Meg Tuohey - Making Relationships Work

NEURODIVERSITY IN COUPLES 

Do you live in a relationship that has differences in neurodiversity? Tonight I'm answering a question from Laura who posted it in a thread in our Women Making Marriages Work (WMMW) FB Group. This is her question: 'Any advice for neurodiverse couples' - which is a broad question... yes? But I answered it anyway. 

Tune in to hear more details, Meg 

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SETTING GOALS THAT YOU WILL WANT TO STILL BE ACHIEVING IN SEPTEMBER '21 

We've all experienced the setting of resolutions in January that we've forgotten by February. And the reason we have forgotten them is that they don't really deeply resonate with us. And the things that get in our way in terms of us actually achieving them (like self-sabotage, past hurts, unresolved feelings, etc - we call them 'wrinkles' in here) are never actually dealt with.

So the goal itself becomes unreachable. So let's unpack how to set goals that make you light up AND I'll also teach you how to unpack those 'wrinkles' so that they move out of the way and your goal becomes easily gained. Enjoy, and Happy New Year, Meg

PS. Masterclass link: https://joinnow.live/s/srs3OI

HOW DO I OVERCOME MY FEAR OF RECEIVING LOVE FROM MY HUSBAND

Today we have another answer to a question from our Women Making Marriages Work Facebook Group. The question from Brooklyn is this: 'I have a lot of trauma from past relationships this in turn has made it seem nearly impossible for me to open up and and let my husband love me, what is the best way to get over those traumas so I can be an open, more lovable partner and a better mother? I have 3 girls that I want to raise to be strong, independent young ladies that are confident and feel loved completely but it’s hard to do when I myself need to heal so I can break this cycle.'

I'm going to answer it and map out a plan for not just recovery but how to thrive from here.

PS. Masterclass: https://joinnow.live/s/srs3OI
PPS. Breakthrough Call: http://workwithmeg.com/talk

Enjoy,
Meg

I'm answering a question from our Women Making Marriages Work Facebook Group tonight. It's a big one.

This is a question from Emily, who writes:

What is my role as a committed Christian wife with 3 young kids under 7, with a husband who has a sex addiction and has struggled with pornography and masturbation since age 11, due to generational sin in his family and no parenting from his father, who also has a porn addiction even now as a married Christian man...

My husband is now in a men’s support group specifically for sex addiction, but he is realizing how bad his problem is and can’t seem to break the chains of it, he is supposed to be clean for 6 months before he can even disclose anything to me, and he’s only been able to go 3 weeks clean, over 18 months of being in the group...

I feel helpless and useless staying in this marriage, as he is jerking off more than having sex with me, to random fantasies of porn women.

I'm going to answer this from a non-denominational point of view and provide her with a pathway forward.

Much love, Meg

Tonight I'm answering a question from Heather who posted it in a thread in our Women Making Marriages Work (WMMW) FB Group.

This is her question: "How about advice on healing from an emotionally and mentally abusive (and neglectful) marriage? For 8 years I played the part of a good wife as best I could and went out of my way to do far more than anyone I knew did for their husbands or partners. I worked until I was in desperate pain and then kept going so I wouldn't disappoint him. (Serious health issues here) He has changed, like actual real change, but it just feels like he hurt me too deeply for too long and just killed the possibility of ever loving him again. And how can I even try without the fear of him turning back into the person he was?"

Anyone in pain in their relationship that doesn't know how to move forward needs to listen to this.

Talk soon,
Meg

Masterclass: https://joinnow.live/s/srs3OI
Free Breakthrough Call: http://workwithmeg.com/talk

DON'T BE LIKE ME....
Friends, I come here with an admission of guilt as it pertains to avoiding doing what needed to be done.
And, I knew better, I just didn't do it.
So.
Don't be me. Watch and learn and here's the Masterclass: https://joinnow.live/s/srs3OI

Talk soon,
Meg

Tonight I'm mapping out the exact pathway you went down to lose connection with your husband and what it is that you both really want.

Then we're going to talk about what exactly you can do to get drastically different results.

Looking forward to it,
Meg

Tonight I'm unpacking what your feelings are telling you, how to know what you don't want, so that you can design and then create what you do want.

And most importantly, how to make a bridge from the old life, that isn't working for you the way you wish it would, into the new one.

Here's the Masterclass Link so that you can learn more of the skills you need to 'cross over': http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

Talk soon,
Meg

Talking tonight about what complaints are, why we have them and what to do to turn them into something that serves a purpose.

Let's do this,

Meg

PS. Masterclass Link: http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

Talking tonight about the most common problem we have in our clients. Which, is, essentially, a real/perceived need to control/manage the environment around us until we are gripping so tightly that we have some sort of meltdown. Internal or external. Large or Larger.

Then, with that blow out, we find our feet, have some respite for awhile, until... we're back in that same cycle.

Masterclass: http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

It's going to be a great conversation,
Meg

On the 29th of May, I posted a question in the WMMW Facebook group. It said "Fill in the blank: 'I can't be in a healthy masterful marriage because I haven't ______________ yet.'"

The responses I received were themed, and tonight I'm going to talk about why they were themed in the way that they were.

I'll also cover the antidote that will allow you to give/receive a healthy, masterful marriage.

Meg
PS. Masterclass Link: http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

We're being called to grow in our hearts and minds across many relationships right now. In our marriage, in our parenting - yes, always. But also in our community through COVID-19, through Black Lives Matter, through voting and many other issues that are now up in the general conciousness.

We are being called to learn and grow like never before. I love this. And I have also noticed that to be able to show up as allies and advocates across all these spaces, we need to have energy to do so lovingly.

Without energy we blame, criticize, defend and disconnect. We close ourselves off to others, and aren't available to reconnect. This isn't serving our marriage, our children, our communities. So tonight - I'm lifting the lid on how to build a surplus of energy that allows you to show up in the way that you are called to. With integrity and connection.

Meg

PS: Here's my Masterclass link: http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

Hi WMMW,

Talking tonight about failure and all the bits and pieces that failure represents.

You're not going to want to miss this,

Meg

PS. Masterclass Link: https://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

Talking today to the parts of you that have had it with a marriage that is failing, and a huge load that you are carrying through your day to day life.

The load that is just too heavy to bear anymore. And it feels like the only thing to do is to quit. Quit the things that are hurting you.... like your marriage.

Hold on. Watch this. We get to create the ending we want....

Meg

PS. Masterclass: http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

Most women I know chase their tails to manage their lives. They have lists to do, and a house and family to run. They assess themselves on how much they get done. And those in troubled marriages assume that they can 'work' their way out of that trouble.

After all these years in this space, I know this is a lie. You can't 'work' your way out of a marriage in crisis.

You have to 'be' your way out of a marriage in crisis.

Let me explain,

Meg

PS. Masterclass Link: http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

Talking tonight about your inner critic. The one that makes you wrong most of the time. The one who sends you off each day with a list to do that won't get done without a personal cost, and the one who doesn't cheer you on... ever.

We'll explore how she fits with you, and your husband/family and the impact she has... then we'll talk antidotes.

It's going to be a good one,

Meg

PS. Masterclass: http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

Talking tonight about the metaphor for thinking that doesn't serve you well (muddy boots in a white room) and how to create a life where there is mud BUT not muddy boots. Not only is this possible, it's available to you to start creating today.

Talk soon,

Meg

But first, how are you?

Talking tonight about why husbands/people look to divorce, what is behind the need to 'close the door on the marriage' and then how to counteract this.

Masterclass: http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

Talk soon, Meg

Stress overflows into marriages, relationships and families. It leaves a mark, it leaves bitterness, disconnect and sadness behind it.

When you are a leader in your family, how you manage your own stress is important. In the midst of a pandemic, you'd better believe it is CRITICAL.

Here's how you can bring your stress down to low levels so that you can set the tone for your marriage, your family and your community. Here's how you can be the leader everyone is looking for.

xo, Meg

In the midst of this pandemic, lots of couples are having lots more sex. Which is awesome for many, and not so awesome for the rest.

I'm going to unpack the two types of sex for couples, and what to do if you're stuck in the negative cycle of one of them.

Let's unpack this,

I asked my Women Making Marriages Facebook Group what the hardest thing was for them during this quarantine/self isolation/social distancing. And the thread that united all the responses was self care, leadership of self/family/marriage.

So. That's what we are talking about tonight.

Hearts full, hands clean. Let's do this.

Meg

Today's FB Live is inspired by a post in my WMMW Facebook Group, Lisa who left this question for me in the 'Calling All Topics' Thread.

I'm looking forward to answering it! Remember, now is the VERY BEST TIME to work on yourself and your marriage.
Stay safe out there friends!
xo,
Meg

If ever there was a time in our short history on the planet, that we are called to set aside our distractors, and come together to do 'the work' that is required to write history, and to write it well. It is now.

Here is your call to action.

Meg

We have the greatest opportunity to step into our new selves in the midst of crisis. Let's walk through this pandemic, united and feeling a sense of togetherness.

Here's how to do it.
Clean hands and Wise Woman Leadership unite!
Meg

Well isn't that a dramatic headline!

Talking tonight about the impact of fatigue on your life, your marriage, and parenting.

All of us live with less 'gas in the tank' than we need. All of us cope with that. But what is the cost?

Meg

I'm answering a question tonight from Lisa in our WMMW community. She wants to know why she doesn't know how to be vulnerable in her marriage anymore.

I'm going to be unpacking the nitty-gritty of vulnerability and how safety plays a major role in this space.

Meg

I'm answering another WMMW member question tonight, Susan's. She wants to know how to support her husband who is going through a mid-life crisis.

I'm going to answer - it's going to be an answer you've never heard.

How fun!
Meg

Tonight we're covering how and when and why our brains bring us data points. How that can serve us as we build and create something important, and NOT serve us when we are unfocused and looking to confirm our hypotheses about our husbands.

Let's unpack this.

Meg

I'm going to attempt a metaphor (not my strong suit) about technology and self.

Specifically, how we need to continually upgrade our operating systems - which is our sense of self and the ways we take in information and process it then react to it.

Looking forward to unpacking this with you!
Meg

Talking tonight about clarity and depth in relationships - the one you have with yourself (the only cake you get) and the one you have in your marriage (the cake you get to co-create).

xo,

Meg

I'm talking today about family history and where you fit into that history. We'll focus on what you have inherited and what you can do to change/influence that.

Talk soon!
Meg 

We are going to unpack the most simple yet HARD skill to bring to a marriage in crisis.

I'll describe what it is, how it works and how to do it (and where to go to get help if you need it).

Meg

About 90% of the women I work with tell me their husband has stopped communicating with them, and responds only in 'task' related conversations, or will answer in short, often curt answers. 

There seems to be no vulnerability, no marriage leadership and no way of getting the marriage back on track. 

Let's unpack this tonight!

xo,

Meg

Ps: Here is the Masterclass link: http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

This is a question I get every day. Where a husband who is out of ideas, out of skills and out of hope that his marriage can still work calls it quits. 

In doing so, he relieves the tension he feels of being a 'failure' and truly believes there is no hope. The trouble with this decision is that there usually IS hope. Only he hasn't found the thing that works before calling it quits. 

This is where YOU can step in...Let me talk you through how to do this.

xo, Meg 

I cannot stand 'Fake it Til You Make it'. It is the very WORST strategy going round. 

Let me share with you the antidote, that allows you to successfully navigate the very thing you are TERRIFIED won't work (i.e. the thing you are 'faking'). 

Tune in, you're not going to want to miss this!

xo,

Meg 

I'm talking tonight about how we become who we are, and how easily it is to stay there and not question it.

And how easy it is to make the decision to change.

Tonight we are going through a step-by-step, behind the curtains look at how we assess the health of your marriage.

Bring a pen and paper, and let's do this. 

xo, 

Meg 

Answering a question from Women Making Marriages Work today, from Lyndsey, who wonders how to navigate being married to a husband who stonewalls anytime she tries to talk through issues. Lyndsey has tried everything and feels like however, she approaches it, she will have his same reaction of stonewalling for days afterward.

I'm going to unpack this, and talk to you about where it's coming from, why people use this strategy and the dangers of not interrupting this cycle (also where to go to begin to do it differently).
xo, Meg

Visualize the life you are dreaming of and what goals you can set for yourself to get there! Now, I want you to take those goals and WRITE THEM DOWN! You have the ability to create the life you want!!

xx

Meg

I'm talking about something incredibly important tonight. And this is the long-held 'myth' that you can parent well when your marriage is in crisis.

The truth is, you can parent well in a crisis, but the state of your marriage has a DIRECT impact on your children's self-esteem, their ‘map of the world' and the damage done emotionally by parents who are unable to create a connection and lead their family with a stable, united safe and connected 'eco-system’.

Do mental health problems live in your marriage? Do you find yourself tiptoeing around those issues and trying to avoid triggering the protective responses that are connected to them?

Is this having an impact on your marriage in the worst possible way - where those mental health problems become the primary source of decision making for each of you (through trying to avoid their triggering) and you can't solve ANY real issues, because you can't respond freely, or talk openly.

And if you try to bring up your problems or concerns, it always ends terribly.

Where your beloved is tripped into old patterns of feeling depressed, not good enough, lonely, isolated, anxious and in an altogether downward spiral?

If so, you're not alone. This is incredibly common in a marriage and common within this group.

I'm answering this question from our WMMW Closed FB Group tonight.

See you there,

Meg

'Boundaries' are a very 2019 conversation and YET most of us still don't really 'get' what a boundary is, or if we do - we don't know how to hold it in the face of it being challenged.

So, my gift to you these holidays is a conversation around boundaries. 

What they are.

How they work.

Why they are important.

And how to do them successfully!

xo,

Meg

Talking tonight about how we get in our own way when it comes to the holidays.

If you are someone (or married to someone) who;
* Gets discombobulated with all the changes to routines across the holidays
* Is asked to manage more than you can handle, and not really acknowledged for it
* Wants to enjoy the Holidays but finds all the moving parts hard to manage and then finds themselves becoming the version of themselves that gets angry/upset/stressed and THEN disconnects from everyone important to you while you try to settle yourself down

This is the message for you!

Happy Holidays everyone!

xo
Meg

Want to understand how these work? Where they come from? 

What to do about them in YOUR marriage? 

Tune in. Then let's talk. 

xo, 

Meg 

I'm answering a WMMW work community member question from Yvette today, who wants to know how to influence her husband who is using denial as a coping mechanism.

Denial is made up of avoidance and active resistance to growing/taking responsibility and doing hard things - I'll take you through all of this, and more.

The holidays are fast approaching, and now is the time for leadership. Let's do this friends!

I'm going to start by defining what infidelity is because it's actually far broader than many of us think.

Then we are going to cover what happens in a marriage where infidelity has occurred and exactly what needs to happen in order to GENUINELY repair the shattering of trust, commitment, and safety within the marriage.

I'm covering a really painful topic tonight. What divorce is, what it means, and what happens. Nope, not from a logistical standpoint -but instead, from a physiological, emotional and psychological perspective.

I'm talking about the impact on children, and the impact on you, and your husband.

I'm ALSO talking antidotes. Specifically, what to do to support yourself and your family. AND HOW to do it differently.

I regularly work with women navigating separation, and we are able to help them work through the repairs that need to happen, and to work through co-parenting challenges.

If you DON'T want to go through divorce and are ready, willing and able to work on your marriage - here's my Masterclass: https://bit.ly/2rXCt7K

Many people, very often women, use a part of their personality that we call 'The Controller/Scolder' to run their marriage (and perhaps their life).

We're going to explore this part of your personality and talk about why you use it, what you're trying to achieve when you activate it, and what the antidote is.

This is a deep dive into understanding self, and to understand others. You're not going to want to miss this!

xo,
Meg

P.S here's my Masterclass: https://bit.ly/2rXCt7K

Tonight we are MYTH BUSTING. You know that old adage, 'never go to sleep angry'?

I'm calling it - it is out of date and an inappropriate response to big feelings.

Talking tonight about why going to bed upset is ok and talking alternatives that WORK to help you process those big feelings.

Tune in for more details,

Meg

PS. Here's the link to my Masterclass -http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

Halloween is DONE.

Now the onslaught of holiday festivities!

This will make you happy if you have a way to ALLOW yourself to thoroughly enjoy this time of year, OR it will make you MISERABLE if you know it's going to add to the mental load you already carry.

If your marriage is in crisis, your holidays are going to be EVEN HARDER.

Talking tonight about your legacy, and the type of experience you want your husband and family to share with you.

I know it's tricky when you have YEARS of unresolved pain and grief/loss to show up and authentically be able to enjoy these holidays.

And so the call to action is to watch this live and DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT THIS YEAR.

Meg

PS. If you want to know more about my Masterclass, here's the link: http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

SUFFERING IN YOUR MARRIAGE?

Let's talk about the antidote,
xo,
Meg

PS. If you want to know more about my Masterclass, here's the link: http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

I’m sharing a story tonight about what I learned from Regional Australia and how they are coping with tough times.

They have found a way to rebuild when a Superhero failed to swoop in and grant them the return of 400 jobs that were abruptly taken away from their community of 1200 people.

Many moved away, but those that didn’t have found the antidote – and the way to rebuild after tremendous loss.

Their learnings mirrors what you are searching for my loves, so tune in to see how you can use their growth in your own life and marriage.

Xo,

Meg

P.S Here is the link to the Masterclass - http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

So… this is going to be a big topic for you and your brain.

I’m going to pull the curtain back on the resistances, defensiveness, the blaming and justification your brain gives you EVERY.SINGLE.TIME you go to make the decision to live your life differently.

Whether it’s to connect more deeply to yourself, or to repair and rebirth your marriage I’ll take you through the Top 4 defenses/resistances you and your brain will use to STOP that transformation every.single.time.

AND…. I’m going to give you the antidote. Because I love you.

Xo,

Meg

PS. To learn more about our model, here's a the link to my Masterclass:

https://bit.ly/2rXCt7K

What does it mean to belong? Why is it important?
Where does this need come from?

What’s the difference between Fitting In and Belonging (spoiler: huge).
What does it mean when I don’t belong to my husband or my marriage? Where do I begin in terms of moving closer and truly feeling safe in being together?

Talking ALLLL of this, and more tonight!

Xo,
Meg

P.S Here is the link to the Masterclass - http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

Please feel free to join our free, private Facebook Community - here's a link to join us
https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenMakingMarriagesWork/

Firstly, I LOVE Tina Turner.

Secondly, when it comes to marriage, when one person has low self esteem it causes ALL kinds of ripples that, left untended, turn into waves, that turn into storms that eventually end in divorce.

Let's discuss!

xo,

Meg

PS. If you want to know more about my Masterclass, here's the link: http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

I am answering a question from a wonderful woman in my FB Group Women Making Marriages Work about what to do when you don't like feeling anger and hatred towards your husband, and you don't know what to do when you are the only one who wants to make it work.

I'm going to get really clear with you on your choices here, and what you can create IF you choose to be vulnerable and courageous.

xo,

Meg

PS. If you want to know more about my Masterclass, here's the link: http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

We are talking about using family dinner time (and that might be you and your husband, or it might be you, your husband and your kids etc.) as an input into how well you are leading the culture of your family.

You KNOW how important it is for families to eat together, and yet most American families are spending less and less time at the table.

Let's TALK about WHY, and WHAT we can do to lead a different connected family life.

You're not going to want to miss this,

xo,

Meg

What does it mean when you don't feel like you're in a 'team' in your marriage?

Usually, you'll feel alone, isolated, lonely and bitter about it.
Humans don't like the sense of feeling alone.

When an affair is revealed, there are ALWAYS huge emotions, and all that has been simmering under the surfaces erupts.

What happens next is a circular conversation where NOTHING is truly resolved. Mostly because the formula of HOW to resolve it is unknown to the couple.

Today we are talking about common emotional consequences for the Hurt Person - that is, the person who didn't have the affair:

Imagining the details of the affair

Reliving the moment the affair was revealed

Avoidance and Numbing

Detachment/Disassociation/Isolation/Sense of limited future

Impairment of Sexuality and Intimacy

Hyper-arousal

Hyper vigilance/Anger Fits & Irritability/Sleep Disorders

Exaggerated/Strong Startle Response

During the time of an affair reveal EVERYTHING is unstable. There is NO safe place to land.

The Hurt Person worries that it is not possible to truly recover....

The Hurt Person worries that they will always feel a sense of betrayal and hesitancy to recommit....

The Hurt Person worries they will never feel safe again....

It's an intense time in a marriage. Often times counseling is sought, but mostly that counseling is INEFFECTIVE at genuinely healing the jagged edges of the betrayal so the marriage can be stronger than ever.

Join me to find out where to start to TRULY recover and repair a marriage that has been marked by an affair.

xo,

Meg

PS. To learn more about our model, here's a the link to my Masterclass:

https://bit.ly/2rXCt7K

LET'S TALK PORN: SPECIFICALLY HOW IT BREAKS MARRIAGES 

I posted a question on Porn in marriages earlier this week, and knew that I couldn't possibly type what I am about to cover in the FB Live.

So today we are going to MYTH BUST Porn.

We are going to dive into what Porn does to brains..

How porn deregulates intimate connection.

How using Porn to 'feel good' ultimately leads to feeling worse overall - just like when we use any kind of pleasure seeking behavior that isn't grounded in connection.

We KNOW that frequent Porn use (coupled with masturbation - at least with men), reduces the quality and quantity of sex in a committed marriage. 

While porn use can be a way for couples to openly discuss sex and improve their sex lives, which is a positive outcome, the negative consequences of excessive porn use, such as becoming conditioned to require porn to become sexually aroused or achieve orgasm, are SERIOUS.

Now let's talk about what to do if Porn is a problem in your Marriage.

xo,

Meg

Here is the link to the Masterclass - http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

Please feel free to join our free, private Facebook Community - here's a link to join us

https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenMakingMarriagesWork/ 

DATING YOUR HUSBAND...

I wrote a post in our Women Making Marriages Facebook Group this week about enjoying the process of dating your husband.

There was a lot of discussion about how this wasn't working for women.

There was too much disconnect.

There was avoidance/refusal and pain.

There was no KNOWN way forward.

Let's get to the bottom, of what's 'out of balance' for you as a couple, let's diagnose and make a plan.

xo,
Meg

Here is the link to the Masterclass - http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

Please feel free to join our free, private Facebook Community - here's a link to join us

https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenMakingMarriagesWork/

What are your 'go to' strategies when you feel slighted by your husband?

Avoidance? Cold Shoulder? Anger? Contempt? Criticism? Defensiveness?

When we choose these responses, we do so because we are hurting, and we attribute that hurt to our husbands.

So then we withdraw etc. to self soothe and also to punish/'teach him a lesson'.

But does it really work?

No.

In fact it's downright dangerous to do this too often in a marriage.

I'm going to talk about why and I'm going to show you how to choose a different path.

Here is the link to the Masterclass - http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

Please feel free to join our free, private Facebook Community - here's a link to join us

https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenMakingMarriagesWork/

SEX & INTIMACY - WHEN IT's JUST.NOT.WORKING/HAPPENING 

And you don't know why?

And it feels TERRIBLE in some ways....

And maybe you don't mind tooo much about missing out on sex (one less thing to do) in other ways.....

But you are REALLY missing your friend (husband)....

And no matter what you do... it's not working to come closer together.

WHY.

And HOW.

And WHAT HAPPENS NEXT?

Here is the link to the Masterclass - http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

Please feel free to join our free, private Facebook Community - here's a link to join us
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DIFFERENCES IN FINANCES!!

How to manage.... and how to thrive!

Here is the link to the Masterclass - http://bit.ly/mrwmasterclass

Please feel free to join our free, private Facebook Community - here's a link to join us
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WHAT ARE THE LIES YOU ARE TELLING YOURSELF?

I want to share a story with you today, about a client of mine - let's call her Christina. She booked a free Breakthrough session with me this morning and our call was extraordinary.

We went where she needed to go. To her truth.
And by truth, I mean, we got to the heart of the pain that she is experiencing in her life, and in her marriage.
It was NOT what she was expecting. She didn't realize that the lies she was telling herself were doing more harm then good.
Truthfully, she didn't realize she was telling herself lies at all.

That's the thing about our magnificent brains - sometimes these brains of ours distort reality as a means of coping and survival.
Is it good for us to believe everything our brains and body tell us? In short, no.

Tune in to find out why!

Masterclass link - https://bit.ly/2rXCt7K

Please feel free to join our free, private Facebook Community - here's a link to join us

https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenMakingMarriagesWork/ 

WHO I AM TODAY, IS NOT MY ENDGAME

* What does this mean?/Why is this even important?

* Why do I get [even more] freedom from knowing this?

* Now I get it, what do I do?

You're not going to want to miss this one!

Live from San Diego

Masterclass link - https://bit.ly/2rXCt7K

Please feel free to join our free, private Facebook Community - here's a link to join us

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How do we define it?
Why is it important?
How do we grow it?

Here is the link for the Masterclass - https://bit.ly/2rXCt7K

Here is the link to our free Facebook support group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenMakingMarriagesWork/

This old adage is tossed around all too frequently - and while it has SOME truth, the real truth?
We use it to AVOID doing our OWN work.
Let's discuss!

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Today we are talking about when you are TERRIFIED of being divorced. And exactly how that affects your marriage.

Hint: This fear does what ALL fears do - it makes you show up smaller, with less certainty and confidence - even to the point where you LOSE your identity.

And when you've lost your identity, how do you know what you even WANT in your life/marriage.

It's a big topic, and it's going to be fun to talk it through!

Talking about Couples Counseling.

The good, the bad and the low efficacy that most counsellors have in this space - and why.

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Here's the thing, trust is one of two key pillars in a marriage - think of those two pillars as foundational components of a marriage working, or not working.

When trust is low a marriage reverts to being about 'me', not 'we', because I can't trust you with my heart, my dreams and my life.
That starts off with a emotional tear in the fabric of trust, and if not mended, or repaired, becomes a jagged rift that is like a dark, gaping chasm between two people who used to be in love.

Eventually the two of you have breached the trust so many times without repairing it, your only option seems to be to avoid each other/the topic that hurts so much - which is a short term solution that won't hold you more than a few years, and does SO MUCH damage that it eventually leads to the second option, which is the conclusion that this marriage is not working, we may as well join the 50% statistic rate of separation or divorce that currently exists in the US.

What a masterful marriage has that a disaster-full marriage doesn't, is an overflow of trust. You can see it across all elements of the marriage - like running the house, parenting, emotional and physical support, but overwhelmingly, you can feel a sense that the marriage can go through ANY external event and the two of you remain a 'we' - where 'it's us against the world'. That's the kind of marriage you want.

Where trust abounds, and therefore love and connection flow easily, no matter the circumstance.

Want to know how to rebuild that trust? 

Tune in  to find out.

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