Girl On Top: ShallonXO

We can’t control what happens to us in life, and it doesn’t seem like we can control our subsequent bitterness either – but we can. This week I’ll talk to Shalligators dealing with unfair situations at work, and also in the realm of sexual trauma, and share some practical, easy tips to help them let go of bitterness Go to FlexFits.com/girlontop and use code girlontop for 20% off Flex Disc Starter Kits—or 10% off your first Flex Cup—PLUS free U.S. shipping! ????GET “ESSSENTIALISM” ???? https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN ????GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE ???? https://flaze.com/shallonlester ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week will continue our spring cleaning series on tossing out thoughts and behaviors that belong in the trash heap. Will help a Shalligator in a toxic fight-loop with her boyfriend of four months. Are his criticisms valid? Or are they squabbling about surface level topics and not core issues? I’ll break it down and give you three ways to fight fair! Go to HelloFresh.com/shallon12 and use code shallon12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping Go to Curology.com/shallon for a free 30-day trial, just pay for shipping and handling! analuisa.com/GIRLONTOP go treat yourself and your loved ones with a unique gift and use my code GIRLONTOP to get 10%off ????GET “ESSSENTIALISM” ???? https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN ????WATCH MY FLAZE VIDEOS ???? https://flaze.com/shallonlester ????TUNE INTO XO RADIO ???? https://stationhead.live.shallonxo ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As life (sorta) starts to return to normal and the weather shifts, it’s time to take stock of who we’re keeping in our lives—and why. This week, I’ll talk to two Shalligators who don’t know whether to keep or toss old friends who’ve turned into frenemies. ????GET “ESSSENTIALISM” ???? https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN ????WATCH MY FLAZE VIDEOS ???? https://flaze.com/shallonlester ????TUNE INTO XO RADIO ???? https://stationhead.live.shallonxo ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you oh so independent and confident…until you catch feelings? I’ll help a Shalligator who finds herself morphing into a clingy girlfriend and isn’t sure how to stop it. But is there such a thing as TOO independent? I’ll break down how to stop feeling desperate in a relationship and uncover what the fear voice is telling you!  Go to FlexFits.com/GIRLONTOP and use code GIRLONTOP for 20% off Flex Disc Starter Kits—or 10% off your first Flex Cup—PLUS free U.S. shipping! Go to AnaLuisa.com/GIRLONTOP and use code GIRLONTOP for 10% off your piece! ????GET “ESSSENTIALISM” ???? https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN ????READ MY BLOG ???? https://shallon.substack.com ????TUNE INTO XO RADIO ???? https://stationhead.live.shallonxo ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on the YouTube channel we’ve been talking about how to say no and set up boundaries, but sometimes bellowing NO causes more stress than just doing the thing...or, doing the person. If you’re struggling with this concept, I’ll give you some practical real world examples of how to turn someone down, and why The Ick is a terrible byproduct of a boundary-less life! ????GET “ESSSENTIALISM” ???? https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN ????READ MY BLOG ???? https://shallon.substack.com ????TUNE INTO XO RADIO ???? https://stationhead.live.shallonxo ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we’ll hear from an exasperated Shalligator Who is stuck on vacation with a complainer. When dealing with an emotional and social terrorist, do you fight fire with fire? Do you ignore them and walk away? I’ll tell you the best way to deal with a victim mentality that protects your peace—not politeness.  Best Friends with Nicole Byer & Sasheer Zamata comes out every Wednesday, on Stitcher, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts! Go to Curology.com/SHALLION for a free 30-day trial, just pay for shipping and handling! ????GET “ESSSENTIALISM” ???? https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN ????READ MY BLOG ???? https://shallon.substack.com ????TUNE INTO XO RADIO ???? https://stationhead.live.shallonxo ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, I’ll help a Shalligator sort out whether or not it’s wise to have a joint bank account with a man who doesn’t respect your cash flow. And, since Shallentine’s Day is coming up, I’ll give you some pro tips on picking great (cheap!) lingerie and what guys really think when you wear it!  Go to FlexFits.com/girlontop and use code girlontop for 20% off Flex Disc Starter Kits—or 10% off your first Flex Cup—PLUS free U.S. shipping ????GET “ESSSENTIALISM” ???? https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN ????READ MY BLOG ???? https://shallon.substack.com ????TUNE INTO XO RADIO ???? https://stationhead.live.shallonxo ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we tackle two seemingly unrelated issues—ruined birthdays and STDs—and explore why a lack of boundaries can lead us right into both! ????READ “ESSENTIALISM” ???? https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN ????TUNE INTO XO RADIO ???? https://stationhead.live.shallonxo ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If a friend vanishes out of your life, do they deserve to get let back in? I’ll help a Shalligator who is wondering if a long lost pal wants another chance or if it’s time to let things go. ALSO! Listen to XO Radio every Wednesday on the Stationhead app (free!) where I play my fave tunes and break down their lessons. AND! Subscribe to my intimate new blog, Eat Prey Love.  ????READ EAT PREY LOVE ???? https://shallon.substack.com ????TUNE INTO XO RADIO ???? https://stationhead.live.shallonxo ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, a Shalligator is at her wits end with guys who seem to break up with her because they “can’t give you what you need.” But the gag is, she doesn’t really need that much! Is this just a line guys are handing her, or is she portraying herself has way more high maintenance than she is? I’ll decode it all! ????ASK SHALLON A QUESTION ???? https://shallonlester.com  ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! ????BINGE ???? 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you are a bad ass check, as we are here in the Shallontourage, it can be hard to focus on just one career or even just a manageable handful of hobbies. I’ll help one Shalligator sort through her maze of interests and explain why recklessly spending energy will leave you bankrupt! ????ASK SHALLON A QUESTION ???? https://shallonlester.com  ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! ????BINGE ???? 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To kick of 2021, I'll help you embrace the past (yes, even 2020) and tackle a question by a Shalligator who thinks she's starting absolutely from scratch after a tough and trying year. I'll give her some tough love but also 3 actionable, science-backed steps to improving her self-esteem, getting back to her authentic self, and leaving the misery behind!  ????ASK SHALLON A QUESTION ???? https://shallonlester.com  ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! ????BINGE ???? 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s our last podcast of 2020 and it’s time to set intentions for the new year. I’ll tell you my easy, 3-tiered approach to goal setting and manifestation. Plus, we’ll tackle the topic of guys who slide into your DMs, and how to craft the perfect Instagram! ????ASK SHALLON A QUESTION ???? https://shallonlester.com ????GIVE BACK ???? gf.me/u/za8h5d ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! ????BINGE ???? 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you're in a small town, small college or small office, getting over someone you have to see all the time is an exercise in agony. I'll give you some practical tips on moving forward, and we'll talk to a Shalligator who's in a quandary about how to find a good therapist!  ????ASK SHALLON A QUESTION ???? https://shallonlester.com  ????GIVE BACK ???? gf.me/u/za8h5d ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! ????BINGE ???? 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

‘Tis the season to…go into debt making buying presents, right? NOPE. Not this year. We’re going to look at the silver linings of 2020, reset our attitude toward money, dial down expectations, and come out of the holidays feeling rich in every possible way! ????ASK SHALLON A QUESTION ???? https://shallonlester.com ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! ????BINGE ???? 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO www.hellofresh.com/shallon90 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is cheating actually cheating if it’s with a sex worker? And can sending a guy nudes prevent him from straying? I’ll explore this sexually tense situation, plus help another Shalligator sort out who exactly should pay for the date, and when to start pitching in! ???? BINGE EVIL WEEK ???? https://infstream.com/shallonlester ???? ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! ???? BINGE ???? 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester ???? FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we’re focusing on just one topic: turning yourself into an alpha female. Specifically, I’m breaking down the three major shifts I made in my life to go from cold blooded to independent, bulletproof, and ultimately, very happy and satisfied no matter what my circumstances. This weeks motto: “No thank you.”  ????BINGE EVIL WEEK ???? https://infstream.com/shallonlester ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! ????YOUTUBE ???? 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Halloween may be over, but we're keeping the sinful fun going with an Evil Week bonus, where I break down easy tricks to gather information on your enemies and haters so you can craft the most effective strategy against them. Plus, I'll tell you some sanity-saving tips on surviving election season with this week's motto: Do Not Disturb.  ????JOIN EVIL WEEK ???? https://infstream.com/shallonlester ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! ????BINGE ???? 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVIL WEEK BONUS: How (and Why) to Embrace Wickedness Evil Week is in full swing but it can be hard to fully step into the shoes of sin, right? I'll give you a perditious little pep talk on how evil and intuition walk hand in hand. Plus: we'll sorting out what exactly makes for great sex (and how to get it!) and ranting about...Emily Ratajkowski? ????JOIN EVIL WEEK ???? https://infstream.com/shallonlester ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! ????BINGE ???? 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Evil Week begins on October 25 on YouTube and Infstream, and the Shallontourage deserves a little...appetizer, don’t you think? This week I’m talking all about revenge — how to get it, who to tell, what it looks like, and the two different strategies for annihilating your enemies. ????JOIN THE BOOK CLUB ????https://www.amazon.com/shop/shallonlester ????ENJOYING IT? ???? please rate and review this podcast! ????BINGE ???? 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester ????FOLLOW ???? Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week our mantra is: stay true to yourself. Sometimes it’s necessary to look at the reality of the situation, a person, or even a town and say… You know what? This just isn’t good enough for me anymore. Plus, I’ll tell you how to cultivate what I call celebrity energy to insulate you from beta males who neg you on dating apps and IRL!

This week we’re talking to a Shalligator who feel stuck in her current college circumstance, plus another trapped by a friend who just won’t listen to her advice, and another who ponders the age old question: if we sleep with a guy in the first date, is it the kiss of death? I’ll break it all down!

This week, we’re learning how to see the reality of the situation — not what we hope it is, or what fear tells us it is. One Shalligator is getting ghosted by a guy with unclear intentions, while another is debating whether or not to cut off a toxic friend. I’ll sort it all out and give you a soothing new mantra!

We’ve all been there with the guy who felt like drugs—every text and every hook up gave us that dopamine insanity. One Shalligator offers her tip on how to clip the cravings, then another ask a crucial question: when we are finally finished with fuck boys, where can you find a hot quality nerd? I’ll tell you a fun and easy way to magnetize quality characters into your life and how to avoid potential pitfalls!

This week we’re talking to a Shalligator dealing with a perfect-on-paper-life… But a whole bunch of moody malaise. And another chickadee is trying to turn the tide and get out of the booty call category. Is it possible? We’ll break it all down!

Is there magic in moderation? Is the middle path the key to happiness? This week I’ll help identify the warning signs that a guy is using you as his own emotional getaway car, and how to get things back on track. Plus, will break down what it really means when a guy is sarcastic – is it a sign of gaslighting, or are you just being too sensitive?

This week, we’re exploring the life changing power of: I am not afraid to leave. Plus, I’ll break down the classic f*ckboy trajectory and why ICE COLD is the only way to get a guy back!

This week, our mantra is: “Do what works for ME.” We’re talking to three chicks struggling to put themselves first and are instead listening to their panic-based “Snooki brain” about everything from blow jobs to broke boys.

This week, we continue to read from our Shalliterature book club selection, “Why Men Love Bitches” and get tips on how to handle ghosting, how to turn the tables on a guy trying to make you jealous, and why being humble is a very bad idea. Pick up the book at the link below and head to the Shalligator reddit thread to chat about what you’re learning!

Last week we kicked off the Shalliterature book club selection, “Why Men Love Bitches” and today I’m reading the first chapter, plus telling a Tinder tale that WMLB helped me navigate in a way I probably wouldn’t have. Pick up the book at the link below and head to the Shalligator reddit thread to chat about what you’re learning!

It’s time for a new book club selection and what better read than my own personal bible, “Why Men Love Bitches” by Sherry Argov! We’ll also talk to two girls in “Fliratationships” who can’t untangle their emotions. 

This week we’re helping a girl who got dumped out of nowhere figure out the best course of action. And, I’m taking you through the highs and lows of stating your standards, setting boundaries, and letting the chips fall where they may!

This week we’re focusing on doing what’s best for US—not making things easy breezy for everyone else. I’ll help you set boundaries with guilt trippin family, toxic roommates and guys who stop pursuing you!

When will I stop talking about boundaries? When we all have them perfectly under control—A.k.a., never. I’ll help two girls dealing with friends who want too much, and one chickadee that can’t shake a creepy guy!

This week we’re tackling just one topic: the lunatics in our lives. If you’re afraid to drop someone because of the potential fall out, I’ll give you a blueprint on exactly how to leave, and a big ol’ peptalk on why you need to!

Is it normal for an FWB situation to include dates and endless texts? Is a guy one month post divorce fit to date? Is mom going to lose her mind when I tell her I’m switching careers? I’ll unravel these riddles and more!

This week, I’ll help a too-flirty chick undo a sticky situation, help another see what her boyfriend means when he says he needs to sow his wild oats, and talk about the perfect time to have sex when you’re dating someone new! 

With all of us battling some form of 'Rona related existential dread, I'll talk four Shalloners off the cliffs of insanity, whether they're dealing with their parents' divorce, a fantasy flirtation, the worry that they "owe" their mom a grandchild!

This week, we’ll help two lovelorn Shalloners get over the trauma of losing their virginity to, well, losers, and give advice to another who flirted herself into a corner with a married man...and now has an unhinged wife on her tail! 

This week two Shalloners find themselves needing to issue major apologies to their boyfriends, but another is demanding an explanation for her man’s female “friend” who can’t keep her trashy hands to herself!

This week we’re helping Shalloners stuck in lockdown with family situations that are...less than ideal, shall we say. From a literal list of things to change for a suddenly-super religious father, I’ll tell you how to navigate sticky family situations without losing your mind—or all the progress you’ve made on yourself! 

Sanity is unraveling at a rapid pace, and that means parental feuds and snarky roommates. I’ll help you channel your anxiety into something productive, and help two other Shalloners who can’t fathom why guys stick with lackluster rebounds and deadbeat chicks! 

This week I’ll help a Shalloner wanting to knock an ex’s socks off when she sees him post-lockdown, tell another one how to set the pace for online chit-chat with a guy she just started talking to, and help another recognize a predator in her midst! 

Is a heartbroken guy serious about you or just using you as a free therapist? I’ll read the writing on the wall for a confused Shalloner, help another who can’t seem to make friends, and give tall answer to a girl dating a short boy!

This episode, we’ll boss up a babe who needs help crushing an uprising, sort out a soul-crushing ghosting, and talk to a guy who’s boytoy isn’t ready to come out of the closet!

This episode, I’ll start by sharing my quarantine mantra to stave off coronavirus, then deal with two young ladies struggling to find their career path, and help another caught in a friends-with-benefits spiral differentiate between eating skittles and salads! 

This week I’ll help a Shalloner in a tizzy over where to take her creative career, and another who isn’t exactly feeling warm and fuzzy about her new workmates. We’ll also help a doting daughter set up boundaries for her boozy mom, and give a friend with benefits a big dose of reality—whether she likes it or not! 

What’s worse than being stuck near your ex? Being stuck near your ex while studying abroad in Italy and he’s hooking up with your detested roommate! I’ll tell this molto triste student how to not feel so Veni, Vidi, Vicious, help another trust again after hurt, and help a seething Shalloner sort out her plans for vengeance. 

It’s easy to tell someone to listen to their gut instinct…but it’s a lot harder to hear it inside of ourselves. I’ll give you actionable clear-cut steps to picking up what your intuition is trying to put down, help another Shalloner fix her friends fractured self-esteem, and lay down the law for one scheming to date a hip-hop star!

Can you burn out at 21? Oh yes, yes you can. I’ll help a frazzled Shalloner who is feeling used by everyone in her life, another who can’t seem to get her mom off her back, and a business-minded boss babe dealing with snakes in the grass! 

In this special bonus Shallontine’s Day episode, I’ll break down some truly heinous Valentine’s horror stories you shared with me, from a love-bombing loser and a dollar-store romeo, to the many, MANY dudes who have many, MANY excuses for why they didn’t get you a gift! 

Should you be “just friends” with a guy who isn’t ready to commit? UH NO. I’ll break down the trap of endless friendship, plus help a Shalloner dealing with a physical limitation and a follow up to a saga about a guy who won’t say “I love you!” 

Do you feel stuck in stagnant? I’ll tell you how to reverse-engineer your life to get out of a rut and back on track, talk to a girl dealing with an in-and-out ex fiancé, plus help a Shalloner who met a dude by… catfishing him? 

Life isn’t always sugar and pom-poms. This week we’re tackling some heavy topics from family obligations to family loss. Plus, I’ll help a confused Shallonee sort out the nuances of trauma bonding and you have another one a plan to get away from an abusive ex

This week, I’ll help a fan narrow down her career options, explain some hot and cold behavior from a guy who won’t put out, and we are the pros and cons of coming clean about kissing your friends fella. Plus, I’ll dismantle the idea that being an empath is a good thing… Because it is not.

Did you fall for a guy on a getaway? I’ll unravel a fiasco with a “vacationship” and help a girl who realized that SHE is the beta. Plus, we’ll tackle toxic family members, and feeling like the odd chick out in a trio of friends! 

This episode we’ll debate why some dudes won’t go downtown, and why others let their moms run their life. Plus, I’ll help a Shalloner who’s guy won’t drop the ILY, and why those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing...

This episode we’ll explore how to get revenge on an ex, a player, and a guy who had the AUDACITY to move on after a break up! Plus, I’ll remind you why we are bait, and not fish! 

Can we turn a wishy-washy guy into marriage (or at least boyfriend) material? And what happens when you realize too late that you like a guy from a one-night stand? Can you turn that ho into a housewife? I'll tell you when to keep trying and when to keep it moving!

This week I'll talk to a teen who wants to unleash her inner maneater, plus several other chickadees who recognize that they’re entangled with awful a-holes...but can’t quite let go of them for some reason! Are they chasing neglect? I’ll break it all down....

If a f**kboy grows up, should you give him another chance? I'll tell it like it is to one Shalloner pondering a player, plus help another make friends in a jealous environment, and explain whether or not it's normal to be occiasionally icked out by the guy you're dating!

'Tis the season to break up with friends who annoy you! I'll help two Shalloners untangle themselves from friendships that no longer serve them, plus help a 28-year-old virgin decide if she should tell her 20-year-old booty call that he's her first...

This week I'll help two Shalloners who can't seem to craft the relationships they want. One is constantly striking out at the bars while another is fuming over a fumbled birthday celebration. I'll share some tips on attracting the right kind of guys and why sometimes a birthday blow up is about something much, much deeper...

This week I'll help two Shalloners who are more than a little suspicious that their oh-so-perfect boyfriends are anything but. Plus, I'll help a 20-year-old hottie shut down backhanded compliments from her older friends, break down the effects of growing up with a single parents and explain why "restful" is your new mantra!

Is "vanilla sex" a dealbreaker? We'll decode what a guy means when he dogs his own sexual performance, and what YOU mean when suddenly you can't stand a boy you used to have the hots for! Plus, we'll untangle family boundaries and shut down some office awfulness. .

Is there anything more annoying than a guy who "can't" plan a date? No, and I'll give you a script to nip it in the bud. Plus, I'll break down a booty call brouhaha and help a girl raise her standard, and dispel the self-defeating myth of the shy guy!

This episode, two girls are dealing with depressive dudes...but when does love turn into enabling? I’ll straighten ‘em out like a piece of wire, plus break down the warning signs that a “nice guy” is actually a good guy f*ckboy in disguise!  .

This episode, we will tackle a tricky question from a girl who doesn’t want her sexual boundaries to destroy her social life, explore why romantic gestures creep us out, and help a girl who is not only dateless but friendless too!  .

This week, I’ll give you scripts for shutting down friends who are flaky, catty or self destructive, plus semi-sorta-cheating boyfriends! Plus, I’ll shine a light on why we really want to confront a fuckboy...and when we shouldn’t!. . .

This week, we’ll explore the toxic patterns that hold you back, how self-worth and shame hinder your ability to make friends, what to do when a booty call gets clingy, and the #1 thing you need to remember about a love triangle! .

This episode, I’ll tell you how to cut off toxic family, why an ex should stay an ex, what small talk texting really means, and how to cope with a constant need for attention! . .

Being “friends with benefits” sounds great...until he’s the only one benefitting. I’ll break down the psychology behind booty calls, and how to avoid falling into one if you actually want more. Plus, I’ll help someone with three mangled marriage is under her belt, and tell you exactly how to play hard to get! . .

In this episode, I’ll tell you what to do about a toxic work environment, ease your mind if losing your virginity wasn’t exactly magic moment, muse a little on motherhood, and tell you some habits we need to be borrowing from boys on Tinder! .

This week I’ll tell you how to fix anxiety without medication, tackle friends who are in trouble… and ones who are MAKING trouble, whether or not a guy is just “being nice,” and what to do when a first date conversation goes flat! . .

This week, I’ll tell you how to make peace with your past, calling out a ghoster, whether first date sex ruins everything, and how to know if you’re making healthy choices! . .

By now we know how to spot a douchebag… But what about a quality guy? I’ll tell you how to identify a keeper, explain why your f**kboy ex settled down, delve a little deeper into “too busy” guys, and of course, talk a little bit about porn and saving hoes. Maybe a lot? .

Picture this: you have an amazing date and then he ghosts for a few days...or forever. I’ll tell you what’s actually happening behind the scenes, plus dealing with parental pressure and why we need to get REAL when we say we “can’t” dump a douchebag! .

Is “I’m a bad texter” code for “ just not into you?” I’ll break down disastrous digital behavior, explain how to move on after cheating, tell you the pros and cons of an open relationship, dismantle the anxiety behind being single, and explain why Adolf Hitler can be seriously helpful when a not-always-toxic relationship! .

Can you change a cheater? Or train an unchivalrous manchild? I’ll tell you when to walk away, plus how to deal with a guy friend who’s caught feelings AND, one of the most self destructive things we can tell ourselves!. .

Is trying to be the “cool girl” actually ruining your love life? I’ll explain what cool ACTUALLY looks like, and why anxiety is a symptom of an unheard intuition! Plus, a friend who keeps picking fights and what to do with an unmotivated man!. .

Boy meets girl. Boy marries girl. Girl’s problems magically evaporate...right? This week I sit down with @KateTheWasp, my real-life friend behind the hilariously satirical “basic entitled white girl” account to Find out what life is really like on the other side of happily ever after. Plus we talk about our own abysmal body images, and what we would tell our younger selves. And check out Kate’s podcast, Good On Paper, for my guest spot too! . .

Is astrology BS or are certain signs totally incompatible? I’ll spell it all out, and weigh the pros and cons of short guys, and dish on why you shouldn’t be jealous of his exes, but SHOULD beware of his female friends!. .

Should you tell your boyfriend when other guys hit on you? I’ll break down a dude’s motivation for wanting to know, plus give you a script for embarrassing moments, unpack why guys lurk your social, and help you identify the “Hurtlocker” in your life! . .

Is is unrealistic to expect guys to take you on dates? I’ll break it down, and reveal the one CRUCIAL attitude you must have when dating...and the absolute worst mentality of all!.

Is it a compliment when a guy doesn’t want to use a condom? I’ll break down what he’s ACTUALLY doing, and help two Shalloners dealing with a toxic frenemy and hair-trigger roommate who only get worse after confrontation! .

How much say should your boyfriend have in the type of birth control you use? I’ll break it down, and sort out why an ex comes begging for forgiveness only to ghost again, plus what you should do if a guy‘s girlfriend tries to get up in your face! .

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Is there a way to get your ex back without groveling? I’ll tell you the best way to reignite a former flame, plus how to deal with a guy with drug issues, how to get your stuff back from someone who dumped you, what to do when the fireworks in a romance fizzles out, while were crush is hot and cold, and a date night strategy for a guy who (seems) out of your league! . . ♥️Follow me on Insta/Twitter @ShallonXO and subscribe on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester ♥️ --- This episode is sponsored by · Superwomen with Rebecca Minkoff Podcast: Each week designer Rebecca Minkoff speaks with inspiring women from all walks of life about their success and failures while also sharing lessons and tips they’ve learned along the way. https://open.spotify.com/show/3KCdjRAjeiGGJMgAvgRgEu?si=v16KtfV5RuCsWn7-4XyJtw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there any reason your boyfriend should still have tinder on his phone? I’ll break it down, plus examine why a guy is all up in your social networks… But can’t seem to follow through on a date. And, what to do about an ex who is taking Insta-pettiness to a new level. --- This episode is sponsored by · Superwomen with Rebecca Minkoff Podcast: Each week designer Rebecca Minkoff speaks with inspiring women from all walks of life about their success and failures while also sharing lessons and tips they’ve learned along the way. https://open.spotify.com/show/3KCdjRAjeiGGJMgAvgRgEu?si=v16KtfV5RuCsWn7-4XyJtw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A Shalloner is pondering becoming a stripper while another is selling her skivvies for cash. Plus, why a guy is hesitant to let you meet the family, what happens when a FWB douchebag has a moment of self-awareness, and one of the trickiest questions I’ve ever been asked! --- This episode is sponsored by · Superwomen with Rebecca Minkoff Podcast: Each week designer Rebecca Minkoff speaks with inspiring women from all walks of life about their success and failures while also sharing lessons and tips they’ve learned along the way. https://open.spotify.com/show/3KCdjRAjeiGGJMgAvgRgEu?si=v16KtfV5RuCsWn7-4XyJtw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating someone from your school or office? I’ll tell you how to differentiate courtship from what I call “unintentional logistical contact.” Plus, when you should block an ex on social media, what to do when your FWB suddenly ghosts, and why your vacation fling evaporates as soon as his tan wears off! . ♥️Follow me on Insta/Twitter @ShallonXO and subscribe on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester --- This episode is sponsored by · Superwomen with Rebecca Minkoff Podcast: Each week designer Rebecca Minkoff speaks with inspiring women from all walks of life about their success and failures while also sharing lessons and tips they’ve learned along the way. https://open.spotify.com/show/3KCdjRAjeiGGJMgAvgRgEu?si=v16KtfV5RuCsWn7-4XyJtw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices