Was That Good For You? - Raya Carmona

This week, Raya talks with BDSM educator and self-proclaimed 24/7 collared submissive Lina Dune to dispel some myths surrounding BDSM and the kink community, including how safe it is, how it stresses consent and communication, and how aspects of kink can help with everyone's sexual experiences, even those not interested in BDSM. Lina also gets into more detail on the different types of collars and what it signifies. Check out Lina's Patreon here! Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by musician Bonavega to discuss coming from a religious background and breaking out of that shell. Bonavega details how he's found himself through his music, including not conforming to any gender or sexuality norms and even the subject matter he sings about, as well as how this personal exploration has actually led to healthier relationships. Listen to Bonavega's music here! Was That Good For You Merch Drop 1 is still available, but going fast! Support the show by visiting WasThatGoodForYou.co to grab limited edition pieces including tees, crewneck sweaters, one of a kind vintage and more! Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by musician almondmilkhunni to discuss her dating life and explosive career, the pressure she feels from being on social media, and how she became a de facto voice for dancers and sex workers. Almondmilkhunni also weighs in on the divide among OnlyFans users and she explains why she avoids dating men whose sign is cancer. Listen to almondmilkhunni's music here: https://open.spotify.com/artist/778bhPsYwr6sAELsBBX8MC?si=TRtIl2gaSG--bHqz-hBktw As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting betterhelp.com/goodforyou! Was That Good For You Merch Drop 1 is still available, but going fast! Support the show by visiting WasThatGoodForYou.co to grab limited edition pieces including tees, crewneck sweaters, one of a kind vintage and more! Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya talks with sex journalist and sex toy enthusiast Gabrielle Kassel to chat about masturbation, sex toys, and so much more. Gabrielle explains where and how a beginner user can start incorporating toys, and gives her recommendations for toys you may have never heard of. Gabrielle and Raya also discuss Doomsturbating, talking about sex outside of the bedroom, and how Covid may make conversations about STI testing easier in the future.  Sex Toys & Companies mentioned on this episode: Cute Little Fuckers Fun Factory Le Wand Bow Stainless Steel Toy INTRODUCING: Was That Good For You Merch Drop 1! Support the show by visiting WasThatGoodForYou.co to grab limited edition pieces including tees, crewneck sweaters, one of a kind vintage and more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, writer and polyamory ethical non-monogamy resource Gabrielle Smith talks with Raya about how to navigate opening a relationship to polyamory and/or ethical non-monogamy and how to set appropriate boundaries to ensure success in your relationship. They discuss the issues that don't allow people to comprehend opening a relationship, including insecurity and pressure, and why we're conditioned societally to think that jealousy is just a part of being with someone. As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting betterhelp.com/goodforyou! Resources on polyamory and ENM mentioned on this episode: Michelle AKA Polyamorous While Asian GabAlexa Shrimp Teeth Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by repeat (and very first!) podcast guest Kristi Beck to discuss the misrepresentation of sexuality, namely the female experience, in television and movies, and how we've all been negatively influenced by terrible sex cliches. They also talk about how the media has pressured everyone into thinking they have to constantly be a relationship and the standards we see every day can lead to performance issues for both men and women. As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting betterhelp.com/goodforyou! Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by author and certified witch Gabriela Herstik to discuss Sex Magick (not to be confused with "magic") and how sexual energy is crucial in her work. They also explore how Magick can work for everyone in their everyday lives, no matter what your background or what you believe in, and how to get a handle on your energies to find success. As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting betterhelp.com/goodforyou! Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by author filmmaker, and host of "The Sex Ed" Podcast, Liz Goldwyn and they discuss how there is no such thing as a late bloomer, the many short-comings of even modern sex education toward young people, and why most of the concepts around virginity are just social constructs. Plus, Liz answers some fan-submitted questions, including how to explore new avenues of sex with your partner & whether you should sleep with your ex (spoiler alert: you probably shouldn't). As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting betterhelp.com/goodforyou  Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya talks with Ryan Scott Graham, musician and all-around hot guy musician, to talk about how people fall for musicians, what that does to their egos and personalities, and Ryan's personal experiences on how his life completely changed when he became a musician, including how being left on read was a thing of the past. Follow Ryan: Instagram.com/ryanscottgraham Follow his band: instagram.com/statechampsny Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by actress and musician Erika Heidewald to discuss the recent takeover of OnlyFans by millionaire celebrities (Bella Thorne, Cardi B) and why they're attempt to help is actually harming sex workers and adding to the stigma. Erika and Raya also discuss how just because she has an OnlyFans and posts pictures online, that doesn't mean she is less deserving of love and meaningful relationships. Follow Erika on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ErikaHeidewald Follow Erika on Twitter: twitter.com/ErikaHeidewald  Follow Erika on Instagram: Instagram.com/ErikaHeidewald  Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by journalist and author of two sex & cannabis books, "The Little Book of CBD for Self-Care" & "Finding Your Higher Self: Your Guide to Cannabis for Self-Care", Sophie Saint Thomas, and they discuss the many benefits of introducing weed into your sexual relationships, including anal and vaginal suppositories, enhancing your orgasms, and reducing pain during sex. They also give tips on how to introduce pot to others who might be nervous about it, and they explore the stigmas against people who use marijuana for medical reasons versus recreational uses, and why both should be generally de-stigmatized. Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by Morgan Grimes who has been married and divorced at a young age. She discusses how people, both older relatives and peers, view marriage and divorce and explains why it's not much different than people getting together and breaking up, as well as why multiple marriages are so frowned upon, but it's time we rethink these prejudices. As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/GoodForYou. Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by Shani Long to discuss the double standards when it comes to owning your sexuality with men versus women. They discuss how society has set expectations for how men can flaunt their sexuality, but when women do it, they're put into a certain category, and how Kim Kardashian's status and perceptions made people ignore the fact that her sex tape was nothing more than revenge porn. As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/GoodForYou. Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya talks with writer Ashleigh Gray to discuss how taboo industries, which already dealt with struggles before the pandemic, are dealing with physical restrictions that they relied on. Ashleigh sheds some light on how OnlyFans and other services like it are now rising during quarantine and she also offers up advice on how to navigate dating and physical relationships when being physical is not allowed. Plus, Raya and Ashleigh discuss the troubles with posting sexy content that could possibly cost you a job later. Read Ashleigh's article on Refinery29 here! As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/GoodForYou. Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by Astrologer Colin Bedell AKA QueerCosmos to discuss how no two signs are ever incompatible when it comes to relationships, sometimes you just need to work on yourself first. Colin also brings astrology into the 21st century by explaining how gender and sexuality shouldn't factor into your readings and how only finding "compatible" signs could actually land you in a terrible relationship. Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by model and asexuality advocate Yasmin Benoit to discuss many incorrect notions about asexuality and how it's slowly becoming more widely accepted as a sexual preference, yet still has a long way to go in mainstream society. Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by speaker/author/activist Zachary Zane to discuss how Zoom virtual sex orgies work, how non-monogamous couples are navigating quarantining together, why being on lockdown is the perfect time to put things up your butt and so much more! For more Zach, check out his column on Men's Health or explore your body with B-Vibe. Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raya and returning guest Gabriella Sibaja answer even more of your most burning sex and relationship questions. In this part two of last weeks Q&A, they answer questions ranging from "How sustainable are polyamorous relationships?" to "What do I do if I'm attracted to my boyfriend’s best friend?" and "Should I even be dating during this lockdown?" Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by guest (and roommate) Meghan Rose to answer some fan-submitted questions. They answer questions ranging from how to broach the subject of kinks to your partner, if pegging makes you gay (it doesn't), exploring kinks that are way more common than you think and so much more! Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Women's sex coach Lacey Broussard joins Raya to discuss her work with women and changing the narrative that women are often plagued with surrounding their sexuality and having orgasms. Lacey discusses using a jade egg to enhance sexual pleasure, using modern and ancient techniques to have multiple orgasms, and how men are missing out on great pleasure by not putting stuff in their butts. Visit Lacey's website The Multiorgasmic Mama for more! Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by self-love guru Jonathon Aslay to discuss why just about everyone struggles with self-esteem issues and jumps into relationships before they even know what they want. Jonathon explains why women should be in the driver's seat of the relationship and how building up confidence in yourself could lead to healthier and long-lasting relationships Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Associate marriage counselor Bri Ferron joins Raya to discuss the various attachment styles, how it was probably established in your childhood, and how to deal with a partner that has a different attachment style than you. Find out your attachment style here! For more information on attachment styles, check out "Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love." Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Voiceover artist and actress Emily Bannon covers a variety of topics with Raya, including the trouble with defining your sexuality, sex parties on Eventbrite, what kinds of DMs Emily and Raya are getting on a regular basis, and performance anxiety for women in bed. Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined via phone by Jimanekia Eborn AKA The Trauma Queen, who has worked in the mental health field for 12 years, specializing in sexual education and sexual trauma support. Raya and Jimanekia define trauma as being more than just physical and how it can affect every type of relationship. Jimanekia also explains how to navigate your sexuality and future relationships after a traumatic event. Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

John Kim, licensed therapist/relationship coach and founder of life coaching intensive, JRNI, joins Raya to discuss the generalizations surrounding men in dating - everything from 'are men truly bad at relationships?' or 'are men less emotionally available?' Raya and John also address the pressures placed upon young men in society and how it affects how they interact with their partners once they enter relationships. Plus, the two chat about swipe culture and if Millennials are worst at commitment than previous generations. Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Modern mystic Meghan Rose joins Raya this week to explore where spirituality fits into sex and dating in our modern world. Meghan explains how being able to balance energies is crucial in any physical and romantic connection and how working on yourself is the most important action you can take before trying to enter into any romantic relationship. Word of the Day: Tantric Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Non-monogamy, threesomes and more on modern love are explored in this week's episode. Raya is joined by entertainer & makeup artist Julia Fae to discuss the best and worst about dating in this day and age. They chat about how the internet has made it much easier to find people that share your kink and how "rules” for relationships are slowly fading away, which they both agree is a good thing! Word of the Day: Polyamory Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Music producer and amateur furniture-maker Matt Beckley joins Raya to dispel some myths and lies surrounding the world of sex and relationships: Does playing hard-to-get really work? Is rebound sex the perfect way to get over someone? Matt and Raya break down the questions and use their own past experiences to finally put some relationship urban legends to rest. Word of the Day: Figging Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raya is joined this week by actress/writer Summer Thomas to discuss why people cheat and how it can lead to trust issues. Summer recounts the times she was cheated on and how she's still recovering from the damage. Then Raya and Summer figure out what the line is between innocent flirting and full-on cheating. Word of the Day: Axilism Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Dana Savage, the founder of Tango, a revolutionary sex toy company that caters to all genders, orientations and genitalia, to talk about the current state of sex toys and the many misconceptions that keep people away from sex toys all together. Plus, Dana and Raya explore why there is a stigma against men using sex toys and how all of that might be changing thanks to the "eating ass" movement. Word of the Day: Anal Beads Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by couple Travis Canby and Judy Lovingfoss to discuss the stigma behind the number of people a person has slept with and how it's basically the opposite for men and women. Travis talks about the pressure that young men feel to boost up their "number" in front of other men, while Judy and Raya explore the real damage that "slut shaming" has done to women and why they often lower their "number." Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Entertainer, actress, and fire-breather Georgie Leahy joins Raya to talk about everyone's favorite subject: Masturbating! Georgie and Raya explore the many differences between the way women and men masturbate. They also discuss how awkward it can be to masturbate in front of a partner, why having more sex actually drives women to masturbate more, plus the time Georgie lost her virginity to a deaf dancer. Word of the day: Anilingus Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bridget Moriarty and Raya discuss timing when it comes to relationships. Sometimes it can be perfect, other times it can be terrible, but is that ever a good reason not to get into a relationship? Bridget talks about the perfect timing with her current boyfriend and Raya shares a time she when the timing with someone was all off, but that actually helped the relationship transition to a healthier phase.. Is timing just an excuse or can it really ruin a relationship? Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya is joined by Kelsey Hellenbrand to discuss what it means when you get a gut feeling of someone being unfaithful or lying. Is it always right? And how much trust can and should you place on a person? Raya and Kelsey talk about times their gut was right, and some other times that it led them down the wrong path. Word of the day: Emotional Play Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alessandra Demartino and Raya reminisce about some of the big breakups they've had in their past and try to determine if it's possible to have "good breakups." Alessandra talks about the first time she was broken up with and why that means she can probably never watch "Zootopia" again. Plus, Raya and Alessandra list a few ways to handle yourself after a breakup to get back on your feet faster. Word of the day: Impact Play Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nikki Limo, YouTube star and host of the Shit They Don't Tell You Podcast, joins Raya this week to discuss the types of foreplay and how Nikki was a late bloomer when it came to foreplay. They swap techniques that they learned from old Cosmo magazine clippings and 1998-era Google, and how they both lost their virginities in the back of a car. Plus, Nikki and Raya rundown a few helpful tips to be better at foreplay. Words of the day: Taint & Gooch Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.comand you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Raya and musician/actor Malcolm Cumming discuss the fine line between passionate and crazy when it comes to women and the double standard in calling men crazy. Malcolm tells the story of his meth-snorting girlfriend and Raya shoots back with the time she threw a bluetooth speaker out of a moving car in a fit of rage. Word of the day: Lordosis Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.comand you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raya and first-time repeat guest Rachel Eck attempt to answer the question who is better at sex, younger or older people? Rachel talks about the differences she's seen from dating all across the age spectrum and explains why a deadbeat dad could make for the best lover. They also discuss the complications and even sexism with older men dating younger women. Word of the day: Acrophilia Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102 or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.comand you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Visit AdamAndEve.com and enter code "GONE" for 50% and free shipping on your first order! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Andrew Cramb from the "Where Are All My Friends" podcast joins Raya to talk all things related to post-breakup relationships. They discuss seeing an ex later and hating that they look better than you, the complications with having an ex that's in your friends' circle, and of course answer the ultimate question, is it ever a good idea to sleep with an ex? Word of the day: Intersex. For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  If you have comments or questions related to this week's topic or all things sex, drop Raya a line at ‪(424) 245-5102‬ or email at WTGFYPodcast@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Playboy bunny Marissa Luck comes onto WTGFY to talk to Raya about asking for what you want in every aspect of a relationship. Whether it's emotional or what you want in bed, defining what you expect is important in understanding a person and setting boundaries for yourself. Raya and Marissa discuss times that not telling their partner exactly what they wanted led to misunderstandings or worse, fewer orgasms. Plus, Raya shares her brilliant tip for getting what you want sexually: send your partner a porno clip with what you want to do or try. Word of the day: Gräfenberg spot Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at ‪(424) 245-5102‬ or email her at WTGFYPodcast@Gmail.com and you might hear your call/email on the next episode! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam Miller (writer, sexually active 27-year-old male) joins Raya to figure out the healthiest ways to set up a friends with benefits situation. Raya lays out her rules that she has made for keeping FWBs civil, which sometimes still lead to feelings for the other person. Sam recounts one particular time that he was scorned by a friend with benefits, but now feels that he may have acted immaturely. Is it possible to maintain a healthy friendship while having sex with the person? Or is it only possible in movies? Word of the day: Klismaphilia For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raya is joined by Shauna Sexton to discuss the many pros and cons of sexting. They offer the woman's perspective in receiving dick pics and the amount of work that goes into a good sexy video. Do you have the right lighting and angle? Is Netflix blaring too loudly in the background? All important factors to consider. Later they offer a few tips on the proper etiquette in sending risqué texts and pictures and how men can stand to try a little harder before hitting "send." Word of the day: Soft Limit For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raya is joined by Kelley Fox to discuss the consequences of your partner (or even yourself) being emotionally unavailable in a relationship. From two sides of the spectrum, Raya and Kelley talk about the difference between someone being emotionally unavailable in general, or simply being emotionally unavailable with you. They also talk about how differences in love languages can be perceived as being “not into you.” Listen to find out if you might be falling for the traps of being strung along by someone who’s emotionally unavailable (or just not that into you). Word of the day: Brat For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week's episode, Raya is joined by Adrienne Williams to discuss the many pros and cons of using dating apps how there is basically a dating app for everyone, even weirdos. They talk about how matching with A-list celebs on the Raya app isn’t the most fun, how dating apps might actually be making dating worse, and how Adrienne’s boyfriend might want to upgrade from a “kept man” to a “houseboy.” From going on a date with a depressed alcoholic who broke his throat singing karaoke to using dating apps to boost your narcissism, this episode covers and uncovers it all. Word of the day: Houseboy For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week's episode, Raya is joined by Daniel Weaver and actress Imani Hakim to talk interracial relationships. They get deep about the challenges that come with dating outside your race, and what they’ve learned along the way. For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this weeks episode, Raya is joined by Rachel Eck to talk all things porn. They get into their preferences, habits, and even the possible negative effects of watching too much. For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week's episode, Raya is joined by Beth Saravo and State Champ’s Ryan Scott Graham to talk long distance dating. From communicating when you’re in different countries to hooking up on the tour bus, they cover it all. For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week's episode, Raya is joined by Gabriella Sibaja to talk about creeping on social media. Whether it’s snooping on your ex or digging through a new partner’s past, it’s time to cut the habit. For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kristi Beck joins Raya in the studio for a frank discussion on the always-fascinating topic of sex on the first date! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every week, Raya Carmona talks about sex and relationships openly and honestly with a guests. Whether it’s porn search terms, interracial dating, or kinks in the bedroom, no topic is off-limits for the millennial Dr. Ruth, Raya Carmona. Some things are uncomfortable to talk about, so we’ll talk about them for you! Listen to the podcast guaranteed to leave you hot and bothered, and when it's over I'll ask, Was That Good For You? For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices