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Open minded discussions of habits, meditation, wisdom, depression, anxiety, happiness, psychology, philosophy, and motivation.
James Hollis is an American Jungian psychologist. He is a public speaker and the author of 16 books. He runs a private practice as a Jungian Psychoanalyst and is the Executive Director of the Jung Educational Center.
Eric and James have an interesting conversation about his newest book, Living Between Worlds: Finding Personal Resilience in Changing Times, his work with depth psychology, and what it means as we go through different passages in life.
If you are interested in learning more about how to integrate and embody spiritual principles into the moments of your daily life, Eric teaches people how to do just that in his 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. Click here for a free 30-minute call with Eric to learn more.
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In This Interview, James Hollis and I Discuss Living Between Worlds and…
- His book, Living Between Worlds: Finding Personal Resilience in Changing Times
- Depth Psychology is trying to engage and work with the unconscious
- Looking at the patterns in your life and working backward to see what produces behavior
- How dreams represent self-regulatory dimensions of the psyche
- As we have conversations with the external world, we must have one with our internal world
- Self is the guiding energy that tries to heal your wounds
- Self is the natural motive towards wholeness and development
- A passage is when something has died and you’re in between
- The first half of life is asking what the world is asking of me?
- The second half of life is asking what the soul is asking of me?
- Meaning is a by-product of being in the right relationship with one’s own soul
- Asking yourself what your fears make you do or keep you from doing?
- Investigating the archaic fear that is keeping us stuck
- The psyche’s agenda of growth and development
- The psyche’s agenda of self-healing
- The purpose of dreams
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This is Toni Bernhard’s second time as a guest on the show and we’re so glad to have her back. She is a former law professor at the University of California, a practicing Buddhist for 25 years, and the author of many books including the one she and Eric discuss in this episode, How to Be Sick: Your Pocket Companion.
Eric and Toni talk about her experience living with chronic illness, what she has learned and what she now has to teach others about how they might suffer less amidst their own experience with chronic pain and other long term health conditions.
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In This Interview, Toni Bernhard and I Discuss Living with Chronic Illness and…
- Her book, How to Be Sick: Your Pocket Companion
- How we can feel our emotions without necessarily feeding them
- That pushing feelings away in aversion just makes them stronger
- Repressing emotions intensifies them
- Her own experience with chronic illness
- The three components of pain
- Examining the meanings that we give things
- The liberating Zen teaching of “Don’t know mind”
- What to do when things don’t go our way
- Why it can be so hard to be kind to ourselves
- That being sick is part of being alive, not because you’re not doing something wrong
Toni Bernhard Links:
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Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Be one of the first thousand to sign up via www.skillshare.com/feed and you’ll get a FREE trial of Skillshare premium membership
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Living with Chronic Pain with Sarah Shockley
Alex Jamieson is a holistic weight loss and nutrition and lifestyle coach who has appeared on Oprah, Martha Stewart Living, CNN, Fox News, USA Today, and People Magazine.
Bob Gower is a consultant who helps organizations become future-ready and more effective. He has worked with leaders at organizations from multinationals like Chanel, Ford, and GE all the way to non-profits like New York Public Radio and The Studio Museum in Harlem.
In this episode, Eric, Alex, and Bob discuss the 4 prompts that can be used in any conversation to produce a better outcome for all people involved.
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As a Spiritual Director and Transformation Coach, Eric works with people to establish healthy habits for a better, more fulfilling life. If you’re curious to learn more about how you might work with him, click here to book a free (absolutely no pressure to sign up!) 30-minute consultation call with him.
In This Interview, Alex Jamieson and Bob Gower and I discuss Conversations for Radical Alignment and…
- Their book, Radical Alignment: How to Have Game-Changing Conversations That Will Transform Your Business and Your Life
- How their son’s diagnosis of dyslexia and ADHD got them both involved in positive psychology
- That we actually calm our nervous system when we speak our concerns out loud
- How helpful it can be to get specific about our fears
- The fact that we need to feel good physically to talk about important things
- The tools that helped them process emotions better
- The conversation formula of Intentions, Concerns, Boundaries, and Dreams
- Why, in a relationship, you should absolutely go to bed angry
- That the point of their method is to make more of the relationship iceberg visible
- The importance of inviting someone to a conversation (without saying “We need to talk”)
- Their suggestion to “Listen with compassion and curiosity and speak with courage and vulnerability.”
Alex Jamieson and Bob Gower Links:
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Teaching: "Don't Believe Your Thoughts"
Song: The Ghost of Rockschool by Belle and Sebastian
Poem: Everyday Grace by Stella Nesanovich
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Steven Kotler is a New York Times bestselling author, award-winning journalist, and the Executive Director of the Flow Research Collective. The author of 13 books, 9 of which best sellers, Steven is one of the world’s leading experts on human performance. His work has been nominated for two Pulitzer Prizes, translated into 40 languages, and has appeared in over 100 publications.
In this episode, Eric and Steven discuss his book, The Art of Impossible: A Peak Performance Primer. They break down the idea of “impossible” into its component parts that, when cultivated, come together to propel us towards states of flow and otherwise unattainable performance in any area of life.
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In This Interview, Steven Kotler and I discuss The Art of Impossible and…
- His book, The Art of Impossible: A Peak Performance Primer
- The fact that you “go where you look”, i.e. where you put your attention is where you end up
- His experience having Lymes Disease and his mystical experience when surfing one day
- The two types of impossible
- The neurobiology involved in the state of peak performance called “flow”
- How we can increase our motivation, learning, and creativity
- The fact that more “meaningful” does not always mean more “pleasant”
- The importance of getting very good at being uncomfortable when working towards our “impossible” goals
- Exercises people can do to find their curiosity
- That passion lies at the intersection of multiple curiosities
- An unexpected way to cultivate grit
- The five steps to learn anything
- Learning means being uncertain
- The process of “crawl, walk, run”
Steven Kotler Links:
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Literati Kids is a try-before-you-buy subscription club. Each month they deliver 5 vibrantly illustrated children’s books bringing the immersive magic of reading right to your home. You choose which ones you want to buy and then send the rest back for free. Head to www.literati.com/wolf for 25% off your first two orders.
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John Perkins is an author and activist whose 10 books on global intrigue, shamanism, and transformation have been on the New York Times Best Seller list for more than 70 weeks, sold over 2 million copies, and are published in at least 35 languages. John was formerly a chief economist at a major consulting firm advising the World Bank, United Nations, the U.S., and other governments. He is now the founder and board member of the Pachamama Alliance and Dream Change, non-profit organizations that partner with indigenous people to protect the environment and offer global programs to change the destructive ways of industrial societies.
In this episode, Eric and John discuss his book, “Touching the Jaguar: Transforming Fear into Action to Change Your Life and the World”, and the importance of understanding how our perceptions create our reality.
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In This Interview, John Perkins and I discuss How Our Perception Creates Reality and…
- His book, Touching the Jaguar: Transforming Fear into Action to Change Your Life and the World
- His past role as an “economic hit man
- A “death” economy is based on the perception of maximizing short term profits, regardless of the social and environmental costs
- The difference between capitalism and predatory capitalism
- How he learned the meaning of “touching the jaguar” (facing your fears)
- How changing your perception changes your reality
- A “life” economy is about maximizing long term benefits for people and the environment
- His work with the indigenous communities in the Amazon and how they came together after being “enemies”
- Understanding our power and our role as consumers and what we can do to contribute to a life economy
- Asking ourselves 5 important questions about contributing to a life economy:
- 1. What do I most want to do with my life?
- 2. How do I do this in a way that helps other people?
- 3. What’s holding me back?
- 4. How does “touching the jaguar” change your perceptions?
- 5. What actions do I take?
John Perkins Links:
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Upstart: The fast and easy way to get a personal loan to consolidate, lower your interest rate, and pay off your debt. Go to www.upstart.com/wolf
Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf
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Adrienne Bankert is an Emmy award-winning national news correspondent for ABC News, covering some of the most historic headlines of the past decade. She calls herself a “tour guide” – coaching and mentoring, teaching and speaking across the U.S. Her new book is called, Your Hidden Superpower: The Kindness That Makes You Unbeatable at Work and Connects You With Anyone.
In this episode, Eric and Adrienne talk about what it means to be kind – how to practice it, cultivate it within yourself, and how it can serve as your beacon and guide no matter the circumstances that come your way.
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In This Interview, Adrienne Bankert and I discuss How to Choose Kindness and…
- Her book, Your Hidden Superpower: The Kindness That Makes You Unbeatable at Work and Connects You With Anyone
- How helping others discover their purpose can also help you discover your own
- That kindness helps us turn away from self-focus and towards a focus on the needs of others
- The way kindness can be at the core of our identity
- Choosing kindness even when you don’t feel it
- How to grow in kindness
- Ways to respond kindly to people who are unkind to you
- Her favorite stories of kindness
- That kindness can be an anchor to us when we’re struggling or lost
- Practical ways to practice kindness
Adrienne Bankert Links:
Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Be one of the first thousand to sign up via www.skillshare.com/feed and you’ll get a FREE trial of Skillshare premium membership.
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Ralph De La Rosa is a psychotherapist in private practice and a seasoned meditation instructor. His work has been featured in The New York Post, CNN, Tricycle, GQ, SELF, Women’s Health, and many other publications and podcasts. Ralph regularly leads immersive healing retreats at Omega Institute, Spirit Rock, and Kripalu. His newest book is Don’t Tell Me to Relax: Emotional Resilience in the Age of Rage, Feels, and Freak Outs.
In this episode, Eric and Ralph talk about the energy of emotions and how bringing awareness and compassion to our strong emotions creates resilience within us.
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In This Interview, Ralph De La Rosa and I discuss The Energy of Emotions and…
- His book, Don’t Tell Me to Relax: Emotional Resilience in the Age of Rage, Feels, and Freak Outs
- How we are hard-wired for anxiety, fear, and anger
- Compassion is needed for the negative energies within us
- The two kinds of suffering, the one you turn toward and the other your turn towards
- Turning away from suffering and turning towards suffering
- Allowing our anger to come up, then mindfully speak for that anger
- Bringing awareness to strong emotions
- Listening and acknowledging your inner critic helps the anger move on
- The internal family systems (IFS) model of identifying all the parts of us here
- How emotions are a living energy within you
- Giving form and naming these emotions brings clarity
- The inner critic is a defensive energy that is trying to keep us safe
- How suffering points us to compassion
- Meditation is a training in remembering (to remember)
- Setting reminders on your phone or post-it notes on the mirror are tools to bring meditation practice into our daily lives
- Radical non-pathology is viewing symptoms as your body’s way of trying to working something out and not as problems.
- Curiosity is an extension of our basic wholeness
- Self is an ecosystem, where every part works together to produce longevity and vitality
- How everything in our world is trying to reflect ourselves back to us
- Understanding that anger is intelligent and how we have the power to not pass on our anger
Ralph De La Rosa Links:
KiwiCo: The subscription service that sends your child hands-on science, art, and geography projects each month to build confidence, creativity, and critical thinking skills. Get 30% off your first month plus free shipping on any crate line with the promo code FEED at www.KiwiCo.com
Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com
Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf
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Lodro Rinzler is the co-founder of MNDFL meditation studios, has taught meditation for 20 years in the Tibetan Buddhist tradition, and is the award-winning author of 7 books. He has spoken across the world at conferences, universities, and businesses as diverse as Google, Harvard University, and the White House.
In this episode, Eric and Lodro talk about his new book, Take Back Your Mind: Buddhist Advice for Anxious Times and they walk through many practical strategies to employ on the spot when you’re feeling stressed or anxious to help you come back to a sense of “okay-ness” in the present moment.
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In This Interview, Lodro Rinzler and I discuss Meditation for Anxious People and…
- His book, Take Back Your Mind: Buddhist Advice for Anxious Times
- The difference between anxiety and stress
- Useful vs Not Useful thinking
- What to do when thoughts come up during meditation
- The question “Is this helpful?”
- The question “Is this useful?”
- Discovering what happens when we unhook from anxious thoughts
- How to deliberately experience “30 seconds of contentment”
- Dispelling the myth that your mind is too busy to meditate
- Buddhists connecting our faith as being rooted in our direct experience
- How turning a boat one degree at a time leads to a completely different land
- Working with your mind vs your mind working you
- Meditating without judging ourselves
- Learning to be with difficult emotions through meditation
- Saying to yourself, “It’s ok to feel this”
- What it means to drop the story and feel the feeling
- Asking yourself, “What can I enjoy right now?”
- What it means to have a “thought party”
- The idea of “basic goodness”
- The metaphor of going to get a box of cereal from the grocery store when you already have a cupboard full
Lodro Rinzler Links:
Additional Resources from Lodro
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Literati Kids is a try-before-you-buy subscription club. Each month they deliver 5 vibrantly illustrated children’s books bringing the immersive magic of reading right to your home. You choose which ones you want to buy and then send the rest back for free. Head to www.literati.com/wolf for 25% off your first two orders.
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Stephen Nachmanovitch performs and teaches internationally as an improvisational violinist and at the intersection of music, dance, theatre, and multimedia arts. Stephen has presented masterclasses and workshops at Julliard and many conservatories and universities.
In this episode, Stephen and Eric discuss his new book, The Art of Is: Improvising as a Way of Life, which is an exploration of the creative process, especially the social dimensions of the creative process and a philosophical meditation on living, living fully, and living in the present.
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In This Interview, Stephen Nachmanovitch and I Discuss Improvising in Life and…
- His book, The Art of Is: Improvising as a Way of Life
- That creativity is absolutely worthless without an ethical foundation
- The ethics of creativity
- Buddhism and creativity
- Why improvisation is so important to him
- His interest in the creative process across all fields
- That the template for improvisation is conversation
- The role of listening and equality in improvisational music
- The relationship between impermanence, imperfection, and improvisation
- The relationship between chivalry and the phrase “yes, and…”
- That play isn’t what you do, it’s how you do it
- The relationship between discipline and freedom
- Art as the act of balancing
- How self correction is a lot easier without the added burden of guilt
- The metaphor of a child learning to walk and the approach of “positive feedback only”
- What it means to “stamp out nouns”
- That when you create something that’s “original” it means, simply, that you are the origin
Stephen Nachmanovitch Links:
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Finding Your Creativity with Julia Cameron
Dr. Stuart Eisendrath is the founding Director of the University of California San Francisco Depression Center where he served as the Professor of Psychiatry. His newest book is When Antidepressants Aren’t Enough: Harnessing the Power of Mindfulness to Alleviate Depression. This book aims to take the reader through steps they can utilize to gain relief from depression and anxiety.
In this episode, Dr. Eisendrath and Eric discuss his new book about how mindfulness can help alleviate depression when anti-depressants aren’t enough.
If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you.
To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.
But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!
In This Interview, Dr. Stuart Eisendrath and I discuss Mindfulness for Depression and…
- His book, When Antidepressants Aren’t Enough: Harnessing the Power of Mindfulness to Alleviate Depression
- Changing the relationship with depressive thoughts from dominating presence to peaceful coexistence
- Learning to interpret our thoughts in a different way
- Dealing with self-criticism
- Ruminating and how being stuck in the downward spiral leads to more depression
- The simple meditation practice of counting each breath
- When the thoughts are creating an internal storm
- How the most powerful thoughts are usually our own ideas that we’re applying in the present
- Determining the difference between facts and thoughts
- False evidence and the importance of gathering more information to see if it’s true
- Asking if there are other explanations to explain these feelings
- The trap of depression: thinking we’ll act when we feel better and how we actually feel better once we act.
- Taking action when we don’t feel like it
- The importance of movement and being active when depressed
- Happiness equals achievements divided by expectations
- How depression can create distorted views
- Changing perspective by focusing on very small actions
- Replacing the thought of “I should…” with “it would be nice if…”
- How mindfulness brings us into the present moment
- How depressive thoughts are about the past and anxious thoughts are about the future
- Resistance amplifies emotional pain and increases suffering
- Thinking of feeling depressed as the weather
Dr. Stuart Eisendrath Links:
Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.
Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Be one of the first thousand to sign up via www.skillshare.com/wolf and you’ll get a FREE trial of Skillshare premium membership.
Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com
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Maggie Smith is a poet whose work has been widely published, anthologized, and has appeared in Best American Poetry, the New York Times, The New Yorker and elsewhere. Her latest book, Keep Moving: Notes on Loss, Creativity, and Change, a collection of essays and quotes, is a national bestseller.
In this episode, Maggie and Eric discuss this new book and how for her, writing poetry is having a conversation with herself, problem solving, and healing on paper.
If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you.
To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.
But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!
In This Interview, Maggie Smith and I discuss Writing for Healing and…
- Her book, Keep Moving: Notes on Loss, Creativity, and Change
- The dark time in her life that gave birth to her growth
- How hope is imaginative and necessary if you’re to come out of difficulty
- The role of endurance in healing
- Gratitude as a practice even in the darkest times
- That big life changes are often identity issues that cause us to ask “who am I now?”
- Another meaning to the phrase “it’s always something!”
- The reality that we pave the path of the future one step at a time
- Her experience as a recovering pessimist
- The difference between her poetry and her essays
- The role of setting in her poetry
- How it never feels good in the long run to have done the wrong thing
- Post Traumatic Growth
Maggie Smith Links:
KiwiCo: The subscription service that sends your child hands-on science, art, and geography projects each month to build confidence, creativity, and critical thinking skills. Get 30% off your first month plus free shipping on any crate line with the promo code FEED at www.KiwiCo.com
FitTrack Dara Smart Scale: It accurately measures 17 vital health metrics including body composition, hydration levels, and so much more. Stop measuring weight and start measuring health with FitTrack. Go to www.getfittrack.com/wolf to get 50% off your order – plus! for a limited time, you’ll save an additional 10%!
Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf
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Dr. Jud Brewer is a thought leader in the field of habit change and the science of self-mastery. He is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in psychiatry at the School of Medicine at Brown University.
In this episode, Eric and Dr. Jud talk about his book, Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind and they explore something called the Habit Loop, using it to understand and heal difficult emotions like anxiety.
If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you.
To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.
But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!
In This Interview, Dr. Jud Brewer and I discuss Habits for Healing Anxiety and…
- His book, Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind
- Reward-Based Learning
- Trigger, Behavior, Result
- The Habit Loop
- Addiction defined as continued use despite adverse consequences
- Habits: Set and Forget
- How if we don’t pay attention to how rewarding the habit is right now, we can’t change the behavior
- How to heal anxiety as well as emotional eating using the Habit Loop
- The role of curiosity in healing anxiety
- Learning to be with difficult emotions and learning to allow them to pass
- How to remember to be mindful throughout the day
Dr. Jud Brewer Links:
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Mirabai Starr is an award-winning author of creative non-fiction and contemporary translations of sacred literature. She taught Philosophy and World Religions at the University of New Mexico-Taos for 20 years and now teaches and speaks internationally on contemplative practice and inter-spiritual dialog. Her latest book is called, WILD MERCY: Living the Fierce & Tender Wisdom of the Women Mystics.
In this episode, Eric and Mirabai explore the intersection of interspirituality and the divine feminine – specifically, as it shows up in her life and in the life of the women mystics whose stories she tells.
It’s *finally* a new year! While there’s no doubt that 2021 will have its challenges, there is so much you can do to make it a wonderful year for you on a personal level.
If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you.
To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.
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In This Interview, Mirabai Starr and I discuss the Divine Feminine and…
- Her book, WILD MERCY: Living the Fierce & Tender Wisdom of the Women Mystics
- A few of her favorite women mystics
- The Divine Feminine Energy
- Belief structures that no longer serve us well
- Being engaged in the world as a spiritual practice
- How drawing from many spiritual traditions is like digging one well with many different tools
- The way she has created her spiritual practice over time
- Feminine wisdom teachings
- The morning rituals that start her day
- The practice of the Sabbath
- The link between creativity, spirituality, and mysticism
Mirabai Starr Links:
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Talkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.
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Sensei Koshin Paley Ellison is a Zen teacher and co-founder with his partner, Sensei Chodo Robert Campbell, of the New York Zen Center of Contemplative Care. He’s also an author, a Jungian psychotherapist, and a Certified Chaplaincy Educator.
In this episode, Koshin Paley and Eric discuss his newest book, Wholehearted: Slow Down, Help Out, Wake Up, and how we can live in such a way that we integrate all of the parts of ourselves into a loving, wholehearted being.
As we approach a new year, there’s no doubt that 2021 will have its challenges, but there is so much you can do to make it a wonderful year for you on a personal level.
If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you.
To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.
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In This Interview, Koshin Paley and I discuss Becoming Wholehearted and…
- His book, Wholehearted: Slow Down, Help Out, Wake Up
- The comment from a stranger that helped shape his path
- The problem with being a “lone wolf”
- How to work with your preferences in a skillful way
- The importance of being open to learning from whatever is happening
- Learning to see your friends and enemies as equals
- The bridge of compassion
- His practice to cultivate unconditional love
- Wholehearted as integrating oneself and one’s life
- Life as a journey of endlessly unfolding
- “Good enough” community and sangha
- Learning to be at one with our own pain because it is the place of freedom
Koshin Paley Ellison Links:
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Wim Hof is a Dutch extreme athlete noted for his ability to withstand freezing temperatures. Wim has set world records for swimming under ice and prolonged full-body contact with ice and still holds the record for a barefoot half marathon on ice and snow. He attributes these feats to the technique outlined in his book, The Wim Hof Method.
In this episode, Wim and Eric talk about how we can cultivate strength, resilience, and healing within ourselves using the three techniques outlined in his method.
As we approach a new year, there’s no doubt that 2021 will have its challenges, but there is so much you can do to make it a wonderful year for you on a personal level.
If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you.
To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.
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In This Interview, Wim Hof and I Discuss Mind Over Matter and…
- His book, The Wim Hof Method
- How he developed his indomitable spirit at 12 years old
- Why he chooses discomfort over comfort every day
- The role of hormetic stress in awakening our inner strength
- Our innate capacity to deal with disease
- The three components of The Wim Hof Method
- How we can engage in daily cold exposure
- Breathing techniques to support the immune system
- The science that supports The Wim Hof Method
Wim Hof Links:
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Dr. Aziz Gazipura is a clinical psychologist and one of the worlds leading experts on social confidence. After being stuck in shyness and social anxiety himself for almost 10 years, he became determined to find a way to social freedom.
In this episode, Eric and Aziz discuss his book, On My Own Side: Transform Self Criticism And Self Doubt Into Permanent Self Worth And Confidence. They dive into the connection between our inner critic and social anxiety and talk about how to transform your inner world into one that is supportive and ultimately freeing.
As we approach a new year, there’s no doubt that 2021 will have its challenges, but there is so much you can do to make it a wonderful year for you on a personal level.
If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you.
To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.
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In This Interview, Dr. Aziz Gazipura and I Discuss Transforming Your Inner Critic and…
- His book, On My Own Side: Transform Self Criticism And Self Doubt Into Permanent Self Worth And Confidence
- Misconceptions about what it means to be on our own side or practice self-compassion
- What it means to run on “clean” or “dirty” fuel when it comes to how we motivate ourselves
- Why self-affirmations often don’t work very well
- Internal family systems
- How to work skillfully with our inner critic
- When reason doesn’t eliminate the feeling inside of us
- That there is no fundamental protection from all pain, danger, and loss
- The role of empathy when addressing our inner critic
- That the inner critic represents fear within us
- The 5 steps to tame your inner critic
- Taking time to decide who is the head of your “Inner household”
- The internal mantra of “We can handle what comes our way”
- Cultivating the skills that allow us to step into our uncomfortable emotions
Dr. Aziz Gazipura Links:
Pachamama: Produces extraordinary high quality, organic CBD products. Out of 248 CBD brands, they are one of four to receive the purity award from The Clean Label Project. Visit www.enjoypachamama.com and use code WOLF for 25% off.
Plushcare: Provides excellent primary and urgent healthcare through virtual appointments. It’s easy to book online and you can even get same-day appointments. They accept most major insurance carriers, are available in all 50 states and you get prescriptions sent to your local pharmacy. To start your free 30-day trial, go to www.plushcare.com/wolf
Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf
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Sonia Roberts is an educator, writer, creator, and activist. Sonia writes about racism, spirituality, parenting, and much more in her Spiritually Speaking blog. Her first book is White Ally: A Guide To Cultivating A Deeply Spiritual Anti-Racism Practice.
In this episode, Eric and Sonia explore the intersection of transformational inner work within ourselves and transformational outer work in the world, specifically when it comes to practicing anti-racism.
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In This Interview, Sonia Roberts and I Discuss Spirituality and Anti-Racism and…
- Her book, White Ally: A Guide To Cultivating A Deeply Spiritual Anti-Racism Practice
- The intersection of transformational inner work within ourselves as well as transformational outer work in the world
- Transforming suffering into something beautiful
- Yogas ten guidelines, the Yamas and Niyamas
- Instances when it’s not necessarily beneficial for Black people to share their personal stories of experiences with racism
- The way that yoga and meditation practices can be instrumental in facilitating social change
- The ethical components that underlie yoga
- The practice of gratitude amidst privilege
- Identifying the places of your privilege and subsequently acting in service of those who are marginalized
- The idea of intent vs. impact in matters of race and racism
- The difference between being shamed and being held accountable
Sonia Roberts Links:
Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Be one of the first thousand to sign up via www.skillshare.com/wolf and you’ll get a FREE trial of Skillshare premium membership.
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Paria Hassouri is a pediatrician, writer, transgender rights activist, wife and mother of three children. Her personal essays have been published in the New York Times, Washington Post, LA Times, Huffington Post, and many more.
In this episode, Eric and Paria talk about her book, Found In Transition: A Mother’s Evolution During Her Child’s Gender Change. Her story of understanding, accepting, and ultimately supporting her daughter as a transgender girl is so honest and beautiful and inspiring.
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In This Interview, Paria Hassouri and I Discuss Parenting a Transgender Child and…
- Her book, Found In Transition: A Mother’s Evolution During Her Child’s Gender Change
- The question, “Am I acting out of love or am I acting out of fear?”
- The story of her middle child coming out as a trans girl
- The process she went through of educating herself about transgender children and teenagers
- The factors that ultimately guided her towards supporting her child’s transition
- The change that shifted her outlook and her child’s outlook for the future
- Her journey through denial, anger, acceptance, support, and ultimately celebration about her child’s transition
- Her internal struggle about her child’s transition
- The power of finding people who have been through what you’re going through
- The stories we make up about our identities – and how they can change
Paria Hassouri Links:
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Talkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.
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Allyship and Activism with Jamia Wilson
Cory Allen is a writer, musician, meditation teacher, and creator of the podcast, The Astral Hustle, which focuses on how to live better with leading experts in mindfulness, neuroscience, and philosophy. Cory believes that the more we understand ourselves, the less we suffer.
In this episode, Cory and Eric discuss his book, Now Is The Way: An Unconventional Approach To Modern Mindfulness.
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In This Interview, Cory Allen and I Discuss Cultivating Mindfulness and…
- His book, Now Is The Way: An Unconventional Approach To Modern Mindfulness
- The role of our actions in determining who we are
- How to differentiate between helpful and unhelpful negative thoughts and emotions
- The most effective way to widen the gap between stimulus and response
- The watching mind and the doing mind
- Why the notions of emptiness and non-self needn’t be scary
- The answer to the question, “Does my life even matter?”
- How we assign meaning rather than find meaning in life
- What it means to dilute strong emotions or ruminating thoughts when they arise
Cory Allen Links:
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Bina Venkataraman is an American journalist, author, and science policy expert. She is currently the Editorial Page Editor of The Boston Globe and a fellow at New America. Bina is a frequent public speaker whose appearances have included the TED mainstage, NPR, Aspen Ideas, MSNBC, CNN, and university campuses around the world. Bina formerly served as Senior Advisor for Climate Change Innovation in the Obama White House and she also advised the President’s Council of Advisors on Science and Technology in responding to the Ebola epidemic, promoting patient access to cancer therapies, and reforming public school science education.
In this episode, Bina and Eric discuss her book, The Optimist’s Telescope: Thinking Ahead in a Reckless Age, and how we can live in the present in such a way that we also create the future that we’d like to inhabit.
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In This Interview, Bina Venkataraman and I Discuss Effectively Thinking Ahead and…
- Her book, The Optimist’s Telescope: Thinking Ahead in a Reckless Age
- How to make decisions about the future
- The untold story of the marshmallow test
- How most people don’t look past 15 years in the future
- Tools for more effectively imagining the future
- Tools for more effectively planning for the future
- Being present while also orienting for the future
- When we’re more likely to make bad decisions
- The role of implementing impulse buffers
- When an “if/then” strategy can be most helpful to you
- How our past informs our view of the future
- Social movements that influence lasting change
Bina Venkataraman Links:
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Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf
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IN-Q is an award-winning poet, best-selling author, and multi-platinum songwriter. His groundbreaking achievements include being named to Oprah’s SuperSoul 100 list of the world’s most influential thought leaders, being the first spoken word artist to perform with Cirque Du Soleil, and being featured on A&E, ESPN, and HBO’s Def Poetry Jam. He’s inspired audiences around the world through his live performances and storytelling workshops. Many of his recent poetry videos have gone viral with over 70 million views combined.
When IN-Q reads or recites his poetry, it is a moving, powerful experience. In this episode, he reads several of his poems and he and Eric talk about many aspects of life and how he expresses those aspects through his poetry.
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In This Interview, IN-Q and I Discuss Life Through Poetry and…
- His book, Inquire Within
- How it’s easier to hate than to create but creating is a lot more satisfying
- That for him, poetry is either purging or praying or both
- How we’re all storytellers
- That everything is a spiritual practice
- How we’re afraid to be a student at something, to look foolish, but if we never look foolish, we’ll never be brilliant
- His poem, Inquire Within
- The way spirituality is logical for him
- The role that gratitude plays in his life
- How his work holds paradoxes
- His poem, Problems
- The ways enlightenment can sneak into our lives
- His two definitions of hope
- Seeing the difficult reality while also holding hope for better
IN-Q Links:
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Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Be one of the first thousand to sign up via www.skillshare.com/wolf and you’ll get a FREE trial of Skillshare premium membership.
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Ella Frances Sanders is an internationally-bestselling author and illustrator of three books. Her third book, Eating the Sun: Small Musings on a Vast Universe, was the recipient of the 2019 Whirling Prize for Prose and has been translated into many languages.
In this episode, Eric and Ella have a delicious conversation about this lovely book that contains all sorts of interesting facts and beautiful illustrations about our universe and how we as humans relate to such things.
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In This Interview, Ella Frances Sanders and I Discuss her Musings on a Vast Universe and…
- Her book, “Eating the Sun: Small Musings on a Vast Universe”
- Her take on the wolf parable and how it’s about choosing possibility over panic
- How moving slowly helps us notice a lot of what’s good
- Our relationship to plants and to the sun
- How giving plants human characteristics helps us connect and care about them
- The challenge in understanding the scale of things
- We see things through filters without thinking about it
- How science works with laws and things that we know are true
- Our choices are affected by how we are influenced by the world around us
- How the universe is moving toward ultimate chaos
- Our memories are susceptible to alterations and get filtered through the present moment
- How we are only remembering the last time we remembered
- Stressful situations can affect memory
- The half-life of facts is the amount of time it takes for a fact to become untrue
Ella Frances Sanders Links:
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Due to the ongoing global pandemic, devastating natural disasters, contentious elections, and instances of heartbreaking violence and injustice, challenging times continue. To help you strengthen your resilience, we’re releasing this special episode which features all-new interviews with 4 previous guests of the show. The guests of this special episode are Ellen Bass, Parker Palmer, Spring Washam, and Ralph De La Rosa.
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In This Interview, We Discuss Resilience During Difficult Times and…
- How art can help us connect with our inner experience during challenging times
- Ellen Bass’ motto to cultivate resilience: “work more, worry less”
- That if we can get the step small enough, there’s always a positive step we can take to help
- The impact of taking care of ourselves on other people
- The importance of cultivating gratitude for small things
- When our hearts are broken open, they grow larger
- Learning to value small actions
- The motto: “if you can’t get out of it, get into it
- The importance of literally changing the channel to limit our intake of distressing news
- How to be in the world but not of the world
- Working with fear skillfully
- How mind and body parallel themselves
- Making time to allow, be with, and be in our emotions
- The importance of metabolizing and digesting our emotions
- How we’re designed to go through stress and bounce back
Other Links:
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Special Episode #1: How to Work from Home
Special Episode #2: Strategies for Emotional Health
Dr. Shauna Shapiro is a professor, best-selling author, clinical psychologist, and internationally recognized expert in mindfulness and compassion. She has published over 150 journal articles and 3 critically acclaimed books translated into 16 languages. Her most recent book is called, Good Morning, I Love You: Mindfulness and Self Compassion Practices to Rewire Your Brain for Calm, Clarity, and Joy.
In this episode, Eric and Shauna Shapiro talk about how we can cultivate transformative mindfulness through daily practices that nurture kindness and compassion towards ourselves.
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In This Interview, Dr. Shauna Shapiro and I Discuss Transformative Mindfulness and…
- Her book, Good Morning, I Love You: Mindfulness and Self Compassion Practices to Rewire Your Brain for Calm, Clarity, and Joy
- How she first learned the idea that what you practice grows stronger
- Why your attitude and how you pay attention is so important when it comes to mindfulness
- 3 pillars of mindfulness
- What she learned from studying shame
- The effectiveness of self-compassion
- The ways mindfulness prepares the mind for learning
- The difference between mindfulness and meditation
- What your mood in the morning and your mood in the evening says about your longevity
- The question you can ask yourself in the morning to prime your mind to look for the good throughout the day
- The ways mindfulness can lose its transformative power
- Self-improvement vs Self-liberation
- How perfection is the antithesis of evolution
- The benefits of a regular meditation practice
- Her practice of “Good Morning, I Love You”
Dr. Shauna Shapiro Links:
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Transparent Labs offer a variety of supplements and protein powders that include science-based ingredients and have no sugar, fat, lactose, artificial colors or sweeteners. Check out Eric’s favorite, 100% Grass-Fed Whey Isolate that comes in many delicious flavors. Visit transparentlabs.com and use Promo code WOLF to receive 10% off your order.
Talkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.
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Self Compassion with Kristin Neff
Dr. Ken Druck is a leading mental health expert in the areas of civility, relationships, and aging. Ken writes regularly for the national press and he is the author of several books including the one discussed in this episode, Raising an Aging Parent: Guidelines for Families in the Second Half of Life.
In this episode, Eric and Dr. Ken Druck talk about caring for an aging parent, finding meaning after great loss, helping ourselves receive the love that’s offered to us, and how to live through the difficult nature of the difficult situations we will face in our lives.
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In This Interview, Dr. Ken Druck and I Discuss Raising an Aging Parent, and…
- His book, Raising an Aging Parent: Guidelines for Families in the Second Half of Life
- Standing in the ashes of your “Plan A” in life
- The tragedy of the death of his daughter
- The choice to make your pain the central organizing principle of your life or choosing a life where purpose and meaning are the central organizing principles
- Our wholeness coming out of brokeness
- How aging is grieving the loss of our younger self and accepting yourself as you are today
- Living in a “both-and” rather than an “either-or” world
- That when we care for an aging parent, we’re giving life back to the parents that gave life to us
- Giving our parents the good things we have in our hearts to give as they face some of the biggest challenges of their lives
- The importance of being a healthy caregiver and not becoming a “slave caregiver”
- Figuring out what is “enough” as a caregiver
- Allowing ourselves to receive the love as our parents offer it, rather than waiting for the way we want it
- Figuring out what stands in the way of us receiving other people’s love, gratitude, and generosity
- Showing ourselves compassion in moments of difficult decisions
- The work and legacy of an aging parent
- Putting our house in order
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Julia Cameron is an American teacher, author, artist, poet, playwright, novelist, filmmaker, and much more. She is best known for her book, “The Artist’s Way.“
In this episode, in addition to discussing her book, “The Artist’s Way,” Eric and Julia talk about finding your creativity and her famous practice known as “Morning Pages.”
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In This Interview, Julia Cameron and I Discuss Finding Your Creativity and…
- Her book, “The Artist’s Way“
- Her many strategies for feeding her good wolf
- Creative recovery is the process of tracking back to our original selves
- Creativity as a spiritual practice
- “Morning Pages” is her daily practice of writing 3 pages longhand about anything that is on your mind first thing in the morning
- The importance of writing no more or no less than the 3 pages.
- Morning pages are aimed at moving out of inertia into action.
- Learning to write past our inner critic is how we train ourselves to move past fear
- Cloud thoughts are the thoughts that drift into your consciousness that are not connected to anything
- Morning pages are your tough love friend and are not meant to be reread
- Creativity can come from happiness as well as pain
- The reward for paying attention is a sense of well being that counters loneliness
- “Artist Dates” are expeditions out of your house that you find delightful or brings you joy
- The myth that artists are born and not made
- How perfectionism stands between you and your creativity
- The process of creativity is more important than the end product
- Moving past perfectionism with your morning pages
- Walking is another important creative tool
- The secret doubt is our skeptical sense that a higher power isn’t interested in us.
- The voice of guidance is kind, intuitive, truthful, and supportive
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James Kingsland is a science and medical journalist with 25 years of experience working for publications such as New Scientist, Nature, and, most recently, The Guardian. On his own blog, Plastic Brain, he writes about neuroscience and Buddhist psychology.
In this episode, Eric and James Kingsland discuss his book, Am I Dreaming: The Science of Altered States from Psychedelics to Virtual Reality and Beyond.
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In This Interview, James Kingsland and I Discuss the Neuroscience Behind Our Reality, and…
- His book, Am I Dreaming: The Science of Altered States from Psychedelics to Virtual Reality and Beyond
- What the best neuroscience tells us about how the brain works
- That we don’t see the world directly, objectively as it is
- Our experiential reality as a combination of what we expect to see and the feedback from what our senses are telling us is there
- Prediction Error Coding
- How the brain mainly pays attention when you surprise it
- That the Buddha discovered that we see a conditioned view of the world
- The types of things that go wrong in the brain
- Viewing mental illness and addiction through the prediction functionality of the brain
- How altered states can help when things go wrong in the brain
- Expanded the flexibility of the brain
- What happens in the brain during sleep and dreaming
- His experience with hypnosis
- Active Inference
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Dr. Judith Grisel is a professor of Psychology at Bucknell University. Judith is a behavioral neuroscientist with a particular interest in addiction. Her work includes trying to determine what is different about people who develop drug addictions before they ever try a drug.
In this episode, Judith and Eric discuss her book, “Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction” where she shares her personal experience of overcoming addiction as well as her passion for research into the neuroscience of addiction.
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In This Interview, Judith Grisel and I Discuss the Neuroscience of Addiction, and…
- Her book, Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction"
- Channeling her strong will and enthusiasm for addiction into recovery
- Focusing on what she wanted rather than what she didn't want
- The complexity of addiction is there are so many factors that lead to it
- Nature via nurture as well as the inherited risks of addiction
- The increased risk of teenagers with addictive disorders when using drugs or alcohol while the brain is still developing.
- The neural states associated with addiction also come from our history, culture, socialization, communication, and even microbiomes.
- The "debt of addiction is accrued when borrowing good feelings from the future is due"
- Mechanisms of what happens in the brain when abusing substances
- Tolerance is when the brain adapts and counteracts the effects of the drug
- Dependence is when you no longer like yourself without the drug
- Younger adults may be more prone to addiction, but also more resilient.
- Her experience of receiving tough love from her parents that ultimately led to recovery.
- How isolation causes addiction and addiction causes isolation
- Connection is crucial in the process of recovery
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Brad Warner is an ordained Zen teacher and the author of many books, including There is No God and He is Always With You, Zen Wrapped in Karma Dipped in Chocolate, and Hardcore Zen, Brad is the creator of the “Hardcore Zen” blog and YouTube Channel and is also a punk rock bass player in the band, Zero Defex. He has published work in Buddhist magazines Shambala Sun, Buddha Dharma, and Tricycle as well as rock magazines such as Alternative Press, Maximum Rock and Roll, and Razorcake.
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In This Interview, Brad Warner and I Discuss Hardcore Zen and …
- His book, “Letters to a Dead Friend About Zen”
- Absolute truth and relative truth
- The Buddhist precepts – there are no universal rules that apply to everything
- The universe is a living entity that is affected by our actions
- Why he wrote this book for his friend who died
- Iceberg metaphor – what can be seen is what we know about ourselves, but we also have unseen and unknowable parts of ourselves.
- His thoughts on Buddha being a genius
- The Buddha, the Dharma, and the Sangha
- A goal of not having a goal is also a goal
- Being in a goal-oriented society
- Seeing things as they are and realizing that we’re wrong
- The challenge of accepting our current reality as how it's supposed to be and not how we want it to be.
- Working with our desires for things to be a certain way
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Kelly Wilson, Ph.D., is a Professor of psychology at the University at Mississippi. He is Past President of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science, and winner of the University of Mississipi’s prestigious Elsie M. Hood Outstanding Teacher Award. Dr. Wilson is one of the co-developers of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and has written several books, including Things Might Go Terribly, Horribly Wrong: A Guide to Life Liberated from Anxiety.
In this episode, Kelly Wilson and Eric discuss his approach to helping others to become liberated from their anxiety.
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In This Interview, Kelly Wilson and I Discuss Being Liberated from Anxiety and…
- His book, Things Might Go Terribly, Horribly Wrong: A Guide to Life Liberated from Anxiety.
- Anxiety is not as a disease or that we’re broken
- His past view of vulnerability as being the enemy
- His theory that 1 out of 2 people has experienced some form of suffering or hardship in their life
- How labels can obscure a person
- Before talking about acceptance, it’s important to understand what matters.
- His approach to this therapy is about the direction towards what you love rather than just eliminating symptoms.
- Your suffering may be due to how it’s being carried, not that it’s being carried.
- Facing our difficulties is how we come to understand what courage and sacrifice look like
- Values and vulnerability as a starting place in therapy
- Identifying what would make the hardest thing worthwhile
- When we don’t know our values, identify where it hurts
- If the burden could be lifted, what would you allow?
- Reclaiming what we value by taking redemptive action
- The next right thing is acknowledging where you’ve been wrong
- Committed action is just the next action that brings you back to who you want to be
- It’s all about moving in the right direction, not the distance
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Spring Washam is a well-known meditation and dharma teacher based in Oakland, California. She is a founding member and core teacher at the East Bay Meditation Center located in downtown Oakland. She is the founder of Lotus Vine Journeys an organization that blends indigenous healing practices with Buddhist wisdom. In addition to being a teacher, she is also a healer, facilitator, spiritual activist, and writer. Spring is considered a pioneer in bringing mindfulness-based healing practices into diverse communities and is committed to enriching the lives of disenfranchised people everywhere.
In this episode, Spring Washam and Eric talk about how we can foster deep transformation within ourselves and our world.
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In This Interview, Spring Washam and I Discuss Deep Transformation and…
- Her book, A Fierce Heart: Finding Strength, Courage, and Wisdom in Any Moment
- Balancing action and contemplation
- Focusing on what you are fighting for (not just what you’re fighting against)
- Her constant, daily practice of forgiveness
- Uprooting greed, hatred, and delusion to heal her heart and mind
- Her profound experiences of interconnectedness
- Why she takes things far less personally now but still feels the pain of life
- The deep shift in the heart that transforms someone into an antiracist
- Her Sunday program: The Church of Harriet Tubman & The Underground Railroad Crew
- Connecting to our ancestors and learning from history
- How no one is exempt from the 10,000 joys and the 10,000 sorrows of life
- The way faith in a bigger, loving force can lead to beautiful transformation when pain in life happens to us
- The lawful unfolding of the universe
- Waking up to our innate Buddha nature
- Transforming difficulty into growth
- Giving our suffering meaning for transformation
- Dropping into the body to feel the energy and find the blocks in the heart
- Getting curious when we feel triggered
- Being afraid of our feelings blocks our transformation
- Meeting our numbness with loving self care
- Developing self-compassion and compassion for others
- Separation being at the core of many of our wounds
- That our whole journey is about letting go
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Ibram X. Kendi is an American author, historian, and scholar of race and discriminatory policy in America. He is the Director for the Center for Antiracist Research at Boston University and he received the National Book Award for Non-Fiction for his book, Stamped From The Beginning: The Definitive History Of Racist Ideas In America. In this episode, Ibram X. Kendi and Eric talk about his recent book, How To Be An Antiracist.
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In This Interview, Ibram X. Kendi and I Discuss Being an Antiracist and…
- His book, How To Be An Antiracist
- How he defines the word “racist”
- The problem at the core of racism
- How to determine if a policy is racist or antiracist
- Racial discrimination
- Differentiating between people and policies
- The importance of viewing individual behaviors
- How mistakes impact people of different races
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Sasha Sagan is a writer who has also worked as a television producer, filmmaker, editor, and speaker. Sasha’s writing has appeared in New York Magazine, O Magazine, Literary Hub, and others. Her latest book is called, For Small Creatures Such As We: Rituals For Finding Meaning In Our Unlikely World.
In this episode, Sasha Sagan and Eric talk about bringing a sense of sacredness to a scientific world, maintaining our awe and wonder, and the role and importance of ritual in our lives.
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In This Interview, Sasha Sagan and I Discuss Science, the Sacred, and…
- Her book, For Small Creatures Such As We: Rituals For Finding Meaning In Our Unlikely World
- Maintaining our sense of awe even as we discover the explanations for things
- Sitting with the discomfort of not knowing to foster wonder
- Following our curiosity and having questions as we follow the threads to discovery
- Going through the right of passage of an existential crisis
- The fact that things end makes them precious
- How so much of ritual is processing change
- Ritual being a 3 step path from a state of separateness to a state of togetherness
- The wisdom in having rituals that mark time
- Creating rituals
- The positive and negative of our human tendency to find patterns
- Tolerating ambiguity
- The need for nuance
- Interconnectedness
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Albert Flynn DeSilver is an American poet, memoirist, novelist, speaker, and workshop leader. He is the author of several books of poems, a memoir titled “Beamish Boy (I am not my story): A Memory of Recovery and Awakening”, and the book discussed in this episode: Writing as a Path to Awakening: A Year to Becoming an Excellent Writer and Living an Awakened Life
In this episode, Albert Flynn DeSilver and Eric talk about using writing, poetry, and contemplative practices as a way to guide us on the path to awakening to our true selves.
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In This Interview, Albert Flynn DeSilver and I Discuss Writing as a Path to Awakening and…
- Attention and action are needed to transcend our conditioning
- Awakening means waking up to the reality of existence, that we are not our minds
- Waking up to our true nature as opposed to conditioned nature
- How writing is a creative act that can wake us up to full potentiality or higher truth
- Writing and meditation as contemplative practices that support each other.
- Poetry is a way to talk about that which can’t be spoken of
- How reading poetry is a very different and visceral reading experience
- Writing with a sense of curiosity and exploration
- Freewriting exercises – setting up to write what’s there, internally and externally
- Realizing we are in collaboration with all of the energy around us
- Using prompts for writing for awakening practice
- Gaining perspective and distance from the voices in our head
- Setting yourself up for success with intentionality
- The paradox of being “the greatest invention ever” and “completely insignificant”
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Josh Johnson is a comedian and an Emmy-nominated writer. He is currently a writer on The Daily Show with Trevor Noah and a former writer and performer on The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon. Josh was named New York’s Funniest Comic at the New York Comey Festival in 2018.
In this episode, Josh Johnson and Eric talk about comedy and how humor can facilitate healing, understanding, and our connection with one another.
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In This Interview, Josh Johnson and I Discuss Humor and Healing and…
- The duality of being human
- Using humor as a coping mechanism that can facilitate healing
- How when you laugh you feel no pain
- That levity can strip something of its power over us
- What it means to be truly content
- The role of comedy in his life
- The relationship between objectivity and comedy
- How he’d rather try and fail on stage than not try something out of fear
- The prevalence of mental health issues in comedians
- The way humor can change our perspectives
- How he approaches depressive episodes in his own life
- How skewed our feedback can be based on who surrounds us
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Susan David is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School. She’s also the co-founder and co-director of The Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and is CEO of Evidence-Based Psychology. Along with speaking and consulting, Susan is also the author of Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life.
In this episode, Susan David and Eric examine how we can experience, interpret, talk about, and relate to our emotions so that we live a life that is more intentional and deeply rooted in what we value.
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In This Interview, Susan David and I Discuss Understanding Emotions and…
- Her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change and Thrive in Work and Life
- The problem of going on autopilot through our habitual actions
- The problem of going on autopilot through the habits of our internal world
- The benefits of taking time to think about what we value and then examining our habitual patterns to find ways they might be out of alignment
- That we own our emotions, they don’t own us
- Values as qualities of action
- Engaging with choice points in life Actions as votes towards the person we want to be
- The mistaken view of emotions as good or bad
- Emotions as signposts for the things we care about
- That emotions are data, not directives
- How to decipher whether emotions are old habitual patterns or present-day valuable signals
- Asking, “Is my believing this emotion opening me up to thrive or shutting me down into something small?”
- Being compassionate and curious with difficult emotions
- Hearing yourself when you describe your emotions
- Utilizing emotion granularity to more accurately label and better understand emotions
- The skill of noticing our emotions so that they don’t define us
- Differentiating emotions from thoughts
- Emotions during times of uncertainty
- Gentle acceptance as a prerequisite to change
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A. H. Almaas is the pen name of A. Hameed Ali. He is the founder of the Diamond Approach to Self-Realization which is a contemporary teaching that developed within the context of both ancient spiritual teachings and modern depth psychology theories. He has authored eighteen books about spiritual realization, including the Diamond Heart series, The Pearl Beyond Price, The Void, The Alchemy of Freedom, and his newest book, Love Unveiled: Discovering the Essence of the Awakened Heart.
In this episode, A.H. Almaas and Eric explore how to use curiosity, inquiry, courage, kindness, and love to discover our true nature, which he refers to as our “essence”. It is a deep and freeing approach to achieve healing and wholeness within ourselves.
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In This Interview, A.H. Almaas and I Discuss Discovering our Essence and…
- His newest book, Love Unveiled: Discovering the Essence of the Awakened Heart
- The Diamond Approach
- What he means when he talks about our “essence”
- The difference between personality and essence
- Seeing our children’s essential nature and loving them for it
- The Theory of Holes
- The role of inquiry in feeling your emotion
- Accessing your emotions by seeing what’s in the way of feeling them
- Principles that ground us in inquiry so we might see the totality of our experience in the present moment
- The difference between and integration of psychology and spirituality
- The result of staying with our direct, immediate experience
- How wanting to change ourselves interferes with our ability to study and learn about ourselves
- Including our desires in our inquiry
- That “allowing things to be exactly as they are” is the highest teaching there is
- Becoming consistently curious about what’s happening
- How to learn to stay with emotional pain
- The similarities between sadness and kindness
- Inquiring about our essence
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Sarah Blondin is a writer and videographer from British Columbia, Canada. She’s also the creator and host of the well-known podcast “live awake“. In this episode, Sarah and Eric discuss her book, “Heart Minded, How to Hold Yourself and Others in Love”, where she shares how we can learn to train our minds to listen and follow our hearts.
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In This Interview, Sarah Blondin and I Discuss Being Heart Minded and…
- Her book, “Heart Minded, How to Hold Yourself and Others in Love.”
- Listening to the longing that guides us to the dark place
- How grace is like the wind that comes from within lifting us up from the mire
- Creating a mainline to the heart will move you forward, but we must learn to be aware of it.
- How taking responsibility for our pain becomes our strength
- Seeing from the perspective of the heart and learning to see beyond the pain
- Feeling and giving yourself permission begins the healing process
- Addressing and not avoiding your afflictions
- Becoming empowered to stop choosing to go to the dark place comes with time and practice
- Bringing the mind down to the heart
- How the unharnessed mind is frantic and is an ungrounded companion
- The call of the heart is living and leading with love
- The heart gives us a strength to help us maneuver difficult times
- Training the mind to start following the heart’s agenda
- As the heart grows, it infiltrates our consciousness and moves us into a more harmonious state.
- Creating boundaries for yourself when suffering and struggle show up
- “Inner hospitality” comes from learning how to stay and allowing your feelings to move in then out.
- How achievements and pursuits hold little value compared to what we create within ourselves
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In this mini-episode, Eric discusses the importance of having a spiritual practice so that you can have a strong foundation from which to build upon in your life. This has never been more important than right now as we face the seemingly unending coronavirus crisis we are currently in.
- The realization in his recovery that he didn't have anything sustainable or grounding in his life
- Discovering a spiritual life when you don't believe in God in the traditional sense
- Finding spiritual principles such as acceptance, mindfulness, generosity, kindness, and love as a way to orient his life.
- Learning to make these principles the center of your life
- Liminal space as waiting space
- Using this space as a fertile ground where transformation can happen
- Learning to engage with what is here, right now.
- Using this time as an opportunity to let go and surrender to a greater potential
- Choose growth over stagnation
- Choose thriving or surviving
- Learning the key spiritual principles and changing our habits to incorporate these key principles in our daily lives.
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Justin Michael Williams is an author, a top 20 recording artist, and a transformational speaker who is using music and meditation to wake up the world. With over a decade of teaching experience, Justin has become a pioneering voice of color for the new healing movement. Between his podcast, keynotes, and motivational online platforms, Justin’s teachings have now spread to more than 40 countries around the globe. His new book is, Stay Woke: A Meditation Guide for the Rest of Us.
In this episode, Eric and Justin Michael Williams explore the connection between meditation and activism, which is to say, the work we do to heal ourselves and then the work we go do to help heal our world.
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In This Interview, Justin Michael Williams and I Discuss Meditation and Activism and…
- His new book, Stay Woke: A Meditation Guide for the Rest of Us
- The role, place, and importance of inner work and outer work
- That out of all the healing modalities he’s tried, meditation has had the biggest impact on his life
- How it’s not always our thoughts that create our reality
- That awareness calls us to get up off of our meditation cushion and take action
- That the real reason we meditate is to become more alive
- That we meditate not to disconnect but to reconnect
- That actions create our world
- The two things that co-create our reality: What happens to us and our reaction to it
- That privilege isn’t about what you’ve gone through, it’s about what you haven’t had to go through
- De-colonizing the oppression that lives within us and de-colonizing the external structures that hold us back in the world
- Calling people forward vs calling people out
- How we can’t shame people into long term change
- The type of meditation he teaches: Freedom Meditation
- That the guru is within you
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Ellen Bass is a poet, non-fiction author, and teacher. She is the author of many collections and books including Like a Beggar, The Human Line, and Mules of Love. Ellen’s poems also appear frequently in The New Yorker, American Poetry Review, and many other journals. She’s been awarded three Pushcart Prizes, The Lambda Literary Award, The Pablo Neruda Prize, and The New Letters Prize. Ellen also teaches in the MFA Writing Program at Pacific University. Her newest collection of poetry is entitled Indigo. This is Ellen’s second time as a guest on the show.
In this episode, Ellen and Eric discuss the power of poetry – how it can change us and deepen our experience of and attention to the world around us. Ellen reads some of her incredibly beautiful poetry and as a result, we are indeed changed.
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In This Interview, Ellen Bass and I Discuss the Power of Poetry and…
- Her new book of poetry, Indigo
- How gratitude and love help her combat fear
- Her practice as a poet is to take suffering and make art
- The poem that took her 12 years to write
- That worthwhile things are hard to do – even for experts
- Wanting to be changed after writing or reading a poem
- Her poem, Taking My Old Dog Out To Pee Before Bed
- Her poem, Enough
- What she thinks about when she hears someone else read her poetry as well as how poetry is to be read and heard “out loud”
- Her poem, The Long Recovery
- Trying not to resist the life we have and instead, hurl ourself more deeply into it
- Great poets and their poetry teach us to observe the world more closely and see it as sacred and beautiful
- Her poem, Any Common Desolation
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Lisa Mosconi holds a PhD degree in Neuroscience and Nuclear Medicine and is a certified Integrative Nutritionist and holistic healthcare practitioner. At Weil Cornel Medical College in New York, she is the Director of the Women’s Brain Initiative in the Department of Neurology, Associate Director of the Alzheimer’s Prevention Clinic, and Associate Professor of Neuroscience in Neurology and Radiology. She has published over 100 peer-reviewed papers in prestigious medical journals and is the author of 2 books, both of which she and Eric discuss in this episode: Brain Food: The Surprising Science of Eating for Cognitive Power and The XX Brain: The Groundbreaking Science Empowering Women To Maximize Cognitive Health and Prevent Alzheimer’s Disease.
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In This Interview, Lisa Mosconi and I Discuss the Eating for Brain Health and…
- Her books, Brain Food: The Surprising Science of Eating for Cognitive Power and The XX Brain: The Groundbreaking Science Empowering Women To Maximize Cognitive Health and Prevent Alzheimer’s Disease
- How the foods we eat contribute to our brain health
- Neuronutrition: the science of how to nourish our brain via the foods we eat
- How in our health, genes load the gun but lifestyle pulls the trigger
- Foods you eat have an almost immediate impact on the health and function of your brain
- The damage that results to your brain from eating a Western diet
- The brain health benefits of a Mediterranean diet
- The importance of drinking water – especially to support your brain
- That the human brain is 80% water and therefore is very sensitive to dehydration
- The most important foods and nutrients for brain health
- The beneficial role in the brain of Omega 3 fatty acids in addition to antioxidants
- Nutritional benefit of whole foods vs supplements
- Detrimental nature of regular consumption of processed food
- That health should not be a privilege of the wealthy
- The energy production and protective roles of estrogen in the brain
- The unique properties of women’s health and women’s brains
- How to reduce your risk of Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia through the foods you eat
- What women can do to support their brains
- The detrimental nature of chronic stress on women’s brains
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Jamia Wilson is a feminist activist, writer, and speaker. As director of the Feminist Press at the City University of New York and the former VP of programs at the Women’s Media Center, Jamia has been a leading voice on women’s rights issues for over a decade. Her work has appeared in numerous outlets, including the New York Times, the Today Show, CNN, Elle, BBC, Rookie, Refinery 29, Glamour, Teen Vogue, and The Washington Post. She is the author of Young, Gifted, and Black, the introduction and oral history in Together We Rise: Behind the Scenes at the Protest Heard Around the World, Step Into Your Power: 23 Lessons on How to Live Your Best Life, ABC’s of AOC, and the co-author of Road Map for Revolutionaries: Resistance, Advocacy, and Activism for All.
In this episode, Jamia and Eric discuss many aspects of how we can work to develop a deeper understanding of one another, specifically in the realm of racism. Through a path that involves deep listening, allyship and activism, we can find our way to a better world together.
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In This Interview, Jamia Wilson and I discuss Allyship, Activism, and…
- Her book, Road Map for Revolutionaries: Resistance, Advocacy, and Activism for All
- How to disagree with people and get comfortable with conflict
- Her experience with racism
- When it can be a mistake to give people the benefit of the doubt
- The way your lived experience can impact your worldview
- White Allyship
- Deep Listening
- The importance of involving the people closest to the problem when finding a solution
- White fragility
- The processes of learning and unlearning as lifelong processes
- Recognizing that we can have privilege in some areas and not in others
- A beginners guide to White Allyship
- Simple steps to take for local activism
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Dr. James Gordon is an American author and psychiatrist known for mind-body medicine. Dr. Gordon is internationally recognized for using self-awareness, self-care, and group support to heal population-wide psychological trauma. He is the founder and executive director of The Center for Mind-Body Medicine as well as the director of Mind Body Studies and clinical professor at Georgetown Medical School at Georgetown University. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, The Transformation: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After Trauma.
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In This Interview, Dr. James Gordon and I Discuss Healing Trauma and…
- His book, The Transformation: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After Trauma
- The two common and dangerous misconceptions about psychological trauma
- That trauma comes to everyone sooner or later
- How everyone can access the path to healing after trauma
- Post Traumatic Transformation
- The antidote to the fight or flight response
- Ways to experience your own ability to shift feelings of anxiety to calm
- The best time to start healing trauma
- How to heal population-wide psychological trauma
- His wartime work of healing trauma
- Mind-body medicine
- Techniques and expressive meditation for healing trauma
- The role of drawing in dealing with trauma
- The wise guide technique for accessing wisdom and healing trauma
Dr. James Gordon Links:
The Center for Mind Body Medicine
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We’re re-releasing another episode this week as we continue to be in the midst of a crisis point of racial injustice here in the United States. Ruth King is another leading voice on this important issue and we hope that you find wisdom and healing in her words.
We hope you’ll take some time to pause, listen to what she has to say, and consider the ways in which you might take some action to further healing and justice at whatever scope and scale you are able.
To that end, we’ve created a small resource guide to point you in a few directions that we think might be helpful as you look to further educate yourself on what action steps to take.
Donate to or get involved with:
Southern Poverty Law Center- The Southern Poverty Law Center is dedicated to fighting hate and bigotry and to seeking justice for the most vulnerable members of our society. Using litigation, education, and other forms of advocacy, the SPLC works toward the day when the ideals of equal justice and equal opportunity will be a reality. https://www.splcenter.org/
NAACP Legal Defense Fund- The NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund, Inc. is America’s premier legal organization fighting for racial justice. Through litigation, advocacy, and public education, LDF seeks structural changes to expand democracy, eliminate disparities, and achieve racial justice in a society that fulfills the promise of equality for all Americans. https://www.naacpldf.org/
Campaign Zero- Funds donated to Campaign Zero support the analysis of policing practices across the country, research to identify effective solutions to end police violence, technical assistance to organizers leading police accountability campaigns and the development of model legislation and advocacy to end police violence nationwide. https://www.joincampaignzero.org/
Ideas of other ways to get involved:
Sign the petition for George Floyd- Yes millions have signed and so can you.- https://www.change.org/p/mayor-jacob-frey-justice-for-george-floyd
I found this to be a great article that had lot’s of action to take- 75 Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice
So many of the changes we need to see regarding police brutality have to happen at the local level. That is good news because it’s easier to get involved and have more impact. This page has Campaign Zero’s list of issues by city and state:
There are so many books out there but here are some books that come highly recommended:
“White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk about Racism” by Robin DiAngelo
“How to Be an Antiracist” by Ibram X. Kendi
“Raising White Kids” by Jennifer Harvey
“So You Want to Talk About Race” by Ijeoma Oluo
“The Fire Next Time” by James Baldwin
“Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race” by Reni Eddo-Lodge
“Between the World and Me” by Ta-Nehisi Coates
“Stamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You” by Jason Reynolds and Ibram X. Kendi
“The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness” by Michelle Alexander
The End of Policing- Alex S. Vitale (free book)
In This Interview, Ruth King and I Discuss Healing Racism and …
- Her book, Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism From The Inside Out
- The value of being curious about the good and bad wolves inside of us
- Racism being a heart disease that is curable
- Her open heart surgery at the age of 27
- Rage being an exit route
- Rage being energy moving through the body
- Habitual patterns of racism being a layer on top of the real issue that we can’t tolerate – they are defense mechanisms
- Racial affinity groups
- 6 hindrances
- The structure of racism
- Racism vs Prejudice
- Racist vs Racism
- Understanding our own experience with racism and talking about it
- What it’s like to be “membered”
- Individual vs group identity
- Diversity within the body of color
Ruth King Links
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Austin Channing Brown is a writer, speaker, and practitioner who helps schools, nonprofits, and religious organizations practice genuine inclusion. She is passionate about the advancement of racial justice and reconciliation and her words will most certainly move you to action. In her work, she shares her experiences as a black woman who “navigates whiteness on a regular basis”. After listening to this interview and reading her book, your mind and heart will be broadened towards understanding and inclusion – regardless of where you are on that spectrum today.
We’re re-releasing this episode because as we’re in the midst of a crisis point of racial injustice here in the United States, Austin Channing Brown is a leading voice on racial justice and her wisdom and perspective can benefit us all.
We hope you’ll take some time to pause, listen to what she has to say, and consider the ways in which you might take some action to further healing and justice at whatever scope and scale you are able.
To that end, we’ve created a small resource guide to point you in a few directions that we think might be helpful as you look to further educate yourself on what action steps to take.
Donate to or get involved with:
Southern Poverty Law Center- The Southern Poverty Law Center is dedicated to fighting hate and bigotry and to seeking justice for the most vulnerable members of our society. Using litigation, education, and other forms of advocacy, the SPLC works toward the day when the ideals of equal justice and equal opportunity will be a reality. https://www.splcenter.org
NAACP Legal Defense Fund- –https://www.naacpldf.org/– The NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund, Inc. is America’s premier legal organization fighting for racial justice. Through litigation, advocacy, and public education, LDF seeks structural changes to expand democracy, eliminate disparities, and achieve racial justice in a society that fulfills the promise of equality for all Americans.
Campaign Zero- https://www.joincampaignzero.org/– Funds donated to Campaign Zero support the analysis of policing practices across the country, research to identify effective solutions to end police violence, technical assistance to organizers leading police accountability campaigns and the development of model legislation and advocacy to end police violence nationwide.
Ideas of other ways to get involved:
Sign the petition for George Floyd- Yes millions have signed and so can you.
75 Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice
So many of the changes we need to see regarding police brutality have to happen at the local level. That is good news because it’s easier to get involved and have moe impact. This page has Campaign Zero’s list of issues by city and state:
There are so many books out there but here are some books that come highly recommended:
“White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk about Racism” by Robin DiAngelo
“How to Be an Antiracist” by Ibram X. Kendi
“Biased: Uncovering the Hidden Prejudice That Shapes What We See, Think, and Do” by Jennifer L. Eberhardt
“Raising White Kids” by Jennifer Harvey
“So You Want to Talk About Race” by Ijeoma Oluo
“The Black and the Blue: A Cop Reveals the Crimes, Racism, and Injustice in America’s Law Enforcement” by Matthew Horace and Ron Harris
“The Fire Next Time” by James Baldwin
“Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race” by Reni Eddo-Lodge
“They Can’t Kill Us All: Ferguson, Baltimore, And A New Era In America’s Racial Justice Movement” by Wesley Lowery
“The Third Reconstruction: How a Moral Movement Is Overcoming the Politics of Division and Fear” by Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove and William Barber II
“Between the World and Me” by Ta-Nehisi Coates
“Stamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You” by Jason Reynolds and Ibram X. Kendi
“The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness” by Michelle Alexander
In This Interview, Austin Channing Brown and I Discuss Racial Justice and…
- Her book, I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in A World Made for Whiteness
- The importance and value of anger
- How we can fight the monsters without becoming the monsters
- That anger reveals something is wrong
- White fragility – sadness and anger
- Naming the things that can come in the way of a discussion, before the discussion happens
- Realising racial bias
- Transformation comes after a moment of realization
- The idea of “whiteness being normal”
- Books to read to gain an understanding of racial injustice
- Disunity in Christ
- Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?: And Other Conversations About Race
- How to look for opportunities to talk with others about topics of racial injustice
- Check out “Be the Bridge”
- The white confessional being a shortcut to true reconciliation
- Skipping the confessional story and moving straight to the action step you’ll take next
- What reconciliation means to her
- Racial justice and reconciliation
- Radical Reconciliation
- How reconciliation should revolutionize the relationships we have with each other
- The celebration of blackness that is throughout the book
- Cultural misappropriation
Austin Channing Brown Links
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Nir Eyal is an author whose writing on technology, psychology, and business has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, The Atlantic, Psychology Today, and many other renowned publications. Previously, he taught as a Lecturer in Marketing at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and Design School. In this episode, Nir and Eric discuss his new book, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life.
You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help
The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.
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In This Interview, Nir Eyal and I discuss Becoming Indistractable and…
- His book, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life
- How what we pay attention to determines our quality of life
- The importance of being in control of how you spend your time and attention in life
- When it comes to being distracted, there are the blamers, the shamers, and the claimers
- That the root cause of distraction is uncomfortable sensations
- Time management is pain management
- How you can’t stop emotions but you can respond to them
- The 4 key steps of becoming indistractable
- Traction and Dis-traction
- How anything can become a distraction
- That you can’t call something a distraction unless you know what you are distracted from
- The tyranny of the to-do list
- Deciding with intent when you’re going to do something
- Timeboxing
- Mastering our internal triggers: Learning to work with our uncomfortable emotions
- The 3 reasons we get distracted
- The antidote to impulsive behavior
- Using an identity to help us become indistractable
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Laura McKowen is an author, award winning blogger and host of Spiritualish, a show that provides an irreverent take on self help. She has been featured on WebMD, the New York Post, Bravo, the Today Show, and more. Laura also hosts sold out retreats and courses teaching people to say Yes to a bigger life. In this episode, she and Eric discuss her newest book, “We are the Luckiest, the Surprising Magic of a Sober Lfie”
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In This Interview, Laura McKowen and I Discuss the Magic of Being Sober and…
- Her book, We Are the Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of a Sober Life
- Addiction isn’t about will power or being bad
- How we as humans are “magnificent monsters” in that we all have light and dark inside of us
- Being in a liminal space is where transformation takes place.
- Looking at challenging times and asking “What is this trying to teach me?”
- Embracing the mystery of not knowing
- How addiction demands everything
- Having a “split mind” – the conflict of wanting to drink and knowing that you shouldn’t
- The cognitive dissonance between who we think we are and what we’re doing
- Being afraid of how you’ll feel when you’re not drinking
- Understanding that sobriety gets better, then it gets worse, then it’s different
- Her experience with AA and the positive and negative aspects of this recovery program
- The importance of dealing with the physical body in recovery
- The fear of “aloneness” and not having a home within ourselves
- Dealing with the ongoing struggle and need to be fixed or saved by someone
- Learning to not being afraid of herself and starting to build self esteem and dignity
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Scott Barry Kaufman is a cognitive scientist interested in the development of intelligence, creativity, and personality. He applies a variety of perspectives to come to a richer understanding and appreciation of all kinds of minds and ways of achieving greatness. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Transcend: The New Science of Self Actualization. They discuss many ways in which we can go beyond coping and, instead, set our sights a bit higher to thrive in our day to day life, regardless of the circumstances. Scott Barry Kaufman shows us how the ordinary life is always, at its heart, the extraordinary life.
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In This Interview, Scott Barry Kaufman and I discuss Living a Transcendent Life and…
- His book, Transcend: The New Science of Self Actualization
- That the way you frame a question can influence how you feel
- How to take the leap towards growth so that your focus is no longer on simply coping
- The idea of spending our days in transcendent ways
- What it means to cope
- The detrimental path of Experiential Avoidance
- The importance of integrating everything that’s happening right now within yourself
- How to view your personal growth opportunities while others are suffering
- The difference between those who are creative amidst uncertainty and those who struggle to be creative in the same conditions
- Being open to embracing new experiences by letting go of the need for control
- Going right to the heart of the fears that you have so that you can make peace with them
- That we don’t grow all at once and in a linear way
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Sue Monk Kidd was raised in the small town of Sylvester, Georgia, a place that deeply influenced the writing of her first novel, The Secret Life of Bees. Her 1990 book, When the Heart Waits, has become a touchstone on contemplative spirituality. Sue serves on the Writers Council for Poets & Writers, Inc and is well known for her work in feminist theology. Her new book is a novel called, The Book of Longings.
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In This Interview, Sue Monk Kidd and I discuss Longings of our Heart and…
- Her book, The Book of Longings
- That what you pay attention to will either devour you or save you because we become what we pay attention to
- The particular genius that dwells in every person
- How she first decided that she wanted to write fiction when she was in her 40s
- Asking the prayer that’s at the bottom of your heart
- How being visible and being audible in the world is a choice to express the largeness that’s inside each of us
- That we can nurture the largeness in another person, even if the largeness is inconvenient for us
- God as an essence that lives everywhere, the being-ness in our midst
- The many ways we conceptualize and thereby connect with God
- Why suffering results in increased kindness in some while it hardens others
- The role of vulnerability in our personal growth
- When her therapist told her that the pain won’t kill you but the running from it might.
- What it means to “let life be” when both beautiful and terrible things happen
- Radical acceptance
- How the path to healing is right through the wound
- Facing our pain so our soul can metabolize it and we can move through it and move on
- What it means to be a mother beyond having actual children
- The middle places in life where the waiting and the work happens
- Her writing process
- The silence beneath her words
- Her life as a prayer
- How letting go is not a one-time thing
- That life is like a spiral
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Henry Shukman is a poet, writer, and Associate Zen Master who lives in New Mexico where he teaches at Mountain Cloud Zen Center. He has published eight books to date of fiction, poetry, and non-fiction. He writes regularly for Tricycle, The New York Times, and other publications. In this episode, Eric and Henry discuss his beautifully written book, One Blade of Grass: Finding the Old Road of the Heart, a Zen Memoir.
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In This Interview, Henry Shukman and I discuss Paths of Spiritual Awakening and…
- His book, One Blade of Grass: Finding the Old Road of the Heart, a Zen Memoir
- How to work with the 3 poisons that we all have: Greed, Ill Will, Delusion
- Opening up to pain (rather than turning away from it) so that we can heal
- His experience with dysthymia
- The awakening experiences he has had in his life
- Learning how to be with his pain and wounds in order to heal
- A major myth of meditation
- How he knew he was ready to work with a spiritual teacher
- His realization that awakening experiences are doorways and we must then step onto the paths they open up to in order to continue our spiritual growth
- The value of community in spiritual growth
- The trouble with thinking you have to do things alone
- Discovering for ourselves the deep experience of the ordinary moments of our lives
- The wisdom of cherishing the normal and finding beauty in ordinary things
- Poetry as the practice of paying very close attention to things
- The different levels of love
Henry Shukman Links:
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Many of us are staying at home right now because of the COVID-19 pandemic and if you live with people, chances are you have had moments of feeling irritated, frustrated, or annoyed as a result of being cooped up in close quarters together. This special episode has all-new interviews with 5 previous guests of the show, each offering you tips to help you navigate the difficult feelings and situations that come with spending so much time at home with loved ones. The guests of this special episode are Susan Piver, Lodro Rinzler, Rosalind Wiseman, Ralph De La Rosa, Rick Hanson
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In This Episode, We discuss Tips for Living in Close Quarters and…
- That we are all subject to unbidden moods in these circumstances
- How to grow closer through experiencing the ups and downs together
- Resisting the urge to solve the “problem” of difficult feelings
- To be with each other we need to be comfortable being with ourselves
- Strategies to help you avoid snapping at your loved ones
- Turning towards your feelings rather than your thoughts
- How we’re face to face with our own minds right now
- Feeling what we feel without judgment and without a storyline
- What to do when you feel highly triggered
- The simple question we can ask ourselves before acting on a feeling
- What to do to prepare before having a difficult conversation with someone you live with
- How humor can help
- Ways to cultivate a warmer heart
- That listening is being prepared to be changed by what you hear
- A helpful structure for family or household meetings
- How we can prepare for difficult emotional experiences
- Taking ownership of our own emotions
- How to relate to our irritation
- Remembering the people you live with are suffering, too
- The phrase, “Like me, you, too, ____”
- How to reduce the way we take things personally
- The neuroscience of why tuning into internal bodily sensations works
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Dr. Christian Conte is one of the country’s most accomplished mental health specialists in the field of anger and emotional management. He specializes in working in the prison system with people convicted of violent crimes. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Walking Through Anger: A New Design for Confronting Conflict in an Emotionally Charged World. If this conversation about radical anger management rubs you the wrong way in the beginning, we invite you to get curious about your reaction and stay with the conversation – you may feel and think differently by the end of the episode.
You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help
The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.
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In This Interview, Christian Conte and I discuss Radical Anger Management and…
- His book, Walking Through Anger: A New Design for Confronting Conflict in an Emotionally Charged World
- Working with our own anger
- The relationship between our ego and our anger
- Anger management
- That our expectations influence our experience of the world
- Hindsight bias
- How anger is a wonderful motivator
- That if we loosen our grip on being right, we can humble ourselves to receive other perspectives
- The metaphor of only being able to see one side of the box
- Switching to a position of curiosity
- That certainty is an emotion, not a cognition
- Leading humility and curiosity lessens the intensity of a situation
- By saying, “here’s what I’m seeing, please teach me about what you’re seeing”, you can change the energy of the conversation
- How we can drain our own limbic system in the midst of feeling angry
- What it means that our mind wants to match our body
- Why he recommends that we go to bed angry (instead of following the old adage that says otherwise)
- That when we understand something intellectually, we think we’ve mastered putting it into practice in our lives
- That extreme language produces extreme emotions
- How we’re not disturbed by things – we’re disturbed by our view of things
- That certainty is at the heart of a lot of anger
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In this mini episode, Eric shares helpful advice and many suggestions on how to deal with strong emotions during this global pandemic. He also offers a hopeful message about the personal growth that can come from such challenges.
- Allow yourself to be where you are
- Lower your expectations if you need to
- Be kinder to yourself and practice self compassion (see Kristin Neff episode)
- Journaling can be a helpful practice
- Post traumatic growth - turning adversity into something better
- Allowing ourselves to explore thoughts and feelings can help not only cope, but create meaning in our lives
- 7 areas of growth that can come from adversity
- The importance of routine and structure in our days
Mark Nepo is a poet, philosopher and cancer survivor who has taught in the fields of poetry, health, and spirituality for 40 years. Mark is a New York Times #1 selling author who has published numerous books and audio projects. In this episode, Eric and Mark discuss his book, The Book of Soul: 52 Paths to Living What Matters. This episode is a tonic to the suffering that we are facing right now in the midst of a pandemic. This conversation offers some of the most liberating wisdom that, when connected to, releases us from the grip of fear so that we are living from a place of presence, peace, and connecting to what matters.
You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help
The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.
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In This Interview, Mark Nepo and I discuss Connecting to What Matters and…
- His new book, The Book of Soul: 52 Paths to Living What Matters
- The value in cooperating, listening and working with things (rather than trying to bend them to our will)
- That “sin”, as literally translated, is the same as “opaque” or, “not seeing”
- That when we lose sight of the vastness to which we belong, succumbing to our narrow condition, we paint everything with the color of our trouble
- How the surface of the ocean is what’s choppy and as we go down below the surface, we connect with the depth that is less tumultuous
- “Rightsizing” our perspective on troubles by putting them in a larger perspective of vastness and wholeness
- How to move at the pace of what is real: synchronizing the moving pace of mind, heart, and body
- That the power of reading out loud is like the difference between reading sheet music and hearing it in our heads vs. actually playing the music
- That we meditate not to be great meditators, but to be clear vessels
- How we’ve become “addicted to the noise of things falling apart”
- That things are always simultaneously falling apart and coming together
- We are challenged to honor what we’re going through while at the same time remembering that what we’re going through doesn’t define us
- Asking “What is actually happening?” so we might identify right action
- Waiting for the cloud of fear to pass so that you can decipher what is actually dangerous
- How in the modern world we have catastrophized our relationship to the unknown
- That the unknown can produce love and beauty just as it can produce difficulty and hardships
- The truth that there is no “there”, there’s only “here”
- That often, when you can’t leave a difficult situation, you realize that everything you need is right here
- The menacing assumption that life is somewhere other than where we are
- That out of fear, we make a god of survival. But without thriving, what’s the point?
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Adreanna Limbach is a head-teacher at MNDFL Meditation Studios in New York City. Adreanna’s work has been featured in the New York Times, Women’s Health, Refinery 29, and Yoga Journal. Her new book is, Tea and Cake with Demons: A Buddhist Guide to Feeling Worthy. In this episode, Adreanna and Eric talk about how to be more skillful in the ways in which we relate to our “demons” – in other words, how we can go about befriending difficult feelings.
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In This Interview, Adreanna Limbach and I discuss Befriending our Difficult Feelings and…
- Her book, Tea and Cake with Demons: A Buddhist Guide to Feeling Worthy
- How difficult it was for her to write her book
- How hard it is to create anything
- The value of tenacity
- The story her book is based on
- How our demons, or difficult feelings, can be very personal but they all look a lot alike
- The unskillful ways that we deal with our difficult feelings
- Asking our demons “what do you have to teach me?”
- How questions open things while answers shut them down
- Identifying your “exit” when you’re feeling uncomfortable in your own skin
- The 4 Noble Truths of Buddhism
Adreanna Limbach Links:
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So many of us are feeling angry for a myriad of reasons amidst the COVID-19 pandemic. To help us better understand and work with our anger, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for a special edition of The One You Feed Podcast about anger. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode featuring 4 “mini-interviews” is the result. These are all new conversations with previous guests, Rick Hanson, Hilary Jacobs Hendel, Ruth King, and David Richo.
You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help
In This Episode, We discuss How to Work with Anger and…
- That anger is a natural and normal response
- Utilizing anger rather than letting anger utilize us
- How anger can feel good in the moment but it corrodes over time
- Finding peace when confronted with the truth of uncertainty
- Mindfully noticing and naming our anger
- Anger being triggered by perceived danger and it readies us for a fight
- The danger of blocking our anger
- That we feel anger as energy that wants to get out
- Using fantasy to release the energy of anger
- When calm, making a list of “state-changers” for yourself
- Noticing our coping strategies in the face of things we can’t control
- The critical choice of what to do with the energy of anger
- Being informed by our anger instead of reacting out of it
- Channeling the energy in constructive ways rather than damaging ways
- Getting curious about what the anger is trying to tell us – rather than focusing on what it’s saying about other people
- Getting fiercely clear about rather than ablaze in the fire of our anger
- When we’re in the anger, we lose touch with how it’s impacting our bodies
- Setting the intention of doing no harm
- That fear is often underneath anger
- Not acting out of anger because it can be abusive
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You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help
As the COVID-19 pandemic intensified earlier this week, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for two special edition episodes of The One You Feed Podcast. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode is the second of those two episodes. These mini-interviews are with 6 leaders in the realms of mental health and spirituality. Eric talks with each of them about how to deal with difficult thoughts and offers practical strategies for emotional health during these challenging times. These are all new conversations with previous guests, Parker Palmer, Mirabai Starr, Lewis Howes, Steven C. Hayes, Scott Stabile, and Sharon Salzberg.
In This Special Episode, We discuss Strategies for Emotional Health and…
- Turning our attention to those who are vulnerable and need our help
- The connection between anxiety and uncertainty
- Accepting the truth that there are many things we cannot control
- Being attentive to what we can control
- How reflecting on and learning from suffering can be therapeutic
- That dissolution is a good thing: You’ve lost an illusion and you’re that much closer to reality
- How to abide in a space of not knowing
- The paradox of actively helping the situation by doing less, staying put and slowing down
- Reorienting to what we really need vs. our tendencies towards overconsumption
- How to be mindful and Feed Our Good Wolf during a time of crisis
- That constantly seeing crisis media alerts is like seeing a car crash every 2 minutes – we benefit from placing boundaries on how often we consume media coverage
- Creating meaning amidst suffering
- How psychological flexibility can help us move through difficulty
- How to move through a crisis so that you come out of it with post-traumatic growth
- Ways to work with your anger towards others during this crisis
- Ways to work with your fear about this crisis
- The helpful pillars of self-care that can really support us in crisis
- Looking for ourself in others to bring empathy
- What it means to connect to our hearts and souls
- The importance of giving yourself grace and forgiveness during a crisis
- How loving-kindness meditation can help us
- How staying home can mimic the effects of a reflective retreat
- A guided meditation from Sharon Salzberg
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As the COVID-19 pandemic intensified earlier this week, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for a special edition of The One You Feed Podcast. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode is the result. These mini-interviews are with 4 experts on the subject of human behavior and Eric talks with each of them about how we might go about structuring our time, environment and mindset on living and working from home. These are all new conversations with previous guests, David Kadavy Charlie Gilkey, Chris Bailey, and Liz Fosslien
You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help
In This Episode, We discuss…
- How to set boundaries for yourself in your time, space, and mind
- The Pomodoro Method
- Ways to divide your physical space for work
- Setting up mental boundaries to get into and out of a work mindset
- Misdiagnosing distractions when they’re actually challenges of competing priorities
- Pre-work, lunchtime, and post-work routines
- Making your environment work for you
- That your environment matters more than your willpower over the long term
- How to be productive while in crisis mode
- Replacing your commute-to-work time with self-care activities
- Best practices for consuming the news while working from home
- How it’s ok to feel feelings during this difficult time
- Best practices for managing people
- Deciding the next day’s priorities at the end of the previous day
- Not letting praise be something that gets lost while working virtually
- Emotionally proof-reading your messages before sending
Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor at The University of Texas at Austin’s Department of Educational Psychology. With her partner Chris Germer, she has developed an empirically-supported training program called Mindful Self-Compassion that is taught by thousands of teachers worldwide. She co-authored The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook as well as the book, Teaching the Mindful Self Compassion Program: A Guide For Professionals. In this episode, Kristin and Eric dive into the topic of self-compassion and discuss what it is and isn’t. Kristin also shares how to practice self compassion as well as leads listerns through a self-compassion practice.
The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.
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In This Interview, Kristin Neff and I discuss Self Compassion and…
- Her book, The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook
- That what we practice grows stronger
- The science of contemplative practice
- What self-compassion is
- Treating yourself with the same kindness you’d show to a dear friend
- Starting with mindfulness
- The connectedness of compassion
- The fact that we suffer unites us as human beings
- Quintessential question, “What do I need?”
- Myths of self-compassion and how it is a powerful antidote to shame
- The Inner Ally vs. Inner Enemy
- Constructive self-criticism
- How to practice and the physiology of self compassion.
- The self-compassion break
- Why and how self-criticism harms us
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Eric talks about how to best deal with fear during these uncertain times
Norman Fischer is a poet, author, Zen Buddhist teacher and priest. He’s a graduate of Iowa’s Writer’s Workshop and he’s been publishing poetry since 1979. He’s the author of 17 books of poetry, 6 books of prose on Zen and religion as well as numerous articles and essays. In this episode, Eric and Norman discuss his book, The World Could Be Otherwise: Imagination and the Bodhisattva Path.
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In This Interview, Norman Fischer and I discuss Spiritual Growth through Imagination and…
- His book, The World Could Be Otherwise: Imagination and the Bodhisattva Path
- Redefining imagination and discovering it’s prevalence and role in life
- The role of imagination in spiritual paths
- How we don’t see the world exactly as it is, but rather through filters
- Loosening our grasp on what we think of as absolute reality
- Constructing useful stories in our mind rather than living by our default stories
- The essential ways in which imagination enriches the experience of our lives
- When we realize we are making our lives for ourselves, we have the power to make it differently
- The Bodhisattva: A Buddha in training
- Compassion, Love and Service for the benefit of others
- The Bodhisattva Path
- The myth of separateness and the truth of interconnection and love
- That holding two (seemingly contradictory) ideas in our mind at one time offers us depth perception
- How ideals can inspire us rather than put pressure on us
- The disease of perfectionism
- How to engage in “Joyful Effort” when you don’t feel very joyful and don’t have much effort to spare
- Patience: Just keep going and be of benefit to others
- Turning toward what’s arising: facing it, embracing it, breathing into it and going forward with it
- The problematic nature of favoring one’s own suffering over the suffering of others
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Kamla Kapur is an award winning author, poet and playwright. She was born and raised in India and studied in the United States. Kamla now divides her time between living in the remote Indian Himalayas and in San Diego, California with her husband. She holds a Master’s Degree in Literature from Kent State University in Ohio and she studied Creative Writing at the University of Iowa. Kamla was on the faculty of Grossmont College in San Diego for 18 years and her stories, poems, and plays have been published in many prestigious Indian and American journals. In this episode, she and Eric use her new book, Rumi: Tales of the Spirit: A Journey to Healing the Heart, as a jumping off point to discuss the transformative powers we experience through various life experiences.
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In This Interview, Kamla Kapur and I discuss Transformative Powers in Life and…
- Her book, Rumi: Tales of the Spirit: A Journey to Healing the Heart
- The deep wound to Rumi’s heart that transformed him and brought forth his treasured body of work that we now know and love
- How suffering can be our greatest tutor and guide in life
- The idea of expansion and contraction in our lives
- That when your heart breaks, it breaks open
- How suffering can open us up to being more aware and connected to our higher selves
- That those who transform as a result of their suffering are open to a different way of thinking as a result of the difficult things that happen to them
- The transformative powers of hope, joy, and love
- Rumi’s stories of characters embracing suffering
- How all suffering has the power to awaken us
- The transformative power of suffering
- The transformative power of acceptance
- How Rumi says, “When the candle of your youth dims, you have to light the candle of the spirit.”
- Actively ascending to our aging
- The awe and wonder of existence and the mystery of life that we as humans can perceive
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Ryan Oelke is the co-founder of Buddhist Geeks and is the founder of Awakening In Life. Ryan is a meditation teacher with an MS.Ed. in Counseling Psychology and has 18 years of experience in meditation. He is also a certified teacher in Judith Blackstone’s Realization Process. In this episode, Ryan and Eric discuss using Radical Curiosity and embodying our experiences to Awaken In Life.
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In This Interview, Ryan Oelke and I discuss Awakening in Life and…
- Practicing Radical Curiosity
- Coming home to yourself as you are in this moment
- Being radically open to what is happening to fully see it
- How nothing collapses consciousness faster than judgment
- How being curious implies being engaged with the subject matter
- Awakening in Life
- Life as the opportunity to awaken
- Ways to integrate spiritual principles into the moments of our life
- Cultivating capacity through formal practice
- How to use the little moments that might otherwise be “thrown away” during the day
- That focusing on embodying our experience enables it to become more deeply our own
- How awakening in life is a responsive, integral path
- A prescriptive path/model vs. a responsive path/model
- Having a deep trust in your own experience
- Metta Dharma
- That the entire point of waking up in life could be to have an appropriate response.
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Stephen Mitchell is an author and translator who has dedicated much of his life to Zen practice. Eric and Stephen have an in depth discussion about the questioning mind as well as his work of translating many famous texts, including the Tao Te Ching, Bhagavad Gita, and Rilke’s “Letters To a Young Poet”. Stephen has also co-authored many books with his wife, Byron Katie, who is a former guest on the show.
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In This Interview, Stephen Mitchell and I Discuss the Questioning Mind and…
- The parable: how reality cannot be broken into good or bad, it’s just what is.
- When authentic action that is true to yourself becomes second nature, it’s an expression of your own reality.
- His wife Katie’s words, “when we believe our thoughts, we suffer; when we question our thoughts, we don’t.”
- Suffering can end when we awaken to the truth
- Distinguishing between pain, a physical phenomenon, and suffering, a mental phenomenon
- Suffering often comes from being stuck in an imagined past or imagined future
- His translation of the Heart Sutra that is about openness rather than emptiness
- The “don’t know” or questioning mind and how it doesn’t get stuck in judgement
- Being immersed in an intense formal Zen practice for 7 years
- His Koan studies that helped him get to a state of stillness and learn to hold the questioning mind without any content.
- Defining Koan studies as an existential problem meant to catapult the student into a space of questioning.
- If you can rest in that space of not knowing, the answer will present itself to you.
- The mind’s relationship with it’s contents
- Difference between the mind and what it thinks.
- We don’t suffer because of what happens to us, but rather how we think about what happens to us.
- Self inquiry and asking yourself the question, “Is it true”?
- How he learns the language of the text he’s translating.
- His work of translating is more than just learning the meaning of words, but also the music of the words.
- When translating text, his allegiance is to the spirit of the text and not just the literal meaning of the text.
- Joseph and the Way of Forgiveness: A Biblical Tale Retold is discussed in the post show conversation.
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Gretchen Rubin is one of today’s most influential and thought-provoking observers of happiness and human nature. Gretchen is known for her ability to distill and convey complex ideas with humor and clarity in a way that’s accessible to a wide audience. She is the author of many books which have sold over 3.5 million copies worldwide in more than 30 languages. She also has an award-winning podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin. In this episode, Eric and Gretchen talk about how being strategic and smart about the ways we approach our habits and behavior can radically impact our likelihood of success.
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In This Interview, Gretchen Rubin and I Discuss Living Skillfully and…
- How feeding our bad wolf can feel easier sometimes
- How not eating sugar actually makes her feel better
- Abstainers and Moderators
- Trying different approaches until you find the one that works for you
- Decision fatigue
- The 4 Tendencies Model: the way people respond to expectations
- Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, Rebel
- Knowing your tendency type can help your tailor your approach and be more successful at living skillfully.
- Where personality comes from
- How much people can realistically change in life
- What and how much is really in our control
- The 21 Strategies of Habit Change
- How cravings inevitably come and go (rather than the myth that they build and build until they overwhelm us)
- Accepting yourself AND expecting more from yourself
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Fleet Maull is an author, consultant, trainer, meditation teacher and executive coach who facilitates deep transformation for individuals and organizations through his philosophy and program of Radical Responsibility. Fleet is a senior mindfulness meditation teacher in 2 highly respected traditions and is also a Roshi, or Zen Master, and dharma successor of Roshi Bernie Glassman of The Zen Peacemakers Community. In this episode, Eric and Fleet discuss his book, Radical Responsibility: How to Move Beyond Blame, Fearlessly Live Your Highest Purpose and Become An Unstoppable Force For Good.
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In This Interview, Fleet Maull and I Discuss Radical Responsibility and…
- His book, Radical Responsibility: How to Move Beyond Blame, Fearlessly Live Your Highest Purpose and Become An Unstoppable Force For Good
- Our decision about whether or not to let fear set in
- Fear and Survival Based Reaction
- Getting into your body to become more grounded, heart-centered and responsive
- Fear is an intelligent, natural human emotion
- How to become more resilient
- Strategies and approaches that people can use to be less afraid
- The sympathetic and parasympathetic responses within us
- Breath awareness in addition to breathing techniques
- Neurosomatic mindfulness
- Default Mode Network and the Task-Positive Network in the brain
- How blame gives away our power
- Letting go of the agenda of trying to control the people in your life
- The difference between blame, fault, and ownership
- Moving from victim to survivor and how we can choose the attitude we bring to any situation
- Mindful self-compassion
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I love Mark Manson's weekly newsletter called "Motherf*ckin’ Monday" where he discusses three ideas about the mind, life or the world.
This weeks episode had three important ideas that I wanted to discuss and debate to some degree with Mark.
They are:
1. Your next big breakthrough is already here
2. Is the growth mindset just another fad?
3. Breakthroughs rarely feel good
As someone who focuses on breakthroughs, transformations and slow changes over the time and someone who has gotten some mileage out of the growth mindset, I wanted to add my two cents to the discussion. I hope you enjoy.
Sarah Wilson is a New York Times Bestselling author, journalist and founder of iquitsugar.com. She has published 15 I Quit Sugar books in 46 countries and in 2017 and 2018, she was ranked as one of the Top 200 Most Influential Authors In The World. At 29, Sarah was the Editor and Chief of Cosmopolitan Magazine Australia and she has also been the host of Master Chef Australia. Her newest book is, First, We Make the Beast Beautiful: A New Journey Through Anxiety and it is this that she and Eric discuss in this episode.
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In This Interview, Sarah Wilson and I Discuss Anxiety and…
- Her book, First, We Make The Beast Beautiful: A New Journey Through Anxiety
- Where the mind goes, energy flows
- The idea of disconnection and reconnection in mental health
- How to know when the line into disordered anxiety has been crossed
- Understanding the role of medicine for anxiety, depression and other mental illnesses as well as the role of struggle in our inner life.
- The importance and role of therapy while also taking medication for mental disorders
- The dynamic, changing nature of actively supporting mental wellness
- Stopping the cycle of getting anxious about being anxious
- Sitting in your suffering and ride it out rather than trying to beat or escape it
- The slow approach for dealing with Anxiety
- How walking can help Anxiety
- Ways handwriting can help Anxiety
- Ways space can help Anxiety
- Spiritual idea of contraction vs expansion
- Asking yourself “Will this enlarge or contract my life?”
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Steven C. Hayes is one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and this is his second time on the show. This time, he and Eric discuss his new book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters. Dr. Hayes is a Professor of Psychology at The University of Nevada Reno. He’s the author of 43 books and more than 600 scientific articles. He’s served as the President of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapy and The Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. He is one of the most cited psychologists in the world. In this episode, Dr. Hayes teaches what psychological flexibility is, how to cultivate it, and the ways in which it can improve your life.
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In This Interview, Steven C. Hayes and I Discuss Psychological Flexibility and…
- His book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters
- Asking “What is the problem we’re trying to solve?”
- Understanding what you really care about. Take what you’re really struggling with and flip it over, therefore allowing your pain to speak to you
- The lengths we go to in order to protect ourselves from hurt
- “Psychological Flexibility” vs “Psychological Rigidity”
- 6 processes or pivots that promote Psychological Flexibility
- The masks we put on to try and connect with others and belong in addition to our true belonging
- Pivoting from cognitive fusion to diffusion
- Thoughts as ongoing attempts at meaning-making
- The ability to think multiple things and be guided by what is useful
- Living according to your values as well as the qualities of being and doing
- Response Ability – deciding what this is about for you
- Accepting what we feel and committing to act according to our values
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Pete Holmes is an American comedian, actor, writer, producer, and podcaster. He is both a hilarious comedian and a deeply contemplative, spiritual person. In this episode, Eric and Pete discuss his book, Comedy Sex God where they go into detail about how Pete views and experiences the world. From how he has learned to deal with frustrations to the way he returns to the present moment and experiences God in his daily life, this interview explores his direct experience with so much spiritual wisdom. You will laugh and also be deeply touched and inspired by this engaging, thoughtful conversation about discovering spiritual truths.
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In This Interview, Pete Holmes and I Discuss Spiritual Truths and…
- His book, Comedy Sex God
- The nature of life
- Lighting up our pleasure centers can dull the rest of life
- How sin is about being unconscious
- The consequences of our behavior are not waiting for us in the afterlife – they’re with us in the here and now
- The tension between being and doing
- Maintaining your center while doing a task
- When Ram Dass told him, “don’t do funny, BE funny”
- The mistake of postponing your happiness until things are going your way
- His favorite mantra
- That being here and saying yes to the present moment is the kingdom of heaven
- Being present even while you’re planning in addition to non-resistance
- The story of you, your ego and how it likes to exist
- How he connects with his wife when he’s rushed
- The role of curiosity
- When in doubt, zoom out
- How God is a metaphor for a mystery
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Linda Graham is a licensed marriage and family therapist and her work focuses on helping people strengthen capacities to cope with the challenges and crises of their lives. She also helps people recover an authentic sense of self, deepen into healthy relationships and engage with the world through meaningful, purposeful work. Her book is Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster. In this episode, she and Eric talk about the neuroscience of resilience and specific ways to strengthen our resilience, no matter our starting point. When life gets difficult, this episode will teach you how to cultivate your resilience, bounce back and grow stronger.
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In This Interview, Linda Graham and I Discuss Strengthening our Resilience and…
- Her book, Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster
- The neuroscience of resilience
- All emotions are signals to pay attention and take wise action
- How emotions run through our nervous system in about 20 seconds, unless we feed them with stories and with habitual patterns of response
- If we can allow difficult emotions and have compassion for ourselves for feeling them, we can shift the patterns in our brain away from that contracted state and into a more open state – the outcome is resilience
- What resilience is
- Response flexibility
- How you respond to the issue, IS the issue
- The severity of the stressor and the strength of our external resources
- Our own internal resources
- Differentiating between our perception and our response
- How our attitude is a filter that our perception goes through
- Cultivating a resilience mindset
- The factors that influence our brain’s response flexibility. as well as how we can re-wire our brain’s response flexibility
- How to create new patterns of responding to difficulty
- The default mode network
- Practices that people can use to strengthen their resilience
- A practice that will calm a panic attack in under 1 minute
- The things that accelerate brain change
- Changing every “should” to a “could”
- That “should” creates contraction in the brain whereas “could” creates openness and possibility in the brain
- Pausing to remember that we can be resilient and asking yourself “What story am I believing now?”
- How triggers become trailheads
Linda Graham Links:
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BJ Fogg teaches innovators about human behavior. He has a doctorate from Stanford and founded the Stanford Persuasive Tech Lab – now called the Stanford Behavior Design Lab – in 1988. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything. There is so much practical, applicable wisdom in this episode. If you have any changes you want to make, any habits you’d like to start in your life, this episode could be a game-changer for you. In it, you’ll learn the “how-to” when it comes to the science of behavior change. It is a skill you can learn, even if you’ve struggled to make changes in your life before. And the best news? It’s incredibly do-able – if you know how.
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In This Interview, BJ Fogg and I Discuss Tiny Habits for Behavior Change and…
- His book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything
- That people change best by feeling good, not feeling bad
- The Tiny Habits Method
- The technique of Celebration
- Learning to be a friend to yourself and treat yourself accordingly
- When it comes to changing your behavior, looking at yourself as a baby who is learning to walk
- The 3 things you should do to set yourself up to succeed when changing a behavior
- Stop judging yourself
- Take your aspirations and break them down into tiny behaviors
- Embrace mistakes as discoveries and use them to move forward
- Golden behaviors
- The problem of “all or nothing thinking”
- The problem of expecting perfection from yourself when it comes to habits
- That when it comes to habits, context is as important as the behavior itself. Change the context, it’s a different habit.
- The Fogg Behavioral Model: Motivation, Ability and a Prompt
- Troubleshooting a behavior change problem
- The danger in assuming you know someone else’s motivation
- Trying to motivate someone vs. taking away a de-motivator
- Ways we can make a behavior easy to do
- That we can plant a tiny seed in a good spot and it will grow without coaxing
BJ Fogg Links:
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Michelle Segar, PhD, is a motivation scientist and author of critically acclaimed “No Sweat! How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness” . She is also the Director of the Sport, Health, and Activity Research and Policy Center (SHARP) at the University of Michigan, and Chair of the U.S. National Physical Activity Plan’s Communications Committee.
Her evidence-based ideas about what motivates people to choose and maintain healthy behaviors is changing the conversation across fields. She consults with global organizations on these issues and delivers keynotes and sustainable behavior change trainings. She ran with the Olympic Torch at the 1992 Olympic Games in Barcelona.
In This Interview, Michelle Segar and I Discuss…
- The One You Feed parable
- Her book, No Sweat: How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness
- How considering a different “why” for starting to be more physically active can be helpful
- That why we engage in physical activity and what it is that we do are critical when it comes to us sticking with it
- How too many “whys” dilute their positive effect on us
- Intrinsic vs Extrinsic goals
- How answering the question, “What kind of physical activity did you enjoy doing as a kid?” can be important
- That we should start doing what makes us feel good and stop doing what makes us feel bad when it comes to physical activity
- That any physical movement is better than none at all – Everything counts!
- That flexibility is a strategy for success when it comes to sustained physical activity in your life
- The vicious cycle of failure
- The sustainable cycle of self-care
- That it’s important to focus one complicated behavior change at a time
- The self-care hierarchy
Michelle Segar Links
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Tim Pychyl is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Carlton University and hosts a podcast called I Procrastinate. We discuss how to go from being a procrastinator to someone who gets things done. His book that we discuss in this episode is on that very topic – it’s called Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change
In This Interview, Tim Pychyl and I Discuss Being a Procrastinator and…
- His book, Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change
- How it’s in the getting on in life that makes a life
- Being a procrastinator can be an existential matter
- What he tells his children: I didn’t ask what you want to do or how you feel, I told you it’s time to make your bed.
- When we are procrastinators we delay getting on with our lives
- Being an active member or your own life
- The two ways being a procrastinator compromises our health
- Stress
- Fewer wellness behaviors
- Treatment delay “I’ll look after that later”
- Being a Procrastinator is a problem of self-regulated behavior
- I won’t give in to feel good
- Goal Intentions and Implementation intentions
- When….then…
- Giving the monkey something to do
- What’s the next action?
- Keeping it small
- Hacks to work around our irrational thinking
- Motivation and then Action or Action and then Motivation
- The meaning behind our goals
- Meaning and Manageability
- Asking what will this cost me if I put it off?
- Being a Procrastinator
- Prefer tomorrow over today
- Thinking “I’ll feel like doing it tomorrow”
- Affect forecasting
- Thinking of your future self as a stranger
- Developing empathy for future self
- Self-handicap to preserve self-esteem
Tim Pychyl Procrastinator Episode Links
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Chances are, you’ve heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That’s kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part series, he talks more about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. You’ll learn some really specific, easy and flat out “why didn’t I think of that” genius methods to apply to your life and habits.
In this Interview, James Clear and I Discuss…
- His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones
- Habits are a response to the physical cues in our environment
- Increasing the friction it takes to complete the task
- The more you increase the steps between you and the bad behavior or decrease the steps between you and the good behavior the better
- Habit stacking/Anchoring
- “After _____ I will _____”
- The more specific the better
- Social environment and habits
- You want to join groups where your desired behavior is the normal behavior
- Make it easy
- The two-minute rule
- A habit must be established before it can be improved
- Optimize for the starting line rather than the finish line
- Make it satisfying
- Feel successful at the end
- Bring the long-term consequences into the short term
James Clear Links
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Chances are, you’ve heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That’s kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 1 of a 2 part series, he talks about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. It’s a fascinating and educational discussion surrounding how to work with yourself and your habits to set yourself up for short and long-term success when it comes to behavior change. Everyone can benefit from listening to the wisdom in this episode. Enjoy.
In This Interview, James Clear and I Discuss…
- His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones
- How habits can compound for you or against you
- That small changes don’t seem to matter much in the moment
- The 4 Laws of Behavior Change
- Your outcomes are a lagging measure of your efforts
- How bamboo is like habits
- You need to build a foundation to see results
- How work isn’t wasted, it’s stored
- Focusing on systems rather than goals
- How the outcome is a natural consequence of habits
- That goals restrict your happiness
- The role of identity in behavior change
- How you choose to act is a vote towards the kind of person you want to be
- Putting your identity on the back burner while you accrue some evidence
- Growth vs Fixed Mindset
- How humans are learning machines
- The 4 Stages of Habits
- How you interpret the cues in your life determines how you respond to them
- The toolbox for breaking and building habits
James Clear Links
David Christian is a Distinguished Professor of History at Macquarie University and director of the school’s Big History Institute, which he founded with Bill Gates. David has delivered keynotes at conferences around the world including the Davos World Economic Forum and his TedTalk has been viewed more than 7 million times. He’s the author of numerous books and articles including the book we discuss in this episode, Origin Story: A Big History of Everything. This episode is truly awe-inspiring, fascinating and mind-blowing.
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In This Interview, David Christian and I Discuss A Big History of Everything and…
- His book, Origin Story: A Big History of Everything
- Looking for the balance in dualities
- What an origin story means to him as well as the guidance it offers
- How modern society has lost touch with origin stories
- Linking knowledge together as well as telling an ancient origin story using modern science
- Knowing who you are, where you are and what challenges you face
- Having a deep sense of awe for how things are as well as The story line of increasing complexity
- What we know & don’t know about The Big Bang
- Pure potentiality becoming energy and matter
- Everything that has ever been came from something that started 13.8 billion years ago, and was a million times smaller than the period at the end of a sentence.
- Emergence of stars, planets, and life happened
- Cells acting with purpose and preference and how collaboration and specialization is inherent.
- The origin of life and the appearance of humans, as well as the unique contribution that human beings that make the emergence of our species are all transformative events on the planet Earth.
- The impact of our utilization of fossil fuels
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Cal Newport is a computer science professor at Georgetown University. In addition to his academic research, he writes about the intersection of digital technology and culture. He is the author of 6 books, his most recent being the New York Times bestseller, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World. In this interview, Eric and Cal discuss how to optimize the role of tech in our lives so that it supports us in the life we want to live., rather than depleting us and causing us to feel like we are giving it too much of our time and energy.
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In This Interview, Cal Newport and I Discuss Digital Minimalism and…
- His book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World
- The concerns about our digital lifestyle
- The mixture of harm and benefit with social media
- The costs of our digital lifestyle
- Digital Maximalist vs Digital Minimalist
- Starting with your values as a guide to decide what tech you use to maximize the time you can spend on things you value
- How to think about the role of tech in your life
- Deploying tech to support you in living life according to your values
- Having a philosophy surrounding the use of tech in your life
- How clutter is costly
- Adding up the cost and value of something
- The importance of optimization in addition to the role of tech in our lives
- Intentionality is satisfying
- The 3 step process for implementing digital minimalism
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Liz Fosslien is the Head of Content and Editorial at Humu, a company that uses behavioral science to make work better. She leads interactive scientifically-backed workshops about how to create a culture of belonging to help remote workers avoid burnout, navigate different work styles, and effectively harness emotion as a leader. Her work has been featured by The New York Times, The Economist, and NPR. Liz is the co-author and illustrator of the book, No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work. In this episode, she and Eric dive into the important and fascinating topic of the role of emotions in the workplace. You may think being “cool, calm and collected” at work is the right way to be but after listening to this episode, you will likely think differently.
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In This Interview, Liz Fosslien and I Embracing Emotions at Work and …
- Her book, No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work.
- How we underestimate the emotions we bring to work
- Tools to help with embracing emotions in the workplace
- How we make really bad decisions when we don’t reference our emotions
- The danger of being a “feelings fire hose” at work
- The “Skill Swap” exercise at work
- The New Rules of Emotion
- Caring about yourself more than you care about your work
- Your Support Network and your Challenge Network at work
- Communicating what you need in the moment to another person
- Social Distancing
- Why we lack motivation at work
- Relevant Emotions vs Irrelevant Emotions
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Greg Marcus is a practitioner, facilitator, and innovator of American Mussar which is a 21st-century spiritual practice for an authentic and meaningful life. He has a B.A. in Biology from Cornell University and earned his Ph.D. in Biology from MIT. He worked for 10 years as a marketer in the Silicon Valley genomics industry, after which he became a stay at home dad, writer, life balance coach, and biotech consultant. His latest book is called The Spiritual Practice of Good Actions: Finding Balance Through the Soul Traits of Mussar.
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In This Interview, Greg Marcus and I Discuss Spiritual Practice of Good Actions and …
- His book, The Spiritual Practice of Good Actions: Finding Balance Through the Soul Traits of Mussar
- The Jewish Spiritual Practice of Mussar
- Taking mindful action in everyday life
- The Soul Trait of Enthusiasm
- Too much of a Soul Trait vs not enough of a Soul Trait
- The middle way as it relates to Soul Traits
- Focusing on a Soul Trait for 2 weeks
- How to move head knowledge into heart knowledge
- The Morning Mantra
- Picking 1 specific action to take
- Journaling
- The Great Wall of Mussar – and how to overcome it
- Handling significant emotional disruption
- How our free will isn’t always accessible to us
- How to slow the train of emotional disruption
- Shadow Soul Traits
- Inverting the Shadow Trait: What is the light that’s casting the shadow?
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Dr. John Norcross is an internationally recognized expert on behavior change. He is Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of Scranton and a board-certified psychologist. He is the author of the acclaimed self-help book, Changeology: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Goals and Resolutions, has authored over 400 publications and has co-written and edited 22 books, principally in the areas of psychotherapy, clinical psychology, professional training, and self-change. In this episode, he and Eric discuss what the science of behavior change tells us when it comes to the do’s and don’t’s of creating new behaviors and putting an end to problematic ones. This episode is full of practical wisdom and is a must-listen for anyone looking to create meaningful, lasting change in their lives.
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In This Interview, Dr. John Norcross and I discuss Behavior Change and…
- His book, Changeology: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Goals and Resolutions
- One of the colossal mistakes people make when trying to change their behavior
- Motivation & willpower versus learnable skills
- Harnessing the power of the science of behavior change as well as the 5 stages of behavior change
- The power of doing the right things at the right time
- Preparing to follow a behavior change program
- The 90-day commitment for lasting behavior change
- Chronic Contemplation as well as what to do when you slip up
- The findings from the New Years Resolutions Study
- Energy sources
- The importance of a “change team” or a “support team”
- The common “countering” methods using “healthy opposites”
- How to apply the “healthy opposites” approach to emotional eating
- The truth: what is measured, improves
- Dealing with urges as well as cravings
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Loch Kelly is an author, meditation teacher, psychotherapist, and the founder of The Open-Hearted Awareness Institute. Loch works to help people access awakening as the next natural stage of human development. by offering in-person retreats, workshops, and online video and audio courses. He has served on the New York Insight Teachers Council and has collaborated with neuroscientists at Yale, U Penn and NYU in the study of how awareness training can enhance compassion and well being. Loch also studied extensively with Mingyur Rinpoche and was invited to teach direct realization by Adyashanti. As a licensed psychotherapist, Loch has been teaching seminars, supervising clinicians and practicing awareness psychotherapy in New York City for 30 years. His latest book is called, The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life.
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In This Interview, Loch Kelly and I discuss Effortless Mindfulness and…
- His book, The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life
- The good wolf & the bad wolf: how there are no “bad” parts of us
- Feed the one who is aware of the two wolves
- How he defines “effortless mindfulness”
- Flow consciousness
- Deliberate mindfulness vs effortless mindfulness
- Objects of consciousness vs the space that objects are in
- Mindfulness is about awakening rather than it just being about stress management
- Relieving suffering at it’s root
- Small glimpses, many times and the practice of the “small glimpses” techniques.
- Dropping from head mind to heart mind
- Non-dual awareness
- How to practice the "small glimpses techniques
- Awareness-based knowing
Loch Kelly Links:
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Judith Blackstone is an innovative and experienced teacher in the contemporary fields of non-dual realization and spiritual, relational, and somatic psychotherapy. She developed The Realization Process, which is a direct path for realizing fundamental consciousness. She also teaches the application of non-dual realization for psychological, relational, and physical healing. Judith has taught The Realization Process for over 35 years throughout the United States and Europe. She currently has 6 books in publication including her latest book, Trauma and the Unbound Body: The Healing Power of Fundamental Consciousness.
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In This Interview, Judith Blackstone and I discuss Healing Trauma through Consciousness and …
- Her book, Trauma and the Unbound Body: The Healing Power of Fundamental Consciousness
- Uncovering fundamental consciousness
- Attuning to the 3 components of fundamental consciousness: awareness, emotion, and physical sensation
- Defining trauma
- The way we hold back things that won’t be met with approval
- How traumatic events cause us to be divided – driving us out of our fundamental nature of wholeness, which is fundamental consciousness
- Inhabiting our body vs scanning our body
- Releasing trauma through our bodies
- Healing trauma through consciousness
- Psychological healing in addition to spiritual awakening
- The role of memory in healing trauma
- Accessing memories through somatic connections
- Healing trauma in relation to other people as well as with other people
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David Richo, PhD is a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader and writer who works in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, CA. He combines Jungian, poetic and mythic perspectives in his work with the intention of integrating the psychological and the spiritual. His books and workshops include attention to Buddhist and Christian spiritual practices. He is the author of the classic book, How To Be An Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration and his latest book, 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big Challenges, is the focus of the conversation in this episode. If you’ve experienced difficulty in life – and who hasn’t? -then this episode on navigating the 5 givens in life is for you.
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In This Interview, David Richo and I Discuss Navigating the Five Givens in Life and…
- His latest book 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big Challenges
- That perfection is not a human option
- How a “given” can be looked at as an immutable fact or something that we’ve been granted
- Navigating the 5 givens in life that are the ingredients of a life with meaning, character, depth, and compassion
- Life is not always fair and that pain is part of everyone’s life
- The importance of saying yes to these givens as it brings more equanimity and serenity into our life
- Accepting the things we cannot change, while trusting that if life is like this, these “givens” aren’t penalties – rather, they have gift dimensions
- How we create our own suffering through our saying “no” to what is
- His words, “Anything that crosses swords with our entitled ego is a powerful source of transformation and inner evolution.”
- The ego tries to control the givens
- That love is accepting someone as they are, knowing that everyone comes with these 5 givens
- How the opposite of yes is not no, but rather it is control
- Building the inner resources that make me strong enough to handle whatever givens come my way as well as the importance of becoming skilled at grief
- His words, “A spiritually evolved adult seeks not an answer, but a significance.”
- Live with the questions and notice where they take us
- Act with loving-kindness in addition to holding difficulty with mindfulness
- Spirituality is the intersection of 3 paths: letting go of ego, “yes” to the conditions of human experience, and compassion
- Happiness is not a reward and suffering is not a punishment
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Tony Wrighton is a regular on Sky Sports News, the author of 3 books, and the creator and host of the Zestology podcast. In this episode, Eric and Tony talk about managing and optimizing your energy, ways to build fun into your day, techniques from Neurolinguistic Programming to help with anxiety and a lot more. This conversation is all about being intentional and smart about how you structure your days in order to support and promote your own well being.
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In This Interview, Tony Wrighton and I Discuss Managing your Energy and …
- Trying to meditate with a 4-month-old
- How there’s not a good and evil wolf – rather, many different wolves
- His training in NLP
- The role of control in our lives
- Parenting
- Why he named his podcast Zestology – and what it means to him
- The idea of managing energy – without it, you can’t do anything. With a lot of it, you feel you can conquer the world
- The thing that helps with energy and well being as well as what counts as a “fun” activity for him.
- Meditating, sleep, good food, intermittent fasting, exercise
- The thing that, when he didn’t do it, caused his daily energy level to decrease by 30%
- How he tracks the variables that contribute to his energy levels
- His books: Confidence in a Minute, Persuade in a Minute, and Relax in a Minute
- The NLP technique of anchoring in addition to managing your inner voice.
- How we get used to anything in life so it’s important to switch things up
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Authenticity
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James Finley is a contemplative practitioner, clinical psychologist and faculty member of The Living School for Action and Contemplation. Drawing from his experience as a former monk and spiritual directee of Thomas Merton, James helps seekers who desire to live a contemplative, whole life. In this episode, he and Eric discuss many of his works and concepts pertaining to contemplation, awakening to our true nature, truth that transcends religions, love and wisdom. We think you will be struck (as we are!) by how expansive, inclusive and edifying James’ words and teachings are when it comes to helping you to connect with that which is loving and true and always present.
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In This Interview, James Finley and I Discuss Contemplation, Awakening, and …
- The question: In this moment, what’s the most loving thing I can do?
- How it’s love that feeds the good wolf
- His book, Merton’s Palace of Nowhere
- His violent, abusive alcoholic father and how that facilitated his seeking a place in a monastery with Thomas Merton
- Merton’s message that we are one with the infinite love that is God and that is our deepest identity and it is our destiny is to realize that
- That we subsist in a relationship with God as light subsists in flame
- How truth transcends religions
- The True Self and False Self
- The lie that the ego is all that we are
- Identity: The discovery of the true self is the process of dying to our dreaded and cherished illusion that anything less than infinite union with infinite love has the authority to name who we are.
- The acts that hurt ourselves and others is the acting out of a mistaken identity
- His book, The Contemplative Heart
- To contemplate means to pay attention, to observe carefully
- Contemplation is sustained attentiveness infused with love
- His book, Christian Meditation
- Taking the stance of least resistance when it comes to awakening
- The welling up of that which sustains us in the brokenness
- Removing complexities and distractions to be present in stillness
- The mystic teacher is one whose words awaken your heart to the desire for “the great way” and offers trustworthy guidance in it.
- The mystic teacher uses language in the service of helping a person to let go of their dependency on the kind of language that stops short at explanations to find the language that is a kind of a cry from the heart, from our true self.
- The true self embraces both solitude and communion with others
- The metaphor of a high jumper and a very high bar and God’s mercy or compassion then placing it on the ground where we then trip over it and fall into God’s loving arms
- Being sustained by a mystery that then brings us to itself – and that is wisdom
James Finley Links:
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Reba Riley is a blogger, artist, and healer. She travels the world speaking about transformation, courage, health, and healing. Her book, Post Traumatic Church Syndrome: A Memoir of Humor and Healing, is the topic of discussion in this episode. You will be moved and inspired by Reba’s story. As it turns out, kindness, love, and bravery really are some of the most powerful forces to harness for healing and hope and that’s what she discovered as she explored 30 religions before she turned 30 and battled a deep depression in the years following.
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In This Interview, Reba Riley and I Discuss Post Traumatic Church Syndrome, and …
- Her book, Post Traumatic Church Syndrome: A Memoir of Humor and Healing
- Her chronic illness
- Facing her anger and bitterness
- 30 religions before she turned 30
- Life being grey when religions answers are often black and white
- That love is bigger than everything
- Love healing us and bringing us together
- Her mothers love through her journey
- That wherever she found love (in the 30 religions) she found God
- How love and forgiveness have to start in each of us
- Looking past beliefs and differences and judgments to find the love that exists
- If love rolled up her sleeves and put on her work boots, kindness is what would happen
- Kindness is the action, the outpouring, the verb – of love
- Kindness is love made visible
- Her battle with dark, debilitating depression
- Feeling like she had no reason to do anything, no will to live
- Using kindness to battle depression
- How she did 5000 random acts of kindness over 18 months and it saved her life
- The story she hasn’t told anywhere else about her relapse of depression
- The alchemy of kindness to transform your pain
- Couraging = brave as a verb
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Robin Hanson is an Associate Professor of Economics at George Mason University and a Research Associate at the Future of Humanity Institute of Oxford University. His book, The Elephant In The Brain: Hidden Motives In Everyday Life, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. They explore topics like motives, perspective, the left brain interpreter and so much more as it relates to human behavior. This episode will give you a lot of insight into yourself and others.
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In This Interview, Robin Hanson and I Discuss Motives, Human Behavior, and …
- His book, The Elephant In The Brain: Hidden Motives In Everyday Life
- How often, we keep our true motives hidden from others
- That we also keep our true motives hidden from ourselves
- Modularity
- The things happening at a conscious as well as an unconscious level
- The left brain interpreter being like a press secretary
- Needing to tell a story about our motives
- Questioning whether or not you know the motives of others
- That we have multiple motives for doing things
- Understand others and then assume you’re a lot like them
- Cynicism and Misanthropy
- Perspective
- The evolution to protect ourselves from each other
- The need to have others like us and think well of us
- Obliviation
- What if others couldn’t see what you bought – that their opinion of you wouldn’t change because of what you bought – how would that change what you’d buy?
- That we pay a lot for variety
- Proximate and distal causes
- That evolution designed us to be relatively unaware of our motives – so why is it good to know about them?
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Charlie Gilkey is the author of Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done. An Army veteran and near Ph.D. in philosophy, Charlie is the founder of Productive Flourishing, a company that helps professional creatives, leaders, and change-makers take meaningful action on work matters. He’s widely cited in outlets such as Inc. Magazine, Time, Forbes, The Guardian, Life Hacker and more and his work will help you discover the path from the ideas in your head to the actions you take in your daily life and the way you live out your values – and most importantly how to go about getting things done.
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In This Interview, Charlie Gilkey and I Discuss Getting Things Done and …
- His book, Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done
- How kindness towards others often brings out the best in everyone
- The Tao Te Ching
- Focusing on your input and letting go of the results
- Why finishing is so important
- That we only get mastery from finishing things, not halfway doing them
- We don’t just improve by thinking about things, we improve by doing them
- Creative constipation breeds toxicity
- We’re either creating something or destroying something
- We don’t do ideas, we do projects
- How it feels good to think about our ideas
- How doing our best work is often really hard
- The myth: if it’s meant to be for us, it’s supposed to be easy
- That when you start something you’re not as good at it as you want to be and it takes time to and effort to get better
- The myth that if it doesn’t come easy for you, you shouldn’t do it
- Doing something until you’re good enough at it to decide whether or not you want to continue doing it
- The 5 things that get in the way of doing our best work
- Head Trash: Doesn’t matter if a thought is true or not – it matters if we believe it or not
- The problem with automatically believing our thoughts
- How discipline limits decision fatigue
- Action expresses priority
- Being sick isn’t a character defect – how you respond to it matters
- That big life changes take life force and energy in order for us to respond to and deal with them and that’s life force that we can’t put towards other things – and that’s ok
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Mark Henick has appeared in hundreds of television segments and countless more radio, print and online features about mental health. Mark’s TedTalk, “Why We Choose Suicide”, is among the most-watched in the world with over 6 million views. In this episode, he tells Eric about his experience with attempts at suicide, relapsing depression and getting skillful with finding meaning and living his life. This isn’t just a broad discussion on suicide and depression – there are real, practical techniques and approaches that can be applied to life today, no matter your circumstances, to create meaning, fulfillment, and yes, even joy.
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In This Interview, Mark Henick and I Discuss Suicide, Depression, and…
- The duality of life and death
- Mental Health and Suicide
- His suicidality at 12 years old
- The message he got that he couldn’t talk about suicide
- The complete stranger who saved him from jumping from a bridge at night – physically holding on to him
- His realization that he didn’t have to be the suffering boy he was, he could be the stranger that helped him…that his life could be different
- The myth that if you talk about suicide it will give people the idea to do it
- The right way and wrong way to talk about suicide and depression
- How freeing it is to talk about something
- When others told him they could relate to his story of suicide and depression
- His recovery through a newfound sense of purpose
- The healthier relationships he pursued
- Getting clear about boundaries
- The toxic masculinity he was surrounded by as a child
- Not having the language to express the feelings he had
- The perceptual field and increasing your options by getting uncomfortable.
- How depression limits the options you can see
- Broadening of perception and expansion as a part of awakening
- Something good can come from most painful situations; It’s in the lens you take and the work that you do.
- His depression and social anxiety disorder
- The danger in an avoidant coping strategy as well as the flaws of perfectionism.
- Realizing the cross you bear can change into meaning and how to turn your struggle into something good.
- Getting good at re-lapsing with his depression
- His misguided thought that he was failing at getting better
- Learning to trust himself AND learning not to believe every one of his thoughts
- The truth: This too shall pass (the more you cling to it the longer it takes to pass)
- How depression hates a moving target
Mark Henick Links:
Ted Talk: “Why We Choose Suicide”
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This mini episode is about the tactical and emotional aspects of changing behavior.
Sarah Shockley is a multiple award-winning producer and director of educational films including Dancing From the Inside Out, a highly acclaimed documentary on disabled dance. Sarah is the author of a number of books on living with chronic pain, including the one discussed in this episode, The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living with and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain.
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In This Interview, Sarah Shockley and I Discuss Living with Chronic Pain and…
- Her book, The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living with and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain
- How it’s hard for us to heal when we’re in a battle with pain
- The good wolf aspect of pain
- Feeding into healing vs feeding in living with chronic pain
- Her experience with debilitating pain
- The many components of chronic pain – in addition to the physical component
- How isolating chronic pain can be
- Chronic emotional pain
- Seeing pain differently
- Turning towards pain and asking it, “What could positively be your positive purpose here?”
- What you resist persists
- Becoming partners with your pain
- Thinking of pain as the voice of something within you that wants to be healed
- Creating a different relationship with pain
- We lock pain in place when we get into a resistant mode
- Giving pain a lot of space
- Breathing into the pain
- The messages that pain brought her
- Asking pain, “What do you need?”
- How her life has been transformed by changing her relationship and experience with chronic pain
- That she wrote the book she wished she had been given in the midst of her struggle with pain
- That being seen in your pain can be the beginning of healing
- Living with chronic pain and what she imagined her pain looking like
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Eric Kaufmann guides leaders to make better decisions and achieve better results. He has consulted for hundreds of leaders including executives and team leaders at Sony, TMobile, Genentec and Alcon Labs just to name a few. He is the founder of Sagatica Inc and he serves on the board of the San Diego Zen Center. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his work of teaching conscious leadership in the workplace.
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In This Interview, Eric Kaufmann and I Discuss…
- How he interacts with his shadow side
- The key to not making a situation worse
- His practice of refrain and return
- Conscious leadership
- Unrelenting commitment to results with an unwavering regard for spirit
- What someone says they want vs what they need
- The courage it takes to say no
- The 3 building blocks of our egoic state
- The 3 pillars of being a conscious person
- Wisdom = mistakes + time
- Wisdom = Seeing below the surface and beyond the obvious
- That being wise means being present and aware
- How cultivating wisdom is a practice and how humor cultivates wisdom.
- Courage is walking toward what you want to walk away from
- Have the courage to Speak Up, Care, Commit
- How sarcasm can be a mask of fear
- Bringing the weird
- How it takes energy to withhold
- Love is wanting to do well for others
- Love is expansive, inclusive, and connective
- The things that get in the way of love
Eric Kaufmann Links:
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Brent Williams suffered for a long time from depression and anxiety and during that time he kept a journal about his thoughts, feelings, and experiences. That journal has now been turned in to a beautiful graphic novel called, Out Of The Woods: A Journey Through Depression and Anxiety. In this episode, Brent and Eric use his story as a jumping-off point to discuss how depression can show up in your life and how you can realistically, practically, and effectively find your way out of it.
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In This Interview, Brent Williams and I Discuss…
- His book, Out Of The Woods: A Journey Through Depression and Anxiety
- How subtle depression can be in your life – permeating everything
- All the things he went to as a diagnosis before he admitted it was depression he was suffering from
- His resistance to taking depression medication
- How he watched his father take medication for anxiety and how it changed him
- His resistance to taking help from others
- His experience in therapy
- The metaphor of depression medication being a life preserver but you still have to swim back to shore
- The components of self-care: eat well, exercise, be with people, be outside, get support, stop ruminating, proper sleep
- How fundamental good nutrition is when it comes to mental well being
- Doing small and manageable things when you’re depressed
- How the reward mechanism in your brain isn’t working properly when you’re depressed
- How it took him a while to find the right therapist
- The potential danger of meditating when depressed
- That mindfulness meditation was the form of meditating that helped him most
- The impact of keeping a mood chart – seeing a pattern that you can’t see at the time
- That sometimes you just have to push yourself over the hurdle of doing things that are good for you when you don’t feel like doing them
- Looking at your activities to assess your mental wellbeing
- Depression showing up as irritability in men
Brent Williams Links:
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Dr. Sue Johnson is an author, clinical psychologist, researcher, and an internationally recognized leader in the field of couple interventions. She is founding Director of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) and Distinguished Research Professor at Alliant University in San Diego, California, as well as Professor Emeritus, Clinical Psychology, at the University of Ottawa, Canada. In this interview, Dr. Sue Johnson discuss her best selling book, “Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” and her groundbreaking research of helping couples to enhance, repair, and keep their relationship.
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In This Interview, Dr. Sue Johnson and I Discuss…
- Her book, Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
- The wolf parable and how therapists act as the third wolf for couples.
- Relationships are often stuck in fear and anger
- Emotional disconnection causes distress in relationships.
- Humans are wired for close connection with others.
- Attachment needs continue into adulthood, most notably in romantic relationships.
- Common conversations in distressed relationships are known as “demon dialogues”.
- Relationships stuck in predictable patterns is referred to as the “Protest Polka”.
- “Freeze and Flee”means one person gives up on the relationship.
- “Find the Bad Guy” in other words, It’s not me, it’s you”
- Understanding the circle of criticism, or the “dance” you’re stuck in.
- Learning to blame this “dance” rather than each other.
- The “hold me tight conversation” that creates safety in the relationship.
- Understanding the negative cycle that causes disconnection.
- Creating a positive cycle by creating a secure bond
- “ARE” – Accessibility, Responsiveness, and Engagement.
- Talking about fears rather than acting on them leads to bonding.
- Emotional connection in a relationship is a source of joy and strength.
Dr. Sue Johnson Links:
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Gabe Howard is an award-winning writer, speaker, and host of the weekly Psych Central show who lives with bipolar and anxiety disorders. His new book, Mental Illness Is an A-Hole – And Other Observations, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. You’ll be captivated by Gabe’s story as he tells it – it’s compelling, relatable, inspiring, and educational. Whether or not you have bipolar disorder or another mental illness, chances are you know someone or some people who do and so this is an important episode to listen to – you’ll deepen your understanding of what it means to live with mental illness.
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In This Interview, Gabe Howard and I Discuss…
- His book, Mental Illness Is an A-Hole – And Other Observations
- What bipolar disorder is (and isn’t) and how it shows up in his life
- His compelling story
- The myth that people with mental illness come from bad families
- When he went to the ER because of suicidal thoughts
- How he defines recovery: spending more time living life than managing his bipolar disorder
- The 4 years he spent in a battle with his mental illness
- How you have to learn what works for you – and how that takes time
- The role of medication in the treatment of mental illness
- How it stings when your body lets you down
- Eric’s experience taking and not taking medication for his depression
- Whole health wellness
- Suicide
- Don’t choose a permanent solution to a temporary problem
- How suicide doesn’t end the pain – it transfers it to someone else
Gabe Howard Links:
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Lauren Zander is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker and co-founder and chairwoman of The Handel Group. Her book, Maybe It's You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life is what she and Eric discuss in this episode. Lauren has an incredibly useful approach to uncovering your limiting inner dialogue so that you can truly catapult yourself forward in life.
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In This Interview, Lauren Zander and I Discuss...
- Her book, Maybe It's You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life.
- Getting conscious of the unconscious parts of yourself
- Her life-changing moment at 19
- How much of what is plaguing a person is in their inner dialogue
- The strategist in your head
- That over 80% of our thoughts are negative and repeating from the day before
- The chicken, the brat, the weather reporter
- Keeping promises to yourself
- Integrity and spirituality
- Consequences
- Accountability
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Father Richard Rohr is a globally recognized ecumenical teacher bearing witness to the universal awakening within Christian mysticism and the Perennial Tradition. He’s a Franciscan priest in the New Mexico Provence and the founder of the Center for Action and Contemplation in Albuquerque. In this episode, Eric and Father Richard discuss his most recent book, The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and Believe.
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In This Interview, Father Richard Rohr and I Discuss…
- His book, The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and Believe
- What the word “Christ” means for him
- How God loves things by becoming them, by uniting with them
- That a mature Christian sees Christ in everything and everyone else
- The notion of God IN all things vs God IS all things
- How Christ is a stand-in for everything
- Focusing on the death of Christ and missing the life of Christ
- When God hides his face
- The difference between spiritual darkness and depression
- A loss of the feeling of faith in God isn’t the same thing as a loss of faith in God
- How distraction doesn’t make you happy
- God uses 3 things to draw us out of ourselves: goodness, truth and beauty
- Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful
- How God uses evil for your transformation
- That Jesus punishes nobody
- When you return in kind – like Michael and the dragon – you become the dragon
- The 2 virtues you need to move forward on the spiritual path: humility and honesty
Father Richard Rohr Links:
Center for Action and Contemplation
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Maia Szalavitz is an American reporter and author who has focused much of her work on the topic of addiction. She is the co-author of Born for Love and The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, both with Dr. Bruce D. Perry. Her latest book is Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction
In this paradigm-shifting interview, Maia Szalavitz explains that addiction is a learning disorder, a developmental disorder, which is a different way of thinking of addiction than it being a disease or a moral failing.
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In This Interview, Maia Szalavitz and I Discuss…
- Her book, Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction
- That your brain becomes what it does – that the more you repeat an activity, the easier it becomes
- How addiction is a developmental disorder and how learning is critical to addiction
- The problems with discussion about addiction as a disease
- Arguing that addiction is a disease and then treating it like a moral failing
- Addiction resets your priorities and causes one to make different decisions
- Addiction = compulsive behavior that continues despite negative consequences
- How illogical it is then to try and address addiction by focusing on implementing additional negative consequences
- The complexity of addiction, genes + culture + timing
- The developmental history that gets you to addiction
- How the drug isn’t the problem and our efforts to get rid of it isn’t a helpful solution
- Addiction as a learning disorder that is characterized by a resistance to punishment
- The problem with “rock bottom” is it’s not helpful scientifically, and it implies a moral component of having to reach a point of extreme degradation before you can stop.
- What the motivation is that turns people to recovery
- How addicts keep using because they can’t see how they can survive any other way
- Recovery begins when you start to see that there are other options
- People with addiction are living at a point of learned helplessness
- The role of hope and other ways of managing their life
- Addiction as a coping mechanism
- The pleasures of the hunt vs the pleasures of the feast
- Wanting vs Liking
- Different motivational states
- Addiction as escalating wanting
- Stimulants and chasing that satisfaction
- The effectiveness and usefulness of 12 Step Programs
- The role of medicine in a developmental disorder
- Looking at addicts as students who need to learn better coping skills rather than sinners who need to be forced to repent.
Maia Szalavitz Links:
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Hal Gregersen is the Executive Director of the Leadership Center at MIT. He is a prolific author and motivational speaker recognized by Thinkers 500 as one of the World’s 50 Most Innovative Minds. In this episode, Eric and Hal discuss his book, Questions are the Answer: A Breakthrough Approach to Your Most Vexing Problems at Work and in Life.
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In This Interview, Hal Gregersen and I Discuss…
- His book, Questions are the Answer: A Breakthrough Approach to Your Most Vexing Problems at Work and in Life
- That whether we know it or not, we’re all living questions
- Keystone questions
- Shadow questions
- How he discovered his questions
- The heart attack that changed his life
- His shadow questions
- Asking better questions
- Competing Commitments
- Underlying assumptions
- Alexander Papaderos
- How if you want better answers, you’ve got to ask better questions
- That if you feel stuck you’re probably asking the wrong question
- Brainstorming questions without answering them
- Why we don’t ask good questions
- Catalytic questions that challenge false assumptions
- How wanting to be right and smart stops us from getting to better questions
- What if you woke up and asked, what am I dead wrong about today?
- That if you’re not making big enough mistakes, you’re not trying hard enough
- The danger of moving into smaller and smaller tribes that are founded on being right
- Actively seeking passive data – observing and listening
- The power of the pause
- Listening to understand vs listening to defend
- How can I find and reflect the light in you?
Hal Gregersen Links:
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Eric Tivers is a licensed clinical social worker, coach, podcaster, speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He specializes in ADHD and has worked extensively with individuals on the autism spectrum. His podcast is ADHD reWired and in this episode, Eric and Eric talk about the experience of being an Adult with ADHD.
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In This Interview, Eric Tivers and I Discuss…
- How he separates “mind” and “brain”
- ADHD in Adults
- Impulsivity and Hyperactivity
- Inattention and Distractability
- How people with ADHD aren’t lazy – according to brain scans
- The diagnostic criteria for ADHD
- The multimodal treatment approach for ADHD
- His experience with Adderall
- The lie of “I’ll remember that”
- Time wisdom
- The importance of Exercise, Sleep
- Separate decision from action
- The wisdom in flipping a coin
- A disorder of self-regulation
- Accountability
- The anatomy of a to-do list
- Vision verbing
- Why cue
- Life on hard mode – but we can do hard things
Eric Tivers Links:
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Cindy Stulberg is an internationally respected psychologist and is the Director of The Institute of Interpersonal Psychotherapy which provides psychological assessment and counseling for individuals and couples, groups and families and has done so for the past 35 years. In this episode, Cindy and Eric discuss her book, Feeling Better: Beat Depression and Improve Your Relationships with Interpersonal Psychotherapy.
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In This Interview, Cindy Stulberg and I Discuss…
- Her book, Feeling Better: Beat Depression and Improve Your Relationships with Interpersonal Psychotherapy
- That your relationships hold the key to your happiness
- Interpersonal Psychotherapy
- The areas of life that trigger a depressive episode
- Drawing your social circle and asking questions about them
- How to build your social circle
- Conversation starters
- The difference between feelings and moods
- Questions for emotional enlightenment
- Getting input from others when looking to do things differently for them to make things better
- Paying attention to how you feel
- The question: What’s the best, worst and most likely outcome?
- Linking rigid expectations to happiness
- How you can’t expect 1 person to meet all your needs
Cindy Stulberg Links:
The Institute of Interpersonal Psychotherapy
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Claire Booth is an entrepreneur, author, and speaker. She’s the founder and CEO of the market research firm Lux Insights with two decades of experience serving some of the worlds most recognized brands. In this episode, Eric and Claire discuss her book, The Achiever Fever Cure: How I Learned to Stop Striving Myself Crazy.
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In This Interview, Claire Booth and I Discuss…
- Her book, The Achiever Fever Cure: How I Learned to Stop Striving Myself Crazy
- Her experience of learning to love her bad wolf
- Keeping her inner house clean
- The anxiety, depression, and insomnia that came with her constant achieving
- The difference between achiever fever and achieving
- I’ll be happy when…
- The craving mindset of achieving
- How every leader in her business has a coach
- The importance of a coach
- The questions we ask ourselves, the stories we tell ourselves – that we need someone to poke holes in them
- Her inner critic – the judge
- The left brain interpreter
- Checking your thoughts for truth
- Asking if your thought could be defended 100% in a court of law
- Asking yourself, who would I be without that thought?
- Cognitive Bias
- Asking yourself “Would my life be better if I wasn’t drinking?”
- The feeling of worry
- How she is able to let go of worry
Claire Booth Links:
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Adyashanti is an American born spiritual teacher devoted to serving the awakening of all beings. His teachings are an open invitation to stop, inquire and recognize what is true and liberating at the core of all existence. Adyashanti also runs the Omega retreat which Eric has taken part in many times. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part interview, Eric and Adya continue their conversation about his latest book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life.
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In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss…
- How his relationship to his wife has become more of a mystery over their 23 years together
- The role of play and being silly
- How our spiritual striving can get in the way – in meditation, specifically
- How meditation is the relinquishing of an agenda
- The way we engage with the mystery of being
- The curiosity that was sparked when he realized he was a mystery unto himself
- That spirituality is an experiential encounter with the unknown
- The paradox we’re embracing with meditation
- Start meditation by listening to the quiet spaces inside, let go of trying to control what’s happening in your mind
- When you realize you’re lost in thought during meditation, kindly and gently encourage your attention back to your meditation anchor or listening
- Observe your relationship with failure – or things going some other way than the way you want them to – during meditation
- Gratitude for popping out of the dream or trance state
- Encountering life attitudes during meditation
- Spiritual insight during real life – what do you value at any given moment?
- Chasing a spiritual high
- Asking “what am I in service to?”
- Not having to have the feeling in order to engage in right action
Adyshanti Links:
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Adyashanti is an American born spiritual teacher devoted to serving the awakening of all beings. His teachings are an open invitation to stop, inquire and recognize what is true and liberating at the core of all existence. Adyashanti also runs the Omega retreat which Eric has taken part in many times. In this episode, Eric and Adya talk about his latest book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life.
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In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss…
- His book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life
- Attention and Intention
- The inquiry at any given time: Where are we giving our attention to?
- Considering the question: What is worthwhile orienting your life around?
- The limitations that come with aging
- How the definition of happiness changes as we age
- Wholeness of being
- Life as it is rather than the image of life
- Two interpretations of the fact that sometimes those who are the most unhappy tend to be seeking happiness the most
- Shooting for meaning rather than happiness
- How meaning is an experience of being
- The inquiry: What am I in service to?
- That we don’t seem to do well as human beings when we live exclusively for ourselves
- What does it mean to really serve what you realize (rather than trying to realize more and more)
- The mistaken thinking that an act of service must be grand in scale or scope or must be visible to really count or matter
- How it’s easy to be noble when you are noticed but in most of our lives that’s not what’s taking place
- That giving time and attention when someone needs it can make for transformative moments
- Seeing the importance of the things you do in your life now that are in service
- That you can’t make yourself awaken but what you do DOES have an impact – it’s just indirect
- The yearning itself comes from the very thing we’re yearning for (in terms of awakening)
Adyshanti Links:
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Donna Hylton is a women’s rights activist and criminal justice reform advocate. Donna speaks publicly about the issues facing incarcerated women and girls and the significant impact the significant increase in the female prison population is having on families, children and our communities. Her book, “A Little Piece of Light: A Memoir of Hope, Prison, and a Life Unbound” tells the story of the childhood abuse she endured, the spiral of events that lead to her incarceration and how she learned to live, love and trust all over again. In this episode, Donna shares some deeply personal stories of her traumatic past and how she found her voice to help other victims of violence and abuse.
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In This Interview, Donna Hylton and I Discuss…
- Her book, “A Little Piece of Light: A Memoir of Hope, Prison, and a Life Unbound”
- Navigating the good times and bad times of her early childhood.
- Finding the courage to ask for help.
- How she ran track in high school as a way to “run away”
- How we must talk about these painful stories to get to the root causes.
- How dealing with trauma does something to our psyche.
- Believing we don’t have value can be reinforced by those around you.
- Dealing with the difficult relationship with her daughter, who was the result of rape
- Years of therapy and healing helped find that place of light inside herself.
- How talking about the trauma releases the pain instead of holding on to it.
- How we need to face the trauma, try to understand it and then try to stop it.
- When you’re young, you believe that what happens around you is your fault and therefore often make the same mistakes because you don’t know how to rationalize what is happening.
- How she became a wounded healer.
- How she started healing and forgiving herself when she went to prison.
- How she became an advocate for the sick women in prison after losing a close friend.
- Realizing she could no longer stand by or stay silent when something bad happened to others.
- How she helped bring counseling, educational and other care programs into the prison system.
- Saying goodbye to the little girl inside who was silent
- Embracing the little girl inside who found her voice
- We are not the worst moment in our lives, we’re not our mistakes
- We are human beings who have been through something
- Being part of the newly passed Domestic Violence Survivors Justice Act (DVSJA) which considers alternative sentencing or intervention for those convicted who have been victims of severe abuse.
- When a body is put under pressure, it’s going to react and do whatever it takes to survive
- Her source of unconditional love and truth, Sister Mary, who helped her to become the activist she is today.
- How “we can connect deeply with humanity if we look through the eyes of love and compassion”
- We were created in love and beauty is all around us if we can just recognize it.
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David Kadavy is a best selling author, blogger, podcaster and speaker. Through his blogging and podcasting, he helps people find satisfaction through following their crafts even if it takes them down an unconventional path. His book, The Heart to Start: Stop Procrastinating and Start Creating, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. If you ever struggle with procrastination, you’ll find this episode helpful, informative, inspiring and empowering. There’s some real, practical wisdom here that will enable you to get started with whatever it is that you want to do in your life.
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In This Interview, David Kadavy and I Discuss…
- His book, The Heart to Start: Stop Procrastinating and Start Creating
- How to get started
- The things that stand in the way of us starting
- What it means to be creative, or to create
- The resistance that comes from the ego surrounding getting started
- Motivational Judo
- Tricks to get yourself to just get started
- Give yourself permission to suck
- You can’t do good work without doing bad work first
- Perfection paralysis
- What happens when the scale of a creative project is too big
- Fortress fallacy
- The role of curiosity in getting started
- Balancing exploitation and exploration
- Following your curiosities
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Alan Castel, Ph.D. is a professor in the Department of Psychology at The University of California Los Angeles. His research focuses on how cognition changes with age and how people selectively remember important events. His work has been supported by the National Institute on Aging and has been featured in The New York Times and Time Magazine. In this episode, Eric and Alan discuss his book, Better with Age: The Psychology of Successful Aging.
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In This Interview, Alan Castel, Ph.D. and I Discuss…
- His book, Better with Age: The Psychology of Successful Aging
- How mindset matters in aging
- Role models in successful aging
- That life can get better with ageSocio-Emotional Selectivity Theory
- The realization that time is finite
- The ways that life can get better the older we get
- What helps prevent cognitive decline
- That older adults often have less regret than younger adult
- How we’re better at focusing on what’s important as we age
- Walking or getting physical exercise (getting blood flow to the brain) is key in preventing cognitive decline
- The importance of balance training when it comes to healthy aging
- How illuminating it is to test your balance
- How helpful it is to be around people who do the things that we’re looking to do in our lives
- The challenges that come with retirement – and how to overcome them
- The middle way as it applies to retirement
- The two most important things in life
Alan Castel, Ph.D. Links:
memory & lifespan cognition lab
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Mary O’Malley is an author, teacher, and counselor whose work awakens others to the joy of being fully alive. Her inspired and transformative approach to compulsions offers a way to replace fear, hopelessness, and struggle with ease, well-being, and joy. Through her individual counseling and coaching, books, classes, retreats, and ongoing groups, Mary invites people to experience the miracle of awakening.
Acknowledged as a leader in the field of Awakening by many Mary clearly sees both the big picture and the details of human patterns and conditioning. She possesses an extraordinary ability to understand and connect with people. And she is skilled in empowering people to work with difficult mind states resulting in greater inner awareness and presence and a greater capacity for joy. Eckhart Tolle says, “Thank you, Mary, for your contribution to the evolution of human consciousness.”
Her latest book is called What’s In the Way, Is the Way: A Practical Guide to Awakening.
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In This Interview, Mary O’Malley and I Discuss…
- The intertwining of good and bad, the yin and yang
- Dealing with eating problems
- How what we fight, we empower
- Creating a relationship with the dark side
- The impact of the early years of our lives
- The conditioned self
- How we are addicted to struggle
- Being present to life instead of thinking our way through life
- The “low-grade suffering” that permeates our lives
- The storyteller in our minds
- The Four Lets
- Learning to not listen so closely to the storyteller in our mind
- The difference between being here for life and being in a conversation about life
- The power of curiosity
- The 8 core spells that we tell ourselves
- Look to Unhook
- The power of human attention to heal
- Sticking with these practices even when it seems to be going slow
- Watching for tightness in yourself as a trigger to let go
- Learning to be here for whatever life presents
- The gift of our compulsions
- Having a set of beliefs that empower us versus take our power away
- Life is set up to bring up what is bound up so we can open up to be freed up so can show up for life
- Not being the victim of life
- Having the ability to come back to the heart
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Ruth Whippman is a regular contributor to radio shows, television, and podcasts, having made appearances on shows including NPR’s Brian Lehrer Show, To the Point, CBS news and Morning Edition amongst many others. She is also a regular speaker and has given talks at Google, Princeton University and UC Berkeley as well as many other venues. Her book is, America the Anxious: How Our Pursuit of Happiness is Creating a Nation of Nervous Wrecks and it is this – along with the flaws of the self help that she and Eric talk about in this episode.
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In This Interview, Ruth Whippman and I Discuss...
- Her book, America the Anxious: How Our Pursuit of Happiness is Creating a Nation of Nervous Wrecks
- How many people in the self-help industry are trying to sell easy answers and life is incredibly complex
- Sitting with a certain amount of complexity in life
- The flaws with studies
- The one thing consistent across all research and people’s experience about happiness
- The American tradition of self-reliance
- The victim blaming myth that we’re completely responsible for how we feel
- That circumstances absolutely play a role in our degree of happiness
- What’s behind the positive psychology movement
- How we need to think of well being as a shared responsibility
- That it’s easy to lose compassion when you go too far down the road of “your happiness is completely within your control and completely your responsibility”
- The flaws in The Law of Attraction theory
- How to cope with the anxiety-producing stuff going on in the news
- The importance of social support, community, and connection
- The challenges of social media
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Skip Prichard is the fifth president of OCLC, a global library cooperative that supports thousands of libraries in making information more accessible and more useful to people around the world. Among Skip’s many passions is his leadership insights blog where he interviews authors and thought leaders and shares his views on a number of topics. His new book is The Book of Mistakes: 9 Secrets to Creating a Successful Future.
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In This Interview, Skip Prichard and I Discuss…
- His book, The Book of Mistakes: 9 Secrets to Creating a Successful Future
- How what you focus on grows
- That he looks at everybody as a teacher
- The riddle that’s perplexed him throughout his life
- Success is when you’re filled with ambition and peace in equal measure at the same time
- The mistake of accepting excuses
- Built-in personal accountability
- How nobody but you can work on your healing
- Ok, that happened – what are you going to do about it
- The microphone in our mind
- Allowing temporary setbacks to become permanent failures
- Having Grit
- The very real pain of failure
- How do you keep going through despair, failure, depression – it’s resilience
- Are you showing up to the people in the room intentionally?
Skip Prichard Links:
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Dr. Ellen Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist who helps millions calm their anxiety and be their authentic selves through her award-winning podcast, The Savvy Psychologist, and in the clinic at Boston University’s Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders. In this episode, she and Eric discuss her debut book is, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. If you suffer from social anxiety, you will learn a lot of practical tools to use to help you overcome it and suffer less.
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In This Interview, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen and I Discuss…
- Her book, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety
- The positive qualities that often accompany social anxiety in a person
- That the opposite of social anxiety is actually psychopathy
- The neuroscience of social anxiety
- How if you face your fears you can change your brain
- The problematic nature of avoidance when it comes to social anxiety
- Overt avoidance
- Covert avoidance
- Thinking that the worst case scenario is a foregone conclusion
- Avoidance means we never see what actually happens
- The inner critic
- The buckets that the Inner Critic likes to attack: Appearance, the Signs of Anxiety Themselves, Social Skills, One’s Entire Personality
- Social Anxiety Mad Libs: When I ______, it will become obvious that I _______
- The tool, Replace
- Anxiety is vague – ask, what particular thing are you afraid of?
- 4 Magic Questions: What’s the worst that can happen? How bad is that? What are the odds that the worst case scenario will actually happen? How will I cope?/What will I do?
- The tool, Embrace
- The role of mindfulness in anxiety
- Making your inner world a kinder, more hospitable environment
- Self-compassion
- Creating structure in our social situations – giving yourself a mission to fulfill, a purpose, a goal
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Sister Joan Chittister is a Benedictine Sister of Erie, Pennsylvania. She is the author of over 50 books and is the winner of 14 Catholic Press Association Awards. Sister Joan is an international speaker who inspires both her audience and readers with her passion for justice, equality, and peace – especially for women, in both society and the church. In this episode, Eric and Sister Joan discuss her book, Radical Spirit: 12 Ways to Live a Free and Authentic Life.
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In This Interview, Sister Joan Chittister and I Discuss…
- Her book, Radical Spirit: 12 Ways to Live a Free and Authentic Life
- How words matter
- That experiences matter
- Humility as the cornerstone of spirituality
- The sanctification of the humble spirit
- Self-superiority in American culture
- Be who you are, know who you are, respect others around you and take your place in the human race
- Humility is having an accurate picture of who you are
- Her take on AA
- How holiness is the same everywhere
- That narcissism is a disease in our culture
- Being willing to face yourself
- How self-deprecation and self-aggrandizement are really the same things
- Not thinking about yourself all the time
- The burden of self
- That we’re looking for freedom
- Obedience as she defines it – it doesn’t mean we submit our souls to an authority figure. It’s grounded in the Latin word which means “to listen”
- How each of us grows into the ability to listen
- Endurance and Stability
- That you can’t rush your own development
- We become to be of service to others
- How nothing of value spiritually comes overnight
- The role of community in one’s great breakdowns in life
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Donna Cameron has spent her career working with non-profit organizations and causes as an executive, consultant, a trainer and a volunteer. She’s the recipient of multiple awards an has published numerous articles. In 2011 she co-authored a book with Kristen Leathers called One Hill, Many Voices: Stories of Hope and Healing. In this interview, Donna and Eric discuss her book, A Year of Living Kindly: Choices That Will Change Your Life and the World Around You. You’ll hear insights into what it means, feels like and looks like to live kindly and your perspective on kindness will be broadened and enriched – possibly even changed – as a result.
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In This Interview, Donna Cameron and I Discuss…
- Her book, A Year of Living Kindly: Choices That Will Change Your Life and the World Around You
- That incivility is contagious
- That kindness is contagious
- Listening for the missed note instead of the music
- Playing “Gotcha” in the way you look at life
- The negativity bias
- The power of kindness
- The difference between nice and kind
- Her year of living kindly and blogging about it
- Quantifying the benefits of kindness
- Being indifferent and still being nice
- How you can’t be indifferent and still be kind
- That it takes courage to be kind, it doesn’t take courage to be nice
- Extending yourself beyond what is comfortable
- Caring, making an effort without worrying about getting anything in return
- The chasm between kindness and unkindness
- Not being unkind doesn’t mean that you are being kind
- Keeping score and being kind
- That when we say yes to one thing means we’re saying no to something else
- The health business of kindness
- How kindness alleviates social anxiety
- Employing curiosity instead of judging people – “I wonder what’s going on in their lives?”
- Various kindness practices
- Practicing a pause
- Asking yourself “What is the kind response here?”
- Receiving graciously as an act of kindness
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Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is the co-founder of the Center for Mindful Living in West Los Angeles and is the creator of the 6-month Coaching and Mentorship Program: A Course in Mindful Living. He's a psychologist and international speaker and mindfulness educator. He's written many books and in this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self Compassion. There are so many practical approaches and new perspectives in this episode. We think you'll get a lot of useful information out of the conversation.
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In This Interview, Elisha Goldstein and I Discuss…
- His book, Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self Compassion
- That what you practice and repeat is what you get
- Depression Triggers and Depression Cures
- Thoughts, Emotions, Sensations, and Behaviors
- The triangle of awareness
- Procedural memory
- The habit loop being like a traffic circle with 4 entry points
- The way our brain associates things
- The way our nervous system is overwhelmed when we’re experiencing depression
- Avoidance and depression
- How naming something gives us a little space and perspective
- How naming something actually changes the activity in our brain
- Perspective-making tools
- The way journaling objectifies your experiences
- Natural anti-depressants
- Mindfulness: a state of engaged curiosity
- Relating to your experience differently through mindfulness, self-compassion, play, compassion, purpose, and mastery
- The growth mindset and the fixed mindset
- Practicing being curious in your daily life to cultivate a growth mindset
- How a learning mindset is related to a growth mindset
- The importance of play
- How to discover what kind of play you might enjoy as an adult
Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Links:
Oren Jay Sofer leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication and meditation at retreat centers and educational facilities around the United States. He is the founder of Next Step Dharma and Mindful Healthcare and he holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. In it, you’ll learn an updated model on how to skillfully communicate – especially in difficult situations. Practical strategies and helpful perspectives are what you’ll get in this episode.
In This Interview, Oren Jay Sofer and I Discuss…
- His book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication
- That we’re not stuck, our minds can learn and it depends on the choices we make moment to moment
- The three steps to create effective conversation
- Lead with Presence
- Come from Curiosity and Care
- Focus on What Matters
- How most people live with fragmented attention and it takes training to be fully present with another person
- That you can feel whether a person is fully present with you or not
- Bringing awareness and attention to the body to come into the present moment (the body is always in the present moment)
- Bodily sensations happen in the present moment
- The power of pausing
- How our rate of speech is connected to our nervous system
- That when we are present, we have a lot more choices
- That our intention shapes our verbal and non-verbal communications
- The intention to understand
- The intention of kindness and care
- How you can practice kindness to someone you don’t like
- Kindness can be about protecting your own heart
- The phrase “Let me see if I’ve got it…”
- Listening for what matters to the other person – what do they need?
- The difference between needs and strategies
- The Nonviolent Communication Model
- Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests
- Communicating in the workplace
Oren Jay Sofer Links
Dr. Tererai Trent is an inspiring and dynamic scholar, educator, humanitarian, motivational speaker, author and the founder of Tererai International. Dr. Trent is one of the most internationally acclaimed voices for women's empowerment and quality education. Named by Oprah Winfrey as her all-time favorite guest, Dr. Trent's latest book is called The Awakened Woman: Remembering and Reigniting Our Sacred Dreams. She tells her incredible story in this episode and you will be so deeply moved, so deeply touched, and so deeply inspired by it. We'ver never heard anything like it and are honored that she would tell us about her astounding life.
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In This Interview, Dr. Tererai Trent and I Discuss...
- Her book, The Awakened Woman: Remembering and Reigniting Our Sacred Dreams
- The two hungers in our life - the little hunger and the great hunger
- The hunger for a meaningful life
- Asking yourself, "what breaks my heart?"
- The rural community she grew up in
- The wisdom of her grandmother
- That her grandmother was defined by her wisdom
- Her answer to the question she was asked - what are your dreams?
- The moment she was told that her dreams were achievable
- When her mother said to write down her dreams and bury (i.e. plant) them in the ground.
- How she broke the cycle of poverty
- The baton of poverty, illiteracy, early marriage, and abuse that she redefined
- The baton of wisdom, that she received
- The four dreams she wrote down
- When her mother said, "your goals in life will be more achievable when connected to the greater good of your community"
- The difference between culture and customs
- The 8 years it took for her to graduate high school
- Getting into Oklahoma State University but not having enough money to fly to America
- Feeding the deep hunger that says - you can achieve your dreams
- When she reconnected with the woman who first believed in her
- When she finally earned her PhD
- She worked 3 jobs and took 18 hours of coursework and took care of 5 kids getting her food from trashcans
- How she is not a victim, she is part of the solution
- Where her kids are now
- "It is acheivable"
- How many girls her work has now impacted
Oliver Burkeman is an award-winning writer for The Guardian and his book, The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking explores the upsides of failure, difficulty, and imperfection – which we discussed in our first interview with Oliver several hundred episodes ago. Each week in his column in The Guardian, “This Column Will Change Your Life”, he writes about social psychology, self-help culture, productivity, and the science of happiness. In this interview, he discusses his take on time management in today’s world.
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In This Interview, Oliver Burkeman and I Discuss…
- His take on the modern time management world
- That technologies of efficiency don’t seem to bring peace of mind
- How your to-do list is never going to go away
- That having emails in your inbox is not necessarily a problem
- Time management whispers of the possibility of true peace of mind
- Thinking of “a simpler time”
- How processing through your inbox is like climbing up an infinitely long ladder
- That tough choices have to be made when deciding what to do with your time – no matter how many productivity assists you have
- How it’s often easier to spend time on trivial stuff than the big projects
- David Allen’s book, Getting Things Done
- How no one beats them self up for not being able to jump a mile in the air because they never thought they could in the first place
- Similarly, accepting the real limitations in how much time you have and how much you can get done is incredibly liberating
- Productivity advice from Warren Buffet
- The role social media plays in our expectations about how productive we could or should be
- How digital distractions help us numb out
Oliver Burkeman Links
Eli Jaxon-Bear founded and currently teaches through The Leela Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to world peace and freedom through universal self-realization. Eli is also the author of many books, including the one we discuss in this episode, An Outlaw Makes it Home: The Awakening of a Spiritual Revolutionary. In this episode, he talks to Eric about accessing and experiencing your true self and things that get in the way of that. Also, he hits on a perspective of the Enneagram that we bet you’ve never considered before.
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In This Interview, Eli Jaxon-Bear and I Discuss…
- His book, An Outlaw Makes it Home: The Awakening of a Spiritual Revolutionary
- Discovering who is feeding the wolves within
- That to know your true self you have to turn away from your false self – the self you construct in your mind
- NLP, the Enneagram and hypnosis integrated into his therapy
- His lasting enlightenment
- Knowing what you really want and staying true to it in each moment
- The journey from “me” to “I”
- Symptom cure and habit control
- His book, Sudden Awakening
- How your heart is already intelligent and alive
- That the Enneagram Personality Types is actually the Enneagram of Character Fixation
- Asking, does this bring me freedom, true love, happiness? Go deeper than the character fixation and find your character
- Waking up from the act, from the show, and stop taking it personally having to prove things
- The character fixation of an Enneagram type 9
- The “Chief Feature”
- All of our experience has a Mental, Emotional and Physical component and the ego encapsulates all three of those
- The history of the origins of the Enneagram
- His book on the Enneagram
Eli Jaxon-Bear Links
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Catherine Gray is a listener favorite guest on the show. She’s been on once before to talk about her book, The Unexpected Joy of being Sober and we received so many messages about how people loved the conversation Eric had with her. In this episode, she’s here to discuss her new book, The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single Serenity. Are you single? Then obviously this episode is for you. Are you in a relationship? Then – unexpectedly – this episode is also for you! Too often, people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being alone. You don’t want to feel trapped where you are – you want to be empowered knowing that where you are is where you CHOOSE to be – not where you HAVE to be. So, re-framing what it means and what it’s like to be single opens up everyone’s world by bringing you to the point of choice about your relationship status, rather than the point of “panic settling” or “victim mentality” about your relationship status. Trust us, you’re going to like this one.
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In This Interview, Catherine Gray and I Discuss…
- Her book,The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single Serenity
- That being single is not terrible!
- How being single is a whole lot better than “panic settling”
- That being single can be nourishing and refreshing – it has everything to do with reframing the way you see it
- Enjoying where you are at the time
- That there are pros and cons to being in a relationship and there are also pros and cons to being single
- The “if-then” happiness loop that’s a moving target
- How you get used to what you have and then you shoot for the next thing
- Choosing your perspective on your life and counting up your gratitudes
- That being single is WAY BETTER than being in a bad relationship
- How people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being alone
- What being a “love addict” means
- How you need bonding with 5 people in your life – not just 1 – to be happy
- How essential it is to like yourself in order to be happy in a healthy relationship
- The three different attachment styles that are created in early childhood (but can be changed in adulthood): anxious attached, secure attached, avoidant attached
- How feminism – in other words, equality – has made it socially acceptable for women to be single now
- A thought doesn’t have to lead to an action
- Don’t let yourself get too “HALT” (Hungry Angry Lonely Tired)
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Jonathan Rottenberg is an Associate Professor of Psychology at the University of South Florida where he’s the director of the mood and emotion laboratory. He’s also the author of the book, The Depths: The Evolutionary Origins of the Depression Epidemic“, which he and Eric have discussed before. In this interview, they discuss some of the studies and research he’s involved with specific to those who go on to flourish after having depression. Why do they? What can we learn from them? There’s hope and practical wisdom in this episode for you.
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In This Interview, Jonathan Rottenberg and I Discuss…
- His book, The Depths: The Evolutionary Origins of the Depression Epidemic
- Thriving after depression
- The studies and research he’s involved with
- People who thrive after depression
- The destructive and recurring nature of depression
- The typical low expectation for those with depression about life moving forward and how it should be different
- What is mental “health”?
- Psychological well being
- Experiencing positive emotions
- Experiencing negative emotions to a lesser degree
- Feeling of balance in life
- Having meaningful relationships
- Feeling a sense of autonomy over your life
- How happy should we expect to be?
- Having elements of wellbeing amidst struggling with depression
- The 3 things that seed a low mood: events, temperaments, and routines
- Rumination
- Ways that people can work with depression more skillfully
- Having a different relationship with your negative thoughts
- Having connections with others
- Research on flourishing
- How much control do we have over our state of flourishing?
- That it’s never too late
- There is hope
- Our culture that idealizes euphoria
- The role of our basic temperament
- Factors of wellbeing other than emotion and mood
- The organization he helped found, Depression Army
- The interesting and transformative experience of depression
- That his depression has been defanged and it doesn’t break the skin anymore
Jonathan Rottenberg, Ph.D. Links:
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Susan David is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School. She’s also the co-founder and co-director of The Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and is CEO of Evidence-Based Psychology. Her book is, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life. Have you ever gotten hooked by a difficult emotion? In other words, have you ever felt compelled to act on a strong feeling without having any space to think about your action first? If so, you will find really helpful wisdom in this episode that you can take, apply today and live a more skillful, open-hearted life.
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In This Interview, Susan David and I Discuss…
- Her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life
- How emotions are a guidance system
- That emotions can help us adapt and thrive
- The thinking “unless I’m happy all the time, something is wrong”
- Emotional Agility
- Loosening up, calming down and living with more intention
- The space between stimulus and response
- Emotional rigidity
- Allowing the story in our head to drive our actions
- Being who we most want to be in this world
- Moving away from the idea of “I have a thought and the thought is fact and I have to act on it”
- Getting hooked – accepting thought as fact
- That we are not our emotions – our emotions are a data source
- The story that imprisons and keeps us from acting in an open-hearted way
- How to get unhooked
- Getting curious and compassionate about our emotions when we’re hooked
- I’m noticing that I’m feeling ____
- Creating a safe psychological space for ourselves
- “Walking your why”
- Choice points: do I move towards my values or away from my values?
- Social contagion
- Keeping your values front of mind
- Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life
- That our difficult emotions (like anxiety, for example) don’t have to go away in order for us to live according to our values
- Under our difficult emotions are signposts for our values
- Premature cognitive commitment
- Stories help us to make sense of our world
- Naming our stories
Susan David, Ph.D. Links:
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Parker Palmer is a writer, teacher, and activist whose work speaks deeply to many people in many different walks of life. He’s the founder and senior partner in The Center for Courage and Renewal. He’s the author of many books, including his newest one which we talk about on this episode: On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old. Parker is one of our favorite guests of the show and after you listen to this episode, you’ll know why he’s back for a second conversation.
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In This Interview, Parker Palmer and I Discuss…
- His book, On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old
- His reflections looking back on his life
- The resilient fabric of his life
- How perfection is an illusion
- The role mistakes can play in one’s life
- The gift of age: Looking back on one’s life and saying “It all belongs”
- Another gift of age: Deep appreciation and gratitude for the present moment
- Feeling like you’re one of the lucky ones that you’re “old”
- Asking “What’s there for me to learn?” when facing problematic moments in life (like feeling down, or feeling self-pity)
- Moments of life that are burdened with ego
- The correlation between ego concerns and anxiety
- The importance and role of perspective
- The what and why of the things we’re doing
- The question (and trap!): Does my life have meaning?
- My legacy vs Our legacy
- How we’re all embedded in community
- “I planted some seeds and found some people I wanted to garden with…”
- How life and work are profoundly communal
- Reflecting on the question, “Have I been sufficiently open to and aware of the significant contributions others have made in my life – and in such a way to do a deep bow to them in the work that I do?”
- Turning attention outward vs inward
- Being one among many vs trying to be something or someone special
- The healing impact of getting out into the natural world
- His poem “Harrowing”
- To know when to say, “enough” because the rest of the world and the rest of my life is waiting
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In This Interview, Dean Sluyter and I Discuss…
- His book, Fear Less: Living Beyond Fear, Anxiety, Anger, and Addiction
- Right View and how it relates to having less fear in your life
- How right view is always liberating
- Asking, “does it help?”
- “One mustn’t assume burdens that God doesn’t lay upon us. The state of worry is not itself meritorious.” CS Lewis
- The problem with trying to control your mind
- Transcendental Meditation
- Hanging out in tasklessness
- The open space of awareness
- How thought doesn’t have to go away in order to meditate
- Relax your grip, and relax back into yourself
- It doesn’t grip you, it has no power to do that. You grip it.
- What it means to relax at the moment of contact
- Relax into it, stop the resistance of it
- Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional
- suffering = pain x resistance
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Megan Devine is a pioneer in the fields of grief support and emotional intelligence. Since 2009, she’s been writing and talking about grief and love, shaking up our culture’s ideas about both all along the way. In this episode we discuss these topics along with her newest book,It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand
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In This Interview, Megan Devine and I Discuss…
- Her book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand
- That the way we deal with grief in our culture is broken
- How grief is a no-win situation for everyone
- The fact that we don’t like to talk about grief
- How we carry losses with us
- The myth that happiness is the same as health and that if you’re not happy, you’re doing something wrong
- That some things cannot be fixed, they can only be carried
- How cruel it is to say everything happens for a reason and that you create your reality
- Our limited tools for going through difficulty
- Victim blaming
- How we can’t be 100% safe
- That we aren’t 100% in control of how we react to things
- If we think grief is a problem to be solved, all of our tools will fail us
- Sadness isn’t a problem either
- How you can’t “get over it and put it behind you”
- The importance of having pain Heard, Honored and Validated
- The power of listening and curiosity
- Thinking of pain as an experience to be tended
- The things we have to live through and endure, that we can’t escape
- Making these difficult things gentler on us
- Decreasing suffering inside of grief
- Wellness vs. worseness
- Paying attention to the cause and effect of things
- The hierarchy of grief
- Treating compassion as the abundant resource that it is
- Hope
- Meeting people where they are
- Asking: Do you want empathy or a problem solved right now?
- Asking: What do you need in this moment? What would feel useful right now?
- You can’t heal someone’s pain by trying to take it away from them
- The importance of showing yourself kindness
Megan Devine Links
Jonathan Rauch is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institute, the author of 6 books (and many, many articles) and is a contributing editor of The Atlantic. His latest book is The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50. See what you think about the trends of happiness in your life compared to the tendency he describes in his book and this interview. It may be that the emotional peak of life is different than when you’d expect.
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In This Interview, Jonathan Rauch and I Discuss…
- His book, The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50
- Connection to others
- Generosity
- The factors that most contribute to our happiness
- The U shape curve of happiness in life
- The emotional peak of life
- How our expectations change as life goes on
- That our values continue to change
- The fact that our brains change over the course of a lifetime
- How the effects of connectedness are cumulative and durable
- The hedonic treadmill
- What to do to be happier at the bottom of the curve
- The suffering that comes from social comparison
- Staying in the present moment
- Internal criticism
- Guilt vs Shame in mid-life
- The benefits of being other-directed, other-oriented
- How the voice of impulsiveness isn’t our friend
Jonathan Rauch Links
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After a career as a designer in the tech industry, John Zeratsky became obsessed with the idea of re-designing time. He’s a writer who has written multiple books and his work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Time, Harvard Business Review, Wired, Fast Company, and many others. In this episode, among other things, we discuss his newest book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day.
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!n This Interview, John Zeratsky and I Discuss…
- His book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day
- Understanding the limits on will-power
- Setting up our world around us so it’s easier to make the right decisions
- Creating more time in your day for the things you care about
- The two powerful forces that compete every day for our time
- “The Busy Bandwagon”
- The Infinity Pools
- Questioning the “defaults” in our schedule
- Creating a highlight for every day
- Living a “someday” life
- Finding more meaningful moments
- Urgency, Satisfaction, Joy
- Batch the little stuff
- Laser mode
- Taking back control of your time and energy
- Creating barriers to distraction
- Managing your energy
- Building your energy
- Focusing on the process not the outcome
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Marilyn Nelson on Her Beautiful, Powerful Poetry
Marilyn Nelson is an American poet, translator and children’s book author. She’s a professor emeritus at The University of Connecticut and the former poet laureate of Connecticut. In this episode, Eric and Marilyn discuss several poems she’s written as well as the meaning behind them.
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In This Interview, Marilyn Nelson and I Discuss…
- Her book, How I Discovered Poetry
- Her poem, Mississippi
- Her book, A Wreath for Emmett Till
- The poetry form of a heroic crown of sonnets
- Her poem, Rosemary for Remembrance
- Her poem, Let Me Gather Spring Flowers For a Wreath
- Her poem, Like His Gouged Eye
- How poetry comes out of silence and leads us back to silence
- The value of silence in a life well lived
- Silence, contemplation, and self-knowledge
- Our quiet center
- Her book, Carver
- Her poem, Professor Carver’s Bible Class
- Her book, Snook Alone
Marilyn Nelson Links
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Roger Housden is a second time guest on the show – you might remember him from episode 152. He founded The Open Gate which is a conference and workshop center in England that introduced the work of Ram Dass and Thich Nhat Hanh and many others into Europe. You also might have seen his work featured in places like O Magazine, The New York Times and The Los Angeles Times. In this episode, Roger and Eric discuss his beautiful book, 10 Poems for Difficult Times.
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In This Interview, Roger Housden and I Discuss…
- His book, 10 Poems for Difficult Times
- Saying “there is happiness happening” or “there is anger happening” rather than “I am angry” or “I am happy”
- How poetry helps us in difficult times
- That poetry gives voice to that which is unsayable
- The poet Ellen Bass
- How suffering can soften us if we bow down to it
- That you can’t fake surrender
- The opportunity in suffering is growth
- How poetry points us in the direction of possibility in suffering
- The poet Maggie Smith
- The poet Marie Howe
- Annunciation by Marie Howe
- The specific pointing to the universal in poetry
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Steven C Hayes is Nevada Foundation Professor at the Department of Psychology at the University of Nevada. He is an author of over 35 books and over 500 scientific articles. He is considered one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.
In 1992 he was listed by the Institute for Scientific Information as the 30th “highest impact” psychologist in the world. His work has been recognized by several awards including the Exemplary Contributions to Basic Behavioral Research and Its Applications from Division 25 of APA, the Impact of Science on Application award from the Society for the Advancement of Behavior Analysis, and the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies.
He is best known for his book Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
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In This Interview, Steven C Hayes and I Discuss…
- The One You Feed parable
- His book, Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life
- The ACT approach to therapy
- That you know if your thoughts are good or bad by the fruits that they bear
- The difference between pain and suffering
- The importance of putting the human mind on a leash
- That suffering comes from when we mishandle the present moment, and we amplify certain thoughts and feelings
- The meaning of Cognitive Fusion: when we can look only from our thoughts and not at our thoughts
- The importance of and various types of contemplative practice
- Various diffusion techniques (listed in a free episode download!)
- The concept and practice of experiential avoidance
- The full impact of acting for “short term gains with long term pains”
- The idea of creating larger behavioral patterns
- The role of values based action
Steven C Hayes Links
Paul Hannam has started, owned and managed a number of successful businesses and he taught business and environmental management at Oxford University. His new book is The Wisdom of Groundhog Day: How to Improve Your Life One Day at a Time. Before you jump to thinking you know what he’s going to say about this – wait and listen to this episode. You’ll be surprised and intrigued by his insight and recommendations based on this movie.
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In This Interview, Paul Hannam and I Discuss…
- His book, The Wisdom of Groundhog Day: How to Improve Your Life One Day at a Time
- The controlled experiment of Groundhog Day (the film)
- The life skill of experimentation
- Investigating our behavior
- Working on changing one variable at a time
- Keeping a journal
- Asking “what is my role in creating my mood?”
- Looking inward for the answer
- Making change 1 day at a time
- The action of our inner life
- Narrowing the spectrum of life through routine
- The inner monotony
- How you have everything you need to be happy now
- Slowing down with mindfulness
- Grounding yourself in your senses
- Connecting with nature
- The conditioned self
- The authentic self
- Conditioning, Circumstances and Our Mind
- How our brain doesn’t like change
- The 5 characteristics of our conditioned self
- Try looking at things in a new way
- Trying to control our inner state
- Letting go of outcomes
Paul Hannam Links
Tim Pychyl is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Carlton University and hosts a podcast called I Procrastinate. His book that we discuss in this episode is on that very topic – it’s called Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change
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In This Interview, Tim Pychyl and I Discuss…
- His book, Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change
- How it’s in the getting on in life that makes a life
- That procrastination can be an existential matter
- What he tells his children: I didn’t ask what you want to do or how you feel, I told you it’s time to make your bed.
- When we procrastinate we delay getting on with our lives
- Being an active member or your own life
- The two ways procrastination compromises our health
- Stress
- Fewer wellness behaviors
- Treatment delay “I’ll look after that later”
- Procrastination being a problem of self-regulated behavior
- I won’t give in to feel good
- Goal Intentions and Implementation intentions
- When….then…
- Giving the monkey something to do
- What’s the next action?
- Keeping it small
- Hacks to work around our irrational thinking
- Motivation and then Action or Action and then Motivation
- The meaning behind our goals
- Meaning and Manageability
- Asking what will this cost me if I put it off?
- Prefer tomorrow over today
- Thinking “I’ll feel like doing it tomorrow”
- Affect forecasting
- Thinking of your future self as a stranger
- Developing empathy for future self
- Self-handicap to preserve self-esteem
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel is a psychotherapist who switched from practicing traditional talk psychotherapy to accelerated experimental dynamic psychotherapy. She teaches us that our core emotions are automatic and grounded in universal physical experiences. Her new book is called, It’s Not Always Depression: Working The Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to your Authentic Self. In this episode, she goes into great instructional detail about how to identify and process your emotions in the moment. If you’ve ever felt a strong emotion (and who hasn’t), this episode will teach you how to move through it skillfully, rather than having your strong emotions wreak havoc in yourself and with others.
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In This Interview, Hilary Jabobs Hendel and I Discuss…
- Her new book, It’s Not Always Depression: Working The Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to your Authentic Self
- The 7 C’s of our authentic self
- The science and biology of emotions
- The change triangle
- The Core Emotions: Fear, Anger, Sadness, Disgust, Joy, Excitement and Sexual Excitement
- The 3 Inhibitory Emotions: Anxiety, Guilt, and Shame
- How core emotions have energy and want to come up and out- to be expressed
- Inhibitory emotions dampening our core emotions
- The difference between defenses and inhibitory emotions
- How to work The Change Triangle
- Trauma vs trauma
- The power of naming your emotions
- Our open-hearted state
- When our emotions overwhelm us, it can be helpful to have someone else process them
- Grounding and breathing
- The role of core emotions is to ready us for action so they are first physical sensations, traveling from the brain down the vegus nerve
- All core emotions have impulses associated with them
- How harmful self-criticism and self-judgment can be
- Relating to ourselves as a small child
- Healthy shame vs toxic shame
Hilary Jacobs Hendel Links
Neil Pasricha is a New York Times bestselling author with books published in over a dozen languages. He’s spent 7 years (and counting!) on best-seller lists and his books have sold millions of copies. You may know his blog – 1000 Awesome Things – it’s won 2 Webby awards for the Best Blog in the World and has had over 50 million hits. His most recent book, The Happiness Equation: Want Nothing + Do Anything = Have Everything, is what we focus much of this interview on. You’ll learn really practical advice, grounded in research and science, on what you can do to be happier.
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In This Interview, Neil Pasricha and I Discuss…
- His book, The Happiness Equation: Want Nothing + Do Anything = Have Everything
- The 9 critical steps in achieving the happiness equation
- The 7 ways to be happy right now
- The benefits of 3 brisk 30-minute nature walks each week
- The power of random – or conscious – acts of kindness
- A complete unplug
- Why you should never retire
- Social, Stimulation, Story
- The importance of structure
- The bench test for all major life decisions
- His upcoming audible book on resilience
- The war between more and enough
Neil Pasricha Links
Ruth King is an emotional wisdom author, coach, and consultant. She's a guiding teacher at Insight Meditation Community of Washington and she's on the teacher's council at Spirit Rock Meditation Center. In addition, she's the founder of Mindful Members Insight Meditation Community in Charlotte, NC. She has a Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology and is the author of several publications including her new book, Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism from the Inside Out. In this stirring, thoughtful and wise conversation, she touches on the heart of racism and teaches how we can move to heal this heart disease.
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In This Interview, Ruth King and I Discuss...
- Her book, Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism From The Inside Out
- The value of being curious about the good and bad wolves inside of us
- Racism being a heart disease that is curable
- Her open heart surgery at the age of 27
- Rage being an exit route
- Rage being energy moving through the body
- Habitual patterns of racism being a layer on top of the real issue that we can't tolerate - they are defense mechanisms
- Racial affinity groups
- 6 hindrances
- The structure of racism
- Racism vs Prejudice
- Racist vs Racism
- Understanding our own experience with racism and talking about it
- What it's like to be "membered"
- Individual vs group identity
- Diversity within the body of color
Ruth King Links
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Chances are, you've heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That's kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part series, he talks more about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. You'll learn some really specific, easy and flat out "why didn't I think of that" genius methods to apply to your life and habits.
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In This Interview, James Clear and I Discuss...
- His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones
- Habits are a response to the physical cues in our environment
- Increasing the friction it takes to complete the task
- The more you increase the steps between you and the bad behavior or decrease the steps between you and the good behavior the better
- Habit stacking/Anchoring
- "After _____ I will _____"
- The more specific the better
- Social environment and habits
- You want to join groups where your desired behavior is the normal behavior
- Make it easy
- The two-minute rule
- A habit must be established before it can be improved
- Optimize for the starting line rather than the finish line
- Make it satisfying
- Feel successful at the end
- Bring the long-term consequences into the short term
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This week we talk to Dr. Gabor Mate´ about addiction
A renowned speaker, and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress and childhood development.
For twelve years Dr. Maté worked in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside with patients challenged by hard-core drug addiction, mental illness and HIV, including at Vancouver’s Supervised Injection Site.
As an author, Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction; When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress; and Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder, and co-authored Hold on to Your Kids. His works have been published internationally in twenty languages.
Dr. Maté is the co-founder of Compassion for Addiction, a new non-profit that focusses on addiction. He is also an advisor of Drugs over Dinner.
Dr. Maté has received the Hubert Evans Prize for Literary Non-Fiction; an Honorary Degree (Law) from the University of Northern British Columbia; an Outstanding Alumnus Award from Simon Fraser University; and the 2012 Martin Luther King Humanitarian Award from Mothers Against Teen Violence. He is an adjunct professor in the Faculty of Criminology, Simon Fraser University.
In This Interview, Dr. Gabor Mate´ and I Discuss...
- The One You Feed parable
- The degree of choice we have in life
- What is the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts?
- What is addiction?
- The characteristics of addiction
- Recognizing what addicts get out of their addiction
- The fundamental question is not “Why the Addiction” but “Why the Pain”
- How all addiction comes out of some hurt or trauma
- The different types of trauma
- The role of neurotransmitters in addiction
- How drugs and alcohol destroy the parts of the brain that allow us to make sound decisions
- Whether or not genetics play a significant role in addiction
- Whether our culture breeds addiction
- How our children get most of their leadership from other children
- How the breakup of family, community and clan is contributing to addiction
- The critical role of the culture in our the development of our brains
- Recognizing our inherent value
- To what degree we have freedom over our choices
- Without consciousness, there is no freedom
- Paths to recovery
- How compassion can help with recovery
- Developing compassionate curiosity towards ourselves
Dr. Gabor Mate´ Links
Miguel Chen is a meditation practitioner, a yoga instructor, a yoga studio owner and the bass player for a punk rock band. He has also published a book called I Wanna Be Well: How a Punk Found Peace and You Can Too. In this compelling episode, Eric and Miguel explore the connection between punk rock and Buddhism and they dive into the experiences in his life - both traumatic and positive - that have shaped his spiritual path of awakening.
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In This Interview, Miguel Chen and I Discuss...
- His book, I Wanna Be Well: How a Punk Found Peace and You Can Too
- How he owns a yoga studio and plays in a punk rock band
- The way he suppressed grief for dead family members
- Asking himself why he wasn't happy
- The connection between punk rock and Buddhism
- The other as self
- Forgetting who we are
- The importance of being mindful throughout life
- Not being present with stuff we like
- Not being present with stuff we don't like
- Eating mindfully
- How if you're used to disconnecting from things you don't like, it starts creeping into the things you do like
- How he stays in the present moment
- Training the mind
- His morning routine
- Non-attachment
- Being criticized for his spiritual practice
- His spiritual practice while on tour
- The danger of taking people in life for granted
- How grateful he is that he woke up early in his life
- Why some people get motivated to get sober and others don't
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Jillian Pransky is a Certified Yoga Therapist, a teacher and an author of the new book, Deep Listening: A Healing Practice to Calm Your Body, Clear Your Mind and Open Your Heart. In this interview, Jillian dives deep into the topic of somatic listening; what it is, why it's important, how to do it and the benefits you can expect. Restorative Yoga is an avenue for this type of work and it can be life changing to say the least. Do you experience tension in your body? Do you have unpleasant feelings? Do you feel exhausted? If your answer is yes or sometimes to any of these questions, you'll want to hear what Jillian Pransky has to say in this episode.
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In This Interview, Jillian Pransky and I Discuss...
- Her book, Deep Listening: A Healing Practice to Calm Your Body, Clear Your Mind and Open Your Heart
- How she used to believe anxiety and depression was a choice
- Learning to be with the bad wolf
- Befriending her bad wolf
- That not everything can be fixed
- When surrender is needed
- Not being able to fix some way someone has treated us
- Restorative Yoga
- Paying attention to our body and mind so that we're aware of how we shut down and open up and to be with it with openness
- Deep listening to yourself can leave you more hard and cutoff or open and tender
- The tension in our body signifying the stress response
- Paying attention long enough that it softens and shifts
- Judging the tension we find in our bodies
- Getting curious about the tension we find, breathing into it
- Asking "How am I still guarding myself when I don't have to be?" during Restorative Yoga
- "Doing Less"
- How the busier we are the less we have to feel
- Listening is the act of allowing
- Love is the act of allowing
- Allowing yourself to be supported even when you're active
- That which is regular is way better than that which is a lot
- A little bit all the time re-wires us
- How exhausting it is to be somewhere we're not
- Our thoughts are like social media
- Forward thinking and past thinking after present moment being
- Letting go vs Letting be
- Analogy of salt in water: shot glass vs mason jar
- "The practice isn't about learning how to stay here but learning how to come back."
Jillian Pransky Links
Judson Brewer MD PhD is widely considered an expert in the areas of habit change, the "science of self-mastery" and mindfulness training for addiction. He has published a number of peer-reviewed articles and book chapters, he has trained US Olympic coaches, and his work has been featured on 60 Minutes, TEDMED, Time, Forbes, BBC, NPR, Businessweek and others. So - you get the idea...this guy knows what he's talking about and what he's talking about is fascinating. It's a very different approach to ridding yourself of addiction and it works. it works much better than even currently accepted "gold standard programs" and it's something you can learn how to do today. In fact, you can learn how to do it by listening to this episode.
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In This Interview, Judson Brewer and I Discuss...
- His book, The Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How We Can Break Bad Habits
- Trigger, Behavior, Result
- Rewards and Punishments
- Habit Loop
- Subjective Bias
- Addiction: Continued use despite adverse consequences
- Addiction: a way to avoid something
- Every time we give in to a craving, we reinforce that habit loop
- Cravings are like stray cats
- If you don't feed a craving it will burn itself out
- Surfing a craving
- The way cravings feel like they're going to crush us and last forever - cognitive distortion
- Craving Wave: come - crest - go away\
- Awareness helps us surf these craving waves
- What does this feel like in my body right now?
- Paying attention to the craving rather than avoid it or make it go away
- RAIN
- This method had 5x quit rates than the gold standard smoking cessation program
- Substitute behavior
- In their quest for happiness, people mistake excitement of the mind for real happiness
- Investigate the craving and the reward
- Excitement brings contraction
- Get curious about your experiences - it helps you remain open
- Default mode network
- Conceptual vs Experiential Self
- The contraction of ego
- How we relate to our thoughts and feelings makes all the difference
Jusdon Brewer Links
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Josh Korda is the guiding teacher of Dharma Punx in NYC and a fully empowered Buddhist teacher in the Against the Stream lineage. He has led numerous online and residential retreats and is also widely known for his podcast and as an author. His new book is called Unsubscribe: Opt Out of Delusion, Tune in to Truth. In this conversation with Eric, he talks about how to make changes in your life and he bases much of what he has to say on this topic on his Buddhist principals and own life experience. It's a comprehensive look at how we as humans can experience the impermanence of life. Since we all face this impermanence, it's a pretty important thing to grow more skillful in the way we interact with it.
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In This Interview, Josh Korda and I Discuss...
- His book, Unsubscribe: Opt Out of Delusion, Tune in to Truth
- How he deals with his depression
- Western mindfulness practice
- How it's not about always accepting or settling for toxic circumstances
- How it's not about always running away from healthy yet difficult circumstances
- The wisdom to know what to do with difficulty in the moment
- How to make significant life changes (based on his experience doing just that)
- Being willing to set boundaries
- Making change by talking harshly oneself only creates stress and you then associate the stress with the goal itself and you begin to procrastinate
- How our inner critic makes us want to avoid the very things we want to grow into
- Thought arrives after feeling and impulses
- Ways to change behavior without relying on thought
- "Corrective emotional response"
- The importance of an empathetic, safe therapist in effective therapy
Josh Korda Links
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Anne Bogel is an author, podcast host, avid reader and personality assessment expert. That's what you'll see when you read her new book, How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything. In this interview, Eric and Anne cover a lot of ground; from book recommendations to the value and application of personality tests. If you are at all interested in personal growth, this episode will excite and inspire you to use valid personality tests as a tool to fuel that endeavor. If you've written off personality tests in the past, we encourage you to revisit the topic with an open mind as you listen to this episode. You may think differently 45 minutes from now.
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In This Interview, Anne Bogel and I Discuss...
- Her book, Reading People: How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything
- Recent fiction books that she's read that she loved
- How we all have pain during the course of our lives
- The joy of reading literary fiction
- What is personality?
- The coping strategies we learn vs fundamental personality changes
- How our mind is inclined to work
- The way we see things
- Taking a personality test and answering questions based on how we want to be vs how we really are
- That if you don't know how you're really like, you can't move forward and grow as a person
- Common thoughts, feelings and behavior = our personality type
- Our character and our behavior are two things we can impact and change within ourselves with a lot of effort
- Personality tests not being a limiting thing
- Putting your strengths to work for you
- Putting effort towards things we can change vs things we can't change
- I'm the kind of person who _____ being a powerful phrase
- Fixed vs Growth mindset
- Highly sensitive people
- The emotional bank account
- Introverts vs Extroverts
- What you do consistently over time matters
- the 5:1 ratio when it comes to positive and negative experiences
- The Enneagram - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/
Anne Bogel Links
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Culadasa is a meditation master with over 4 decades of experience in the Tibetan and Theravadan Buddhist traditions. He taught classes in neuroscience and psychology at the Universities of Calgary and Brittish Columbia. He now lives in the Arizona wilderness and leads the Dharma Treasure Buddhist Sanga. His book on meditation, The Mind Illuminated, is the book Eric calls the best book on meditation he's ever read. This is a two-part interview. In this episode, part one, Eric and Culadasa talk about how the mind and brain works - knowledge that is essential to understand before one can successfully implement the meditation techniques that will be discussed in part two. These techniques have the very real potential of transforming your meditation experience. So listen up in this episode and get ready to radically re-understand this thing we call the mind.
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In This Interview, Culadasa and I Discuss...
- His book, The Mind Illuminated
- The power of setting an intention for meditation
- Getting all of the mind on board for meditating
- Accepting whatever comes up
- Trying to enjoy your meditation, celebrating the times you come back to the present moment vs scolding yourself
- Roadmap of the stages of meditation over time
- How knowing the developmental nature of things over time can be problematic
- The difficulties of being a beginner at anything
- Looking for the pleasure and joy in wherever you are
- The 4 step process of settling in to meditate
- Feeling your breath at the nose
- The Mindful Review
- Being aware of the motivation behind your thoughts and speech
- What could I have done differently?
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Culadasa is a meditation master with over 4 decades of experience in the Tibetan and Theravadan Buddhist traditions. He taught classes in neuroscience and psychology at the Universities of Calgary and Brittish Columbia. He now lives in the Arizona wilderness and leads the Dharma Treasure Buddhist Sanga. His book on meditation, The Mind Illuminated, is the book Eric calls the best book on meditation he's ever read. This is a two-part interview. In this episode, part one, Eric and Culadasa talk about how the mind and brain works - knowledge that is essential to understand before one can successfully implement the meditation techniques that will be discussed in part two. These techniques have the very real potential of transforming your meditation experience. So listen up in this episode and get ready to radically re-understand this thing we call the mind.
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In This Interview, Culadasa and I Discuss...
- His book, The Mind Illuminated
- How the mind and the brain works
- The basic distinction between attention and awareness
- How when we give labels to something we can know and understand it better
- The moments of consciousness model
- Non-perceiving moments of consciousness
- The dullness of meditation
- Sleepiness in meditation
- The goal of vipassana is to increase the total power of our cognitive abilities
- The mind system model (how the mind works)
- The conscious and unconscious mind
- Sensory sub-mind (taking in info through senses)
- Discriminating sub-mind (cognitive thinking/feeling)
- These sub-minds are competing for attention
- The conscious mind is a place that the sub-minds project into
- The power of setting intentions on the sub-minds
- The role of the narrating sub-mind
- We are a collection of the processes of the sub-minds
- Making intellectual sense of the experience of not-self
Amoda Maa is a contemporary spiritual teacher and author. You may recognize the titles of some of her books: How to Find God in Everything, Change Your Life Change Your World and Radical Awakening. Her new book, Embodied Enlightenment: Living Your Awakening In Every Moment, is a powerful look at what awakening means, looks like and feels in your everyday life. She stresses that you can't think your way into awakening but that rather you feel your way into it. During this interview she talks about what that means and how to do it.
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In This Interview, Amoda Maa and I Discuss...
- Her new book, Embodied Enlightenment: Living Your Awakening In Every Moment
- Awakening
- Waking up out of the dream of separation
- Waking up out of the dream of thinking that we are our thoughts and feelings
- Awakening not dependant on or a precursor to one's psychological health
- Surrendering the need to uphold oneself
- Surrendering the psychological self
- The need for psychological safety giving rise to egoic tendencies
- The defense and attack found in righteousness
- The verticality of being
- Not having an agenda of the outcome when opening ourselves to our experience and meeting it as it is
- How to be free from suffering
- The strength of life's intelligence
- The ripening that happens within oneself when you've finally had enough of running away from pain
- No real relief from pain and no final freedom from pain when all you're doing is running away from it
- Am I willing to meet this exactly as it is?
- Trying not to try
- True fulfillment is the emptying of the spiritual shopping basket
- The paradox of trying not to try
- Accumulating agendas = committing to a particular spiritual path and expecting that you'll feel worthy and good enough
- Love is seeking to know itself
- Silence is ever present in everything
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Johann Hari is an author and a journalist. His previous book was a New York Times Best Seller and his newest, Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression and the Unexpected Solutions, is no doubt on its way to share the same status. It proposes a more holistic, societal look at the causes and treatment of depression - more than the singular chemical imbalance explanation we traditionally consider. The core principal of getting our needs met is a thread that runs throughout this discussion and the deep dive that Johann Hari does on the subject will fascinate you and cause you to stop and think very differently than you have before on this topic that affects so many people in this world.
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In This Interview, Johann Hari and I Discuss...
- His new book, Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression and the Unexpected Solutions
- The two kinds of human connection
- Intrinsic (internal) and extrinsic (external) motivations
- "Junk" values
- The more you're driven by extrinsic values, the more likely you'll suffer from anxiety and depression in your life
- Our society drives us to live in this extrinsic way
- The whole point of advertising is to make us feel inadequate and our problems can be solved by buying
- Extrinsic motives can crowd out the more fulfilling intrinsic motives
- The 9 causes of depression and anxiety
- The need to look more holistically at anxiety and depression than just a chemical imbalance
- That the book is NOT saying not to take medications that help with anxiety and depression
- The loneliest culture that has ever been
- The importance of addressing the deep environmental factors/reasons why we're so depressed and anxious
- Our sense of home and sense of belonging
- The problems manifested by being isolated and alone
- The benefit of being part of a "tribe"
- Realizing that you're not the only one who struggles and feels the way you do
- Grief and the diagnosis of depression
- Just having a chemical imbalance means your pain doesn't have meaning
- Depression and not having your needs met
- Following the pain to its source
- Pathologizing Depression
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This week on The One You Feed we have Andrew Solomon.
Andrew Solomon is a writer and lecturer on politics, culture and psychology.
Solomon’s recent book, Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity, published on November 13, 2012, won the National Book Critics Circle award for nonfiction among many other awards. The New York Times hailed the book, writing, “It’s a book everyone should read… there’s no one who wouldn’t be a more imaginative and understanding parent — or human being — for having done so… a wise and beautiful book.” People described it as “a brave, beautiful book that will expand your humanity.”
Solomon’s previous book, The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression (Scribner, 2001), won the 2001 National Book Award for Nonfiction, was a finalist for the 2002 Pulitzer Prize, and was included in The Times of London‘s list of one hundred best books of the decade. A New York Times bestseller in both hardcover and paperback editions, The Noonday Demon has also been a bestseller in seven foreign countries, and has been published in twenty-four languages. The New York Times described it as “All-encompassing, brave, deeply humane… a book of remarkable depth, breadth and vitality… open-minded, critically informed and poetic all at the same time… fearless, and full of compassion.”
In This Interview Andrew and I Discuss…
- The One You Feed parable.
- Using work to make the world a better place.
- The urgent business of living a moral life.
- How to decide what we should change and what we should accept.
- How hope can become the cornerstone of misery.
- The challenges and joys of parenting disabled children.
- The perfectionism of privilege.
- The importance of the choice to celebrate what is versus wishing it to be different.
- How we can grow through difficult circumstances.
- The poison of comparison.
- The idea of the “psychological supermodel”.
- Layering feelings of failure onto depression and how damaging that is.
- Learning to celebrate our difficulties and differences.
- A beautiful and hopeful reading on depression.
- How critical humor is in dealing with depression
- New approaches to treating depression.
- His ongoing challenges with depression and anxiety.
- The shame of mental illness.
- If you banish the dragons, you banish the heroes.
- A life that is only luxury and pleasure tends to feel rather hollow and empty.
- How sparing our children from all adversity is a bad idea.
- The choices we face.
- How encounters with darkness give us the energy to feed our good wolf.
Susan Piver is a New York Times bestselling author of 9 books and a renowned Buddhist teacher. This is Susan's second time on the show because we love her and her work so much. Her new book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships walks us through the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism as they apply to relationships. You don't have to be a Buddhist or study Buddhism to get a lot out of this conversation and her new book. She teaches universal pieces of wisdom that, when applied, will grow and deepen and enrich your relationships to a whole new level.
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In This Interview, Susan Piver and I Discuss...
- Her book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships
- The emotions underneath fear, hatred and greed
- Depression being a calcified sadness
- Turning towards sadness
- The four noble truths of love: Relationships are uncomfortable, Thinking that they should be comfortable contributes to that uncomfortableness, Meeting the discomfort and instability together IS love, There's a threefold path to do all of this
- Feeling your feelings without the story - what does it feel like in your body? In the environment?
- The difference between anger and irritation in the body
- The enormous space that opens up when we drop the expectation that when we solve "this" problem, the relationship will stabilize and we'll be happy
- Look at the problem itself as a team in relationships rather than blaming one another
- The threefold path: Precision, Openness, Going beyond
- The role and importance of good manners and honesty in relationships
- Good manners = thinking of the other person and making some accommodation, some space for them in your actions and your words
- Opening to the other person as they are in a relationship
- Intimacy has no end, it can always go deeper. You can always reveal more and you can always discover more
- In a relationship, commit to intimacy over love
- Addiction and abuse not included in this picture of relationship!
- How you can't think your way into intimacy or inspiration - they come when you make the space
- Passion between two people will constantly arise, abide and dissolve and though difficult, this is not a problem
- Wishing you were in a different part of the cycle is a problem, however
- Relax with what is and a space will open up
- Her take on suffering
- Her beautiful explanation of the concept of non-attachment/detachment
- A spiritual practice frees people up to feel everything in the moment, as it is
- Your life IS the spiritual path
- In meditation we're not trying to get anywhere, we're trying to BE somewhere
- Meditating in't about focusing on something but rather, bringing the brain down from some dreamworld into reality in the moment
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Michael Pollan is a writer whose books have topped the New York Times bestseller list time and time again. He teaches writing at Harvard and The University of California Berkley. In 2010, Time magazine name Michael Pollan one of the most influential people in the world. His books and essays have historically focused on our interaction with nature and this new book takes that theme to a whole other level. Its title gives you a great idea of what it's about: How to Change your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and Transcendence. No matter how many interviews you've heard of Michael Pollan talking about his new book, our interview will offer you a fresh perspective, things he has not previously discussed and things that you may not have previously considered. The very last concept discussed in Eric's conversation with Michael Pollan will for sure leave you thinking anew.
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In This Interview, Michael Pollan and I Discuss...
- His book, How to Change your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and Transcendence
- How fear is a big motivator in people's action and inaction
- That your obstacles are all between your ears
- How consciousness is a big mystery
- What the newest science tells us about psychedelics
- The way psychedelics affect us by allowing us to look at normal, everyday consciousness in new ways
- The default mode network going quiet during a psychedelic trip
- The ego, idea of self in the brain and our life
- Psychedelics impact on the sense of self
- The experience of the dissolution of the ego
- The mind-expanding power of mystical experience
- The theory of the entropic brain
- How the brain works to reduce uncertainty and surprise
- The narrowing of consciousness by rigid thinking
- The stories our brains tell us
- Insufficient entropy in the brain perhaps leading to mental illnesses
- Psychedelics disordering the brain
- The similarities between a tripping brain on psychedelics and a meditative brain
- An ego-free state of consciousness through the use of psychedelics
- The mistake of seeing spirituality as the opposite of materialism
- The opposite of spiritual being egotistical
- The ego keeps us from having a deep connection with everything around us
- How psychedelics are "wasted on the young"
- That those in the 2nd half of their lives may benefit most from the use of psychedelics
- The importance of breaking the rigidity that growing older brings
- How psychedelics can help us make peace with our death
- Psilocybin benefiting those facing imminent death with great fear
- How psychedelics and a psychodynamic approach are not opposites
- "Psychedelic assisted psychotherapy"
- Positive trauma in the brain
- Administering an experience rather than a drug
- The importance of set and setting when taking a psychedelic
- How a spiritual experience alone doesn't make a spiritual life
- That ego is nothing but a contraction
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Austin Channing Brown is a writer, speaker, and practitioner who helps schools, nonprofits, and religious organizations practice genuine inclusion. She is passionate about the advancement of racial justice and reconciliation and her words will most certainly move you to action. In her work, she shares her experiences as a black woman who "navigates whiteness on a regular basis". After listening to this interview and reading her book, your mind and heart will be broadened towards understanding and inclusion - regardless of where you are on that spectrum today.
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In This Interview, Austin Channing Brown and I Discuss...
- Her book, I'm Still Here: Black Dignity in A World Made for Whiteness
- The importance and value of anger
- How we can fight the monsters without becoming the monsters
- That anger reveals something is wrong
- White fragility - sadness and anger
- Naming the things that can come in the way of a discussion, before the discussion happens
- Realising racial bias
- Transformation comes after a moment of realization
- The idea of "whiteness being normal"
- Books to read to gain an understanding of racial injustice
- Disunity in Christ
- Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?: And Other Conversations About Race
- How to look for opportunities to talk with others about topics of racial injustice
- Check out "Be the Bridge"
- The white confessional being a shortcut to true reconciliation
- Skipping the confessional story and moving straight to the action step you'll take next
- What reconciliation means to her
- Racial justice and reconciliation
- Radical Reconciliation
- How reconciliation should revolutionize the relationships we have with each other
- The celebration of blackness that is throughout the book
- Cultural misappropriation
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This week on The One You Feed we have Frank Turner.
In honor of Frank's new record we are re-releasing one of Eric's favorite interviews. This was the 22nd interview of all time for The One You Feed.
We will be back with a new episode next week.
Frank was a singer in a hardcore band, Million Dead. When they broke up he started out on his own with an acoustic guitar. He has released five solo albums, two rarities compilation albums, one split album and five EPs. His seventh studio album Be More Kind was recently released
In This Interview Frank and I Discuss…
- The One You Feed parable.
- The feeling that there is never enough time.
- The importance of friendship in feeding your good wolf.
- His role as a CALM Ambassador.
- Building a community around music.
- What punk rock meant to him as a kid.
- Staying connected to his values of openness and community as he gets more famous
- Music as a refuge for those that don’t fit in.
- Music that he turns to to feed his good wolf.
- Writing the press release for John K Samson’s latest record.
- The challenges of alcohol and drugs.
- Getting older and the changes in identity that come with that.
- His love of dogs and his amazing “dog policy” at shows
- His forthcoming record.
Frank Turner Links
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Adyashanti is a renowned and gifted spiritual teacher. He's written many books, hosts meditation retreats and speaks around the world to large audiences at a time. With such a wide audience, it's amazing that when you experience Adya's teaching, it's as if he's speaking directly to you - to your very heart. Whatever your experience with or preconceived notions of spiritual awakening, allow yourself to re-engage with the idea through this interview. As you turn the inquiry towards yourself this time, you may be surprised, moved and/or transformed by what you find - if you are brutally honest in the process.
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In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss...
- Self-Inquiry
- Starting with I am not _____
- Starting with all inclusiveness - I am _____
- Being open to being wrong about things
- Experiencing an "uncaused" sense of well being
- Self-transcendent values
- It works best in life to ______
- When you have less internal conflict you treat the world in a different way than if you have more internal conflict
- Removing the religious and cultural compass removes the moral north star
- We reorient ourselves to comfort being the north star
- Nothing mattering AND everything mattering
- That Adya is oriented towards truth and love
- Activities are neutral - it's what we bring to it that gives it meaning
- What is it about awakening that you want?
- What is meaningful moment to moment and day by day
- At every moment, we are giving expression to what we value
- How nothing shuts down awakening faster than judgment
- The spiritual persona of "I'm going to get out of this human game" or "I'm going to be here but not really be here"
- The importance of coming to grips with the human experience of imperfection...
- ...without turning it into an excuse for unwise behavior
- Be aware of your human limitations and don't see them as "wrong"
- The problematic experience of existential unworthiness
- The economic catastrophe of a collective human awakening
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Adyashanti is a renowned and gifted spiritual teacher. He's written many books, hosts meditation retreats and speaks around the world to large audiences at a time. With such a wide audience, it's amazing that when you experience Adya's teaching, it's as if he's speaking directly to you - to your very heart. Whatever your experience with or preconceived notions of spiritual awakening, allow yourself to re-engage with the idea through this interview. As you turn the inquiry towards yourself this time, you may be surprised, moved and/or transformed by what you find - if you are brutally honest in the process.our inner life.
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In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss...
- Eric's awakening experience
- The awakened state in perpetuity
- The shift in perception that happens with awakening
- The paradox of wanting something like awakening yet wanting it stands in the way of having it
- Will gets you to the cushion and once there, it's important to let go of it
- Does one need a spiritual teacher when seeking awakening?
- The teacher evoking something from vs the teacher giving something to the student
- How people work with unconscious patterns
- How you can't not be awakened - even if you don't feel it, it's there
- Emotional conflict
- Paying attention to what's recurring in you
- Anything that's happened to us that was too big for us to remain conscious while we experienced it, gets trapped in our system - turned into some other emotion or it just gets stuffed and is now just there waiting for you. The universe is now asking, "can you experience this now?"
- Being fine with being sad
- Let everything be exactly the way it is
- How dealing with life's experiences as they come transforms you
- A clinched fist vs an open hand metaphor
- "Let" vs "Let go"
- If you can't let it go, can you let it be
- Failure as part of triumph
- Failing your way through something consciously can cause a sort of transformation
- What it looks like to build a spiritual practice
- Daily quiet meditation, Engage in some precise self-inquiry (a wonderment of "being")
- How spirituality is the direct investigation of YOUR experience
- The only way to get self-inquiry wrong is not to be ruthlessly honest about what's happening in your experience
- The fear of getting something wrong
- Think of your spiritual teacher kind of like a college professor
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Mark Epstein is a psychiatrist in private practice in NYC and the author of many books about the intersection of Buddhism and psychotherapy. He's currently the clinical assistant professor in the postdoctoral program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis at New York University. His most recent book, Advice Not Given; A Guide to Getting Over Yourself is what he talks about in this episode. His wisdom is so incredibly practical, applicable, and helpful. Ideas like whether or not naming your feelings would be a helpful strategy for you and how to work with clinging in its many forms - even the clinging to inner peace - abound in this discussion. Take a listen and enrich your inner life.
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In This Interview, Mark Epstein and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His book, Advice Not Given; A Guide to Getting Over Yourself
- The duality that we all struggle with
- Freud and the Buddha's nearly identical conclusion
- What it means to take personal responsibility for our selfish concerns
- The clinging to that which gives us a sense of control over life
- The clinging to that which nurtures our ego
- The eightfold path of the Buddha
- The conversation with his terminally ill father that inspired this book
- Right View - being realistic about one's self and the nature of things
- How change and death is happening all of the time, moment to moment
- Trying not to try as it relates to meditation
- "Take the backward step" in meditation
- FInding balance in "right effort"
- Exploring the feelings that we are otherwise afraid of through psychotherapy
- The link between being with uncomfortable feelings and empathy to others
- How anything that's happening in the body or mind can be the object of meditation
- How useful it is to name a feeling
- Making a feeling "intelligible" by naming it
- How useful it can be to find where feelings show up in the body
- When your mind is not aware of what's making you act this way (in addiction, compulsive behaviors etc) it's important to put the words on the feelings
- Whether or not all emotions show up in the body
- How clinging takes many forms - even the desire for inner peace
- "Don't chase her, let her find you."
- That our lives are made dull by our efforts to over control things
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Barbara Bonner started as an art historian and then went on to spend much of her professional career in nonprofit management, fundraising and philanthropy. Most relevant to this show, Barbara is the author of two books; Inspiring Generosity and Inspiring Courage. In this episode, she talks about both, using beautiful poetry, powerful quotes, and illustrative real-life stories. If you've ever wanted to cultivate these two qualities in your life, then this episode is for you. If there's one thing Barbara does through her work, it's inspiring action towards both of these qualities in the lives of everyday people.
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In This Interview, Barbara Bonner and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- Her books, Inspiring Generosity and Inspiring Courage
- The power of putting ourselves in the way of inspiration
- How we're different at the end of a book than at the beginning
- Reframing how we look at generosity
- How generosity flows from a sense of abundance
- How a sense of abundance flows from being generous
- That generosity and courage are action verbs
- The fact that you should feel a pinch when you act generously
- That saying the loving-kindness meditation can be generous
- What it means to lead a courageous life
- How no one who was courageous seems to claim courage
- The spontaneity of courage
- How authenticity seems to coincide with courage
- That you see a pattern of courage throughout people's lives
- Post-traumatic growth
- How a strong childhood isn't necessary in order to lead a full life
- The role of listening in generosity and courage
- How important listening is in all of life
- The correlation between generosity and courage
- Practicing generosity and courage and growing the ability to act on these qualities over time
- How to live a life of meaning you have to step forward
- "Do something every day that doesn't compute" - Wendell Berry
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Ulrich Boser is a best selling author and senior fellow with The Center for American Progress. He has been a contributing editor for US News and World Report and his work has appeared in the NY Times, Wall Street Journal, and Huntington Post. His latest book, Learn Better: Mastering the Skills for Success in Life, Business or School - or - How to Become an Expert in Just About Anything, will equip you with actual skills to get better at what some have called the ultimate survival tool: learning how to learn. This topic is relevant to literally everyone. To be alive is to learn and grow and change (whether we're aware of it at times or not!) so it's important to sharpen our skills in order to get better at getting better. What is discussed in this episode will confirm some of what you know about how people learn, challenge some beliefs you might have about this topic and teach you a few things in the process that will make you a better student of life.
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In This Interview, Ulrich Boser and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His book, Learn Better: Mastering the Skills for Success in Life, Business or School - or - How to Become an Expert in Just About Anything
- Learning how to learn
- Getting better at getting better
- The ultimate survival tool
- Being actively engaged in the learning process
- Making meaning out of something
- The hypercorrection effect
- Giving our brain time to make sense of the information, reflection
- How critical it is to understand relationships between things
- Varying the circumstances in which we learn/apply information
- How it's easier to remember something new if you can hang it on to something old
- A systematic approach to learning something
- Value: valuing what you're learning
- Target: learning small pieces of info at a time
- Develop: practice & get feedback
- Extend: elaborating on something, looking at it from different angles
- Relate: analogies are the essence of thought, relating something to other things
- Rethink: take time to process information
- Metacognition: thinking about thinking
- What are you going to learn and how will you know that you know it?
- How intertwined emotion and cognition are
- Digestible parts: learn less at a time
- At 90 minutes of learning, adults are kind of done
- Active learning strategies
- Hypotheticals: what would happen if...
- Why it's important to stay away from cramming
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Tim Freke is a truly pioneering philosopher. His many books, talks, and retreats have touched the lives of hundreds of thousands of people worldwide. Tim is the author of 35 books, the newest being Soul Story: Evolution and the purpose of life. As you listen to this interview, your ah-ha moments will grow in scope and scale throughout the conversation. He is a radical thinker and one of the great minds of our time. His big view of where we've been, where we are and where we're going will hit you as perhaps surprising, remarkably realistic and fundamentally inspiring. Listen and see for yourself.
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In This Interview, Tim Freke and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His book, Soul Story: Evolution and the Purpose of Life
- The deeper level of evolution going on inside of ourselves
- The evolution of the psyche
- Perhaps it's all one evolutionary journey: physical evolution, biological evolution and then an evolution of the psyche or soul
- What if rather than the concept of God creating the universe, we've evolved such that we've created a god
- Maybe God is where we're going towards
- In life - the deepest things happen at the end
- An arriving of conscious oneness
- The point of view that life in the world is getting better over time
- Creativity is the heart of the universe
- The great religions of the world were created at a time when people still thought the world is flat. We've moved on and so can our recognition of spirituality
- The ark of time pointing towards a better world now
- Rather than the passing of time, perhaps it's the accumulation of the past meeting the possible.The past meeting the possible
- The weight of the past that can limit us and pull us back
- Paralogical thinking: both AND (not either or)
- Transcend and Include
- How he teaches others to have the experience of "deep awake"
- Allowing vs. Pushing Away
- Being pulled towards the better while living in the present
- Being a spiritual being in an animal, human body
- Cause and Effect, Meaning and Magic - all of the levels are interacting all of the time
- The power of realistic thinking that's inspirational
- Deep Awake: being spiritually awake, you experience the oneness of life and that feels like love
- Waking up doesn't mean we ditch our individuality
- The form of consciousness that comes through our senses which are rooted in the body
- The form of consciousness that is in the psyche and imagination
- The form of consciousness that questions itself and realizes that our essential nature has no form
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Cheri Huber is the author of 20 books and has been a student of zen for 35 years. She founded the Mountain View Zen Center and the Zen Monastery Peace Center, both in California, where she and other monks teach workshops and hold retreats. She is also a truth telling, light hearted delight to listen to. In this interview, she talks all about what is going on in our mind and how we can better work with it to produce a better experience in life. Her wisdom is so practical and so powerful. See for yourself in this transformative episode.
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In This Interview, Cheri Huber and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- Her book, I Don't Want To, I Don't Feel Like It: How resistance controls your life and what to do about it
- How the process IS the outcome
- That now is the only moment there is
- How the quality of your life is determined by the focus of your attention
- Everything comes into being, together
- She doesn't believe that there's anything that ISN'T God
- Our dualistic thinking
- All of the ways to refer to the ego
- The unique ability that humans have to experience themselves as other than life
- The ego is a survival system
- Believing we are not connected to life
- Everything is a verb! A gerund
- The illusion of being separate from life
- My ego is the no to life's yes
- Always asking what's lacking, what's missing, what's wrong keeps the ego as the center of the universe
- How we are deeply conditioned for negativity
- Awareness being able to watch the conditioned mind
- I hear it in my head, it sounds like me, it must be me, it's who I am
- Approach the stuff that's going on inside our heads by imagining that it's somebody next to you saying it
- Recording and Listening
- Make recordings of what's true, what I appreciate, what I love
- Hearing what's true for you in your own voice
- Talking ourselves into a life that's true
- How we direct our attention is the be all and end all in life
- We have these tendencies to see what's negative so we need to bring ourselves to what is true that isn't negative
- We transcend the conditioned mind, we don't resist it
- The key is to turn your attention away from the negative voices not to change what they are saying
- The habit of going with the conversation in your head is so powerful
- If we can wake up out of it, we can decide to go somewhere else in our attention
- Hear Cheri Huber talk about her book, I Don't Want To, I Don't Feel Like It: How resistance controls your life and what to do about it
- Cheri Huber teaches that the process IS the outcome
- Cheri Huber explains what she means by this: your ego is the "no" to life's "yes"
- Do you believe that we are deeply conditioned for negativity or hardwired for negativity?
- Here's a tip: Approach the stuff that's going on inside our heads by imagining that it's somebody next to you saying it
- The quality of your life is determined by the focus of your attention
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Rick Hanson, PhD is a Neuropsychologist, teacher and author of many books. He is the founder of the Wellspring Center for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom and an affiliate of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkley. This is the 2nd time Dr. Hanson has been a guest on the show and we invited him back because of how great his work really is. In this episode, he talks all about the fact that who we become is a result of what we grow inside of ourselves. Using the analogy of tending a garden, he teaches us very practical ways to grow and enrich ourselves through the experiences in our lives. Get a pen and paper - you'll probably want to take notes on this one!
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In This Interview, Rick Hanson and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His book, Resilient: How to grow an unshakable core of calm, strength, and happiness
- Who we become is a result of what we grow inside ourselves
- How you manage your challenges, protect your vulnerabilities, Increase your resources: out in the world, in the body, and in the mind
- Growing resources in our mind is a good focus
- Converting an experience into lasting change
- Slowing down content delivery so that the nervous system in our brains has a chance to receive it and rewire accordingly
- 5 ways to enrich a beneficial experience:
- Extend the experience (make it longer)
- Intensify the experience (really lean into it)
- Embody the experience (how does it feel in your body and your mind)
- Freshen the experience (see what's novel about it? Bring a beginners mind)
- Value the experience (see the relevance to you)
- Asking what is the challenge? What resource would be the most beneficial?
- The mind is like a garden - to grow things, focus on:
- Mindful witnessing
- Mindful releasing of what's negative
- Mindful receiving (replace what we release or simply receive what would be beneficial)
- Fighting what's negative only makes it work
- Growing a fundamental core of resilient wellbeing
- Safety, Satisfaction, and Connection are basic needs we have
- How it takes time to tend a garden
- How adversity isn't the only way to grow in life
- We have to experience what we want to grow inside
- We have to turn that experience into some kind of lasting change in the brain
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Jeff Warren is a former journalist and more recently is a researcher, writer, and teacher of meditation and personal growth practices. His most recent book, written with Dan Harris, is called, Meditation for Fidgitty Skeptics: A 10% Happier How to Book. Jeff is a likable, relatable guy who carries a lot of practical wisdom in his conversational style of communicating. If you've ever felt like you're not good at meditating or that meditation just isn't for you because your brain never turns off, this interview is for you because that's how Jeff would describe himself, particularly at the beginning of his practice years ago. We all know that meditation is good for us but for many, it just feels inaccessible and out of reach. If that is how you feel, what Jeff has to share in this interview will make that gap shrink in size so much so that you can hop right over it and try again.
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In This Interview, Jeff Warren and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His book with Dan Harris, Meditation for Fidgitty Skeptics: A 10% Happier How to Book
- The role of meditation in living with depression
- The voice in our heads
- Not identifying with the voices in our heads
- Coming out of the conversation in our heads
- The idea of "I can't meditate"
- Thinking we're supposed to stop thinking when we meditate
- Changing the relationship with your thoughts
- Focusing on an anchor, getting lost in thought, realizing you're lost in thought and coming back to your anchor = mediation
- How quick we are to conclude that meditation isn't for us
- That meditation is a practice
- Celebrating the coming back from thought in meditation
- Training affability during meditation
- Finding enjoyment and curiosity during meditation
- Asking "What's the attitude in my mind right now?" during meditation
- That attitude is what you're training during meditation
- Looking at the world with interest
- Equanimity = a lack of pushing and pulling on experience
- Opening to experience so that there's no friction
- When everything has permission to express its self fully
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Robert Wright is an author and a scholar. His most recent book, Why Buddhism is True, is an analytical look comparing the ancient concepts of Buddhism and the more recent findings of modern science. The title of his book may be a bit provocative, but we challenge you to hear him out before assuming what he writes about in his book on the topic. We think you'll find this interview thought provoking and interesting as well as instructive and helpful. Whatever your reaction to the episode, we'd love to hear about it.
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In This Interview, Robert Wright and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His book, Why Buddhism is True
- Evolutionary Psychology
- That according to Evolutionary Psychology we're wired to do what's best to propagate our genes into the next generation
- And how sometimes doing that might not be what's best for ourselves or the world
- That we're wired for a recurring dissatisfaction or discontented so we'd keep doing the things that would move us toward our goal of passing our genes on to the next generation
- Craving and Aversion
- Not following craving and aversion as guides are central to Buddhism
- According to Buddhism if we don't run from unpleasant feelings like sadness, anxiety etc, they will actually become less painful over time
- That the Buddha intuited a lot of things that we now know to be true according to modern science and evolutionary psychology
- How our thoughts can sometimes subtlely influence us - ex Cognitive Bias
- Cognitive Bias being driven by emotion rather than being rational & Buddhism teaches that
- The Buddhist conception of the mind/brain and modern psychology's conception of the mind/brain are very aligned
- In the cognitive battle for attention, the thought that "wins" is the one that has the most feeling attached to it
- How meditation can help give you clarity on thoughts and feelings and the difference between the two
- CBT & questioning your thoughts and feelings in Buddhism
- Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
- Allowing and observing rather than acting on our strong feelings
- The anguish we add to physical pain by the anticipation of it or the lamenting of it
- Essences that we impute into things
- The idea of not self and what it means
- The benefit of parceling out the things that we identify - like anxious feelings - as not being ourselves
- Thinking you're not cut out for meditation
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Catherine Gray is an award-winning writer and editor. Her most recent book is called, The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober. What a brilliant title and what a brilliant book. In it - and in this interview - Catherine offers so many good ideas, phrases, and pearls of wisdom to take away and keep close by. She shares a bit about her journey to and through sobriety with Eric and the critical "ah ha" moments along the way that really helped her build the life she's living today. If you don't have a revelatory moment when listening to her in this interview, we'll be surprised.
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In This Interview, Catherine Gray and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- Her book, The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober
- The challenge of training our brains to look for the good stuff in life
- The question: Would my life be better sober? instead of Am I an alcoholic?
- Rock bottom being a different place for different people at different times
- The challenge of moderation
- The beautiful clarity of zero
- The limbic system in distress with indecision
- Controlling vs Enjoying drinking
- Alchohol being like a cheat code in a video game when it comes to inhibition
- That no one regrets being sober
- The awful feelings at the beginning of getting sober are what you feel like because of the drinking, not the getting sober
- Learning the skills to enjoy life sober
- Addictive voice recognition
- Negative Thought Patterns:
- B&B
- Children in a car
- Bird watching
- That there are many different ways to get sober
- How expectations are resentments under construction
- Day counting in being sober
- I don't vs I can't
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Paul Dolan is a Professor of Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics and Political Science. He's an expert on human behavior and happiness. Paul is also the author of the best selling book, Happiness By Design: Change What You Do Not What You Think. We all want happiness in our lives yet happiness is something that so often eludes most people. It seems like a feeling that happens to us rather than a feeling that we can cultivate with intention. In this interview, Paul teaches some really practical, research-based, action-oriented approaches to life that we can take today to increase our feelings of happiness. The first step? Listen to this informative and interesting interview.
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In This Interview, Paul Dolan and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His book, Happiness By Design: Change What You Do Not What You Think
- The power of designing your environment
- Find a balance of purpose and pleasure and you have a happy life
- How a large part of how you feel is connected to what you do
- The role of attention in happiness
- What we think would make us happy vs what does make us happy
- That we're not very good at predicting what will make us happy
- The AREA model
- How we must make sense of what's happened in order to adapt to it
- Key to happiness is also to pay more attention to what makes you happy and less attention to what doesn't make you happy
- Why somethings that are so obvious are so often overlooked
- If you can't change what you do, change what you pay attention to in the experience
- If you want to do something, make it easy for yourself to do it
- Less about willpower and more about design power
- Habit loops
- Queuing your environment, commitment and norm
- Deciding, Designing and Doing
- If you want to do something, make it easy. If you don't want to do something make it hard
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Ellen Bass is a Chancellor of the Academy of American Poets. Her work has won award after award and rightly so - there's something so powerful, beautiful, true and often times darkly funny in her work. She says that writing poetry - as well as reading it - is an inquiry more than a description. Isn't that an interesting perspective to consider? In this episode, you'll hear her read some of her work, share her insights and experiences in life, talk about the process of writing poetry and offer some ideas that perhaps you had not considered before - especially in the way she does. Regardless of whether or not you think of yourself as a lover of poetry, you'll be touched by this episode.
She is the author of Like a Beggar, The Human Line, Mules of Love, and The Courage to Heal
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In This Interview, Ellen Bass and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- Her book, Like a Beggar
- That poetry is an inquiry more than a description
- Discovering something about oneself when writing and reading poetry
- Her poem, Relax
- Tasting life
- Thinking about how you are "right now"
- The role of finding similarities in disparate things when using metaphor
- The oneness of the world
- Working hard in the chair to be a poet
- How no one would expect a person to pick up a saxophone and immediately be able to play and the same is true for writing poetry
- Her poem, Asking Directions in Paris
- Using God in her poetry
- Her poem, If You Knew
- How because of mortality, one day, we as individuals are going to lose everything
- That poetry helps us to see deeply into the beauty of things that are right in front of us
- Introducing poetry to others as you would a novel
- The important role of humor
- Poets she mentioned:
- Marie Howe
- Jericho Brown
- Natalie Diaz
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Will Schwalbe is an author, entrepreneur, and journalist. He is also perhaps the most delightful, interesting and thoughtful person you've come across in a while. His love of books is infectious and as you know, Eric is a bibliophile himself so when the two talk about books and reading as they do in this episode, the result is one blissful experience. Do you love reading? Did you used to love reading but it's moved out of the spotlight of your life? Have you wanted to cultivate a love of reading? Are you looking for some really wonderful books to read? Are you alive and breathing? If your answer to any of these questions is yes, then this interview is for you.
He is the author of Thoughts on Reading, Reflecting and Embracing Life, The End of Your Life Book Club and SEND: Why People Email So Badly and How to Do It Better
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In This Interview, Will Schwalbe and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His book, Books for Living, Some Thoughts on Reading, Reflecting and Embracing Life
- The importance of reading
- That reading isn't binary
- That every time we read, we become better at reading
- How reading can promote empathy
- How we connect through books
- The practice of "visiting your books"
- How he chooses which book to read next
- The way books can be a bio of your life
- The primary emotion he has at the beginning of reading a book
- Live to work vs work to live
- The freedom to quit
- The freedom of mediocrity
- Good being the enemy of great
- You write the books you need
- That our devices allow us to rob ourselves of silence
- How reading is an art
- The "can't you tell I'm reading" face
- His favorite books that he's read recently that were written recently
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David Loy is a professor, prolific writer, and teacher in the Japanese Zen Buddhism tradition. Much of his work has to do with what has happened as Buddhism has encountered modern western culture and vice versa. In this episode, we dive into this topic via a discussion of his book, A New Buddhist Path: Enlightenment, Evolution, and Ethics in the Modern World. David presents us with a different lens through which to look at this intersection of cultures which will also thereby change the way you look at yourself.
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In This Interview, David Loy and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His book, A New Buddhist Path: Enlightenment, Evolution, and Ethics in the Modern World
- Buddhism in the West today
- The mindfulness movement
- The play between Buddhism and Psychotherapy
- The role of the self
- The danger of spiritual by-pass
- The delicate line of feeling our difficult emotions and foregoing our emotions
- Transcend the world? Adapt to the world? or See the world differently?
- That the sense of self that we think we have is not as solid or real as we think
- How meditation helps us let go of delusional perceptions of the world
- Our true nature
- The true nature of the world
- Buddhism and emptiness
- The sense of self is obscuring the nature or our minds which in themselves have no form or characteristics in and of themselves
- Liberating our awareness from being stuck on things we're thinking about
- A collection of psychological processes that are happening within us
- The process of trying to find the self
- Realizing the truth of "that which is looking is that which we are looking for"
- Non-dualism
- The illusion perpetuated by a sense of lack
- Pursuing "things" to deal with the sense of lack because we don't really know what else to do to deal with it
- Consumerism
- Greed
- Ill will
- Our militarized society
- The institutionalized systems that are running of their own accord
- The duality of good vs evil and vilifying the "other" in the Judeo Christian West
- The importance of personal transformation in our cultural transformation
- What Buddhism is loosing as it moves into the modern world
- What Buddhism is gaining as it moves into the modern world
- The meditative and contemplative practices of Buddhism that can help us transform ourselves
- Social transformation and Individual transformation
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Leah Weiss wears many hats: she's a researcher, professor, consultant, and author. Much of her work to date has surrounded cultivating compassion in the workplace. Her upcoming book, to be released in March 2018, ventures into the realm of bringing mindfulness into the workplace. It turns out, it's not only possible to do so, but it completely transforms the way people experience their work for the better. Hate your job? This interview is PERFECT for you. But you don't have to hate your job to get a lot out of it. Leah Weiss can help you elevate your experience at work no matter your starting point of happiness.
In This Interview, Leah Weiss and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- Her book How We Work: Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity and Embrace the Daily Grind
- The importance of and impact of our experience at work
- Mindfulness: the intentional use of attention
- The illusion of multitasking
- Looking differently at what we're already doing vs doing something differently
- Taking all of your life onto the path
- How mindfulness helps you transform the experience
- The importance of directing our attention to something we've been avoiding because it's painful
- How the strategy of avoidance or resistance leads us to be more unhappy
- The three types of mindfulness training that we can bring to work
- Being in your body
- Metacognition
- Focus
- The Pomodoro Technique
- Our crazy streams of consciousness
- Eudaimonic happiness vs Hedonic happiness
- A helpful strategy for dealing with people who annoy you - in life and at work
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Andy Couturier lived in rural Japan many years ago and it changed his life. As he lived alongside people who were living profoundly satisfying lives, he learned what they were doing (or not doing!) to achieve this level of satisfaction and then he wrote about it in his book, The Abundance of Less: Lessons in Simple Living from Rural Japan. In this interview, Andy shares this wisdom and his experiences in such a way that you can apply the concepts in a practical manner in your life starting today.
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In This Interview, Andy Couturier and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His book, The Abundance of Less: Lessons in Simple Living From Rural Japan
- His time living in rural Japan
- That the people in rural Japan do not use money to entertain themselves
- Their way of life is slow, humble, connected to their community and time for individual contemplation
- How they don't suffer from "time poverty"
- That all life is connected in rural Japan
- Because there is less to do, the garner more enjoyment from each task
- The consumerism and busy characteristics of the industrialized west
- How "convenience speeds you up"
- Ways to make meaningful strides towards living a lifestyle inspired by the lifestyle in rural Japan
- Simplify simplify simplify
- Travel less, know your home city better
- Make meaningful connections with friends by spending more time together
- Diving deeper into things in your life in a methodical, thoughtful way
- I love doing _____. Wouldn't it be wonderful to spend more time doing it?
- Ways to make time for what we care about
- How they live profoundly satisfying lives in rural Japan
- That you don't have to "go back in time" to live this kind of life
- Building his house entirely with hand tools
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Dillan Digiovanni used to be a really angry activist. He believed his anger was an important driver to fuel his work to inspire change in the world. Then he had a revelation: His anger wasn't working. It was driving other people away and it was toxic to himself. Where his path led him from there has turned out to be quite an adventure. He's now an activist without the energy of anger and he now identifies as a man. This interview will inspire you to live your truth. It will inspire you to examine your own life and be better because of it. This important conversation is not only relevant to the issues of today, but it proves to be perennially relevant to how we decide to live our lives in the skin we're in.
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In This Interview, Dillan DiGiovanni and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- How, as an activist, his anger was driving people away
- That there's no right way to do anything
- If you're angry all of the time you're constantly looking for the threat
- His gender identity transition
- That anger can be a healthy thing
- Searching for the feeling that's underneath the anger
- The harm in being angry at people for being ignorant about an issue
- The way anger impacts your perspective on life and other people
- The harm in saying "they did this because..." when what you're working with is an assumption
- His relationship to anger now that he's awake to it
- The power of "allowing" vs "resisting"
- His story of transitioning his gender identity
- Resilience
- How to live in the world when no one person understands all of you
- The anger that arises when your expectations about how other people should behave aren't met
- The power of meeting people where they really are
- How to work with your vision about how the world should be
- The power of the serenity prayer
- What happened when he let go of his anger as an activist
- His Buddhist tradition
- Having a meditation practice
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Dr. Elissa Epel knows a lot about the science of stress. As a health psychologist, she specializes in research surrounding the role Telomeres and their length play in our body's response to stress. In this episode, she explains how the choices we make emotionally, about our thought patterns, our lifestyle etc directly affects our biology in a very clear and measurable way. It turns out, our thoughts and our behavior have a measurable impact on our biology at a cellular level and there are things that we can do to make that impact a positive one. When it comes to telomeres, in most cases, the longer the better and you can do things to impact that variable of length starting today. She is the coauthor with Nobel winner Dr. Elizabeth Blackburn of the book The Telomere Effect: A Revolutionary Approach to Living Younger, Healthier and Longer
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In This Interview, Elissa Epel and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- Her book, The Telomere Effect: A Revolutionary Approach to Living Younger, Healthier and Longer
- That genes load the gun and environment pulls the trigger
- How at least 50% of the variance of whether we die early, get sick etc is our behavior, which is shaped by our psychological experience
- What a telomere is and their role in aging
- Keeping them long, and sturdy and stable throughout our lives
- That in mid-life, shorter telomeres predict getting diseases of aging, earlier (cancer is an exception)
- That telomere length can be epigenetic
- The role of inflammation in our health
- Inflamm-aging
- An anti-inflammatory diet
- Depression and telomere length
- The challenge response
- That not ruminating on a stressor can lead to a quicker psychological recovery which leads to a quicker physiological recovery
- Linguistic Self Distancing = improved stress resilience
- It's not about avoiding stress, it's about coping with stress in a way that doesn't amplify the stress in our mind in a prolonged way
- Time distancing
Steve Hagen is the founder and teacher of the Dharma Field Zen Center in Minneapolis, MN and the author of several books on Buddhism, including Buddhism Plain and Simple which is one of the top five best selling books on Buddhism in the United States. In this episode, Steve teaches us about several Buddhist concepts that are often misunderstood: Wholeness vs Unwholesomeness, Perception vs Conception and Belief vs Knowledge. Knowing the true meaning of these ideas will give you great freedom as you seek the enlightenment that is your true nature.
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In This Interview, Steve Hagen and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His book, Buddhism Plain and Simple
- The Horse and the Farmer parable
- Wholeness vs Unwholesome
- Consider the welfare of other beings in all you do
- Awareness
- Perception (the immediate, direct experience) vs Conception (our construct of things)
- Belief vs Knowledge
- That we can't arrive at truth through conception
- That enlightenment is with us all of the time, we're just not aware of it
- That enlightenment is our natural state
- The idea of "stream" as self, the Buddha said
- That the way things appear to be is more of a construct than a reality
- How picking and choosing is the mind's worst disease
- Noticing how the mind leans a certain way
- That a Buddha is a person who is awake
- The power of simply observing something about ourselves rather than trying to put a stop to it or judging it
- The Story about the 84 Problems
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Johann Berlin has worked with some of the world's greatest leaders, Fortune 500 companies, has spoken at a Ted conference and is in the process of writing a book about what it means to live a fulfilling life. Have you ever found yourself hating your day job? Wishing you could do the thing you truly love? Not sure what would make you happy at work but you know what you're doing now isn't helping? In this episode, Johann shares really helpful and practical approaches that you can start applying today in order to bring more meaning and fulfillment into your daily life - both at work and otherwise.
Johann Berlin is the CEO of TLEX U.S. Johann has grown TLEX nationwide and into leading institutions and Fortune 500 companies. Prior to joining TLEX, Johann scaled boutique triple bottom line and social sector companies from concept to high-impact with a special focus on innovative and disruptive wellness, leadership, innovation initiatives with the project being mentioned in Harvard Business Review, New York Times, and Wharton Journal.
Johann has participated as a speaker/facilitator at TEDx London, Stanford Center for Compassion, Harvard Executive MBA Alumni Summit, Wharton School of Business, UC Berkeley’s Leadership Symposium, Yale School of Management, Impact Investor Sustainatopia Conference, GE HealthCare’s Health Ahead Summit Paris, and Dartmouth on Purpose.
In This Interview, Johann Berlin and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- That what you put your attention on grows
- What love means in a corporate environment
- The difference between a question and a wonder
- Moving from desire to finding things that bring you contentment
- It's not always what you do but that you have meaningful relationships at work
- "Do service", doing things with honor, treating things as special
- How if you hate your job, you don't have the energy to do the things you love
- What you resist, persists
- Suppressing your thoughts
- How hating your job causes you to suffer
- His troubled youth
- The role that the kindness of other people has played in his life
- His three reflections on kindness:
- We choose who we are kind to
- No act is too small
- The starfish story
- Don't lose hope
- Choosing to show up in the moment
- If you honor the moment, you can choose to show up for it
- Living wisely with the changing, advancing age
Johann Berlin Links
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Andrea Lieberstein can teach you how to nourish your whole self so that you can have a healthier relationship with food. What does that mean? Well, often, we turn to food to nourish parts of our lives that it is not equipped to nourish. Have you ever turned to food to soothe anxiety or stress? This is a really common way that we ask food to do something that it's not meant to do. In this episode, Andrea teaches specific strategies for how to bring mindfulness into the act of eating. These practical, multi-pronged approaches are ones that you can bring to your very next encounter with food.
Andrea Lieberstein is a mindfulness-based registered dietitian nutritionist, mindful eating (MB-EAT) and mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR) instructor and coach, trainer, and registered yoga instructor has specialized in helping people transform their lives for over 25 years. She leads mindfulness meditation and mindful eating trainings and retreats at retreat centers across the country and internationally. Her individual coaching sessions are accessible to anyone through phone or a virtual video office. She utilizes Mindfulness-Based Eating Awareness Training (MB-EAT), MBSR, MSC (Mindful Self-Compassion) and other mindfulness-based and mindful eating practices in her private practice working with individuals on a wide range of disordered eating, healthy weight management, body image and stress-related issues and health concerns.
Her latest book is called: Well Nourished: Mindful Practices to Heal Your Relationship with Food Feed Your Whole Self, and End Overeating
In This Interview, Andrea Lieberstein and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- Her book, Well Nourished: Mindful Practices to Heal Your Relationship with Food Feed Your Whole Self, and End Overeating
- The importance of what we pay attention to
- The 8 bodies that we can nourish
- Being "fully resourced"
- Identifying your intention to have a better relationship with food
- Bringing mindful awareness to our eating triggers and our own bodies
- Learning to tune into hunger, fullness, cravings
- Making conscious, informed choices when it comes to food
- Honoring ourselves and appreciating others at holiday mealtimes
- Savoring our food so that we're really present and not on autopilot
- A mindful check-in: Pause, Deep Breaths, Ask "What is Present?"/"What's Going on Here?", Ask, "What do I really need right now?", Take a moment to reflect on your food
- Highly processed food
- The myth of needing to wait 20 minutes to know whether or not we're full
- Satisfaction at mealtime
- Making one meal or snack a day a silent one
- The 8 Bodies we need to Nourish: Physical, Emotional, Psychological, Social, Intellectual, Creative, Spiritual, and Worldly Nourishment
- How to deal with emotions in other ways than turning to food
- "Surfing the urge"
- Loving-kindness and cravings
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Dr. Jon Mills is back and in this episode we discuss a paper that talks about self stigmatization and the "why try" effect.
Self-stigma and the “why try” effect: impact on life goals and evidence-based practices
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2694098/
Many individuals with mental illnesses are troubled by self-stigma and the subsequent processes that accompany this stigma: low self-esteem and self-efficacy. “Why try” is the overarching phenomenon of interest here, encompassing self-stigma, mediating processes, and their effect on goal-related behavior. In this paper, the literature that explains “why try” is reviewed, with special focus on social psychological models. Self-stigma comprises three steps: awareness of the stereotype, agreement with it, and applying it to one’s self. As a result of these processes, people suffer reduced self-esteem and self-efficacy. People are dissuaded from pursuing the kind of opportunities that are fundamental to achieving life goals because of diminished self-esteem and self-efficacy. People may also avoid accessing and using evidence-based practices that help achieve these goals. The effects of self-stigma and the “why try” effect can be diminished by services that promote consumer empowerment.
Peter Block pursues the big questions in his life. What does that mean? Well, after listening to this episode, you'll know and I'll bet you'll do it, too. Peter has such a way with words that when he chooses them and puts them together, deep, profound wisdom is conveyed. It may be 4 words he speaks, but the truth behind them humans have experienced since the beginning of time. In this episode, he introduces you to perspectives on the free market consumer ideology that will set you free. Does it sound like I'm overpromising? You be the judge. (Hint: I'm not).
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Peter Block is an author, consultant and citizen of Cincinnati, Ohio. His work is about empowerment, stewardship, chosen accountability, and the reconciliation of community.
Peter is the author of several best selling books. The most widely known being Flawless Consulting: A Guide to Getting Your Expertise Used. In addition, he has published Community: The Structure of Belonging, The Abundant Community: Awakening the Power of Families and Neighborhoods, and The Answer to How Is Yes: Acting on What Matters
The books are about ways to create workplaces and communities that work for all. They offer an alternative to the patriarchal beliefs that dominate our culture. His work is to bring change into the world through consent and connectedness rather than through mandate and force.
He is a partner in Designed Learning, a training company that offers workshops designed by Peter to build the skills outlined in his books. He received a Masters Degree in Industrial Administration from Yale University in 1963; he performed his undergraduate work at the University of Kansas.
Peter serves on the Boards of Directors of Cincinnati Classical Public Radio; Elementz, a Hip Hop center for urban youth; and LivePerson, a provider of online engagement solutions. He is on the Advisory Board for the Festival in the Workplace Institute, Bahamas. He is the first Distinguished Consultant-in-Residence at Xavier University. With other volunteers in Cincinnati, Peter began A Small Group, whose work is to create a new community narrative and to bring his work on civic engagement into being.
His latest book is called: An Other Kingdom: Departing the Consumer Culture
In This Interview, Peter Block and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His book, An Other Kingdom: Departing the Consumer Culture
- "I shop, therefore I am"
- The 4 pillars of the free market consumer ideology under which we live: Scarcity, Certainty, Perfection, and Privatisation
- If we believe in scarcity, then it's "I win, You loose" or "You win, I lose"
- The scarcity mindset is a lie
- We are drawn to leaders who give us the feeling of certainty
- "A high control civilization"
- The longing for perfection, or "Is something wrong with me?"
- Privatisation, or the implementation of Scarcity, Certainty, and Perfection
- Privatisation says that you cannot trust the collective
- In order to live the first 3 pillars, it's me vs the government
- Perhaps, rather than happiness, freedom, and meaning are the point
- The importance of having a purpose
- Have we rendered our youth and the elderly purposeless?
- The problem with consumerism is that no matter how much you have, it's never enough
- The creation of modernism
- Neighborliness and Covenant
- His book, The Answer to How is Yes
- That questions bring us together and answers alienate us
- That sadness isn't a problem to be solved, rather, part of being human
- If someone can convince you that something is wrong with you, they have control over you
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Shozan Jack is a fascinating guy. He grew up in a Catholic home, studied philosophy, has been a stand-up comedian and has authored two books and many essays. He's got the gift of striking your funny bone in one sentence and then in the very next sentence, striking the center of your heart and mind in a profound way. In this episode, which is part 2 of a two-part interview, you'll hear him talk about his experience living as a monk inside of a Buddhist monastery, being a monk alongside Leonard Cohen, dealing with a sex scandal at his monastery, and what it has been like to transition into living his life back in the world and the many teachings with great wisdom along the way.
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Shozan Jack Haubner is the pen name of a Zen monk whose essays have appeared in The Sun, Tricycle, Buddhadharma, and the New York Times, as well as in the Best Buddhist Writing series. The winner of a 2012 Pushcart Prize, he is also the author of Zen Confidential: Confessions of a Wayward Monk.
His latest book is called: Single White Monk: Tales of Death, Failure, and Bad Sex (Although Not Necessarily in That Order)
In This Interview, Shozan Jack Haubner and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His new book, Single White Monk: Tales of Death, Failure, and Bad Sex (Although Not Necessarily in That Order)
- How Leonard Cohen spent his time as a Buddhist monk in the monastery
- The union of contrary things
- His take on Leonard Cohen's last album
- The opposite of despair for Leonard Cohen isn't happiness, it's clarity
- The sex scandal involving his teacher
- His experience leaving the monastery
- What's next for him in his life
- His conversation with a Christian priest about fighting demons
- Suffering = pain + resistance
- Letting feelings come and go
- He calls himself the "middle manager of the middle way"
- The middle way involves dissolving the distance between self and other, in complete giving, in either receiving or initiating.
- Also, the middle way is not picking one thing OR another
- The importance of walking your path when it comes to learning
- His experience taking Ayahuasca
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Shozan Jack is a fascinating guy. He grew up in a Catholic home, studied philosophy, has been a stand-up comedian, has authored two books and many essays, was a screenwriter and poet and currently lives as a Zen monk and priest. He's got the gift of striking your funny bone in one sentence and then in the very next sentence, striking the center of your heart and mind in a profound way. In this episode, which is part one of a two-part interview, you'll hear him explain the Buddhist concept of "no-self" in such a way that it finally makes sense, hear how even Zen monks chase success and yes - his experience with an opium high and being given a death sentence (spoiler alert: he's still alive).
Shozan Jack Haubner is the pen name of a Zen monk whose essays have appeared in The Sun, Tricycle, Buddhadharma, and the New York Times, as well as in the Best Buddhist Writing series. The winner of a 2012 Pushcart Prize, he is also the author of Zen Confidential: Confessions of a Wayward Monk.
His latest book is called: Single White Monk: Tales of Death, Failure, and Bad Sex (Although Not Necessarily in That Order)
In This Interview, Shozan Jack Haubner and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His new book, Single White Monk: Tales of Death, Failure, and Bad Sex (Although Not Necessarily in That Order)
- How it's not about good and evil but rather, where do each come from?
- The idea of no self
- Who am I vs. Where am I?
- That the self is not fixed and it's not solid
- The self is porous, co-dependent arising through relationships with our surroundings
- That the worship of success thwarts true fulfillment
- "No attachment to an outcome"
- An opium high and a death sentence
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Tasha Eurich is an organizational psychologist who is passionate about researching self-awareness and translating that research into practical, actionable information to aid in our discovery and improvement of our own self-awareness. In this interview, you'll be introduced to fascinating scientific research about self-awareness and you'll end up being equipped with some very helpful tools to gauge and grow your own. Since research shows that 95% of people think that they're very self-aware but in reality, only 10% actually are, statistically speaking, you're probably going to want to listen to this episode.
Tasha Eurich is a workplace psychologist, speaker, author, and principal of The Eurich Group. She helps organizations succeed by improving the effectiveness of their leaders and teams. She works with executives in Fortune 500 organizations and serves on the faculty of the Center for Creative Leadership. Her articles have appeared in several magazines and journals including Chief Learning Officer Magazine, The Journal of Business Psychology, and The Work Style Magazine. Her first book, Bankable Leadership: Happy People, Bottom-Line Results, and the Power to Deliver Both, was published in 2013.
Her latest book is called: Insight: Why We're Not as Self-Aware as We Think, and How Seeing Ourselves Clearly Helps Us Succeed at Work and in Life
In This Interview, Tasha Eurich and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- Her book, Insight: Why We're Not as Self-Aware as We Think, and How Seeing Ourselves Clearly Helps Us Succeed at Work and in Life
- How self-awareness is the single most important but least examined determinate of success and failure
- The meta-skill of the 21st century
- That it took a year to review 800 studies and subsequently define self-awareness
- How self-awareness is made up of 2 types of knowledge of ourselves: internal self-awareness (how we see ourselves) and external self-awareness (how others see us)
- That 95% of people think that they're very self-aware but the research shows that we're not as self-aware as we think we are - about 10% actually are
- The 7 pillars of self-awareness:
- They understand their values
- They understand their passions
- They understand their aspirations
- They understand their "fit"
- They understand their patterns
- They understand their reactions (momentary reactions to the world, our strengths, and our weaknesses)
- They understand the impact they have on other people
- How to do an audit on the 7 pillars to determine your levels of self-awareness
- That a lot of us actually don't want to know the truth
- Braver but wiser
- 3 blind spots: Knowledge blindness, Emotion blindness, and Behavior blindness
- The cult of self
- Self-absorption vs self-awareness
- How it's easier to feel great about ourselves rather than taking the steps to actually become great
- Pairing self-awareness with self-acceptance
- The role of rumination
- Asking what instead of why
- The role of our past in self-awareness
- A daily check-in
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Eric chats with Anne Bogel of What Should I Read Next? about their favorite episodes on each other podcasts!
Feast on these shows @ www.Wondery.com/Thanksgiving
The One You Feed Binge:
- Good Life Project - Interview with Dani Shapiro
- Hardcore History - Blueprint for Armageddon
- Buddha at the Gap Pump - Culadasa
- On Being - John O’Donohue
- Sound Opinions - Ep 606 The Year That Punk Broke
What Should I Read Next? Binge:
- The Popcast with Knox and Jamie - Ep 212 The Nos of Social Media
- Sorta Awesome with Megan Tietz - Ep 121 Boundaries for the holidays
- The West Wing Weekly - Ep 1 Pilot
- Another Round - Ep 55 #1000BlackGirlBooks
- Note to Self - I Didn't See Your Text
Scott Kiloby is a non-dual teacher who wants to help you and others experience awareness and no self in this lifetime. He helps people recover from addiction and has published a powerful book, the contents of which he discusses In this interview. Specifically, he describes portals to recognizing awareness that you can try immediately. It's a different way of approaching a transformational way of life and you won't want to miss it.
Scott Kiloby is a noted author and international speaker on the subject of freedom through non-dual recognition (authentic spiritual awakening as it is taught in the East).
He is the author of seven books and has traveled the world extensively giving lectures, workshops and intensives on spiritual awakening and the healing of addiction, anxiety, depression and trauma.
Scott is the co-founder of the Kiloby Center for Recovery in Palm Springs California, the first addiction, anxiety, depression, and trauma Intensive Outpatient Program to focus primarily on mindfulness. Scott is also the co-owner of the Natural Rest House, a detox and residential center in La Quinta, California.
His books include Living Realization: A simple, plain English guide to non-duality, Natural Rest for Addiction: A Radical Approach to Recovery Through Mindfulness and Awareness and The Unfindable Inquiry: One Simple Tool to Overcome Feelings of Unworthiness and Find Inner Peace
In This Interview, Scott Kiloby and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His book, Living Realization: A simple, plain English guide to non-duality
- The definition of non-duality
- Non-dual awakening
- That the ego is a suffering mechanism
- The false self
- The possibility of waking up from a separate self mentality
- How we are not our thoughts, we are the thinker of our thoughts
- The necessity of experiencing awareness
- Portals to recognizing awareness
- Let all appearances be as they are
- The power of not resisting what is happening
- Suffering = Pain + Resistance
- Seeing that all appearances are inseparable
- Life as a seamless reality & the thoughts that break things up
- The fact that seeking has resistance in it
- Self-inquiry
- The persistence of trauma, shame, addiction and the core story
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Dr. Eric Maisel is a prolific writer, to say the least. His numerous publications span the human experience and explore how to interact with the various situations that one may encounter. In this interview, he discusses a couple of his books and spends a great deal of time explaining how he thinks depression should be treated vs how it is currently being diagnosed and treated. It's a different way of thinking about this subject and if it's a topic you're interested in, you owe yourself a listen.
This week we talk to Eric Maisel
Eric Maisel, Ph.D., is is the author of more than 40 books. His titles include, Why Smart People Hurt, Making Your Creative Mark, The Van Gogh Blues, Mastering Creative Anxiety, and Creativity for Life
In addition, Dr. Maisel is at the forefront of the movement to rethink mental health. He writes the Rethinking Psychology blog for Psychology Today and among his books in this area are Rethinking Depression and The Future of Mental Health.
His latest book is called Overcoming Your Difficult Family: 8 Skills for Thriving in Any Family Situation.
In This Interview, Eric Maisel and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His book, Overcoming Your Difficult Family: 8 Skills for Thriving in Any Family Situation
- His book, The Future of Mental Health
- The smartness to understand what's going on with your family
- The strength to make the changes that you need to make
- The strength to be calm, or have a difficult conversation
- Having clarity about what's going on
- Awareness of the situation
- The courage to make change because change has consequences
- The skill of presence
- Being resilient - family members, especially siblings, don't go away like other relationships
- Visualizing the "calmness switch" within you
- The importance of learning one anxiety management tool because you will have anxiety in life
- How you name the problem often directs you to the situation
- The importance of language
- The importance of knowing the causes of things regarding your health
- Living intentionally, identifying your life purposes and making meaning in your life
- How thinking that all we are is matter, chemicals etc can lead people to feel less excited about living
- Each person has to make the decision to opt to matter, to decide that you matter and that your decisions matter
- The cultural trance of tv
- www.madinamerica.com
- Stigmatization of mental health
- The three parts of personality: Original Personality, Formed Personality, Available Personality
Maia Szalavitz is an American reporter and author who has focused much of her work on the topic of addiction. In this paradigm-shifting interview, she explains what she means by claiming that addiction is a learning disorder, a developmental disorder. It's a different way of thinking of addiction than it being a disease or a moral failing. As a result, it has different implications for how it should then be treated. Some of what Maia has to say is polarising and some will immediately make intuitive sense and you'll ask yourself why you haven't thought that way before. Take a listen to what she has to say and let us know what you think.
Maia Szalavitz is one of the premier American journalists covering addiction and drugs. She is co-author of Born for Love and The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, both with Dr. Bruce D. Perry. Her book, Help at Any Cost is the first book-length exposé of the “tough love” business that dominates addiction treatment. She writes for TIME.com, VICE, the New York Times, Scientific American Mind, Elle, Psychology Today and Marie Claire among others.
Her latest book is Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction
In This Interview, Maia Szalavitz and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- Her book, Unbroken Brain: Why Addiction is a Learning Disorder and Why it Matters
- That your brain becomes what it does - that the more you repeat an activity, the easier it becomes
- How addiction is a developmental disorder
- That learning is critical to addiction
- The problems with discussion about addiction as a disease
- Arguing that addiction is a disease and then treating it like a moral failing
- How addiction resets your priorities and therefore you'll make very different decisions
- Addiction = compulsive behavior that continues despite negative consequences
- How illogical it is then to try and address addiction by focusing on implementing additional negative consequences
- The complexity of addiction, genes + culture + timing
- The developmental history that gets you to addiction
- How the drug isn't the problem and our efforts to simply get rid of it isn't a helpful solution
- Addiction as a learning disorder that is characterized by a resistance to punishment
- The problem with "rock bottom" is that it can only be identified retrospectively, it's not helpful scientifically, and it implies a moral component of having to reach a point of extreme degradation before you can stop
- What the motivation is that turns people to recovery
- How addicts keep using because they can't see how they can survive any other way and recovery begins when you start to see that there are other options
- That people with addiction are living at a point of learned helplessness, so the role of hope and other ways of managing their life is critical to recovery and it can start before they quit their drug(s) of choice
- Addiction as a coping mechanism
- The pleasures of the hunt vs the pleasures of the feast
- Wanting vs Liking
- Different motivational states
- Addiction as escalating wanting
- Stimulants and an escalating cycle of never being satisfied and chasing that satisfaction
- 12 Step Programs: are they effective? are they useful?
- The role of medicine in a developmental disorder
- Looking at addicts as students who need to learn better coping skills rather than sinners who need to be forced to repent
- That people who are addicted are PEOPLE and we need to treat them that way
Lewis Howes is a lot of things. He's been an athlete, a podcast host, an author. He's worn a lot of masks, you could say. In fact, that's exactly what he says in his new book and in this episode. He talks about how wearing these masks has not served him well in his life. In this interview, you'll hear him talk about the various types of masks men wear to protect themselves from being vulnerable, from showing their true selves. While it might "work" on the outside, it destroys them on the inside and we see the manifestations of it in our society today.
Before Lewis Howes became a media sensation for empowering people and sharing 'Greatness' across the globe, he had his share of obstacles to overcome. From having a learning disability, which led to being alone and bullied in school, to being sexually abused as a child, to being injured and broke on his sister’s couch, Lewis’s story is the perfect example of how anybody can overcome the obstacles in their life and achieve greatness. Fast forward a few short years, and Lewis is a New York Times Bestselling author of the hit book, The School of Greatness and author of his latest book, The Mask of Masculinity. He is a lifestyle entrepreneur, high performance business coach and keynote speaker. A former professional football player and two-sport All-American, he is a current USA Men’s National Handball Team athlete. He hosts a top 100 podcast in the world, The School of Greatness, which has over 40 million downloads since it launched in 2013. He was recognized by The White House and President Obama as one of the top 100 entrepreneurs in the country under 30. Lewis has been featured on Ellen, The New York Times, People, Forbes, Inc, Fast Company, ESPN, Sports Illustrated, Men’s Health, The Today Show and other major media outlets.
In This Interview, Lewis Howes and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- His book, The Masks of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships and Live Their Fullest Lives
- How the masks he used to wear created success on the outside but destroyed him on the inside
- How male violence comes from men who are hurting on the inside
- The know-it-all mask
- The invincible mask
- The joker mask
- The material mask
- The sexual mask
- The athlete mask
- The aggressive mask
- How important it is to live in service and lift others up
- That the comparison game can crush us
- How the real you is underneath all of the masks you wear
- How he works on maintaining his real self on the outside
- That when he lets the mask take over, he's showing weakness because it has power over him
- How he really wants to show up in the world
- How women talk about struggles very often with their female friends but men do not
- How unhealed pain causes pain somewhere else
Poe Ballentine is a great writer. Thank goodness for that because it's through his gift and skill of writing that we get a glimpse into the experiences of his life which reach us at a moving level of beauty, truth, humility, and struggle. In this interview, you'll hear him talk about these things and the gift you'll get as a result is the knowledge and comforting feeling of knowing you are not alone in your struggles through life. You'll learn through hearing what he's learned about self-growth and self-improvement. Give yourself the gift of listening to this episode. You won't be sorry.
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Poe Ballantine is a fiction and nonfiction writer known for his novels and especially his essays, many of which appear in The Sun. One of Ballantine’s short stories was included in Best American Short Stories 1998 and two of his essays have appeared in the Best American Essays series. His essays and short stories have also appeared in the Coal City Review, Kenyon Review, and Atlantic Monthly. Tom Robbins said " Poe Ballantine is the most soulful, insightful, funny, and altogether luminous “under-known” writer in America"
His books include Love and Terror on the Howling Plains of Nowhere, Guidelines for Mountain Lion Safety, 501 Minutes to Christ: Personal Essays and Things I Like About America: Personal Essays
In This Interview, Poe Ballantine and I Discuss...
- The Wolf Parable
- Finding himself or becoming someone else
- The Moral Mechanism of the Molecule
- Asking, in your own experience - rather than simply in ideas, what do you know?
- How he found his way out of despair
- Doing enough work to exonerate yourself
- How important it is as an artist, creator to be hyper-aware of your life and environment
- The price of individualism in America
- How he loves to take care of his wife and son
- How difficult it is to be married
- That marriage is the molecular foundation of our society
- His book - a true crime story, Love and Terror on the Howling Plains of Nowhere
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Poe Ballantine writings from The Sun
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