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Connect with Dennis Berry

Website www.dennisberry.com

Listen to The Funky Brain Podcast

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

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Ep. 28: Healing Codependency In Family Relationships - Breaking Unhealthy Patterns Established in Childhood

60 perc 28. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

How can you heal codependency in family relationships and break unhealthy patterns established in childhood?

That’s what we’re here to talk about today.

Codependency is a buzzword you might hear often, but it can be confusing and misunderstood.

My guest today is Brandi Merrill, she’s a life and recovery coach, a She Recovers coach, a licensed clinical social worker and a “boundary boss”. Brandi’s going to help us understand what codependency is (and is not) and how to break unhealthy patterns that may be sabotaging your health and happiness.

Codependency is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and sense of self.

It can cause you to worry about the lack of response from people, to feel anger about what you said or didn’t say in situations because you are relying on others for approval, not honor your own opinions and thoughts, and believe that putting yourself first is rude or selfish.

And codependency can make it challenging to set healthy boundaries, or cause guilt or anxiety when you do set them.

In this episode, Brandi and I are going to dig into:

The 4 steps to healing codependent behavior
7 signs of healing from codependency
Why overly harsh or loose boundaries can cause you to avoid close relationships
How and why codependency manifests in many family relationships
How to break unhealthy patterns established in childhood as an adult
The complicated relationship between codependent feelings and boundaries

The 4 steps to healing codependent behavior

Increasing awareness - How do you contribute to codependency? What can you do differently to take your power back?
Improving communication - changing how you communicate with people, setting boundaries unapologetically
Editing self talk - Negative self talk is destructive to recovery. How can you reframe the words you are saying to yourself to be more constructive?
Raising self awareness - pay close attention to your body and your feelings. Can you identify triggers that bring up feelings of anger, guilt, or resentment?

7 signs of healing from codependency

You are comfortable being alone
You are comfortable with sharing your opinions in relationships
You make decisions for yourself and not for others
You are comfortable with setting boundaries that serve your needs
You can step back and respond to situations instead of just reacting to them
You are comfortable with other people’s independence
You no longer feel guilt for setting boundaries and letting go of unhealthy relationships

About Brandi Merrill

Brandi lives in Idaho and is a single mom to three amazing daughters. She's a life and recovery coach, a She Recovers coach and a licensed clinical social worker who has provided counseling services for many years. Brandi is passionate about coaching and the transformations that are possible with the use of positive psychology and spirituality.

Her personal journey has been one of forgiveness, self love, becoming a boundary boss, and single parenting in recovery. She's in recovery from alcohol and codependency and believes that anything is possible. Brandi is passionate about inspiring her clients to make the changes they desire and to live their best lives. Brandi also works closely with moms in recovery that have experienced loss, including time with their kids, divorce or death.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/28

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Links and resources mentioned:

Books mentioned:

Connect with Brandi Merrill

Website: www.thepassionatepath.com

Instagram: @thepassionatepath

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Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

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Ep. 27: What’s Next in MidLife - Creativity, Change + Finding Your Purpose

41 perc 27. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

‘What’s Next?’ is a huge question for midlife women who have quit drinking or are working on quitting drinking.

You're evolving, you're changing, your coping mechanisms are changing.

Lots of times when you stop drinking, suddenly you have a lot more free time and energy than you used to.

When you were drinking and recovering from drinking. You are sort of in a holding pattern.

You were stuck. And now you're wondering what to do with all that time.

In today’s episode, I’m speaking with Sondra Primeaux. Sondra is a multi passionate maker, a photographer, a sustainable designer and seamstress, a writer, a coach and a podcast host. She hosts the Unruffled Podcast through a private Facebook group for the podcast.

Sondra started the Unruffled Podcast to talk about the intersection of creativity and recovery in what she terms the midlife solution, which I absolutely love. Sandra says midlife is only a crisis if you make it one.

Sondra was 45 when she quit using alcohol as a means to cope with life. And in the last six years, she's figured out through intensive learning, trial and failure, and loads of practice to answer ‘now what?’

We are discussing:

The intersection of creativity and recovery helps midlife women not only survive, but also thrive.
How conscious journaling can give you the momentum and creative space to explore more internal thoughts and how this process is a good tool to have during early sobriety
The transition into your mid-life and why you should dig deep into what you’ve done or haven't done. And it's also a time to take a glimpse into your future self.
Being honest with yourself and with others and how to set boundaries.
Using the enneagram to learn about yourself and what motivates you
Why creativity is a important part of your recovery and how to find different ways to bring joy and creativity to your life
How to find the middle space or sweet spot where you can create
Intersection of your personality type and going to AA and realizing there are other successful ways to recovery

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/27

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Links and resources mentioned:

Book mentioned: Artist Way by Julia Cameron

Connect with Sondra Primeaux

Website: www.theunruffled.com

Want to work with Sondra, check out her Change your Story Program

Go to Sondra Talbert Primeaux Facebook page and message her to join her secret Facebook group

Listen to Sondra's podcast The Unruffled Podcast

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

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Ep. 26: The Wine O’Clock Myth with Lotta Dann

65 perc 26. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

My guest today Lotta Dann, recovery advocate, blogger and author of three books: the best-selling memoir Mrs. D is Going Without, her second book Mrs. D Is Going Within, and the just released The Wine O’Clock Myth.

Lotta’s personal memoir of drinking, quitting drinking and living alcohol-free in a drink-filled world is witty, funny, and uplifting. Many memoirs are raw and gritty, but Mrs. D Is Going Without is both charming and real. I loved her book and completely related to Lotta’s experiences in early sobriety.

Today Lotta and I talk about The Wine O’Clock Myth, and why alcohol occupies such a privileged position in our society.

It’s almost universally represented as a magic elixir to all our problems which makes life both fun and glamorous. And the fact that alcohol also negatively affects the lives of people is practically invisible in conversations about or representations of drinking.

In this episode, Lotta and I discuss:

The truth that if you are struggling to moderate drinking, you are not alone and you are not the problem: alcohol is the problem.
The way the liquor industry has targeted women and the damaging 'Wine Mom' social media culture.
The importance of reframing the treat and reward concepts we’ve been taught (and internalized) around wine. That drinking is our treat at the end of the day and a much needed reward for hard work.
Why after the initial hit of dopamine wine is a depressive substance that is numbing and cuts you off from yourself and the people around you.
How to find other rewards and ‘sober treats’ that will nourish and ground you and that will actually make you feel better.

How to intentionally create a social media feed that inspires you to see all the awesome ways to enjoy life without alcohol rather than one that glamorizes drinking at every turn.
Why it’s critical to tap into a positive sober support community that shares the full picture of drinking - not just the one marketed to you. One that highlights both how good life can be without alcohol and shares truthfully the messages you will not see in popular culture, marketing or your social media feed - that drinking isn’t always harmless and fun. It can be dangerous and suck a lot of women (and men) into an unhealthy and unhappy cycle.

About Lotta Dann

Lotta built a successful career as a TV reporter, producer, and director, while simultaneously developing a remarkable aptitude for drinking a lot of alcohol.

Lotta began an anonymous blog called “Mrs. D is Going Without” when she was first stopping drinking - as a way to work through her thoughts and feelings, and keep herself accountable when she was starting her journey without alcohol.

On her third day sober she writes her first ever blog post to herself - in it she tells the full story of her final night of drinking and how she’s had enough of this boozy madness.

And then she writes

I’ve reached a tipping point and from now have decided to remove alcohol from my life.

I’m scared. It’s going to be hard.

Our family all drink. Our friends all drink. And I’m going to try to do this without any outside support. Just this blog.

So stay posted and I’ll let you know how I get on.

Love, Mrs. D xxx

Through her blog she found like minded people in the sober blogosphere, and they supported each other and cheered each other on and commiserated through the process.

Eventually Lotta turned her story and blog into a best - selling memoir of the same name - Mrs. D is going without. She worked to found Living Sober - a website in partnership with the new zealand government that takes the powerful aspects Lotta found in online recovery and makes it available and accessible to thousands of people in a place of tolerance and kindness, understanding and support.

Lotta wrote her second book Mrs. D is going within - touching on mindfulness and the tools she uses to navigate life from an emotionally healthy place after putting down the wine bottle.

And her new book, The Wine O'Clock Myth, Lotta takes an in-depth and eye-opening look at women's drinking habits. Written through the lens of her own story and her work in the field of addiction and recovery, Lotta explores the privileged position alcohol holds in our society, the way the liquor industry targets women and the damaging 'Wine Mum' social media culture.

She reveals the damage alcohol is causing to women physically, emotionally, and socially, and the potential reasons why so many women are drinking at harmful levels.

Lotta now lives sober with her TV-journalist husband and three sons in the hills of Wellington, New Zealand.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/26

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Connect with Lotta Dann

The Wine O'Clock Myth: The Truth You Need To Know About Women and Alcohol: https://www.amazon.com/Wine-OClock-Myth-Truth-Alcohol/dp/1988547229

Mrs D is Going Without: A Memoir: https://www.amazon.com/Mrs-D-Going-Without-Memoir/dp/1877505390

Mrs D is Going Within: https://www.amazon.com/Mrs-Going-Within-Lotta-Dann/dp/1877505862

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrs_d_alcoholfree/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mrsdisgoingwithout

Lotta Dann's Blog: http://livingwithoutalcohol.blogspot.com/

Mrs. D's Blog on Living Sober: https://livingsober.org.nz/category/mrs-ds-blog/

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Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

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Ep. 25: Gray Area Drinking With Jolene Park

60 perc 25. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

What is Gray Area Drinking?

It describes the space where most drinkers live: a place between being able to ‘take or leave’ alcohol and hitting some kind of a ‘rock bottom’ where you are experiencing external consequences associated with being on the alcohol use disorder spectrum or identified as signs of alcoholism.

In a world where everything seems to be black and white, where either you have a problem with drinking or you don’t, there are so many of us who try to moderate our drinking and struggle to do so.

You might not experience outward consequences from drinking, but struggle internally.
You have silent conversations with yourself about your own drinking.
You intend to have one glass of wine, but then find it easy to finish the whole bottle.
You stop drinking for days, weeks or months, but then start drinking again and find yourself back in the same place.

It’s a really confusing place to live when you realize that the way you drink isn’t helping you have the life you want but you live in a world where drinking is all around you.

So how do you know if it’s time to make an “early exit” from the drinking life?

And what does that even look like and feel like?

Those are the questions we're digging into today with my guest, Jolene Park.

Jolene is a functional nutritionist, a health coach, a TEDx speaker, a former gray area drinker and the creator of the gray area drinking recovery hub.

Jolene describes the term “gray area drinking” as the kind of drinking where there’s no rock bottom, but you drink as a way to manage anxiety and then regret how much and how often you drink.

In this episode, we discuss:

What gray area drinking is. How to determine if you’re a gray area drinker and what to do about it.
Why so many of us use alcohol to downshift and calm down at the end of a busy, stressful day.
Jolene’s personal alcohol and anxiety story and why she decided to make an early exit from the drinking life.
What drinking does to your body.
How to eliminate alcohol and sugar cravings and reduce anxiety by using real food, high-quality nutrients and cutting-edge mind/body techniques.
The functional impact of food, emotions, environment and movement in relation to our physical bodies.
The importance of replenishing our neurotransmitters and nourishing our nervous systems in a comprehensive and consistent way.
The missing pieces that have been overlooked in traditional recovery programs such as neurotransmitters (GABA, serotonin, dopamine), blood sugar imbalance, and nutrient deficiencies like B6 and zinc (pyroluria).
Specific supplements that boost your GABA
- Holy basil
- Lemon balm
- Passion flower
- Inositol
- L-theanine

About Jolene Park:

Jolene Park coaches high achieving professionals who want to eliminate alcohol and sugar cravings and reduce their anxiety by using real food, high-quality nutrients and cutting-edge mind/body techniques.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/25

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Connect with Jolene Park

Visit Jolene’s Website: https://www.healthydiscoveries.com/

Follow Jolene on Instagram @jolene_park

Watch Jolene’s TEDx talk: https://www.healthydiscoveries.com/tedx-talk/

Listen to the Editing Our Drinking and Our Lives Podcast with Jolene Park & Aidan Donnelley Rowley

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Book: Drink: The Intimate Relationship Between Women and Alcohol

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Ep. 24: Ann Dowsett Johnston - Wine as the Modern Women’s Steroid

55 perc 24. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Ann Dowsett Johnston, the best-selling author of Drink: The Intimate Relationship Between Women and Alcohol, has described the positioning of wine in popular culture as “The modern woman's steroid, enabling her to do everything she needs to do or tries to do”.

And there’s one problem with that description of alcohol. It’s not true and it doesn't work.

Instead of helping the modern woman do everything she needs to do - wine is a mal-adpative, and highly addictive coping mechanism that’s exacerbating stress, anxiety and depression for the modern woman.

On the podcast today Ann and I unpack the complicated and intimate relationship between women and alcohol.

We talk about:

How drinking after a long day of work has become a universal practice. It’s being repeated in house after house as women are standing at their kitchen counters in the evening and pouring themselves a glass (or a bottle) of wine.
How successful, professional women are increasingly struggling with drinking even as they rise high on the corporate ladder.
How women are using alcohol to self-medicate anxiety, depression, loss and loneliness - including suffering through events like empty-nest syndrome and depression in menopause.
How the messaging that “Mom needs to drink to get through her day, life, kids and work” is being pushed on us - in surround sound - in popular culture and by our alcogenic society.
Why are you able to move forward in a healthy way only once you get out of the drinking cycle. You’re finally able to work through underlying issues of anxiety, codependency, trauma, depression, and other factors that are driving you to drink.
How writing your recovery and telling your story can help you unpack your relationship with alcohol and the stories you’ve told yourself and get to the actual truth of your drinking history with a new understanding and self-compassion.
Why the growing movement of women telling their stories of drinking and quitting drinking, with pride and not shame, is helping other women recover in a way that the culture of anonymity in AA does not.
Why it’s so important for women who want to stop drinking to develop many layers of support to heal - which can include connecting with women on the alcohol-free path, reading books and memoirs of women who have stopped drinking, learning about the science of alcohol and what it does to your body and mind, joining support programs and creating new coping mechanisms through psychotherapy, counseling or with a sober or addiction coach.
How you can build layers of support to help you change your relationship with drinking - through psychotherapy, coaching, other women in private free Facebook groups online or in person, books, exercise, nutrition and more.

About Ann Dowsett Johnston

Anne Dowsett Johnston is the best-selling author of the book Drink: The Intimate Relationship Between Women and Alcohol. It was named by the Washington Post as one of the top 10 books of 2013. Ann is a psychotherapist who provides trauma informed relational care to clients with a focus on women in recovery, and works from a holistic perspective using the principles of focusing oriented psychotherapy, to bring awareness and compassion to the mind-body connection. Ann also offers an online eight week course on Writing Your Recovery based on her decades of experience as a journalist and a best selling author on memoir and writing your recovery.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/24

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Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

Stephanie Wilder-Taylor article on A Heroine of Cocktail Moms Sobers Up

Connect with Ann Dowsett Johnston

Website: http://www.anndowsettjohnston.com

TEDx talk on drinking and how it changed Ann’s life: http://www.anndowsettjohnston.com/media/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anndowsettjohnstob/

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

https://sherecovers.co/together-online/

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Ep.23: Feeling Bored In Sobriety? Things To Know + What To Do

48 perc 23. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Are you worried that life without drinking will be boring?

Or are you currently in early sobriety and feeling bored?

Are you scared that you’ll never really have fun or let loose again without alcohol?

Or wondering if you’ll lose all your friends and favorite activities if you don’t drink?

Here’s a secret: Almost all women who love to drink worry about being bored (or boring) without alcohol.

In this episode I’m going to talk about all the tips, tricks, suggestions and advice I have to make life without alcohol fun, comforting, interesting and gratifying.

I’ll talk about:

Why drinking is actually keeping your life small, isolated (and boring).
Why all of us have tunnel vision when we’re drinking. We see only the people and activities around us that are centered around alcohol (and look past all the other activities hiding in plain sight).
What to do if you're feeling bored in your first 15, 30 or 40 days and how to reframe your mindset about the important work you’re doing.
Why there is NO CHANCE you're “doing nothing” in early sobriety. Even if you feel like you are just taking baths, reading books, going to bed early and taking long, slow walks you are doing big, important work and emotional heavy lifting.
Why part of the work of early sobriety is learning to sit with feeling “blah”.
Why to ask yourself “What do I love MORE than wine?” [and why it’s OK if you can’t think of anything at all to answer that question].
Why you should give yourself “assignments” to find joy and pleasure after you quit drinking.
Examples and ideas of new passions, activities, pastimes and hobbies from other women who have stopped drinking & found joy and excitement without it.
Why vision boards of future adventures and travel (Coffee in Paris? Bike tour in Amsterdam? Hiking in Greece?) can be a powerful way to get excited about your fun life in sobriety.
How to edit your social media accounts to inspire you about how good life can be without alcohol vs. making you feel like you’re missing out on something (or everything).
How to meet new friends who don’t drink and have new adventures without alcohol.
And why it’s up to you to make things happen in your life. It’s both a responsibility and an invitation.

If you’re still reading and you want the quick answers now, here they are:

No. Life without drinking isn’t boring. I’m not lying to you. It’s actually really good. You will like it.
Yes. It’s pretty normal to feel bored in early sobriety, but it’s kind of related to not being used to feeling calm or peace. The feeling of things being too quiet or empty does pass.
Don’t be scared. I promise you will have so much fun in life without alcohol. Your life will get bigger and more open and exciting and joyful without drinking.
No. You won’t lose all your friends if you don’t drink but you will likely find new and better favorite activities or even enjoy the same old ones in new ways.

You’ve got this.

Life without drinking is not smaller. It’s not boring.

It’s big and exciting and beautiful and you will have the time and energy to go after your dreams.

And if you’re not there yet I’m here to hold your hand and walk you through the quiet times until you’re ready for good stuff ahead.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/23

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Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

Check out my previous episode with the authors of The Sober Lush: A Hedonist's Guide to Living a Decadent, Adventurous, Soulful Life--Alcohol Free, Amanda Eyre Ward + Jardine Libaire here

Listen to my episode on how to find friends in sobriety.

Download the Guide to my Favorite Secret Facebook Groups For Women Quitting Drinking.

Download The Vision Board Starter Kit.

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

https://moneyminderonline.com

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

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Ep. 22: Reduce Money Stress- Financial First Aid With Linda Parmar

65 perc 22. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Who doesn’t carry around some emotional baggage around money?

Most people have a complicated relationship with money that can show up in different ways.

This may look like:

A constant weight on your shoulders or guilt about carrying debt
Buying things to get a short term hit of happiness
Fear of maintaining financial stability in an uncertain job market
Staying in a job that isn’t making you happy because you feel trapped by the “golden handcuffs”
Worries about putting your kids through college or paying your mortgage
Or not being on the same page as your partner on spending

Money is a loaded subject and one we rarely talk about with friends and colleagues.

And often our “money story”, what drives our fears, guilt and avoidance around money, is unconscious. It’s something we picked up in childhood and from our parents.

You may not even be aware of the patterns you’re repeating or the thoughts that are not serving you.

Unresolved issues, tension or stress related to money is something that can keep us drinking (to bury our heads in the sand) or a trigger to drink.

And that’s why I’m so excited to bring you today’s episode!

My guest today is Linda Parmar, she’s a financial recovery and money coach.

Linda specializes in helping women in recovery heal their money, thoughts and behaviors.

Linda learned in recovery, that money (like alcohol and drugs) can be just a symptom of negative patterns and behaviors.

Fear around financial security, fear of not knowing how to manage money or “adult”, fear around being able to take care of ourselves or making the wrong decisions financially can be a big source of stress in our own lives, as well as with family and in relationships.

There’s a lot of shame and self-judgement around debt, financial missteps, not having as much money as the people you know or not being able to provide your kids with the same vacations and gifts that their friends may be getting.

A few years into recovery, Linda was ready to look at these patterns and behaviors, which led her to become a certified money coach.

Linda has worked in the financial industry for 20 years, and has made a career from helping people with their finances.

In this episode, you will learn:

How to uncover your money story
What values you have around money
Why spending money can be addictive behavior
How to forgive yourself and start to understand how money is a trigger driving you to drink
Why both Linda and I hate the word “budget”
How to create a spending plan that is aligned with your dreams and needs

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/22

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Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

Apps Mentioned:

https://www.everydollar.com

http://imdonedrinking.com

Connect with She Recovers

https://sherecovers.co/together-online/

https://sherecovers.co/our-retreats/

SHE RECOVERS on Facebook: facebook.com/sherecovers

The SHE RECOVERS Intentions & Guiding Principles

Connect with Linda Parmar

Grab your Financial First Aid Kit at www.lindaparmar.com

Facebook Group: Your Money, Your Recovery

Podcast: Your Money Your Recovery Podcast

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Book: Highlight Real: Finding Honesty & Recovery Beyond the Filtered Life

Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

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Ep. 21: The Truth Behind Those Online Drinking 'Highlights'

68 perc 21. rész Casey Mcguire Davidson

The Truth Behind Those Online Drinking “Highlights”. Getting Real With Emily Lynn Paulson.

How “real” are all those images you see online?

The perfect Instagram families? The fancy business trips? The carefree Mom’s Night Out?

Today my guest is an author, a speaker and my friend, Emily Lynn Paulson.

In our conversation Emily and I dig into the truth behind the “Online Drinking Highlights” you see as you scroll through your social media feed.

Emily and I know that so many women struggle with their drinking, quietly, in private, and in their own heads - just like we did.

You might look around and see everyone else is posting a photo of the sophisticated cocktails at a bar on a date night, the pictures of friends all drinking together around the firepit, or the vacation pictures with the margarita at the beach.

And the truth is, you have no idea what anyone else’s relationship with alcohol looks like, or what their marriage feels like, or how well they’re coping with being a parent and with their jobs.

In this episode Emily and I talk about:

Why Instagram, Pinterest and Facebook set expectations so high for what a successful woman, mother and wife is “supposed” to be that most women inevitably can’t measure up.
The reality of what our lives, our jobs, our marriages and interactions with our children looked like as compared to the pictures we posted online.
Why posting your highlights on social media is such a draw. As Emily says “In those Instagram squares was the life I wished we were living: a happy marriage, a healthy wife, a happy motherhood. Behind the scenes though, we were barely surviving.”
How you can both love your kids and feel grateful for them, and also feel that motherhood is hard, draining and (yes) unfulfilling.
And why finding a safe space of women to share your struggles and honest experiences - both good and bad - can be a game changer in living a happier life.

In this episode, you learn:

How to navigate the drinking culture of parenthood and “mommy juice”
How to connect with your partner again after quitting drinking
Why it's hard to quit alcohol when it has become part of your love language
How not to gravitate toward the pretty images on Instagram and take those photos as real life because the hard stuff is hard to look at both on Instagram and in our own lives.

Emily Lynn Paulson is the author of a powerful memoir about her life, her family, her successes and struggles, excessive drinking and disordered eating, and her realization that drinking wasn’t working in her life anymore.

Emily is a certified professional recovery coach, She Recovers Designated Coach, This Naked Mind Certified Coach, founder of Sober Mom Squad, and a member of the long-term recovery community.

She has appeared on media outlets including The Doctors, Parade, Today Parents, and USA Today, discussing how to end the shame and stigma of mental health by and substance abuse disorder.

Emily has been sober since January 2, 2017, her recovery path is focused on ruthless honesty, grace, self-love and is documented in her memoir, Highlight Real: Finding Honesty & Recovery Beyond the Filtered Life. Paulson’s resources include one-on-one coaching, to help others evaluate whether or not alcohol is serving them in their lives. Paulson resides in Seattle with her husband and their five children.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/21

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Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

Connect with Emily Lynn Paulson

Website: www.highlightreallife.com

Instagram: Highlight Real Recovery

Facebook: Emily Lynn Paulson

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Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

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Ep.20: Learning to Know, Like + Trust Yourself

67 perc 20. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

When you stop drinking, doing inner work around knowing, liking and trusting yourself again can be healing and empowering.

For years you may have been meeting external expectations and caring for others over listening to your inner voice and intuition.

By the time you’ve stopped drinking you may be so removed from your authentic self that you no longer know who you truly are or what you want and need.

Today my guest Tanya Ouhrabka is going to share ways that we can regain our “know, like, and trust” factor in life.

Tanya’s a Life Coach who works with women to shift their mindset and perspectives in order to achieve self-acceptance.

Tanya believes that when you realign the mind, body, and soul with the truth of who you are, what you desire, and your purpose - you “know, like and trust” yourself again, and can live a purposeful and passion filled life.

By releasing self-judgement and increasing self-confidence and self-awareness we’re able to be the healthiest and happiest version of ourselves.

As someone who lost too many years of her own life to self-critical thought patterns and destructive behavior, Tanya knows the power to change our life lies within us, not externally.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why to stop looking outside yourself for validation
How to be empowered by your inner compass and inner knowing
How the ability to know, like and trust yourself will help you uncover what's truly best for you
How to process inner and outer growth
How to listen to your inner voice and follow your inner compass through the guidance of these 4 pillars:
- Self-care
- Nourishment
- Movement
- Authenticity

Tanya is a survivor and thriver, former self-critic, and truth seeking storyteller, who is changing women’s lives as a certified life coach.

In addition to coaching, Tanya shares her inspirational story of transformation to groups of girls and women across the country. Additionally, she has just founded POWAR™, a community for women to authentically and transparently share and rise together.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/20

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Grab Tanya’s Free Guide Seven Days To Y.E.S. - daily focus objectives and mantras:https://www.tanyaouhrabka.com/7-steps-to-yes

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

Connect with Tanya Ouhrabka

Website: https://www.tanyaouhrabka.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tanyaouhrabka/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tanya.b.ouhrabka

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Ep. 19: Best Quit Lit For Women

74 perc 19. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

There's a whole genre of books that you might not ever hear about if you're not a woman who has a complicated relationship with alcohol. It's called “Quit lit"- books about drinking, quitting drinking, getting sober and life without alcohol.

There are novels and memoirs, essays, fiction, and how to guides. They are deep and soulful, entertaining and honest, eye opening, hysterically funny, raw and hopeful. Quit lit books were a lifeline to me in early sobriety.

In this episode, I want to share not only my favorites but the voices of other women and the books that have inspired them and helped them along the path of re-evaluating their relationship with alcohol.

If you’re constantly surrounded by messages that drinking is important and glamorous, sophisticated and fun, these books will be a lifeline.

They’ll give you a glimpse into what your life could look like without alcohol.

These voices, of women who have been where you are, will remind you that you’re not alone.

They’ll whisper to you when you are worried about your drinking. They won’t let you bury your head in the sand and tell yourself that how you’re feeling was no big deal.

They’ll give you hope that life will be better without alcohol.

This episode is about the best quit lit for women.

To get the full guide of the best quit lit for women go to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/quit-lit

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Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/19

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Books and Resources mentioned in this episode

Drinking a Love Story by Caroline Knapp
Carry On, Warrior: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life by Glennon Doyle
Tired of Thinking About Drinking: Take My 100-Day Sober Challenge by Belle Robertson
The Sober Diaries: How One Woman Stopped Drinking and Started Living by Clare Pooley
We are the Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of Sober Life by Laura McKowen
The Naked Mind: Control Alcohol, Find Freedom, Discover Happiness & Change Your Life by Annie Grace
The Sober Lush: A Hedonist's Guide to Living a Decadent, Adventurous, Soulful Life--Alcohol Free by Jardine Libaire + Amanda Eyre Ward
Blackout by Sarah Hepola
Quit Like A Woman by Margaret Ward
Girl Walks Out of A Bar by Lisa Smith
The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Catherine Gray
Mrs. D is Going Without by Lotta Dann
Sober Stick Figures by Amber Tozer
Nothing Good Can Come of This by Kristi Coulter
Idiot by Laura Clery
Drink by Ann Dowsett Johnston
The Little Book of Big Change by Amy Johnson
My Fair Junkie by Amy Dresner
This is How by Augusten Burroughs
High Achiever by Tiffany Jenkins
The Ember Ever There and The Unpickled Holiday Survival by Jean McCarthy
Almost Alcoholic by Joseph Nowinski Ph.D
The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck
12 Steps and 12 Traditions by Bill Wilson
Waking Tiger by Peter Levine
The Good House by Anne Leary
Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins
A Million Little Pieces by James Frey
Beautiful Boy by David Sheff
Highlight Real by Emily Paulson
The Year of No-Nonsense by Meredith Atwood
Lit by Mary Karr
Bottled: Mom’s guide to early recovery + How to be the Perfect Like Me by Dana Bowman
Between Breaths: A memoir of panic and addiction by Elizabeth Vargas
Sober Curious by Ruby Warrington
Dry by Augusten Burroughs
A Happier Hour by Rebecca Weller
Quitter: A Memoir of Drinking, Relapse, and Recovery by Erica C. Barnett
The Recovering by Leslie Jamison
Kick the Drink Easily by Jason Vale
Alcohol Explained by William Porter
Easy Way for Women to Quit Drinking by Allen Carr
Stories I Only Tell My Friends by Rob Lowe
Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous by Bill Wilson
The Women’s Way Through The Twelve Steps by Stephanie S. Covington

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Ep. 18: Kristi Coulter on Drinking, Working + "Being A First World Women"

97 perc 18. rész Casey Mcguire Davidson

If you’re a woman who’s trying to quit drinking it’s normal to look around and suddenly realize that booze is all around you.

There’s Rosé All Day, Hot Yoga and Happy Hour, beer at the finish line of the 10K and “Mommy Juice” at playdates with the kids.

You look up from your wine glass to see that everyone around you is drinking, all the time.

We live in a culture that tells women that drinking is their treat for getting through the day. It’s our reward for working so hard and taking care of our kids.

We’re told alcohol is what we should consume to be ‘cool’ and ‘relaxed’ and ‘fun’.

We’re taught that drinking will make us less frustrated, less angry, less tired, less bored with the monotony of adulting.

And then we blame ourselves for not being able to ‘moderate’ or ‘cut back’ or ‘drink less’ of an addictive substance.

In today’s episode I have a long conversation with a friend and one of my favorite authors, Kristi Coulter, about Working, Drinking and Being a “First World Woman”.

Kristi spent 12 years as an executive at Amazon.com, and for many years working and drinking went hand-in-hand as a successful working woman.

Then Kristi quit drinking and took an insightful, funny, feminist look around her and wrote about what she observed.

Her incredibly popular essay on her experiences in early sobriety, Enjoli, went viral with 700,000 downloads. It struck a nerve with both women (and men) as she talked about dog paddling through the world newly sober.

Kristi’s book, the 2018 memoir-in-essays Nothing Good Can Come from This, goes even further into life as a modern woman in a drinking world and what happens when you decide to put down your wine glass.

Kristi and I talk about:

Why women drink as a signifier for free time and self care and conversations - the luxuries we can’t afford.
The myth of meritocracy at male dominated workplaces, and how it gaslights women into thinking it’s their fault for failing to achieve what their male coworkers do - in a system that’s stacked against them.
Why moderation sucks and why it’s just so much easier to not drink.
Why most women make the mistake of waiting to “want” to stop drinking and how that’s a recipe for staying stuck in the drinking cycle.
How stopping drinking is a superpower that allows women to ask for what they deserve and say what they mean.
Why drinking is not serving you if you’re wanting to advance your career

About Kristi Coulter

Kristi Coulter is the author of the 2018 memoir-in-essays Nothing Good Can Come from This, a writer who is currently working on her next memoir - Exit Interview - about gender, ambition, and her twelve-year stint as an executive at Amazon, and a former drinker. Four years ago (in 2016) Kristi published an article on Medium that went viral and changed the course of her life. "Enjoli" is an essay about what happened after Kristi decided to stop drinking and realized that all the women around her were tanked. It hit a nerve among women (and men) around the world and has now been downloaded over 700,000 times. Kristi's work has appeared in The Paris Review, New York Magazine/The Cut, Elle, Amazon Original Stories, Glamour, Vox, and elsewhere.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/18

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Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

Nothing Good Can Come From This by Kristi Coulter: https://www.amazon.com/Nothing-Good-Can-Come-This/dp/0374286205
Enjoli essay on Medium:https://humanparts.medium.com/https-medium-com-kristicoulter-the-24-hour-woman-3425ca5be19f
The Otter Of Sobriety Essay (Want Not): https://medium.com/@kristicoulter/the-otter-of-sobriety-f7065c29b764#.x6a24bxbx
Since Right Now Podcast Interview with Kristi Coulter: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/klen-sobr/since-right-now/e/1617-kristi-coulter-offdry-44143811
Belle Robertson Tired of Thinking About Drinking (Book)
Belle Robertson Tired of Thinking About Drinking (Website)

Connect with Kristi Coulter

Website: http://www.kristicoulter.com

Off-Dry Blog: https://offdry.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kristicoulter

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kristicccoulter/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/KristiCCoulter

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

https://soberlifeschool.com/

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Ep. 17: Rebuilding Self-Esteem And Ending Self-Sabotage

77 perc 17. rész

Have you ever sabotaged yourself and you can’t figure out why?

You want to get promoted, improve your health and your relationships, achieve a big goal, and somehow you get in your own way and wreck your best-laid plans.

Self-sabotage was definitely a part of my story when I was drinking.

I would be getting ready for a big opportunity at work - a business trip or presentation - and I’d drink the night before. The next day when I was on center stage I was hung over and just trying to make it through the event.
I’d have a social gathering that I was looking forward to for months and drink and then not remember most of it.
I’d want to talk to my husband about something that was really bothering me, and I’d drink and not be able to express myself and my needs rationally and coherently.

The truth is that self-sabotage is the result of low self-esteem.

We only allow into our lives what we feel and believe we deserve.

Building self-esteem is a foundational piece of recovery work.

When you change your self-esteem, your deep, subconscious beliefs about what you think you deserve, you stop self-sabotage.

You can improve your relationships, job, ability to achieve your dreams and goals, financial abundance, the love you attract and your health.

If you don't change those beliefs, regardless of how hard you work, you will sabotage your progress in achieving them, either consciously or unconsciously.

My guest today is Arlina Allen. She’s a Certified Life and Recovery Coach and Host of the award winning recovery podcast, The ODAAT Chat Podcast.

Arlina helps busy professional women to get the clarity they need to get unstuck, and achieve their goals so that they can live the life of their dreams.

Arlina is also the creator of the Reinvent, a six week self-esteem course, where she works with women to get to the root of what's holding them back and change their beliefs so that they can realize their dreams.

In this episode Arlina dives into the framework of her self-esteem course, including the importance of creating the right support system, tools for long term change, and new self image and a vision for what's possible in your future.

In this episode, you’ll learn about:

The law of attraction
How to leverage this universal law to manifest your deepest desires
How to identify negative beliefs and a process to resolve them and let them go
Addressing the causes of fears and anxiety and how to create a compelling future self image
The connection tour, a step-by-step process to create a strong support system
Daily activities to build self-esteem
The fundamentals of how to create healthy boundaries for inner peace and healthy relationships

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/17

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Links and resources mentioned in this episode

Connect with Arlina Allen

https://selfesteemcourse.com/

Arlina's Podcast: https://odaatchat.com/

ODAAT Chat Private Women's Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1244862275613746

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

https://sherecovers.co/yoga-with-taryn-strong/

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Ep16: Yoga For Recovery + Essential Oils For Healing With Taryn Strong

63 perc 16. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Have you ever wondered what exactly is Yoga For Recovery or Trauma Informed Yoga?

How does it differ from Bikram, Ashtanga, Power Yoga or Kundalini?
Can yoga help you heal your mind, body and spirit as you walk away from drinking?
How can releasing a traumatic experience from your body through yoga help you heal before illness, chronic fatigue, dis-ease, autoimmune disorders may manifest.

And what about essential oils?

How do they work and are they worth the hype?
What’s the difference between all the different options?
What’s the oil of a Buoyant Heart? The Inner Child? Energetic Boundaries? Sexual Healing? Truth and Connection?

Today we’re here to answer these questions and more with one of my favorite teachers in recovery, yoga and life: Taryn Strong,

Taryn is a founder of the SHE RECOVERS Foundation - a global grassroots movement currently consisting of more than 300,000 women in or seeking recovery from substance use disorders, other behavioral health issues and/or life challenges.

Taryn is a trauma-informed yoga instructor, recovery coach and an aromatherapist.

Taryn has developed a unique yoga retreat program and led over 40 yoga for recovery retreats since 2012.

She is also the host of the SHE RECOVERS Podcast and most recently created and taught the inaugural trauma informed SHE RECOVERS Yoga Teacher Training Program.

Taryn identifies as being in recovery from trauma, a substance use disorder and self-injurious behavior and believes that recovery is a journey to wholeness – in which we take care of our mind, body and spirit.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why healing your body is an important part of your sobriety journey.
How essential oils can play a huge role in your recovery
How balancing the energy around your heart can help you heal from codependency, isolation, depression, or fear of intimacy.
Why a grounding yoga practice can help center you when you’re feeling anxious, overwhelmed or unsettled.
Taryn’s step-by-step morning meditation practice (which can be done without ever leaving your bed!)

A strong yoga practice and essential oils can be an important tool in your "sober toolkit" as a pathway to holistic healing and recovery.

Today we dive into everything you need to know about these practices to get started!

More about Yoga with Taryn

As part of her online yoga signature recovery series and online monthly membership Taryn takes you on a gentle, trauma-informed journey of exploration that will help heal your body, mind and spirit.

Taryn offers an extensive library of themed yoga classes online including her six-session signature recovery series below.

Heart Space

Balance the energy around your heart to help heal from codependency, isolation, depression, or fear of intimacy.

Resilience

Resilience is like a muscle – the more life throws at us, the more opportunities we have to strengthen our resilience and thrive.

Grounding Practice

Are you often anxious? Overwhelmed? Unsettled? Use this practice to find your center and get grounded.

Issues in Your Tissues

Nikki Myers from Y12SR teaches us that everything that happens to us in our lives, we store in our bodies.

Feel It To Heal It

We have learned that feelings won’t kill us – but running from them – might.

Crimes Against Wisdom

If you have been hearing yourself saying, “I know I shouldn’t, but I am going to do it anyway” – this class is for you.

More about the Essential Oils mentioned in this episode

Uplifting Oils:

Lemon - The oil of energy of focus.
Peppermint - The oil of a buoyant heart.
Bergamot - The oil of self-acceptance.

Calming Oils:

Lavender - The oil of communication.
Frankincense - The oil of truth and connection.
Roman Chamomile - The oil of spiritual purpose

Trauma Healing Oils:

Jasmine - The oil of sexual healing
Ylang Ylang - The oil of the inner child
White Fir - The oil of generational healing
Tea Tree - The oil of energetic boundaries

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

The Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

Connect with She Recovers

https://sherecovers.co/together-online/

https://sherecovers.co/our-retreats/

SHE RECOVERS on Facebook: facebook.com/sherecovers

The SHE RECOVERS Intentions & Guiding Principles

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/16

Connect with Taryn Strong

https://sherecovers.co/yoga-with-taryn-strong/

https://www.instagram.com/tarynstrong/

Click here to become a member of Taryn's dōTERRA Essential Oils for Recovery Group

Taryn’s Spotify Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/user/tarynstrong

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

vanessalifeandrecoverycoach@gmail.com

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Ep.15: Quieting Your Inner Critic

57 perc 15. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Do you have a loud inner critic voice?

You know the one that starts when you wake up and tells you that you're not good enough, thin enough, productive enough, patient enough, strong enough, smart enough or whatever?

I used to believe that these daily repetitive negative thoughts were helping me.

I thought I could berate myself into 'being better' or shame myself enough that I would stop drinking, start running or lose weight.

I thought if I was just hard enough on myself - I'd get my shit together.

The truth is it didn't work.

I didn't work for me and it probably isn't working for you. It's just making you miserable.

Somehow we've convinced ourselves that embracing the ways in which we ‘should’ be better will help us achieve more in life.

But that's not true.

In fact, our inner critic can lead us to drink or numb out to turn it off and quiet your mind. And reaching for substances will only lead us to anxiety and more self-criticism.

It's the opposite, limiting self-criticism and offsetting its negative effects, that will build resilience, reduce stress and lower anxiety.

And there’s an easy way to quiet your inner critic.

In this podcast episode we’ll dive into how and why to release the voice that tells you that you’re not enough and less than others.

My guest today is Vanessa Klugman, She’s an MD and a Certified Professional Coach and a Certified Professional Recovery Coach and she’ll share how healing your inner critic starts with self compassion.

You’ll learn:

Why working to quiet your inner critic is important
How to limit self-criticism and offset its negative effects
Myths about self-compassion (what it is and what it is not)
How self-compassion builds resilience and decreases anxiety
How to take a self-compassion break (the 3 part practice)
How to heal yourself with mindfulness, kindness and the knowledge that you’re not alone.

About Vanessa Klugman, MD, ACC.

Vanessa is a physician, and mother of three.

She balanced the demands of a career and family for many years until the stress became overwhelming.

Vanessa turned to poor coping mechanisms to escape the demands that she placed on herself.

Vanessa had a harsh inner critic who told her messages that she was not good enough.

She believed that her worth was equated with how much she achieved, how well she was liked, and how much she gave to others.

She wasn't living an authentic life. In recovery, she learned effective ways to face negative emotions: set boundaries that protected her sobriety; faced limiting beliefs and healed old wounds.

Vanessa’s passion is to guide others battling to find a healthy balance in their lives, to disconnect from their inner critic and reconnect with their inner wisdom.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/15

Links and Resources Mentioned

Vanessa Klugman

https://www.facebook.com/vanessa.klugman.3

http://resiliencerecoverycoaching.com/

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Get The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days

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Books mentioned:

Dr. Kristin Neff: Self-Compassion: The Proven Power Of Being Kind To Yourself

Ep.14: How To Get Over Yourself + On With Your Life

73 perc 14. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

We all have our own personal brand of nonsense - self sabotage, blame, people pleasing, control issues. A lot of women deal with almost all of these but especially scarcity versus abundance and making decisions out of your fears.

We all have things we're doing that are standing in the way of our health, happiness and success. Learn to get out of your own way, to identify the nonsense in your life, and how to move past the big ones.

My guest is Meredith Atwood. She's a former attorney, a podcaster and a motivational speaker. She is a sobriety advocate, and the founder of Grateful Sobriety. She's also a four time Ironman triathlete. She's the author of a best selling triathlon book Triathlon for the Every Woman, in addition to her new book, The Year of No Nonsense: How to Get Over Yourself and On with Your Life. She’s the host of the iTunes Top 50 fitness podcast, “The Same 24 Hours.” She has been featured in The Boston Globe, The New York Post, the Seattle Times and dozens of online publications. Meredith is a contributing writer to Psychology Today online, Triathlete Magazine and Women’s Running. She is a USA Weightlifting Level II, USA Triathlon Level I, and Precision Nutrition Level I Coach.

In this episode, you’ll learn

How to identify what’s working in your life and what’s not
How to deal with the underlying reasons that drive you to drink
What bad habits drive you to make the decisions you do in life and how to change them
Why you need to make a list of all the nonsense in your life and how to deal with them
How to get over yourself and get on with your life

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/14

Links and Resources Mentioned

Connect with Meredith Atwood

Website: https://swimbikemom.com

Instagram: https://instagram.com/swimbikemom

Facebook Page: https://facebook.com/swimbikemom

The Same 24 Hours Podcast www.Same24HoursPodcast.com

Books Mentioned

The Year of No Nonsense: How to Get Over Yourself and On with Your Life

Triathlon for the Every Woman: You Can Be a Triathlete. Yes. You.

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Get The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days

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Ep.13: Managing Anxiety In Sobriety Using Rain Mindfulness

63 perc 13. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Do you use drinking to shut off your mind? Do you use drinking as a coping mechanism to push away your feelings? Many women, just like you, who drink have underlying anxiety issues they might be coping with, and they use drinking to make those feelings go away.

Anxiety is the number one side effect from drinking. If you drink often, you may have anxiety more deeply and more pronounced than you would have otherwise.

Jessica Foody and I are discussing anxiety and the tools to cope with anxiety that you can take away and implement in your life.

Jessica is a registered nurse, a recovery coach, and a She Recovers signature coach. Her expertise is in working with women who struggle, both with addiction and with anxiety. She helps women not only drink less, but transform their relationship with anxiety.

Jessica shares her favorite mindfulness techniques and how to unconditionally love and accept yourself, anxiety and all. Jessica believes that recovery is the return to the joy of living.

In this episode, you’ll learn about a Buddhist mindfulness technique that can help you work with any difficult emotion for anxiety. This technique is called the Rain technique. The rain technique can be used either in formal meditation practice or when a strong emotion is coming up.

Rain stands for RECOGNIZE, ALLOW, INVESTIGATE and NURTURE.

RECOGNIZE - Recognize what you’re feeling. With anxiety, this can be something that you are very attuned to and are very good at recognizing it.

ALLOW - Allowing your anxiety to be here just as it is. The more you resist something, the more you’re trying to get rid of it, the more you’re trying to push it away, it actually gets stronger, it gets bigger. You can't push away feelings, you can't get rid of feelings outside of numbing. So when you allow your anxiety to be here, just as it is, it's like you give your anxiety space to breathe.

INVESTIGATE - Investigate your body. Investigate with kindness. Get out of your head and get into your heart. Ask yourself, what's happening with me right now, where am I feeling this anxiety? Is there a tightness in my chest? Is my back getting tense? Step out of the mind and actually be in your body and sometimes taking a few deep breaths can really help because something that makes anxiety worse is the more you think about your anxious thoughts the worse it gets.

NURTURE - You embrace yourself with love and compassion, and you provide that comfort to yourself. You’re allowing our anxiety to be here, but you need that comfort. Be kind to yourself, especially when you’re hurting.

If you’re looking for tools to help you cope with your anxiety, listen to this episode.

Links and Resources Mentioned

Connect with Jessica Foody

Website: Jessicafoody.com

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Get The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days

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Tara Brach

www.tarabrach.com

Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha

Radical Compassion: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN

Ep. 12: Is Work Driving You To Drink?

70 perc 12. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Do you feel trapped in a job or career that doesn’t make you happy?

Is work a trigger that makes you want to drink?

If the answer is yes, this podcast episode was created for you.

For years when I was climbing the corporate ladder I felt like I needed (and deserved) wine at the end of a long day to unwind. And I know I’m not alone.

So many women have spent a decade or two working hard, paying their dues and climbing the career ladder, only to find themselves in midlife dreading opening their emails and the work awaiting them tomorrow.

Between pressure from your boss, long commutes, deadlines and deliverables, struggling to balance the needs of your kids and your clients and trying to be everywhere at once - it’s no wonder so many women feel unfulfilled and driven to drink.

If you feel tired, deflated or uninspired at work know that you have options, you have agency and you can change the way you’re living.

There are opportunities available to you when you take time to get clarity on who you are, what you value, your strengths and the work you want to do.

Betty Kempa is my podcast guest today, and she’s here to help us figure out how to reduce our stress and tension in our current job and how to work through the fear, frustrations and limiting beliefs that are keeping you from leaving your role and finding a career that you truly love.

Betty’s a certified professional coach one of the industry's top career change strategists. She specializes in helping mid to senior level corporate women transition out of unfulfilling jobs and into careers they love.

She is a thought leader in the industry, who writes, speaks and coaches on topics such as building six figure coaching businesses, overcoming imposter syndrome, dream career clarity, and effective career change strategy. And Betty quit drinking 9 years ago.

In this episode, Betty talks about how to get unstuck in your career and in your life.

She takes us through two of the five steps in her career bliss formula and how to implement them in your life.

Step 1: Overcoming self sabotage and getting out of your own way. How to deal with the fears, limiting beliefs, impostor syndrome and your assumptions about what’s possible that are keeping you stuck.
Step 2: Identifying your dream role. How to do it and what NOT to do (hint - it’s scrolling the job boards). She’ll take us through the steps of going inside with visioning exercises to meet your future self, building out your ideal life plan so you can find a career that aligns with that, creating your personal mission statement and more.

If you feel triggered by work and are ready to get unstuck, feel empowered and move to a more positive place in your career - listen to this episode.

Links and Resources Mentioned

Connect with Betty Kempa

Website: BettyKempa.com

LinkedIn: Betty Kempa

Facebook: www.facebook.com/coachbettykempa

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

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Ep.11: Release Negative Emotions with EFT Tapping

54 perc 11. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

What is Tapping or The Emotional Freedom Technique?
How does tapping work to manage stress and anxiety?
Can you use tapping to relieve negative emotions that can lead you to drink or tap to reduce drinking cravings?
Did you know you can tap with your children to help calm them and release overwhelming emotions?

If any of these questions spark your interest, today’s episode is for you.

My guest is Kate Moryoussef, a UK based EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, Coach. Kate helps busy moms manage overwhelm and stress.

EFT Tapping has been referred to as psychological acupressure. It’s a 5-step technique for anxiety relief.

I had heard of tapping but never tried it before this conversation with Kate. Following our podcast interview I hired Kate to walk me through the tapping techniques for 3 sessions.

We did the sessions over zoom (with me sitting in my office with coffee in the morning in Seattle and Kate settled in after dinner with her family in Manchester, UK).

I loved the process of tapping. It felt like a massage - but one in which I was able to tap on a problem I was having and where I felt stuck.

I felt more relaxed after our sessions and I uncovered a lot of fears and limiting beliefs that were holding me back that I didn’t know existed. They were in my subconscious - yet impacting my thoughts and choices each day.

By our third session I felt like I’d made some major breakthroughs in the thoughts and feelings I was carrying around with me everyday - and I was able to set some down and get some more emotional distance from them.

Kate describes EFT Tapping as a practical self-help method that involves using the fingers to gently tap on the body's acupuncture points along the meridian lines of Chinese medicine.

EFT Tapping helps you tune in to the negative patterns that form around uncomfortable thoughts, feelings, or troubling memories. You ‘tap’ on the correct pressure points while bringing the thoughts or emotions into consciousness. The aim is to find relief, relaxation, and promote healing around the emotional or physical issues that are holding you back.

For issues with drinking, you can tap around your cravings and triggers.

To get you started Kate created a tapping video specifically for women dealing with drinking cravings for The Hello Someday Podcast listeners. You can find the video at www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/11.

In the podcast you’ll hear what parts of the “drinking cravings” tapping sequence made me nervous while working through it, and how I understood the process better and felt better by the end.

I love talking with Kate. She lives in Manchester, UK with her husband, four kids and two dogs. She’s a wellbeing coach trained in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Emotional Freedom Technique (tapping). As a coach Kate works with women to find more emotional freedom, happiness, fulfillment and health. She believes in choosing to focus on what brings you joy and continued happiness, removing shame and guilt that many women feel in their life.

Kate is passionate about wanting to help women rediscover their inner voice, tap into their expansive potential and realise themselves outside of their family dynamic. She wants to help women recognize what’s holding them back and teach them to hear and then listen to their inner guidance and connect to a force they didn’t know they had.

Connect with Kate Moryoussef

www.coachingbykate.me.uk

‎The Ambitious Mum Podcast

Instagram: Kate Moryoussef (@coaching_by_kate_)

Facebook: Coaching by Kate

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Get The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days

Ep.10: 10 Things You Need In Your Sober Toolkit

47 perc 10. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Once you’ve decided that it’s time to take a break from drinking you need to set yourself up for success.

That means you need a really good sober toolkit.

In this episode, I’ll share 10 things you absolutely need in your sober toolkit:

Your iPhone. And that includes your earbuds and your charger. Your phone is literally in your back pocket or in your bag all times. You have it at work, at home, in a restaurant, at a dinner party, at family gatherings and holidays. Your phone will carry so many options, reminders, and sober supports for you to access. The good news is this tool in your toolkit is something you have on hand anyway - so load it up with the other tools below and you’ll be set!

Audiobooks, podcasts and messages of sober support. Right now you've got a head start on this tool because you're listening to this podcast. In it I share conversations, resources, information and tips on how to quit drinking and live happily without alcohol. This is exactly the type of support you need to access in early sobriety. In your first few weeks I recommend that you spend one to two hours a day listening to or reading something that reminds you that not drinking is a good idea. I know this sounds like a lot, but you are going through the process of literally deprogramming and retraining your mind and your habits that have been built up over the years.

Food and beverages that will help you get through a craving, help you during the witching hour, and make you feel satisfied and a bit indulged. It’s time to stock up on awesome non-alcoholic drinks and treats. Now is the time to get curious and creative and experiment with some cool beverages you’ve been ignoring for years as you head down the wine aisle. You also need to stock up on easy dinners, snacks with protein, and some sweets. Now is not the time to go on a diet - at least for your first 30 days. You’ll crave sugar - and you’re not consuming tons of calories from alcohol - so go ahead and buy the Peanut M&Ms.

A list of your favorite “sober treats”. Bubble baths, fresh flowers, baked goods, a new book, a list of binge-worthy shows, coloring books, a massage, a pedicure, take out sushi, new sheets, essential oils, a milkshake, a bike ride, a picnic, a babysitter - what are the things that you can do to treat yourself that doesn’t involve alcohol. If you start feeling like “this is all too hard”, “I don’t have anything good for myself”, “everyone else is having fun and my life sucks” - you need sober treats.

A way to track your progress.This is about much more than counting the days since you last drank. Yes - you’ve been sober for 8 days or 30 days - but there are apps that calculate the bottles of wine not consumed, the cases of beers you have not ingested, the calories you’ve saved and the money you have not spent poisoning yourself. In 30 days I saved over $550 - and did not consume 40 bottles of wine. Plus counting days helps you celebrate milestones and be aware of anniversaries that might be tricky. My favorite app is I’m Done Drinking.

Community and support. It’s so helpful to connect with other cool women who are on the alcohol free path. I have suggestions of how to find them and a guide to joining my 2 favorite private sober Facebook groups for women.

A safe space in your home to retreat. If you can it’s helpful to find a place where you can retreat from the chaos of your house. Some people have a chair, where they like to sit with cheese and crackers and read a book. Some people have a corner they meditate in. Some people have a place in their garden or love their bedroom. When you stop drinking a lot of things feel too loud, too jarring or too much for a while. It helps to go somewhere where you can be quiet for a while.

The ability to move, to be outside, get some fresh air and take a walk. Anytime you want to drink, feel frustrated, resentful or angry, it helps to get moving. Fresh air and getting your blood pumping can do amazing things to reset your mind and make cravings less intense. I love to walk. Other people love running, yoga, gardening, going for a bike ride or dancing. Find something that works for you and add it to your toolkit.

Create a new evening routine. A lot of us are used to drinking in the evening, either after work, when we cook dinner or when we watch TV at night. Changing up your evening routine and creating new habits is a great sober tool. Try something new - experiment with a walk, online yoga, a nightly bath, sitting in a different room, listening to a sober audio book while rocking your baby to sleep or whatever.

Sober coaching. I know this sounds self-serving but I want to be clear that this doesn’t have to be one-on-one coaching and it doesn’t have to be with me. But it does really help to know that you’re not the first woman who has decided that drinking isn’t working in your life - and there are coaches, sponsors, programs and resources out there that can give you short cuts, tips and advice to make this “living life without alcohol thing” so much easier!

In my free guide, 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days, I have a ton of resources listed that can help you get started and you can also listen to Free Sober Coaching Audios on my website.

Links and Resources Mentioned

Laura McKowen, We Are The Luckiest

Catherine Grey, The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober: Discovering a happy, healthy, wealthy alcohol-free life

Sarah Hepola, Blackout

Belle Robertson, Tired Of Thinking About Drinking

Clare Pooley, The Sober Diaries: How one woman stopped drinking and started living

Annie Grace, This Naked Mind

Holly Whitaker, Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol

Amanda Eyre Ward & Jardine Libaire, The Sober Lush: A Hedonist's Guide to Living a Decadent, Adventurous, Soulful Life - Alcohol Free

The Bubble Hour Podcast

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

Get The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days

Ep.9: Jean McCarthy on Change, Growth, Rediscovery and Recovery

68 perc 9. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Many women know Jean McCarthy as an award-winning blogger, the host of the Bubble Hour Podcast, and through her work in recovery advocacy.

But in today’s episode we get to know a more personal and intimate side of Jean through her poetry. Jean describes putting out this book of poetry as if she is saying “Here’s what the inside of my head looks like. Here’s the voice no one else hears.”

In this episode Casey and Jean dive into her new collection of poetry “The Ember Ever There: Poems on Change, Grief, Growth, Recovery, and Rediscovery” which is being released worldwide on June 19, 2020.

As Jean describes the collection she says, “This isn’t the story of addiction and recovery. This is the story of losing myself and finding myself again”.

Jean goes on to describe her addiction to alcohol as a symptom of her lost self - the person behind the people pleasing, good girl syndrome and losing herself behind the masks she was wearing.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

What Jean wants to say to the thousands of women who reach out to her and say “I want to quit, but I can’t right now”.
How Jean felt in the very beginning of her own sobriety journey
The story behind when and why Jean wrote the song “I own it”, the intro song to The Bubble Hour
How women can stop playing small and embrace their true self

About Jean McCarthy

In addition to being the host of the Bubble Hour Podcast and an award-winning blogger, Jean is also the author of “UnPickled Holiday Survival Guide: Staying Alcohol-Free During the Festive Season,” a resource about sobriety for people in recovery and their families.

Her blog UnPickled began in 2011 and has continued to chronicle Jean’s alcohol-free lifestyle since her first day of sobriety. Thousands of readers credit UnPickled as a motivating factor in their decision to quit drinking.

Jean joined The Bubble Hour podcast as a co-host in 2013. She took over the weekly program as its sole producer and host in 2016.

Jean is a former performing songwriter with two albums of original music to her credit. Fans of the podcast are familiar with the show's theme song “I Own It,” a single from Jean’s 2008 album, “Blessings and Burdens.”

At a gala in New York City, Jean was named recipient of the 2017 SheRecovers Hope Award in recognition of her efforts to help others seek positive changes in their lives. She lives in Alberta, Canada with her husband Ross and dog Scout.

Connect with Jean Mccarthy

Link to buy book or further information:www.jeanmccarthy.ca/books

Instagram @jeanmccarthy_writes

Facebook pages for Unpickled (www.facebook.com/unpickled) and The Bubble Hour (www.facebook.com/thebubblehour)

Also websites: https://jeanmccarthy.ca/, https://unpickledblog.com/, https://jeanmccarthy.ca/the-bubble-hour/, https://www.amazon.com/dp/1999299906

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Get the guide on how to find and join these groups:

https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/sober-facebook-groups/

The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days

Casey’s interview by Jean McCarthy on The Bubble Hour

Ep. 8: Using Myers-Briggs to Navigate Sobriety

53 perc 8. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Have you heard of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator [MBTI]?

Are you an ISFJ or an ENTP? An ESFJ? ISFP?

As you’re quitting drinking and navigating the world in sobriety, understanding your Myers-Briggs Personality Type can give you insight into your strengths, preferences and why some people, places and situations trigger you to want to numb out and escape - and others don't.

Understanding your personality type can help you become more aware of your relationship with yourself and with others, and will help you navigate sobriety with more ease and less stress.

In this episode we’re diving into all things MBTI with Kate Kimberley!

Kate is a workplace coach who is certified to administer and interpret the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator assessment. She is also trained in Dare to Lead by Brené Brown, which helps women step out with greater courage in any area of their lives.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to give yourself grace and forgive others for not measuring up to what others have told them they should be
How to understand yourself, how to navigate the world, and establish a path for lifelong personal development
Become aware of your individual personality Type preferences, including how you prefer to communicate, make decisions, and respond to conflict
Realize the energy and self-knowledge that understanding your Type can bring to your life and allow you to capitalize on your unique strengths

MBTI ASSESSMENT, INTERPRETIVE REPORT, AND INTERPRETIVE SESSION WITH KATE KIMBERLEY

If you enjoyed learning a bit about the MBTI assessment and are interested in learning more and find out your Type, Kate is offering a MBTI Introduction to Type package to all Hello Someday Podcast listeners for $99.00 US.

This package includes:

Online access to complete your official MBTI® personality assessment
A personal MBTI® Interpretive Report based on your assessment results
A 50-minute interpretative session to review your Type, including your Type preferences for:
- Communication;
- Decision-making; and
- Responding to Conflict

To sign up for the package and identify and explore your unique Type preferences, visit www.kwkimberley.com or send Kate an email at k8kimberley@gmail.com.

RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

Myers Briggs Type Indicator

She Recovers Retreats

Kate Kimberley, MBTI-certified Workplace Coach

www.kwkimberley.com

Free MBTI Resources

IDRlabs.com

The Bubble Hour Podcast Episode with Casey McGuire Davidson

Ep.7: Interview With Authors Of The Sober Lush, Amanda Eyre Ward & Jardine Libaire

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In this episode I got to interview two incredible authors and really cool women, Amanda Eyre Ward and Jardine Libaire about their new novel, The Sober Lush: A Hedonist's Guide to Living a Decadent, Adventurous, Soulful Life - Alcohol Free.

The book is all about the joy to be found in life after you step away from wine as your constant companion.

Jardine and Amanda have called this book “an ode to the technicolor playful side of sobriety” because it evokes the pleasures, feelings of connection and deliverance from the ordinary, that come once you start living life without numbing out.

In our conversation Amanda shares how she was able, through her friendship with Jardine, to get a taste of a sumptuous, beautiful, art-filled life where booze didn't have a place.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

What Amanda and Jardine learned about dismantling your drinking life and rebuilding it so you don’t want booze anymore.
How you might feel in early sobriety and why you should hold on for the sweet and beautiful life that’s coming your way.
How to navigate a date night, trip or holiday without alcohol.
How to have early conversations with your husband or partner about what you're doing and finding the support you need
Amanda and Jardine’s favorite ways to live a decadent, sober life.

Amanda Eyre Ward is the author of eight novels, including the New York Times bestseller The Jet Setters, which was also a book club pick by Reese Witherspoon, and it features a character trying to stay sober on a cruise ship. Amanda's work has been optioned for film and television and published in 15 countries.

Jardine Libaire is a novelist and a screenwriter. Her novels include Here Kitty, Kitty, and White Fur. She also co-wrote a film that was just released called Endings, Beginnings, starring Shailene Woodley, whose character has just given up alcohol. She's from New York and spent a decade in Austin where she became good friends with Amanda. Jardine now lives in LA.

RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

The Sober Lush: A Hedonist's Guide to Living a Decadent, Adventurous, Soulful Life--Alcohol Free

The Sober Lush (@thesoberlush)

Connect with Jardine Libaire

http://jardinelibaire.com

JardineLibaireProjects (@jardinelibaireprojects)

Connect with Amanda Eyre Ward

https://www.amandaward.com

Amanda Eyre Ward (@amandaeyreward)

Connect with Casey Mcguire Davidson

http://www.haileymagee.com

Ep.6: How To Find Friends In Sobriety

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QUITTING DRINKING DOESN’T HAVE TO BE LONELY.

Finding friends can be hard. Finding friends who are on the same sobriety journey as you can be really hard.

But we’re here to help!

In this episode my sober bestie, Ingrid Miller, and I will talk about why finding support from people who have been where you are now and who are going through what you’re going through, in this “quitting drinking thing” is so important to your success.

No matter how much your friends and family love you and support you – they don’t know how you feel in this process.

My guest in this episode is Ingrid. She’s a friend I met 4+ years ago when I was first quitting drinking, the owner of the cutest book store in Seahurst Washington and an all around badass of a human being. I met Ingrid in a secret Facebook group at the beginning of my sober journey, 4 years ago.

Together we discuss how we met and the challenges we faced when trying to find a community of women who were going through or had been through the same things we were experiencing on our sobriety journey.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to find the support you need – including a number of our favorite online and in person sober groups for busy women quitting drinking.
How to get over the fears you have about joining sober groups.
Why finding your people in sobriety makes the process of quitting drinking and creating a life you love without alcohol so much easier (and more fun).
Why your spouse, partner, mom or best friend might not be the best person to hold your hand through this process.
How you might feel in your first 90 days and why you need women who have “been there and done that” to get you through to the good stuff.

RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

Find My Favorite Sober Facebook Groups [The BFB “Booze Free Brigade” and She Recovers Together]

Get the guide on how to find and join these groups: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/sober-facebook-groups/

Connect with Ingrid Miller

https://www.threetreesbooks.com
Read about Ingrid Miller’s first 30 days: My quit drinking timeline: 0-30 days.

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Resources mentioned

Kelly Beck Recovery Coach
She Recovers Retreats on Salt Spring Island, BC
She Recovers Sharing Circles (Seattle + other cities)

Book: The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober

Ep.5: Boundaries & People Pleasing With Hailey Magee, CPC

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Are you a people pleaser? Do you put others' needs, wants, and values ahead of yours?

Do you need help with setting boundaries in your relationships and around your sobriety?

Today’s guest is Hailey Magee! Hailey is a certified codependency recovery coach who has worked with over 100 clients across the United States, Canada, Ireland, South Africa, and more break free from the shackles of codependency. Hailey dives deep into how to become the woman you want to be and what that looks like without alcohol.

Speaking your truth, setting boundaries, and putting yourself first is not something that comes easy. You have to work for it everyday. The more you do, the easier it will be to live a life you love.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The meaning of codependency recovery
How to master the art of speaking your truth
How codependency shows up in your relationship with friends, family and your partner
How to find the space you need on your road to recovery

RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

https://www.instagram.com/haileypaigemagee/

Author mentioned in episode: Harriet Lerner https://www.harrietlerner.com

Ep. 4: Why I Quit Drinking - My Story

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In this episode, I’m introducing myself and telling you a little bit about who I am. Before I quit drinking, and after. I’m sharing that I no longer drink anymore, that I used to drink a lot, and how I went through the process of questioning my drinking and deciding it didn’t work in my life anymore. This is an important part of my life, but it doesn’t define who I am. I saw quitting drinking as my absolute worst-case scenario but now having done the work, I consider it something that is foundational to helping me achieve everything I want in my life. It's something I'm really proud of. It's made me more honest and more real. It's helped me develop better and healthier coping mechanisms. It's made me more courageous and less fearful about changing In my life, and it's made me closer to my husband and my kids, my friends, and my family. My worst-case scenario really helped me lead a better life.

RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days

Ep. 3: 7 Strategies To Get You Through Your First Week Without Alcohol

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Do you wish you had a roadmap that will guide you through your first week without alcohol?

The first, second, and even the third week without alcohol are the hardest and most important as you try and take an extended break from drinking. Knowing what to expect and setting yourself up for success can be the difference between feeling good or feeling miserable. And the difference between continuing on your alcohol-free journey and starting to feel better versus giving up on day four or day five.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to stock up on what you need
How to plan out your sober treats
How to get all of the alcohol out of your house
Why you need to write down how you feel right now, and why you want to quit drinking
What to expect and how you’ll feel in your first 4 days
What it means to bubble up
How to get through days 5-7 and putting your first week to bed

RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days

Read about Ingrid Miller’s first 30 days: My quit drinking timeline: 0-30 days.

Ep. 2: 5 Mistakes Women Make When Quitting Drinking

23 perc 2. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

How many times have you tried to quit drinking? Does the thought of quitting drinking give you anxiety? Can you picture your life without alcohol in a positive and empowering way?

The thought of going without alcohol may feel like a punishment.

You may worry that life without alcohol will be a time of deprivation and isolation.

You might be thinking that not drinking isn’t something that you actually want to do. It’s the last resort to stop feeling sick and tired.

These thoughts are really common - and they’re setting you up for failure.

There’s a way to approach not drinking as a positive, empowering step you’re taking for yourself.

In this episode, I’m going to dive into the 5 mistakes most women make when trying to stop drinking - and how to avoid them.

Mistake #1 - Believing that in order to successfully stop drinking you have to know in your heart that you “have a serious problem with alcohol” or that you “have to stop”.

Don’t ask yourself if you’re “bad enough to have to quit”. Instead, ask “is this good enough to keep on going”.

Mistake #2 - Telling yourself that “This time” you are quitting drinking “FOREVER”.

Forever isn’t helpful as you’re just starting on this path.

Instead, tell yourself that you’re giving yourself the opportunity to see how good you could feel if alcohol wasn’t your constant companion.

Mistake #3 - Treating not drinking as a form of self-punishment rather than an opportunity.

Taking a break from alcohol is a wonderful gift you are giving yourself.

Mistake #4 - Many women combine trying to stop drinking with a bigger “health kick, initiative, diet overhaul, Whole 30 thing you are doing to lose weight and get fit”.

If you try to eliminate everything at once you won’t succeed. Not drinking requires a SINGULAR focus for a while.

Mistake #5 - The last mistake women make when trying to stop drinking is that they’re waiting for the perfect time. There is no perfect time.

There will always be a dinner party or a wedding or a Thursday night. Don’t allow yourself to stay stuck. Just begin.

RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

The Free Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking – 30 Tips For your First 30 Days

Ep.1: Stumbling Around In The Dark

11 perc 1. rész Casey McGuire Davidson

Do you have a serious love affair with alcohol? Is drinking your favorite hobby? Are you creating guidelines and rules for yourself around drinking?

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to live your life without drinking?

I’m sharing what I have learned, through years of research and experimentation, through my personal experience of quitting drinking and my coaching work with women to stop drinking.

I dive into how to enjoy hanging out with your friends and family, other ways to reduce stress after a long day at work, and how to set yourself up for success when you feel the urge to open that bottle of wine. I also dig into your mindset around not drinking and how to live a happy and fulfilling life without the need to drink.

In this episode you’ll learn:

Tips on how to reduce stress and anxiety without turning to alcohol
The resources available to support your journey to a alcohol free life
How to change your mindset around what it means to be sober

RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE