Unapologetically Sensitive
In this podcast, we explore how sensitivity weaves itself into our lives. We talk about the richness that it adds, and the strengths we have BECAUSE of our sensitivity and some of the challenges it poses as well. If you are a Creative, a deep thinker, a deep feeler, a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), an introvert, or identify as INFJ or ENFJ, you may enjoy the in-depth conversations where we talk openly and honestly about how we experience life. This is a podcast where you can learn, relate, laugh and maybe even live a bolder, brighter life. Have you been told you’re “too” (fill in the blank)? You’re too sensitive; you think/worry too much; you take things too personally; you’re too emotional, too finicky, too fragile, too intense, too uptight, too slow. Have you been told you can’t take a joke; you can’t go with the flow? You can’t let go of things? Making decisions can be very difficult. You might have an acute sense of smell, and strong odors, crowded noisy environments and bright lights are just too much! You notice things that no one else does. You have a strong sense of justice and you may be a peace-keeper. Conflict feels uncomfortable. You’re the one that everyone tells their problems to because you’re a good listener who cares deeply. You’re in the right place! You may have been diagnosed with anxiety, depression, ADHD or something else. Sometimes Highly Sensitive People are misdiagnosed. Our brains are wired differently. We are born with the trait of High Sensitivity. There’s nothing wrong with you! You will learn that your perceived weaknesses are really are your superpowers! Dr. Elaine Aron coined the term Highly Sensitive Person (also known as Sensory Processing Sensitivity).
TITLE
The Challenges and Strengths of Sensitive Strivers in the Workplace
GUEST
Melody Wilding, LMSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Melody was named one of Business Insider’s “Most Innovative Coaches” for her work on “Sensitive Strivers.” Melody defines Sensitive Striver, and she talks about common challenges sensitive strivers face in the workplace. She talks about imposter syndrome, and ways to work with your inner critic. Melody gives strategies for speaking up and using your voice as well as tips to better manage stress when working from home.
GUEST
Melody Wilding, LMSW is the Workplace Success Coach for smart, sensitive high-achievers who are tired of getting in their own way. Named one of Business Insider’s “Most Innovative Coaches” for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”, her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, HP, Facebook, Netflix, Twitter, IBM, Citibank, JP Morgan, and others. She’s here to help you break free from self-doubt and imposter syndrome so you can use your sensitivity as the superpower that it is. Melody is a licensed social worker with a Masters degree from Columbia University, and a former researcher at Rutgers University. She teaches Human Behavior at Hunter College and is a columnist for magazines such as Forbes, Business Insider, and Quartz. Her first book, TRUST YOURSELF: STOP OVERTHINKING AND CHANNEL YOUR EMOTIONS INTO SUCCESS AT WORK is available for pre-order now.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Melody’s links
Website-- https://melodywilding.com/
Stop Overthinking--https://amzn.to/2UUoUDZ
Melody’s Facebook Community-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/thehavencommunity/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Unapologetically Sensitive Merchandise-- https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/merchandise/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
This feels so awkward; my vulnerability softens my husband and improves communication
GUEST
Anni Furniss
EPISODE OVERVIEW
This is an honest and vulnerable chat. Anni talks about feeling awkward, and how her vulnerability makes communication with her husband easier. She talks about expectations around friendships, and the challenges and corresponding strengths she finds being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Anni talks about feeling overwhelmed when she has tasks to accomplish and how the interplay with her ADHD. We talk about people’s perceptions when you have a partner who has a disability.
GUEST
Anni Furniss is a visual artist and an HSP. She thrives on finding new ways to navigate the world by adapting. She also has a physical degenerative disability, ADD and anxiety so has a plethora of physical and neuro diversity. For over 20 years she has used art as a healing outlet and art is also her full-time job. She had a hard time working in conventional jobs, so she made her own. Her husband is totally blind and is a woodworker. We run our business together and make a great team. We live in the Pacific Northwest and have a fur kid named Pickle.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Anni’s Links
Website-- https://www.furnissstudios.com/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/annifurnissart/
TikTok--https://www.tiktok.com/@anni.the.artist
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/annifurniss
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Unapologetically Sensitive Merchandise-- https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/merchandise/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
I wanted to understand my wife, who is a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
GUEST
Pete Childs
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Pete talks about wondering if he is a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Taking the Online HSP Course helped Pete change how he looks at his interactions with his wife, who is a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Pete learned to understand more about what his wife (and Highly Sensitive Child) need. He learned more about self-care, being gentle with himself, as well as being able to be with like-minded people and building connections. Tune in to see if Pete considers himself to be a Highly Sensitive Person.
GUEST
Pete Childs is a Museum Professional, Musician and Artist.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Unapologetically Sensitive Merchandise-- https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/merchandise/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—shellyaaronproductions@gmail.com
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
The Power of Attachment Styles and the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
GUEST
Jessica Fern, MS
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Jessica Fern explains why attachment is important; what fosters a secure attachment; what creates an insecure attachment; the 4 types of attachment systems, and she has an insight about the Highly Sensitive Person and attachment. We talk about how attachment injuries show up in relationships, and that ruptures and misattunement aren’t always bad. Jessica talks about what to do if we’re experiencing an attachment injury, and we want to regulate and experience a secure attachment.
HIGHLIGHTS
- What is attachment
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- Attachment theory John Bowlby
- We’re wired to expect connection
- We have a biological need for attunement.
- It’s a primary survival response—emotional bonding
- Why is attachment important
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- It’s our blueprint for life
- It dictates our sense of self-esteem
- We learn that people are safe, we can trust and that we are cared for
- What fosters a secure attachment
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- In childhood, children need a safe haven and a safe base
- Caretakers/parents receive you
- You have a safe place to turn to
- You and your needs are responded to
- ARE—Available, Responsive, Emotionally Engaged
- What types of things create insecure attachment
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- Neglect, abuse, emotional neglect, childhood emotional abuse, having parents who are emotionally immature
- Inconsistency in responding to your needs
- Codependency on the parent’s part—role reversal
- Over focus on independence
- 4 types of attachments:
- Secure
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- You still will have insecurities
- Can communicate your needs
- Respect your self and and your partner’s needs
- Can set boundaries
- Don’t worry about getting too close or being engulfed or abandoned
- Avoidant/Dismissive
- Withdrawn
- Keep people at arm’s length
- Don’t have needs
- Very independent
- Minimizing other’s needs
- Aloof, uncaring
- Can be related to Narcisstic Personality Disorder
- Ambivalent (Anxious)/Preoccupied
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- Hyperactivating
- Focus on the partner
- Concerned about being left
- “clingy,” “needy,” “too much”
- Tuned into relational needs
- Miss red flags
- Don’t trust love when they receive it
- Can be related to Borderline Personality Disorder
- Disorganized/Fearful/Withdrawn
- Due to overt trauma
- Push/pull
- Come here/go away
- Insights about the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) and attachment
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- Highly Sensitive Children (HSCs) and parents have mismatched nervous systems
- Can create a disorganized/fearful/avoidant attachment
- HSPs tend to internalize
- How do attachment injuries show up in relationships?
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- Problems with intimacy
- Ruptures in relationships
- Missatunements
- Mistrust
- Conflict/avoidance of conflict
- If we’re experiencing an attachment injury, what are things we can do to get that feeling of security
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- Lean in/lean back
- Imagine your partner either extending to you, or you taking your energy back
- Body scan for a relaxation
- Imagine the people who love and support you around you in a peaceful place you imagine
- Repeat, “In this moment, I am safe.”
- Imagine your inner protector/outer protector
GUEST
Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Jessical’s Links
Website-- https://www.jessicafern.com/
Diane Poole-Heller-- https://dianepooleheller.com/
Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Unapologetically Sensitive Merchandise-- https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/merchandise/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—Shellyaaronproductions@gmail.com
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Coming to a Place of Peace Being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
GUEST
Heather Bollman, MSN, RN
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Heather did not like being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). She struggled with accepting the trait. She also felt challenged being a Highly Sensitive Person and working as a nurse. Heather talks about learning to accept how she’s wired, and developing an understanding of the trait, and being able to verbalize to others about being a Highly Sensitive Person.
GUEST
Heather Bollman, MSN, RN, is someone who is still learning who she is. She’s an RN who holds a master’s degree, and she’s been practicing for almost 16 years. She’s an introvert, an HSP, and an empath.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Unapologetically Sensitive Merchandise-- https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/merchandise/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—Shellyaaronproductions@gmail.com
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
A Sensitive Man Who Embraces and Loves his Sensitivity.
GUEST
Andy Smallman
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Andy talks about being called a woman/man when he was a teacher, and having a girlfriend break up with him because he wasn’t “tough enough.” His personal stories embody vulnerability that most can relate to, and they show his remarkable resilience. Andy is passionate about helping boys maintain their sensitivity. He and his wife founded a school based on social and emotional learning, and he now offers online classes internationally for kids to learn to see awe and wonder, and to focus on kindness.
GUEST
For over 25 years, Andy Smallman has been promoting ordinary activities that awaken kindness, helping people connect to their true nature and increase peace in the world. With our shelter-in-place rules, he has been helping people feel less isolated by offering opportunities to connect with others via video chat. Andy is also a visionary educator, being the founding director of the Puget Sound Community School. Andy has brought his pioneering work in SEL (Social & Emotional Learning) online, offering children from all over the world a chance to connect to others.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Andy’s Links
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Unapologetically Sensitive Merchandise-- https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/merchandise/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—shellyaaronproductions@gmail.com
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
We (HSPs) are not too much
GUEST
Susan Kraker
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Susan is a therapist who specializes in relationships, and she works with the Highly Sensitive Person. She decided to take the Online HSP Course because she didn’t have many friends who were also Highly Sensitive. We had a rupture during one of the groups, and we talk about this. Susan has some astute observations. We both talk about some common wounds we both have, and the conversation goes deep and is very vulnerable.
GUEST
Susan Kraker is a therapist who specializes in relationships, mid-life dating and HSP courtship.
Education: New York University (NYU), Gallaudet University and the Doctoral Program in Counseling Psychology at University of Southern California (USC). Susan is originally from NY but currently resides with her husband, Pi, and two munchkin cats in Los Angeles.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
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Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Unapologetically Sensitive Merchandise-- https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/merchandise/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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TITLE
Leadership Skills that are innate traits for the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
GUEST
Dr. Catherine Zeisner
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Dr. Catherine Zeisner describes what she calls competencies of good leadership. We talk about thriving, resiliency, authenticity, self-advocacy and the value of sharing one’s feelings. We relate these competencies back to how the Highly Sensitive Person is innately wired, and how these skills show up in relationships with our partner, co-workers, friendships, families and in parenting in addition to leadership roles.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Empathic
- Good listener
- Humble
- Believe in the team/trust
- Lead by example
- Motivate
- Adaptable/flexible
- Compassionate
- Decisive
- Consistent
- Problem solver
- No bias
- Positive
- Kind
- Are a learner/genuinely curious
- Respectful
- Inclusive
- Resourceful
- Passionate
- Service oriented
3 components for resiliency
- Physical
- Have a confidante (someone who sees you, gets you, and that you trust)
- Patricia’s add on: you can have all the feels, and we can hold the tension between feelings like anger, frustration, disappointment, and what we can control, and what we’re grateful for
- It’s not an either/or, it’s a both/and
- Positive Disposition
GUEST
Dr. Catherine Zeisner is a proud Canadian scholar practitioner who believes the best in education is right around the corner. As an assistant professor at Gonzaga University in Spokane, Washington, Catherine teaches graduate students, is a published scholar and teaching award winner.
Catherine believes all students can learn and all teachers can thrive in our diverse educational settings. Catherine knows relationships are the key to school success by bridging the gaps between what’s needed and what’s possible. “Anything is possible if you have the right people in the right room at the right time, focusing on the right things.”
Dr. Zeisner has a very simple message for educators around the world…PUSH UP! Behaviours that respectfully challenges the status quo, engages a wide community, and gets others to think differently. The kind of difference that provides success for students’ tomorrow, today!
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Dr. Zeisner’s Links:
Twitter @principalzed
Tiktok @DrZeisner
Youtube Catherine Zeisner
The Remind App
Patricia’s Links:
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TITLE
Boundaries, Consent and Creating Safety with Touch. A Conversation with a Certified Cuddle Therapist
GUEST
Keeley Shoup
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We underestimate the healing properties of touch, and the limitations of talk therapy. Keeley talks about the professional training to be a cuddle therapist. She rocks at communication, and setting clear expectations. We talk about awkward situations and how Keeley creates safety for her clients. Keeley provides 2 exercises where we can use touch with ourselves or our partners to stimulate our touch receptors and the release of oxytocin.
HIGHLIGHTS
Exercise for touch with a partner
- set a timer for 3 minutes
- low risk
- very specific
- specify where the touch will be
Exercise for touch if you’re alone
- make an appointment with yourself
- set a timer for a specific amount of time (3-5 minutes)
- the visual representation of touch stimulates touch receptors, which trick the body into activating mirror neurons
- find a video on YouTube that shows healthy touch
Ways to experience self-love:
- learn your love language and give yourself gifts in your love language
- give yourself the gift of time
- how can you give yourself what you’d like to receive?
- Read a book
- Listen to calming music
GUEST
Keeley Shoup is a certified Cuddle Therapist based in Chicago. She is also a certified Cuddle Party facilitator and a boundaries and consent educator.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Keeley’s Links
Website—www.chicagocuddletherapy.com
Instagram—www.instagram.com/cuddlekeeley
Tik Tok--@chicagocuddletherapy
Cuddling programs:
Resources on healing touch— https://bettymartin.org/
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Unapologetically Sensitive Merchandise-- https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/merchandise/
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TITLE
Should We Call Sensitivity a Superpower?
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
If the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) is neutral, is it incorrect to call being an HSP or sensitivity a superpower? This is something I’ve been thinking about for some time. Dr. Elaine Aron, who coined the trait Highly Sensitive Person, and has written extensively about HSPs, sees the trait as neutral—not positive or negative. Is it a disservice to claim that we have superpowers?
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
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HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
The Rebellious Widow: A Practical Guide to Love and Life After Loss
GUEST
Jill Johnson-Young, LCSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Jill talks about the impetus for writing her newest book, "The Rebellious Widow: Reclaiming Life and Love after Loss," which came from the blogs she wrote through the deaths of both of her wives. Jill’s book is a guide to successfully navigate and grow through terminal illness, death, and recovery from being widowed. She wants readers to use it to be prepared for what's coming, from a "boots on the ground" organizing and business that has to get done, to setting boundaries so their process is their own, and it’s not driven by the Widow Rules.
HIGHLIGHTS
Jill really talks about how to cope with the resistance widows meet when they decide how they want to do their own grief, from the comments they hear to challenges about their decisions, as well as just how to manage all the people who want to say something helpful but end up hurting the grieving person. Jill also covers who will benefit from the book- people facing chronic illness with a partner that could become terminal, couples preparing for entering hospice or on hospice, new widows, and the families and friends who want to support or understand them, and therapists who might need a guide for doing effective grief work. Jill also suggests that Widow’s Groups would be able to use her book and the worksheets and exercises available online through the book's own website.
GUEST BIO
Jill Johnson-Young, LCSW, is an author, CEO, and therapist specializing in end of life and chronic illness, grief and loss, and dementia, and provides Critical Incident Stress Debriefing when a death occurs in a workplace. As CEO of Central Counseling Services in Riverside and Murrieta, California, she and her business partner created a space for healing that is safe for those who have experienced loss & trauma, and makes it possible for clients to grow and heal. She is a certified by the Grief Recovery Institute, and has created a training and certification for providing grief groups based on her “Finish, Reorganize and Reenter” process, with a full solution focused and secular curriculum for groups and retreats. Jill spent more than a decade with hospice as a medical social worker, and director of social workers, chaplains and grief staff for a large hospice covering more than 3,000 square miles. Jill was part of making her community dementia friendly as a Purple City, and facilitates a dementia support group that is now online and open to all.
As a clinician Jill works with clients and families facing dementia, end of life, chronic illness, grief and loss of all kinds, and geriatric and aging issues. She also coaches those who have had a very recent loss in how to manage the immediate aftermath of a death, and therapists in helping grieving and dementia clients. She loves speaking about those areas on the national level. Her sense of humor fosters better learning. Her goal is to make therapists better at recognizing grief and dementia and knowing how to help clients effectively and with all the areas of life they impact. Jill came to her chosen areas of expertise through her extensive hospice experience and became a subject expert on grief after being widowed twice and marrying the funeral director who took care of both her late wives. Her second wife died as a result of Lewy Body Dementia.
She is a member of the National Association of Social Workers (NASW), and the American Association for Therapeutic Humor (AATH).
Jill has a website with resources for therapists and anyone interested in learning more about grief and dementia, www.jilljohnson-young.com, and one for grievers, www.yourpaththroughgrief.com. She also co-hosts a weekly grief chat with Debra Joy Hart, “Humor, Grace and Grief” on Facebook Live. Her book “The Rebellious Widow: A practical guide to love and life after loss” will be out in March, 2021 in bookstores, online and in ebook format.
She now spends quiet evenings with Stacie in the mortuary several nights a week. They share their life with three adult daughters, two grandsons, and a small herd of Oodles, who normally go to work and presentations with her. In the current pandemic they help out at home.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and she works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Jill’s Links
Website-- www.jilljohnsonyoung.com
Website--www.centralcounselingservices.net
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/grieftalker/
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Riversidedementiasupport/
Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/jilljohnsonyounglcsw/
LinkedIn--https://www.linkedin.com/in/jilljohnsonyoung/.
My pet is sick: It’s time to say goodbye by Jill Johnson-Young
Someone is sick: How do I say Goodbye? By Jill Johnson-Young
Someone I love just died: What happens now? By Jill Johnson-Young
Your own path through grief; A workbook for your journey to recovery by Jill Johnson-Young
Amazon link for Jill’s books-- https://www.amazon.com/Jill-A.-Johnson-Young-LCSW/e/B07NPT5NYQ%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share
Episode 47: 20+ ways to manage change and loss through the holidays with Jill Johnson-Young https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-47/
Episode 78 When Your Fur Person Dies with Jill Johnson-Young-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-78/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Unapologetically Sensitive Merchandise-- https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/merchandise/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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TITLE
How to Manage Your Anxiety in a Holistic, Loving Way
GUEST
Victoria Albina
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Victoria defines anxiety, and we talk about social and anticipatory anxiety—especially as they are related to the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Victoria talks about de-armoring, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and codependency. Victoria gives an abundance of things we can do to ground ourselves, and we explore common reactions when someone says, “We need to talk.” Victoria ends with talking about polyvagal theory.
HIGHLIGHTS
- If beating yourself worked; it would have worked by now
- What is anxiety?
-
- Increased heart rate
- Body is revved up
- Everything is heightened
- Everything is more intense
- Anxiety
-
- Social
-
- What will others think?
- What if I don’t do good enough?
- Anticipatory
- Perfectionism
-
- The pressure to meet impossible standards
- People pleasing
- Codependency
- Ways to get back into one’s body
-
- Hugging yourself
- Warm tea
- Remind ourselves we are safe
- Think of a loving person (grandparent, teacher)
- Connect with a pet
- Connect with mother nature
- Ways to get grounded
-
- When you feel panic and your flooded
- Slow the world down
- Orienting
- Explore your clothing
- Have a hot cup of tea
- Warm shower or bath
- Use lavender (roller, essential oils)
- Do something that requires fine motor skills
-
- Use your thumb to touch each finger and go back and forth and count
- Use a weighted blanket
- Use a soft cozy blanket
- Gentle movement
- Stroll
- Shaking (start with one hand and see how it feels)
- If you’re stuck in Dorsal (sympathetic)
-
- Ice
- Cold
- Cold water on your wrist
- Cold water on the inside of your elbow (opposite to elbow)
- Orient to the environment
- Task-oriented
-
- Look at the environment
- Count colors or shapes
- Brisk walk
- Shaking (try it on one hand first to see how it works with your system)
- Polyvagal Theory
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- Sympathetic fight/flight
- Vagus nerve
- Parasympathetic
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- Ventral (the front)
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- Safe
- Seek social connection
- Dorsal (back)
-
- Barricaded
GUEST
Victoria Albina (she/her) is a Certified Life Coach and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping women realize that they are their own best healers, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy.
She is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, has a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Victoria has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives on occupied Lenape territory in New York’s Hudson valley.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Victoria’s Links
- Website—https://victoriaalbina.com/
- Instagram: @victoriaalbinawellness
- Podcast: Feminist Wellness
- Facebook—https://facebook.com/victoriaalbinawellness
- LinkedIn—https://linkedin.com/in/victoriaalbina/
Free Guided Experience-- https://victoriaalbina.com/
Deb Dana book—Polyvagal Theory in Therapy https://www.amazon.com/Polyvagal-Theory-Therapy-Interpersonal-Neurobiology/dp/0393712370
Deb Dana Website--https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/
Stephen Porges--https://www.stephenporges.com/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
To purchase podcast/logo merchandise— https://patriciayounglcsw.com/store/
Coupon Code good through January 31, 2021: HSP0121
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TITLE
Everything is Love; I Love Myself
GUEST
Sarah Buino, LCSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
In a culture that values and rewards productivity, it can be challenging for the Highly Sensitive Person, who thrives at being vs. doing. Sarah talks about coming to fully love herself. We talk about trauma training, boundaries, developmental trauma. We talk about the gifts and challenges of living during COVID. Sarah talks about her Kundalini Awakening, and we talk about the spiritual bypass.
GUEST
Sarah Buino, LCSW, CADC, RDDP, CDWF is a therapist, teacher, speaker, and podcaster. She is a NARM Therapist and Certified Daring Way Facilitator, teaches at Loyola University, and hosts two podcasts: Conversations with a Wounded Healer and Transforming Trauma.
She owns a group psychotherapy practice in Chicago.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us.
LINKS
Sarah’s Links
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/HeadHeartTherapy
Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/headhearttherapy
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/WoundedHealr
Twitter--https://twitter.com/HeadHeart_Chi
Twitter--https://twitter.com/WoundedHealr
LinkedIn--https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarahbuino/
Website-- www.headhearttherapy.com
James Masterson Roru/Woru— https://www.contemporarypsychotherapy.org/volume-4-issue-2-winter-2012/living-between-rewarding-and-withdrawing-paradigms-of-experience/
The Nap Ministry-- https://thenapministry.wordpress.com/
Living between rewarding and withdrawing paradigms-- https://www.contemporarypsychotherapy.org/volume-4-issue-2-winter-2012/living-between-rewarding-and-withdrawing-paradigms-of-experience/
NARM—Neuro-Affective Relational Model https://narmtraining.com/what-is-narm/
Sarah Buino Episode 50: Boundaries—I want to be the one to stop it here-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-50/
Episode 100—Sarah Buino interviews Patricia Young--
https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-100-sarah-buino-interviews-patricia-young/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
10 Strategies for Managing When You’re Feeling Down
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Many of us are struggling with mood and high levels of ongoing stress. I give 10 tangible strategies for coping when we’re struggling. I also share about the challenges I experienced over the holidays and wondering if maybe I have SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). As a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), our high levels of emotional responsiveness and empathy can make it challenging to know if we’re depressed, having a trauma response, or just having big feels.
10 STRATEGIES FOR COPING
- Talk to at least 1 other person about how you’re doing
- Decide where your wiggle room is, and when you should be concerned
- Showering, brushing teeth, flossing teeth, taking medication/supplements, getting dressed, not going out, shaving,
- Basic self-care if possible
- Keeping busy
- Withdrawing
- Withholding
- Observing your patterns
- Reading, watching a movie, a special meal, an activity, bath, baking,
- What would bring you pleasure (guilt-free)
- Something about keeping a little momentum
- Responding to e-mail, texts, phone calls, appointments
- Sometimes we get gifts and blessings when we stay open
- Something about keeping a little momentum
- Do one small thing
- Kindness and self-compassion as you can manage
- Try to get outside for at least 10 minutes (if possible)
- Start tracking mood and noticing trends—this can be very reassuring
- Feelings are energy and it gets trapped
- Talk about your resistance, anger, frustration, sadness, disappointment
- Acknowledge 3 things you did each day
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Sarah Buino, LCSW, CADC, RDDP, CDWF Interviews Patricia
GUEST
Sarah Buino
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Sarah Buino interviews me—these are from her show notes--One of my greatest joys in life is connecting with a fellow outcast and truth-teller. All the better if said person comes equipped with a badass nickname like Mad Lady-Balls. Patricia Young, LCSW, the person behind the stern, brass-plated moniker is everything you’d expect her to be: hilarious, whip-smart, and dishy. She’s also unapologetically sensitive, a trait she’s built into both a successful career and a popular podcast.
SARAH’S SHOW NOTES FROM HER PODCAST CONVERSATIONS WITH A WOUNDED HEALER
“I wish somebody would have told that to me: it’s okay to struggle. We’re supposed to struggle; we’re humans. We’re complicated; we’re messy.” ~Patricia Young
Highly sensitive. If you’ve ever had that phrase leveled against you, then you know the sting of those words. You’re also acquainted with the shame-spiral that accompanies all that over-thinking and over-feeling. But it’s precisely these traits, the intensity and the emotionality, that Patricia says any highly sensitive person (or HSP) should reclaim and celebrate. They’re the qualities that make HSPs gifted healers, or align them with social justice issues. Still, it’s not always an easy go.
“We have so many strengths,” Patricia says of her fellow HSPs, “and our culture doesn’t really value sensitivity.” Her podcast, Unapologetically Sensitive, however, gives HSPs the space to come as they are: too intense; too dramatic; too anxious; too somber. Patricia gifts HSPs with the tools to fashion those tired pejoratives into enviable superpowers.
I could talk to Patricia for hours; she extends the same authenticity on display in her podcast to this show. She does the same in her therapy and coaching practice. “It doesn’t matter if we’re therapists or not. We’re still human beings that have human struggles on a daily basis. And I really want to pull the curtain back on that because we’re just humans.”
I love this so much, not least of all because she follows that sentiment up with THIS gem: “The healers that don’t look at their own wounding scare the f@!#ng sh!t out of me.” Same, girl. Same.
PODCAST INTERVIEWER
Sarah Buino, LCSW, CADC, RDDP, CDWF is a therapist, teacher, speaker, and podcaster. She is a NARM Therapist and Certified Daring Way Facilitator, teaches at Loyola University, and hosts two podcasts: Conversations with a Wounded Healer and Transforming Trauma.
She owns a group psychotherapy practice in Chicago.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Sarah’s Links
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/HeadHeartTherapy
Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/headhearttherapy
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/WoundedHealr
Twitter--https://twitter.com/HeadHeart_Chi
Twitter--https://twitter.com/WoundedHealr
LinkedIn--https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarahbuino/
Website-- www.headhearttherapy.com
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
December 2020 Holiday/End of Year Groups--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/holiday-groups/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
A Highly Sensitive Person and Introvert, Heidi Tamm, Talks About Her Experience Taking the Online HSP Course
GUESTS
Heidi Tamm
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Heidi talks about these questions—How did you feel about the cost? Was it worth it? How was it having an online experience? Did you feel connected to the other members of the group? How was it being an introvert in the group? Did you feel seen, heard, and honored? Did the Course meet your expectations? How was it being with 6 other HSPs? Did you feel the group was a safe place to share? What if you’re not sure you’re an HSP?
BIO
Heidi Tamm was born and raised in the Pacific Northwest. She is a stay at home mom to a beautiful girl and three loving pups. She enjoys going on adventures, watching football, and cooking.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Crystal Paul Therapist–https://www.crystalpaulcounseling.com/
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
December 2020 Holiday/End of Year Groups--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/holiday-groups/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
No One Ever Asked Me: “What Do I Need?”
GUEST
Rachel Glick
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Rachel learned she was a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) when she searched online for Why do I cry when I listen to music? Rachel talks about embracing her traits as an HSP after taking the Online HSP Course, and how it has changed how she parents her Highly Sensitive Child, and how she is forming deep connections with others. Rachel has learned how to check in with herself to see what she is needing.
GUEST
Rachel Glick wants to live in world where movie quotes are mentioned daily, WERQ (hip hop dance class) meets whenever she wants, and she can read books for four hours in the middle of the day.
She has known she’s an HSP for a long time but hadn’t fully tapped into it as a superpower. She recently started honoring it more in her daughter and decided she needed to do the same for herself.
Rachel works part-time as a nurse practitioner. She is taking teaching virtual school while her husband works from home one day at a time.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
To purchase podcast/logo merchandise— https://patriciayounglcsw.com/store/
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Shelly Aaron Productions—https://www.shellyaaron.com/
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
If You Can’t See, Imagine with John, the Blind Woodsman
GUEST
John Furniss
EPISODE OVERVIEW
John is an amazing woodworker who is totally blind. He also has a cooking segment on Tik Tok called Cooking with the Lights Out. John and his wife Anni, are both talented artists. John talks about how he lost his vision, and how he uses his strengths to create amazing pieces of woodwork. He explains some of the ways he navigates in a sighted world, as well as some dos and don’ts for people who want to help someone who is blind. This was a delightful interview.
GUEST
John Furniss is a woodworker, and is totally blind. The blueprints for any of his projects start forming as a picture held in his mind. Because he has previously had vision, it allows him to visualize the design and change it any way he needs until it feels right. In his own way, he still uses sight by forming a physical object that originated from an imagined diagram. The journey in his own woodshop has mirrored his journey through blindness. Each project has brought its own challenge, much like navigating the landscape of a sighted world without sight. He lives in the Pacific Northwest with his wife Anni and his "fur kid" Pickle.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
John’s Links:
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/theblindwoodsman/
Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@theblindwoodsman
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/John-Furniss-The-Blind-Woodsman-294841723977452/
Patricia’s Links:
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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December 2020 Holiday/End of Year Groups--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/holiday-groups/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
How Myers-Briggs Personality Type Can Be Used To Improve Relationships And Parenting
GUEST
Sandra Etherington
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Sandra uses personality type to help you change the way you see your family and relationships. We talk about the most common personality types for the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and Sandra describes the traits she sees most commonly in HSPs. We talk about the difference between thinkers and feelers, and she gives examples of how knowing your personality type can help in your relationships with others.
GUEST BIO
Sandra is a mom of a 5 year old and a 7 year old. She is the owner of Family Personalities and the co-host of the Family Personalities Podcast, a fun and sometimes cheesy podcast, that uses personality type to help change the way you see your family. With a background in Mathematics, Sandra uses her talent for analysis and data, combined with her training and passion for Myers-Briggs personality type, to help families work together more effectively to raise their uniquely wired children to be the best versions of themselves that they can be.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us.
LINKS
Sandra’s links
Website--www.familypersonalities.com
Podcast--www.familypersonalities.com/podcast
Instagram--www.instagram.com/familypersonalities
Facebook--www.facebook.com/fampersonalities
Episode 44: The Traits of Being a Highly Sensitive Person with Jaquelyn Strickland https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-44/
Introversion, Extroversion and The Highly Sensitive Person--https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
Patricia’s links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
December 2020 Holiday/End of Year Groups--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/holiday-groups/
Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—https://www.shellyaaron.com/
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
A Highly Sensitive Therapist talks about Feeling Invisible, & How She Views Her Anxiety After Learning She Was An HSP
GUEST
Kitty McCormick, LCSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Kitty is a childhood friend who is now a therapist. We talk about the anxieties we both felt as children, but never discussed. Kitty’s father was a prominent public figure, and she was pushed into acting/auditioning as a child to help with her shyness. She also talks about some of the barriers she experienced with non-Highly Sensitive Therapists, and her desire to please. Kitty also talks about the challenges she experienced in groups (including therapy groups) being an introvert until she took the Online HSP Course.
BIO
Kitty McCormick is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Los Angeles, who has avidly worked with children and families for over 20 years. She received her Masters in Social Work from the University of Southern California, with a concentration in mental health practice with individuals, families, and groups. She has extensive experience in the Los Angeles Unified School District where she worked with at-risk children, adolescents, and young adults. In that setting, she also regularly collaborated with Child Protective Services, the County of Los Angeles Probation Department (Juvenile Services), and numerous community service agencies throughout L.A. County to assist and support clients as needed. In 2017, Kitty shifted from doing social work in public school settings to doing psychotherapy in therapeutic schools with children who have greater emotional needs. It was at that point in her career where she began private practice in the community mental health arena, which offers affordable counseling services. This year she began her own private practice. Some of Kitty’s hobbies include yoga, weekend getaways, walking in nature, being around animals, and spending quality time with her husband.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Kitty’s Links
Website-- kittymccormicktherapy.com
e-mail-- kmccormick@kittymccormicktherapy.com.
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
December 2020 Holiday/End of Year Groups--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/holiday-groups/
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Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—https://www.shellyaaron.com/
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Struggling on Thanksgiving—Boundaries and More. Sigh
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
I’m needing to set some boundaries, and I’m having the eternal struggle of many Highly Sensitive People (HSPs)—I know what I need to do, but I’m the only one who sees the problems, the risks and I feel alone in this. I’m realizing that it would be easier if everyone agreed with me, but my growth has to be about ME feeling ok with boundaries I need to set, even if no one else understands. I can share my thoughts and wishes, but it’s got to be up to me to reassure myself that I can trust what I need.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
December 2020 Holiday/End of Year Groups--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/holiday-groups/
Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
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Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—https://www.shellyaaron.com/
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
You Have Everything Inside You; This Is How To Tune In
GUEST
Megan Wurst
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Megan talks about how healing it was to hear other Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) relate to things that she experienced, and to hear other HSPs verbalize things she felt, but hadn’t named. Megan wanted a rulebook to learn how to manage the traits of being Highly Sensitive, but instead, she got a user’s manual, which helped her learn about herself and what she needs, and what she’s thinking and feeling. Megan talks about how she has embraced her traits, and has found her people, who also honor her.
GUEST BIO
Megan Wurst works in early childhood education and specializes in helping parents and childcare providers support infant and toddler development. She is currently working on a graduate certificate in Infant Toddler Mental Health. Megan learned about the term Highly Sensitive Person while studying neurodiversity and immediately recognized herself which led to a quest for more information and the discovery of the Unapologetically Sensitive podcast. She took the 10 week class last year.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Episode 53: A Highly Sensitive Person and introvert, Heidi Tamm, talks about her experience taking the online HSP Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-53/
Episode 49: After learning she was an HSP from her therapist, Ranielle talks about what she got from the Online HSP group that she couldn’t get from therapy--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-49/
Episode 56: A Highly Sensitive Therapist talks about Feeling Invisible, & How She Views Her Anxiety After Learning She’s An HSP, Kitty McCormick-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-56/
Episode 86: It Was Hard Being Sensitive; But It’s Not Hard Now, Kelsey Cochrane--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-86/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
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Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—https://www.shellyaaron.com/
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Holiday/End of Year Support & Education Groups
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Are you longing for a sense of connection with others who share many similar strengths and struggles? Do you want a safe, supportive and nurturing space to hang out and talk about how to navigate the holidays and the end of the year with more ease? Have you been thinking about taking the Online HSP Course, but wondering what it might be like? These groups are $25 for 70 minutes, and limited to 8 participants. I’ll talk briefly about the topic; how it impacts the Highly Sensitive Person.
ADDITIONAL DETAILS
Who can take the group? Anyone who is a deep feeler, deep thinker, and is very empathic
What happens in the group? We will do brief introductions. I’ll talk briefly about the topic; how it impacts the Highly Sensitive Person, and we’ll open it up to questions and discussion.
Do I have to participate? Of course not! You are free to observe; you can turn your camera off; you can eat, you can take a break. This is YOUR group. Many HSPs prefer to observe. There is no pressure or expectation that you do ANYTHING!
General Guidelines for the Group This is a safe, supportive group. Unless someone asks for advice, we ask that you listen to each participant. If someone asks for feedback, you are welcome to give it.
$25 for each 70 minute group
You can join one group or as many as you’d like
Groups are limited to 8 people
RSVPs/payment must be made at least 24 hours ahead of time
Once I receive notification of your purchase, I will send out a Zoom link
Here are the links for the days and times for the Groups
Monday— 1 -2:10 pm PST
11/30 Boundaries—time, gift giving, activities
https://www.ebay.com/itm/393023557137
12/14 Mindfulness & Self Compassion—honoring limitations, noticing what activates us
https://www.ebay.com/itm/393023574351
Tuesday—12-1:10 pm PST
12/15 Expectations & Disappointments—anticipating and managing
https://www.ebay.com/itm/393023581397
Wednesday—5-6:10 pm PST
12/2 Perfectionism—setting realistic expectations for the season
https://www.ebay.com/itm/393023596481
12/9 Creating more options—applying both/and for more flexibility and possibilities
https://www.ebay.com/itm/393023601565
12/16 Self-Care—Handbook (external) vs. User’s Manual (internal)
https://www.ebay.com/itm/393023603175
Thursday—10-11:10 am PST
12/10
Compassion—finding the balance between giving and receiving
https://www.ebay.com/itm/393023609134
Thursday—4-5:10 pm PST
12/10 Perfectionism—Not being robbed of joy—Done is better than perfect
https://www.ebay.com/itm/393023611828
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
December 2020 Holiday/End of Year Groups--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/holiday-groups/
Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
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Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—https://www.shellyaaron.com/
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
I Don’t Have Time For a Breakdown; I Don’t Need Help. I Can Do It Myself
GUEST
Bianca Hughes, LPC
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Bianca talks about women who feel overwhelmed, anxious, and they struggle with people-pleasing, overextending themselves, setting boundaries, and they believe that they have to figure it out for themselves, and that there is no time for emotions. This is called Black Superwoman Syndrome. We talk about its origins as well as cultural considerations. We talk about epigenetics, and how trauma gets passed down through generations; even when it isn’t talked about.
GUEST BIO
Bianca specializes in perfectionism, helping people embrace their imperfections and authentically be themselves. She helps clients work through concerns of self-worth, unhealthy relationships, identity, or feeling overwhelmed. Her approach within therapy is direct but open, meeting clients where they are, providing them freedom to change when they’re ready. She believes in empowering and equipping people with skills, tools, and resources they can utilize for life. In addition, her passion is to eliminate mental health stigmas, which are prevalent within the black community. As well as eliminating the gap between Christianity and therapy. Bianca is a licensed professional counselor in Georgia, podcast host, speaker and authenticity coach.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Bianca’s links
Authentically Be You Counseling
Website--www.biancakhughes.com
Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/authenticallybeyou/
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/authenticallybu
Authentic Wednesday Podcast
Instagram for the podcast--https://www.instagram.com/authenticwednesdaypodcast/
Facebook for the podcast--https://www.facebook.com/authenticwednesdaypodcast
Podcast--https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/authentic-wednesday-podcast/id1480969712
Angry Black Woman vs Hurt Black Woman Through the Eyes of Therapy by Bianca Hughes
Black Superwoman Syndrome
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3072704/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
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Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
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Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—https://www.shellyaaron.com/
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
How Do We Navigate The Holidays During a Global Pandemic
GUEST
Jill Johnson-Young, LCSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Jill is a grief expert, and she talks about options for the holidays. What if we can’t be together? What if we’ve lost loved ones due to COVID? How do we handle politics at the table? What about those struggling because they have lost jobs? How do we include them without them feeling burdened? What should we remember? What are some bright spots? How can we create new traditions? How can we honor those we’ve lost. Aren’t we going to upset folks if we talk about the people who have died?
GUEST BIO
Jill Johnson-Young, LCSW, is an author, CEO, and therapist specializing in end of life and chronic illness, grief and loss, and dementia, and provides Critical Incident Stress Debriefing when a death occurs in a workplace. As CEO of Central Counseling Services in Riverside and Murrieta, California, she and her business partner created a space for healing that is safe for those who have experienced loss & trauma, and makes it possible for clients to grow and heal. She is a certified by the Grief Recovery Institute, and has created a training and certification for providing grief groups based on her “Finish, Reorganize and Reenter” process, with a full solution focused and secular curriculum for groups and retreats. Jill spent more than a decade with hospice as a medical social worker, and director of social workers, chaplains and grief staff for a large hospice covering more than 3,000 square miles. Jill was part of making her community dementia-friendly as a Purple City, and facilitates a dementia support group that is now online and open to all.
As a clinician, Jill works with clients and families facing dementia, end of life, chronic illness, grief and loss of all kinds, and geriatric and aging issues. She also coaches those who have had a very recent loss in how to manage the immediate aftermath of a death, and therapists in helping grieving and dementia clients. She loves speaking about those areas on the national level. Her sense of humor fosters better learning. Her goal is to make therapists better at recognizing grief and dementia and knowing how to help clients effectively and with all the areas of life they impact. Jill came to her chosen areas of expertise through her extensive hospice experience and became a subject expert on grief after being widowed twice and marrying the funeral director who took care of both her late wives. Her second wife died as a result of Lewy Body Dementia.
She is a member of the National Association of Social Workers (NASW), and the American Association for Therapeutic Humor (AATH).
Jill has a website with resources for therapists and anyone interested in learning more about grief and dementia, www.jilljohnson-young.com, and one for grievers, www.yourpaththroughgrief.com. She also co-hosts a weekly grief chat with Debra Joy Hart, “Humor, Grace and Grief” on Facebook Live. Her book “The Rebellious Widow: A practical guide to love and life after loss” will be out in March, 2021 in bookstores, online and in ebook format.
She now spends quiet evenings with Stacie in the mortuary several nights a week. They share their life with three adult daughters, two grandsons, and a small herd of Oodles, who normally go to work and presentations with her. In the current pandemic they help out at home.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication, and more).
LINKS
Jill’ Links
Website-- www.jilljohnsonyoung.com
Website--www.centralcounselingservices.net
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/grieftalker/
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Riversidedementiasupport/
Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/jilljohnsonyounglcsw/
LinkedIn--https://www.linkedin.com/in/jilljohnsonyoung/.
My pet is sick: It’s time to say goodbye by Jill Johnson-Young
Someone is sick: How do I say Goodbye? By Jill Johnson-Young
Someone I love just died: What happens now? By Jill Johnson-Young
Your own path through grief; A workbook for your journey to recovery by Jill Johnson-Young
Amazon link for Jill’s books-- https://www.amazon.com/Jill-A.-Johnson-Young-LCSW/e/B07NPT5NYQ%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share
Episode 47: 20+ ways to manage change and loss through the holidays with Jill Johnson-Young https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-47/
Episode 78 When Your Fur Person Dies with Jill Johnson-Young-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-78/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
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Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
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e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—https://www.shellyaaron.com/
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Boundaries & Self Care
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Because of the post-election stress, I’ve had to set some boundaries around what I need to maintain my peace. I didn’t realize that I expected how people would respond, and I got some responses that felt unkind and hurtful. I talk about how to process through hurts and disappointments, and how we can show up for ourselves and focus on what we need to heal. I talk about what I’m doing to maintain a sense of peace in a very chaotic and unsettling time.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
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Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—https://www.shellyaaron.com/
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Fear of Failure & Overwhelm When We "Should" Be Excited
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
When exciting opportunities happen, our initial response can be overwhelm and fear. Sometimes we doubt our ability (or worth) to make/accept positive changes. In this episode I talk about being asked to write a book, and how my gremlins came up (they’re still up), and what I’m doing to be present to the discomfort, and how I’m using tools to calm and reassure myself. Have you given up because the fear gets to be too much? You can do hard things!
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6
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- select “listen on Apple Podcasts”
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Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Shelly Aaron Productions—https://www.shellyaaron.com/
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Shelly Aaron Interviews Patricia—We’re All In The Perfect Place, At The Perfect Time—2 Year Anniversary Episode
GUEST
Shelly Aaron interviews Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Setbacks often feel terrible in the moment, but they often push us in a new direction. Something that felt devastating opened a door that led me to work with Highly Sensitive People, creating a podcast, and doing work that I LOVE. Success is often more about the process, which can lead to a great outcome. In this 2-year anniversary episode, Shelly asks about the bumps and fears I had, and we talk about play, perfectionism, self-care, and I share a bit about my childhood, and an exciting offer I’ve had.
PODCAST INTERVIEWER
As a current yoga teacher, health coach & bodyworker, I’ve spent the last 15 years of my career, passionately coaching individuals to exceed their goals…which has ultimately led me to this amazing work of video and audio production.
If you’re a yoga teacher, trainer, or entrepreneur thinking about creating your own audio or video productions, but need some assistance in getting started, we should talk. I offer services from just getting started to getting ready to launch. From podcasts to teaching videos, I’ll show you how to produce your own or we can bring your production to life together.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Shelly’s Links:
Shelly Aaron Productions—https://www.shellyaaron.com/
Patricia’s Links:
Episode 90: Being Present to Your Process with Jo Beckwith, AKA Footless Jo--
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Being Present to Your Own Process with Jo Beckwith, aka Footless Jo
GUEST
Jo Beckwith
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Jo embodies vulnerability, strength, and courage, and she’s so likable! She talks about the difficulty of being seen and allowing us to come on her journey with her. Jo talks about the goodbye party she had for her foot before choosing to have it amputated. We talk about creativity vs. structure, and how Jo navigates her large social media presence. We talk about the power of exposing what feels vulnerable. Jo shares some of the unexpected insights she’s had being an amputee.
GUEST BIO
Jo Beckwith is a public speaker, advocate, YouTube creator, and amputee, who passionately believes in the incredibly perseverant capacity of the human soul. We may not have the exact same life experiences, but Jo knows that as human beings, we have the unique capacity to help each other heal and grow by sharing our stories.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication and creating a lifestyle that honors us.
LINKS
Jo’s links
Website--www.FootlessJo.com
YouTube--http://www.youtube.com/footlessjo
Instagram--http://www.instagram.com/footlessjo
Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@footlessjo
Patricia’s links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Healing from a Narcissistic (or Abusive) Relationship
GUEST
Amy Marlow-Macoy, LPC
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Amy describes the types of wounds that narcissistic abuse causes. We talk about people-pleasing, codependency, and the fear of being selfish. Amy weighs in on whether you can heal if the abuser is a family member, and you choose to continue to have contact. She provides some exercises and a meditation for healing. Amy talks about the kinds of therapy that she believes are helpful for healing narcissistic abuse, and what to look for in a therapist.
MEDITATION
- The meditation is about 30 minutes into the episode (24-25 minutes in after the interview starts)
GUEST BIO
Amy Marlow-MaCoy is a licensed professional counselor located in Jenkintown, Pennsylvania. Amy specializes in treating adults from narcissistic, emotionally immature, or toxic relationships. Amy recently published The Gaslighting Recovery Workbook, a book designed to help readers identify gaslighting in relationships, protect themselves from further abuse, and begin to heal. In sessions and in writing, Amy uses warmth, compassion, and a geeky sense of humor to support her clients in healing.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Amy’s links
Website-- https://amymarlowmacoy.com/group-therapy/
Facebook--www.facebook.com/amymarlowmacoylpc
Instagram--www.instagram.com/amymarlowmacoylpc
Walking on Eggshells Group-- https://amymarlowmacoy.com/group-therapy/
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Dr. Lindsay Gibson
Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents by Dr. Lindsay Gibson
Episode 80 Best of the Podcast, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-80/
Narcissistic Abuse Support Tracy Malone-- https://tracyamalone.com/
Will I Ever Be Good Enough by Karyl McBride
Episode 85—Narcissism, Gaslighting, Love-Bombing, Hoovering and Recovering from a Narcissistic Relationship https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-85/
Patricia’s links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
What Brings Us Joy—Walking Through Overthinking
GUEST
solo
EPISODE OVERVIEW
In deciding to buy a kayak, I experienced overthinking; fearing I didn’t have enough information; wanting to get all the information; feeling overwhelmed, and talking so much, my husband experienced kayak fatigue. I wasn’t sure I was worthy of the cost of getting something I really wanted. I talk about the bumps my husband and I experienced—including playing worst case scenario—and how we worked through the challenges.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
How to Identify a Healthy Relationship
GUEST
Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents describes healthy relationships look like, and she identifies characteristics of a person who is capable of having a healthy relationship. She talks about what to look for at the beginning of a relationship. She also talks about deal breakers and red flags, and why people who had unhappy childhoods tend to get involved with difficult partners. She explains why it can be hard to end a relationship that isn’t working.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Emotional Immaturity—These people respond like young children or adolescents. They lack empathy and are not able to see things from another’s point of view. They lack the ability to self-regulate and they are NOT self-reflective. They have a strong sense of self, but not of others. There may be attachment injuries, and a secure attachment is essential to develop a healthy sense of self.
- What are the elements of a healthy relationship?
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- The relationship supports and builds the energy and individuality of each person
- One has the ability to be empathic—you can imagine your internal experience and the internal experience of the other
- One is interested in their partner, their well-being, they enjoy their partner’s success and are supportive
- One is willing to learn
- One keeps it interesting
- What are some personality characteristics of a person who is capable of a healthy relationship?
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- One is sensitive and can tune in to the other person
- One’s personality is complex enough to support individuality (the partner doesn’t have to think, believe, act, do things exactly like the other person to make them feel secure)
- One automatically takes the other person into account
- One is able to take turns with problem-solving, compromise
- One is creative and resilient
- One knows their own needs and preference and can voice them
- One can tolerate conflict
- One can be vulnerable
- One can manage having competing needs
- Mature coping mechanisms like humor, or asking for support
- Why are some people aware of their unhappy childhoods, yet they find themselves involved with difficult people in their adult relationships?
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- HSPs have great insight and great memories
- HSPs are altruistic and function at a high level
- If a person doesn’t do the emotional work to heal from childhood, they recognize the patterns, but continue to engage in relationships/patterns that don’t work
- You must have the emotional experience of what happened to you in childhood
- When one hasn’t done the emotional work, one doesn’t have the gut feeling or instinct that informs one that this isn’t healthy
- What signs should a person look for at the beginning of a relationship in order to assess its potential for becoming a healthy relationship?
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- One feels fully seen
- One is even tempered
- One is able to own and accept their mistakes
- One has the ability to apologize and make amends
- One has the capacity to receive
- One is enjoyable, playful, has a sense of humor
- There is a realistic and reliable foundation
- One can work with reality and they try and understand what’s going on
- One can think and feel at the same time (one’s brain doesn’t get hijacked with emotion)
- One can be reasoned with
- One is respectful of boundaries—if you set a boundary, one might be curious about it (but not defensive or try and push the boundary)
- One doesn’t psychoanalyze or label or call names (sensitive, overreacting, emotional, unreliable, etc.)
- One can talk from a feeling place
- One won’t tell you how you should be feelings
- One can wait and be patient
- One can handle stress well (if you see impatience and irritability in the beginning BEWARE!)
- What are the biggest red flags that indicate that you might be getting involved with an Emotionally Immature Person?
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- You feel like you can’t completely be yourself
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- Not opening up, not completely at ease, watching yourself
- Your thoughts are scrambled
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- You don’t think as clearly or concisely
- The person has a history of conflictual relationships, and tends to see themselves as a victim or a rescuer
- What are deal breakers in any close relationship?
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- If you’re doing a lot of the work, and you can’t communicate your feelings, and you don’t feel safe or confident with the other person
- The other person is constantly telling you that you’re the problem
- Why is it difficult to end a difficult relationship?
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- We bond with others for a sense of survival.
- It’s familiar and there is emotional intensity (this isn’t necessarily a positive attribute)
- The more emotional stimulation (even if it’s negative—fighting, abuse), the tighter the bonding
GUEST BIO
Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of three books. Her most recent book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents remains a #1 Amazon Best Seller. The follow up to this book is Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents, and the 2nd edition of her first book Who You Were Meant To Be has just been released on Amazon. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students, and she writes a monthly Well-Being column for Tidewater Women magazine in Virginia Beach, VA.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and she works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Dr. Gibson’s Links
Website— http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/
What is an Emotionally Immature person and how to identify a healthy relationship with Dr. Lindsay Gibson episode 43--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-43/
Narcissism, Gas Lighting, Love Bombing, Hoovering and Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship with Amy Marlow Macoy episode 85-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-85/
John Bowlby on Attachment https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Exf_rR1NnNs
Bruce Ecker Pro Symptom Approach-- https://www.coherencetherapy.org/files/CNOTE6_Overview_of_CT_and_Its_Use_Of_MR.pdf
Stephen Porges Polyvagal Theory-- https://www.stephenporges.com/
Love on the Spectrum on Netflix
Patricia’s links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
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TITLE
Where Identity Intersects With Being Rejected
GUEST
Annie Schuessler
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Annie was terrified to ask to be a guest on 20 podcasts this year; even though she’s a podcaster! We talk about what her gremlins were telling her, and she breaks down her process step-by-step. She shares what she told herself when she was scared, and how she used mindfulness and reframing to reassure herself. This is a process anyone can do when they are facing new and scary things. Annie talks about being Queer, and how being marginalized played into potential rejection.
BIO
Annie Schuessler is a business coach and the host of Rebel Therapist®Podcast. She's been a business coach for therapists, healers and coaches for over 10 years. With her Rebel Therapist®Programs, she helps entrepreneurs make a their biggest impact. You can find her resources at rebeltherapist.me.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Annie’s links
Website—rebeltherapist.me
Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/annieschuessler/
Octavia’s Parables Podcast--https://www.tor.com/2020/06/22/octavia-butler-parable-sower-talents-podcast-adrienne-maree-brown-toshi-reagon-listen/
Sonya Renee Taylor Instagam--https://www.instagram.com/sonyareneetaylor/?hl=en
Parable of the Sower (Parable (1)) by Octavia E. Butler
Parable of the Talents (Parable (2)) by Octavia E. Butler
Patricia’s links:
Link to take listener survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
Best of the podcast—You’re not fragile; you’re very strong with Annie Schuessler episode 32--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-32/
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TITLE
It Was Hard Being Sensitive; But It’s Not Hard Now
GUEST
Kelsey Cochrane
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Kelsey talks about trying to fit in and learning how to feel her feelings without judging them. Kelsey started letting others know what she needed, and this has allowed others to also ask for what they want. Kelsey talks about being her own worst enemy, and how she has learned to use self-compassion and to be present for herself. Kelsey realized she was unhappy in her job, and she talks about what she has done to create a lifestyle that honors her and her Highly Sensitive needs.
GUEST BIO
Kelsey Cochrane is a Highly Sensitive Person who lives in rural Northern Arizona. She participated in the fall HSP Course in 2019, and she realized during the course that it was time to make some major changes. She left her job as a public school teacher, and she recently moved into the field of behavioral health, and is pursuing a master's degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. Kelsey is also participating in a positive reinforcement horse training program that better fits her, and her wild horse's sensitivities.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Patricia’s links:
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform
Overall Struggles and Strengths of HSPs episode 37-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-37/
After Learning She Was an HSP, Ranielle Talks About What She Got From Taking the Online HSP Course episode 49-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-49/
A Highly Sensitive Person, and Introvert Talks about her Experience Taking the Online HSP Course episode 53-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-53/
2 Participants from the Online HSP Course share their experience episode 51--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-51/
A therapist talks about her anxiety after taking the Online HSP Course episode 48-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-48/
A Highly Sensitive Relationship Coach shares her experience after taking the Online HSP Course episode 55--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-55/
I felt like I finally belonged somewhere –2 participants share their experience taking the Online HSP Course episode 82-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-82/
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TITLE
Navigating the Bumps We Experience in Relationships
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Are your needs being met in your relationships? Are you the one who is always there for others? Is it reciprocal? Do you have a higher need for connection than your friends? Why do HSPs stay in relationships when they aren’t working? Do our high levels of empathy help or hurt us in relationships when we hit a rough patch? Is there more wounding in long-term relationships verses newer relationships?
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truth-teller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
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Narcissism, Gaslighting, Love-Bombing, Hoovering and Healing From A Narcissistic Relationship
GUEST
Amy Marlow-MaCoy, LPC
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Amy talks about how gaslighting can show up in any relationship, and how to spot it when it happens. She talks about how to identify a narcissist, and we talk about codependency, love-bombing, hoovering, grey rock, extinction burst, and revisionist history. Amy gives lots of specific examples of what a narcissist might say, and how the HSP can respond. She talks about why gaslighting is so effective and how it undermines self-confidence and the self-blame that ensues. Amy also talks about how one can begin to heal and develop self-compassion, assertiveness, and embracing one’s sensitivity.
GUEST BIO
Amy Marlow-MaCoy is a licensed professional counselor located in Jenkintown, Pennsylvania. Amy specializes in treating adults from narcissistic, emotionally immature, or toxic relationships. Amy recently published The Gaslighting Recovery Workbook, a book designed to help readers identify gaslighting in relationships, protect themselves from further abuse, and begin to heal. In sessions and in writing, Amy uses warmth, compassion, and a geeky sense of humor to support her clients in healing.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone and that being an HSP has amazing gifts and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us.
LINKS
Amy’s links:
Website-- https://amymarlowmacoy.com/group-therapy/
Facebook--www.facebook.com/amymarlowmacoylpc
Instagram--www.instagram.com/amymarlowmacoylpc
Walking on Eggshells Group-- https://amymarlowmacoy.com/group-therapy/
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Dr. Lindsay Gibson
Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents by Dr. Lindsay Gibson
Episode 80 Best of the Podcast, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-80/
Narcissistic Abuse Support Tracy Malone-- https://tracyamalone.com/
Will I Ever Be Good Enough by Karyl McBride
Patricia’s links:
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
I Didn’t Know How To Use My Sensitivity
GUEST
Kelly Vance
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We talk about boundaries, perfectionism, and the negative labels we use to describe our sensitivity, and how Kelly changed how she views herself. Kelly talks briefly about how she felt seen and heard when I unintentionally voiced my monogamy bias after learning that Kelly is polyamorous. We laugh at our HS quirks and struggles and have a very vulnerable and open conversation. Kelly is very reflective and articulate about her experiences and struggles as an HSP. Kelly once told me I have Mad Lady Balls, and we laugh about that, but we also talk about the courage and strength it takes to be vulnerable.
GUEST BIO
Kelly Vance is a Highly Sensitive Person from Scottsdale, Arizona. She is a freelance writer, human resources administrator, and lover of all things irreverent, silly and whimsical. Outside of quarantining during a global pandemic, she can be found in thrift stores, art galleries, or shopping for questionable items on Etsy.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truth-teller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone and that being an HSP has amazing gifts and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us.
LINKS
Patricia’s links
Bonus Episode 73 part 1 How to heal when we’ve been blindsided--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-73/
Bonus Episode 74 part 2 How to heal when we’ve been blindsided--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-74/
Bonus Episode 75 Regrets, healing, and how to imperfectly set boundaries during COVID-19--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-75/
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
Best of the Podcast—What is a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)? Aren’t all HSPs Introverts?
GUEST
Jacquelyn Strickland, LPC
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Jacquelyn Strickland co-created the HSP Gathering Retreats with Dr. Elaine Aron in 2000, and she has worked exclusively with HSPs since then. Jacquelyn talks about the 4 Core Characteristics of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and the differences between Highly Sensitive and non-Highly Sensitive introverts and extroverts, as well as the ambivert. Jaquelyn also talks about sensitivity as we age, and what it means to be fully integrated with a strong sense of self-identity as an HSP.
HIGHLIGHTS
- We discuss the term Highly Sensitive Person and Jacquelyn shares her thoughts about this name
- There are 1.4 Billion HSPs in the world and we all share these 4 core characteristics
- The 4 Core Characteristics of being a Highly Sensitive Person as coined by Dr. Elaine Aron
- D—Depth of Processing
- Elaine Aron feels that Depth of Processing is a key component for HSPs
- Depth of processing happens in the pre-frontal cortex, so HSPs see breadth and depth of things around us
- We reflect more than others on the way the world is going
- We think about the meaning of life
- We Wonder about the quality of relationships we’re in
- We’re aware of social justice issues
- O—Overarousal and Overstimulation
- That feeling of being stressed out
- Feeling burnt out
- This may be the most negative thing HSPs experience since our current dominant culture is about doing
- Chronic overstimulation can lead to depression and anxiety
- E—Emotional Responsiveness and Empathy
- We bring more emotional intensity and empathy in most every situation
- There’s a difference between emotional intensity and emotional reactivity
- We can honor our emotional intensity—this is where we express our feelings in the arts, writing beautiful poems, people who show or speak passionately about they feel
- We have more mirror neurons
- S—Sensitive to Subtleties
- We can notice when the barometric pressure is dropping
- Some HSPs may have perfect pitch
- We have more side effects to medications
- We are usually sensitive to changes in temperature
- We may notice the sound of a ticking clock or dripping water
- D—Depth of Processing
- 70% of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) are introverts
- 30% of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) are extroverts
- There are 5 distinct groups we need to look at when talking about introversion and extroversion
- HS introvert
- HS extrovert
- Non-HS introvert
- Non-HS extrovert
- Ambivert
- Jacquelyn also talks about the Myer’s Briggs and what it means when scores on introversion or extroversion are high and low
- The concept of the battery being charged for extroverts and drained for introverts when they are around people is primarily talking about Non-HSPs
- A HS extrovert will enjoy being alone; will need time to recharge after extroverting, and will probably choose specific venues to socializing that are different than a Non-HS extrovert
- A HS extrovert needs to find the right amount of novel stimulation, to renew and recharge
- A HS extrovert may want to know who will be at the party (their political affiliation, what the activities will be; how long will the activity last) in order to see if it satisfies our HS needs
- As we get older, we may get more particular about where and how we choose to expend our energy and time
- We can be sensitive extroverts, or we can choose to introvert
- You can be a HS extrovert and still feel socially awkward or not always feel at ease in social situations
- Our depth of processing can make it challenging if we’re reading the room, or we may go home and wonder if we talked too much or did things right
- If you feel uncomfortable in a social situation, it helps to have a role—volunteer to help; arrive early before it gets crowded
- When we worry about doing things right or following the rules it can make it harder for us to trust that how we show up is just right
- I thought I had social anxiety, was anxious, was an introvert, so I avoided social situations and felt depressed and lethargic. Turns out, I’m a Highly Sensitive Extrovert, which is why I’m so passionate about providing information to others who may read memes around introversion and mistakenly identify
- The ambivert doesn’t have the DOES, but can choose whether to introvert or extrovert
- We want to be fully self-identified and integrated as HSPs regardless of whether we’re an introvert or extrovert
- Once we get fully integrated with a strong sense of self-identify, when we’ve healed our wounds, when we’ve reframed our past, when we’ve got a plan of knowing when and how to be out in the world, we don’t hide anymore.
- We talk about sensitivity and whether it increases as we age
- We discuss HSPs and social media
- We talk about the HSP retreats that Jacquelyn has been running and the benefits and unexpected gifts she’s seen people get from these retreats
- We talk about some of the things that are unrelated to being an HSP that are often posted in groups, and then people identify and things that are not related to being an HSP get mistakenly attributed to being an HSP
- Jacquelyn acknowledges Dr. Elaine Aron’s work and the fact that she’s opened the doors for many people (myself included) to specialize in working with The Highly Sensitive Person
- Thank you Dr. Elaine Aron!
GUEST BIO
Jacquelyn has been a Licensed Professional Counselor since 1993, which is the same year she became certified to utilize the statistically valid & reliable Myers Briggs Personality Assessment. Her professional and personal lives took synchronistic detour when she stumbled across Elaine Aron’s original work in May 1996 while waiting for a bus not far from where Elaine lives in Marin County, California. Since that time, Jacquelyn has devoted herself to empowering sensitive people around the world. She and Elaine co-created the HSP Gathering Retreats in 2001, and there have been 35 and counting HSP Gatherings, both nationally and internationally – in Canada, Germany, Sweden, United Kingdom, and on both U.S. coasts and in between. She is an Advanced HSP Consultant , one of 15 national & international HSP professionals trained by Elaine Aron in 2018 on the concept, measurement and research regarding of Sensory Processing Sensitivity and the highly sensitive person
Besides Elaine Aron, major influences which have informed Jacquelyn’s work have been her background in Social Work, Women’s Studies, Brene Brown, Eco Psychology & her Nature as Teacher & Healer experiences. She is fortunate to live in Colorado where she has been able to immerse herself in nature for days at a time over the last 30 years. She has recently added the title of Sage – and she teaches, mentors, and counsels not only with knowledge of our HSP trait, but also with decades of wisdom from living authentically as an HSP. Elaine talks of this stage as the Priestly Advisor.
She has been married to a major introvert, non-HSP, since 1978 . Her relationship with someone so different than me is what prompted my study of temperaments, including the Myers Briggs and the Enneagram. She is the mother of two grown sons, one a HSP, and the grandmother of 3 grandchildren, ages 4, 2 and 1. Her oldest granddaughter is a sensitive extrovert, like her grandmother.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young work is a licensed therapist and coach, specializing in working with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs). Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Jacquelyn’s Links
Website-- LifeWorks! http://www.lifeworkshelp.com/
Top Ten Reasons to Have a HSP Dyad Parntership-- http://www.lifeworkshelp.com/HSP-Newsletter/top-ten-reasons-to-have-a-hsp-dyad-partnership/
Introversion, Extroversion and The Highly Sensitive Person--https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
HSP Highlights & Insights Ezine: Sign up Here-- http://www.lifeworkshelp.com/HSP-Newsletter/
You can like the HSP Gathering Retreat Facebook Page here:
http://www.lifeworkshelp.com/HSP-Newsletter/winter-2018-new-hsp-happenings-here-and-around-the-world/
The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron
Patricia’s Links
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I Felt Like I Finally Belonged Somewhere, and I Wasn’t Alone—2 Participants From The HSP Online Course Share Their Experience
GUEST
Shelly Aaron & Melissa
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Shelly and Melissa speak candidly about their experience taking the Online HSP Course. They talk about the relief of seeing others who also have strong reactions to things, and how normalizing this was. They talk about the wound of feeling like they are too much, and what it felt like to be in a group with other HSPs. They talk about how they have changed and how their relationships with their families and partners have changed because of the Course.
GUEST BIOS
Shelly Aaron
As a current yoga teacher, health coach & bodyworker, I’ve spent the last 15 years of my careers, passionately coaching individuals to exceed their goals…which has ultimately led me to this amazing work of video and audio production.
If you’re a yoga teacher, trainer, or entrepreneur thinking about creating your own audio or video productions, but need some assistance in getting started, we should talk. I offer services from just getting started to getting ready to launch. From podcasts to teaching videos, I’ll show you how to produce your own or we can bring your production to life together.
Melissa
Intuitive listening, Reiki, and IET
Looking for help doing your emotional work? I listen openly and non-judgmentally. I often get intuitive cues that can help you over obstacles. I also use IET to help you over your emotional hurdles. Have physical challenges? Between Reiki and IET I can help you to heal emotional and physical blockages. Together, we can help you live your best life.
...or for technical help:
I install, repair, optimize tech, and teach you how to use and love technology at a reasonable price. I am also happy to build your website to your tastes and needs. Think of me as your technical counselor.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Shelly’s Links
Shelly Aaron Productions—https://www.shellyaaron.com/
Melissa’s Links
https://HelpfulHealingPA.wixsite.com/home
https://HelpfulTechPA.wixsite.com/home
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
Best of the Podcast 20+ Ways to Practically Manage Change & Loss
GUEST
Jill Johnson-Young, LCSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Loss & change encompasses jobs, education, career, moving, illness, disability, relationships, pets, birth, adoption, coming out, learning you didn’t have an ideal childhood, and the obvious, death. Jill provides concrete examples of how we can set boundaries, create new traditions, and so much more! Jill talks about the importance of keeping memories alive and ways we can honor those we’ve lost (included our 4-legged family members), and she gives examples of how to help a partner talk about their losses.
HIGHLIGHTS
- During times of grief, stress, loss, change, etc. it is very likely that we will become MORE sensitive, and possibly reactive, and we may have a harder time managing. This is very normal, and it is to be expected.
- We need to have even more gentleness and self-compassion during these times
- Grief includes losses, disenfranchised losses, hopes, dreams, change—it is so much more than just death
How to manage those losses:
- awareness of them at the holidays, and finally
- wrap up with a death-related loss
WHAT OTHER LOSSES ARE THERE AT THE HOLIDAYS?
THESE WERE MENTIONED:
- ‘I think that the holidays bring out a lot of grief for everyone…’
- SUBSTANCE ABUSE AT THE TABLE OR THE TREE
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- The drunk relative that nobody wants to be around,
- The opioid epidemic
- Folks drinking to cope with the anxiety of functions or the stress of holidays
- FAMILY ISSUES THAT SHOW UP RATHER THAN HALLMARK: when we feel more like we belong in the land of the lost toys, not by a fireplace waiting for Santa with our dog named Spot
- A dysfunctional family
- Grief when your family isn’t large like everybody else’s
- Grief because you’ve chosen not to be a part of your immediate family because of the toxicity in it
- Grieving the family you THOUGHT you had...
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- and about how to connect with them despite awareness of emotional neglect due to your high sensitivity.
- Feeling concerned with the upcoming holidays with the new awareness of how your family relates emotionally... it all suddenly feels so superficial.
FINANCIAL STRESS AMPLIFIED BY THE HOLIDAYS:
- Grief because you don’t have enough money for presents
- Grief because you don’t have enough food,
- Those issues can cause some of us to avoid holiday get-togethers because we can’t afford them
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- that might include employee events
DISENFRANCHISED LOSSES:
- Those that have experienced recent breakups and this is their first Thanksgiving or Holiday without their partner.
- Pets
- Moving
- Retiring
- Lost friendships
- Marriage
- Divorce
- Illness
- Disability especially recently
- A partner who is disabled or have cognitive issues
ONE THING I DO FOR GRIEVERS PRIOR TO THE HOLIDAYS IS PREPARE THEM FOR THE IMPACT:
- EXPECTATIONS- FALSE OR REAL OR SELF IMPOSED, INCLUDING NEEDING TO RECREATE WHAT WAS BEFORE A LOSS
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- grief when everybody else posts the holiday party pictures, or you are looking at old social media posts- when things were different
- Shopping, advertising, holiday mailers - the temptation to overspend to make up for what is missing
- The belief that if you focus on the holidays and what it should provide, you will have some type of relief, but most of the time it doesn’t work
- The belief that others don’t experience grief and you feel loneliness
- EXPECTATIONS THAT YOU WILL FEEL HAPPY OR LIGHTER
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- You might at times, but if you have had a recent loss or have an unresolved loss it will travel with you to holiday events
- The mix of joy and sadness is normal, but hard to manage unless you are ready for it, and you can balance your energy, and give yourself permission to not participate or to limit time spent out
- Practicing using the positive to create balance- plans for the year coming, remembering the good moments of past holidays or this season
- If you can hold the opposite of both emotions, it affects how your brain reacts to it so a lot of times when we feel sad as a family then we try to balance it out by looking at what’s great or what we’re happy for… We find that helpful during the holidays.
- For HSP folks, one person suggested that being able to feel grief and joy at the same time neutralizes some of the woundings that have happened in the past.
DEATH RELATED LOSS AND HOLIDAYS
- Fear of death infringing on happy moments because we are aware of the potential of someone dying
- Managing grief from deaths at the holiday,
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- deaths associated with that time of season by proximity
- deaths that happened recently.
- Experiencing grief because you’ve lost someone in the past, especially if it is not a relationship you have finished
- Anticipating someone close to you dying—even if they are in good health
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- The fear that you will be overwhelmed with their death
- The fear that you won’t be able to cope
- The fear that you will become so depressed, that you can’t get out of it
- We talk about carrying that person in our heart moving forward, and if possible having these conversations NOW while the person is still alive (if appropriate)
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- We have all managed loss
- We have more tools than we remember we do
- We will feel sad, and we will manage
- We can get extra support, counseling, therapy, coaching, join groups
We all need death and dying education. It is necessary so we can know what we see, and that we can manage it when that time comes. We will all lose people we love to death-- that leaves only the option of being ready. That, in and of itself, helps ward off being caught unaware and thrown into depression. We know those who are ready and have reorganized before death is the ones who will thrive afterward in their new life. Those who live fear of death and will not prepare are the ones who do not farewell.
SO WHAT DO WE DO TO GET READY?
- Plan ahead
- Don’t overspend
- Avoid stores if the input is too much, or too much of a reminder with a recent loss.
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- You can order everything, including groceries, online.
- Don’t plan on every little activity.
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- Limit them
- Limit time there
- Take your own car
- Look for an exit
- Don’t feel a need to explain
- GRIEF CARD TIME
- SET BOUNDARIES. ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE GRIEVING, YOU GET TO SET THEM.
- PRACTICE WHAT YOU WILL SAY TO THOSE CROSSING BOUNDARIES
- GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO CHANGE IT UP!
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- Take a vacation instead of doing what you traditionally do
- Invite new friends over
- Choose to celebrate on a different day, or someone new
- DON’T INCLUDE THOSE WHO DO NOT FEEL GOOD IN YOUR SPACE
- DO INCLUDE THOSE YOU HAVE LOST- PEOPLE, PETS
- IF THERE IS AN ANNIVERSARY AT THE HOLIDAYS?
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- MARK IT
- PLAN AHEAD
- REMEMBER THERE IS MORE THAN THANKSGIVING AND CHRISTMAS/HANUKKAH/KWANZA-
- NEW YEAR’S IS EVEN WORSE
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- TV COVERAGE OF THOSE WHO DIED- BUT OUR SPECIAL PEOPLE AND PETS ARE NOT ON THAT LIST, ARE THEY?
- WRITE DOWN WHAT WORKS
- WHAT FELT GOOD
- WHAT YOU MIGHT WANT TO DO DIFFERENTLY.
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- THAT MEANS JOURNAL DAILY. YOU WILL NOT REMEMBER
- GRATITUDE JOURNAL TO SET YOUR MINDFRAME
- EXERCISE AS YOU ARE ABLE
- SUNSHINE
- POSITIVE INPUT- EXAMPLE: MT RUBIDIOUX, NOT THE FESTIVAL IF YOU DO NOT WANT CROWDS, OR THE FESTIVAL LATE AT NIGHT WITH A FRIEND TO SEE THE LIGHTS, BUT NOT THE CROWDS.
- Wolfenoot - It’s pronounced Wolf-a-noot according to Buzzfeed, and takes place on November 23rd. (If you wish to celebrate, you should be prepared for the Spirit of the Wolf to visit your home. This Spirit will hide and leave behind gifts for you, your children, and of course, dogs. The people who treat canines kindly get better presents than those who don’t, but this gift-giver doesn’t seem to penalize people who are just kind of indifferent to animals. We aren’t sure if the Spirit of the Wolf leaves presents for cats.
On Wolfenoot, you will celebrate by eating roasted meats, because meat is a dog’s favorite food, and a cake decorated like a full moon because dogs like to howl sometimes.) (If you’re a vegetarian or a vegan, you obviously adjust so that this fits with your values and beliefs)
It feels like a nice way to change the tone-- to be grateful and thank our furry friends in any way you choose. It was created by a child in New Zealand, around the concept of kindness.
For the holidays, coping with grief is about being Gumby. Bend, Flex, Change it up. Make it work for you.
WAYS TO GENERATE CONVERSATION
- Is there someone you’ve had in your world that has died that you want to include in our blessing, or holiday tradition(s)
- Tell me about your pets? Tell me who they were
- What part of that person is always going to be a part of you?
- What lessons did you learn?
- Who were they for you?
- How did they impact your life?
GUEST BIO
Jill Johnson-Young, LCSW is a dynamic and engaging speaker who loves teaching both professional and community groups about dementia, death and dying, and grief and loss. She is the CEO of Central Counseling Services in Riverside, California, where she is also a clinical therapist. She is a certified Grief Recovery Facilitator after spending more than a decade with hospice as a medical social worker and as a director of social workers, chaplains and grief staff. She holds a BA from UC Riverside and her MSW from the University of South Florida. Jill has authored three children’s grief books and an adult grief workbook with more in process, and created Your Path Through Grief, a year-long, comprehensive grief support program which includes resources for therapists.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication, and more).
LINKS
Jill’s Links:
Website-- www.yourpaththroughgrief.com, https://www.facebook.com/grieftalker/
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Riversidedementiasupport/,
LinkedIn--https://www.linkedin.com/in/jilljohnsonyoung/.
My pet is sick: It’s time to say goodbye by Jill Johnson-Young
Someone is sick: How do I say Goodbye? By Jill Johnson-Young
Someone I love just died: What happens now? By Jill Johnson-Young
Your own path through grief; A workbook for your journey to recovery by Jill Johnson-Young
Amazon link for Jill’s books-- https://www.amazon.com/Jill-A.-Johnson-Young-LCSW/e/B07NPT5NYQ%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share
Leo Buscaglia-- http://www.buscaglia.com/biography
Leo Buscaglia YouTube—How to Love and be Loved-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8tw9ontdc0
Wolfenoot-- https://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=12136886
Patricia’s Links:
Bonus Episode 21: I lost my sh*t, and it’s not about the gravy https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-bonus-episode-21/
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TITLE
Best of the Podcast - What is an Emotionally Immature Parent, & How to Identify a Healthy Relationship
GUEST
Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, & Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents explains what an emotionally immature parent is, and how this impacts their adult children. I talk about crying when I got overwhelmed when my kids were young, and Lindsay comments on this. We talk about how to establish good emotional ties with our children, and what constitutes good enough parenting, Lindsay provides nineteen qualities to identify what a healthy relationship looks like.
HIGHLIGHTS
- What is emotionally immaturity?
- Why is it important to understand it?
- What are the main characteristics of an emotionally immature parent?
- How do relationships with emotionally immature parents affect their children’s lives?
- What are the main things to remember when dealing with emotionally immature parents?
- If you’re dating, how do you pick a person who is emotionally mature?
- How do you identify what a healthy relationship looks like?
- What is our human Bill of Rights?
- We talk about repair work with parenting
- I share that I’d get really frustrated with my boys when they were young, and I’d cry because I didn’t know what else to do
- Lindsay talks about how she views this
- We talk about the pressures of parenting
- Lindsay explains what good enough parenting is—which should be very reassuring to parents!
- I share about having a tantrum when my son had a tantrum and how it felt lousy afterward
- We’d do good repair work, but I eventually learned to stay calm
- I would also let my boys know when I was edgy and close to loosing it. I would let them know what they could do to help me.
- They’ve told me as young adults how helpful this was to them
- We talk about emotional intimacy with our children
- How do we let ourselves be known by our children when we are having difficult feelings
- How to establish good emotional ties with our kids in a good way
- Winnicut talks about good enough parenting
- Research shows that it just takes 30% of being a good enough parent in order to have a favorable outcome
- Lindsay gives an example of how an adult child could set a limit with their emotionally immature parent if they decided not to spend Thanksgiving with the family
- When adult children set limits with their emotionally immature parents, the parent feels rejected; unloved or they have a strong defensive reaction
- When setting a boundary, you want to stay present to your own heart
- You want to be able to have empathy and acknowledge what it is like for the other person
- You want to remember what your goal is for the interaction, so your intention is clear for yourself
- You also have an opportunity to observe how the other person is reacting, and the defenses that they use
- Emotionally Healthy Relationships
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- Is the person generally realistic and reliable?
- Do they work with reality rather than fighting it?
- Are they finding ways to solve problems or are they complaining about how they’ve been victimized?
- Do they have a consistent and reliable nature about them?
- Do they take things personally?
- When they get upset, can they still think? Do they lose the ability to be rational?
- Signs of temper, impatience or impulsivity should be a red flag—those are cardinal signs of immaturity
- Another red flag is when a person gets very upset, then tells you it’s just because they love you
- You want your partner to be reciprocal; you do something for them and they do something for you
- You set a boundary, and they say OK
- If you set a boundary, and your partner tries to talk you out of it, or walk you out of it, that is two red flags
- Boundaries at the beginning of the relationship will tell you almost everything you want to know about that person
- Being flexible and able to compromise is a sign of maturity
- You want someone who is basically truthful; that you can trust who they are
- Does the person respond to you in a manner that you feel safe, and seen and heard?
- Do they reflect on their mistakes and try and change, or do they make excuses?
- Do they reflect when you tell them you’re mad at them, or do they say, “Why do you keep bringing that up? What’s wrong with you?”
- If they can’t accept when you’re angry and they get defensive, that’s about having a major lack of empathy
- Your partner is thin skinned meaning they do not allow other’s reactions to happen, because that person gets so reactive
- Nobody is more intrinsically important as an adult than anybody else
- They way that emotionally immature people react with guilt, shame, fear and self-doubt, can make the other person start to doubt their reality
- This is where you have to remember that “There’s good stuff in me!”
GUEST BIO
Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of three books, the most recent being Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and just out in May of this year, Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students, and she writes a monthly Well-Being column for Tidewater Women magazine in Virginia Beach, VA.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Website— http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website—HSP self-test
https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
Dr. Gibson’s book was translated from English to Russian by Elena Tereshchnkova You can find the actual translator here--https://www.facebook.com/elena.tereshchenkova
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Are You An Emotional Chameleon? The Importance of Identity For the Highly Sensitive Person
GUEST
Jeannette Folan
EPISODE OVERVIEW
HSPs can be emotional chameleons. Jeannette talks about why she believes identity plays such an important role in the well-being of the Highly Sensitive Person. She explains how we begin to understand our true identity, and how it benefits us to identify as spiritual beings having a human experience. Jeannette provides practices we can use in our everyday lives to see through our spiritual lens, and ways we can stay in the present moment. She also provides a powerful tool to gain perspective when things feel really big.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Why do you believe identity plays such an important role in the HSP’s well-being?
- How can we begin to understand our true identity?
- How does it benefit us to identify as a spiritual being having a human experience versus being a human being having a spiritual experience?
- What practices or activities can we incorporate into our everyday life to see through our spiritual lens?
- Grounding with the earth
- Using google world
- Zoom into your house and imagine yourself at home with your problems
- Zoom out to see your block, and think about your neighbors
- Zoom out more to see your community (where you shop, get gas, walk around)
- Continue to zoom out until your house is a spec to gain perspective
- Jeannette learned she was an HSP in the last 7 years
- She was deeply affected by the feelings and emotions of her parents and siblings
- There was no sense of where she ended and where they began
- She felt like an emotional chameleon
- Who am I as an individual?
- Half of the HSP population grew up in an insecure environment per Dr. Aron’s research
- Who am I?
- How does your energy change when you’re with others?
- How do I feel as a whole person?
- Body work—what’s happening inside (mind/body connection)
- Do 1 thing I can control
- Breathwork
- Making the shift to feeling power and strength and having more compassion as a helper instead of needing help
- When big events happen in the world, we begin to act as one
- The Butterfly Effect
- Grounding—using the energy of the earth
- Who am I to God/Universe?
- Who is God/Universe to me?
- What effect does God/Universe have on my relationship to myself?
- What effect does God/Universe have on my relationship with others?
- God/spirituality the Collective is bigger than I am
- Change from being reaction to creative and proactive
- Change from being unsure and uncertain and a victim to knowing I am a valuable part of humanity
- Claim my body as one thing I can control
- This is happening for me instead of because of me
- When you wake up, name things you see in the room—this puts you in the present moment
- Accept that what we did was for survival; the taming was for survival
- It may not serve us anymore
GUEST BIO
Jeannette Folan discovered she was a Highly Sensitive Person in 2014. At the time, she was dealing with depression and some addictive behavior. Committed to learning how to heal and break free from her mental health struggles, she immersed herself in the world of sensitivity and spirituality. Within two years, she closed her marketing business and published her first novel, Diary of a Teenage Empath: The Awakening. Since then, she has authored and co-authored several books and workbooks for children, teens and adults. In 2017, she became an Integrative Health Coach and began leading a support group for HSPs in her community of Halifax, Nova Scotia. Along with her mentor, Dr. Wendy Nickerson, she developed the first-ever accredited HSP Certification Training Program for mental health professionals, which, to date, has been completed by professionals in seven countries.
Jeannette is an active member of the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology, where she presents workshops for mental health professionals and school teachers and administrators to gain a better understanding of the unique challenges and therapeutic approaches for highly sensitives. She is a dedicated advocate, working to support the professionals who are supporting the valuable HSP population.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Jeannette’s Links
empathdiary.com
www.facebook.com/AuthorJeannetteFolan
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
When Your Fur Person Dies
GUEST
Jill Johnson-Young, LCSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We talk about why pet loss is so significant and why it’s important to talk about it as well as HOW to talk about it. If you are a single pet parent and you lose your pet, it is the same as losing a spouse. Jill talks about things we can do when we’re in the grief process, or anticipating death. She talks about how to handle when others don’t recognize the significance of the loss;the symptoms of grief; how to talk with kids about death; how to prepare them, and involve them.
HIGHLIGHTS
- If you are a single parent and you lose your pet, it is the same as losing a spouse.
- Your pet is a part of your family, and your pet is related to as a member of the family. If someone is a single pet parent, and that's the only primary relationship they have in their house, that's as big a loss as losing a spouse. And there's research that supports that.
- For the person losing the pet, they go through all of the anticipatory grief if they realize the pet is sick, which is something that happens with a lot of pet death. They get older; they get sick, or even when they're young and they're diagnosed with something. You go through the same process, as you do with a human person in your house. The date of the diagnosis is devastating. The deciding what to do for treatment or not to treat is devastating. The taking care of them toward the end is something you do out of love and devotion and dedication. The being with them and the dying process is something you do just as you do with a person. There's a significant difference in that with pets, we can choose euthanasia, if it's needed, or if it's the kind thing to do. With humans, there's no ability to choose one's death, except for in a handful of states. And that's still very controversial, but it's not controversial for pets. Then the afterward-- you are literally leaving (if you've gone to euthanasia) the vet's office with empty arms. It is just as devastating as leaving a funeral and walking away from the casket going into the ground. It needs to have a memorial. It needs to have a process. There needs to be grace because you've just lost an integral part of your family.
- We get unconditional love from our animals. This is the one place of our life where our dogs don't get resentful. They don't say unkind things. They don't shut us out. It's pure, unconditional love.
- I think it's that unconditional love that we get. And it is so pure. And I think so many people have such giving loving hearts that we get so much out of caring for our pets, and the relationship that we have with our pets and to lose that. It's huge. It's a huge loss. But I don't think that we talk about it enough and so people don't understand why it can be so hard, or other people don't understand why we're having such a hard time.
- We know when you lose a spouse, for instance, and you walk in the door to the house at the end of the day, and they're not there, it's a huge loss. Spouses don't usually meet us at the door with their tails wagging and their tongues out and jumping on us and wanting to kiss us all over. It'd be nice if they wanted to kiss all over us. It’s the cat who insists on sitting on our laptops as we're working at home right now. They integrate themselves into all aspects of our lives. They sleep with us. I haven't had a moment in a bathroom in years without a dog, either in the bathroom or trying to be in the bathroom and sometimes there's three of them.
- Pets give us those eyes we can look into. And those ears we can stroke. children when they have a pet, it becomes a primary attachment. Similar to a parent, sorry, parents true. And they can tell their pet anything. So you've got that girl in fifth grade and she's got mean girl stuff going on; she goes home and she cries to her cat, or her guinea pig, or her hamster. Maybe her Snake, I'm not super fun to snakes, but I'll go with snakes. You know, that's, that's the attachment. And that's who looks at them.
- How incredibly loud the absence of a pet can be. Whether it's a cat, who when you come home, meows, or if you have hardwood floors, the sound of nails, clicking on the floor. All of those little things that we don't even think about. Little rituals-- when you go to the bathroom, or when you go to feed them. The absence is incredibly loud.
- And if they've been sick, and you've been caretaking them. All of those pieces go away too. So you lose that caregiver role, and you lose that additional relationship that builds over the caregiving. As you know, I just lost my Adele. We have in our house poodles because we have oodles of poodles, and if if you read my kid’s books, you will see there's a poodle on every page. Poodles go to funerals in the books that I write, as they should. They to doctor visits. So we had Adele and Walter, who is blind, and we've just added Gracie who's 20 and was living on the streets and weighs about four pounds, and we have Fred who's all the trouble and likes to take himself swimming. And then we have an extra one who is not a poodle. Adele was a rescue. We got her when she was maybe 10. And she chose us at at the pound, she had been a captive breeder. She could never walk normally because she'd been locked in the cage for so long, so her elbows and her knees never bent. until just before her death, she could never bend them. Because they were so stiff Shin PTSD, we could see from her dreams when we first got her. But she shows us and she was ours and she became a primary For me, she was my dog. And as she got sicker in the last six months or so, she needed to be fed. I had to take her out and hold her while she went to the bathroom. I did all the things that you do for a human, which I've done with spouses who have died. And now coming home, it's only been a few weeks. I come in and I've just stopped really searching for her to make sure she's okay, and not splattered on the floor somewhere. And I've just started to learn to sleep and not look for her in the covers to make sure she's okay. Because she had congestive heart failure. So it was hard, and she was hard to move. So positioning was important for her. All those roles went away when she died. And that's a big loss. That’s something that happens with pet people when they lose a pet. People who are not pet owners say, “Well, isn't that a relief?” Just like they say when someone human has died, “Oh, look, it's a relief. They're not in pain. They're not.” Oh, no! It's not a relief, because I'd really rather have her back here. Yeah, yeah, but I don't want her back in the condition she was in.
- It becomes our responsibility to honor and to let go. We want that attachment. We want that connection. And I think that can be really hard. I really believe that the ultimate form of love is really putting another animal and other human’s needs before own, even if it means that we're going to feel grief and sadness and loss. We want the people that we love, the animals that we love to have the best in life even if that means it's time to go.
- What are some things that people can do when they're in that grief process? Oftentimes we don't know what to do. We don't know how to talk about it. I think that people feel that it's different than losing a person, so we need to do the same things that we do when we lose a human that we love.
- We need to do anticipatory loss with them. As they are dying, getting sick and dying, we need to be preparing to say goodbye. We need to tell them the things we want to tell them. Love on them the way we want them to go out of this world, so that as they're leaving this world, they are still feeling those hands and hearing those sounds in their ears. When we are losing a pet who's had connections with other people, and because our dogs go to the office, they had lots of connections. I put it out publicly, even though it was a private loss. And we had some people come by who needed to come and snuggle with each of those critters before they died. I'd say goodbye, cry for them and do some sort of public memorials. And then when we are grieving ourselves, we need to honor that. And if other people are not, we need to call them on it. If you lost your spouse and someone's acting like you should be having just any other day, you're allowed to throw that grief card down and say, I'm grieving. Back it up, I need you to be more understanding. The same goes with pet loss. When you've lost a pet, you've lost a member of your family. And that needs to be honored. Yeah. I've had clients who've had ministers come out and actually do funerals in backyards for them. When you have a pet who's like a cat about town, (my sister had one), or now that we're in COVID, they may be the primary visitor for a couple of your neighbors who live alone. If that cat dies, that entire community needs to know that the cat is gone and needs to be able to come together and grieve together, because they all have a different relationship. But they all had a relationship with that pet. Just like a person.
- When you are the one who's had the pet loss, and you've got people around you who are not pet people, that's sometimes an issue because they tend to minimize it. They don't understand the depth of the loss, and they may expect you to continue to do just the way you were doing yesterday. And you have sort of an auspicious task of explaining to some extent, just how big a loss it is, with what energy you might have to give to them because when we're grieving, we lose energy. And we lose the ability sometimes to be kind to people because we're putting our energy into just getting through the day, and not crying over our little friend who didn't wake up with us that morning. Because when you lose a pet, you do the same thing. You wake up in the morning and realize all over again that they're dead for probably a month is normal for humans and pets. But you also are faced with having to tell someone this was a major for you, and this really counted. If you can't be kind, I need you to back it up or take your requests somewhere else because I don't have that much left in me right now. And you also need to monitor yourself because you may think you've got all the energy you normally do. And you don't.
- People need to have ceremonies and rituals. I'm a big believer in those. I'm not someone who goes along with humans saying that they shouldn't have funerals. And I don't think we should say that about pets either. We're going to be getting Adele's ashes back this week, and we'll be having a little service for her. And then her ashes will go with the ashes of the rest of them. We have a spot where we keep everybody together. And that's our Memorial spot for the folks in our family who have died four footed at two footed. I do advocate talking about the moments when you're missing your pets. If I wake up and I'm having that moment, I will say to whoever's around, “I just can't believe she's not here right now. This has really been a hard morning right now. And I need to take a little bit of a break.” And when I knew that We were putting her to sleep. I backed up my schedule some, so that I didn't have to start the week all over again at the same level of exuberance I normally do. I’m usually very high energy, and I do a lot throughout the week. The two weeks after her death I backed up a lot, because I needed that time.
- How do you manage grief? I use a lot of coping skills. I have another doodle on my lap. I'm stroking. I'm feeling the heartbeat. I've got a cold drink in my hand, which changes the way your hypothalamus is functioning. I can press hard on my leg which also activates a different part of your brain. I do all the things that you do for coping, to try and bring yourself out of the deep emotion and to stay focused and present. So kind of the same things you do with panic attack you breathe deep, breathe slow, you bring yourself totally so you are in control of your brain, and it's not in control of you.
- What might it look like if someone is grieving the loss of a pet, but they just may not be aware of it. My guess is that this the signs are similar or the same to when we lose somebody that we love when we're in grief and we don't even realize it. If I'm seeing someone who's not recognizing that they're grieving their pet, I will point out some of the somatic signs that they are the not sleeping well, craving carbohydrates, confused, short tempered, lack of concentration, fatigue. It's not being tired when you are grieving, you are fatigued, you just want that blanket fort and a blankie and a pillow to lay across, and probably a Hershey bar or something right? Or it's hot now. So maybe an ice cream bar. That would be where I would go Ben and Jerry's, right. So I bring those to the forefront and say now let's talk about how that relates to grief. Because what I'm seeing and hearing, is you saying that you're not feeling yourself. What I'm seeing is you're feeling grief. And I know you just lost your beloved friend. Can you tell me how these things might tie together? And I leave that sort of as an open ended and let them see if they can tie it together. Typically they do, and then they say I Didn't want it. I didn't want to know it hurt that much. Yeah, I didn't want it to have to hurt. I'm feeling guilty because I made the decision. I'm feeling guilty because I made the decision. And then my vet wouldn't let me go in with my pet. Which is something if you've got a sick pet, my strongest suggestion is that you check with your vet to make sure they will allow you to, if you have to make that decision, and if they don't find someone who will. Because that's an important part of saying goodbye. Being able to be the last loving arms that your pet is in.
- When somebody’s pet dies in our family we send flowers and cards because that pet is a part of the family. When I know that there's a child losing a pet, I will try to get a small stuffed animal sent to them so they have something to cuddle up with. Immediately after, I like I get stuffed animals for kids going to funerals, because they need something soft to hold on to and focus on. And now there's these wonderful ones that heat up and they smell they have like menthol, and they're just so snuggly and so soft. And I like those for that reason. I think we need to really be aware that this is a loss. And I think for those who are having the loss or have had a loss, they need to be able to let themselves grieve in the way that they need to. If it brings up past losses, they need to also let those come forward. Frequently we adopt just one pet, but lots of us take sibling sets, just like human adoption. I've had clients who've had siblings and they lose one and then they know that the other one is at some point also going to die. So they're kind of grieving, but they're also holding out hope that the other one is going to last a little longer. And then whammo, they've got a double loss, so then we prepare for things as we would for any other kind of loss--the anniversaries and the holidays. If you're a single pet parent, your pets are part of your holidays. I like to have people put, an ornament on the tree for someone who's died if they do Christmas, or a special candle on the menorah, if it's Hanukkah, or whatever holiday it is for you honor those who have died. The church I attend has All Souls Day. I think pets belong up there just along with people. Because that's a significant loss in that year and it needs to be marked and talked about. All the rituals are important; all the talking, all the acknowledging, and then all the happy remembering. We don't want to sit just in the grief; we want to also move into it. We were very lucky to have them in our lives. We need to let go of any guilt or holding on for whatever decisions we made. Because certainly making decisions about a pet who is sick is different than humans—especially for older pets.
WAYS TO COMMUNICATE YOUR LOSS; YOUR NEEDS; YOUR CONDOLENCES
- If you can't be kind, I need you to back it up or take your requests somewhere else because I don't have that much left in me right now. And you also need to monitor yourself because you may think you've got all the energy you normally do. And you don't.
- What are some specific things that people can say when they don't know what to say? They're signing a card. They're on social media. Can you give people some phrases,
- when I'm sending a condolence card, I always reference something-- a memory of that person or that pet. So for Waldo, you know, I’m so missing his little face, and it was just amazing to see how much he loved you. He was so blessed to be in your family and to be that loved. That's an important message to hear when you are missing someone And you may be feeling guilty. I gave my creature the best home possible. I will say things like-- some people may not understand, but I know you lost a family member. I can only imagine how much it hurts to wake up in the morning with them not there. Just know that I'm thinking about you. I wish I could come over and be with you. Freaking COVID! just know that I'm there with you. Yeah, if you want to call, or if it's a good time, I will call but we're all missing your friend.
GUEST BIO
Jill Johnson-Young, LCSW is a dynamic and engaging speaker who loves teaching both professional and community groups about dementia, death and dying, and grief and loss. She is the CEO of Central Counseling Services in Riverside, California, where she is also a clinical therapist. She is a certified Grief Recovery Facilitator after spending more than a decade with hospice as a medical social worker and as a director of social workers, chaplains and grief staff. She holds a BA from UC Riverside and her MSW from the University of South Florida. Jill has authored three children’s grief books and an adult grief workbook with more in process, and created Your Path Through Grief, a year-long, comprehensive grief support program which includes resources for therapists.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Jill’ Links
Website-- www.yourpaththroughgrief.com, https://www.facebook.com/grieftalker/
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Riversidedementiasupport/,
LinkedIn--https://www.linkedin.com/in/jilljohnsonyoung/.
My pet is sick: It’s time to say goodbye by Jill Johnson-Young
Someone is sick: How do I say Goodbye? By Jill Johnson-Young
Someone I love just died: What happens now? By Jill Johnson-Young
Your own path through grief; A workbook for your journey to recovery by Jill Johnson-Young
Amazon link for Jill’s books-- https://www.amazon.com/Jill-A.-Johnson-Young-LCSW/e/B07NPT5NYQ%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share
Episode 47: 20+ ways to manage change and loss through the holidays with Jill Johnson-Young https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-47/
Pet Loss and Grief Resources--https://resources.bestfriends.org/article/pet-loss-and-grief-resources
Pet Loss at Home—https://petlossathome.com/about/
Losing a Pet--https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/coping-with-losing-a-pet.htm
Pet Loss Support Hotline—https://vet.tufts.edu/petloss/pet-loss-support-hotline-support-group-link/
Resources--https://www.petloss.com/
Patricia’s Links
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
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Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
I Can Do Hard Things: Friendships Woes, Attachment and Healing
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We CAN navigate through difficult times. HSPs often have challenges in relationships. I talk about friendship wounds and how my attachment injuries show up in relationships and how I do my own healing work in and out of the relationship. I give 10 touch points for relationships, and ways to evaluate your relationships. I talk about how we respond to stress and how we’re being impacted by COVID right now.
HIGHLIGHTS
- When we have attachment wounds or attachment injuries, they will come up in relationships
- COVID is going to pull for more attachment injuries
Compassion for ourselves and others
- Honor your feelings
- Identify what you want
- Can the relationship tolerate feedback or conflict?
- Get curious about what might be going on for the other person (instead of making up a story in your head)
- Own your part
- What are you wanting the other person to tell you? That’s what you need to tell yourself
- Notices tendencies in relationships. Is it reciprocal?
- You don’t have to abandon the relationship. Can you step back and give it some time?
- Are you being clear and making your wants and needs clear to the other person?
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truth-teller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
When Your Kid Doesn’t Want to Let You Down
GUEST
Daniel Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
As a follow up to Bonus Episode 78, my son Daniel shares his perspective about how we as a family handled him doing things we didn’t agree with, and the rules we set when he moved back home. Daniel talks about the rush he would get sneaking around, and how that changed when we knew what was going on. He talks about how it felt to hear we were disappointed in his behavior. I also learned something while we were recording this. Daniel shares what changed and where he’s at now.
GUEST BIO
Daniel Young is a creative, quirky and tattoo-loving student who is working on his Associate’s degree in Studio Arts and Design. He writes his own music and his music can be found on Spotify and iTunes under the name Yung Dan. In his free time, Daniel can be found hanging out with his friends, creating music or tormenting (in a loving way), his dog Gracie.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Daniel’s links
Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/_yungdan_/?hl=en
Spotify—https://open.spotify.com/artist/6fa1ZmkIDPwViwS4OLO2Oc?si=7B7Aqo2WSWCVDNS2X1DNGw
iTunes--https://music.apple.com/us/artist/yung-dan/1418632509
Bonus episode 78—When Your Kid (or Anyone) Doesn’t Behave the Way You Want Them To https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-78/
Patricia’s links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
When Your Kid (or anyone) Doesn’t Behave They Way You Want Them To
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Our son engaged in behavior that didn’t align with our values. How did we navigate this? When our son moved back home, we were specific about what we expected from him (and we put it in writing). It’s been almost 2 years since this started. Where are we at now? My son shares his perspective. How do we evaluate if we’re overstepping in relationships, or if we’re over invested in what the other person does? What does love and support look like?
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truth-teller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
A Research Scientist Shares How HSPs can Regulate Their Depression, Anxiety, and Negative Thinking
GUEST
Jadzia Jagiellowicz, Ph.D.
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Dr. Jadzia Jagiellowicz has been a scientific researcher for over 15 years, and she conducts research on HSPs. She has studied the biological basis of temperament. She talks about the relationship between depression and HSPs; why HSPs may ruminate about negative things, and what to do when we imagine the worst-case-scenario. Dr. Jagiellowicz talks about being socially awkward and being a deep thinker. We also break down what happens with COVID-19, when people don’t honor our need for social distancing.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Dr. Jagiellowicz has studied the biological basis of temperament
- She also helps people learn how to regulate bodily sensations and emotions
- Researchers found 2 types of genes
- Serotonin transporter
- 8 different types of dopamine genes (10 genetic polymorphisms)
- It is rarely that just one gene is tied to one function—instead it is a constellation of genes
- The candidate gene— serotonin transporter—is related to depression
- Children that had poor childhoods (the parents/caregivers did not know what the Highly Sensitive Children needed to thrive) show higher rates of depression for HSPs
- As HSPs learn about the trait, they feel better
- The Default Mode Network which can be seen in brain scans—this is what happens when you’re not consciously thinking about things—you are just aware in the present moment
- Research suggests that the default mode network is on when we are not thinking about anything in particular i.e. daydreaming; it is suppressed when we are working on a particular task
- HSPs are constantly taking in details from their environment (we process more)
- This is often linked to past history of negative things
- We can do 2 things about this—
- Talk back to the negative thoughts
- Write down (in a few sentences) the facts of the situation that caused your negative thoughts and feelings
- Write down your thoughts and feelings
- Talk back
- That was then, this is now
- Don’t make your own predictions
- Look at possibilities not probabilities
- Calm down bodily sensations—just stay with it
- EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques or tapping)
- EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing)
- Tai Chi
- Meditation
- Working with a specialist
- If you look at a Highly Sensitive Baby who is exposed to a Jack-in-the-Box, and it scares them, the infant stores the fear in their body
- Our bodies have stored fears (tenseness of muscles, neck, visceral organs, stomach, etc.)
- When something reminds you of something fearful, your brain/body has stored past fearful memories
- If your boss calls you in
- If you don’t have past negative experiences, you won’t have a reaction
- If you have past negative experiences, you might start worrying about why you are being called in
- We store things more intensely in memory because we have more intense emotions than less-sensitive people (the negative interpretations are stored as a package of bodily sensations and the thoughts that go with them
- Research shows :
- Depressed people when they given a negative word, they will retrieve other negative words from their memory
- Non-depressed people when given a negative word, will retrieve positive AND negative words from memory
- HSPs are more affected by environment, but we can control our reaction to our environment
- Research into temperament looked at infants who were 6 months old—inhibited babies and highly reactive babies
- Highly Sensitive infants reacted differently than NON-Highly Sensitive infants
- Highly Sensitive Parents may be more in-tune with their HS children
- Your level of sensitivity will change your ability to get along in the environment
- 3 types of Sensitive People (and no HSP is exactly the same)
- Low sensitive
- Medium sensitive
- High sensitive
- Being detail oriented, having deeper processing and empathy can cause problems if one is not able to figure out what part of these traits are helpful—especially in the workplace
- Imagine we’re in a foreign country, so we’re learning a whole new way of being
- HSPs can benefit when we “remember our audience”
- Talk back to the negative thoughts
- COVID-19
- We can slow down
- Use our analysis and judgement
- We are taking in a lot of information, and we’re looking for signs of danger—this can lead to overwhelm
- If we can remember to use our gift of compassion it will help
- Most people are attuned to the negative but HSPs are born with a heightened sense of vigilance
- Every HSP is different
- How much they can deal with and where to draw boundaries
- How important is it for you to fit in (and to accept the consequences)
- Jagiellowicz believes HSPs are more different from each other than non-HSPs, since each HSP is more affected by whatever environment they were exposed to
- This is where the intersection of being an HSP and environment come into play
- In a study using the Parental Bonding Inventory, which measures/assesses how people think they were parented, the key things that parents did which harmed their HSP children
- Overintrusiveness
- Neglect
- In a study using the Parental Bonding Inventory, which measures/assesses how people think they were parented, the key things that parents did which harmed their HSP children
GUEST BIO
BA in Psychology and Business Administration
Bed in Education
Phd in Psychology
Jadzia Jagiellowicz worked as a management consultant and as an educator. As an educator she taught and coached intellectually gifted students and provided consulting services to other teachers
Later in life Dr. Jagiellowicz completed her Ph.D. in Psychology at Stony Brook University in Long Island, NY under the supervision of Elaine Aron. Dr. Jagiellowicz has spent the past 15 years as a scientific researcher investigating high sensitivity (called sensory processing sensitivity in the scientific literature). She also studied molecular biology (genetics) at Smith University in Massachusetts.
She provides individual coaching for HSPs through web-based and phone consultations to clients world-wide and also conducts scientific research on HSPs, including the first-ever research scanning HSPs’ brains. One of her specialty areas is how the biological part of being an HSP interacts with an HSP’s childhood and how that affects HSPs as adults.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Temperament Advisor: Highly Sensitive People
www.highlysensitivesociety.com
book a free consultation: calendly.com/jdyjaj36
Twitter: hsperson_hsp
FB: Highly Sensitive
The Emotional Brain by Lisa Feldman Barrett
YouTube—Lisa Feldman Barrett https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=lisa+feldman+barrett
The Highly Sensitive Brain: Research, Assessment, and Treatment of Sensory Processing Sensitivity edited by Bianca Acevedo, Ph.D.
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
A Black Man’s Experience in America part 2
GUEST
Marcus Stricklin
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Marcus shares honestly and vulnerably his experiences being a black man in America. This is a heartfelt and open account, and Marcus wants to start a dialogue on how we can move forward together. He talks about how black people are portrayed and how biases are formed. People are afraid of the unknown, and Marcus wants to change this.
GUEST BIO
Marcus Stricklin is a married father of 5, a writer, and a person who likes to make people laugh. He is a filmmaker, an author, and longs to be a TV writer.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Marcus’s links
Facebook: @MarcusAStricklin
Instagram: @Marcusthetoken
Tik Tok: @Stricklinfamily
Twitter: @Marcusthetoken
Brown eyes and blue eyes Racism experiment Children Session - Jane Elliott--https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGvoXeXCoUY
Being Black with Jane Elliot--https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4yrg7vV4a5o
BBS Percentage of Fatal Shootings Compared to the Population by Ethnicity https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-52877678
Movie—Sorry to Bother You—clip “use your white voice”-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T5X3cu1B87k
White Fragility: Why it’s so hard for white people to talk about racism by Robin Diangelo
So you want to talk about race by Ijeoma Oluo
The color of law by Richard Rothstein
The hate you give by Angie Thomas
On the other side of freedom by DeRay McKeeson
Locked up in the land of the free on Netflix (trailer): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h64qugj_iDg
Teach us All Documentary (trailer): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I5hE2Xm_dDQ
When they see us—Netflix
Seven Seconds—Netflix
Mudbound—Netflix
12 years a slave
Fruityvale Station
The Sun is also a star
Let it fall
Strong Island on Netflix
The sugar-coated language of white fragility--https://vernamyers.com/the-sugarcoated-language-of-white-fragility/?fbclid=IwAR0YX8SXtjlR3IH-M6kWNOchF7XzRrxe7359r8ngx7UsjQbPURpVmugsVeA
Anti-racist resources--https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PrAq4iBNb4nVIcTsLcNlW8zjaQXBLkWayL8EaPlh0bc/mobilebasic?fbclid=IwAR0zDKsavKYnsHnKhlkoBwN0AFzMplhq6MQE5ay8fDQfQeHSsNn8lfMqaMg
Patricia’s links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
When We Allow Others To Put Their Biases On Us
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
There are 2 specific recent incidences where I allowed someone else’s limitation or belief to be put on me, and I accepted it. I made someone else’s belief mine. As a result, I made myself smaller until I realized I was doing this. I talk about a relationship that I’ve pulled back in as I’m navigating through this. A similar situation came up in another relationship, and when the other person responded in an amazing way, I realized that it wasn’t really about me.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truth-teller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
This is Jen Podcast—episode called Only listen to this if you feel fat and gross--https://podbay.fm/podcast/1508041760/e/1592000421
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
Can Too Much Empathy Be Bad?
GUEST
Lee Chaix McDonough, MSW, MSPH, PCC
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Can too much empathy negatively impact our relationships? Lee talks about the differences between therapy and coaching and how our identify can get fused with an event. We talk about the gifts of connection as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and how every strength has a shadow side. Lee talks about how she uses meaning, mindset and mindfulness in her business. She also shares a personal experience of being told she was too smart, and how this impacted her and how she healed.
GUEST BIO
Lee Chaix McDonough is the CEO and Founder of Coach With Clarity, a membership site for intuitive, heart-centered coaches. She is also the host of the Coach with Clarity podcast and author of the #1 Amazon book, ACT On Your Business.
After over a decade as a clinical social worker and public health professional, Lee became credentialed as a coach through the International Coach Federation and now provides ICF-accredited continuing coach education for intuitive, heart-centered coaches. Her Coach with Clarity® framework fuses meaning, mindset, and mindfulness with grounded intuition and solid business strategy to help coaches and clients excel at entrepreneurship and transform their lives. Lee lives in North Carolina with her husband, two sons, and her pug Phineas.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Lee’s links
Website: https://www.coachwithclarity.com
Facebook: @coachwithclarity
Instagram: @coachwithclarity
LinkedIn: @ lcmcdonough
ACT On Your Business: Braving the storms of entrepreneurship and creating success through meaning, mindset, and mindfulness by Lee Chaix McDonough
Patricia’s links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
Online HSP Course Starts 6/16/20
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
If you’ve been thinking about getting extra support during these unprecedented times, I have a few spots left in the Online HSP Course, which will start in less than a week. We talk about mindfulness, self-compassion, identifying negative messages and turning them into superpowers, perfectionism, boundaries, embracing our emotions, self-care is non-negotiable, communication, authenticity and vulnerability, creating a lifestyle that honors the HSP, and expectations and disappointments.
HIGHLIGHTS
- The Course is 10 weeks long, and meets weekly for an hour and 20 minutes
- We will be meeting via Zoom from 10:30 am -11:50 am PDT
- There are 14 videos for this course, and every week, I send out an e-mail with at least 1 video and prompts (questions to think about the topic), and sometimes links to Ted Talks or other resources that are relevant.
- Then during group each week everyone shares about the topic, or whatever else they want to
- We will take a group consensus and see if we want to incorporate what’s happening in the world right now, since we are in the middle of being a part of history
- This is a supportive, nurturing experience, where you really get to honor your HSP traits
- I will be providing education weekly, but it’s about what happens in the group, which is a very powerful experience
- If you want more information, you can go here to learn more https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
A Black Man’s Experience in America
GUEST
Marcus Stricklin
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Marcus talks about teaching his black son what to do if he is pulled over by police. He talks about language used to describe a white school shooter vs. a black protester. Marcus wasn’t familiar with the term code switching, but he knew exactly what it was, and he calls it something else. Marcus talks about police officers coming into his home when his daughter was having a seizure, and putting their hands on their guns after seeing him. We talk about repeated trauma he experienced that he internalized as shame due to repeated abuse of power by law enforcement.
GUEST BIO
Marcus Stricklin is a married father of 5, a writer, and a person who likes to make people laugh. He is a filmmaker, an author, and longs to be a TV writer.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Marcus’s links
Facebook: @MarcusAStricklin
Instagram: @Marcusthetoken
Tik Tok: @Stricklinfamily
Twitter: @Marcusthetoken
Brown eyes and blue eyes Racism experiment Children Session - Jane Elliott--https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGvoXeXCoUY
Being Black with Jane Elliot--https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4yrg7vV4a5o
BBS Percentage of Fatal Shootings Compared to the Population by Ethnicity https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-52877678
Movie—Sorry to Bother You—clip “use your white voice”-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T5X3cu1B87k
White Fragility: Why it’s so hard for white people to talk about racism by Robin Diangelo
So you want to talk about race by Ijeoma Oluo
The color of law by Richard Rothstein
The hate you give by Angie Thomas
On the other side of freedom by DeRay McKeeson
Locked up in the land of the free on Netflix (trailer): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h64qugj_iDg
Teach us All Documentary (trailer): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I5hE2Xm_dDQ
When they see us—Netflix
Seven Seconds—Netflix
Mudbound—Netflix
12 years a slave
Fruityvale Station
The Sun is also a star
Let it fall
Strong Island on Netflix
The sugar-coated language of white fragility--https://vernamyers.com/the-sugarcoated-language-of-white-fragility/?fbclid=IwAR0YX8SXtjlR3IH-M6kWNOchF7XzRrxe7359r8ngx7UsjQbPURpVmugsVeA
Anti-racist resources--https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PrAq4iBNb4nVIcTsLcNlW8zjaQXBLkWayL8EaPlh0bc/mobilebasic?fbclid=IwAR0zDKsavKYnsHnKhlkoBwN0AFzMplhq6MQE5ay8fDQfQeHSsNn8lfMqaMg
Patricia’s links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Leading From The Heart and Reclaiming Yourself
GUEST
Amber Rochelle
EPISODE OVERVIEW
The Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) often leads from the heart. We often experience the world differently than non-HSPs. It’s important to reclaim our strengths and identify the gifts we have. Prioritizing our relationship with ourselves and shedding the messages we get from society about the values of being strong is part of the process of becoming empowered in our traits. Many of our strengths are not as easily seen or measured, but they are crucial and central to how we show up in the world.
HIGHLIGHTS
- HSPs tend to lead from the heart
- We experience the world in a different way
- It’s important for us to reclaim ourselves and our strengths
- Our wounding often tells us that we don’t fit in
- Perfectionism can be a way for us to feel like we’re in control
- It can make us feel like we are enough
- Having the illusion of control can be a way to measure self-worth
- We are very empathic and can tune into the energy of a room
- We have the ability to perceive at a deep level
- We can be very intuitive
- We have deep feelings and we process at a deep level
- We are healers
GUEST BIO
Amber Rochelle is an Intuitive Life Coach and Empowerment Mentor for Highly Sensitive Empaths. Known as “The Sensitive Badass®”, Amber’s mission is to change the narrative in our culture around the word “sensitive” while guiding women OWN their superpower, cultivate fierce self love, and take their place as the author of their own life story. Thus unlocking the soul confidence needed to curate a purposeful and badass way of living and spread their healing magic with a world that so desperately needs them.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and blacksheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Amber’s Links
Website— https://www.amberrochelle.com/
Facebook--www.facebook.com/msamberrochelle
Instagram--www.instagram.com/msamberrochelle/
Facebook--www.facebook.com/groups/supersensitives/
YouTube--www.youtube.com/c/AmberRochelle
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
Can We Laugh At Our Embarrassing Moments?
GUEST
Joanne Jarret
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Joanne shares a few of her embarrassing stories, and we talk about why it’s important to be able to laugh at ourselves, and how this increases connection and can break shame and isolation. We talk about what internal overstimulation is, and the difference between ruminating and working something out. We explore the difference between processing an interaction and gossiping. We also talk about physical touch and boundaries with Highly Sensitive People.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Joanne has designed women’s loungewear
- She has the podcast Fancy Free
- She shares at least 2 embarrassing stories
- Joanne would compare her messy insides with others’
- She’s trying to figure out if she’s a Highly Sensitive Introvert or Extrovert
- Shame says, I am fundamentally flawed
- Guilt says, I did something wrong
- Why it’s important to bust shame
- She asks about what she calls procrastination/laziness
- I talk about being a perfectionist with nothing to show for it
- We talk about cultural expectations that value success and doing
- We talk about the “soft skills” and gifts that HSPs have that aren’t always as easy to see, but are incredibly valuable
- Joanne talks about hitting a wall
- Can an HSP have a high pain threshold and still be an HSP?
- Joanne shares her superpower, and I’ve never heard it verbalized like this before, but it resonates
- We talk about HSPs and if they all need physical space
- We talk about boundaries
- Joanne asks what internal overstimulation looks likes
- We explore rumination vs. working something out
- We talk about the need to process information, but it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s gossip
GUEST BIO
Joanne is a family physician turned stay-at-home mom with two teenage daughters. She blogs at Cozy Clothes Blog and podcasts at Fancy Free Podcast. She loves to tell embarrassing, funny stories on herself to make others feel less alone in their imperfection. She has her own women's lounge wear line, Shelfie Shoppe, that sells super cozy street-legal pajamas with comfy shelf bras for some support and coverage. She is married to a whip smart, mischievous husband, Scott, who always keeps her laughing (and doing the occasional chair-side dental assisting). She and her whole extended family recently moved from Reno, NV to rural Montana.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Joanne’s Links
http://fancyfreepodcast.com/
https://cozyclothesblog.com/
https://shelfieshoppe.com/
https://www.instagram.com/ivegotdishues/ https://www.facebook.com/Fancy-Free-Podcast-111290793539075/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Episode 044—The traits of being a Highly Sensitive Person, and what it means to be fully integrated with Jacqueline Strickland https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-44/
Episode 007—The 5 Love Languages with Tom Murray https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/5306-2/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Regrets, Healing and How to Imperfectly Set Boundaries During COVID-19
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
I have some regrets about releasing some episodes when I was feeling hurt and reactive. We’re all doing the best we can during COVID-19, and I want to focus on my own healing. I didn’t set boundaries when my kids and their girlfriends came home, so I imperfectly set boundaries and had a little meltdown. How do we bring compassion and self-compassion in during challenging times? What types of things can we do for ourselves to create comfort?
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
How We Heal When We’ve Been Blindsided Part 2
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
As I continue to process being dropped from a group, listeners have asked how to NOT take things personally, and how to not get stuck. I’m finding I’m wanting to doubt my experience—maybe it wasn’t that bad; maybe I’m exaggerating. I’m also feeling grief and disappointment. How do we hold compassion for ALL parts of ourselves because we will be disappointed by others, and we will disappoint others. I share the tools I’m using to have a sense of comfort and reassurance, and how I’m asking for support.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Brene Brown’s podcast Unlocking Us Anxiety, Calm over/under functioning--https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-on-anxiety-calm-over-under-functioning/
Brene Brown’s podcast Unlocking Us with Harriet Lerner I’m sorry. How to apologize and why it matters--https://brenebrown.com/podcast/harriet-lerner-and-brene-im-sorry-how-to-apologize-why-it-matters/
Episode 50 with Sara Buino https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-50/
NARM—NeuroAffective Relational Model--https://narmtraining.com/
Dead to Me Netlix
Corona Virus Online Therapy--https://www.coronavirusonlinetherapy.org/
Diane Poole-Heller—Somatic Attachment and Trauma Expert https://dianepooleheller.com/
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
How We Heal When We’ve Been Blindsided
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
I gave feedback, and I was dropped from a group I had joined, and was told the group is not a good fit for me. I found out I was ejected from a colleague. There was no invitation to discuss fit, or the decision to drop me from the group. I talk about the feelings I’m having. I feel silenced, and it stinks! How do we honor our feelings, and create empowerment for ourselves? How do we assess if others have the capacity to work through conflict? How can we be present for ourselves and get the support we need.
HIGHLIGHTS
- What happens when we speak up and our message is not received as we intended
- We don’t feel seen or heard
- Someone makes a decision on our behalf without our feedback
- How do we evaluate is this about me, or the other person, or a combination?
- How can I honor the feelings that are coming up?
- How do we work through this so we feel empowered
- It’s my intention to be neutral; however, I’m feeling angry; I’m feeling hurt and I’m feeling blindsided
- With COVID we’re under tremendous stress, and it may be impacting how we react
- How do we have compassion
- I have a right to have a voice
- I have a right to have my feelings
- There was no opportunity to work together around what I was feeling
- Is this about a limitation on the other person’s part
- I gave feedback about how I was experiencing the group
- I was told by the facilitator of the mastermind, I feel like no matter what I do, it won’t satisfy you because this is about your fear and your mindset
- I felt that my feelings weren’t being honored
- There is no room for discussion with this type of a statement
- I tend to be very mindful of the words I use when I’m giving feedback to someone
- I’m wondering if…
- Is it possible that…
- I don’t like to tell others what I think is going on with them or what I think they should do
- This feels very dishonoring
- I felt disrespected, and if I responded, then I was that person
- It didn’t allow for a dialogue, or for me to have a voice in this situation
- With my clients and friends I often ask, “How did that land with you?”
- I want to invite dialogue when there are bumps
- When we’re talking about uncomfortable things, we need to have open communication
- I was ejected from the Mastermind and the closed fb group
- The facilitator of the mastermind told me he didn’t think I was a good fit for the group and dropped me without giving me a heads up or discussing it with me
- I was blindsided
- I didn’t have a chance to download files from the group since I thought I’d be in the group until the end of the year
- I would have wanted to be part of the decision or be part of the discussion
- It’s not uncommon for us to think about what we may have said or done to cause this to happen—it’s NOT about me
- How do I figure out how to process through this?
- Brene Brown’s podcast Unlocking Us—
- It’s very negating and it doesn’t give us a voice when someone oversteps and does not apologize
- I’m not sorry; I don’t regret what I shared
- I have a right to my opinion, to my feelings
- In order for us to continue to share vulnerability with others, they need to have the capacity to be present for us
- I need you to hear me; you need to get where I’m coming from.
- You don’t have to agree with me
- You need to be willing to look at what I’m saying
- If you can’t meet me where I’m at, then that doesn’t work for me
- In the past, I would have made this about me—I did something wrong. I didn’t. I’m really clear about that
- We can check—is the person hearing me, seeing me, and are they willing to work through bumps with us
- COVID-19 is testing all of us, and many of us are at our limit
- The themes I’m seeing this week include
- Loneliness
- Irritability
- Wanting things to go back to normal but there isn’t a new normal
- Feeling like we’ve had enough
- We want a sense of safety and comfort and unity
- Brene Brown’s podcast episode on overfunctioning and underfunctiong
- Who can I trust
- Who’s in charge?
- I don’t like when decisions are made without me being involved
- I am a safe person and I create safety around me
- I choose who to be vulnerable with and who I’m not going to be vulnerable with
- We choose how much we’re going to give to people
- This is where we take our power back
- I anticipate I will feel grief and sadness
- When we start talking about things, it allows old feelings to surface
- If we allow the discomfort to come up, we get to feel it, and we heal it. It moves through us
- It’s ok to be a feeling person
- We don’t want dead guy goals of not feeling
- How do we lean into it and embrace it
- Can we just allow it—whatever comes up
- Do we go into a collapse mode?
- If you are getting messages about it not being ok how you’re showing up in the world
- Relationships are going to be more tenuous right now with COVID
- How can you empower yourself if someone isn’t meeting your needs?
- Being in relationship means there’s room for a back-and-forth to work on things
- It’s not going to be perfect
- How do we pace with others?
- If we want more engagement in relationships with others, we can be mindful of the pacing and match the energy of who we’re with
- Many relationships have shifted during COVID because some people are more available, and some people are less available
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Brene Brown’s podcast Unlocking Us Anxiety, Calm over/under functioning--https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-on-anxiety-calm-over-under-functioning/
Brene Brown’s podcast Unlocking Us with Harriet Lerner I’m sorry. How to apologize and why it matters--https://brenebrown.com/podcast/harriet-lerner-and-brene-im-sorry-how-to-apologize-why-it-matters/
Bonus episode 43—I want more; you want less. How to navigate competing needs in relationships https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-43/
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
Is What I’m Experiencing Right Now Normal?
GUEST
Laura Reagan, LCSW-C
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We’re all going through something traumatic; This doesn’t mean we are all traumatized. Laura Reagan, host of Therapy Chat Podcast, and a trauma therapist, talks about our innate threat response system; what it looks like, and what types of movement can be helpful based on our trauma response. We talk about attachment ruptures, wanting to feel safe, messages we may have received about our bodies, and self-compassion. Laura talks about indicators to assess if we need to seek help.
HIGHLIGHTS
- We are all going through something traumatic
- That doesn’t mean we’re all traumatized
- Humans are animals, and we have an innate threat response system
- Fight
- Flight
- Freeze
- Submit
- Attach Cry
- If we’re feeling angry, we’re probably in fight
- If we want to escape, we’re probably in flight
- If we’re experiencing agitation, anxiety, feeling stuck, we’re probably in freeze
- If we’re pushing through and carrying on, we’re in submit
- If we are wanting help, then we may be in attach cry
- We may be wanting to numb by using substances, the internet, comfort eating
- Some people who have recovered from eating disorders, or other disorders may be concerned that they are relapsing due to shifts in behaviors
- If we’ve gained weight, we need to have self-compassion. We may be worrying about having a new problem if we’ve gained extra weight
- Our moods may be up and down, calm, accepting, freaking out, jumping out of our skin, sadness, loss, irritability, lack of focus, lethargy
- We may feel a need to compare our situation to others, which can negate our experience
- We may be missing our connection with friends, family members, parents
- Those people who have loved ones in hospitals, care facilities, nursing homes, may be experiencing loss and grief since they can’t visit them
- We may be experiencing attachment ruptures
- Our attachment narrative may come up
- We want to feel that we’re going to be safe
- We can do that for each other
- We can allow conversations about how we’re really doing
- Loving and gentle movement is really important
- If we’re stuck/frozen, we may need to curl up with a cozy blanket and cocoon for now. When we’re ready, we can do stretching, or exercises that are low to the ground
- If we’re agitated, anxious, irritable, we can do jumping jacks, kick boxing, jump rope, running
- Dancing is a great way to calm the body
- We may be experiencing more self-criticism—sometimes this is how we distract from the pain
- Many of us got the message that our bodies are right, and that they need to be different
- We may use food if we have attachment injuries
- Self-compassion is SO important
- Carl Rogers said, “The curious paradox is that, when I accept myself as I am, then I can change.”
- You might have a trauma history and not be aware of it
- Having a mother who was depressed
- Witnessing domestic violence, pushing, shoving, hitting
- You might be having a hard time coping now because past trauma is being activated
- Unresolved grief may be activated
- There are many support groups for grief, eating disorders, substance abuse, partial hospitalization programs, therapy, coaching
- Indicators you may want to seek help
- Difficulty with sleep—falling asleep, staying asleep, nightmares
- If you have an eating disorder, old behaviors may start surfacing
- If you have a history of substance abuse—having the urge to use again. There are online 12-step programs
- Depressive symptoms
- feeling sad, and not being able to shake it off
- not getting out of bed for a few days
- can’t work
- not able to engage in your primary relationships with your partner or children
- feeling suicidal—call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-273-8255
- You may need help short-term to help with functioning
- If you feel like you shouldn’t ask for help, or you shouldn’t need help
- Often trauma hits after the traumatic experience is over
- PTSD—recurrent depression, depressing thoughts, intrusive thoughts, dreams
- The sooner you address PTSD, the better the outcome
GUEST BIO
Laura Reagan, LCSW-C is an integrative trauma therapist and owner of the Baltimore Annapolis Center for Integrative Healing in Severna Park, Maryland. She uses mindfulness, expressive arts and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy in her work with adults who have experienced childhood trauma. She offers clinical supervision in Maryland and clinical consultation online and in person. Her practice website is: https://bahealing.com. Laura is also the host of Therapy Chat podcast, which focuses on trauma, attachment, relationships, self compassion, perfectionism, mindfulness and complementary and alternative approaches to psychotherapy. Therapy Chat can be heard anywhere podcasts are found and at https://therapychatpodcast.com.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Laura’s links
Twitter--https://twitter.com/lauralcswc
Twitter----https://twiter.com/therapychatpod
Instagram: @lauralcswc and @therapychatpod
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauralcswc/
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/TherapyChatPod/
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Traumatherapyconsulting/
Heather Tuba Trauma Informed Support for Parnters of Survivors--https://heathertuba.com/
Kristen Neff--https://self-compassion.org/
Patricia’s links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Flourishing As A Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) During Times of Stress
GUEST
Alane Freund, MS, MA, LMFT
EPISODE OVERVIEW
During times of stress, the Highly Sensitive Person can fare better than the other 80% when we cultivate environments that help us flourish, as well as being mindful about what we consume. Overstimulation can look like anxiety, and HSPs can be misdiagnosed with anxiety & depression. Alane talks about optimal levels of stimulation, and she believes that prevention for anxiety is the key. She shares what she does to prevent anxiety. Alane also provides more than 15 resources for HSPs.
HIGHLIGHTS
- For teens and men, we can refer to being an HSP as having a finely tuned nervous system or having a highly reactive brain
- There are 1.6 Billion Highly Sensitive People
- Anxiety comes from overstimulation
- The #1 treatment for anxiety is prevention
- We need to learn what brings on anxiety
- We want to find our optimal level of arousal
- Research studies show that Rhesus monkeys who had higher reactive brains did better when assigned to a Rhesus monkey who was a skilled mother. These monkeys became leaders.
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- The reactive baby monkeys who were assigned to less skilled mothers had higher incidences of sickness and injury
- Highly Sensitive Children who encounter stressors (marital conflict, shame, etc.) have higher incidences of illness and injury
- For those 80% of children who don’t have the trait, andare exposed to stress, most had a flat line meaning they were almost not impacted by stressors at all
- When a Highly Sensitive Child (HSC) has a parent or caregiver who assists the child in managing stressors, those HSCs have better outcomes and are much less likely to have problems compared to children without the trait exposed to the same stressors
- Those HSCs that have many stressors (or high stress) in their environments are more likely to experience illness or injuries, including adult anxiety or depression.
- However, HSPs and HSCs are more responsive to intervention and treatment than the 80% who are not sensitive
- Many HSCs tend to be more articulate, have a keen sense of humor, they get along well with adults (mini-adults)
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- They can also be late bloomers, and slow developers due to DOES
- DOES—4 Core Characteristics Dr. Elaine Aron Identified
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- D—depth of processing
- O—Overarousal or Overstimulation
- E—Emotional Responsiveness/Empathy
- S—Sensitive to Subtle Stimuli
- It’s not uncommon for HSPs to be diagnosed with depression & anxiety. To the outside observer, what is depth of processing and being thoughtful or becoming overaroused may be misinterpreted as depression and/or anxiety
- Children need an adult who gets them and understands them (not a parent)
- Every little bit of good stuff we got in childhood, we use moving forward
- During challenging times, HSPs fare better. We process and we know what’s needed
- We need to help young girls feel better about themselves
- We provide emotional leadership in our families and communities. Our species needs this to thrive
- We need to find ways to discharge what we are processing
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- Journaling can be very helpful
- Extroverts may choose to process verbally
- Overstimulation looks like anxiety, which can become a habit. On the continuum is stress on one end and panic attacks on the other end
- What can we do to prevent the climb up the scale
- Prevention for anxiety is the key
- Who knows what it is for you—you know the truth; you see the truth
- Suggestions:
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- Meditate 2x/day
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- Meditation is not optional for HSPs
- We need to revisit spirituality
- Exercise (until you sweat) daily
- Take a sip of water every 15-20 minutes
- Close your eyes to reduce overstimulation and to reset (80% of stimulation comes in visually)
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- Boredom is understimulation—you need to do something to alleviate the boredom
- It’s important to find the optimal level of stimulation (not over or under stimulation)—good luck with this one! Alane says to call her if you need help figuring this out.
- If you think you’re an HSP and take the adult version of the test, but don’t score in the range, take the child’s version of the test and think back to when you were a child and what you remember hearing about yourself
- When it’s hard; it’s hard--lean into the hard and let it be until you can remember to do self-care
- We need to read, especially fiction with a good plot as another way to rest our minds
- Alane suggests audiobooks because they can be soothing without getting overstimulated. A few of her suggestions are listed under resources
- HSPs do best when they participate in good therapy or coaching
- Our planet is healing with this pandemic
- Opposite Reframe: The world is upside down right now, so “What is right side up?”
- The importance of breath
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- Bellows breath
- Pranyama Breathing/Alternate nostril breathing
- Practice doing a hard style plank where you tense your core for 5-10 seconds, which can interrupt anxiety (and you can do this sitting in your chair or standing as well)
- Practice a Loving Kindness Meditation
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- When we pray or meditate for others it eases our anxiety
- HSPs can find it difficult to pray for or focus on ourselves, so start with loving kindness for others. Our empathy makes this easier.
- Codependency is NOT the same as empathy
- We can have loving detachment and care for others
- Your caring for others does not have to be at the risk or detriment of caring for yourself
- It’s important that we take care of ourselves—we are the vessel
- We are the emotional leaders
- We need to protect the sensitive children
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- We can stop others from shaming them for having feelings; they are the ones who will change the world
GUEST BIO
Alane Freund, MS, MA, LMFT, (Lic. #36077) has helped adults, youth, and families focus on solutions through psychotherapy and consultation over three decades in the mental health field. An International Consultant on High Sensitivity (ICHS) working closely with Dr. Elaine Aron, Ms. Freund has developed and implemented programs for highly sensitive people, children, families, and clinicians who serve them. She also holds Masters’ degrees in clinical psychology and school counseling. Ms. Freund specializes in family therapy and education with and about highly sensitive people and LGBTQ+ families. A skilled facilitator and therapist, an HSP herself, and the parent of a highly sensitive young adult, she teaches workshops, offers consultation, has a twice monthly Are You Highly Sensitive LIVE Q&A webinar, and leads groups and retreats, including the HSPs & Horses™ retreats at Heart and Mind Equine in Northern California with Elaine Aron, PhD (CEs offered). Ms. Freund is an instructor at retreat centers, Kripalu in Massachusetts and 1440 Multiversity in California, as well as teaching at the California Institute for Psychotherapy and the California Institute of Integral Studies in California. She can be reached for consultation or referrals through her website, alanefreund.com.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller, and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Alane’s Links
This is a live (on Zoom) panel I led with some other members of the International Consultants on High Sensitivity (Elaine Aron's hand-selected and trained consultants.) There are even more videos, so you can subscribe to Alane Freund LMFT on You Tube to see more.
Are You Highly Sensitive LIVE…a twice a month live webinar for Q&A with highly sensitive people and parents raising highly sensitive children. For every webinar, members get to ask questions (ahead of time or live), and I do my best to answer them! We are building a really lovely community at areyouhighlysensitive.com. Listeners of the podcast will get 50% off their first month if you type in the discount code: OFFERUS
Website for therapy, speaking, consultation: alanefreund.com
Understanding the Highly Sensitive Child and Teen
I am an admin of Elaine Aron and High Sensitivity Facebook group which I invite you all to join. I recommend you say “referred by Alane Freund in the questions to join so you are accepted more readily.
Instagram @alanefreundlmft
Bellows breath-- https://chopra.com/articles/how-and-why-to-perform-bhastrika-breath
10 minute Yoga with Adrienne-- https://www.google.com/search?q=10+minute+yoga+with+adrienne&rlz=1C1CHBF_enUS843US843&oq=10+minute+yoga+with+adrienne&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l5.6818j0j9&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8
Sun Salutation Yoga with Adrienne--https://www.google.com/search?q=yoga+with+adrienne+sun+salutation&rlz=1C1CHBF_enUS843US843&oq=yoga+with+adrienne+sun+salutation&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l4.4621j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8
Pranyama Breathing-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=395ZloN4Rr8
Hard Style Plank Tense Core-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4jTOit8PkVY
Loving Kindness Meditation-- https://self-compassion.org/guided-self-compassion-meditations-mp3-2/
Movie—Sensitive: The Untold Story
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website--https://hsperson.com/
Pema Chodrin-- https://pemachodronfoundation.org/product-category/products/
Linda Graham—Bouncing Back-- https://lindagraham-mft.net/
Eve Decker Blog—Loving Kindness https://evedecker.com/lovingkindness/
Ted Zeff—Strong Sensitive Boy http://drtedzeff.com/
Chief Inspector Gamache Louise Penny Series-- https://www.gamacheseries.com/about/
Harry Potter series-- https://www.wizardingworld.com/discover/books
Outlander—series http://www.dianagabaldon.com/books/outlander-series/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
Our Need For Comfort & Support
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Many of us are craving comfort, security and a sense of connection. During uncertain times (like COVID-19), I’m seeing themes emerging, and many people are wanting a sense of normalcy and a return to the familiar. I’m hearing about stress in relationships, and people may not be showing up for us the way we want them to, or how they did pre-COVID. I talk about a number of ways we can create nurturing for ourselves.
HIGHLIGHTS
- During COVID-19 we may be experiencing
- Increased irritability
- Increased restlessness
- Comparative suffering (from Brene Brown)
- Increased self-criticism
- Increased negative self-talk
- Feeling that whatever we do is not enough
- Having a day where we don’t function well (or at all)
- Decreased patience for technical problems
- Not getting enough time to rest and recharge
- Our need (desire) for unconditional love
- Attachment wounds may be surfacting
- We may be experiencing grief and loss
- We want normalcy and routines that we experienced pre-COVID
- We may be experiencing more hyper vigilance
- We may be having to make hard decisions and setting hard boundaries
- Things we can do for self care
- Loving moving/joyful movement
- Finding routine and structure
- Being mindful about what we are consuming (media, who we follow)
- Connection and support from people who understand us
- Creativity—crafts, love notes, puzzles
- Time outdoors
- Time with pets
- Everyone gets to decide what works for them
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Being Real and Normalizing Our Human Experience
GUEST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
EPISODE OVERVIEW
What if we believed that we don’t always have to have our stuff together? The more real we can be, the more it allows others to be real. We need to normalize suffering, so we don’t think something is wrong when we are not constantly feeling exuberant. We can accept that wounding happens. Misunderstandings and miscommunications are part of the human experience. How do we embrace our feelings and not be wrong?
HIGHLIGHTS
- I want to break the shame and normalize having deep feelings
- I want to change the narrative around what may be labeled as unacceptable feelings
- We as therapists, often have shame that we have human experiences because we’re supposed to be “past” that
- Human life is a struggle
- If we’re wobbling, we freak out
- The more real we can be as therapists and healers, the more it benefits our clients
- We want to be mindful and intentional about self-disclosure in that it benefits the clients, and it’s not to meet our own needs
- We can do reality checks with clients if we self-disclose to see if it’s helpful
- How do we embrace our feelings and not be wrong?
- We need to accept that wounding happens
- We need to normalize suffering
- We want to ameliorate the suffering and know that wounding happens
- Sometimes we can over identify with the wound or live from the wound
- Misunderstanding and miscommunications are part of the human experience
- Good enough parenting—we just need to show up 30% of the time
- The Goddess of Never Not Broken
- She knows that she recreates herself every day
- She doesn’t have this expectation that she has it all together
- We don’t want to live our lives as nouns—in a constant state
- We want to live our lives as verbs, which is constantly changing
- We will bound back between the 2 states and accept the wounding
- PARTS Work or Internal Family Systems with Richard Schwartz
- We have a relationship with that part of you
- A part can despair
- We want to be self-led—which is soul, substance, clear and calm, compassionate
- When we get triggered or activated, a part takes over
- A part of the person is buying into that narrative of wounding
- How do you feel about the part?
- I feel bad for this part
- We can act from that part
- Being in it
- We can speak for that part
- A part of me feels…a part of me wants to …
- Healing comes from being in relationship with others who are doing their work
- There is power in being seen and heard and having someone who can hold space for us
- We often don’t know what’s possible if we haven’t experienced healthy relationships, so we recreate relationships that don’t work because we’re trying to work out something from the past
GUEST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Jen’s links
Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com
215-292-5056
Heartfulnessconsulting.com
Facebook.com/Heartfulnessconsulting
Richard Schwartz Internal Family Systems-- https://ifs-institute.com/about-us/richard-c-schwartz-phd
Susan David Ted Talk The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage--https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_david_the_gift_and_power_of_emotional_courage/transcript?language=en
Patricia’s links
Meetup--https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/268428586/
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
Yin Yoga, and How I Healed My Autoimmune Disease
GUEST
Julie Quinn
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Julie Quinn talks about Yin Yoga, and the benefits for the Highly Sensitive Person. She talks about the vagus nerve; the importance of the parasympathetic nervous system; why rest & digest is important, and the possible symptoms of constantly being in a state of fight or flight. Julie shares her journey with autoimmune disease, and how she used food to heal. Julie provides a guided meditation. Julie has a special offer for the listeners if you’re interested in her organic essential oil products.
HIGHLIGHTS
- What is Yin Yoga
- Long held deep stretches
- Works with connective tissue (fascia)
- Works with what we’re holding onto emotionally in the body
- Each stretch is a supported stretch
- Stretch lasts 3-10 minutes
- Is uses breath and relaxation
- It’s about sensation and softening
- What is Restorative Yoga
- It’s not a stretch; it’s relaxing
- It’s beneficial for people who want to get their health back
- Vagus Nerve
- Sends messages to the brain to help with safety and regulation
- The actual nerve goes from the brain stem through the medulla, to the trachea, esophagus, into the heart, lungs, and diaphragm
- Rest and Digest
- Healing the nervous system
- Use of breath, body, nervous system and the mind
- Uses the parasympathetic system
- It’s the opposite of fight, flight or freeze (and fawn?)
- Heart rate decreases
- Cortisol levels decrease
- Adrenalin decreases
- We can train ourselves to be in rest and digest
- Fight, flight, freeze (fawn?)
- When we’ve had trauma, we go into fight flight, freeze
- We are overstimulated with phones, distractions
- We need adrenalin for survival, but we don’t want to be in this state all the time
- We may have a racing heart, breathing too fast, digestion can’t happen properly
- Symptoms
- Extra weight—especially around the belly/middle
- Not digesting food
- Digestive issues
- Adrenal fatigue
- Thyroid issues
- Overall fatigue
- Autoimmune issues
- We want to be in an optimal thriving state
- Harmonious state
- We’re able to connect to our higher mind (center, wellness, higher self)
- Gut/brain connection
- Serotonin is created in the gut
- Gut issues can cause depression, anxiety, inflammation, brain fog, bad breath, acne, psoriasis, body odor, cracks in the mouth, sores in the mouth, irritability, grogginess, brain fog, sleep issues
- Nighshades can cause issues with some people
- Tomatoes, bell peppers, goji berries, eggplant, white potatoes
- It can help to eat foods that are found in Blue Zones (sweet potatoes)
- Redheads require more anesthesia, and it can take longer to numb with local anesthesia
- Quinntessentials are organic essential oil products Julie creates and sells
Get 15% off all Quinntessentials at Julie’s website www.Quinntesssentialsproducts.com with the code HSP
GUEST BIO
Julie Quinn discovered Yoga in 1999 and explored several different styles, such as Bikram, Hatha, Anusara, Acro, Ashtanga, and Vinyasa, completing over seven unique teacher trainings, including a 200 hour certification with YogaWorks. Currently, she teaches yoga at MOSAIC in Golden Hill, Ginseng in South Park, and Fit Athletic in the East Village in San Diego, CA. Julie's classes range from Restorative to Yin to challenging Vinyasa flow or Beginning yoga with a focus on alignment and connection. Julie is passionate about sharing a creative yoga practice that is enjoyable and accessible for all people, beginners and advanced practitioners alike. Her approach is to encourage others to find their connection. Aligning the students with asana, pranayama, meditation, insights, aromatherapy, and energy work.
Special events, lectures, and retreats are also offered periodically. Julie is a certified Yoga Teacher, Aromatherapist, and Herbalist. As the owner of Quinntessentials Organic Essential Oil Products, she blends her diverse interests and expertise to create a healing experience for all who join her on the mat. Julie grew up in Nebraska and trained early in life to be a dancer, later earning a BA in Dance from Columbia College Chicago. She has always been drawn to herbs, essential oils, and alternative healing, which lead her to study Herbology while dancing in Chicago and working at spas and wellness centers. She spent years learning all about the healing arts, nutrition, herbology, and aromatherapy while working closely with many inspiring teachers. She started to create her own products once she understood the need for chemical free and essential oil rich ingredients in the things we use everyday. Follow @quinntessentialsproducts for more information on her business and @Quinnsights on instagram for her yoga and retreat offerings or visit her websites:
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Julie’s Links
www.Quinntesssentialsproducts.com
Use code HSP to get 15% off of Julie’s products (this is an affiliate link)
Bastyr University Clinic-- https://bastyrclinic.org/
Dr. Gundry
Dr. Daniel Amen
Dr. Mark Hyman
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Online Meetup for May 2, 2020 with Julie for Yin Yoga--https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/270142201/
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TITLE
Yin Yoga Meditation
GUEST
Julie Quinn
EPISODE OVERVIEW
This is the meditation Julie Quinn did in episode 66. This is just the meditation.
GUEST BIO
Julie Quinn discovered Yoga in 1999 and explored several different styles, such as Bikram, Hatha, Anusara, Acro, Ashtanga, and Vinyasa, completing over seven unique teacher trainings, including a 200 hour certification with YogaWorks. Currently, she teaches yoga at MOSAIC in Golden Hill, Ginseng in South Park, and Fit Athletic in the East Village in San Diego, CA. Julie's classes range from Restorative to Yin to challenging Vinyasa flow or Beginning yoga with a focus on alignment and connection. Julie is passionate about sharing a creative yoga practice that is enjoyable and accessible for all people, beginners and advanced practitioners alike. Her approach is to encourage others to find their connection. Aligning the students with asana, pranayama, meditation, insights, aromatherapy, and energy work.
Special events, lectures, and retreats are also offered periodically. Julie is a certified Yoga Teacher, Aromatherapist, and Herbalist. As the owner of Quinntessentials Organic Essential Oil Products, she blends her diverse interests and expertise to create a healing experience for all who join her on the mat. Julie grew up in Nebraska and trained early in life to be a dancer, later earning a BA in Dance from Columbia College Chicago. She has always been drawn to herbs, essential oils, and alternative healing, which lead her to study Herbology while dancing in Chicago and working at spas and wellness centers. She spent years learning all about the healing arts, nutrition, herbology, and aromatherapy while working closely with many inspiring teachers. She started to create her own products once she understood the need for chemical free and essential oil rich ingredients in the things we use everyday. Follow @quinntessentialsproducts for more information on her business and @Quinnsights on instagram for her yoga and retreat offerings or visit her websites:
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Julie’s Links
www.Quinntesssentialsproducts.com
Use code HSP to get 15% off of Julie’s products (this is an affiliate link)
Bastyr University Clinic-- https://bastyrclinic.org/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
Where You're At Right Now Is Perfect! Even If It Doesn't Feel Like It!
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We are all doing the best we can right now. There is no wrong way to experience this global pandemic, and whatever we are feeling or experiencing is ok. What will it take for us to allow ourselves to accept all the ways we are experiencing this time.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A PARAGON OF PRODUCTIVITY DURING A PANDEMIC! Jeff Brown--https://www.facebook.com/SOULSHAPING/videos/835174990310620/UzpfSTEwMjM2MjUyMDY6MTAyMjAyMzg5MDA4NTU3MTk/
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
Should I Tell Others That I’m a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)?
GUEST
Arianna Smith, LPC, EMDR
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Arianna talks about the grief and joy she felt when she learned she was an HSP (she wanted to be told she wasn’t one). She talks about being strategic about her day and using pacing in order to honor her HS needs. We talk about using food/substances to self-soothe and to manage being sensitive. Arianna talks about her hacks for travel as well as having snacks on hand, so she doesn’t get hangry. We explore if we feel pain (sadness) as a result of having HS gifts, but not being able to express those gifts.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Misconceptions and misperceptions that happen with HSPs
- What happens when HSPs are not in our optimal environment
- The joy and grief that can happen when we learn about being an HSP
- How to be strategic in the workplace, or in day-to-day activities
- How to be mindful of pacing when going through the day
- Arianna talks about hating feeling like she was flaky, but she later learned it’s more about knowing her capacity as a highly sensitive extrovert and high sensation seeker
- Arianna talks about being in a work environment that didn’t work for her, and needing to advocate for her needs
- We sometimes experience grief and sadness about our limitations and what we need to do in order to function optimally
- Arianna said she experienced grief, bargaining, frustration, and finally acceptance
- When there are big transitions in our lives, we often need to ground into the trait and be strategic in what we do in order to support our HS needs
- Arianna gives tips for travelling as an HSP, and what she does to make it easier
- We talk about being hangry and being an HSP
- Keeping snacks on us can be really helpful
- Our ability to compartmentalize can be used as a strength when we need to push through things in a way that doesn’t violate our needs
- Do we experience pain as HSPs when we have gifts that we don’t get to express?
- In order to thrive as HSPs, we need to find community and someone who really gets us
- Being called worst case scenario Ari was really a compliment about projecting possible outcomes, strategic planning, depth of processing and forecasting what preventions need to be put in place
GUEST BIO
Arianna Smith, LPC (she/her) is a therapist and business coach for Highly Sensitive People. Raised in rural Alaska, Arianna learned early on the beauty and challenges of being highly sensitive. Today, she guides HSPs to release the stigma of being sensitive to craft a vibrant, soulful life and business. Based in Denver, Colorado, she provides trauma-informed psychotherapy to HSPs and the LGBTQ community, while offering business coaching and writing services to sensitive entrepreneurs across the globe. Outside of the office, she can be found exploring trails with her puppy or searching for the perfect Earl Grey blend.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and blacksheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Ariana’s Links
Therapy: Quiet Moon Counseling www.quietmooncounseling.com
FB: https://www.facebook.com/quietmooncounseling/
Biz Coaching/Writing: Coaching With Ari www.sensitiveempowerment.com
FB: https://www.facebook.com/sensitiveempowermentllc/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
High Sensation Seeking & The Highly Sensitive Person—You May Be Surprised!
GUEST
Tracy Cooper, Ph.D.
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Author, Tracy Cooper, Ph.D defines how High Sensation Seeking (HSS) shows up in the Highly Sensitive Person, and the 4 core aspects of Sensation Seeking. Dr. Cooper talks about ADHD vs. HSS, and the role dopamine plays in sensation seeking. We talk about being in flow, and the relationship between anxiety, depression. Dr. Cooper says HSPs are wired for creativity (so are sensation seekers). We explore how HSPs are impacted by social media. Dr. Cooper talks about what we can do when we’re overactivated, and how boundaries can help the HSP.
HIGHLIGHTS
- In the 1960’s Marvin Zuckerman was doing research on sensory deprivation using deprivation tanks
- Those people that became restless fairly quickly and were thought to need stimulation, leading Zuckerman and his colleagues to develop Sensation Seeking as a personality trait.
- 30% of Highly Sensitive People are High Sensation Seekers (HSS)
- It is presumed that of that 30 % of HSS/HSPs, 30% are extroverts and 70% are introverts
- The 4 core aspects of Sensation Seeking are
- 1. Thrill and adventure seeking—bungee jumping, parachuting, adrenaline rush type activities. It can also mean driving fast, exciting TV shows, anything that provides a physical rush.
- Most HSPs are not this type
- 2. Experience and novelty seeking—travelling, foodies, reading new books. They are not satisfied with ordinary things and will seek out unusual or different experiences for the sake of having them.
- Boredom susceptibility—want stimulation, boredom can be physically painful, and boredom is their worst enemy, their capacities are begging to be engaged
- 4. Disinhibition—willingness to exceed normal bounds of behavior for the thrill of having an experience. They may not be concerned with legal, financial, relational or personal repercussions, which can lead to disastrous results. Can experiment with drugs, sexual behavior, parties, may go before the light turns green or doesn’t stop fully at stop signs. May exceed speed limits or tailgate, use cars and driving to seek thrills.
- Sensation seeking is a general trait that is seen in the larger population
- Any extreme expression of a trait is never a good thing. The moderate to moderate-high expression is where the advantages are realized.
- You can imagine a bell-shaped curve for the expression of sensation seeking where the majority will fall in the middle, comparatively fewer at the extreme on both ends.
- There is a crossover in HSPs between novelty & new experiences and boredom susceptibility, but you don’t typically see a crossover with thrill & adventure and disinhibition because Sensory Processing Sensitivity is about pausing think first before doing.
- All humans are sensation seeking to some degree. Men more than women.
- Experience and novelty seeking can be a powerful drive
- We get a “hit” of dopamine (a neurotransmitter involved in the brain’s pleasure pathway) when we engage in sensation seeking. This feel-good rush entices us to do more to get another rush.
- There is a tension between the HSP and the HSS. If the HSS wins out it can lead to burn out for the HSP quite easily. One must learn to balance the two traits by understanding the giftedness inherent in both traits.
- ADHD vs. HSS
- They share some components
- The HSS focuses on stimulation. Once they get the stimulation, they can still focus
- The ADHD brain can’t get the stimulation it needs (when it gets even a small amount it wants more until it is overloaded)
- If the person doesn’t get stimulation they don’t function as well, or they don’t function and isolate (like playing video games to excess)
- HSPs and HSS/HSPs may seek stimulation through other people
- We absorb energy from other people and through social interactions, and we get a dopamine hit from the interaction if it is positive.
- When the HSS side rules out, it takes the HSP along for the ride, which can leave the HSP exhausted afterward
- When we block things out (HSS side), we can become less patient, less sensitive and less empathetic
- We don’t want to lose the HSP trait because we want to maintain the traits of patience, sensitivity and empathy
- It’s about learning to balance our HSP and HSS parts
- We can get addicted to sensation seeking if we are not aware of this risk.
- Boredom susceptibility—we have to do things to stay in our optimal range of arousal since that is the preference
- When are we in entropy, depression, and anxiety
- This is a natural state, according to psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, when we’re NOT in flow
- We spend too much time in our heads, and our capacities are begging to be engaged
- It’s important to break out of our rut by getting in touch with our curiosity and sense of wonder
- We may need to push ourselves to do new things
- Our natural tendency as HSPs is to be positive and open but cautious
- You can get a friend to go with you or meet you if it’s challenging to try new things
- You can remind yourself that if you try something new, you can always leave if you don’t like it
- Analysis/paralysis—if we had a bad experience or got overstimulated, and we have an opportunity to engage in a similar activity, we decline based on past experience due to overthinking. If we do this repeatedly, we can get stuck in a rut, and our world can become too small
- We can use mindfulness when this happens
- We can know that we can only experience 1 moment at a time and be open to each new moment
- Flow state—our skills are matched to the task, and we are fully engaged and absorbed in that state (we don’t experience anxiety or depression)
- If the task is too hard, we experience anxiety; if the task is not challenging enough, we experience boredom
- Being in flow is the best play experience
- HSPs are wired for creativity
- We traditionally thing of creativity in terms of an artistic end-product
- HSPs are naturally predisposed to creativity and creative thinking
- HSPs engage in creative thinking naturally but need to build their ability to think rationally and critically to complement creative thinking, they are synergistic and interdependent.
- HSPs noticed more things when shown visual scenes—they were more empathetic, and showed a broader emotional range, psychologically androgynous.
- Boundaries
- HSPs can set boundaries that limit overstimulation
- HSPs can practice anticipating what they will do if a boundary is crossed
- When we’re overstimulated/overactivated
- Enforcing boundaries is most important
- We need to know where the boundary is—often we find the boundary only when we hit a limit
- If you’re overstimulated (aversive state)
- Withdraw—take time away
- Allow your body to relax, dispel the pent-up energy
- Use self-compassion and be kind to yourself
- Reframe—that wasn’t so bad; it was temporary; I recovered
- Social media/electronics/boredom and addiction
- HSSs seek stimulation through people as much as through external sources
- With electronics we tend to gravitate to people like us (confirmation bias—values/people similar to you), ignore information that disagrees with current beliefs.
- Technology can be an addiction
- We do better when we’re outside, moving around, and being sedentary and indoors can be highly detrimental to HSPs
- Anxiety isn’t always a negative—it asks you to think about what you’re doing. Anxiety will usually dissipate once you are engaged
- We’ve got to learn to develop self-care practices
- If you struggle with overthinking
- Take a class that uses your hands/body/mind
- Learn when to put the brakes on thinking
- Allow a specific amount of time (15 minutes a day) to worry/think
- Getting outside, taking a walk, time in nature, or talking it over with a trusted friend are all ways to shift out of overthinking
QUOTES
Any extreme expression of a trait is never a good thing. The moderate to moderate-high expression is where the potential of the trait is realized best.
All humans are sensation seeking to some degree
Novelty is a powerful drive
We prefer to do things that keep us in our optimal range of arousal
We spend too much time in our heads, and our capacities are begging to be engaged
HSPs and HSS/HSPs are wired for creativity
GUEST BIO
Tracy Cooper, Ph.D. is an expert in the areas of highly sensitive people and career, the high sensation seeking highly sensitive person, the highly sensitive man, and highly sensitive people and creativity. He has written two books, Thrive: The Highly Sensitive Person and Career and Thrill: The High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Person. His forthcoming book is titled Empowering the Sensitive Male Soul. Dr. Cooper appeared in the 2015 documentary film, Sensitive-The Untold Story. He is the Department Chairman for Baker University’s Master of Liberal Arts program and a faculty member. Dr. Cooper regularly works with individuals in career crisis and transition, as well as corporations interested in diversity and inclusion initiatives for HSPs, innovation and HSS/HSPs, and frequently speaks on subjects related to sensory processing sensitivity and sensation seeking.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Dr. Tracy Cooper’s links
drtracycooper.wordpress.com
@tracycooperphd (FaceBook)
@sensitivemalesoul (FaceBook)
tracycooperphd (LinkedIn)
tracycooperphd (Instagram)
Flow by Mihaly Cziksventmihalyi
Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
What We May Be Experiencing Right Now That We Can’t Explain Or Put Words To
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Having words to express (or understand) what we’re experiencing is powerful. We are in uncharted territory right now, and as I’m deeply processing what I’m experiencing, I’m wanting to share not only the personal insights I’m having, but what I’m hearing other HSPs talk about. This is to give us a way to understand why we may be having vague, ambiguous feelings that we don’t understand.
HIGHLIGHTS
- What we may be experiencing right now that we can’t explain or put words to
- Talked about feeling surreal—like when someone dies
- Not where you used to be, not where you’re going
- Rationally trying to explain that there is no death
- Minimizing
- Denying
- Common for HSPs
- Saw an article about experiencing grief right now—didn’t read it
- Resonated with me
- Magic wand and could erase all COVID-19 moving forward and the economy and jobs resumes as they were, we would STILL BE AFFECTED!
- THIS HAS CHANGED US, AND IS CHANGING US
- We are experiencing all kinds of loss
- Ambiguous loss, anticipated loss—less tangible, but oh so real!
- Routine, structure, schedules
- Time alone when we drive to work, drop the kids off
- Job
- Security
- Clients
- Furloughed
- Healthcare worker—working harder without PPE—more stress
- Loss/change in income
- Retirement, kids in college on 529 plan
- Kids at home, working from home, partners working from home
- Increased precautions
- Shelter in home or self-quarantine
- Disruption of our daily activities—gym, church, synagogue, temple, mosque, spiritual and social practices
- Overload of information
- Free offerings feel like too much
- I’m just keeping it together and what gets activated with new things
- Seeing people singing, creating, cooking, which is bringing up the narrative of
- Too serious, can’t take a joke, not a fun person
- I have depth, intensity, empathy, I’m wired for connection and holding space
- I’m intensely curious about what’s coming up for me and wanting to find words to express what I’m feeling, and hopefully helping others put words to what they’re experiencing
- I’m SO blessed to have a circle of HS therapists that I’m communicating with even more right now. We are holding space for each other and validating the things that are coming up.
- Whatever you’re feeling and experiencing is ok!
- Even though I knew I was feeling “heavy” feelings, it wasn’t until I was talking with some friends, and one of them made space for me, and I had a good cry.
- I forget that when I allow room for my feelings, it creates space for something else to move into that space.
- Podcast episode—release and lightness—giving voice to feelings--honoring
- We can be so used to pushing it down, denying and minimizing, or the fear that we’re going to come totally undone if we allow ourselves to feel
- We are holding space in our bodies, minds and souls.
- When we are able to allow those feelings to be seen, honored, felt and expressed, it frees room for other stuff.
- Therapy, coaching, online
- This is a time when we need connection and support more than ever
- We are wired for connection
- I’m looking at ways I can make my services more affordable—at least for the immediate present
- com
- Send me an e-mail
- If you’re listening in the future, this offer may not be available, but I’m trying to figure out how to be of service and do the word I’m wired to do—it’s helping me as well
- Closed fb group unapologetically sensitive weekly Zoom calls free for now
- Closed fb group unapologetically sensitive therapist’s group—really for professionals and healers who are highly sensitive and provide services. I’m also hosting free weekly zoom calls for now
- We are the healers, connectors, emotional glue—if if it doesn’t feel like it right now.
- What do you need today to take care of yourself?
- Finally client—permission
- In training for this all my life
- This is what I’m built for
- I’m pandemic-ready
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Website-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
HSPs Are Needed Leaders, Healers and Connectors!
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
For the next few weeks (at least) I’m hosting FREE Zoom calls for members of the closed Facebook Groups Unapologetically Sensitive & Unapologetically Sensitive Therapist’s Group. The world needs us right now, and we the ability to create connections and support, and we also need to ask for help. This episode talks about some of the things HSPs are experiencing globally, and what we can do to create a sense of peace. There are lots of great resources in the closed Facebook groups right now just for you!
HIGHLIGHTS
- Talking with people all over the world (Japan, Germany, UK, Canada, across the U.S.)
- Process deeply
- Don’t know if we’re coming or going
- Trying to absorb all the info
- Overwhelming/overstimulating
- One day you may be doing well, and the next you’re a hot mess
- We’re saying things we don’t mean
- We may have more conflict/tension
- We tend to like structure and knowing what to expect to some degree
- There is SO much uncertainty right now
- We may be experiencing empathy overload
- Even for people we don’t actually know
- Activating the wound of taking things too seriously or making a big deal out of things
- Acknowledge that we may have different points of views
- Acknowledge that there is no right or wrong (even if you think there is), and HONOR each person’s way of processing/dealing
- Honor OUR feelings!
- Adjusting
- Working from home
- Not having work
- Having kids home
- Having partners home
- Potential loss of income
- Reshifting priorities
- Concerns for aging parents, children, anyone who is medically vulnerable (could be yourself)
- Trying to figure out what social distancing will look like
- Having to set limits
- Guilty setting boundaries (even though we can be fierce advocates for others when things are unjust or unfair
- Tearful
- Activate narratives around being bossy, controlling, saying what others don’t, not doing enough
- Seniors
- Not taking precautions
- Saying if this is how they’re gonna go, then that’s fine
- This may be activating to those of us that are taking precautions to keep them safe
- Watch what we consume
- Where we get our news/information
- How much we consume/when we consume
- Cling to those that nourish our souls
- We do better when we’re surrounded by things that work
- Can we honor what’s coming up for us AND know that we are healers and often create a sense of peace and comfort for others (even if we’re fearful or anxious)
- Find ways to connect with other
- Share the good stuff
- Focus on gratitude
- Be of service
- Ask for help
- Use this as a time to slow down—it’s what we often say we need
- Get outdoors
- Move your body
- This is an opportunity to be mindful and consciously find ways to connect (people, creativity, beauty, nature, animals, etc.)
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Facebook Group Elaine Aron & High Sensitivity-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/ElaineAronHighSensitivity/
Marco Polo-- https://www.marcopolo.me/
Whatsapp-- https://www.whatsapp.com/
Voxer-- https://www.voxer.com/individuals
Skype-- https://www.skype.com/en/
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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- click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
- select “listen on Apple Podcasts”
- chose “open in itunes”
- choose “ratings and reviews”
- click to rate the number of starts
- click “write a review”
Website-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists—Unapologetically Sensitive Therapist’s Group-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
5 Ways to Thrive As a Highly Sensitive Person During COVID-19
GUEST
Solo episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Brene Brown said we can heal together during this time. I talk about how the Highly Sensitive Person, aka HSP, may be impacted right now with COVID-19, but more importantly, I talk about ways we can thrive and really take care of ourselves during this time. In spite of the big feels we may be having, we CAN make choices to help us feel connected and supported. Let’s use our HSP Glue to come together and heal.
HIGHLIGHTS
- I am not an expert; nor am I a healthcare official—this is my opinion
- As Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), we most likely will be processing more than usual
- It may take more time to figure out how we are feeling about COVID-19 and all of the ramifications
- It can be difficult to live with so much uncertainty
- Empathy overload
- We may be feeling things in our bodies, or feel like we’re buzzing, but not know exactly what it is
- We may be more fearful, irritable, weepy, disconnect, using things for comfort (food, electronics, exercise, wine, online shopping etc.)
- Use lots of mindfulness and self-compassion
- We may want to go dark and disappear
- Please check in with yourself and see if that’s what you really need
- It’s easy to create a story in our heads about how what we’re feeling is too much. This is a time to come together and create support and community
- We need to find ways to honor our feelings AND consciously acknowledge what IS working
- 5 Ways to take care of ourselves
- Get accurate information
- I’ve been going to the CDC
- Be mindful of where you’re getting your information
- PLEASE do NOT talk about your adult fears in front of your children!
- We adults need places to process our fears—with other adults
- Find ways to give your kids answers to the questions they ask, but they are looking to us to know everything is going to be ok
- Consciously curate what you’re consuming
- When you consume
- What you consume
- How long you consume
- Unfriend/unfollow
- E-mail/social media/friends
- Create positive things to consume
- Things that make you laugh, are light, positive and maintain balance
- Ask for suggestions for books, movies, podcasts, music playlists
- Spend time outdoors
- Engage in creative activities
- Spend time with animals, children, loved ones, friends
- Spirituality
- Plan with calmness
- Work, childcare, homeschooling, logistics, care of aging parents, logistics etc.
- Designate the amount of time (when/where you will plan)
- Plan with a buddy
- Make a planning sandwich—positive, plan, positive
- Get support/Create community
- Zoom call for the closed fb group
- Many therapists and coaches are moving to telehealth
- Connect with your friends/family via Skype, WhatsApp, Voxer, MarcoPolo
- See how your community is supporting others
- We get a sense of connection through service
- Ask for help/support—it allows others to feel good and focus on something outside of themselves
- Self-Care
- Sleep
- Nutrition
- Gentle loving movement
- Get outside
- Dance, laugh, play, meditate, yoga (yoga with Adriene)
- Spend time with people that make you happy
- Ask for help and support
- Tend to your spiritual needs—meditation or prayer or time in nature
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Yoga with Adriene-- https://www.youtube.com/user/yogawithadriene
Marco Polo-- https://www.marcopolo.me/
Whatsapp-- https://www.whatsapp.com/
Voxer-- https://www.voxer.com/individuals
Skype-- https://www.skype.com/en/
10 Tilts for Parenting during the CaronaVirus-- https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10156721476846423&set=a.114668386422&type=3&theater&ifg=1
Brene Brown Getting Well Together or Staying Sick Together-- https://www.facebook.com/brenebrown/photos/a.194293500585767/3287297457952007/?type=3&theater&ifg=1
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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- select “listen on Apple Podcasts”
- chose “open in itunes”
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- click to rate the number of starts
- click “write a review”
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
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Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
A Research Scientist Talks About Brain Research in the Highly Sensitive Person
GUEST
Dr. Bianca Acevedo
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Dr. Bianca Acevedo talks about how the brain responds to emotional displays, and what deep processing really entails. She explains the different ways the insula processes information. She also talks about intuition, and she answers the question: Do HSPs have more mirror neurons? I was surprised at the answer! Dr. Acevedo talks about a way that HSPs can recharge in 8 minutes, and she talks about the overall percentage of people who are very sensitive, moderately sensitive and less sensitive.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Acevedo worked with Dr. Arthur Aron
- She has studied romantic love and newleyweds
- Acevedo looked at brain responses to emotional display
- Highly Sensitive People are more affected by others’ emotional displays
- These studies used MRI scanners
- They looked at empathy, mirror neurons, and the insula
- Do HSPs have more mirror neurons?
- The researchers measured blood and oxygen levels
- HSPs process information more deeply
- The insula processes information in the following ways—visual, auditory, tactile, vestibular, reward system, and via the organs
- There is a signature pattern of response to certain things
- Things that become activated in response to different things
- Burn out can happen when we over process and we don’t get a break to recharge and recover
- In a memory study, HSPs who took 8 minutes to rest and close their eyes between tasks, outperformed non-HSPs
- Rumination is not a feature of being a Highly Sensitive Person. It correlates to having anxiety and depression, which can start as early and infancy/childhood
- HSPs are more sensitive to environments
- The impact can be lifelong and it impacts our emotional and social well-being
- HSPs can immerse themselves in supportive environments
- Acevedo was referred to as eccentric/quirky
- It’s important to have respect for each other’s differences (HSP vs. non-HSP)
- Hopefully parents who are raising male children are supporting the traits their boys show
- Perhaps with increasing awareness about gender fluidity and gender roles, parents are allowing their kids to express whatever traits they have
- It’s important to have at least 1 HSP in a group to pick up on things that might have been lost by the non-HSP, and it’s important to have a less sensitive person in the group
- It’s important to be kind to yourself
- To accept that we need to take times for ourselves
- 30% of the population are very sensitive, 40% are moderately sensitive and 30% are less sensitive
- HSPs are an increase sense of self-awareness, contemplation and reflection
- This is an important piece of evolving and moving forward as a species
GUEST BIO
Dr. Bianca Acevedo is a research scientist at the University of California, Santa Barbara, a Visiting Scholar at New York University, a private consultant, author, and sought-after public speaker. She has done extensive research on the science of love, highly sensitive persons and mind-body practices. She has taught courses on close relationships and positive psychology, and was the recipient of the 2012 International Women in Science Award. She is the developer of the LoveSmart App and her work has been funded by the National Science Foundation, the National Institute of Health, and the Alzheimer’s Association.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Dr. Acevedo
Patricia’s Links
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- click “write a review”
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
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Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
What To Do When We’re Having Uncomfortable Feelings That We Don’t Like
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
How do we deal with feelings of depression, anxiety, disappointment, frustration, anger? We may experience shame when we have feelings (especially if we’re therapists) because there’s this belief that we shouldn’t struggle with very human things. How do we still show up and be present for others when we are struggling? Do we have a hard time asking for what we want? Do we worry about how others will respond if we’re struggling? I share my recent (and current) experiences with this.
HIGHLIGHTS
- How do we deal with feelings of depression, anxiety, disappointment, frustration, anger?
- We may experience shame when we have feelings if we’re therapists because there’s that belief that we shouldn’t struggle with very human things
- How do we still show up and be present for others when we are struggling?
- Having a few supportive people who can just be present for us and listen to us, can be incredibly healing
- When we have a few people that share honestly with us, we feel a sense of connection and validation
- We can use tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques or EFT) when we are having feelings that we want to work through
- We can reach out to safe people to get connection when we are having uncomfortable feelings
- What are things you are afraid to ask for out of fear of feeling disappointed, frustrated, and angry?
- Many of us have friendship wounds
- Sometimes we want to go dark when we are having uncomfortable feelings—does this really support us?
- There is power in having other HSPs or people who get you when you are struggling
- Can you just be with intense feelings (depression, anxiety, frustration, etc.), and just lean into it?
- When we can continue to suit up and show up even when we’re having big feelings, it reminds us that we can manage
- We probably have already experienced intense hurt or disappointment in the past, so we can probably tolerate whatever happens if we put our wants or needs out and don’t get them met
- We also open ourselves to experience joy and connection when we take a risk
- Even if we feel shame, we can still talk about what’s going on and feel connected
- We’ve got to have self-compassion when we’re going through things
- We just have to show up and be ourselves
PODCAST HOST
Patricia knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and blacksheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Meetup--https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/268428586/
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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- select “listen on Apple Podcasts”
- chose “open in itunes”
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- click to rate the number of starts
- click “write a review”
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
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e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
A Listener Asks, “How Do I Manage Overarousal During an Interview—Because I Can’t Demonstrate What I Know?”
GUEST
KJ McDaniels
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We talk about assessing skills and using visualization to internalize our competence; how to articulate our need for time to respond to questions during an interview. How to talk about our strengths when asked about challenges we experience. We also talk about how to communicate what our learning process can look like, and to emphasize the strengths we bring. How to create routines and landing spaces in order to keep track of glasses, keys, wallets, etc., and ways to remember appointments.
HIGHLIGHTS
- KJ had an upcoming interview and had some concerns
- KJ was told she needed to respond more in-depth
- Having a high arousal state causes KJ to go into fight or flight
- We talk about needing some tools to be able to stay in the pre-frontal cortex
- KJ had pages on how to navigate the interview, but still was put on the waitlist
- KJ wonders if she may have ADHD as well
- When KJ is under pressure doing her job, she is able to manage her job
- KJ is able to anticipate possible outcomes and is competent in her job
- KJ believes that she struggles with communication due to how she was raised
- We assess if KJ is able to answer the questions when she’s not overaroused
- When we haven’t experienced being seen and heard in the past, those can be small traumas that can impact current performance
- The goal is to create safety in new environments
- We want to create a way to feel safe in new environments
- It might be our “task manager”
- We still need to honor our feelings and all of the parts of us
- The task master often doesn’t have the fear around performing and answering questions
- Using visualizations to affirm—I’ve got this; I’m safe; I’m capable
- We want to shift from our feeling brain into our emotional brain
- We want to find out where that little person wants to go (to a safe place; NOT in the adult interview)
- The Highly Sensitive Person can be great on teams, when conditions/systems aren’t set up to honor everyone
- HSPs are great listeners, and leaders, and we notice those people who aren’t engaging in groups/teams
- For an interview, we want to talk about the things that did work, and our strengths
- Empathy
- Leadership
- Problem-solving skills
- How to answer questions that have to do with challenges
- How to talk about our strengths from a challenge
- How to articulate our depth of processing as a strength
- How to use routine in order to help with challenges with working memory
- HSPs who think they have ADHD, may just be overaroused and overstimulated
- Create routines and a landing spaces for things like keys, glasses, wallet, and other things we need on a regular basis
- We don’t have to feel shame when we let others know what we need in order to perform well
- How to do a visualization at night to imagine ourselves feeling confident and competent to create a sense of calm
- How to use jewelry and clothes to use for subtle self-soothing
- Some of us need to fidget to focus—move when we are doing passive activities (talking on the phone, listening to a podcast or audiobook)
- Do the Superwoman pose to feel empowered and strong
- Our culture rewards extroverts who are external processors, and it’s not geared to honor introverts and HSPs who may need more time to fully process and respond
- HSPs are really going to think about treatment and the best outcomes due to our depth of processing and taking in additional information that others may not pick up on
- We can learn to manage fearful anticipation, and it doesn’t have to prevent us from participating in life
- When we have parents or caregivers who don’t understand how to help us manage our feelings, we don’t learn those tools, and we may think there’s something wrong with us
GUEST BIO
KJ McDaniels is a Highly & Energy Sensitive Person based in Atlanta, GA. Having a love for the biological sciences, she studied Molecular Cell Biology and Immunology in undergraduate school. She is a small business owner in the animal field, future bovine veterinarian, mutifaceted musician and composer, coloratura opera singer, and most important of all, a loving aunt to a 5 year old. She hopes to spread realistic and positive knowledge about Sensitive Persons through continual conversations.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and blacksheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
KJ’s email—hspetservices@gmail.com
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
Using Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to Help With Strong Reactions as a Highly Sensitive Person
GUEST
Alison Morris
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Alison Morris talks about the benefits of using EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques, also known as tapping, to help release stress; calm our nervous system; change brain waves, disrupt fear signals from the amygdala, and to change core beliefs. We demonstrate how to tap on the belief of being too sensitive. Alison talks about the importance of acknowledging, allowing, accepting and having awareness of our feelings, and why as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) this is a powerful tool.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Emotional Freedom Techniques
- Also known as EFT or tapping
- Use acupressure points
- It’s like emotional acupuncture, but without needles
- Utilizes meridians, which are energy systems within the body
- In traditional Chinese medicine, meridiansare channels that form a network in the body, through which energy flows
- Rivers of energy
- At the meridian in the body, there is more electrical conductivity
- EFT can be used to
- Release stress
- Calm the nervous system
- Change brain waves
- Disrupt fear signals from the amygdala (fear or worry)
- Induce epigenetic changes
- Turn on immune function
- Turn off inflammation
- EFT has been comparably compared in effectiveness to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
- It works more quickly with fewer sessions
- You can try EFT on everything and anything
- It can help with a troubling memory, something in the present, stress or worry and physical pain
- It can be the most powerful when used on beliefs we hold about ourselves
- We pick up beliefs before we are six-years-old that become deeply ingrained
- Who am I?
- Is the world safe?
- The 4 As of EFT
- Acknowledge
- How we are feeling
- There are no wrong or bad feelings
- Feelings of shame, embarrassment, guilt, anger, sadness, etc.
- Allowing
- To feel it
- Focus on the negative
- Address what is
- There is a fear the feeling will never go away
- Feelings are supposed to be felt; then they move on
- Accepting
- I deeply and completely accept myself
- You are ok no matter what you feel
- How I am is fine
- I honor myself and the way I feel
- I honor my sensitivity and the gifts that it brings
- My sensitivity is a superpower
- EFT was designed to be a self-help tool
- You can tap with a partner or with a therapist or coach who is trained in EFT
- Common struggles
- I don’t know what to say or what words to use
- Don’t worry about it. You don’t have to use words if it’s overwhelming or you can’t come up with the words
- Not being specific enough—you will get better results if you are specific
- Notice what you are feeling in your body (head, muscles, stomach, jaws)
- Possible things to say
- Even thought I haven’t allowed myself to feel for years, and I’m afraid to start feeling…
- People have been telling me not to be so sensitive for years…
- I’m so overwhelmed, and I can’t identify what I’m feelings because it’s such a big mess…
- You get to be you
- It’s ok to be angry, swear, scream, cry
- You can tap in the car or the shower
- It’s just releasing energy
- You may sigh, yawn, cry
- Your focus may get brighter, shoulders drop down, sit up straighter
- Before tapping—
- Rate your symptom/distress on a scale of 1-10
- Try to pick something that’s not too intense—maybe something that’s a 4-6 in distress
- Notice where you feel it in your body
- Start with your “set up phrase” and repeat 3x with the karate chop on the side of your hand
- Even though I …..I deeply love and accept myself
- Use the reminder phrase when you tap on the following (see attached picture)
- Top of the head
- Above the eyebrow
- Outside the eye—side of your face
- Under the eye
- Under the nose
- Above the chin
- Collar bone
- Under the arm (where are bra strap would be if you wear a bra)
- It’s helpful to have water nearby so you don’t get dehydrated
- Often if feels like nothing has happened, but changes are happening
- The original protocol is to stay with the negative statements
- It’s like working on it to heal the wound
- If the negative feelings are subsiding, you can switch to reparative statements, but you don’t want to rush into this
- You can use tapping to feel honored, safer and to build inner strength
SCRIPT FOR TAPPING
Even though I really hate being so sensitive, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I have felt like a misfit for years because I am so sensitive I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I really wish sometimes that my sensitivity would just go away. I deeply and completely accept myself.
Now we're going to take fingers again either hand we're going to go right to the very top of the head. Like where a puppet would come from, you know, string would come up from the top of a puppet’s head, and just tap lightly while we say what's called a reminder phrase.
I hate being so sensitive.
All right, we're going to the eyebrow point which is the edge of the eyebrow closest to your nose. Again, you can use either hand or both hands, but just for now let's just use one hand, just tap lightly with two or three fingers.
I hate being so sensitive.
We follow to the outside of the eye just on that bone gently don't poke yourself in the eye.
I'm tired of being such a misfit.
Follow that bone underneath your eye. You know just an inch or two below.
I really hate being so sensitive.
Now we go to under the nose, that little indentation between your nose and your upper lip.
I hate being so sensitive.
The chin point which is above the chin, below the lower lip in that little indentation.
I'm so tired of being so sensitive.
Then we go to the collarbone point. So if you find your collarbone your clavicle and trace it sort of to the middle point where the two of them kind of almost come together, drop down an inch, and then go to one side, about two inches and you'll find a kind of a notch like an indentation in there. And that is technically the collarbone point. What I like to do though, just to keep it a little bit simpler is to take all five fingers and go all the way across your chest, below your collarbone. That way you make sure you get that point.
I'm so tired of being so sensitive.
Then finally we're going to do the underarm pit. This one looks a little weird. About four inches below your armpit. Where a bra strap would cross, you can curl one hand arm up on one side to reach it. Are you can reach across your chest to tap under your arm on the other side of your body, if that makes sense.
I hate being so sensitive.
Okay, so that's one round of tapping. So let's go back through now a little bit more quickly. Now that we know where all the points are.
GUEST BIO
Alison Morris is a certified EFT practitioner who loves helping people understand how they respond to stress and how EFT or tapping can help them quickly and effectively release whatever has them stressed - whether a memory, a physical symptom, or a fear of the future. Alison has focused mostly on helping parents of children with serious emotional and behavioral challenges, many of whom are Highly Sensitive People, through her work at Full Potential Parenting.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Alison’s Links
Website--http://full-potential-parenting.com
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/FullPotentialParenting/
YouTube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbvovgDdQFAaosog6di9XiQ/videos
Highly Sensitive Person self-test--https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
Patricia Carrington, PhD The Choices Method--https://patcarrington.com/introducing-the-choices-method/
Gary Craig EFT Tapping--https://www.emofree.com/
I wasn’t able to include the sheet for tapping (sorry). If you go to the closed fb group (link below), the diagram is already posted there. Alison and I will be making a video and I will post a link in the group for you.
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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TITLE
The Highly Sensitive Man: Finding Strength in Sensitivity, Author Tom Falkenstein
GUEST
Tom Falkenstein, MA
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Tom Falkenstein, author of the book The Highly Sensitive Man discusses the pressure men feel to be strong and to not show their emotions, and how Highly Sensitive Men can feel they’re not living up to the masculine ideal. He talks about how we can support sensitive boys, and we talk about how men lose touch with their intuition. Tom shares some tools he used when he was feeling nervous about being on television, and he talks about his own strengths as a Highly Sensitive Man.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Michael Pluess talks about the trait of being an HSP as Environmental Sensitivity
- Some Highly Sensitive Males struggle with being sensitive, and they receive feedback that they are not ok, or that they are too feminine
- Tom noticed there weren’t many books about the Highly Sensitive Man
- Tom wanted to make the trait of High Sensitivity visible
- Many men grow up with a sense that they didn’t satisfy the boy code
- Some men feel that they are not living up the masculine ideal of being stoic, self-reliant and embracing competition
- Men are not born less emotional than women
- When we let feelings build up and don’t express them, it is likely we will have a blow-up or a melt-down
- Tim answers the question—How do men balance being sensitive with the traditional ideas of men being “strong and not showing their emotions?”
- The idea that men should NOT show their emotions is NOT healthy
- It’s important to learn to appreciate your sensitivity
- Men can be confident about being sensitive
- Men can learn they can be themselves and NOT to be ashamed
- Not showing emotions is a huge conflict ALL men experience, but even more so for the Highly Sensitive Man
- Being emotionally expressive is not the typical masculine ideal, and showing emotions can trigger feelings of shame, insecurities and not feeling worthy
- How can parents support young boys who show signs of being Highly Sensitive?
- It’s crucial NOT to shame boys for being sensitive
- Being emotional is fine. Feelings provide information, and we can change our feelings and work with them
- Feelings are important
- We don’t want to label a child as being Highly Sensitive (per Dr. Elaine Aron)—meaning telling the child they are a Highly Sensitive Child (HSC)
- We can use descriptive terms to model and teach the child—you are really sad, it hurts your feelings when xx happens etc.
- It’s important to allow feelings, talk about feelings and to model feelings
- Why is it that men learn to believe everything they are told instead of trusting their intuition or inner voice?
- Our socialization (for both men and women) influences whether we are taught to honor and trust our inner voice or to abandon it for the external rules
- Don’t call your child shy or quiet. It can be very damaging!
- Highly Sensitive Children (and some adults) prefer to stand at the sidelines and observe before participating.
- We are more cautious and want to get the lay of the land before jumping in
- If I child is Highly Sensitive, do you tell them that they are?
GUEST BIO
TOM FALKENSTEIN has worked in the mental health sector since 1999 and as a cognitive behavioral psychotherapist since 2006. After obtaining his degree in psychology at the University of Glasgow, he completed his five-year postgraduate training in psychotherapy in Berlin. He then moved back to the UK where he worked as a psychotherapist in London. During this period, he developed a particular interest in high sensitivity and working with highly sensitive people. He has been training with Dr. Elaine Aron (author of "The Highly Sensitive Person") since 2015 and has founded the European Centre for High Sensitivity (www.hsp-eu.com). Currently practicing in Berlin, he also offers consultations for highly sensitive people in both English and German. "The Highly Sensitive Man" is his first book and was published in Germany by Junfermann in September 2017. It has been translated into a number of other languages.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Tom’s Links
Website http://www.hsp-eu.com/
Instagram https://instagram.com/tomfalkenstein
The Highly Sensitive Man: Finding Strength in Sensitivity by Tom Falkenstein
Strong Sensitive Boy by Ted Zeff
Dr. Ted Zeff--https://www.drtedzeff.com/
T.V. Show Long Island Medium with Theresa Caputo
Patricia’s Links
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
The Unspoken Strengths of the Highly Sensitive Person—Mainly, the Power of Our Presence
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
HSPs have a powerful ability to show up and be present for others. We often feel less than because we compare the accomplishments of others without realizing that we hold space, listen and notice things in a powerful way. Our society is very oriented to doing. For the Highly Sensitive Person, we excel at being, which is not always appreciated, recognized or valued. In this episode, we also look at a number of the perceived weaknesses of HSPs and talk about the corresponding strengths/superpowers we have.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Episode 59 with Azul Terronez called Influence Comes from Service really highlights many of the unspoken strengths of the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
- Our culture tends to measure success in terms of doing and achievements vs. the power of presence and being
- As HSPs, we have an amazing ability to hold space, listen, recognize and observe things that most people don’t
- We are often the emotional glue that holds our families and relationships together
- It’s often easy for use to measure the non-HSPs parts of our relationships to others, and to forget how powerful our presence is to others
- Often systems are set up in ways that can make us feel that there is something wrong with us, but it’s the system or person that isn’t functional/responsive or able to meet our need(s)
- Many of us have the wound of too much and not enough
- When we start comparing, we WILL feel inadequate
- How can we honor what comes up for us, and be able to address the subtext (when appropriate)? THIS is our greatest strength
POSITIVE MESSAGES—OUR SUPERPOWERS
- I value self-care, and am in need of rest and recharging
- I process more information on a deeper level
- I’m good at trying new things and I enjoy the moment
- I trust my process and I take the time I need
- I’m not afraid to feel
- I’m in touch with my emotions
- I feel things deeply; it’s healthy and I’m strong, and it allow me to be myself
- I see things that others don’t
- What I do is valuable
- What I bring is valuable
- I am valuable
- I am so beautifully in touch with myself, which is a gift to myself, and others. Everyone is doing their best
- I teach others by example how to feel deeply and how to experience a wide range of human emotions
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Episode 59 Influence comes from service with Azul Terronez https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-59/
Episode 5 I gave myself permission to be me, and not place undue expectations about who I should be with Melvin Varghese, PhD https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-episode-5/
Episode 17 part 1 & 2 Conversations with a non-binary HS Therapist with Dara Hoffman-Fox https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-episode-17-part-1/
https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-episode-17-part-2/
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TITLE
Influence Comes From Service; I Just Need To Show Up And Be Myself
GUEST
Azul Terronez
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Author, Podcaster and Book Whisperer, Azul Terronez, was afraid to write a book. He talks about not being good at reading and writing, and flunking freshman English at UCLA; he later learned he has dyslexia. He’s helped authors who have become international best sellers, and he has a TEDx talk called What Makes a Good Teacher that has over 1.6 million views. Azul names his superpowers, which are traits of being Highly Sensitve—oberserving, connecting, listening & accepting. He discovers during this episode that he thinks he may be a Highly Sensitive Person.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Azul loved telling stories, and he wanted to be a writer, but his teachers discouraged him because he wasn’t good at reading or writing
- Azul found out in his late 20’s he had dyslexia
- Azul flunked Freshman English at UCLA
- He became an English teacher (but didn’t have a degree in teaching)
- Azul could see words and how they work
- Although he wanted to write a book, he didn’t have access to a publisher and he believed he wasn’t good enough
- Azul taught his students how to publish books
- A student asked Azul where was his book, but he had been too afraid to write a book
- Azul signed up for Pat Flynn & Chris Ducker’s 1 Day Breakthrough Workshop, but had no book or anything to show he had a business
- He decided to write a book in 30 days (the workshop was a little over 30 days away)
- Azul wondered Can I make a living outside of being a teacher?
- Azul wrote the book The Art of Apprenticeship and sent it to a publisher the day before the workshop
- Azul became a principal and an administrator, but it was difficult because he had to emotionally manage adults
- If I play a role, I can be successful
- I could be very strong, but I felt isolated
- I felt supported, but distant
- I found the language to describe my experience
- I would feel so much
- It helped me help other people
- I noticed what I was experiencing
- Pat Flynn asked Azul to help him write his book, which became an international best seller
- Azul has been able to live all over the world
- He has a podcast called Born to Write
QUOTES
I just need to show up and be myself
Influence comes from service
I can show up and serve
You can be yourself, and I will hold that space for you
Acting is what I’m doing in Life. [studying acting in college] This will make me successful
I was observant, sensitive, and I paid attention more
I had to find the language to describe my experience
I bring the story out of people
I’m good at thinking ahead and anticipating what people need
I helped kids blossom
GUEST BIO
Azul Terronez has been called a book whisperer He helps leaders write and publish books that people love so they can create their brand, grow their audience, and increase their influence. His signature coaching program is built around the idea that creating books is about building the conversation that you want to own. Azul is the CEO of Authors Who Lead™ and the host of the top writing podcast Born to Write. His TEDx talk “What Makes a Good Teacher Great” has been viewed over 1.6 million times. Azul’s clients have included Wall Street Bestseller, Pat Flynn from the Smart Passive Income Podcast, Jadah Sellner co-founder Simple Green Smoothies and Dana Malstaff the founder of Boss-mom. He lives in San Juan, Puerto Rico.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Azul’s Links
Website: https://authorswholead.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SteveAndAzul/
Instagram: @azulterronez
Podcast Born to Write--https://coachazul.com/blog/tag/born-to-write-podcast/
Tedx Talk What Makes a Good Teacher Great-- https://mail.google.com/mail/u/1/#inbox/FMfcgxwDrRSjVrwJZgglRJJQvwjxDtsw?projector=1
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website—HSP Self-Test--https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Honoring the Highly Sensitive Introvert
GUEST
Nicole Burgess, LMFT
EPISODE OVERVIEW
What do people need to know about introverts? Do introverts tend to need more time to process? Do they tend to process internally vs. processing verbally in the moment? Are introverts shy, anxious, or do they hate people? Are introverts slow to warm up? We tackle some common myths about introversion. This is a fun, spontaneous interview, with lots of laughter. We have a messy, raw conversation about the difference between therapy and coaching that goes badly.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), are really in-tune with things vs. calling it highly sensitive
- The biggest difference between coaching and therapy is there is no diagnosis and people are mentally healthier; meaning they have a stronger sense of self, yet are open to going deeper in letting go of old beliefs/mindsets, etc.
- I also think we therapists are great coaches because we know how to ask great questions; help in getting people to move forward in their lives vs stay in a disempowered mode. We also have training in communication, boundaries, and so much. Each of us can bring our skills as therapists and other professions into coaching
- What’s the difference between coaching and therapy?
- Is therapy only about the past and coaching is only about the future?
- What are the benefits of online coaching or therapy?
- What kind of coaches do therapists make?
- Introversion—True or false? Introverts are “shy, anxious, hates people”
- True or false? introverts struggle w self-confidence and don’t know their souls
- What does the world need to know about introverts?
- A special shout out to April Snow for connecting many of us Highly Sensitive Therapists
- What do we do when we’re in a social situation and we don’t feel heard, and one person is dominating the conversation?
- We talk about play
BIO
Nicole Burgess, LMFT, is a licensed psychotherapist and leadership coach to introverted high achieving professional women in midlife. Over the last fifteen years she has coached, guided and collaborated with over a 1,000 women. She helps them demote their inner critic, embrace their fears through action, and grow professionally without sacrificing their personal life. As a result, they are more productive at work, have more meaningful relationships, and no longer sacrifice their well-being for others.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Nicole’s Links
https://ww.nicoleburgesscoaching.com
https://www.facebook.com/nicoleburgesscoaching
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicoleburgesscoach/
Soulfilled Sisterhood Podcast-- https://nicoleburgesscoaching.com/podcast/
Launching Your Daughter Podcast-- https://nicolecburgess.com/launchingyourdaughter/
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jacquelyn Strickland-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
Patricia’s Links
Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
The Challenges & Gifts of Being a Highly Sensitive Musician with Brian Zirngible, LMFT
GUEST
Brian Zirngible, LMFT
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Brian, who is a musician and a therapist, talks about his work with men who are creatives, musicians and artists, but rarely come to therapy on their own, and don’t know that they are Highly Sensitive. Brian talks about the names he was called for being sensitive, and that his family didn’t really talk about feelings. We talk about the importance of self-compassion, mindfulness and curiosity as well as slowing down before responding when we’re picking up on something without having all the information.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Brian talks about how sensitivity was viewed in his family
- What is an educated and empowered HSP?
- Why is it important for the Highly Sensitive Person to be around other HSPs?
- Brian talks about the names he was called for being sensitive
- Brian talks about some men having difficulty expressing their feelings
- In Brian’s experience, men often don’t go to therapy on their own
- Many times, a partner, bandmate or spouse tell the man they need to go to therapy, or that they might benefit from talking to someone
- Generally, the men that Brian sees, come in to get help with getting unstuck with creativity
- Often underneath the unstuckness is depression, anxiety, substance abuse
- It can be challenging to be a man since men are given the message to be tough, don’t cry, don’t be a baby
- There is pressure in athletics, the classroom and the music industry to be tough and to deny sensitivity
- Brian talks about Kristen Neff’s work and the importance of radical self-acceptance
- Brian talks about his superpowers of being able to read a room, which helps him as a therapist, and as musician
- We talk about the importance of slowing down and taking a breath and getting curious when we “read” something, but may not know why someone looks a certain way or has said something
- We talk about the importance of mindfulness, self-compassion and curiosity
- Brian’s primary message is that he wants people, especially the Highly Sensitive Person, to know you are not alone
- He also talks about JOMO—the joy of missing out (instead of FOMO—the fear of missing out)
- Brian talks about what he would want his younger self to know
GUEST BIO
Brian Zirngible is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Burnsville, Minnesota. His specialties & passions are supporting highly sensitive men, musicians & performing artists to find more balance, boundaries & bad-assery in their lives. Brian is a performing artist & musician himself, playing in 3 different musical projects. He practices daily meditation, mindfulness & is a husband to a super supportive & amazing wife. Brian is also a father to the cutest fur-baby shih tzu ever!
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Brian’s Links
website-- https://www.brianzirngible.com/
facebook--https://www.facebook.com/brianzirngiblelmft/
iTunes-- https://music.apple.com/us/artist/brian-zirngible/1448287592
CD Baby-- https://store.cdbaby.com/artist/BrianZirngible
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website—HSP self-test
https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
The Highly Sensitive Person by Dr. Elaine Aron
Sensitive: The Untold Story-- https://sensitivethemovie.com/
Kristen Neff-- https://self-compassion.org/
Patricia’s Links
Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
San Diego Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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A Highly Sensitive Therapist talks about Feeling Invisible, & How She Views Her Anxiety After Learning She’s An HSP
GUEST
Kitty McCormick
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Kitty is a childhood friend who is now a therapist. We talk about the anxieties we both felt as children, but never discussed. Kitty’s father was a prominent public figure, and she was pushed into acting/auditioning as a child to help with her shyness. She also talks about some of the barriers she experienced with non-Highly Sensitive Therapists, and her desire to please. Kitty also talks about the challenges she experienced in groups (including therapy groups) being an introvert until she took the Online HSP Course.
BIO
Kitty McCormick is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Los Angeles, who has avidly worked with children and families for over 20 years. She received her Masters in Social Work from the University of Southern California, with a concentration in mental health practice with individuals, families, and groups. She has extensive experience in the Los Angeles Unified School District where she worked with at-risk children, adolescents, and young adults. In that setting, she also regularly collaborated with Child Protective Services, the County of Los Angeles Probation Department (Juvenile Services), and numerous community service agencies throughout L.A. County to assist and support clients as needed. In 2017, Kitty shifted from doing social work in public school settings to doing psychotherapy in therapeutic schools with children who have greater emotional needs. It was at that point in her career where she began private practice in the community mental health arena, which offers affordable counseling services. This year she began her own private practice. Some of Kitty’s hobbies include yoga, weekend getaways, walking in nature, being around animals, and spending quality time with her husband.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Free Drawing for Online HSP Course Beginning the week of January 12, 2020
EPISODE OVERVIEW
If you’d like to enter to win free registration for the Online HSP Course that begins the week of January 12, 2020, please listen to this episode (there are 4 groups that will be starting). If you’re interested in taking the Course, but have financial considerations, please reach out to me at unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com. I’m happy to work with you if I can. There’s a money back guarantee for the Course because I believe in what I’m offering. You can get more information at https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Poll results—If You Could NOT Be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), Would You? Questions to Ask Yourself
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
If you could NOT be an HSP, would you? I share the results of a poll that 93 HSPs responded to including the pros and cons given. Two major things happened on Christmas Eve before 9 a.m. at my home. Ways to evaluate how your holidays went, and how to create what you might want for the following year. Questions to ask yourself to help you set goals for the New Year, and my wishes for you for the next year.
HIGHLIGHTS
If you could NOT be an HSP, would you
93 responses
Yes—20% (less than ½ were men)—related to autoimmune disorders, pain
Maybe—5%
No—75%
Those that WOULD change and no longer be an HSP
Happier, more confident in my own skin. I’m lonely and unsuccessful
Misunderstood
Barely surviving life
Can’t go on like this
Sick of this
Not fitting in
Exhausting
Those that WOULDN’T change, and remain being an HSP
Work on themselves and as they learned about themselves they accepted who they are
Natural leader
More in tune with others’ needs
Have a greater appreciation for beauty, nature, poetry, music, art
Even though have lower lows, they have greater depth of happiness
The more I learn about myself, the happier I am
Being an HSP isn’t the issue; it’s an issue with our society
I’m more confident in who I am. I don’t let societal norms affect me
I don’t want to numb my compassion
I like the quirkiness that makes me
I might want my sensory sensitivity removed, but keep the emotional depth
It helps me be creative, artistic and introspective
HSPs are shamans and healers (therapists, massage therapist, teachers)
Would be boring—I wouldn’t have insight and I wouldn’t care
I’m strong and resilient
31 Questions to ask yourself before setting next year’s goals
- What are the first thoughts that come to mind about the past year? Mostly positive, negative, or neutral?
- What was one of the most interesting things I learned this year?
- Who was one person I met that I'd like to get to know better? Why?
- What was one of my most challenging moments? Why?
- What was one of my favorite accomplishments?
- What was one personal strength I used this year? How did it benefit my work or life?
- What hurdle came up more than once? (time, money, attitude, location, knowledge, etc.)
- How well did I communicate with the people who matter most to me?
- What three events or accomplishments were made possible by the help of others?
- What advice would I offer someone else on the basis of a lesson I learned this year?
- What are three problems that came up at work? How did I approach solving those problems? Are there any trends in those problems or solutions?
- Who needed my encouragement this year? What did I say or do to help them along?
- If I were writing a memoir, what would I highlight in the chapter about this year?
- What was I doing when I forgot about time and was able to be "in the moment"?
- What frustration seemed to come up again and again?
- What did I start and not finish?
- What did I try and fail?
- What three things am I curious to know more about?
- If I could wave a magic wand and master one skill, what would it be? Why?
- Who is one person I could help right now? How? What would it "cost" me? What would I gain?
- When did I slow someone else's progress? Why? What was I worried about?
- What's one thing I made or created from scratch? How did that feel?
- What's one thing I did that left me exhausted at the end? How did that feel?
- What's one thing I was a part of this year that I'll remember for the rest of my life? Why?
- What was the nicest thing someone did for me this year?
- What was the nicest thing I did for someone else this year?
- If I could change one thing that happened this year, what would it be?
- What felt difficult one year ago that now feels easy (or easier)?
- Of the books I read this year, which was my favorite?
- How did I capture my thoughts and feelings? (journaling, writing, social media sharing, talking one-on-one with friends or family, etc.) Was that method helpful?
- What are six adjectives that best describe this year? What would I like those adjectives to be next year?
My wishes for you for 2020—
- If you’re not familiar, Become more familiar with the trait
- Practice radical self-compassion
- Play, connection, a creative outlet, a way that you express yourself
- a few deep, meaningful relationships where you feel seen, heard and honored
- a lifestyle that really honors your HS needs
- abundance—time, laughter, money, acceptance, relationships
- joyful movement of your body
- curiosity and the love of learning
- love for yourself and others
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
31 Questions to ask yourself before setting next year’s goals--https://www.inc.com/robin-camarote/31-questions-to-ask-yourself-before-setting-next-years-goals.html
Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
To enter for a free drawing for the Online HSP Course—
HSP Online Course
- Send an e-mail to unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
- I will send a short screening form, and the HSP group intake
- Sunday January 12 I will draw a name and send the winner an e-mail
- You MUST indicate which of the 4 groups you want to join (you can find the groups at https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Expectations & Disappointments & Creating a Vision for 2020
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We all experience expectations and disappointments, and it’s more present at this time of year. Do I regret talking about relationship issues? When do we talk about issues with others, and when do we need to work it out on our own? It’s ok to have wants and needs, but sometimes we need to show up for ourselves. I talk about a new awareness that frustrates me! With the New Year approaching, what do you want to create more of, and what do you want less of? I suggest a daily practice to help us honor ourselves.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Expectations and disappointments
- This time of year creates more of this
- This can also show up in relationships
- Can we allow people to show up exactly as they are
- Do I regret talking about some of the challenges I’ve had this past year with my relationships
- When do we name what’s going on, and when do we either leave it, or process with someone else
- As we grow and change, how we handle relationships may change
- I talk about how I feel about recording or saying certain things in the episode where I wasn’t invited, and I felt hurt
- I tend to pick friends who are very opposite of me in some ways, but it can create some challenges
- What do we do when we want someone to do something for us, but we don’t want to ask for it because it doesn’t count
- Ways to evaluate stuck places in relationships
- What to do when we’re not feeling seen and heard in a relationship
- When is it my responsibility to step and really be present for myself
- We often choose people in our lives in an attempt to work out some of the things we missed from our parents
- We want nurturing and healing from other relationships—there’s nothing wrong with this
- How we can evaluate if looking for this outside validation is working or not
- We’re supposed to be connected to others; it’s ok to have wants—this can be very healthy
- How we can honor pain and see what’s on the other side
- What happens when the wound of not enough comes up
- Many of us have a fear of getting in touch with our needs will bring up rage around not getting it when we were younger
- How do we show up for ourselves?
- In order to heal, we need to learn to be here for ourselves
- We can still get it from others—it’s not an “either or”
- How we can understand some of the dynamics in our relationships
- Being alive means we’re going to experience discomfort—we can manage
- When we realize that we’re expecting someone else to make us feel whole and complete, it’s not uncommon for us to then feel anger, grief, disappointment
- We can still stay in relationships and focus on the parts that work, and know that there are limitations
- We may notice things in relationships that the other person doesn’t see
- Sometimes we need to say something, and sometimes we just get to notice that it’s there
- How are we showing up in relationships?
- What are we expecting from others?
- Is it giving us peace?
- Are our attachment or abandonment issues coming up?
- Are we getting hung up?
- How we honor others in relationships even when we think “we know best” for the other person
- You can use radical self-compassion and mindfulness to notice what’s going on and where we get stuck
- We want to be our best selves
- When you have good support, we can learn to work through these things
- We can recognize patterns that are going on without acting from that place of wounding
- What are you needing to take care of yourself?
- You can listen to a favorite song
- Take a bath
- Take a walk
- Spend time with a child
- Take time alone
- Spend time with an animal
- Have a cup of tea or hot chocolate
- Curl up with a cozy blanket
- Watch a movie or show
- Light a candle
- Go into the bathroom for alone time
- Using box breathing—breathe in for a count of 4; hold for 4, exhale for 4 and hold for 4. Repeat at least 8 times
- If everything sucks, then notice what sucks
- Sometimes things suck and that’s just how it is
- At the end of the year, I write about what’s happened professionally, personally, friendships, spirituality, health
- My goal this next year is to look at myself through my own lens
- I want to own my perspective and not minimize
- I want to live a bolder brighter life and to be less apologetic
- I imagine how other people are responding to me instead of owning my perspective. This hurts me
- I want to see my life and my responses from my perspective
- What are you working on?
- What do you want more of in the New Year?
- What do you want less of in the New Year?
- What’s working
- What’s not working
- Think of 3 things you’ve done daily to take care of yourself
- Focus on the process, not the outcome or the feelings
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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A Highly Sensitive Relationship Coach Shares Her Experience Taking the Online HSP Course
GUEST
Hannah Kuglen
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Relationship Coach, Hannah, talks about the wound of feeling like you’re too much and not enough. She shares how this came up for her in the Online HSP Course, and how she worked with it. Hannah talks about how she manages intense feelings, and what she tells herself when this happens. Hannah talks about how she reacts when she senses that people aren’t saying what they’re feeling. At the end, there’s a bonus recording of us talking about the differences between coaching and therapy that happened after the interview.
BIO
Hannah Kuglen lives in San Diego, CA. She is a life coach who helps people improve their sex lives and romantic relationships by exploring and elevating self-awareness and communication skills. Hannah believes that, at the end of the day, relationships matter most and we should embrace, nurture, and treat them as tools for personal development. Hannah enjoys reading, writing, cooking, and exploring new places with her husband.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Hannah’s Links
Blog--bit.ly/SnuggleStruggles
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/LYFCoachKuglen/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/lyfcoachkuglen/
Justine Froelker Healing Takes Place When We Are In Connection With Others Episode 10-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-episode-10/
Ted Talks Justine Froelker
The Permission of the “And” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9UjzHTjHEqg
The Donut Effect: Owning our Stories https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZLTl3l6YE6o
Patricia’s Links
Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Creating Peace Through the Holidays
GUEST
Sharon Martin, LCSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We talk about ways to make the holidays smoother—in terms of travelling, having guests, dealing with family members who may be challenging, feeling obligated, overspending, expectations, and lots of ways that Sensitives can provide better care for themselves during these times of overstimulation, high expectations and lots of activity. Sharon explains what it’s like if a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) has a narcissist (or someone with narcissistic tendencies) in their life. We talk about feeling criticized, and no matter what you do, it never feels like you’re enough or you’re good enough. We talk a little about anxiety and depression and how counseling or therapy can help to gain insight into patterns that are from childhood. We talk about ways to take breaks; looking at new traditions, and being sure to take care of our basic needs
HIGHLIGHTS
- Which parts of the holidays are overwhelming?
- You don’t have to do everything
- Take a lot of breaks
- If you are travelling to see family, consider staying in a hotel
- Be sure you’re taking care of your basic needs—sleep, nutrition, time alone, exercise, quiet time
- How to deal with challenging family members who may be narcissistic or are very critical
- Setting realistic expectations
- Prioritizing your values
- Recognizing limited resources
- Identifying where you feel obligated
- Fear of disappointing others
BIO
Sharon Martin, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist, mental health writer, and media contributor on emotional health and relationships. Her psychotherapy practice, in San Jose, CA, specializes in helping perfectionists and people-pleasers embrace their imperfections and overcome self-doubt and shame. Her own struggle to feel “good enough”, inspired her passion for helping others learn to accept and love themselves. Sharon writes the popular blog Happily Imperfect for PsychCentral.com and is the author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
website: https://LiveWellwithSharonMartin.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sharonmartinlcsw/
blog: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imperfect/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/smartinlcsw/
Dr. Elaine Aron www.hsperson.com
Dr. Ted Zeff www.drtedzeff.com
Movie—Sensitive The Untold Story
Podcast—Highly Sensitive Person highlysensitiveperson.net/book
A Highly Sensitive Person’s Life: Stories and Advice for Those Who Experience the World Intensely by Kelly O’Laughlin
HSP Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
To write a review in itunes:
- click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
- select “listen on Apple Podcasts”
- chose “open in itunes”
- choose “ratings and reviews”
- click to rate the number of starts
- click “write a review”
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/
E-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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A Highly Sensitive Person and introvert, Heidi Tamm, talks about her experience taking the online HSP Course
GUESTS
Heidi Tamm
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Heidi talks about these questions—How did you feel about the cost? Was it worth it? How was it having an online experience? Did you feel connected to the other members in the group? How was it being an introvert in the group? Did you feel seen, heard and honored? Did the Course meet your expectations? How was it being with 6 other HSPs? Did you feel the group was a safe place to share? What If you’re not sure you’re an HSP?
BIO
Heidi Tamm was born and raised in the Pacific Northwest. She is currently a Biologist for the National Park Service in Northern Idaho. Enjoy being outside and exploring, especially with my husband and our four fur babies.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Crystal Paul Therapist--https://www.crystalpaulcounseling.com/
To write a review in itunes:
- click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
- select “listen on Apple Podcasts”
- chose “open in itunes”
- choose “ratings and reviews”
- click to rate the number of starts
- click “write a review”
Patricia’s Links
Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Jeff Guenther, LPC, Interviews Patricia About the Strengths of Being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
GUEST
Jeff Guenther, LPC
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Does a client who comes to therapy need to learn to be more resilient? If a couple comes to therapy, should the focus be on getting the HSP to be less sensitive? These are questions that Jeff Guenther asks during this interview. We also talk about how therapeutic ruptures can occur when the therapist is not aware of the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). We talk a little bit about High Sensation Seeking (HSS), and we talk about the strengths and gifts HSPs have to offer the world.
HIGHLIGHTS
- The interview starts with me saying that I’m tired and depleted, and we talk about why this type of authenticity is important to me
- We talk about introversion and extroversion and that much that we see about introverts overlays the trait of High Sensitivity, but doesn’t distinguish this
- I thought I had social anxiety, but it turns out I probably got overaroused and overstimulated when I was younger, and didn’t understand what it was, and assumed I had social anxiety
- I thought I was an introvert and used it as an excuse to not socialize
- Turns out, I’m a Highly Sensitive Extrovert, so I need to find my sweet spot for enough socializing, but not too much
- We talk about High Sensation Seeking (HSS) and what it might look like
- I give the statistic that men and women equally represent that trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person, but I neglect to say that I haven’t seen research about how those numbers impact folx who are non-binary or trans
- Thank you to Dara Hoffman-Fox for bringing this to my attention
- 50% of clients in therapy are Highly Sensitive (HSP)
- They are the clients who tend to arrive on time
- Pay their bills on time
- Do homework
- Really want to dig in to therapy
- If a therapist doesn’t know about the trait of being Highly Sensitive, they may try and get their client to be like the 80% of non-HSPs, this can be detrimental to the client and cause a rupture in therapy without the therapist even realizing it
- When a therapist is HS Knowledgeable, their client retention increases since they are able to attune to their HS client. It’s a win-win for the therapist and the client
- In the brain of a HSP, more areas are active and taking in information. An HSP may gather 20 pieces of data from an interaction, and a non-HSP may gather 5. This is how mis-attunement can happen, or why HSPs see and experience things that non-HSPs miss
- A therapist who is HS Knowledgeable will want to be aware of how they are showing up for the client (are they tired, stressed etc.). It may help the relationship when the therapist communicates their own limitation. It creates safety for the HS client
- As therapists and coaches, we want to initially do validating, mirroring, normalization, education, and then skill-building (if that’s in alignment with the client’s goals)
- Jeff asks if a Highly Sensitive Person came to see me, would I help them be more resilient. I ask Jeff if he’s assuming that HS clients/people need to be more resilient
GUEST BIO
Jeff Guenther, LPC, is a therapist in Portland, OR. He has been in private practice since 2005. Jeff is the creator and owner of Portland Therapy Center, a highly ranked therapist directory. He also hosts a podcast called Say More About That about trending mental health topics. Jeff has launched a new progressive therapist directory at TherapyDen that fights racism, homophobia, transphobia and all other forms of discrimination. Sign up for a profile at TherapyDen and get your first six months free.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online courses for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Jeff’s links:
Jeff’s website-- http://jeffguentherlpc.com/
Therapy Den-- https://www.therapyden.com/
Jeff’s Podcast-- https://www.therapyden.com/news/say-more-about-that-a-podcast-about-what-clients-really-want-in-a-therapist
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
Dr. Ted Zeff’s website— http://www.drtedzeff.com/
Strong Sensitive Boy Dr. Ted Zeff
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
Patricia’s links:
HSP Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Two Participants From The Online HSP Course Share Their Experience
GUESTS
Shelly Aaron & Melissa
EPISODE OVERVIEW
You get to hear past participants talk about these questions—Did you have resistance to taking the Course? How did you feel about the cost? Was it worth it? How was it having an online experience? Did you feel connected to the other members in the group? Did you feel that 1 person dominated or that you didn’t get your needs met? Did you feel seen, heard and honored? Did the Course meet your expectations? How was it being with 6 other HSPs? Did you feel the group was a safe place to share? What If you’re not sure you’re an HSP?
HIGHLIGHTS
- What are some things that you feel are important to share about the Course
- Melissa talks about how she felt heard in a way she hadn’t ever felt heard
- I ask if participants ever felt shamed or exposed in a way that made them feel uncomfortable
- Both Melissa and Shelly talk about how they were impacted by the way that I show up as a facilitator
- Participants felt like they had permission to share what they felt afraid or embarrassed to share
- This allowed other group members to share in an open, vulnerable and safe way
- Participants felt that the Course was a safe space to share
- How was it doing online work?
- Did you feel connected to other group members online?
- My gremlins come up during the interview, and I share this
- How was it being in a group of 6 other HSPs
- One participant took the whole course from bed (I had no idea)
- It’s nice to be in a group of HSPs who are interested in doing the work
- This Course is about honoring your needs
- Participants felt like they weren’t alone when they heard others share about things they experienced
- I felt like I finally belonged somewhere—receiving support and offering support felt good
- Melissa said she would NEVER take this Course, and they money was a barrier. She talked about her experience after taking the Course
- Melissa and her husband both took the Course, and she talks about how this has impacted her marriage
- Melissa also talks about learning her son is an HSP, and how this has impacted their relationship
- What would you say to someone who may be considering the Course, but feels like they’ve don’t things like this, or that it’s too expensive
- If you’re not sure you’re an HSP, several people took this Course anyway, and they said they benefited learning more
- I ask Shelly and Melissa if they ever felt like someone dominated the group, or they didn’t get their needs met
- How we used reality checks when someone felt that they were taking up too much time, and Shelly and Melissa talk about how this impacted them
BIOS
Shelly Aaron
As a current yoga teacher, health coach & bodyworker, I've spent the last 15 years of my career, passionately coaching individuals to exceed their goals...which has ultimately led me to this amazing work of video and audio production.
If you're a yoga teacher, trainer, or entrepreneur thinking about creating your own audio or video productions, but need some assistance in getting started, we should talk. I offer services from just getting started to getting ready to launch. From podcasts to teaching videos, I'll show you how to produce your own or we can bring your production to life together.
Melissa
Summa Cum Laude Graduate of Clarion University of PA
B.S. in CAIS (Computer Applications and Information Sciences)
Over 10 Years of Consulting experience
I install, repair, optimize tech, and teach you how to use and love technology at a reasonable price. I am also happy to build your website to your tastes and needs. Think of me as your technical counselor. 215-834-6236
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Shelly Aaron Productions--https://www.shellyaaron.com/
Patricia’s Links
Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Boundaries--I Want To Be The One To Stop It Here
GUEST
Sarah Buino, LCSW, CADC, RDDP, CDWF
EPISODE OVERVIEW
This episode is all about authenticity and vulnerability. Sarah talks about being a wounded healer and why she chooses to tell the truth when someone asks her how she is. Sarah talks about her resistance to the term Highly Sensitive Person, aka HSP, and we examine this. We talk about NARM in therapy, and why Sarah believes in it. Sarah talks about her decision to NOT have children, and we have an in-depth discussion about a boundary Sarah set with me, and how we both responded to this boundary.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Why it’s beneficial to be authentic when someone asks, “How are you?”
- Sarah talks about when feelings of not being worthy show up for her
- NARM—Neuro Affective Relational Model
- Sarah is doing her own work through the NARM model, and she has found it very effective
- It gets to developmental trauma that may be pre-verbal
- Epigenetics
- Trauma that happens in the womb can be passed from mother to child
- Non-verbal things in the environment can be passed on to children
- Sarah’s decision to not have children and why she made the decision
- Sarah talks about how she was impacted since her mother had her in order to have someone to love her
- The challenge of setting boundaries
- What fears come up for Sarah if she anticipates having to set a boundary
- What Sarah’s behavior may look like if she hasn’t set a boundary
- The benefits of setting boundaries
- The unexpected benefits when she has set boundaries
- Sarah talks about her resistance to identifying as an HSP
- We talk about the cultural connotation of sensitivity and how it can be perceived as a weakness
- We talk about alternative ways to describe what being an HSP means
- Highly Attuned
- Highly perceptive
- Highly responsive
- When Sarah and I first talked, she set a boundary with me, and we discuss how that impacted both of us
- We talk about how grief can be more complicated if you’ve had a challenging relationship with the deceased
- Sarah shares her experience of losing her parents—she had a difficult relationship with both of them, but has gotten some healing since their death
- We talk about therapists being vulnerable with their clients
- Sarah talks about what being a wounded healer means and how she uses this in her word
- I talk about Arianna Smith’s analogy of the bathtub when talking about overarousal and overstimulation and the HSP
BIO
Sarah Buino, LCSW, CADC, RDDP, CDWF is a speaker, teacher, therapist and the founder of Head/Heart Therapy, Inc. She holds a masters degree from Loyola University in Chicago and specializes in shame, trauma, and substance use disorders.
Sarah integrates her knowledge of complementary healing modalities such as music, yoga, reiki, and the chakra system into her clinical practice to help clients enhance their authenticity. She’s also the host of a podcast Conversations With a Wounded Healer which examines the role of one’s own healing while being a care-giving professional.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Sarah’s Links
Website-- https://headhearttherapy.com/
IG: @headhearttherapy
FB: @headhearttherapy @woundedhealr
Twitter: @HeadHeart_Chi @woundedhealr
Podcast—Conversations with a Wounded Healer https://headhearttherapy.com/podcast/
Resources
NARM Therapy—Neuro Affective Relationship Model https://narmtraining.com/
Kristin Neff-- https://self-compassion.org/
Tim Desmond-- https://timdesmond.net/
Chasing the Scream by Johann Hari-- http://chasingthescream.com/
Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller
Patricia’s Links
Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
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Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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After learning she was an HSP from her therapist, Ranielle talks about what she got from the Online HSP group that she couldn’t get from therapy
GUEST
Ranielle
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Ranielle’s therapist introduced her the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person, but it wasn’t until Ranielle took the Online HSP Course that she began to actively practice embracing the traits of being an HSP. Ranielle shares what she was able to get from the Course that she couldn’t get in therapy (yet it was very compatible with therapy). Even though her group was late in the evening, Ranielle talks about feeling restored every week because of what she received during group. Ranielle talks about her hesitation to spend money on the Course, and that it felt scary to join when she didn’t know anyone else in the group, and how it was going to be. Ranielle’s group is continuing to meet weekly online on their own.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Ranielle wanted support in making a major life transition
- The HSP Online Course helped Ranielle bridge the gap from making the decision through executing it
- Ranielle was able to talk out things that were going on in her head
- She had things reflected back to her
- She realized she wasn’t being difficult or crazy; it was part of an HSP process
- The information about her trait and the support from the group helped Ranielle feel confident in her decision
- Group members would see their traits show up in others, and they had so much compassion for the other person, which lead to self-compassion
- It felt nice to not feel alone due to feeling isolated since it felt like no one understood
- It was really validating to experience others who experienced similar things
- It eased the sense of being alone, and it felt great to find a group of others that have similar values
- Ranielle received negative messaging about her HSP traits and it was presented as a way that it was HER problem that needed fixing, and she didn’t know how to fix it
- Ranielle realized there was nothing to be fixed. She needed to be understood and known and she needed self-compassion
- Ranielle says she had felt broken in the past, and realized that wasn’t the case
- Ranielle learned how to nurture herself instead of beating herself down
- Ranielle’s therapist told her about being a Highly Sensitive Person
- Ranielle talks about being in therapy while taking the Online HSP Course
- Having a larger group of HSPs sharing their experiences created a different kind of mirroring and reflection
- Hearing about how other HSPs navigated through life provided something that Ranielle didn’t get in therapy
- Therapy and the Online HSP Course was very complimentary
- Being in a group of other HSPs who had no investment in making Ranielle feel better was validating. She heard what her therapist had said, but to hear it from others was very impactful
- There was a level of connected support in this group
- There wasn’t a common denominator (job, socioeconomic status, level of education, gender) to explain why the groups were so cohesive
- Ranielle felt more confident setting boundaries, asking for what she needs, and being more open and honest about her feelings, and being more willing to talk about challenges in relationships
- The Course opened up a new language for her
- Ranielle had resistance to spending money on the Course
- Being in a group of other HSPs created energy for Ranielle because this was a place where she felt restored
- Ranielle felt listened to, supported in the group—it’s a new level of self-care that’s worth trying
- If you’re on the fence about it, I’d encourage others to take the leap of faith and take it
- There is a money-back guarantee if you take the Course (please see specifics about this)
- Ranielle talks about how scary it was to join without knowing who would be in the group, or how it would go
- Just being in a group of other HSPs is enough to build a base to create an amazing experience
- After the first group, that feeling of fear about the structure and the unknown disappeared
- The group members seemed to be in tune with turn-taking and staying on track so no one felt talked over or that they didn’t get a chance to share
- The greatest thing about the Course was how much everyone was encouraged to take care of themselves (to miss a class, to not share, to eat, to turn off video, to observe—for the introverts)
- Introverts may need more time to process, and there was no pressure for anyone to share if they didn’t want to
- This Course is about figuring out what works for you, and to honor it
- You just have to show up as you, and not as someone else
- When we take a chance, things often work out much better than we anticipate
- Ranielle feels like a more enlightened HSP and feels ready to go out into the world
GUEST BIO
Ranielle is a Pacific Northwest native, dedicated cat and dog guardian, and is becoming a more enlightened & empowered HSP. She and her dog, Calamity Jane, have been a Pet Partners therapy team since 2015, and participate in read-to-dog programs as well as high school, college, and workplace stress release clinics. After 20 years in the entertainment industry, Ranielle is whole-heartedly pursuing her passion for dogs by working in a doggy daycare with an eye to becoming a dog trainer and small business owner.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Ways To Honor Our Needs Around the Holidays, & I Lost My Sh*t; It’s Not About The Gravy!
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
How I’m simplifying Thanksgiving and consciously making changes so I don’t lose my sh*t again this Thanksgiving (and if I do, I’ll practice radical self-compassion). How can we use mindfulness to create more peace during this holiday season? I talk about boundaries, and what can make it difficult to set boundaries. I also talk about some of the challenges and benefits of having a practice for gratitude, and then there’s the famous replay from last Thanksgiving.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Update about the changes I’m making for the holidays this year
- What I was concerned my family would think since we’re just having immediate family for Thanksgiving
- Update on my Mom’s health (after her health scare last year)
- How self-care and reducing stress allows us to be fully present for our loved ones (and most importantly, for ourselves)
- How I’m being impacted by consciously creating things that are workable for the holidays
- The challenges that come up with setting boundaries
- What we tend to imagine when we are getting ready to set boundaries
- The familiar known discomfort we often choose instead of risking an unknown discomfort if we set a boundary
- Boundaries are about the process of practicing them
- We often override our need to make ourselves a priority
- Are you willing to experience a new kind of discomfort?
- How we can use mindfulness to start to see what we want
- How to use radical self-compassion if we’re not ready to make those changes yet
- How we can practice gratitude and still honor our feelings
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
20+ Ways to Practically Manage Change and Loss Throughout the Holidays with Jill Johnson-Young--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-47/
Creating Peace Throughout The Holidays with Sharon Martin, LCSW--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-episode-6/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
A Therapist Talks About Her Anxiety After Taking the Online HSP Course
GUEST
Maria—Licensed Therapist
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Maria, a Licensed Therapist, talks about her experience with her anxiety after participating in the Online HSP Course. Maria has chosen to remain anonymous since she shares her mental health diagnoses and how it has impacted her, and how she has felt having this diagnosis. Maria shares some of the things she learned from taking the Course and how it impacted her.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
20+ Ways to Practically Manage Change & Loss Throughout The Holidays
GUEST
Jill Johnson-Young, LCSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Loss & change encompasses jobs, education, career, moving, illness, disability, relationships, pets, birth, adoption, coming out, learning you didn’t have an ideal childhood and the obvious, death. Jill provides concrete examples of how we can set boundaries, create new traditions, and so much more! Jill talks about the importance of keeping memories alive, and ways we can honor those we’ve lost (included our 4-legged family members), and she gives examples of how to help a partner talk about their losses.
HIGHLIGHTS
- During times of grief, stress, loss, change, etc. it is very likely that we will become MORE sensitive, and possibly reactive, and we may have a harder time managing. This is very normal, and it is to be expected.
- We need to have even more gentleness and self-compassion during these times
- Grief includes, losses, disenfranchised losses, hopes, dreams, change—it is so much more than just death
How to manage those losses:
- awareness of them at the holidays, and finally
- wrap up with death related loss
WHAT OTHER LOSSES ARE THERE AT THE HOLIDAYS?
THESE WERE MENTIONED:
- ‘I think that the holidays bring out a lot of grief for everyone…’
- SUBSTANCE ABUSE AT THE TABLE OR THE TREE
- The drunk relative that nobody wants to be around,
- The opioid epidemic
- Folks drinking to cope with anxiety of functions or the stress of holidays
- FAMILY ISSUES THAT SHOW UP RATHER THAN HALLMARK: when we feel more like we belong in the land of the lost toys, not by a fireplace waiting for Santa with our dog named Spot
- A dysfunctional family
- Grief when your family isn’t large like everybody else’s
- Grief because you’ve chosen not to be a part of your immediate family because of the toxicity in it
- Grieving the family you THOUGHT you had...
- and about how to connect with them despite awareness of emotional neglect due to your high sensitivity.
- Feeling concerned with the upcoming holidays with the new awareness of how your family relates emotionally... it all suddenly feels so superficial.
FINANCIAL STRESS AMPLIFIED BY THE HOLIDAYS
- Grief because you don’t have enough money for presents
- Grief because you don’t have enough food,
- Those issues can cause some of us to avoid holiday get togethers because we can’t afford them
- that might include employee events
DISENFRANCHISED LOSSES:
- Those that have experienced recent breakups, and this is their first thanksgiving or Holiday without their partner.
- Pets
- Moving
- Retiring
- Lost friendships
- Marriage
- Divorce
- Illness
- Disability especially recently
- Partner who is disabled or have cognitive issues
ONE THING I DO FOR GRIEVERS PRIOR TO THE HOLIDAYS IS PREPARE THEM FOR THE IMPACT:
- EXPECTATIONS- FALSE OR REAL OR SELF IMPOSED, INCLUDING NEEDING TO RECREATE WHAT WAS BEFORE A LOSS
- grief when everybody else posts the holiday party pictures, or you are looking at old social media posts- when things were different
- Shopping, advertising, holiday mailers - the temptation to overspend to make up for what is missing
- The belief that if you focus on the holidays and what it should provide, you will have some type of relief, but most of the time it doesn’t work
- The belief that others don’t experience grief and you feel loneliness
- EXPECTATIONS THAT YOU WILL FEEL HAPPY OR LIGHTER
- You might at times, but if you have had a recent loss or have an unresolved loss it will travel with you to holiday events
- The mix of joy and sadness is normal, but hard to manage unless you are ready for it, and you can balance your energy, and give yourself permission to not participate or to limit time spent out
- Practicing using the positive to create balance- plans for the year coming, remembering the good moments of past holidays or this season
- If you can hold the opposite of both emotions it affects how your brain reacts to it so a lot of times when we feel sad as a family then we try to balance it out by looking at what’s great or what we’re happy for… We find that helpful during the holidays.
- For HSP folks, one person suggested that being able to feel grief and joy at the same time neutralizes some of the wounding that has happened in the past.
DEATH RELATED LOSS AND HOLIDAYS
- Fear of death infringing on happy moments because we are aware of the potential of someone dying
- Managing grief from deaths at the holiday,
- deaths associated with that time of season by proximity
- deaths that happened recently.
- Experiencing grief because you’ve lost someone in the past, especially if it is not a relationship you have finished
- Anticipating someone close to you dying—even if they are in good health
- The fear that you will be overwhelmed with their death
- The fear that you won’t be able to cope
- The fear that you will become so depressed, that you can’t get out of it
- We talk about carrying that person in our heart moving forward, and if possible having these conversations NOW while the person is still alive (if appropriate)
- We have all managed loss
- We have more tools that we remember we do
- We will feel sad, and we will manage
- We can get extra support, counseling, therapy, coaching, join groups
We all need death and dying education. It is necessary so we can know what we see, and that we can manage it when that time comes. We will all lose people we love to death-- that leaves only the option of being ready. That, in and of itself, helps ward off being caught unaware and thrown into depression. We know those who are ready and have reorganized before a death are the ones who will thrive afterward in their new life. Those who live a fear of death and will not prepare are the ones who do not fare well.
SO WHAT DO WE DO TO GET READY?
- Plan ahead
- Don’t overspend
- Avoid stores if the input is too much, or too much of a reminder with a recent loss.
- You can order everything, including groceries, online.
- Don’t plan on every little activity.
- Limit them
- Limit time there
- Take your own car
- Look for an exit
- Don’t feel a need to explain
- GRIEF CARD TIME
- SET BOUNDARIES. ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE GRIEVING, YOU GET TO SET THEM.
- PRACTICE WHAT YOU WILL SAY TO THOSE CROSSING BOUNDARIES
- GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO CHANGE IT UP!
- Take a vacation instead of doing what you traditionally do
- Invite new friends over
- Choose to celebrate on a different day, or someone new
- DON’T INCLUDE THOSE WHO DO NOT FEEL GOOD IN YOUR SPACE
- DO INCLUDE THOSE YOU HAVE LOST- PEOPLE, PETS
- IF THERE IS AN ANNIVERSARY AT THE HOLIDAYS?
- MARK IT
- PLAN AHEAD
- REMEMBER THERE IS MORE THAN THANKSGIVING AND CHRISTMAS/HANUKKAH/KWANZA-
- NEW YEAR’S IS EVEN WORSE
- TV COVERAGE OF THOSE WHO DIED- BUT OUR SPECIAL PEOPLE AND PETS ARE NOT ON THAT LIST, ARE THEY?
- WRITE DOWN WHAT WORKS
- WHAT FELT GOOD
- WHAT YOU MIGHT WANT TO DO DIFFERENTLY.
- THAT MEANS JOURNAL DAILY. YOU WILL NOT REMEMBER
- GRATITUDE JOURNAL TO SET YOUR MINDFRAME
- EXERCISE AS YOU ARE ABLE
- SUNSHINE
- POSITIVE INPUT- EXAMPLE: MT RUBIDIOUX, NOT THE FESTIVAL IF YOU DO NOT WANT CROWDS, OR THE FESTIVAL LATE AT NIGHT WITH A FRIEND TO SEE THE LIGHTS, BUT NOT THE CROWDS.
- Wolfenoot - It’s pronounced Wolf-a-noot according to Buzzfeed, and takes place on November 23rd. (If you wish to celebrate, you should be prepared for the Spirit of the Wolf to visit your home. This Spirit will hide and leave behind gifts for you, your children and, of course, dogs. The people who treat canines kindly get better presents than those who don’t, but this gift-giver doesn’t seem to penalize people who are just kind of indifferent to animals. We aren’t sure if the Spirit of the Wolf leaves presents for cats.
On Wolfenoot, you will celebrate by eating roasted meats, because meat is a dog’s favorite food, and a cake decorated like a full moon because dogs like to howl sometimes.) (If you’re a vegetarian, or a vegan, you obviously adjust so that this fits with your values and beliefs)
It feels like a nice way to change the tone-- to be grateful and thank our furry friends in any way you choose. It was created by a child in New Zealand, around the concept of kindness.
For the holidays, coping with grief is about being Gumby. Bend, Flex, Change it up. Make it work for you.
WAYS TO GENERATE CONVERSATION
- Is there someone you’ve had in your world that has died that you want to include in our blessing, or holiday tradition(s)
- Tell me about your pets? Tell me who they were
- What part of that person is always going to be a part of you?
- What lessons did you learn?
- Who were they for you?
- How did they impact your life?
GUEST BIO
Jill Johnson-Young, LCSW is a dynamic and engaging speaker who loves teaching both professional and community groups about dementia, death and dying, and grief and loss. She is the CEO of Central Counseling Services in Riverside, California, where she is also a clinical therapist. She is a certified Grief Recovery Facilitator after spending more than a decade with hospice as a medical social worker and as a director of social workers, chaplains and grief staff. She holds a BA from UC Riverside and her MSW from the University of South Florida. Jill has authored three children’s grief books and an adult grief workbook with more in process, and created Your Path Through Grief, a year-long, comprehensive grief support program which includes resources for therapists.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Jill’ Links
Website-- www.yourpaththroughgrief.com, https://www.facebook.com/grieftalker/
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Riversidedementiasupport/,
LinkedIn--https://www.linkedin.com/in/jilljohnsonyoung/.
My pet is sick: It’s time to say goodbye by Jill Johnson-Young
Someone is sick: How do I say Goodbye? By Jill Johnson-Young
Someone I love just died: What happens now? By Jill Johnson-Young
Your own path through grief; A workbook for your journey to recovery by Jill Johnson-Young
Amazon link for Jill’s books-- https://www.amazon.com/Jill-A.-Johnson-Young-LCSW/e/B07NPT5NYQ%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share
Leo Buscaglia-- http://www.buscaglia.com/biography
Leo Buscaglia YouTube—How to Love and be Loved-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8tw9ontdc0
Wolfenoot-- https://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=12136886
Patricia’s Links
Bonus Episode 21 : I lost my sh*t, and it’s not about the gravy https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-bonus-episode-21/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Dog Whisperer Liz Murdoch Talks to My Dog Gracie, Who Has a Message for the Highly Sensitive Person, aka HSP
GUEST
Liz Murdoch
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Liz Murdoch, Dog Whisperer, and host of the podcast Talking With The Dogs, talks with my dog Gracie. Liz (and Gracie) help me understand some behaviors that have confused me. I had some expectations about what Gracie would say, and I needed time to process this interview. Liz had some spot-on insights, and at the end of interview I share how this has impacted our family. I worry about how I will manage when Gracie eventually dies, and Gracie had a message for me about that, and Liz provides a reassuring perspective about dogs that have crossed over.
HIGHLIGHTS
- My expectations about what I thought Gracie would say, impacted this episode
- I talk about this a bit in the beginning, and more at the end of the episode
- Liz was able to communicate with animals when she was very young
- Liz talks about how she became involved in animal communication as she got older
- Liz has trained a dog when she was a child, and she won a blue ribbon amongst adults who were competing
- Liz had a car accident with resulting in a head injury, and she wanted train a therapy dog to help other people
- She was able to have her dog certified as a Therapy Dog with Pet Partners, which is not easy to do
- Liz only saw a picture of Gracie, and I held her up to camera on my laptop, but other than that, she had NO information about Gracie
- Liz talks to Gracie to find out what she likes
- Gracie communicates to me about her dog food (which is a special diet since she’s allergic to most foods)
- Gracie would like to talk about cats if she had a podcast, and Gracie LOVES cats, but they don’t know she wouldn’t harm a fly
- Gracie gives some information initially that we circle back to that has to do with how my grown son interacts with her (and she doesn’t like it)
- At the end of the interview, I talk about what has happened re: how my son now interacts with Gracie
- Liz identifies one of Gracie’s favorite things to play with
- Gracie tells Liz what she prefers in the home in terms of activity and movement
- Liz identifies that Gracie doesn’t see well and that it impacts her thinking (she also has seizures, and she’s blind—and only has one eye)
- Liz does a body scan on Gracie and finds something I believe she had, but the vet didn’t see it
- Liz talks about what she’s learned from dogs that have crossed over, and I was surprised (and relieved/pleased) to hear this
- Gracie had a message for me about my worry about her dying (and it’s a very mindful message)
- Liz mentions shampoo (the groomer just used a different shampoo, which led to a very expensive vet bill with antibiotics and all kinds of testing due to the reaction she had)
- I ask why Gracie doesn’t bark when she gets stuck somewhere or the door is closed, and her answer surprises me
GUEST BIO
Liz Murdoch has been a true dog whisperer for most of her life. She first discovered this special skill when she was in kindergarten, and then further honed it throughout her life, winning awards in dog training and becoming certified to do animal assisted therapy with patients of all ages. A veteran volunteer with rescue organizations, Liz is happiest when translating what dogs and other animals want their people to know. She hosts the podcast, Talking with the dogs! and is available for private chat sessions, special events, and speaking engagements.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Liz’s Links
Twitter @talkingwithdogs
FB https://www.facebook.com/talkingwiththedogsshow/
Instagram https://instagram.com/talkingwiththedogs
Pinterest @withthedogs
LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabethmurdoch/
Patricia’s Links
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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It’s Just a Cookie—Health At Every Size (HAES)
GUEST
Marielle Berg, MFT
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Marielle Berg, MFT, host of the podcast It’s Just a Cookie, talks about fat phobic language, body shaming, weight stigma and the false belief that body size is an indicator of psychological and emotional health. Marielle talks about the challenges of healthism, and labeling foods as healthy/unhealthy, which can result in compensatory eating. Marielle talks about the importance of having satisfaction and pleasure when eating, and learning to ask, “What am I hungry for?” We also talk about joyful movement vs. exercise and why this shift can be transformational.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Our culture uses fat-phobic language
- We discuss body shaming
- The language we use—fat overweight or people in larger bodies
- Often body size is used as an indicator of psychological or emotional health
- 98% of people who lose weight gain it back; if it was just about the weight, this number wouldn’t be so high
- Gaining weight is not necessarily due to poor self-esteem or trauma
- If dieting worked, we’d be thin by now
- 12-step programs talk about eating as a spiritual problem
- Compensatory eating is a reaction to restricting foods
- Healthism talks about what is healthy or not healthy. Some foods are off limits which can lead to compensatory eating
- In the therapy world often a fat client is infantilized, and it is organized around need and intake
- There is a false belief that we are all meant to be thin
- It’s ok to get comfort from food—maybe that’s chicken soup or birthday cake. Either is acceptable
- We need to ditch the diet mentality
- We want to look at intuitive eating
- With food, we want permission, satisfaction and pleasure
- How hungry am I?
- What am I hungry for?
- Intuitive eating is a process
- We want to look at joyful movement vs. exercise
- If you’re interviewing a therapist or a nutritionist you want to ask
- Is it weight loss or weight management
- How do they feel about weight loss
- You want someone who has a weight neutral point of view
- You might want someone who is certified in intuitive eating
GUEST BIO
Marielle Berg is a psychotherapist and a coach who works with people healing from eating disorders, disorder eating and body shame through a Health at Every Size and Intuitive Eating lens.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Marielle’s Links
Podcasts—
Food Psych https://christyharrison.com/foodpsych
Dieticians Unplugged https://dietitiansunplugged.libsyn.com/
It’s Just a Cookie https://cookierevolution.org/podcast/
https://www.intuitiveeating.org/
Books--
Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth about Your Weight by Linda Bacon
Fat Acceptance
Anti-Diet: Reclaim Your Time, Money, Well-Being, and Happiness Through Intuitive Eating by Christy Harrison, MPH, RD
Body Respect: What Conventional Health Books Get Wrong, Leave Out, and Just Plain Fail to Understand about Weight by Linda Bacon and Lucy Aphramore
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch
Patricia’s Links
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Ten Ways We Can Thrive As A Highly Sensitive Person, aka HSP
Special 1 Year Podcast Anniversary Episode
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
On the One Year Anniversary of this podcast launching, I talk about 10 different ways that I have grown, and how this relates to being a Highly Sensitive Person, aka HSP. I talk about perfectionism, being of service, naming things, asking for help & support, feeling the fear and being brave and courageous, authenticity, connecting, accepting challenges and living a fuller life. A special thank you to each and every listener!
HIGHLIGHTS
- Embracing imperfection
- Being of service
- Naming things
- Showing up when it’s hard in a way that honors our needs
- Asking for help and support
- Feeling fear and being brave and courageous anyways
- Expressing ourselves authentically and vulnerably
- Connecting
- Accepting challenges
- Living a fuller life
- What I’ve learned in this past year podcasting
- When we have a message to share, it is more important to get it out there, then to wait until it’s perfect
- The world may never hear our message
- Done is better than perfect
- Naming things is one of the most powerful things we can do
- We let ourselves know that what’s going on is important
- It creates room for change
- It allows for acceptance
- Often just showing up is enough—even when we don’t feel like it
- If we’ve experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) or have parents who are Emotionally Immature, it may be harder to know that we’re supposed to need help
- Interdependence is healthy
- It’s ok to resist asking for help, and we can do it anyway
- We might be surprised by how much help we receive
- Feel the fear and do it anyway; this creates courage and being brave
- It can be scary allowing ourselves to be seen
- We may receive criticism or unsolicited feedback, but we may also get all kinds of amazing support
- We just need to show up and be ourselves; the people who are supposed to be in our lives will be attracted to us
- It’s normal to compare ourselves with others. We can notice, and refocus on what we have to offer
- 30 day podcasting challenge changed my life
- NadPodPoMO—National Podcast Post Month with Jennifer Navarrete
- This is how I discovered doing bonus episodes
- This podcast is heard in 87 countries
- The goal was to have 50K downloads by 10/29. On 10/25, there are over 60K downloads
- I’ve released 105 episodes
- Thank you to my husband, Steve Young, my mom Judy Winkler, Laura Carr, Jen Perry, Dara Hoffman-Fox and Selma Bacevac
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) Self-Test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
NadPodPoMo-- https://www.startupssanantonio.com/want-to-launch-a-podcast-napodpomo-founder-jennifer-navarrete-says-do-it/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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The Traits of Being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and What It Means To Be Fully Integrated
GUEST
Jacquelyn Strickland, LPC
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Jacquelyn Strickland co-created the HSP Gathering Retreats with Dr. Elaine Aron in 2000, and she has worked exclusively with HSPs since then. Jacquelyn talks about the 4 Core Characteristics of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and the differences between Highly Sensitive and non-Highly Sensitive introverts and extroverts, as well as the ambivert. Jaquelyn also talks about sensitivity as we age, and what it means to be fully integrated with a strong sense of self-identity as an HSP.
HIGHLIGHTS
- We discuss the term Highly Sensitive Person and Jacquelyn shares her thoughts about this name
- There are 1.4 Billion HSPs in the world and we all share these 4 core characteristics
- The 4 Core Characteristics of being a Highly Sensitive Person as coined by Dr. Elaine Aron
- D—Depth of Processing
- Elaine Aron feels that Depth of Processing is a key component for HSPs
- Depth of processing happens in the pre-frontal cortex, so HSPs see breadth and depth of things around us
- We reflect more than others on the way the world is going
- We think about the meaning of life
- We Wonder about the quality of relationships we’re in
- We’re aware of social justice issues
- O—Overarousal and Overstimulation
- That feeling of being stressed out
- Feeling burnt out
- This may be the most negative thing HSPs experience since our current dominant culture is about doing
- Chronic overstimulation can lead to depression and anxiety
- E—Emotional Responsiveness and Empathy
- We bring more emotional intensity and empathy in most every situation
- There’s a difference between emotional intensity and emotional reactivity
- We can honor our emotional intensity—this is where we express our feelings in the arts, writing beautiful poems, people who show or speak passionately about they feel
- We have more mirror neurons
- S—Sensitive to Subtleties
- We can notice when the barometric pressure is dropping
- Some HSPs may have perfect pitch
- We have more side effects to medications
- We are usually sensitive to changes in temperature
- We may notice the sound of a ticking clock or dripping water
- D—Depth of Processing
- 70% of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) are introverts
- 30% of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) are extroverts
- There are 5 distinct groups we need to look at when talking about introversion and extroversion
- HS introvert
- HS extrovert
- Non-HS introvert
- Non-HS extrovert
- Ambivert
- Jacquelyn also talks about the Myer’s Briggs and what it means when scores on introversion or extroversion are high and low
- The concept of the battery being charged for extroverts and drained for introverts when they are around people is primarily talking about Non-HSPs
- A HS extrovert will enjoy being alone; will need time to recharge after extroverting, and will probably choose specific venues to socializing that are different than a Non-HS extrovert
- A HS extrovert needs to find the right amount of novel stimulation, to renew and recharge
- A HS extrovert may want to know who will be at the party (their political affiliation, what the activities will be; how long will the activity last) in order to see if it satisfies our HS needs
- As we get older, we may get more particular about where and how we choose to expend our energy and time
- We can be sensitive extroverts, or we can choose to introvert
- You can be a HS extrovert and still feel socially awkward or not always feel at ease in social situations
- Our depth of processing can make it challenging if we’re reading the room, or we may go home and wonder if we talked too much or did things right
- If you feel uncomfortable in a social situation, it helps to have a role—volunteer to help; arrive early before it gets crowded
- When we worry about doing things right or following the rules it can make it harder for us to trust that how we show up is just right
- I thought I had social anxiety, was anxious, was an introvert, so I avoided social situations and felt depressed and lethargic. Turns out, I’m a Highly Sensitive Extrovert, which is why I’m so passionate about providing information to others who may read memes around introversion and mistakenly identify
- The ambivert doesn’t have the DOES, but can choose whether to introvert or extrovert
- We want to be fully self-identified and integrated as HSPs regardless of whether we’re an introvert or extrovert
- Once we get fully integrated with a strong sense of self-identify, when we’ve healed our wounds, when we’ve reframed our past, when we’ve got a plan of knowing when and how to be out in the world, we don’t hide anymore.
- We talk about sensitivity and whether it increases as we age
- We discuss HSPs and social media
- We talk about the HSP retreats that Jacquelyn has been running and the benefits and unexpected gifts she’s seen people get from these retreats
- We talk about some of the things that are unrelated to being an HSP that are often posted in groups, and then people identify and things that are not related to being an HSP get mistakenly attributed to being an HSP
- Jacquelyn acknowledges Dr. Elaine Aron’s work and the fact that she’s opened the doors for many people (myself included) to specialize in working with The Highly Sensitive Person
- Thank you Dr. Elaine Aron!
GUEST BIO
Jacquelyn has been a Licensed Professional Counselor since 1993, which is the same year she became certified to utilize the statistically valid & reliable Myers Briggs Personality Assessment. Her professional and personal lives took synchronistic detour when she stumbled across Elaine Aron’s original work in May 1996 while waiting for a bus not far from where Elaine lives in Marin County, California. Since that time, Jacquelyn has devoted herself to empowering sensitive people around the world. She and Elaine co-created the HSP Gathering Retreats in 2001, and there have been 35 and counting HSP Gatherings, both nationally and internationally – in Canada, Germany, Sweden, United Kingdom, and on both U.S. coasts and in between. She is an Advanced HSP Consultant , one of 15 national & international HSP professionals trained by Elaine Aron in 2018 on the concept, measurement and research regarding of Sensory Processing Sensitivity and the highly sensitive person
Besides Elaine Aron, major influences which have informed Jacquelyn’s work have been her background in Social Work, Women’s Studies, Brene Brown, Eco Psychology & her Nature as Teacher & Healer experiences. She is fortunate to live in Colorado where she has been able to immerse herself in nature for days at a time over the last 30 years. She has recently added the title of Sage – and she teaches, mentors, and counsels not only with knowledge of our HSP trait, but also with decades of wisdom from living authentically as an HSP. Elaine talks of this stage as the Priestly Advisor.
She has been married to a major introvert, non-HSP, since 1978 . Her relationship with someone so different than me is what prompted my study of temperaments, including the Myers Briggs and the Enneagram. She is the mother of two grown sons, one a HSP, and the grandmother of 3 grandchildren, ages 4, 2 and 1. Her oldest granddaughter is a sensitive extrovert, like her grandmother.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Jacquelyn’s Links
Website-- LifeWorks! http://www.lifeworkshelp.com/
Top Ten Reasons to Have a HSP Dyad Parntership-- http://www.lifeworkshelp.com/HSP-Newsletter/top-ten-reasons-to-have-a-hsp-dyad-partnership/
Introversion, Extroversion and The Highly Sensitive Person--https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
HSP Highlights & Insights Ezine: Sign up Here-- http://www.lifeworkshelp.com/HSP-Newsletter/
You can like the HSP Gathering Retreat Facebook Page here:
http://www.lifeworkshelp.com/HSP-Newsletter/winter-2018-new-hsp-happenings-here-and-around-the-world/
The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron
Patricia’s Links
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Is It Social Anxiety, Introversion, Extroversion or The Traits of Being a Highly Sensitive Person, aka, HSP?
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Many Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) have experienced going into a social situation and getting overaroused and overstimulated. When we don’t know about the trait of being an HSP, we just know it feels terrible, and we tend to avoid these situations. When we know about the trait of High Sensitivity, we can see what works for us, and tease out what doesn’t work for us. We have the capacity to experience much more when we are able to understand exactly what we need in these situations.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Social Anxiety, introversion and the confusion with graphics/memes about introversion
- Anxiety, depression, social anxiety are real, and I’m not indicating that these are not real things that people struggle with
- I thought I had social anxiety and I thought I was an introvert
- Much of what is written about introversion (memes and graphics) also include the traits of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
- When we mistakenly think we’re introverts, we may be missing out on things, that we are able to tolerate and might actually enjoy
- Once we understand why we struggle, and we learn to interpret the sensations we’re experiencing, we may realize that it’s not social anxiety or anxiety
- We feel things strongly, and we want to have meaningful connections
- We may have experienced overstimulation when we were younger, but didn’t realize what it was, and we paired it with the social situation, so we tend to avoid these things because we didn’t understand
- Misconception about introverts and extroverts with the analogy of the battery. This may be true to NON-HSPS
- When we read about introversion and it includes the traits of being an HSP, but it doesn’t say that, we may thing we need to avoid social situations, but it’s not what we need
- We may go into a social situation and be unable to connect, but we inaccurately think some is wrong with us, but it may be that we are trying to connect with someone who has difficulty with deep connection
- We may tell ourselves that we can’t connect because there’s something wrong with us, but we may be trying to connect with others who don’t connect easily
- With introversion, you want to look at the 4 Core Characteristics that Dr. Elaine Aron provides
- Depth of Processing
- We are deep thinkers and we don’t do well with chit chat or small talk
- Overarousal and Overstimulation
- We take in so much information that we can get saturated very quickly
- We notice things in the environment that others don’t
- We may need to be more mindful about how we use our energy when we go into social situations
- Emotional Responsiveness and Empathy
- We feel things deeply and we’re going to be more emotionally impacted than non-HSPs
- Sensitive to Subtleties
- We notice non-verbal cues and other things when we interact
- We can also be sensitive to bright lights, strong smells, loud noises
- Even a Highly Sensitive Extrovert will most likely prefer a more quiet environment with a few friends, and then will need time to regenerate mand recharge
- Highly Sensitive Extroverts need to find their sweet spot of getting enough stimulation.
- When we withdraw thinking that’s what we need, we may feel depressed or listless if we’re a HS extrovert
- We can manage in environments that are not HS friendly under the right circumstances
- It’s also not uncommon that as Highly Sensitive People, we may resist or not want to travel, but when we do, we find out we can manage much better than we think we can
- There are so many ways we can work with our traits to manage overwhelm and overstimulation
- It’s an ongoing process and we need to work on it, but we can live fuller lives
- When you see graphics about introversion, please check and see if they’re talking a Highly Sensitive person
- Jaquelyn Strickland talks about introverting and extroverting as a verb
- These labels can put us in a box and limit us, or can free us up and give us more freedom about our traits
- Depth of Processing
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
What is an Emotionally Immature Parent, & How to Identify a Healthy Relationship
GUEST
Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, & Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents explains what an emotionally immature parent is, and how this impacts their adult children. I talk about crying when I got overwhelmed when my kids were young, and Lindsay comments on this. We talk about how to establish good emotional ties with our children, and what constitutes good enough parenting, Lindsay provides nineteen qualities to identify what a healthy relationship looks like.
HIGHLIGHTS
- What is emotionally immaturity?
- Why is it important to understand it?
- What are the main characteristics of an emotionally immature parent?
- How do relationships with emotionally immature parents affect their children’s lives?
- What are the main things to remember when dealing with emotionally immature parents?
- If you’re dating, how do you pick a person who is emotionally mature?
- How do you identify what a healthy relationship looks like?
- What is our human Bill of Rights?
- We talk about repair work with parenting
- I share that I’d get really frustrated with my boys when they were young, and I’d cry because I didn’t know what else to do
- Lindsay talks about how she views this
- We talk about the pressures of parenting
- Lindsay explains what good enough parenting is—which should be very reassuring to parents!
- I share about having a tantrum when my son had a tantrum and how it felt lousy afterward
- We’d do good repair work, but I eventually learned to stay calm
- I would also let my boys know when I was edgy and close to loosing it. I would let them know what they could do to help me.
- They’ve told me as young adults how helpful this was to them
- We talk about emotional intimacy with our children
- How do we let ourselves be known by our children when we are having difficult feelings
- How to establish good emotional ties with our kids in a good way
- Winnicut talks about good enough parenting
- Research shows that it just takes 30% of being a good enough parent in order to have a favorable outcome
- Lindsay gives an example of how an adult child could set a limit with their emotionally immature parent if they decided not to spend Thanksgiving with the family
- When adult children set limits with their emotionally immature parents, the parent feels rejected; unloved or they have a strong defensive reaction
- When setting a boundary, you want to stay present to your own heart
- You want to be able to have empathy and acknowledge what it is like for the other person
- You want to remember what your goal is for the interaction, so your intention is clear for yourself
- You also have an opportunity to observe how the other person is reacting, and the defenses that they use
- Emotionally Healthy Relationships
- Is the person generally realistic and reliable?
- Do they work with reality rather than fighting it?
- Are they finding ways to solve problems or are they complaining about how they’ve been victimized?
- Do they have a consistent and reliable nature about them?
- Do they take things personally?
- When they get upset, can they still think? Do they lose the ability to be rational?
- Signs of temper, impatience or impulsivity should be a red flag—those are cardinal signs of immaturity
- Another red flag is when a person gets very upset, then tells you it’s just because they love you
- You want your partner to be reciprocal; you do something for them and they do something for you
- You set a boundary, and they say OK
- If you set a boundary, and your partner tries to talk you out of it, or walk you out of it, that is two red flags
- Boundaries at the beginning of the relationship will tell you almost everything you want to know about that person
- Being flexible and able to compromise is a sign of maturity
- You want someone who is basically truthful; that you can trust who they are
- Does the person respond to you in a manner that you feel safe, and seen and heard?
- Do they reflect on their mistakes and try and change, or do they make excuses?
- Do they reflect when you tell them you’re mad at them, or do they say, “Why do you keep bringing that up? What’s wrong with you?”
- If they can’t accept when you’re angry and they get defensive, that’s about having a major lack of empathy
- Your partner is thin skinned meaning they do not allow other’s reactions to happen, because that person gets so reactive
- Nobody is more intrinsically important as an adult than anybody else
- They way that emotionally immature people react with guilt, shame, fear and self-doubt, can make the other person start to doubt their reality
- This is where you have to remember that “There’s good stuff in me!”
GUEST BIO
Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of three books, the most recent being Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and just out in May of this year, Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students, and she writes a monthly Well-Being column for Tidewater Women magazine in Virginia Beach, VA.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Website— http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website—HSP self-test
https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
Dr. Gibson’s book was translated from English to Russian by Elena Tereshchnkova You can find the actual translator here--
https://www.facebook.com/elena.tereshchenkova
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Creating Sanctuary in the Home; How to Create a Space You Love
GUEST
Helen Joy Butler
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Helen Joy Butler is a Sanctuary Creator, Elemental Space Clearer and #HSP Warrior. She talks about creating external sanctuary in our home, which helps to create internal sanctuary. This helps to decrease stress and increase peace. It can also help us feel more grounded in our space. What do we want people to feel when they enter our home? Helen talks about ways to clear or shift stagnant energy in our home. She talks about small ways to make changes so we don’t feel overwhelmed, and the importance of being gentle with ourselves.
HIGHLIGHTS
- We need to create external sanctuary; this helps to create internal sanctuary
- What externally brings you a sense of sanctuary
- You can create sanctuary pockets or vignettes in your home
- This creates a greater sense of grounding
- Things come to you that you need, and things you don’t need tend to fall away
- You can start with your front door, or the center of your home
- What is my vision for this space?
- What do I want someone to feel when they come into my home?
- What’s a place in your home that is causing you stress?
- If you’re sick or upset, or the area is emotionally charged, it may be best to hold off working on this space
- BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF
- You can start with something small like a junk drawer, or a sock drawer
- When you get rid of things, you create a vortex or a vacuum—the tendency is to refill that space once it’s emptied
- Elemental space clearing—cleansing the energy in a space
- How to energetically clear a space
- Light a candle
- Put on music
- Dance
- Have tea with a friend
- Move things out as gently as you need
- Move furniture around
- Change the sheets, move a lamp
- Laugh and bring joy into the space
- Do it piece by piece. You don’t want stagnant energy in a room, so you want to keep moving the energy
- What is your intention for the room?
- Joy, connection, happiness, love
- How to create a space you love
- Connect with nature
- Where do I spend my time
- How can I reduce my stress
- Be gentle; be kind
BIO
Helen Joy Butler is a Sanctuary Creator, Elemental Space Clearer and #HSP Warrior. Through her business Helen blends practicality and spirituality to create Sanctuary in her client's home and life. Helen is an accredited Expert Professional Organiser, Certified Elemental Space Clearing® Practitioner, is attuned to Reiki Level 1 and has a Masters of Business Administration as well as two teaching degrees. After the birth of her son, Helen left teaching and started her Professional Organising business, working with clients in their homes as well as educating thousands of people online about organising, decluttering and living a balanced life. Helen lives in Brisbane, Australia, with her husband, teenage son and Elvis the dog.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Helen’s Links
5 Days to Sanctuary (free course)-- https://www.helenjoybutler.com/five-days-to-sanctuary-challenge/
Patricia’s Links
Meetup Saturday October 5, 2019 10 am – noon. Jacaranda Drive between Jacaranda Place and Upas Street at Morley Field. Bring chairs or blankets https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/264665841/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
I Wasn't Invited...there’s more. Sigh….
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Is it ok to NOT want information about a situation that may have felt hurtful to us? If we continue to have strong feelings about it, does it mean we’re not healing? Is it possible to feel uncomfortable, AND be healing at the same time? Do I regret releasing any of these episodes about the situation? What does self-compassion have to do with all of this? No matter what feelings come up, ALL feelings are welcome, and need to be honored!
HIGHLIGHTS
- How to take care of ourselves when we feel uncomfortable and not ready
- Is it ok to not pick up your phone when you feel rattled when someone calls
- I feel like I was 12 years old again. I felt really anxious
- Feelings of shame, and guilt came up for me, and it was uncomfortable
- When something happens and we have a strong emotional response, if we’re verbal processors, it can help to talk to someone who is safe
- What do we do when shame surfaces and we feel like we did something wrong
- We can have strong emotional responses, but it doesn’t mean that we haven’t “worked through” our stuff
- When we have strong emotional responses, we can often attach a negative meaning, but it’s not the truth
- We can feel strong feelings, and still be courageous even if we’re feeling fear
- When we have strong feelings, we often feel like we have to justify why we’re having strong feelings
- Others have a right to invite whomever they want to and they don’t ever have to include us
- Others have a right to post on social media
- There is no right or wrong, and no one is to blame
- If it brings up feelings for us, we get to focus on the healing we need to do
- It’s really important to start talking about these things with safe people who can support us
- No matter what feelings come up (joy, sadness, jealousy, anxiety, depression), all of our feelings are ok
- We need to find ways to honor all the feelings that come up
- We need to get support
- We need to use tools
- We can reflect on the conversation and situation if we need to make sense out of it
- When we get stressed or have things to do, we have our internal “taskmaster” show up
- My “taskmaster” generally lacks empathy and just wants to get stuff done
- It’s also important to talk about how we’re impacted by other’s behavior (if they are safe people that can engage with us)
- It’s really important to talk about our expectations
- We may have a plan, but not communicate it to someone else, and it can cause a rift if we don’t communicate
- There is no right or wrong way of doing things
- If we’re able to communicate; the recommunicate and recommunicate. It’s about going back in and doing what we need to do understand and to be understood
- This is about our imperfection, our humanity, about showing up and being in the messy middle, and not know what the outcome is going to be
- What happens when we have bumps; how do we process; what do we do when we’re having a harder time letting it go
- If someone gives us a “valid” reason when we got hurt, does it mean that we shouldn’t have had a reaction?
- Sometimes we see things as “either, or” then I realized there was another perspective
- Is it ok to NOT want information about a situation where we felt hurt
- I felt like I “should” be open to hearing information, which made me feel guilty, and somewhat anxious, and I doubted myself and felt like I wasn’t doing it “right.”
- We get to choose what we want in our life
- Gremlins will come up for us
- My gremlins told me I shouldn’t be talking about this on a podcast
- Is it wrong to process what goes on for me publicly?
- Is it “worth” it if it helps others?
- I want to model how as deep feelers and thinkers how we go through difficult situations
- When we overdo it, we may feel vulnerable and tend to take things more personally
- We can observe and know that we will come back to balance again
- We will get activated, and it may take time to restore and get our balance again
- Setting limits and boundaries can feel challenging to us, and it may bring up things for us
- We need to trust ourselves; be gentle with ourselves and have lots of self-compassion
- We can trust that we know what’s right for us at that moment
- Give yourself permission to be exactly where you’re at today
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Meetup Saturday October 5, 2019 10 am – noon. Jacaranda Drive between Jacaranda Place and Upas Street at Morley Field. Bring chairs or blankets https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/264665841/
Bonus Episode 54 I Wasn’t Invited; This Sucks! Now What? https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-56/
Bonus Episode 56 I Wasn’t Invited—Follow Up https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-58/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
I Acknowledge I’m not Broken; I’m Really Strong
GUEST
Elena Truskova Lenochka
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Elena lives in Moscow and has a podcast and a very popular blog. She is an avid reader, and often translates best sellers written in English into Russian. Elena talks about her fear of not feeling good enough, and not being perfect enough to be on the podcast, but she realized that we have more things in common than our differences. This is an incredibly insightful and rich conversation, and Elena talks about how she manages intrusive thoughts. Elena demonstrates such a high level of self-acceptance, and she shares the books that have helped her develop these skills.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Elena talks about feeling not good enough or not perfect enough to be on the podcast
- Even though we may have different cultures, language, experiences, etc., we all have similarities that we share
- Emotions are universal
- Elena has had to learn how to manage intrusive thoughts.
- She acknowledges how her brain is wired
- She allows herself to be
- Elena has learned to remind herself that “I’m not ok, and this is ok.”
- CEN Childhood Emotional Neglect is common in immigrant families
- Elena believes that many millennial parents are striving to provide a good life, but they are not fluent in emotional language
- If you are angry, after 90 seconds, the anger will dissipate, or it will be with you for 13 years
- I can change how I respond
- Women can get angry. It can mobilize us to take action
- “I’m not ok, but this is ok.”
GUEST BIO
Elena Truskova (Lenochka) works as a (project manager at IT company named Yandex, it’s kind of Russian Google, really good place to work), she also has a blog with 500+ visitors per day, a weekly kitchen-talk podcast, an Instagram and a blog in a Telegram app with 3200+ followers (similar to WhatsApp but there are blogs without comment sections — a gift for HSPs! No criticism!). She also helps with book translations and also holds online creative writing workshops. She’s an avid reader—she reads 150-200 books a year.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Elena’s Links
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/forgetenot/
My separate cat Instagram profile: https://www.instagram.com/fayeeena/
Facebook profile: https://www.facebook.com/elena.truskova
https://tipsfromonerussianbear.blogspot.com — my small blog about non-touristic Russia that doesn't update lately but there are lots of old posts I wrote that still are valid
https://www.spottedbylocals.com/saintpetersburg/author/elenatruskova/ — my articles for Spotted by Locals website about non-touristic spots in my city that could be interesting for a visitor (everything is kept up to date on this website/app)
RESOURCES
Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
by Karyl McBride
I Think Too Much: How to Channel Intrusive Thoughts
by Christel Petitcollin
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents—Lindsay Gibson PsyD
Pema Chodron-- https://pemachodronfoundation.org/
Brene Brown-- https://brenebrown.com/
The Highly Sensitive Person Dr. Elaine Aron
Patricia’s Links
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Bonus Episode 58
TITLE
I Wasn't Invited...Follow Up
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
What happened after I released bonus episode 56? I had some insights, and some people reached out to me. I also realized that I had blatantly neglected another Mom that was in this group! She reached out to me, and I talk about our conversation. What do we do when someone wants to spend more time with us than we want (or are able to)? Can we be kind and set healthy boundaries?
HIGHLIGHTS
- Another mom from this group I talk about in Bonus episode 56 reached out to me to provide support
- And she talked about feeling very hurt and left out by the group about something I initiated and never followed through with
- How to we own our mistakes?
- How do we make living amends when we have been unkind or insensitive (whether it’s intentional or not)
- Whose responsibility is it when we have been left out and we find out?
- We may have hurt others by not including them, and not even realized that we’ve done this
- What do we do when we find this out?
- How do we evaluate relationships?
- Gremlins are really a form of shame, and I talk about why it’s important to name our gremlins and how it frees us up
- If the women who didn’t invite me to their get together reached out to me to invite me in the future, would I join them?
- I explain where I’m at with this
- What do we do when we meet someone and they want to spend more time with us than we either want to or have the time to?
- What are some of the reasons that setting boundaries can be difficult for HSPs?
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Bonus Episode 57
TITLE
You Take Things So Personally! How to Respond
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
As a Highly Sensitive Person, aka HSP, it’s not uncommon for us to be told that we take things so personally. What does this mean to the person who says it? What if other people told us that they don’t process deeply, and they don’t feel deeply? The goal (to me) is to become an empowered HSP, so when we hear this, we can get curious about where the other person is coming from. If hearing this feels hurtful, we may have our own work and healing to do. We can embrace all of our feelings, and love our traits.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Other people rarely own how they are impacted by our behavior
- It often has little to nothing to do with us, but we take it on
- We can get really curious about what this means to the other person
- When we have wounding, we tend to feel like this statement is about something that’s wrong with us
- When we do our work and healing, when someone says this to us, it doesn’t have to sting
- Do we need to give ourselves reassurances?
- What do we need to hear from ourselves so we feel comfort?
- We want to work things through so we understand. It’s important to use descriptive words instead of words like “ruminating”
- If someone doesn’t have the capacity to explore what they’re saying, then maybe we need to just say “OK”
- We don’t always have to explain why we are the way we are
- When we do our work, comments like this won’t have that stinging charge
- We may continue to have a response when someone says something like to us, but the amount that it stings or how long it bothers us can lessen over time
- It’s easy to go into judgement for ourselves and others
- This is why having self-compassion is important
- Being an empowered HSP means that we know our strengths and we embrace our traits
- We can have a party about our sensitivity; it’s something to celebrate
- When we can tease out the wounding around our traits, we can own our traits and feel great about them
- Messages we have received in the past about our traits can create wounding
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
Sensitive Souls Can Be Prone to Addiction with Angela Raspass
GUEST
Angela Raspass
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We discuss the struggle that some Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) have with addiction. Angela shares her recovery story and provides the tools she uses on a daily basis to be her best. We talk about the importance of trusting yourself and leaning into your strengths. Sometimes, what we feel is a weakness, is really our greatest gift(s). Angela talks about the different types of inner critics we have. With addiction, you’re not a bad person, just a sick person who needs to be loved back to life.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Angela didn’t realize she was a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), but in “kindsight” she realized she is an HSP and she struggled with emotions
- Angela felt like a chameleon, trying to be a specific way so people would approve of her
- Angela grew up in Australia and began struggling with alcohol addiction in high school
- Angela used alcohol to numb the pain; help with feelings of insecurity, and to help her forget her self-loathing
- Angela felt like she was walking around without skin
- Alcohol helped her interact with people, without worrying about what people thought about her, and her belief that she did not measure up
- Angela talks about what it means to be a high-functioning alcoholic
- We discuss Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), which can happen if a parent is NOT an HSP, and the child is
- Those HSPs who had “difficult” childhoods have a higher rate of anxiety and depression
- Angela has been sober for 13 years and she is passionate about helping others
- Angela got to a point where she could NOT stop alcohol; she was emotionally dependent on it.
- It can be very hard to ask for help. We have a feeling we should be able to stop drinking on our own
- Brene Brown says that shame needs secrecy to survive, but if you bring it into the light, you can find freedom
- With the Cycle of Addiction, you use something to stop feeling bad, and then you feel bad for using it, so you use it again
- With addiction, the addict tries everything to try and trick the addiction. The biggest step is to surrender
- Recovery is about stopping living in the problem and starting living in the solution
- You’re not a bad person who needs to become good; you are a sick person who needs to get well, and you need to be loved back to life
- Angela’s perception is that everyone at recovery identifies as very sensitive—like people, who felt like they had no skin.
- There is power in naming what is going on and sharing it and allowing people to see our vulnerability
- Emotions are created by thinking, and HSPs think much more than non-HSPs
- It’s important to know our triggers—things like comparison, envy, jealousy
- Recovery is about needing tools to recognize the emotions that are behind the feeling. You can allow yourself to move through uncomfortable feelings and not get stuck.
- It’s all about self-realization. Angela gets through emotions a lot quicker now because she honors her feelings, and she recognizes them, which allows them to pass
- Tara Brach talked about the second arrow. The first arrow is the pain, and the second arrow is the hard time we give ourselves over feeling the pain
- We need to keep ourselves in a fit spiritual state
- Angela has tools she calls Bookends and Park Bench
- BookEnds – are used at the beginning and end of day
- Morning Book End: First thing in the morning, Angela uses daily Calm App, 10-15 minutes, to do a short meditation before doing anything else in the morning
- Evening Bookend: Gratitude Journaling about 4-5 things that she’s grateful for, and a few things she did well
- In the middle of the day, Angela uses the tools of Park Bench. She sits down, breathes, thinks and appreciates
- Additional tools include being sure she is sleeping well, eating well, and using bookends and park bench
- Angela understands the true nature of who she is, and if she cares for herself emotionally and physically, she won’t have to go back to where she was when she was using
- Russ Harris – ACT - Acceptance, Commitment Therapy is what helped Angela. Actions of confidence come first, feelings of confidence come later You need to practice it for a while before you actually begin to feel confident
- What are your values/strengths?
- Self-care is important. You need to do the work to show up in the world.
- Taking steps on a daily basis builds a sense of self-esteem and lets us know we can count on ourselves
- Some HSPs have a struggle with being sensitive to other people’s opinions
- When the real you emerges, you can make decisions that honor who you are.
- Angela talks about feeling like her business was killing her; she was sad, stressed and was smoking. She was sensitive about other people’s opinions, but she closed that business, which was what helped her move to the next level
- It’s okay to design a business around your sensitivity—to play to your strengths
- You can use a strengths-finder quiz online to find your strength. Angela’s is positivity.
- Angela tells others, “You can borrow my belief in you until you believe it yourself”
- Is your addiction costing you more than money? It is taking an emotional toll? Is it affecting your relationships? how often are you thinking about drinking?
- There’s no shame in asking for help
- Abstinence is like having a tiger in a cage, that stays locked in the cage, but moderation in terms of addiction is like opening the cage every so often and letting the tiger out
- There are AA volunteers to help you
- There is also Smart Recovery, though Angela did not take that option.
- Once you decide, you can look into the “next chapter” – you recognize your values and strengths.
- Angela offers a confidence guide on her website
- She also has a quiz to figure out what type of inner critic you have: perfectionist, mean girl, imposter, etc.
- Finally, Angela’s website has a guide to breakthrough those critical walls.
- Angela would tell her younger self that it’s okay to feel things, and it’s a superpower that gives you an opportunity for a deeper connection
- Angela is about to launch YourNextChapter.com and is publishing her book, Your Next Chapter.
QUOTES
- “Shame needs secrecy to survive.”
- “I felt like I was walking around without skin.”
- “You keep getting the messages from the world that you’re a bit strange, and that you don’t fit; that does hurt.”
- “I just turned 50, and it feels like life is just beginning. Turning this next chapter is exciting.”
- “I’m no longer working on auto-pilot. Things are getting better and better since I stepped into recovery.”
- “Life is so much brighter with emotional freedom.”
- “You don’t have to do your business by the book.”
GUEST BIO
Angela Raspass is Business Mentor and Podcast Host who supports businesswomen craving more fulfilment in their life to confidently identify and turn their ideas and experience into unique, tangible and impactful business models. She wraps her clients in strategic and emotional support to ensure sustainable growth through masterminds, retreats and personal mentoring. Angela has been self-employed since 2003, having launched her own marketing consultancy at her dining room table with two small children underfoot after a corporate career in market, sponsorships and sales with News Limited. Ideas Into Action expanded into a Sydney office with a team of full time staff and clients in three states. In 2012, Angela decided to pivot into her own Next Chapter, moving from pure consulting to mentoring the rapidly growing audience of women-led solo and micro businesses.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online courses for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Angela’s Links:
Website - www.AngelaRaspass.com
Facebook - www.Facebook.com/Angelaraspass
Confidence Guide - www.AngelaRaspass.com/confidence
Take the Quiz - www.AngelaRaspass.com/takethequiz
Breakthrough Guide - www.AngelaRaspass.com/breakthroughguide
Resources:
Russ Harris – ACT - https://www.actmindfully.com.au/
Calm App - https://www.calm.com/
Brene Brown on Shame - https://brenebrown.com/articles/2013/01/14/shame-v-guilt/
Tara Brach - https://www.tarabrach.com
Alcoholics Anonymous – www.aa.org
Smart Recovery, www.smartrecovery.org
Patricia’s Links:
Website--http://www.unaplogeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Editor & Show Notes: Cianna Reider – YourPodcastVA.weebly.com
Bonus Episode 56
TITLE
I Wasn't Invited...Why? This Sucks!...Now What?
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
It genuinely stings when we learn we weren’t invited to something! This just happened to me, when I saw something posted on social media. What can we do to heal the parts of us that get triggered and feel hurt when this happens? We get to love the part of us that feels hurt. We can unpack our bags and live in the hurt, or we use this as an opportunity to evaluate the relationship, the activity we missed, and what we want in our lives. Are these our People? What are our values and how we show up in the world?
HIGHLIGHTS
- It’s going to sting when we find out we aren’t included—that’s a fact, and it’s very normal to feel hurt, angry, disappointed when we learn that we weren’t included
- As a Highly Sensitive Person, aka HSP, we tend to be kind, loving, thoughtful human beings
- We don’t know why we weren’t included
- It’s not really our business
- Are there things we’re doing to hang on to the hurt or try and find out more about why we weren’t included
- What are our values?
- Are these our people?
- Chances are, it will trigger past feelings of inadequacy and the tendency to make it about ourselves—this is usually an indication that the fit in the relationship is off
- When were are truly seen and heard, we have very little doubt about whether or not we fit. It just feels good and right
- How can we love the part of us that feels hurt
- Do we need to get extra support from a friend, therapist, mentor or coach if we’re feeling stuck?
- We can process and give energy to the woundedness
- We’re in it
- We’re defending
- We’re keeping the wound alive
- We can process and heal the woundness
- We evaluate the relationship
- We evaluate if we enjoy and benefit from the activity
- We evaluate our values and how we show up vs. how the other people show up
- Do you unfollow or unfriend the person (people) that are excluding you?
- What’s the kind thing to do in order to surround yourself with love and support
- How will it be if you continue to see things you’re not invited to on social media?
- People have a right to NOT include you
- People have a right to post on social media or talk about things you weren’t invited to
- How can we learn to heal our wounds and allow others to do what they do?
- When we look at our relationships, are they reciprocal?
- Do we give/do more than the other person consistently?
- Are we the one who is always reaching out and making plans?
- Do we enjoy the same activities?
- Do we have the same values?
- How do we feel after being with the person?
- We get to choose what we have in our lives
- We can learn to work through these hurts so they don’t over run the other things in our lives
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Online HSP Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Bonus Episode 54 Being an Educated and Informed HSP Allows You to Know Your Gifts; Know Your Limitations, and to Accept that This is How You’re Wired https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-54/
Bonus Episode 55
TITLE
When Others Don’t Communicate the Way You Do
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
As a Highly Sensitive Person, we often expect others to be able to communicate the way we do. My son is having challenges with his 3 roommates, and it got me thinking about how Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) tend to show up in relationships, and what can we do in those relationships where the other person cannot see or own their part; they blame, and open communication is not possible.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) often are able to communicate with honesty, openness and an ability to hear another person’s perspective
- We are often surprised, angry and disappointed when we learn that others may not have the same capacity that we do
- How do we navigate this?
- If it’s a relationship where we don’t have as much freedom to choose (a boss, school, family relationships), can we put on a “game face” and hold the tender parts of our being back?
- Can we recognize that this is a limitation in the relationship?
- Sometimes we don’t know the other person has a limitation until we have conflict or competing needs
- Sometimes we can work through this
- What are the deal breakers?
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Online HSP Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Welcome video for Online HSP Course--https://youtu.be/pGwwfbnuXfc
To enter the raffle for the scholarship for the Online HSP Course, send an email to unapologeticallysensitive.com and put “HSP Course Raffle” in the subject line. A winner will be announced via e-mail on Monday September 16, 2017
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Bonus Episode 54
TITLE
Being an Educated and Informed HSP Allows You to Know Your Gifts; Know Your Limitations, and to Accept that this is How You’re Wired
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
The Highly Sensitive Person can have a number of struggles, AND it is possible to embrace our traits as an HSP; to feel comfortable in our skin; to know we think and feel deeply and to learn to shrug off things that aren’t helpful. We often have a greater capacity than we think we do. When we know about our traits, we can advocate for ourselves and educate others. Being sensitive is an incredible strength! Enter to win free registration for the upcoming HSP Online Course for September 2019.
QUOTES
Being an educated and informed HSP means that you know your gifts; you know your limitations, and you accept that this is how you’re wired
With this Course, it was a very loving and secure environment that allowed you to be vulnerable.
I realized I’m valid; that my needs and desires are valid and my boundaries are valid…people need to be ok with it, or they are just not going to be able to be in my life or interact with me in a major way.
This is my strength. This is something that I have that others don’t, and it lets me shine in situations.
I’m able to overserve things and see things that other people don’t see.
HIGHLIGHTS
- The Highly Sensitive Person often experiences some of these things
- Difficulty calming our nervous system
- Being able to stand by what we say, and not be overrun with guilt or shame (boundaries)
- Thriving in a world with people who don’t “get” us
- Trusting too quickly
- Getting attached too quickly
- Embracing our “weirdness”
- Getting tongue tied
- Comparing
- Having a difficult time letting things go
- Not taking things personally
- Ways to break patterns and make change
- Name the challenge
- It breaks the shame
- It creates room for healing and brings it out into the light
- Reframing our perceived weaknesses
- Picky becomes detail oriented or discriminating
- Embracing our traits
- Learning how our brains work
- We take in more information than non-HSPs, so our sense of reality may be different than others
- We may get nervous before new things, but there are ways we can manage
- We can use mindfulness to check in
- I’ve been struggling with how to communicate the benefits of the online courses
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Online HSP Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Welcome video for Online HSP Course--https://youtu.be/pGwwfbnuXfc
To enter the raffle for the scholarship for the Online HSP Course, send an email to unapologeticallysensitive.com and put “HSP Course Raffle” in the subject line. A winner will be announced via e-mail on Monday September 16, 2017
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
I Always Knew I Was Different with Melissa Schwartz
GUEST
Melissa Schwartz
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Melissa created the Sensitivity Summit--a free online summit for Highly Sensitive People (HSPs). She shares some of what she learned while recording the interviews for the summit. Melissa provides some tangible tools she uses so she doesn’t absorb others’ energy. She also talks about learning to regulate her emotions, and we talk about how sensitivity can look different in people.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Melissa is creating a Sensitivity Summit, with over 30 experts on Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) on topics like adults, children, relationships with non-HSPs, and even wounding
- This event brings together a variety of experts and will provide great insight for HSPs, or those raising or living with an HSP
- Melissa always knew something was different about her, but she didn’t realize she was Highly Sensitive at first
- She realized she was a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) about 5 years ago
- She always thought and was told, that she was too reactive, too emotional, too intense, and too sensitive
- 70% of HSPs are introverts, and 30% are extroverts. Melissa identifies as an extrovert
- We discuss trauma, with a capital T and trauma with a lower case t and how they are different
- Some Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), hold on to trauma because they don’t know how to process it
- Self-compassion is critical
- Melissa was born Highly Sensitive; according to her mother, she came out crying, colicky, and had her days and nights confused
- Instead of Highly Sensitive, Melissa prefers to call herself “deeply attuned”
- Melissa works on regulating her emotions. She’s a spiritual seeker who looks for deeper meaning in life
- She found the work of Esther Hicks in her 20s, and learned more about what emotions mean; the intensity/scale of our emotions, and healthy ways to experience our emotions
- Melissa doesn’t quite think Sensitivity is a superpower. When she was younger, she felt that people who were Non-HSPs had a superpower
- Now, Melissa believes that her empathic/intuitive abilities are her superpower. She can feel the emotional experience of others, and it helps her in her work
- Melissa uses mediation and visualization tools to help her
- We discuss her “loving armor,” and how to keep yourself from absorbing other’s energy when you are empathic
- Some tools to help when you’re feeling overwhelmed include
- Going to the bathroom and splashing water on your face
- Taking cleansing breaths, and releasing that energy
- Visualizing yourself in a bubble of white energy or wearing a suit of armor to protect you
- If you can’t stop the emotional absorption, it’s okay to leave a situation, or bring your our own car so you can leave when you’re ready
- It’s all about self-care. Taking your own car is self-care, bringing snacks is self-care
- Melissa was told her reactions were too big, or her reactions were inappropriate and it was very hurtful to her
- Sensitivity doesn’t look the same for everyone. It can show up in all different ways
- The Sensitivity Summit takes place on September 16th, and you can go to the SensitivitySummit.com to join in!
QUOTES
- “I always knew something was different about me.”
- “It was very overwhelming in my early years to tap into how other people were feeling, and then kind of be drowning in that experience.”
- “I’ll visualize myself in a bubble of white, crystalline energy.”
- “I take my own car places. I like to leave when I’ve had enough. I like to have my own out.”
- “When we’re able to have self-compassion, and be in the moment, and learn to lean into what’s going on, that ultimately leads into a sense of contentment.”
- “Especially when we’re talking about emotional regulation and energetic balance, it’s not something that we achieve and stay there forever, it’s something we achieve for a little bit of time, but it’s even fluctuating.”
- “People say, oh you’re more sensitive or super sensitive. No, I’m Highly Sensitive. It’s not too much, it’s more than it is for you, but it’s just right for me.”
GUEST BIO
Melissa Schwartz was born an intense, sensitive, empathic, power seeker. Her intuitive ability to decode misbehavior and her passion for giving a voice to the legitimate needs of children naturally evolved into becoming the co-creator of Leading Edge Parenting, co-author of "Authentic Parenting Power" and author of forthcoming "Under the Hood: A Manual to Understand the Inner Workings of Children". She is an internationally acclaimed author, coach and public speaker bringing new perspective based on current research and personal experience to transform the field of high sensitivity.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online courses for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Melissa’s Links:
www.facebook.com/highlysensitivechildren
www.facebook.com/groups/highlysensitivechildren
The Sensitivity Summit-- www.thesensitivitysummit.com begins September 16, 2019
Resources:
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
Books by the author Esther Hicks: https://amzn.to/2MvygTF
Patricia’s Links:
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/
E-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Editor & Show Notes: Cianna Reider – YourPodcastVA.weebly.com
Bonus Episode 53
TITLE
I Didn’t Feel Seen and Heard, So I Sang the This Sucks Song!
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
What do we do when we tell someone we’re not feeling seen and heard, and it triggers one of their wounds, and they get defensive? Whose responsibility is it to meet our needs? How can we use mindfulness and curiosity when we are feeling hurt, disappointed and frustrated? Is it possible to sit with discomfort, AND feel gratitude and notice the things that ARE going right? And a special meetup for San Diego Folks September 7, 2019 with a free giveaway for one of the Online HSP Courses!
HIGHLIGHTS
- When we are going through struggles, we tend to want to externalize—find things that are wrong on the outside, instead of going within to see where we need to focus on healing
- We might try to pick a fight with someone, or we find things that others are doing that we feel are wrong
- We can use mindfulness to get curious and try and observe without judgment what’s going on
- Sometimes in relationships we need to sit with the discomfort to see if it’s wounding that we need to work on
- Sometimes it’s important to talk about what’s going on in the relationship in order to have healing happen
- It can hurt, especially as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), when we don’t feel seen and heard
- Sometimes this is about the present, but it’s not uncommon for HSPs to have wounding around not feeling seen and heard because this was our experience when we were growing up
- If we have a REALLY BIG reaction to not feeling seen and heard, it may be an indication that it’s about wounding from the past, and not the present
- When I have a 7 reaction to a situation that probably would be 4, there’s a good chance my reaction is about my history, and not the current situation
- We often are skilled at figuring out what others need, and we are skilled at meeting their needs
- This is often how we get our sense of connecting, belonging and self-esteem
- Are we able to identify our own needs?
- Are we able to really show up for ourselves in the ways we show up for others?
- Becoming aware of these patterns and sitting with them, may cause some feelings of anxiety
- We need to learn how to provide reassurances to ourselves—it’s ok to want it from others, and to get it from others, but ultimately, we need to be able to provide this to ourselves
- It’s ok to depend on others
- It’s ok to need others
- When we are processing things that are difficult, it can be harder to ask for what we want. We have a story in our head, and when we get vague feedback (or no feedback) from others, we may use that to validate the story in our head that says we don’t matter; we’re wrong, or whatever that story is
- When we’re feeling stuck, there are ways to move energy either internally, with our bodies or in our home
- When we are in the midst of understanding something that’s uncomfortable, we may tell ourselves that we’re ruminating. Maybe we’re just processing deeply because we want to understand, and we want to heal
- It’s all about what we tell ourselves. We do better when we are kind to ourselves
- We make unconscious agreements with others like—I’m going to be here for you, and I expect you to be here for me
- This doesn’t always work out
- We may feel we are doing this out of love or generosity, but when the other person doesn’t reciprocate and we become really upset, it could be an indication that we had an unconscious agreement with them, and they broke the agreement
- If we are feeling resentment, that can be another indicator that the agreement was broken
- We may feel powerless, angry, frustrated and disappointed when these things happen. That’s totally normal!
- How do we hear ourselves, so we feel heard and seen?
- You can make up an it sucks song to sing to yourself
- We may have fantasies about how we want the other person to hurt or to feel what we’re feeling. This is normal. We don’t have to act on it
- We can feel frustration, hurt and disappointment, AND also be experiencing things in life that work!
- We tend to focus on what’s not working, and we miss the “both, and”
- When we can see what’s not working and what is working (the both and), we can cultivate compassion and it gives us some distance and perspective
- We get to decide what is working for us
- We have choice; we have power
- We can be sad and disappointed that people aren’t there for us, and we can find ways to soothe and be ok
- Sometimes things suck, so you get to make up your own it sucks song
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Online HSP Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
San Diego Meetup—Saturday September 7, 2019 10 am – noon https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/264112525/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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The Five Superpowers of the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) & High Sensation Seeking (HSS)
GUEST
Caroline Ferguson
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Caroline Ferguson, whose Tedx talk is titled Unlocking the Secret Power of Sensitivity at Work, says burnout in the workplace is likely to be 2x higher for HSPs. She talks about the importance of curiosity, creativity and compassion and how this relates to High Sensation Seeking (HSS). Carolyn talks about the many specific strengths of HSPs, but also talks about optimal career choices that meet the need for novelty and intensity. If you have a low threshold for boredom and like new exciting things, you may be an HSS.
HIGHLIGHTS
- The 5 superpowers
- Ability to notice—highly tuned in/ability to process at great depth
- Rich creative imagination—daydreamers, creatives, solution providers
- Highly conscientious—connected/concerns about others with a little bit of perfectionism
- Empathy—noticing, observing, don’t want to let others down, get the job done properly
- Intuition—noticing and spotting patterns at a level of detail, body language, tone of voice
- Caroline’s superpowers—brainstorming, the use of words, language and stories
- Caroline likes the terms Highly Responsive and Finely-Tuned to describe a Highly Sensitive Person
- We need to learn to honor our feelings
- We may have a tendency to cry and have tender feelings
- Burnout in the workplace is likely to be 2x greater for HSPs compared to non-HSPs
- High Sensation Seeking (HSS)—30% of HSPs are also HSS, which is about 6-7% of the population
- Sensitive Upstarts—don’t wait for permission and they create change
- Someone who is curious, seeking and creates change
- It is an evolutionary imperative
- They have curiosity and compassion
- Great jobs are project manager or life coach
- Curiosity is innate and hardwired to be fascinated by life around us
- We have been told curiosity killed the cat, or that we’re nosy, and we’ve had the curiosity beaten out of us
- Curiosity is an amazing skill and it’s the opposite of judgment—we’re open; we want to know
- Curiosity increases compassion and acceptance
- With High Sensation Seeking (HSS), we are involved in certain things, then we stop and we move on to the next thing
- We can design a life, career and relationships that have novelty, and intensity and variety
- With High Sensation Seeking, we have a part that wants to dial down and a part that’s seeking stimulation
- Creativity and curiosity are part of being a HSS
- HSS have a deep fascinations, passions and want to absorb everything
- HSS have a low boredom threshold, and want to get on to the next new, exciting and varied thing that comes up
GUEST BIO
Caroline Ferguson is a Mindset Trainer, cognitive behavioural hypnotherapist and the original 'Sensitive Upstart'. She loves showing sensitive, purposeful leaders who KNOW they were born for something more how to overcome their inner resistance, embody their potential and skyrocket their impact.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online courses for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Caroline’s Links:
Unlocking the Secret Power of Sensitivity at Work | Caroline Ferguson | TEDxDrapanosWomen
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KWSqAgg7HOo
The gentle power of highly sensitive people | Elena Herdieckerhoff | TEDxIHEParis
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pi4JOlMSWjo
On "Inner Sensation Seeking" http://www.hsperson.com/pages/3May10.htm
The Handbook for Highly Sensitive People: How to Transform Feeling Overwhelmed and Frazzled to Empowered and Fulfilled by Mel Collins
Patricia’s Links:
San Diego Meetup Saturday September 7, 2019 10 am – noon. Learn About The Highly Sensitive Person and Meet Other Sensitives https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/264112525/
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/
E-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Overall Struggles & Strengths Highly Sensitive Person (HSPs)
GUEST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Jen and I talk about perfectionism, self-compassion, boundaries, self-care, HS superpowers, communication, vulnerability, authenticity, demystifying emotions, creating a lifestyle that honors the HSP, and mindfulness. These are some of the things that we notice Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) struggling with. Our primary intention is to give you an idea of what to expect in our upcoming online courses. Whether you are considering taking a group or not, this episode is a great way to identify your HS strengths and maybe see if there are areas you want to focus on.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Jen explains why working with HSPs is a passion of hers
- We share our excitement about the groups and why we feel they are important
- I share the story of my first meeting with Jen
- Jen shares her initial impression upon our first meeting and the benefit that comes with creating a safe space to openly share our needs
- We discuss our goal of making the groups a safe space where productive communication can happen, and we create community
- Setting boundaries in relationships is not about changing the other person; it’s creating a space for yourself by communicating your needs
- We discuss the plan for our upcoming groups to give you an idea of what to expect:
- Group culture / Expectations
- Creating community guidelines
- Creating and maintaining a safe environment
- Everyone is seen and heard
- Everyone is treated respectfully
- Everyone’s goals for the group
- Getting to know each other
- Basic education about the trait
- Questions and discussion
- Building pride in HSP
- Applying the pride
- Recognizing this is a non-HSP world, and we get to assert our HSP traits/needs
- Identifying negative messages and turning them into superpowers
- Things we struggle with
- Too sensitive
- Too needy
- Need to get thicker skin
- Not social
- No fun, can’t take a joke, no sense of humor
- Too picky
- Overthink things
- Worry too much
- Too nice
- Over responsible for everything
- Feeling fatally flawed, not good enough
- Mistfit–I’m the only one; There’s no one like me
- Deep sense of not belonging and shame
- Outcomes
- Embracing our traits
- Identify and verbalize what traits resonate for us
- Feeling confident in what our needs are
- Naming our strengths
- Seeing comments as being about the other person
- Identifying when we get triggered, and having tools to manage
- Proper care and feeding of the HSP
- Skillfulness around boundaries
- Finding ways to live peacefully with non-HPSs and honor everyone’s needs
- Self-care is non-negotiable!
- Things we struggle with
- People pleasing
- Putting others needs ahead of our own
- Feeling guilty when we take care of ourselves
- Feeling resentful when we meet other’s needs and not our own
- Feeling drained
- Feeling depleted
- Feeling unappreciated
- Feeling overwhelmed
- Feeling irritable, negative, easily annoyed, less patient, more critical of self and others, intolerant
- Outcomes
- Becoming comfortable with self-centering
- It’s ok to be the center of your universe
- You can’t pour from an empty cup
- Self-care is an imperative–which is ultimately a selfless act
- When we take care of ourselves, everyone benefits in the long run (not always immediately, but the overall benefit is for everyone)
- Listening to what we need and want
- Trusting what we need and want
- Wanting to take care of ourselves
- Knowing that when we take care of ourselves, we have more to offer others
- Feeling out of balance (or at least aware) when we are ignoring our own needs
- Having richer deeper relationships because we are fulfilled and coming from a place where we have more to offer
- Boundaries are an imperative part of self-care
- Things we struggle with
- Feeling uncomfortable with conflict
- Feeling guilty–picking up on other’s feelings that we might disappoint others (or they will get angry or frustrated)
- The guilt is not necessary (we haven’t done anything wrong–we’re supposed to set boundaries–it’s healthy, and boundaries are a natural and necessary part of any healthy relationship)
- Guilt is the best word we have in the English language, but it’s not really an accurate description
- Feeling not seen, not heard or not honored
- Not expressing our wants and needs
- Feeling resentful
- Feeling powerless
- Feeling taken advantage of
- Feeling like everyone else gets their needs met or what they want
- Outcomes
- Trusting our feelings
- Boundaries will directly reduce our overwhelm
- Learning how to set boundaries without emotion
- Boundaries make you a happy human; When we have an emotional flare, it’s because a boundary has most likely been violated (or a need has not been met)
- Learning how to compassionately, but kindly state what is and is not acceptable
- Seeing boundaries as creating safety for ourselves and others
- Seeing the benefits of setting limits
- Owning our power and KNOWING that our wants and needs are perfectly acceptable and reasonable
- Developing flexibility–not about the rule, but about the relationship and the context
- Perfectionism
- Things we struggle with
- Feeling not good enough
- Comparing
- Feeling inadequate
- Not starting things, paralysis
- Not pursuing dreams
- Overworking/overdoing trying to get a sense of “enoughness”
- Constant unease
- Critical of self and others
- Perfectionism is a myth
- Imposter syndrome–if people really saw who I am, they would leave
- Brene Brown says Whenever you have perfectionism driving, shame is riding shotgun
- Hustling for your sense of worth
- “Doing” for a sense of value instead of knowing we have value because we live and breathe
- Outcomes
- Knowing done is better than perfect
- Busting shame
- Brene Brown–Our vulnerability is what actually connects us
- Sense of belonging and connection comes from allowing ourselves to be seen imperfectly
- That’s where connection begins
- Living from our values–regardless of whether goals are met or not. It can be about the process and not the outcome
- More self-acceptance
- More ease in relationships because the standards are more realistic
- Learning how to set goals that are achievable
- More contentment
- More satisfaction
- Actually accomplishing more due to acceptance
- Communication, vulnerability, authenticity
- Things we struggle with
- Afraid to say what you’re thinking
- Not trusting what you’re thinking
- Fear of judgment, criticism, being ridiculed
- Feeling like your point of view is wrong or not popular
- Afraid to really show up in relationships and allow yourself to be fully seen
- Being afraid to upset someone
- Being afraid to stir up problems in the relationship
- Not trusting that ruptures are repairable, and this actually points at growth
- We grow in relationships after a rupture
- Ruptures are a natural part of attachment–it doesn’t mean that there isn’t attachment
- Outcomes
- Educate others about the trait
- Why we need the lights low,
- Less stimulation
- Quiet areas
- Model healthy communication, authenticity, vulnerability
- More depth, closeness and trust in relationships
- Marshall Rosenberg’s non-violent communication
- All behavior is an attempt to get a need met
- Feelings and needs are never in conflict
- Strategies to get them met can be in conflict, and that requires creative problem-solving
- Life is figure out-able
- Creating a lifestyle that is HSP friendly and honors our HSP needs
- Things we struggle with
- Overwhelm
- Fatigue
- Resentment
- Feeling drained
- Overworking
- Living in a non-HSP world and trying to live like a non-HSP
- Outcomes
- Proper Care and Feeding of HSPs
- Getting enough rest, down time, quiet time
- Exercise
- Spirituality
- Just enough socializing
- Feeling a deeper sense of connection
- More meaning in your life
- Social justice work HSP style ~ having activist mentors
- Connecting with nature
- Learning how to do non-HSP events in manageable chunks
- Mindfulness & Self-Compassion
- Things we struggle with
- Overwhelmed and scattered
- Urge to numb out (TV, social media, Netflix)
- Outcomes
- Basic meditation instruction
- Formal and informal practices, moving meditation, guided meditation
- Learning how to curiously observe what comes up and to use it as information instead of reacting to things
- Self-acceptance
- More self-compassion and compassion for others
- Being more emotionally responsive vs emotionally reactive (Pause button)
- Meeting life on its terms instead of arm wrestling with it
- Basic meditation instruction
- Demystifying emotions & Embracing our emotions
- Things we struggle with
- My emotions overwhelm me
- I can’t control my emotions
- I’m emotionally reactive
- I’m embarrassed by my emotions
- Affect-phobia
- I don’t want to feel my emotions, they won’t go away
- My feelings will hurt me / others
- Outcomes
- Basic education about emotion theory
- Emotions can’t hurt us
- Emotions are to be honored and felt
- Emotions are impermanent
- Emotions are not something we can control
- Creating safety to feel our emotions
- Emotions can inform our actions/behavior but do not need to drive our behavior
- Mindfulness
- Feelings come and go – just energy moving through us
- Deep sense of connection when we get comfortable having our feelings
- Things we struggle with
- Things we struggle with
- Proper Care and Feeding of HSPs
- Things we struggle with
- Things we struggle with
- Things we struggle with
- Things we struggle with
- Things we struggle with
- Things we struggle with
BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping highly sensitive people thrive in love, work, and parenting highly sensitive children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. She can be reached at jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com or 215-292-5056. Learn more at heartfulnessconsulting.com or facebook.com/Heartfulnessconsulting.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online courses for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Website--www.heartfulnessconsulting.comEmail--jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com
Facebook--www.facebook.com/HeartfulnessConsulting
Patricia’s Links:
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/
E-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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I Heal Through My Songs with Singer & Songwriter Karen Drucker
GUEST
Karen Drucker
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Karen is a singer/songwriter with over 15 CDs, and she is also an author. She writes songs that heal and bless the soul! Karen talks about being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and how she is able to perform at huge concerts, travel to perform, and still honors her HSP needs. We talk about the creative process, and what inspires her lyrics. Karen jokes that if you want to know her issues, listen to her songs. Karen talks about her inner critic, named Zelda, and how Karen works with Zelda when Zelda shows up trying to protect her. Karen also sings a bit acapella, which made my eyes water.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Before I knew about being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), I just always felt weird
- When people would hear me say I was an HSP, they would just raise their eyebrow
- As a Highly Sensitive Person, I am aware; I’m empathetic and I can meet people at a deeper level
- Knowing the traits of being an HSP helped me to adapt
- I always joke—if you want to know my issues, listen to my songs
- My songs are writing to myself; it’s my therapy
- If I’m not feeling worthy, or I’m stressed about time, I write a song and turn it into an affirmation
- I think about what words would bring comfort and I write about it
- I’m doing more work with people with health issues, cancer, people in recovery or dealing with their inner critic—let’s focus and sing about it
- Music bypasses the bring and goes into the heart—literally. Oxytocin in released and it’s like having a musical meditation
- The song Be Gentle was written when Karen was having a hard time and was beating up on herself. These are the lyrics--
I will be gentle with myself
I will be gentle with myself
And I will hold myself like a newborn baby child
I will be tender with my heart
I will be tender with my heart
And I will hold my heart like a newborn baby child
And I will only go as fast
As the slowest part of me feels safe to go
I will be easy on myself
I will be easy on myself
And I love myself like a new born baby child
And I will only go as fast
As the slowest part of me feels safe to go
I am gentle with myself
I am gentle with myself
And I hold myself like a new born baby child
And I rock myself like a newborn baby child
And I hold myself like a newborn baby child
And I love myself like a newborn baby child
- Karen tends to write songs from all perspectives—when she is struggling; when she is grateful, etc.
- Creativity is allowing yourself to be open. Karen said she is attuned towhat she hears in the world
- Karen never anticipated writing a book, but she felt a calling to do it
- We talk about how The Universe can conspire on your behalf, and what serendipity can look like
- Karen talks about her inner critic, whose name is Zelda, who is there to attempt to protect Karen.
- Whenever Karen is growing or stretching, Zelda gets stronger
- Karen uses mindfulness, curiosity, acceptance and she embraces Zelda
- Karen will tell Zelda, “I know you are there; I hear what you’re saying. This is MY truth today…”
- Karen suggests recording on your phone all the wonderful things you want to say to yourself, and listen to it several times/day
- We talk about why this can be difficult for people to do
- We talk about the struggle when people expect you to show up a certain way, but you are feeling more tired or quiet. How do you navigate this authentically (or not)
- Karen shares her birthday ritual and how she connects to herself on this special day
GUEST BIO
Very few people can say that they have been a singing mermaid, a singing casket, and was literally “elevator music” when she was hired to sing and play piano in a moving elevator. Meet Karen Drucker. Karen has recorded 15 CDs of her original inspirational music, and is the author of an inspirational book, “Let Go of the Shore: Stories and Songs That Set the Spirit Free.” Among her many accomplishments, she has been a professional comedienne, led her own band for corporate events, and has been the music director of New Thought Churches, as well as music director and “ music weaver” for many spiritual conferences and retreats. Karen has been honored with an Honorary Doctorate of Music for her work within the Religious Science Community, and a “Grace Note” award for her work within the Unity Movement. In following her passion, Karen sings, speaks and leads workshops at women's retreats, mind-body & health conferences, and various churches around the country, as well as working with authors like Joan Borysenko, Alan Cohen, and many others. Karen Drucker has been called “a master of communicating presence and spirituality through music.” She loves making music, making a difference, and touching hearts.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online courses for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Karen’s links:
Website— http://www.karendrucker.com
Women’s one day retreat: October 19 Tiburon CA
http://www.karendrucker.com/tiburon-retreat-2019/
Chanting Night: October 18
http://www.karendrucker.com/wp-content/uploads/singing-OCT18-Karen-Drucker.pdf
New Years Chanting Night: Dec 31
http://www.karendrucker.com/wp-content/uploads/Sweet-Sacred-Singing.pdf
I Am Loved https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4av7rKUFTAE
Loving Kindness https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9CEe_Kh7Gxc
Donna Eden https://edenenergymedicine.com/
Donna Eden—daily 5 minute energy routine https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gffKhttrRw4
Dr. Elaine Aron’s self-test for the Highly Sensitive Person https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
Elizabeth Gilbert Big Magic
Patricia’s Links:
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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The Highly Sensitive Brain—What the Research Says, Esther Bergsma MA
GUEST
Esther Bergsma
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Esther joins us to discuss her studies of HSPs and how their brain works. First, we discuss the differences in HSPs and non-HSPs. We discuss that the brain is active in many more areas then the non-HSP. Esther shares that one of the major areas that the brain is always turned on to is social context. HSPs are always asking what others think of them. We also discuss the role anxiety plays for the highly sensitive person and how HSPs have optimal option ambition which makes them want the best outcome. Esther discusses research in emotional granularity and introspection. We discuss Esther’s style of working with clients to figure out what’s going inside. We focus on the strengths of HSPs, and we end discussing the four-step process that Esther uses when working with children in order to help them identify their feelings.
QUOTES
- “There’s so much misunderstanding around the term, people think its about being sensitive to light.”
- “The area that’s always tuned in is the area surrounding social constructs. What is someone else thinking of me? Does he accept me? It’s always on.”
- “The troubles we experience as an adult often come from our strengths.”
- “Cut out images from a magazine just because it feels good. Then analyze why it makes you feel good.”
- “A lot of HSPs built these walls because they have been hurt in their lives.”
BIO
Esther Bergsma, MA, is a frequent speaker on High Sensitivity in the Netherlands. She is an author, trainer, scientific researcher and expert on High Sensitivity. Esther has been project manager with the Ministry of Social Affairs and at a Union. After a burnout that lasted four years, she discovered she is highly sensitive, and has two highly sensitive children. She wrote the book Hoogsensitieve kinderen (Highly Sensitive Children) which included research amongst over 700 parents, and the book the Highly Sensitive Brain (both are in Dutch).
Esther wants to create awareness about the trait from a more scientific angle. She tackles skepticism with easy-to-understand but scientifically sound information, both verbally and written. She speaks for medical professionals, psychologist, teachers and managers. Last year, she conducted international research to gain awareness on the trait of High Sensitivity in the workplace. 5500 Highly Sensitive Persons from over 20 countries participated and the results are as important for HSP as for employers.
Hoogsensitief.NL is initiated by Esther to create a place for HSPs to meet, learn and share.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Lisa Feldman Barret How Emotions are Made
- There are many misunderstandings around the term HSP
- HSPs are actually deep processors.
- HSPs are perceptive and also and notice subtilties and emotions in others.
- The brain processes in a lot more areas in HSPs. 10-20 in HSPs and 4-5 in non-HSPs.
- HSPs tend to have difficult childhoods, and tune into social contexts and wonder how they are seen and how they fit in. This often turns into anxiety disorders.
- If HSPs have good childhoods, then they learn to manage their emotions better. They are still intense but they know how to manage it.
- Optimal Option Ambition: connect to the best outcome. Keep everyone happy, keeps brain making loops, but the options HSPs come up with are more creative.
- HSPs tend to be good at self-reflection. Often asking themselves can they be better, how can they improve.
- Emotional granularity is important for HSPs. Use the right words to describe what’s going on, so you send the right messages to your body.
- Introception: Feel what’s going on inside our bodies and help connect our brain to our body.
- Emotional Intelligence: Knowing what’s going on in yourself. Connecting to others.
- Esther helps her clients figure out what they want/need by cutting out images that make them happy.
- It’s important to remember the brains function differently then others. Try not to be like others. Take breaks and remember you may be better at some tasks.
- On the subject of Highly Sensitive Children, it’s important to give our children the ability to talk about their feelings. We need to honor, validate their feelings. It’s about understanding, acceptance, guidelines and steps for future.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Esther’s Links:
Website: https://hoogsensitief.nl/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HoogsensitiefNL/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/esther-bergsma-1896327
Patricia’s Links:
Website: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/
E-mail: unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music: Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Editor & Show Notes: Cianna Reider – YourPodcastVA.weebly.com
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A Discussion About Empaths and The Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
GUEST
Colette Davenport
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Colette talks about the differences between Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) and Empaths. Colette gives us steps and tools to help us figure out if it is our own emotions, or if we are picking up on the emotions of other people. We discuss the care and feeling of an empath, and how what we consume, food or in our environment, can impact us. Colette also discusses medical challenges, and how she has been working with a biohacker to overcome these. She discusses the brain/gut connection, and muscle testing.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Empaths – internalize the emotional states of others.
- HSPs externalize emotional states of others
- Empaths have a hard time expressing feelings, and absorb the energy of others.
- They experience stomach aches, headaches, tightness in chest and these may not be their own.
- Is the feeling mine, or someone elses?
- The basic care and feeding of an empath
- How to get grounded
- What we “consume”—food, emotions, news, friends, thoughts
- Shifting what we think is wrong with us to seeing our superpowers
- Brain/gut connection—can cause depression, anxiety, difficulties with concentration
- What is muscle testing
- Colette has hypoglossal schwannoma – a tumor on her brainstem
- How to take your energy back
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- Shift perspective—we are not weak or we are not sponges
- We are capable, strong, competent
- Let our defenses down—stop protecting ourselves
- Stop trying to help others—witness, support, being, listening, “light and love,” allowing others to be who they are
- Stop taking responsibility for others and shine light on them
- Embody and exemplify in the world
- 4 Step process
- See the situation for what it is
- Distinguish between the situation and what happened inside of you (we all have a soul wound/core wounding)
- Feel the feelings
- It can be uncomfortable, but it’s about diving into the feelings
- Call back the castoffs
- Welcome back the parts of ourselves that we deem unlovable/unacceptable
- We must have unconditional love for self (self-compassion)
- Re-state the facts—identify statement—I am….
- Deeply buried belief about self that is false
- Colleen’s soul wound “I am an ugly disgusting waste of time”
- “I’m a beautiful magnetic woman that people love to be with.” Truth
QUOTES
- I’m a beautiful, magnetic person that people love to be with.
- Highly sensitive people feel their feelings, and they want that for the world.
- My understanding of the difference between Highly Sensitive People, and empaths is that as empaths we take in and get lost in the emotional states of others.
- The Soul Wound, our deepest, most buried powerful pain.
- We have to restore wholeness, by loving those parts that we feel are unlovable.
BIO
Colette Davenport is a Master Empath and CEO of Badass Empath United, a global organization that provides personal and professional development exclusively for empaths. She is an international coach and speaker, and author of Get Your Magic Back.
Colette’s 20+ years of experience in the relationship field, along with her personal health crisis, and her fine tuned empathic abilities generated a unique vision for the future of the highly sensitive community. She believes empaths can only live up to their full potential through emotional mastery and speaking their truth. When this happens on a global scale, the world as we know it will shift from fear to love.
“In my early experience as an empath, not having the awareness and tools to navigate my sensitivities made me feel broken and alone. My self-esteem was tied to the acceptance of others. I made myself sick trying to fit in and be normal, and as such, I suffered from depression, anxiety, and addiction. Over the course of two decades I’ve learned how to establish healthy boundaries, speak my truth, give zero f*cks about fitting in, and connect deeply with people who get me. I share my wisdom and systems with other empaths who are ready to be the bada**es they were born to be.”
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS/RESOURCES
Dr. David R. Hawkins MD, PhD Power Vs. Force
Colette’s Links:
Website: https://www.colettedavenport.com
Website: http://www.badassempath.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwtNhreE5hPsELSFYAiRNOw
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/colette.davenport/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/badassempath/
Medium: https://medium.com/@colettedavenport/latest
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Editor & Show Notes: Cianna Reider – YourPodcastVA.weebly.com
Episode 33
TITLE
Parenting Differently Wired Kids
GUEST
Deborah Reber
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Podcast host, and parent to a neurodivergent son who is twice exceptional, gifted, has ADHD, and experiences challenges with Executive Functioning and Sensory Issues, Debbie talks about how parents can support their differently wired kids. Is authoritarian parenting effective? What is attachment parenting, and how does our culture view nurturing vs. coddling? What is executive functioning? Are kids really being manipulative or is it due to lagging skills? How can we help our kids have a sense of agency, control and self-direction? What is scaffolding, and how do we teach this to our kids? Debbie gives a special message to kids who are differently wired, and a message to their parents.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Why self-care is imperative as parents
- Why vulnerability and open communication with our kids is crucial
- How parents can support their differently wired kids
- A message for parents who have kids who are differently wired
- A message for the kids who are differently wired
- Our expectations before we have a child (children), and the shifts we have an opportunity to make once we have a child who is wired differently than we are.
- We can choose to be authoritative parents, or parent the way we had planned, or we have an opportunity to really learn from our child and change how we parent
- Scaffolding—what is it and why is it important
- Authoritative parenting—is it effective?
- Our culture typically doesn’t want us to coddle or spoil our children, when in fact, we may be meeting their needs for attachment and learning in really healthy and adaptive ways (but feeling guilty because we’re not being strict or structured enough)
- Executive functioning and lagging skills—what is it and why is it important to know about this
- Kids do the best they can—Ross Greene
- ADHD (and other neurodiversities) are consistently inconsistent. It can look like manipulation or stubbornness or willfulness, but it’s about lagging skills
- Where compassion comes in to play with parenting neurodivergent kids (for the parents and the child)
BIO
Deborah Reber is a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded TiLT Parenting, a website, weekly podcast, and social media community for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in iTunes’ Kids and Family category, with more than 1 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie’s newest book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired.
Prior to launching TiLT, Debbie spent more than fifteen years writing inspiring books for women and teens. Before embarking on her own path as a solopreneur, Debbie worked in TV and video production, producing documentaries and PSAs for CARE and UNICEF, working on Blue’s Clues for Nickelodeon in New York, and developing original series for Cartoon Network in Los Angeles. She has an MA in Media Studies from the New School for Social Research and a BA in Communications from Pennsylvania State University.
In December 2018, Debbie and her family relocated back to the NYC area after living in Amsterdam, the Netherlands for the past five years.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS/RESOURCES
Debbie Reber Website-- http://www.tiltparenting.com/start-here/
Tilt Parenting Podcast-- http://www.tiltparenting.com/podcast/
Differently Wired—Raising Exceptional Kids in a Conventional World by Deborah Reber
TedXAmsterdam--Why the future will be differently wired https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ZcrDVruby4
The Explosive Child : A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children by Ross W. Greene
The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives Hardcover by William Stixrud PhD (Author), Ned Johnson (Author)
Smart but Scattered: The Revolutionary "Executive Skills" Approach to Helping Kids Reach Their Potential by Peg Dawson EdD, Richard Guare PhD
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
Dr. Ted Zeff’s website— http://www.drtedzeff.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
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Bonus Episode 52
TITLE
Loyalty—How We Perceive Things Differently, & Relationships
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) tend to be incredibly loyal. This can pose a challenge when we’re in relationships that aren’t working for us. Some HSPs struggle with conflict and setting boundaries; because we feel more empathy, we can imagine how the other person might feel. HSPs notice things that others don’t, which can also create challenges when we perceive things, and we feel that no one else gets why we’re upset (or why certain behaviors don’t work, or aren’t acceptable to us). We have an opportunity to validate what we experience.
HIGHLIGHTS
- The pattern of being in relationships that don’t work—the different cycles we experience
- Some of the reasons why people are reluctant to end relationships
- Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) have more mirror neurons—we feel more empathy and can imagine what the other person might feel, which can make it more difficult to make decisions that work for us—like ending or changing a relationship
- Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) tend to be really loyal when it comes to relationships.
- HSPs sometimes feel uncomfortable with conflict and setting boundaries. This can make it harder when it comes to ending relationships, or setting limits in relationships
- Why naming what we’re experiencing/feeling is so important
- If we don’t name things, the energy comes out “sideways”
- What do you do when you have long standing friendships, but they’re no longer working or meeting your needs?
- HSPs are going to notice more things than non-HSPs. This can also cause us to question our perception, or our sense of reality
- When we are feeling something that others aren’t aware of, we have an opportunity to validate our experience, because WE feel it
- Some aspects of relationships to look at to evaluate how it’s working
- HSPs tend to want more meaning, depth, connection, feeling seen and heard in relationships
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
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e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Bonus Episode 51
TITLE
Our Highly Sensitive Strengths and How I Am Working with Anxious Thoughts
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We need to talk more about the incredible strengths we have as Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs). I highlight some of these in this episode, and I talk about some anxiety I’m experiencing as I’m preparing to go away to a 7 day silent retreat at a Monastery, and what I’m hoping to get from this retreat.
HIGHLIGHTS
- I talk a little bit about the retreat I’m going to
- What I’m hoping to get from the retreat, and what I struggle with
- Listing our HS strengths, and there are many!
- Why vulnerability and authenticity is important to me
- My concern about oversharing, and wanting the listener to feel validated, but wanting to also talk about the strengths we have as HSPs
- Some challenges I’m having; how I would have handled it in the past, and what’s different now
- I talk about what my gremlins are saying now—thank you for sharing
- The importance of naming things
- How when I’ve named things, I often struggle after releasing an episode
- How to pre-dispose for upcoming bumps
- Looking at the possibilities
- Playing around with our anxious thoughts and using that as a guide to see possibilities
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Bonus Episode 50
TITLE
Perfectionism, Imposter Syndrome, Expectations and Disappointments
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
As Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), it’s not uncommon for us to judge when we are having big feels, or the feels last longer than we want them to. The feelings aren’t what causes us to suffer; it’s our reactions and judgment about our feelings. How do we learn to create space for big feels, disappointments, and how do we learn to really honor and appreciate the AMAZING gifts we have as HSPs?
HIGHLIGHTS
- We are sold by society that things are “broken” and therefore there are “cure” and “fixes”
- When we have feelings that we don’t like, or they last longer than we want, we believe something is wrong with us
- We aren’t broken and we don’t need to be fixed
- As Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), we ARE going to have big feels, and sometimes the feelings DO last longer than we want them to
- HSPs tend to function at very high levels in certain areas—we notice details, and remember things; we’re thorough and very conscientious
- We tend to think that everyone else is like we are, and we get frustrated and disappointed when other’s don’t show up at the level that we do
- Many HSPs in my practice tell me that they struggle with perfectionism. HSPs tend to be thorough and want to get things “right”
- We get to practice Done is better than perfect
- In the HSP Online Group, Jen Fusco Perry and I are co-facilitating, we each talked about some of our struggles after our check in—a group member shared how validating it was and how much they appreciated our willingness to be vulnerable and authentic
- When everyone pretends that they are living a life that is fine without struggle, it hurts everyone
- Sometimes we feel anxious or depressed—this is part of being a human being and having a human experience
- Whatever we are feeling is ok
- Wounding from the past can interfere with present day relationship
- How to ground in the present when wounding is coming up
- It takes tremendous strength and courage to allow ourselves to feel deeply
- It’s the skill of Emotional Intelligence to feel our feelings and identify what we are feeling—this IS healthy
- Being vulnerable takes tremendous courage—it’s a strength
- HSPs can be incredibly tenacious and focused—it’s how we perceive our traits and how we talk about them
- I thought I was doing therapy wrong, and it turns out my perceived weakness is my superpower as a coach when I work with HSPs
- What are your perceived weaknesses?
- What are the corresponding superpowers?
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; while you travel; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.
LINKS
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
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e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Episode 32
TITLE
Best of the Podcast: You’re Not Fragile; You’re Very Strong
GUEST
Annie Schuessler, LMFT
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Annie Schuessler, podcast host of Rebel Therapist, talks about overwhelm, and how she has created an environment that works for her, and what she needs when she travels. Annie talks about how she helps others create fulfilling businesses. We talk about podcasting (and as an introvert), what this has allowed her to do. Annie talks about being called a crybaby, and what she would say now to her younger self.
QUOTES
- You’re not fragile; you’re very strong
- Annie’s response to being an HSP, “I love me, and it’s absolutely a part of me.”
- I am strong and I want to be in difficult conversations
- Another name for HSP—“Highly Percepive” or “Tuned In”
BIO
Annie Schuessler is a business coach and the creator of The Superpower Method For Therapists® Program and the podcast Rebel Therapist. She’s been a therapist in private practice for over 15 years, and since 2010 she’s been helping private practice entrepreneurs build profitable and fulfilling businesses by leveraging their unique superpowers. You can find her resources for entrepreneurs trained as therapists at coachingwithannie.com.
HIGHLIGHTS
- The card game Annie mentions is called Settlers of Catan (or simply Catan)
- Associations made with the term HSP—difficult, sensitive, fragile
- Helping clients identify ideal working hours, what drains their energy, how to make more room for themselves
- We talk about perceived weaknesses and the corresponding strengths of being an HSP
- Annie talks about the myths that clients have when trying to decide what their ideal business looks like
- The challenges Annie experiences when anticipating new situations
- Having full creative control of podcasting and the unexpected gifts it has brought her.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them embrace their HSP gifts, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia has developed a method for coaching HSPs that has been very effective. If you want to dig in, and move through the challenges you’re facing as an HSP, Patricia has the gift of being able to hone in on the barriers, so you can get straight to work and focus on living the life you were meant to. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.
LINKS
Annie’s website: https://www.annieschuessler.com/
https://rebeltherapist.me/podcast-grid
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Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
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Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
TITLE
How to Work with Our Feelings When They’re Bigger and Stronger Than We Want Them to Be
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
It’s not uncommon for Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) to have strong emotional reactions to things. We may not be able to control our initial reaction(s), but we can learn ways to master how we choose to respond. When we think our feelings are bigger than we are, we are going to feel overwhelmed. I talk about a recent experience where I had a bigger emotional and physical reaction to a situation, and I share the tools that I used to move through this experience.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) are deep thinkers and deep feelers. This means we are likely to respond more to things than others do.
- There is nothing wrong with having a strong emotional reaction to something
- We can learn tools to master how we choose to respond (which is different than the reaction that we have)
- When we find ourselves having a strong emotional reaction, it’s really important to name what’s going on
- This doesn’t mean we have to DO anything. The practice of observing what’s happening; identifying it, and stating what’s going on (naming it), is the first step
- To me, the word reaction is what happens automatically. I don’t have control over my initial reaction. It’s what happens internally. I don’t have to DO anything about my initial reaction
- What I do after I have a reaction is what I call my response. I have time to feel my feels, think about my reaction, and then I choose how I want to respond
- I share about having to go clothes shopping to buy some pants for a 7 day silent retreat I will be attending, and how this triggered an emotional reaction
- While shopping, I got triggered with body-image issues; my issues around spending money came up, and all of a sudden, sweets looked really appealing to me (because I was having feelings)
- In spite of mastering my emotional reactions/responses in other areas of my life, this was an area that I hadn’t had an opportunity to apply new skills to
- I found myself feeling tired, overwhelmed, discourages (in spite of having found what I needed—the shopping trip was a success, but my feelings told me otherwise
- Often we have expectations that we’re not even aware of. Then when something unexpected happens, we find ourselves upset, frustrated, disappointed, and we don’t understand why we’re feeling this way.
- When this happens, it’s not uncommon for us to go into self-blame—there’s something wrong with me; I shouldn’t be feeling this way.
- We also tend to negate our experience because we’re having strong feelings
- Often when we’re having uncomfortable feelings, the mind wants to make up stories to match our intense feelings, and this often begins what I call circling the drain. This is NOT a helpful place that we go
- We often judge our feelings, and THAT’S what makes us feel badly!
- When we can just allow our feelings to be, and curiously observe them, they are not as strong and powerful.
- When we judge our feelings, we feel worse, and we tend to stay in those uncomfortable feelings longer, and we continue to make up stories in our head to justify the uncomfortable feelings
- We can look with curiosity—what happened? What came up for you? What were your expectations?
- When we don’t name our feelings, the feelings can feel bigger than we are—that can be scary and overwhelming
- We are bigger than our feelings
- Feelings are just feelings—they come and go
- When we focus on the process—the actual steps we took (I went shopping; I tried on clothes; I looked for things; I experienced some body-image; I had money issues come up; I felt uncomfortable) and we emphasize what we DID and not the outcome, this creates a shift
- We may still be having feelings; that’s ok. The goal is NOT to get rid of the feelings. It’s to observe them; feel them; name them and honor them
- We CAN tolerate uncomfortable feelings
- We can also predispose that when we engage in certain activities, we may feel disappointed, frustrated, low energy etc. This helps to “prepare” us for feelings that may come up
- I’ve found it really helpful to “set the bar really low” so that no matter what happens, we experience success
- Many HSPs tend to have really high expectations, so we often feel frustrated and angry with ourselves due to perceived failure, when in fact, we just have really unrealistic expectations
- When you find yourself reacting, you can get really curious and think about how is it you think you’re “supposed” to be feeling, or how you want to be feeling
- It’s important to allow yourself a LOT of grace for where you’re at
- It’s temporary; you will feel differently later on. It’s just a blip on the radar
- When we fight the feelings/reactions/responses we’re having, it causes US more suffering
- It can be messy, uncomfortable and it takes a lot of practice to learn to be with our feelings, but there are so many gifts on the other side of the discomfort
- The more we practice, the more we get mastery over being with our feelings and moving through them
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.
LINKS
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Bonus Episode 49
TITLE
What Happens When We Get Triggered by Multiple Things
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Sometimes it’s hard enough to manage getting overwhelmed or triggered, but when there are multiple things are that causing us stress or triggering us, it really can be much harder to manage. I talk about some recent triggers that happened at the same time, and how I managed (very imperfectly, and the negative, fearful, and judgmental thoughts that came up). The use of self-compassion is SO important especially when we are having human experiences.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) are deep thinkers and deep feelers. This means we are likely to respond more to things than others do.
- There is nothing wrong with having a strong emotional reaction to something
- We can learn tools to master how we choose to respond (which is different than the reaction that we have)
- When we find ourselves having a strong emotional reaction, it’s really important to name what’s going on
- This doesn’t mean we have to DO anything. The practice of observing what’s happening; identifying it, and stating what’s going on (naming it), is the first step
- To me, the word reaction is what happens automatically. I don’t have control over my initial reaction. It’s what happens internally. I don’t have to DO anything about my initial reaction
- What I do after I have a reaction is what I call my response. I have time to feel my feels, think about my reaction, and then I choose how I want to respond
- Often we have expectations that we’re not even aware of. Then when something unexpected happens, we find ourselves upset, frustrated, disappointed, and we don’t understand why we’re feeling this way.
- When this happens, it’s not uncommon for us to go into self-blame—there’s something wrong with me; I shouldn’t be feeling this way.
- We also tend to negate our experience because we’re having strong feelings
- Often when we’re having uncomfortable feelings, the mind wants to make up stories to match our intense feelings, and this often begins what I call circling the drain. This is NOT a helpful place that we go
- We often judge our feelings, and THAT’S what makes us feel badly!
- When we can just allow our feelings to be, and curiously observe them, they are not as strong and powerful.
- When we judge our feelings, we feel worse, and we tend to stay in those uncomfortable feelings longer, and we continue to make up stories in our head to justify the uncomfortable feelings
- We can look with curiosity—what happened? What came up for you? What were your expectations?
- When we don’t name our feelings, the feelings can feel bigger than we are—that can be scary and overwhelming
- We are bigger than our feelings
- Feelings are just feelings—they come and go
- We may still be having feelings; that’s ok. The goal is NOT to get rid of the feelings. It’s to observe them; feel them; name them and honor them
- We CAN tolerate uncomfortable feelings
- We can also predispose that when we engage in certain activities, we may feel disappointed, frustrated, low energy etc. This helps to “prepare” us for feelings that may come up
- I’ve found it really helpful to “set the bar really low” so that no matter what happens, we experience success
- Many HSPs tend to have really high expectations, so we often feel frustrated and angry with ourselves due to perceived failure, when in fact, we just have really unrealistic expectations
- When you find yourself reacting, you can get really curious and think about how is it you think you’re “supposed” to be feeling, or how you want to be feeling
- It’s important to allow yourself a LOT of grace for where you’re at
- It’s temporary; you will feel differently later on. It’s just a blip on the radar
- When we fight the feelings/reactions/responses we’re having, it causes US more suffering
- It can be messy, uncomfortable and it takes a lot of practice to learn to be with our feelings, but there are so many gifts on the other side of the discomfort
- The more we practice, the more we get mastery over being with our feelings and moving through them
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.
LINKS
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e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Some Ways Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) Tend to Cope; Soothing vs. Nurturing
with Heather Dominic, Founder of A Course In Business Miracles
GUEST
Heather Dominic
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Founder of A Course In Business Miracles, Heather explains coping mechanisms and coping cycles as well as what she refers to as the two shadows, and the work that she does with Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs. We talk about how coping mechanisms tend to be unconscious. When we bring deliberation and intention into the equation, we can embrace our natural rhythms. Heather talks about the difference between soothing versus nurturing, and Tara Brach’s RAINS Process.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Heather shares her story of when she discovered she was a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
- We discuss the importance of learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
- Heather tells us about her Course In Business Miracles and how it connects to her Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur movement
- Your ideal client is a version of you
- What Heather discovered when she gave her clients Elaine Aron's HSP self-test
- Heather discusses the challenges and strengths she notices when working with Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs (HSEs) through her training process
- Heather explains the HSE coping mechanisms and the HSE coping cycle
- We compare the differences between understanding and respecting our natural HSP rhythms and the coping mechanisms of HSEs
- Coping mechanisms tend to be unconscious; Bringing deliberation and consciousness into the equation is what allows us to embrace our natural rhythms
- Heather talks about the difference between soothing versus nurturing - Soothing is more reactive where nurturing is proactive
- Heather discusses Tara Brach’s RAINS Process - Recognize, Allow, Inquire, Nurture, Surrender
- Heather shares her insights regarding extroverts and introverts in the HSEs that she works with
- We talk about Susan Cain’s depictions of introversion, and how it overlays the traits of the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), but does not name the trait
- Many people identify with what has been written about introversion but are unaware that those traits of introversion include the traits of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
- We discuss how we bring more to our clients as we level up in our HSP journey
- The importance of community, especially considering HSPs make up only 20% of the population
- Heather talks about the two HSE shadows - The shadow of perfectionism and the shadow of analysis paralysis
- Heather shares some of the challenges that she faces as an HSP
- We share some lighthearted stories about the growth in our marital relationships with non-HSPs.
BIO
Can you be highly successful in business and highly spiritual at the same time? Let’s take this question a step further. Is there a direct relationship between your spirituality and great success?
Heather Dominick is a woman who is impressively successful, and highly spiritual. A former high school drama teacher who collaborated with none other than Bette Midler. A graduate of NYU where she received her first coach training. Heather is the winner of the 2015 Best of Manhattan Coaching Award and creator of the 2014 Stevie Award-winning virtual event A Course In Business Miracles®: 21-Day Discovery Series that attracted close to 6,000 official registrants from all around the world including: Iceland, Nigeria, Russia, Asia, South America, Australia, Europe and the U.S.
She has appeared on Lifetime Television and has been published in numerous books including Stepping Stones to Success alongside Deepak Chopra
An exceptional facilitator and teacher Heather is known for creating a safe, sacred community for true transformation whether she is teaching a Business Miracles® Class, delivering training online or in-person or mentoring members of her Business Miracles Community in her various Mentoring Programs. She has helped thousands of HSE®s release life-long limiting beliefs, overcome fears and learn how to build their business in a way that actually feels so good that they can’t help but create solid, sustainable, high-level financial success.
Heather is also the founder and leader of the Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur® movement.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.
LINKS
Website - www.businessmiracles.com
Facebook - www.facebook.com/businessmiracles
Instagram - www.instagram.com/bizmiracles
Pinterest - www.pinterest.com/BizMiracles
Tara Brach Guided Meditation - The RAIN of Self-Compassion: www.youtube.com/watch?v=wm1t5FyK5Ek
Jacquelyn Strickland’s article Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person:
www.hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person
Janet Masey Zentangle in San Diego:
Zentangle
www.zentangle.com/pages/about-the-zentangle-method
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EPISODE OVERVIEW
Rhonda discusses the importance of having practitioners that are knowledgeable about the trait of being Highly Sensitive, and she shares an experience she had with an insensitive doctor and how she handled it.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Rhonda shares about realizing she was a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) after reading Elaine Aron’s The Highly Sensitive Person
- We talk about the analogy of HSPs and orchids--and the limitations of this analogy
- We share our experience with online facebook groups and how we came to meet each other through a facebook group I started for podcasters
- Sometimes, as HSPs, we don’t realize the positive impact that we are having on the lives of others simply by showing up
- I share some of the ways that podcasting has been transformational that I did not expect
- Rhonda describes the various triggers that she has recognized as an HSP; how she navigates with this knowledge, and the emotional impact it sometimes has
- We discuss epigenetics and how emotional triggers can have generational echos
- Rhonda recalls early childhood memories of feeling ashamed or outcasted due to her highly sensitive traits
- We share our experiences as HSPs, with prescription medications and how HSPs tend to be more sensitive to medication than non-HSPs
- Rhonda talks about the dichotomy of growing up shy and self-conscious while being a courageous and bold person, starting her own business
- Rhonda explains her ability to somatically feel what is happening with her clients
- Rhonda recounts an interaction she had with an insensitive doctor, how she responded, and the result of their exchange
BIO
Rhonda Hess is an international business coach and founder of Prosperous Coach since 2006. Her clients say she has a superpower for helping coaches choose a smart niche and launch their business with confidence.
In 2001, she designed the certification program for Coach Training Alliance. After training 500 coaches herself she turned her focus to helping coaches with the marketing side because it doesn't matter how great a coach you are if no one knows about you.
After 8 years of award-winning blogging, last year Rhonda started Prosperous Coach Podcast to help more coaches earn more and market less. It's so fun!
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.
LINKS
Website - www.ProsperousCoachBlog.com
Podcast - www.ProsperousCoachBlog.com/topics/Podcast/
Facebook - www.Facebook.com/ProsperousCoach
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EPISODE OVERVIEW
Maureen talks about the emotional brain and allowing our feelings to just be feelings. We discuss discipline for Highly Sensitive Children (HSCs), and the importance of creating connections with our kids. Maureen shares tips and tools for bringing calmness and grounding to emotionally reactive situations.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Maureen shares her thoughts about the term Highly Sensitive Person
- Maureen discusses the work she does with children in her private practice and how the term HSP can sometimes be used as an excuse (in her estimation)
- She explains her belief that everyone falls somewhere on the spectrum of sensitivity and the benefits as well as downsides to labeling
- I share the freedom that I experienced when I was able to give my emotions a name and know that it’s a researched trait, and it’s how I’m wired; there’s nothing wrong with me.
- Maureen discusses what is an emotionally healthy child
- We talk about The Emotional Brain
- Wholeness is more important than happiness
- We discuss how parents have the opportunity to model how we manage big feelings and how we calm ourselves in order to demonstrate this for our children
- Maureen gives the 3 steps to raising an emotionally healthy child
- The importance of authenticity in your relationship with a Highly Sensitive Child (HSC)
- Maureen answers questions from members of the Unapologetically Sensitive Facebook group (Amber Landsford and Kevin Thibault)
- Maureen talks about the importance of slowing down, getting emotions out, and bringing logic and calming to challenging situations
- The importance of giving your child a safe space to feel their feelings and for them to know that all feelings are acceptable
- Letting kids know that they are bigger than their feelings
- The importance of forgiveness and knowing how to forgive
- Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) have some gifts that non-sensitives do not have, and when we are able to gain mastery over our capacity to react emotionally, we can be powerhouses
- Surround yourself with people who really have the capacity to embrace who you are
- The more we expand on our capacity to feel uncomfortable things, the more that space opens up for more good things like joy and happiness and bliss
BIO
Maureen Healy is the author of The Emotionally Healthy Child and also Growing Happy Kids, which won Nautilus and Readers’ Favorite book awards in 2014. A popular Psychology Today blogger and sought-after public speaker, Maureen runs a global mentoring program for elementary-aged children and works with parents and their children in her busy private practice. Her expertise in social and emotional learning has taken her all over the world, including working with Tibetan refugee children at the base of the Himalayas in Northern India to classrooms in Northern California. Visit her online at http://www.growinghappykids.com.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.
LINKS
Website - www.GrowingHappyKids.com
Facebook - www.twitter.com/MDHealy
Instagram - www.instagram.com/MaureenDHealy
Youtube - www.youtube.com/user/GrowingHappy
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EPISODE OVERVIEW
I share 2 recent experiences where I had an opportunity to learn how to navigate situations that previously were very difficult, but this time, were easier. I talk about going to Earth Day with my husband and how I used mindfulness to see what works and what is challenging. I also talk about a situation where I previously would get overwhelmed with information, and how I handled it differently. Due to previous experiences of being overwhelmed and overstimulated, we often don’t know how to use tools to figure out how to “re-enter” these challenging situations.
HIGHLIGHTS
- My husband and I went to the Earth Day fair together
- How to navigate activities that are important to one partner, but not the other
- Using mindfulness to really notice what parts of a situation work and don’t work
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- If I’m in a crowd, it helps if I hold my husband’s hand, or loop my finger through his belt loop. He can navigate the crowds, and I just follow and I’m free to look around
- Often Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) don’t do well in crowds, and it can be difficult to have to “push through” other people.
- If you go to an event with someone who has different needs, sometimes compromising so both people get their needs met (in this case, my husband chose to not spend as much time looking at the individual booths, and he was ok with this)
- See if you can agree on a specific amount of time to attend the activity. You can take separate vehicles, or you can touch base after a certain amount of time to reevaluate
- If you get overwhelmed, overstimulated or tired, sometimes having a comfortable place to sit and watch people (shady, not too noisy) can be a way to recharge.
- When we don’t know we are highly sensitive, we go into these situations and feel overwhelmed without knowing exactly why
- Many HSPs have been so overwhelmed and overstimulated in the past, but didn’t know why or didn’t know they were HSPs, then we don’t want to engage again. We can use mindfulness to figure out what things work, and what things need to be adapted. We are often capable of doing more than we think we can (without violating our boundaries or doing too much)
- When we can talk about our needs and our partner/friend/parent/child’s needs, we can work together
- We can also set boundaries around how much information we want to receive, and we can be clear on how we will handle it if our boundaries aren’t honored.
- We often are more capable than we think we are, which can be incredibly empowering.
- Being an HSP is really a strength, and when we’re willing to use mindfulness and curiosity and to make necessary adjustments, we may be able to do more than we thought we could
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.
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EPISODE OVERVIEW
In order to make this podcast sustainable, I will be making changes moving forward. I talk about why it’s been difficult for me to slow down, and how some of my sense of value and worth has been tied up in a rigorous production schedule. I have some fear about losing listeners, and I want to be able to provide great content over the long run. Self-care and setting boundaries are crucial for the well-being of the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and I talk about how I plan to improve on both of these.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Sustainability - I want to do this for the long run
- Pushing myself and overriding my need for
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- Rest
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- I haven’t been sleeping through the night for months
- Balance
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- I haven’t taken a weekend off since launching the podcast
- I’m taking a 4-day vacation with Steve and will probably record an episode or two while we’re on vacation
- Self-care--why it’s important
- Boundaries--why it’s difficult
- The big picture - uncharted territory
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- The podcast was launched 6 months ago
- Making major shifts in my business
- Shifting from therapy to coaching
- Launching groups
- Splitting my website and creating a new coaching website
- Listening to listeners and clients
- Learning, growing, failing, pivoting--this is what success looks like
- I share my fear of losing listeners
- We’ve really picked up momentum with the podcast
- This is a passion project
- Trying to be mindful of Brene Brown’s phrase Hustling For My Sense Of Worth when I catch myself allowing my sense of value to be determined by the podcast numbers.
- Thinking long-term with the podcast
- I will be taking a month off from mid-June to mid-July
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- I will be attending a Silent retreat
- The most popular episodes will play during my month off to give new listeners a chance to hear some great early episodes
- I will be taking a month off in December
- Shifting the format to only releasing episodes on Tuesdays
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- Alternating bonus episodes with interviews
- Recommended podcasts:
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- Woman Worriers with Elizabeth Cush
- Hypnotize Me Podcast with Dr. Elizabeth Bonet
- Emotions in Harmony Podcast with Dr. Carmen Roman (bilingual)
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.
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TITLE
Happiness & Rewiring Your Brain Through Mindfulness & Self-Care
GUEST
Anne-Kathrin Walter
EPISODE OVERVIEW
I talk to Anne-Kathrin Walter, founder of HiSensitives. We talk about what sensitivity looks like in Europe and The Netherlands compared to the United States. Anne talks about happiness and Positive Psychology and we separate this from the act of escaping our negative feelings. We talk about how our brains want to keep us in a comfortable place and how this can potentially lead to being stuck in patterns. We talk about how to use gratitude as a tool for building a positive environment as well as other exercises we can utilize in our daily lives.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Anne-Kathrin shares her experience with the perception of sensitivity in her home country, The Netherlands
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- More people are coming out of their HSP closet as a result of more attention being paid to the topic
- We can often make the mistake of confusing our wounds with traits of being an HSP
- Anne-Kathrin discusses how sensitivity comes with strengths:
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- Creativity
- Intuitiveness
- Empathy
- We talk about the importance of dealing with trauma in our lives
- Anne-Kathrin shares the benefits she has experienced through therapy, and her initial struggle with opening up to a stranger
- Anne-Kathrin talks about how discovering she is an HSP has offered perspective on so many aspects of her past
- Anne-Kathrin prefers the term ‘Highly Perceptive Person’
- Anne-Kathrin explains the symbol that she created for her business HiSensitives. This symbol was so meaningful to her, that she has a tattoo of the logo she created
- We carefully navigate a discussion surrounding the importance of Positive Thinking and how it can be used as a tool of preparation to face our traumas, not a replacement for addressing traumatic experiences
- Anne-Kathrin shares the personal story of her negative spiral that lead her into what she does today with Positive Psychology
- Anne-Kathrin explains how negative thoughts can become patterns/safe spaces for our brains that become challenging to break away from
- How we can use gratitude to examine what is going well in our lives to rewire our brains away from negative spirals
- Depending on our background, some people need Positive Thinking and some of us need to address and honor uncomfortable feelings
- Anne-Kathrin shares the story of a traumatic fire that changed her life
- Anne-Kathrin explains guided meditation and the process of grounding
- Anne-Kathrin talks about using shower meditation, standing in the shower and visualizing everything that is not of positive use to you, and being cleansed of those thoughts and having them washed down the drain
- We discuss box breathing
- Anne-Kathrin encourages 21 Days of Gratitude - Reach out to 1 person a day to express something you are grateful to them for
- We talk about how writing down your thoughts can be a helpful exercise for letting things go
- We discuss the importance of surrounding ourselves with positive, supportive people
- We talk about Examining your daily habits, and trying to eliminate daily detractors to your mental and physical health
- We talk about Evaluating your daily consumption: diet, entertainment, news, social, etc.
- Anne-Kathrin discusses the challenges she faces as an HSP
- Dr. Elaine Aron suggests that HSPs get 2 hours of quiet time per day
- Anne-Kathrin shares her superpowers that come with being an HSP
Resources
Dr. Kristin Neff:
Christopher Germer:
Shawn Achor:
Meditation Minis Podcast with Chel Hamilton
Brene Brown Super Soul Sunday on trust:
http://www.oprah.com/own-supersoulsessions/brene-brown-what-to-do-when-you-struggle-with-trust
BIO
Anne-Kathrin Walter is a young, highly sensitive entrepreneur from the Netherlands. In 2018, she founded the brand HiSensitives, which is a brand for highly sensitive people that aims to increase awareness and acceptance of the trait and to connect highly sensitive people worldwide. By diving into the world of positive thinking and changing her own thought patterns, Anne-Kathrin managed to transform her life and to dare to chase her
dreams. Through the right relationships, a change of direction when it comes to her career and daily self-care she managed to create a HSP-friendly life for herself.
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PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young is a coach & therapist in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
Anne-Kathrin Walter:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/i.am.anne.kathrn/
HiSensitives Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hisensitives/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hisensitives/
Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/Hisensitives/
Website: https://hisensitives.com/
E-Mail: Contact@hisensitives.com
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Editor -- David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - www.facebook.com/PitselehPictures
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Jen and I talk about perfectionism, boundaries, self-care, HS superpowers, communication, vulnerability, authenticity, demystifying emotions, creating a lifestyle that honors the HSP, and mindfulness. These are some of the things that we notice Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) struggling with. Our primary intention is to give you an idea of what to expect in our upcoming online groups. Whether you are considering taking a group or not, this episode is a great way to identify your HS strengths and maybe see if there are areas you want to focus on.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Jen explains why working with HSPs is a passion of hers
- We share our excitement about the groups and why we feel they are important
- I share the story of my first meeting with Jen
- Jen shares her initial impression upon our first meeting and the benefit that comes with creating a safe space to openly share our needs
- We discuss our goal of making the groups a safe space where productive communication can happen, and we create community
- Setting boundaries in relationships is not about changing the other person; it’s creating a space for yourself by communicating your needs
- We discuss the plan for our upcoming groups to give you an idea of what to expect:
- Group culture / Expectations
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- Creating community guidelines
- Creating and maintaining a safe environment
- Everyone is seen and heard
- Everyone is treated respectfully
- Everyone’s goals for the group
- Getting to know each other
- Basic education about the trait
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- Questions and discussion
- Building pride in HSP
- Applying the pride
- Recognizing this is a non-HSP world, and we get to assert our HSP traits/needs
- Identifying negative messages and turning them into superpowers
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- Things we struggle with
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- Too sensitive
- Too needy
- Need to get thicker skin
- Not social
- No fun, can’t take a joke, no sense of humor
- Too picky
- Overthink things
- Worry too much
- Too nice
- Over responsible for everything
- Feeling fatally flawed, not good enough
- Mistfit--I’m the only one; There’s no one like me
- Deep sense of not belonging and shame
- Outcomes
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- Embracing our traits
- Identify and verbalize what traits resonate for us
- Feeling confident in what our needs are
- Naming our strengths
- Seeing comments as being about the other person
- Identifying when we get triggered, and having tools to manage
- Proper care and feeding of the HSP
- Skillfulness around boundaries
- Finding ways to live peacefully with non-HPSs and honor everyone’s needs
- Self-care is non-negotiable!
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- Things we struggle with
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- People pleasing
- Putting others needs ahead of our own
- Feeling guilty when we take care of ourselves
- Feeling resentful when we meet other’s needs and not our own
- Feeling drained
- Feeling depleted
- Feeling unappreciated
- Feeling overwhelmed
- Feeling irritable, negative, easily annoyed, less patient, more critical of self and others, intolerant
- Outcomes
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- Becoming comfortable with self-centering
- It's ok to be the center of your universe
- You can’t pour from an empty cup
- Self-care is an imperative--which is ultimately a selfless act
- When we take care of ourselves, everyone benefits in the long run (not always immediately, but the overall benefit is for everyone)
- Listening to what we need and want
- Trusting what we need and want
- Wanting to take care of ourselves
- Knowing that when we take care of ourselves, we have more to offer others
- Feeling out of balance (or at least aware) when we are ignoring our own needs
- Having richer deeper relationships because we are fulfilled and coming from a place where we have more to offer
- Boundaries are an imperative part of self-care
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- Things we struggle with
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- Feeling uncomfortable with conflict
- Feeling guilty--picking up on other’s feelings that we might disappoint others (or they will get angry or frustrated)
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- The guilt is not necessary (we haven’t done anything wrong--we’re supposed to set boundaries--it’s healthy, and boundaries are a natural and necessary part of any healthy relationship)
- Guilt is the best word we have in the English language, but it’s not really an accurate description
- Feeling not seen, not heard or not honored
- Not expressing our wants and needs
- Feeling resentful
- Feeling powerless
- Feeling taken advantage of
- Feeling like everyone else gets their needs met or what they want
- Outcomes
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- Trusting our feelings
- Boundaries will directly reduce our overwhelm
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- Learning how to set boundaries without emotion
- Boundaries make you a happy human; When we have an emotional flare, it’s because a boundary has most likely been violated (or a need has not been met)
- Learning how to compassionately, but kindly state what is and is not acceptable
- Seeing boundaries as creating safety for ourselves and others
- Seeing the benefits of setting limits
- Owning our power and KNOWING that our wants and needs are perfectly acceptable and reasonable
- Developing flexibility--not about the rule, but about the relationship and the context
- Perfectionism
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- Things we struggle with
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- Feeling not good enough
- Comparing
- Feeling inadequate
- Not starting things, paralysis
- Not pursuing dreams
- Overworking/overdoing trying to get a sense of “enoughness”
- Constant unease
- Critical of self and others
- Perfectionism is a myth
- Imposter syndrome--if people really saw who I am, they would leave
- Brene Brown says Whenever you have perfectionism driving, shame is riding shotgun
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- Hustling for your sense of worth
- “Doing” for a sense of value instead of knowing we have value because we live and breathe
- Outcomes
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- Knowing done is better than perfect
- Busting shame
- Brene Brown--Our vulnerability is what actually connects us
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- Sense of belonging and connection comes from allowing ourselves to be seen imperfectly
- That’s where connection begins
- Living from our values--regardless of whether goals are met or not. It can be about the process and not the outcome
- More self-acceptance
- More ease in relationships because the standards are more realistic
- Learning how to set goals that are achievable
- More contentment
- More satisfaction
- Actually accomplishing more due to acceptance
- Communication, vulnerability, authenticity
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- Things we struggle with
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- Afraid to say what you’re thinking
- Not trusting what you’re thinking
- Fear of judgment, criticism, being ridiculed
- Feeling like your point of view is wrong or not popular
- Afraid to really show up in relationships and allow yourself to be fully seen
- Being afraid to upset someone
- Being afraid to stir up problems in the relationship
- Not trusting that ruptures are repairable, and this actually points at growth
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- We grow in relationships after a rupture
- Ruptures are a natural part of attachment--it doesn’t mean that there isn’t attachment
- Outcomes
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- Educate others about the trait
- Why we need the lights low,
- Less stimulation
- Quiet areas
- Model healthy communication, authenticity, vulnerabilty
- More depth, closeness and trust in relationships
- Marshall Rosenberg’s non-violent communication
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- All behavior is an attempt to get a need met
- Feelings and needs are never in conflict
- Strategies to get them met can be in conflict, and that requires creative problem-solving
- Life is figure out-able
- Creating a lifestyle that is HSP friendly and honors our HSP needs
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- Things we struggle with
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- Overwhelm
- Fatigue
- Resentment
- Feeling drained
- Overworking
- Living in a non-HSP world and trying to live like a non-HSP
- Outcomes
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- Proper Care and Feeding of HSPs
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- Getting enough rest, down time, quiet time
- Exercise
- Spirituality
- Just enough socializing
- Feeling a deeper sense of connection
- More meaning in your life
- Social justice work HSP style ~ having activist mentors
- Connecting with nature
- Learning how to do non-HSP events in manageable chunks
- Mindfulness
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- Things we struggle with
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- Overwhelmed and scattered
- Urge to numb out (TV, social media, Netflix)
- Outcomes
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- Basic meditation instruction
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- Formal and informal practices, moving meditation, guided meditation
- Learning how to curiously observe what comes up and to use it as information instead of reacting to things
- Self-acceptance
- More self-compassion and compassion for others
- Being more emotionally responsive vs emotionally reactive (Pause button)
- Meeting life on its terms instead of arm wrestling with it
- Demystifying emotions
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- Things we struggle with
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- My emotions overwhelm me
- I can’t control my emotions
- I’m emotionally reactive
- I’m embarrassed by my emotions
- Affect-phobia
- I don’t want to feel my emotions, they won’t go away
- My feelings will hurt me / others
- Outcomes
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- Basic education about emotion theory
- Emotions can’t hurt us
- Emotions are to be honored and felt
- Emotions are impermanent
- Emotions are not something we can control
- Creating safety to feel our emotions
- Emotions can inform our actions/behavior but do not need to drive our behavior
- Mindfulness
- Feelings come and go - just energy moving through us
- Deep sense of connection when we get comfortable having our feelings
BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping highly sensitive people thrive in love, work, and parenting highly sensitive children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. She can be reached at jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com or 215-292-5056. Learn more
at heartfulnessconsulting.com or facebook.com/Heartfulnessconsulting.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young is a coach & therapist in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs. For more information, go to https://patriciayounglcsw.com/hsp-online-groups/
LINKS
www.heartfulnessconsulting.com
Facebook:
www.facebook.com/HeartfulnessConsulting
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TITLE
My Husband and I Talk About How We Met and Some of the Challenges We Have in Our Marriage
GUEST
Steve Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
My husband, Steve Young, and I have a candid discussion about our origin story, detailing our lives before we met; first impressions upon meeting each other, and the challenges we experience as a couple, who have been married for more than 21 years. We talk about our differences being an HSP and non-HSP, and how we navigate those areas.
HIGHLIGHTS
- We discuss how we met, and our first perceptions of each other
- Living as an HSP with a non-HSP
- We share different examples of how we are wired differently, and how differences in our family upbringing may have contributed to our wiring
- The traits that we love about our partners can also be the traits that just drive us crazy sometimes
- We discuss the ways that we navigate those moments of frustration or tension
- We share specific examples, from both perspectives, of when the differences in our personalities create challenging situations
- Communication is key - Discussing and naming our feelings and fears
- Steve shares his thoughts about learning I was a Highly Sensitive Person--we look back on our relationship after learning this
- We talk about how being able to name the challenges we experience has helped with acceptance in our daily lives
- We discuss the importance of recognizing and honoring each other’s differences
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a coach & therapist in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
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TITLE
Overwhelm & Perfectionism - I’m in the Middle of the Struggle
GUEST
Solo episode Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
I’ve been struggling with overwhelm, perfectionism and feeling not good enough. I feel vulnerable sharing when I’m in the middle of the struggle, but the way to break shame is to name it. When we are growing and doing new things, our gremlins will come up. I talk about and name what my gremlins are saying, and I talk about the things I do when I’m struggling in spite of the desire to sit on the couch and numb out.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a coach & therapist in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
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TITLE
Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) & Understanding How to Build Trust and Strengthen Connections
GUEST
Anya Surnitsky, LCSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We use Brene Brown’s work on attachment to continue our discussion about security, safety, and steps to building strong relationships. We talk about the marble jar and how trust can be established. We discuss vulnerability and how our needs can be met through connection and intimacy, as well as how to set boundaries to create safety. We include the traits of being a Highly Sensitive Person, and looking through the lens of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).
HIGHLIGHTS
- Braving--the 7 components of trust from Brene Brown's work
- Giving ourselves permission to try and understand, that even though we experienced wounding before, that the new people in our lives won't necessarily be like the old people in our lives
- The Marble Jar method and, how it works in relationship building
- We discuss the importance of being shown by someone that you matter to them
- We talk about the importance of vulnerability
- HSPs often need to have time for transition before and after (work, getting up, arriving home, etc.)
- The importance for HSPs to be fully rested before having difficult conversations, so we are resilient and can be fully present
- We discuss how to check in with yourself; understanding where in your body, you are having reactions, and slowing down before you respond
- We talk about the relationship between Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), wounding, neglect, shame triggers and how to work through these things
- BREATHING --the 7 components of trust as outlined by Brene Brown is explained: Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Fault, Integrity, Non-judgement, and Generosity
Resources
Brene Brown Super Soul Sunday on trust:
http://www.oprah.com/own-supersoulsessions/brene-brown-what-to-do-when-you-struggle-with-trust
CES Therapy
http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/cranial-electrotherapy-stimulation
BIO
Anya Surnitsky is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in private practice outside Philadelphia, PA. She helps anxious high achievers and overgivers with big wounded hearts to transform their pain into power and avoidance into action.
Anya uses her training in EMDR, Ego State Therapy, and Childhood Emotional Neglect, as well as her certification in The Daring WayTM to aid clients in making peace with the past, embrace the present, and develop confidence for the future. Anya is passionate about educating clients on how trauma and/or neglect affects the developing brain to understand how unhealed wounds from the past show up in the present and can have a negative impact on their future. With these various approaches, Anya shows clients how to heal from both a top-down and a bottom-up approach; we can heal the brain so it can learn to help itself, and we can also learn skills to help ourselves on a conscious level.
Throughout her personal and professional journey, Anya has learned that what people want more than anything is to be seen and heard for who they are at their core. For Unapologetically Sensitive listeners, Anya has put together some scripts for hard conversations to help HSP’s ask to be heard and dare to be seen in their relationships. Go to www.couragecompasstherapy.com/hsp
.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a coach & therapist in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
Links:
Facebook:
www.facebook.com/couragecompasstherapy
Instagram:
https://instagram.com/couragecompasstherapy
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
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Bonus Episode 43
TITLE
I Want More: You Want Less. How We Navigate Competing Needs in Relationships
GUEST
Solo episode Patricia Young, LCSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) often have different needs for connection in relationships. I talk about a recent incident where this happened, and it triggered my wounding of feeling like I’m “too much.” I talk about how I communicated, and what self-care looked like in this situation, and how I didn’t use rules to try and protect myself. Neither person has to be wrong when this happens. It’s all about communication. When we experience Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) this can complicate things.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a coach & therapist in California. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
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MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
GUEST
Anya Surnitsky, LCSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We use Brene Brown’s work on attachment to talk about security, safety, how we get our needs met, and how to survive when our needs aren't being met. What we all want is to be seen, heard, and to feel valued. Oftentimes, we are triggered due to Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), and trauma, which creates conflict in our relationships. We talk about shame, and Brene Brown’s antidote, which is empathy. In order for shame to survive, it requires secrecy, silence, and judgment.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Anya discusses her personal experience as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
- We are wired for survival and connection
- What is attachment? Everyday examples of what attachment is, and how it is affected by the world around us
- We discuss fear, and how it can be used productively
- Safety and connection are basic needs
- A lot of times, in relationships, we don't feel safe during a disagreement or a conflict
- Shame develops when we are let-down or abandoned. We tend to question what we did wrong.
- Anya provides some great tools for recognizing when we get triggered, and how we can work through shame attacks in order to move from our Reptilian Brain ('T-Rex Brain') back to our frontal lobe where productive communication can take place
- We discuss Alice Miller's book The Drama of the Gifted Child⦁ As adults, we often begin to recognize the effects of traumatic events from our childhood
- We discuss trauma with a little 't'
- Often times, there is a direct correlation between our caregivers' parental strengths and our strengths as adults
- Anya shares examples for different kinds of triggers
- Anya explains 'Box Breathing' as an effective tool to use when we feel triggered
- A technique for breathing includes the concept of--'smell the roses; blow out the candles'
- We discuss positive ways to navigate situations when we are activated
- We discuss The Story We Make Up In Our Heads, and how it can be used to break up shame; feel safe in our vulnerability, and restore security in our relationships
Resources
Brene Brown Super Soul Sunday on trust: http://www.oprah.com/own-supersoulsessions/brene-brown-what-to-do-when-you-struggle-with-trust
BIO
Anya Surnitsky is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in private practice outside Philadelphia, PA. She helps anxious high achievers and overgivers with big wounded hearts to transform their pain into power and avoidance into action.
Anya uses her training in EMDR, Ego State Therapy, and Childhood Emotional Neglect, as well as her certification in The Daring WayTM to aid clients in making peace with the past, embrace the present, and develop confidence for the future. Anya is passionate about educating clients on how trauma and/or neglect affects the developing brain to understand how unhealed wounds from the past show up in the present and can have a negative impact on their future. With these various approaches, Anya shows clients how to heal from both a top-down and a bottom-up approach; we can heal the brain so it can learn to help itself, and we can also learn skills to help ourselves on a conscious level.
Throughout her personal and professional journey, Anya has learned that what people want more than anything is to be seen and heard for who they are at their core. For Unapologetically Sensitive listeners, Anya has put together some scripts for hard conversations to help HSP’s ask to be heard and dare to be seen in their relationships. Go to www.couragecompasstherapy.com/hsp.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
www.couragecompasstherapy.com
Facebook
www.facebook.com/couragecompasstherapy
Instagram
@couragecompasstherapy
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
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Bonus Episode 42
TITLE
Confusing Attachment, Things and Relationships—Or Why I Didn’t Want to Repaint My Son’s Room
GUEST
Solo episode Patricia Young, LCSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
When we have experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), and have attachment wounds, we have often tried to control things when it’s about the relationship. We want to hold on to things or get rid of things since they represent attachment and relationships. As Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), we have opportunities to focus on the strength of the attachment in the relationship. I talk about where this has shown up in my life and with my relationship with my son, and his relationship with his grandmother.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
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MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Episode 25
TITLE
Creativity & Feeling Like an Outsider
GUEST
Grace Chon
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Grace’s ability to connect with animals, has brought her success. Creativity is about the feelings that are evoked when we look at art, dance, etc. and how this relates to being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Being a child of immigrant parents motivated Grace, and she talks about how she straddled traditional Korean culture and American culture, but felt invisible at school. We talk about how being an HSP (and not knowing it), may have contributed to her sense of feeling like an outsider. Grace talks about the ways creativity shows up, but we may not identify what we’re doing as creativity.
HIGHLIGHTS
Creativity is your unique human expression, and everyone is creative!
Creativity is just a natural innate part of being human; we all have it. It’s just a matter of tapping into it and cultivating it.
Creativity is any sort of innovation, and that can come through daily activity
Creativity is an expression of feeling
Scarcity verse abundance mindset
How Grace’s parents came to the U.S. from South Korea with $50 and a suitcase, and made new lives for themselves and their children
How Grace straddled 2 cultures
How People can tap into their creativity
Creativity and parenting
BIO
GRACE CHON is a commercial and editorial animal photographer, acclaimed for her highly expressive portraits of animals and authentic photos of people and their pets. Her clients include ad agencies, pet brands, magazines, publishing companies, celebrities, and TV shows.
Now as a commercial and editorial photographer, Grace works with clients like Purina, Milkbone, Fancy Feast, Woman’s Day Magazine, Men’s Journal, and celebrities like Chris Pratt, Chelsea Handler, Clinton Kelly, Margaret Cho and Boo the Dog. Her work is featured in advertising, magazines, greeting cards, calendars, books, and television.
In 2014, her photo series “Zoey and Jasper,” featuring her son and rescue dog, went viral around the world, with mentions by The Huffington Post, Mashable, Good Morning America, Buzzfeed, The Today Show, and countless mentions by the international media.
In 2016, her photo series “HAIRY,” featuring dogs before and after their wildly cute haircuts, went viral again, with mentions by The Huffington Post, Buzzfeed, Refinery29, HelloGiggles, INSIDER, Yahoo, O the Oprah Magazine, Good Housekeeping, Vanity Fair Italia, and a number of international press from around the world.
In 2018, newly photographed images from the “HAIRY” series went viral yet again, with mentions around the globe.
Grace is also the author of 2 dog photography books - Waggish: Dogs Smiling for Dog Reasons and Puppy Styled: Japanese Dog Grooming Before and After.
From creating award winning, viral ad campaigns to personal photography work that has gone viral multiple times, Grace knows how to craft ideas that get noticed. She believes the key to life is tuning in deeply to what your natural gifts are and sharing them others. She is passionate about empowering and teaching others how to do the same on her new podcast.
She lives in Los Angeles with her husband, son, and 2 rescue dogs Maeby and Zoey.
View her photography work at www.gracechon.com.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
Website--https://gracechon.com
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
TIME The Science of Creativity
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MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Bonus Episode 41
TITLE
Honoring Our Feelings In Relationships
GUEST
Solo episode Patricia Young, LCSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) tend to minimize or dismiss their feelings when they feel hurt. I talk about honoring the feelings that come up for us. Many of us have grief from previous relationships that didn’t work out, but we aren’t taught how to process the loss. At the end, I give some specific ways you can start to do some healing work.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Episode 024
TITLE
We Didn’t Talk For 20 Years Due To A Mutual Therapist
GUEST
Laura Carr, LMFT
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Laura Carr, LMFT and I were best friends. We broke up and didn’t talk for 20 years due to a mutual therapist. We talk about friendship trauma and the grief associated with it. I gave Laura an ultimatum, and so did the therapist. We talk about how this impacted us, and the powerful repair work we have done since we reconnected. The importance of owning our mistakes, and how we rebuilt trust and established safety. The power of naming things, and HOW we practice open, vulnerable communication. I also talk at the end about the therapist that was a big part of this.
HIGHLIGHTS
We experience a tremendous amount of friendship trauma, but we don’t learn how to process it, so the grief and hurt gets buried, but makes it more challenging in subsequent relationships because we haven’t been taught how to process this type of trauma
We really need to own our mistakes when we make them. There is incredible power and healing when we apologize sincerely and work to make living amends. It builds trust and safety in a relationship.
Friendships have seasons, and sometimes friendships are good through certain times of our lives, but they are not meant to last forever.
When we focus on rules and not on the relationship, there is no flexibility or ability to work through conflict.
How do you develop trust? It takes time, and even though one can apologize, it’s laying a foundation of behaviors that back up the words to develop trust. It takes time, and it has to be earned.
The power in naming things and having depth in a relationship where we can tell the truth from a place of love, and how it brings more depth and security to the relationship
The gifts of allowing ourselves to be seen when we’re in relationship with another person who honors us and reflects back our strength. It allows us to be even more authentic.
BIO
Laura Carr is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in San Diego, CA. Laura has been in private practice since 1998. She co-created the orientation, Compassion Based Awareness Therapy which is an approach that integrates psychological theory and mindfulness. She opened Center for Mindful Relationships (CFMR) in 2012 which offers affordable counseling services to the public. This site also offers training to therapists who are gaining hours towards their MFT licensure. Laura has many roles: a mom, wife, friend, therapist, supervisor, meditator, animal lover, athlete, entrepreneur, and student of Zen. Laura is passionate about personal growth and development.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
Website--https://cfmrsandiego.com/
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
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MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Episode 23
TITLE
Narcissism and the Highly Sensitive Person
GUEST
Dr. Natalie Jones
EPISODE OVERVIEW
What is narcissism? What does it look like in relationships (romantic and parental). Gaslighting—what is it? The connection between narcissists and HSPs (partners and parents). The HSP is often the scapegoat in the family. There may be a golden child and the children are pitted against each other. If you have a parent who is narcisstic, the HS child often feels guilty and believes what the narcissistic parent tells them (you’re too sensitive; too selfish; you never call me; you don’t care). Once people understand narcissism, they see that the limitation is in the parent, NOT the HSP. The energy of the room changes when the narcissist enters the room, and leaves the room. You can FEEL the energy shift.
HIGHLIGHTS
What someone who is in a relationship with someone with narcissistic traits may be experiencing
- Anxiety, depression, ambivalence
- Not sure where they stand in the relationship
- Unable to discuss serious problems
- Don’t’ know the future of the relationship
- Self-doubt and questioning
- Partner isn’t meeting your emotional needs
What do narcisstic traits look like?
- It’s on a spectrum—mild, moderate, medium and severe
- They feel better than you
- They are in their own special category—they feel “special” and “above” you
- Hypocracy—do as I say, but not as I do—these rules apply to you, but not to me
- They objectify people—everything is seen as property and an extension of the narcissist
- You can make decisions without their approval
- There is danger when you want to leave the relationship
- They have a God-like or superior complex
- The believe they are special/beautiful and surround themselves with others they perceive to have the same superior qualities
Narcisstic Personality Disorder is one of the cluster B Personality Disorders, among Antisocial Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder & Histrionic Personality Disorder
Fully Diagnosed Narcisstic Personality Disorder affects approximately 1-2% of the population. These are rare and extreme cases, and they tend to be part of the criminal justice system.
What are red flags in the beginning of a relationship so you can spot someone with narcisstic traits?
- They have inconsistent, tumultuous, and short-term relationships with family, friends and partners. They are either the hero or the victim
- They appear too good to be true. They can be super charming, good looking and win people over easily in the beginning
- The move quickly in relationships. They have whirlwind romances; have sex early on in a relationship; rush to get married; rush to have children
- There is a degree of secrecy re: prior relationships. You feel like you don’t really know them, and they won’t discuss their problems
- They introduce you to family and close friends very quickly, but you seem to be insignificant to family and friends since they are always introducing a new partner
What types of people do narcissists tend to look for in partners?
- People they can control, pressure or subject a position of power over or they can easily isolate
- They like empathic people like Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) because they can play their heartstrings and the HSP is more likely to forgive them
- They won’t seek out other narcissists or powerful people (too much conflict)
- People who have a history or trauma, so they can retraumatize you and they know how to find your wounds and use them against you
- They tend to align themselves with people (not partners) of greater status
- They name drop—people they don’t know, but it’s to feel powerful
What is gaslighting?
- It’s psychological brainwashing
- Manipulating someone psychologically so that person questions their reality
- The person doesn’t trust their own perceptions or themselves
- It’s like living in the Twilight Zone
- Jim Jones is an example
- They will compliment and degrade you in the same sentence
- They will change the topic in order to deflect or to blame
- They will triangulate with a 3rd party to invalidate you and make you doubt yourself
- They project their insecurities onto you
- They have tantrums and showdowns—especially on holidays or special occasions and you feel bad and doubt yourself.
What does it look like if you have a narcisstic parent?
- The parent is not invested in your or the problems that come up for you
- They will make it about them—i.e., Had it not been for me, then you (minimize your experience)
- They often will just say, “Because I’m your mother/father.”
- They will tell you, “That’s not a real problem.”
- People who have a narcisstic parent may dissociate, turn the radio up, or find ways to “check out.” They may keep contact with the narcisstic parent short and sweet
- Narcisstic parents will call their children names, take advantage of them, expect them to care for the other siblings
You can feel the energy in the room change when a narcissist enters and when they leave the room. It’s like they pull energy from the room, and everyone feels it.
RESOURCES
Podcasts
A Date With Darkness—Dr. Natalie Jones https://drnataliejones.com/podcast/
Codependency No More—Brian Piser https://www.codependencynomore.com/category/podcast/
Love Junkie: Help for the Relationship Obsessed, Love Addicted, & Codependent—Shena Tubbs
https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/love-junkie-help-for-the-relationship-uNjKz54H8fe/
Books
Toxic Parents by Susan Forward
Mothers Who Can’t Love by Susan Forward
Unspoken Legacy: Addressing the Impact of Trauma and Addiction within the Family by Claudia Black
Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men By Lundy Bancroft
The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide To Changing The Patterns Of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner
The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships by Harriet Lerner
The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self by Harriet Lerner
Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change
Confessions of a Narcissist by HG Tudor (there are MANY books by this author)
Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
by Dr. Karyl McBride Ph.D.
Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration
Surviving Mama An Adult Daughter’s Guide by Dr. Pamela Everett Thompson
Youtuber Kim Saeed-- https://www.youtube.com/user/LetMeReach
BIO
Dr. Natalie Jones, PsyD., LPCC is a Licensed professional clinical counselor and a post doctoral intern. She currently has a private practice called Lifetime Counseling and Consulting in CA where she specializes in working with women who have been in emotionally and psychologically abusive relationships with narcissists, as well as with individuals who were previously incarcerated for various crimes. Dr. Jones has a podcast called A Date With Darkness Podcast, which specializes in providing
education and tips from healing from narcissistic relationships. Dr. Jones received her masters in clinical counseling psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology in Chicago, IL, and her doctorate in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology in San Francisco, CA. Dr. Jones has also written blogs for the Mind Journal and PsychCentral.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts they have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
https://www.drnataliejones.com https://www.adatewithdarkness.com. IG:
https://www.instagram.com/dr.nataliejones/
IG2: https://www.instagram.com/adatewithdarknesspodcast/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/drnataliejones/
FB2: https://www.facebook.com/adatewithdarkness/
FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/196036654267594/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/Dr_NatalieJones
Twitter 2: https://twitter.com/ADateWDarkness
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Bonus Episode 40
TITLE
What Being A “Stand Up Guy” Means—A Beautiful Story Of Integrity
GUEST
Joshua Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
My Son Joshua was in the middle of taking a chemistry mid-term at college (he’s on academic probation), and the instructor took his exam away during the test and excused him from class. Josh shares how his thinking spiraled to his future (not in a good way). He decided to handle this situation with integrity, and the outcome is a beautiful reflection of the very mature way that Josh handled this challenging situation.
BIO
Josh Young is a freshman at Cal State University Fullerton where he is a business major. Josh has a wicked sense of humor, and he loves to push the rules until they just about break. Josh just started playing Club Baseball for CSUF. He also loves doing distance cycling, and he did his first triathalon a few years ago. He also participates in marathon napping, and spending time with his best friend and his girlfriend
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Episode 022
TITLE
Laura Carr, LMFT Interviews Patricia Young About Being A Highly Sensitive Person
GUEST
Laura Carr, LMFT
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Laura Carr, LMFT interviews me. I talk about the benefits of knowing you’re a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). We talk about when I got the idea for the podcast, and my mission for it. I answer the questions I ask my guests about being a Highly Sensitive Person. Laura shares her initial impression when she first heard the term Highly Sensitive Person. How my view of myself has changed since starting the podcast, and what I’ve learned in the past 5 months since launching the podcast. We talk about a new definition of play that may be more suitable for HSPs. I talk about what I would have told my younger self. I talk about being loud and proud, well quiet and proud.
HIGHLIGHTS
When did I get the idea for the podcast?
What’s the benefit of knowing you’re an HSP?
Why did I start this podcast?
What’s my mission for the podcast.
How my view of myself has changed since starting the podcast
Do I feel articulate?
The power of being able to see ourselves authentically.
What I would want my younger self to know
BIO
Laura Carr is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in San Diego, CA. Laura has been in private practice since 1998. She co-created the orientation, Compassion Based Awareness Therapy which is an approach that integrates psychological theory and mindfulness. She opened Center for Mindful Relationships (CFMR) in 2012 which offers affordable counseling services to the public. This site also offers training to therapists who are gaining hours towards their MFT licensure. Laura has many roles: a mom, wife, friend, therapist, supervisor, meditator, animal lover, athlete, entrepreneur, and student of Zen. Laura is passionate about personal growth and development.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
Website--https://cfmrsandiego.com/
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
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MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Bonus Episode 39
TITLE
Is it Depression, Or Are We Retreating to Recharge & Replenish?
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) often withdraw, and label this withdrawal as depression or going into the cave. The world is very loud, busy and stimulating, and HSPs need to have time to retreat into a calm quiet place. Maybe it’s a cave with twinkle lights, good snacks and snuggly blankets. HSPs sometimes feel they are being flaky or undependendable, when it’s really just a natural rhythm and a need to restore. When we retreat, do we communicate with others to let them know we need time to pull back? We need to honor our needs in order to maximize the gifts we have to share with the world.
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia also works with people who tend to be perfectionistic, and don’t feel good enough. They often identify as being depressed and/or having anxiety. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
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MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Episode 21
TITLE
Intuition and Knowing Your Worth
GUEST
Kelly Covert
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We address the following questions in this episode--What is intuition? Is one’s Inner Voice ever mean or critical? How do you encourage people to get in touch with their intuition? How do we encourage or shut down intuition and communication in kids? We talk about creating meaningful relationships with your children instead of letting rules dictate the relationship. Kelly shares about creating a family mission statement.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Intuition is that inner voice/wisdom
- We all have intuition
- It’s a Divine part of who you are
- We just need to take time to listen to it
- Intuition is never mean or critical—that’s our ego, which comes from our head
- How do you encourage people to explore their intuition:
- Listen to your inner voice
- Find practices that get us still enough to hear it
- Journaling (or verbally processing) to get our of your head
- How do you encourage intuition and communication in kids?
- Lead by example
- Ask the right questions
- Put the relationship before the punishment or judgment
- How can you tell the difference between intuition and fear?
- Intuition is never mean
- Inner mean girls and critical voices are egocentric
- What’s your superpower as an HSP?
- If you listen deeply, you can hear other people’s inner voices, and you can help people connect to their inner voice. I have amazing ideas for other people that come to me through Divine Inspiration
- “Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good.”
- What would you tell your younger self?
- You are enough. You don’t have to try so hard
- “My inner voice is loving. It knows my worth, and that I am worthy. It guides me. It’s powerful, encouraging and it can show us the error of our ways.”
BIO
Kelly Covert is an inner voice coach with a passion for helping women believe and achieve their big vision by connecting deeply with the wisdom that is inside of them all while owning their worthiness each and every day. Through her intuitive, heart-centered coaching, she helps women awaken to their true power as creators and world-changers.
She is the creator and host of In Her Voice, a podcast for women who feel called to more - to lead, to create, to dream and to change the world. Her work has been featured on The Huffington Post, The Elephant Journal, YourTango.com, and she has been a featured guest on many podcasts.
Kelly is also a professional flutist with Symphoria, a wife and the mother of 2 boys, 15 and 12, and 1 beautiful beagle named Piper.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Many clients who come to see her experience depression & anxiety, and they report struggling with perfectionism and not feeling good enough. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts they have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
Website-- https://www.kellycovert.com/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/kellyjcovert/
Twitter-- https://twitter.com/Kellyjcovert
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
Dr. Ted Zeff’s website— http://www.drtedzeff.com/
Strong Sensitive Boy Dr. Ted Zeff
Dr. Ross Greene--https://www.livesinthebalance.org/
The Explosive Child Dr. Ross Greene
Lost at School Dr. Ross Greene
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EPISODE
Bonus Episode 38
TITLE
We Never Know How Our Presence Impacts Others
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We can feel insignificant, unimportant, and that we are not making an impact on the world, but we never really know how much just being ourselves is impacting others. I talk about how a neighbor who walks by my house daily impacted me when he “went missing,” and how I communicated with him when he turned up again. When we experience loss, stability in our day-to-day routine can bring great comfort. Letting others know you miss their presence can cause a huge shift for another since we often struggle with imposter syndrome and feeling like we’re just not enough. I also talk about Chuy (the person), and Chewie (the dog—who has an Instagram account).
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
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MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Episode 20
TITLE
Part 2 Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), & the HSP
GUEST
Dr. Erika Martinez
EPISODE OVERVIEW
What is Childhood Emotional Neglect and how does it affect non-HSPs and HSPs? A Highly Sensitive Person being raised by a non-HSP parent could cause CEN. Some symptoms of CEN-- feelings of emptiness (a void), feeling deeply and fatally flawed; don’t feel good enough; feeling unlovable/unlikable; seeking external validation to know you’re ok; being very self-sufficient; may have been parentified, may struggle with being assertive, being angry, experience self-blame; have a hard time asking for help; may have trust issues, may be anxious, depressed or stressed out. We talk about vantage sensitivity, attachment styles and exercises to work with CEN.
HIGHLIGHTS
- What is Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)?
- A Lack of parental attunement to the child’s emotional needs, and a lack of responsiveness to their emotional needs
- CEN is such an invisible thing—it’s what failed to happen for you
- Symptoms of CEN—feelings of emptiness (a void), feeling deeply and fatally flawed; don’t feel good enough; feeling unlovable/unlikable; seeking external validation to know you’re ok; being very self-sufficient; may have been parentified, may struggle with being assertive, being angry, experience self-blame; have a hard time asking for help; may have trust issues, may be anxious, depressed or stressed out
- If you’re an HSP, and your parents were non-HSPs, that in and of itself could cause CEN
- Counterdependence—difficulty asking for help
Notes from Dr. Jonice Webb’s article “Childhood Emotional Neglect Undermines the Highly Sensitive Person’s Best Strengths
- “You feel things deeply and powerfully…When you grow up emotionally neglected, you learn that your emotions are useless and should be ignored and hidden. This takes your powerful force from within, disempowers it, and perhaps even shames you for having it.”
- “You are a deep thinker who needs to have meaning and purpose in your life…you get the message that your feelings don’t matter…since your emotions are the most deeply personal expression of who you are, it’s natural for you as a child to internalize the message as ‘I don’t matter.’…going through your adult life, you tend to feel less important than other people, and this undermines your ability to experience yourself and your life as meaningful and important.
- “Your intense feelings and your need to have meaning and purpose in your life both make your relationships heartfelt and genuine…you miss out on the opportunity to learn how to understand and manage your emotions and the emotions of others.
Truth or Myth—Because I have CEN and had to learn to read the environment to survive, the CEN CAUSED me to be an HSP
Vantage Sensitivity—HSPs will thrive and benefit more in a positive environment than non-HSPs, and conversely, HSPs will be more negatively affected in adverse environments (CEN) than non-HSPs. So HSPs respond better and worse in positive and negative environments/settings than non-HSPs
- When HSPs find themselves in environments that don’t validate and mirror their feelings, they develop coping mechanisms to push down and bury their emotional world. The HSP learns to “dim” or turn down their emotions to fit in the household, but it comes at the expense of their HSP gifts.
4 Types of Attachment Styles—the 1st is a secure style and the remaining 3 are insecure style
- Secure attachment
- Dismissive or avoidant—they don’t connect or seek out relationships
- Anxious or preoccupied—they’re very worried about being in a relationship; they’re worried about their partner, or their partner’s needs. There can be excessive rumination/worry and racing thoughts
- Fearful or avoidant—they seek out relationships, then they run away from them. It’s a yo-yo relationship
Shame Shields from Dr. Brene Brown’s Research
- Move toward people—anxious, preoccupied. They tend to be perfectionistic or people-pleasing
- Move away/withdraw--dismissive
- Move against—aggressive (passive aggressive), act out, fearful, avoidant, condescending
Specific exercises from the book Running on Empty by Dr. Jonice Webb
- Understand the purpose and value of emotions
- Alexithymia—being emotionally illiterate and having a difficult time understanding the behavior of other people
- Identify your own emotions 3x/day
- Monitor your feelings and how they shift throughout the day
- Accept and trust your feelings
- Learn to express yourself effectively
- Self-care and self-compassion
- Self-discipline (there is usually an excess of or a lack of)
BIO
Erika Martinez, Psy.D., a Florida licensed psychologist and certified educator, specializes in the assessment and treatment of a variety of mental health conditions in young adults. Combing her expertise in neuropsychology, assessment, trauma, and shame resilience, she helps others explore life’s challenging areas and brainstorm solutions using their personal strengths. With greater self-awareness and confidence, they are able to move forward and lead personally and professionally rewarding lives.
Dr. Martinez provides therapy to high-achievers, professional millennials, and entrepreneurs facing quarter-life crises, relationship meltdowns, and existential dilemmas which can present as a myriad of symptoms including anxiety, destructive behaviors, self-sabotage, depression, loneliness, burn out, poor self-esteem, shame, and impaired social skills. She previously worked in graphic design, human resources, and community mental health. Prior to private practice, she worked in secondary and university public education settings for a decade helping parents, educators, and counselors better understand and serve students with AD/HD, Giftedness, and learning disabilities. Dr. Martinez is also a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator (CDWF), bringing the groundbreaking research and curriculum on vulnerability, courage, shame, and worthiness developed by Dr. Brené Brown to South Florida.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts they have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
Website https://envisionwellness.co
Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/ErikaMartinezPsyDCoralGables
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/envisionwellnessco/
Running on Empty Dr. Jonice Webb
Running on Empty No More Dr. Jonice Webb
Daring Greatly Dr. Brene Brown
Rising Strong Dr. Brene Brown
Gifts of Imperfection Dr. Brene Brown
Ted Talks Brene Brown
The Power of Vulnerability https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability?language=en
Listening to Shame https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame/transcript?language=en
Daring Way Weekend Intensive (Dr. Brene Brown’s work)
https://thedaringway.org/group/rising-strong-daring-way-weekend-intensive/
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
Dr. Ted Zeff’s website— http://www.drtedzeff.com/
Strong Sensitive Boy Dr. Ted Zeff
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
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EPISODE
Bonus Episode 37
TITLE
Vulnerability, My Insecurities & Rants About Therapists
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
I realized that I have been trying to justify why I choose to be vulnerable, transparent and allow others to see me when I’m in the midst of struggling. I’ve internalized perceived criticism from therapists that have a different orientation. I just continue to fight against the gremlins in my head that want to shame me for showing up in the world the way that I do.
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
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EPISODE
Episode 20
TITLE
Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), and the HSP
GUEST
Dr. Erika Martinez
EPISODE OVERVIEW
- What is Childhood Emotional Neglect and how does it affect non-HSPs and HSPs? These are some symptoms of CEN-- feelings of emptiness (a void), feeling deeply and fatally flawed; don’t feel good enough; feeling unlovable/unlikable; seeking external validation to know you’re ok; being very self-sufficient; may have been parentified, may struggle with being assertive, being angry, experience self-blame; have a hard time asking for help; may have trust issues, may be anxious, depressed or stressed out. Dr. Martinez talks about how to identify CEN and ways to begin the healing process.
HIGHLIGHTS
- What is Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)?
- A Lack of parental attunement to the child’s emotional needs, and a lack of responsiveness to their emotional needs
- CEN is such an invisible thing—it’s what failed to happen for you
- Symptoms of CEN—feelings of emptiness (a void), feeling deeply and fatally flawed; don’t feel good enough; feeling unlovable/unlikable; seeking external validation to know you’re ok; being very self-sufficient; may have been parentified, may struggle with being assertive, being angry, experience self-blame; have a hard time asking for help; may have trust issues, may be anxious, depressed or stressed out
- The HSP in a household with CEN is often the scapegoat and they are ridiculed for their deep processing of emotion. They can feel very wrong, and like they don’t fit in. Sometimes they are referred to as the blacksheep of the family. They are the “disrupter.” Often this person is the healthiest and most differentiated in the family and they are often the “truth teller.”
3 types of groups parents fall into
- Self-involved, narcissistic, sociopath, addicted, authoritarian
- Struggling parents—depressed, bereaved, divorced, special needs children or caring for relatives or aging parents
- Well-meaning—neglected as children, workaholics, achievement oriented, perfectionistic, permissive, tiger parents
- Counterdependence—difficulty asking for help
BIO
Erika Martinez, Psy.D., a Florida licensed psychologist and certified educator, specializes in the assessment and treatment of a variety of mental health conditions in young adults. Combing her expertise in neuropsychology, assessment, trauma, and shame resilience, she helps others explore life’s challenging areas and brainstorm solutions using their personal strengths. With greater self-awareness and confidence, they are able to move forward and lead personally and professionally rewarding lives.
Dr. Martinez provides therapy to high-achievers, professional millennials, and entrepreneurs facing quarter-life crises, relationship meltdowns, and existential dilemmas which can present as a myriad of symptoms including anxiety, destructive behaviors, self-sabotage, depression, loneliness, burn out, poor self-esteem, shame, and impaired social skills. She previously worked in graphic design, human resources, and community mental health. Prior to private practice, she worked in secondary and university public education settings for a decade helping parents, educators, and counselors better understand and serve students with AD/HD, Giftedness, and learning disabilities. Dr. Martinez is also a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator (CDWF), bringing the groundbreaking research and curriculum on vulnerability, courage, shame, and worthiness developed by Dr. Brené Brown to South Florida.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts they have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
Website https://envisionwellness.co
Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/ErikaMartinezPsyDCoralGables
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/envisionwellnessco/
Running on Empty Dr. Jonice Webb
Running on Empty No More Dr. Jonice Webb
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
Dr. Ted Zeff’s website— http://www.drtedzeff.com/
Strong Sensitive Boy Dr. Ted Zeff
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
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EPISODE
Bonus Episode 36
TITLE
Being Vulnerable and Having Deep Feelings Takes Courage and Strength
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
This is a pretty vulnerable episode. My husband was out of town, and toward the end of the week I sent my husband and message that I was struggling, and he didn’t respond. This really hurt my feelings, and I realized that I have a hard time being direct and asking for what I need. I wasn’t taking care of my need for play and doing creative projects, and I was feeling resentful because my husband is really good about taking care of his needs. I also realized that I function better when he is gone. I talk about how we both used this information to create something that works better for both of us. I also talk about some things that I did to shift my energy to create a lighter more playful environment for myself.
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
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EPISODE
Episode 19
TITLE
The Key To Helping Someone with Rejection Sensitivity is Helping Them Develop a Sense of Security
GUEST
Jared DeFife Ph.D.
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Dr. DeFife works with people who are emotionally intense, tend to be perfectionistic and sensitive to criticism. He talks about Rejection Sensitivity, which has 3 primary components. Dr. DeFife talks about the 3 Cs to help if you experience Rejection Sensitivity. We talk about 2 types of perfectionism, muscle dysmorphia and the benefits of self-disclosure and authenticity by therapists in the therapeutic relationship.
HIGHLIGHTS
Rejection Sensitivity
- Anxious anticipation of [rejection]
- Ready perception of [seeing rejection in neutral situations when it may not be there]
- Intense reaction to [criticism, failure, set backs, exclusion, lack of belonging]
Rejection Sensitivity is highly correlated with aggression and hostililty—this can look like behavior that is snide or snippy. The person engages in hostile and rejecting behavior, then creates the rejection due to their behavior. The person ends up creating what they are most afraid of. They get into this vicious cycle.
Rejection Sensitivity can also include reactions where the person engages in social avoidance or shutting down.
Rejection Sensitivity is a process that people engage in to avoid feeling shame.
In Anxious Anticipation Of—the person imagines that they probably won’t be accepted or liked before the interaction. They may imagine that the other person will think they’re stupid.
Perfectionism isn’t really about wanting things to be perfect
At the root, it’s that other people will see that we’re defective and inadequate
Perfectionism can be a survival skill for some, and if you take it away, you’re taking away the way they believe they can fit in.
There are different types of perfectionism
- Self-oriented perfectionism—competing against yourself (like an athlete would). This can be a healthy form of perfectionism.
- Socially prescribed perfectionism—If I don’t get this right, people will think I’m an idiot, or I’ll be rejected.
Rejection Sensitivity is transdiagnostic—you will see it across many different diagnoses like depressive disorders, anxiety disorders, personality disorders, eating disorders and substance use disorders.
Muscle dysmorphia—"is a subtype ofbody dysmorphic disorder (BDD), in which people, mostly males, are obsessed with the size of their muscles. They worry that they are not muscular or lean enough or that their bodies are too underdeveloped and weak. Their symptoms cause significant distress and hinder their ability to socialize, go to work, and/or participate in daily activities. In many cases, people with muscle dysmorphia have average or above average muscularity.” Quoted from https://mghocd.org/what-is-muscle-dysmorphia/
The Key to helping someone with Rejection Sensitivity is to help them develop a sense of security.
The way to do this is with the 2 Cs
- Calmness—to calm down that fueled intense reactivity
- Clarity—learning what your wants and needs are, and knowing your life story so you are clear about your own desires, motivations and interests
- Connections—having safe relationships with others where you can be vulnerable, and open with others and you don’t have to keep your feelings to yourself
Being a psychologically health person isn’t about being a perfect person. Of course it’s about being vulnerable
RESOURCES—
- Don’t Take It Personally! The Art of Dealing With Rejection Elayne Savage PhD
- Books by Brene Brown--https://www.google.com/search?q=brene+brown+books&oq=brene+brown+books&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l5.2786j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8
- Mentalization Based Therapy
- Schema Therapy
- DBT—Dialectical Behavioral Therapy
- Metacognitive Interpersonal Therapy
- Radically Open DBT
BIO
Jared DeFife, PhD (www.jareddefife.com) is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Atlanta, GA and an Adjunct Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the Emory University School of Medicine.
Dr. DeFife specializes in helping people who identify as “emotionally intense”, perfectionistic, self-critical, and interpersonally sensitive to criticism or rejection. His practice integrates from interpersonal and personality-focused therapies drawing from Schema-Focused, Mentalization-Based, and RO-DBT approaches for chronic depression/anxiety, interpersonal problems, and personality disorder concerns.
Dr. DeFife has published widely in professional journals and been a frequent media commentator on mental health and interpersonal relationships for numerous television, podcast, and print outlets including the BBC World News, Psychotherapy Networker, Yahoo! Health, Self, Bustle, Women’s Health and Men’s Health magazines, and The Huffington Post. He is a regular blog contributor to Psychology Today.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
Website—https://www.jareddefife.com/
http://grantome.com/grant/NIH/R01-MH081948-04
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
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EPISODE
Bonus Episode 35
TITLE
How To Honor Our Needs When Things Feel Unjust
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) feel things deeply, and we have an incredibly strong sense of wanting things to be just, fair and equitable, and when they aren’t, it can be very upsetting to us. Many of us have been told to mind our own business. We perceive things that others don’t, so we catch things that others miss, and we just want things to be fair. I talk about not staying in my own lane, and consequently having a shame attack. I learned that I need to honor that part of me that wants fairness and doesn’t want anyone taking advantage of another or not pulling their own weight. How do we know when it’s the right time to step in and advocate and when we need to allow others to sort things out.
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
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EPISODE
Episode 18
TITLE
Women’s Experiences Matter and Women’s Emotional Lives Matter
GUEST
Sara Wachter-Boettcher
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Sara talks about the importance of centering on women’s voices in media, and the importance of showing women in deep, rich, emotional conversations with each other in order to show how powerful it can be when we are vulnerable, and open and honest with each other. Sara talks about the common beliefs that prevent people from taking it to the next level, and steps they can take to get there. We talk about the value of learning from what didn’t work out, and often success is more about the process than the end result. We talk a quote someone said, “You can be a hot mess, and be successful.”
HIGHLIGHTS
- In many environments, women are taught that in order to get ahead, they need to stuff all their feelings down, and that’s what professionalism means
- Women are taught that to be good at their jobs, they should be more unfeeling; more unstoic, and then they are perceived as unlikable when they are those things
- We’re extremely good at what we do. We’re competent; we’re ambitious, and we are successful, and we are also people that are unashamed to say, “Hey, I cried twice today.” I’m still good at what I do; I’m still competent and I’m still successful
- The contradicting messages women receive—you’re too aggressive, and you need to speak up. There are double standards for women, and a narrow tightrope for women to walk in order to be perceived as “just right.”
- You can spend your entire life just trying to do it “just right,” and still get the message that it’s not good enough
- We’re creating a space where we can say that none of those rules apply, and we can talk with women about things that matter to them on their own terms, so that people don’t feel less alone, and less alone in processing those toxic messages they get
- You can be a hot mess and successful at the same time
- In a male dominated culture, there is an emphasis on glossing over anything that makes you feel vulnerable. The problem with this is that people don’t learn anything from your story about being awesome. That is not helpful for someone else trying to learn from you
- Success is not any pure thing that doesn’t have down sides to it
BIO
Sara Wachter-Boettcher runs Rare Union, a strategy consultancy, and cohosts Strong Feelings, a weekly podcast about living your best feminist life at work. She's also a keynote speaker and the author of three tech/design books: Technically Wrong: Sexist Apps, Biased Algorithms, and Other Threats of Toxic Tech from W.W. Norton in 2017, Design for Real Life (with Eric Meyer) from A Book Apart in 2016, and Content Everywhere from Rosenfeld Media in 2012. Her work has been featured in The Washington Post, Slate, The Guardian, and more, and she’s spoken at dozens of events across four continents related to tech and design.
LINKS
Website--rareunion.com
Website--strongfeelings.co
Website--www.sarawb.com
Twitter--twitter.com/sara_ann_marie
Podcast—Strong Feelings
Elizabeth Gilbert Big Magic
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EPISODE
Episode 017 Part 2
TITLE
Conversations with a Non-Binary HSP Therapist
GUEST
Dara Hoffman-Fox
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Dara talks about being non-binary, and the challenges with the use of language and pronouns Dara uses. Dara defines CIS gender, and we explore microagressions (how they show up in the LGBTQ+ population, and how Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPS) may experience them on a daily basis. Dara also discusses the challenges in trying to get the gender markers changed with the DMV to reflect Dara’s non-binary status.
BIO
DARA HOFFMAN-FOX, LPC, is a queer-identified gender therapist in private practice in Colorado Springs, CO. As a subject-matter expert on transgender and nonbinary issues, Dara is the creator of the "Conversations with a Gender Therapist" YouTube channel as well as the author of the Amazon #1 bestseller YOU AND YOUR GENDER IDENTITY: A GUIDE TO DISCOVERY. Dara's goal is to get as much education, resources, and support out there as possible to the trans and gender-questioning persons of the world. Through the magic of the internet Dara is am able to do this through their Conversations with a Gender Therapist YouTube channel and Facebook pWage, media and podcast interviews, and the content you’ll find on their website, found at darahoffmanfox.com.
LINKS
Websites:
http://discoveryourgenderidentity.com/
http://www.thebohemiansanctuary.com
Facebook (friend request):
https://www.facebook.com/dara.hoffman.3
Facebook page:
https://www.facebook.com/darahoffmanfoxlpc/
Trans-Affirming Therapists Academy:
https://trans-affirming-therapists-academy.teachable.com/
YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/user/darahoffmanfox
An in-depth article about the "do's and don'ts" of trans-sensitive language.
https://radicalcopyeditor.com/2017/08/31/transgender-style-guide/
http://www.howtobeagirlpodcast.com/
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
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EPISODE
Episode 017 Part I
TITLE
Conversations with a Non-Binary HSP Therapist
GUEST
Dara Hoffman-Fox
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Dara talks about being non-binary, and the challenges with the use of language and pronouns that many non-binary persons encounter. We discuss topics that include defining “transgender,” as well as what it’s like to go through what feels like the “wrong” puberty, which can be one of the more challenging aspects of the experience of being transgender. Dara also talks about the distinction between sexual orientation and gender identity; defines “cisgender,” and why using a person’s pronouns are important. I also talk about my concern and worry about wanting to use the “right” language, and having to think SO hard because I want to be respectful, because it takes a lot of concentration to use new language.
BIO
DARA HOFFMAN-FOX, LPC, is a queer-identified gender therapist in private practice in Colorado Springs, CO. As a subject-matter expert on transgender and nonbinary issues, Dara is the creator of the "Conversations with a Gender Therapist" YouTube channel as well as the author of the Amazon #1 bestseller YOU AND YOUR GENDER IDENTITY: A GUIDE TO DISCOVERY. Dara's goal is to get as much education, resources, and support out there as possible to the trans and gender-questioning persons of the world. Through the magic of the internet Dara is am able to do this through their Conversations with a Gender Therapist YouTube channel and Facebook page, media and podcast interviews, and the content you’ll find on their website, found at darahoffmanfox.com.
LINKS
Websites:
http://discoveryourgenderidentity.com/
http://www.thebohemiansanctuary.com
Facebook (friend request):
https://www.facebook.com/dara.hoffman.3
Facebook page:
https://www.facebook.com/darahoffmanfoxlpc/
Trans-Affirming Therapists Academy:
https://trans-affirming-therapists-academy.teachable.com/
YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/user/darahoffmanfox
An in-depth article about the "do's and don'ts" of trans-sensitive language.
https://radicalcopyeditor.com/2017/08/31/transgender-style-guide/
http://www.howtobeagirlpodcast.com/
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
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EPISODE
Bonus Episode 34
TITLE
Update After The Holidays When I Lost My Shirt
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
How we get our needs met when we are in a family or community of non-HSPs. Even with other Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), we don’t always have the same needs, and it can be challenging to assert ourselves and work as a community so everyone gets their needs met. I recap the Thanksgiving break when my twins came home from college with a roommate and the other’s girlfriend, and we had kids sleeping on the couch, and I lost my dedicated work space. I was irritable, depleted, and not my best self. Bonus Episode 21 is called I Lost My Shirt! (and it’s Not About the Gravy), and on Bonus Episode 23 How to Care For Ourselves When We’re Feeling Depleted and Bonus Epsiode 24 Working Together and Respecting Different Needs and Expectations I share about how difficult and disruptive it is to have HSP needs, and not realize it. In this episode I talk about how we did it differently, and how it worked out.
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
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EPISODE
Episode 16
TITLE
The Gift Of Vulnerability is Connection; That’s Why I Take the Risk
GUEST
Christina Miglino
EPISODE OVERVIEW
The gifts of vulnerability! What is vulnerability? Why would you want to be vulnerable? What makes it difficult to be vulnerable? How shame can inhibit vulnerability. Calling our power back. We also talk about the connection between courage and vulnerability by Brene Brown.
HIGHLIGHTS
- I didn’t really fit the model of the 9-5er who’s hustling to make ends meet
- Being highly sensitive means I need breaks; I need time alone; I need to pay attention to my energy systems
- I get to own my schedule and make time for the things that do matter and allow me to perform really well and to be my best self in my work
- I’m highly sensitive and I’ve pushed myself to a level that is totally unhealthy work wise
- Symptoms can be like arrows pointing to where we need to slow down
- Symptoms can include—migraines, fatigue, depression, overwhelm, irritability, being more negative
- We get to see that we’re more similar than different
- It’s not unusual for someone to feel too afraid to step through that [being vulnerable] and expose themselves
- Fear keeps me from being vulnerable because I’m afraid I’m going to be rejected
- Brene Brown defines vulnerability as having these elements
- uncertainty
- emotional risk
- emotional exposure
- Brene Brown talks about the relationship between courage and vulnerability
- Can’t have courage without vulnerability
- Can you think of a time when you were courageous and you DIDN’T have
- Uncertainty
- Risk
- Emotional exposure
BIO
Christina Miglino is a Soul Catalyst, Shamanic Practitioner, and Artist, who has traveled all over the US and Canada as a Teacher, Healer and Public Speaker. She has hosted and taught many workshops on Personal Power, Leadership and Emotional Intelligence.
Christina is passionate about supporting people in upleveling their soul’s ascension process, stepping into their power and listening more to their intuition so that they can have the life and business that they were meant for.
She currently has open enrollment for her 9-month Group Program called, The Sea Within for visionary soul’s seeking to activate their creativity and soul’s potential! for more information about that program please send an email.
LINKS
Email: info@christinamiglino.com
Website: www.christinamiglino.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/christina.miglino
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinamiglino/
Glennon Doyle Melton
Brene Brown—Courage and vulnerability
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
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EPISODE
Bonus Episode 33
TITLE
Tell Me About Your Experience with Therapy
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
I want to hear about your experience(s) with therapy! Whether you’re a therapist, a consumer or both, how would you describe what therapy is? What has been helpful when you’ve been in therapy, and what wasn’t helpful? What are the reasons people go to therapy? What are the groups/populations that I neglect to talk about? Please let me know, so I can give a shout out! Please send me an e-mail and let me know if you’d like your name (and practice if you’re a therapist) mentioned, or if you’d prefer to remain anonymous. I really want to hear what you have to say! Tell me all about therapy—anything goes!
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
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EPISODE
Bonus Episode 33
TITLE
Tell Me About Your Experience with Therapy
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
I want to hear about your experience(s) with therapy! Whether you’re a therapist, a consumer or both, how would you describe what therapy is? What has been helpful when you’ve been in therapy, and what wasn’t helpful? What are the reasons people go to therapy? What are the groups/populations that I neglect to talk about? Please let me know, so I can give a shout out! Please send me an e-mail and let me know if you’d like your name (and practice if you’re a therapist) mentioned, or if you’d prefer to remain anonymous. I really want to hear what you have to say! Tell me all about therapy—anything goes!
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
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EPISODE
Episode 15
TITLE
Releasing Accumulated Belongings Can Lead to Greater Freedom in all Areas of Life
GUEST
Michael Spencer
EPISODE OVERVIEW
I admit for the first time in my life that I’m a closeted woo, and I came out of my baby woo closet. Michael is Super Woo (I called it Woo factorial). We talk about how accumulating stuff can impact how we feel and how energy can get stuck when things pile up in our homes. Michael talks about ways to shift the energy, and energy tools we can use to help in this process. We talk about Marie Kondo and her book and Netflix show Tidying Up, and ways as Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), we can modify her techniques, so we don’t get overwhelmed. Energy vibration includes feelings like sadness, anger, depression, gremlins, joy, happiness, hopefulness, optimism and excitement.
HIGHLIGHTS
- We can use our intention to tune in in to the vibration of objects
- We can use energy tools (sound, crystals, sage) to help move stuck or stagnant energy in things or in our environment
- Everything in the universe is made of energy
- We can shift the energy of our homes
- When we feel stuck or stagnant, it’s possible we are ignoring or denying a part of ourselves
- Part of how we tend to ourselves is by gently and mindfully exploring the possibility of shifting the energy and our relationship to our stuff
- There’s a difference between seasonal storage that we pull out regularly, and the other stuff that has been put away and has been left there.
- We often have emotions around clearing our stuff
- We need to honor how we clear our spaces so we don’t get overwhelmed
BIO
Michael Spencer is the founder of Let's Purify!, an online business dedicated to the purification and upliftment of the home energy of our living spaces, personal energy fields, and our planet. Michael has honed a process called Home Energy Purification to help soulful people release attachments to accumulated belongings and experience greater freedom in all areas of life. With training as a mental health counselor, Reiki practitioner, and Modern Day Priestess, Michael brings a wide variety of expertise - and a whole lot of heart - to her services. You can connect with Michael on her website - letspurify.energy - and her podcast - The Let's Purify! Podcast. You can also sign up for Michael's email list on the Home Page of her website. When you do, you'll receive her free giveaway: 15 Clarity-Boosting Questions for Decluttering and Purifying
LINKS
Website: letspurify.energy
Podcast: The Let's Purify! Podcast - website link: https://letspurify.energy/podcast/ iTunes link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-lets-purify-podcast/id1428645349?mt=2
Email: michael@letspurify.energy
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Marie Kondo The life Changing Magic of tidying up
Netflix: Tidying Up with Marie Kondo
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EPISODE
Bonus Episode 32
TITLE
Do Therapists Have Therapists?
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
There are misconceptions about what therapy is, and clients often wonder if therapists really care about their clients or is it because the therapist is getting paid. Can a friend or partner act as a therapist? 50% of clients in therapy are Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), and Dr. Elaine Aron’s research shows that HSPs have better outcomes in therapy than non-HSPs. I also share my own experiences being in therapy.
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
To find a Highly Sensitive Knowledgeable therapist—https://hsperson.com
Psychotherapy and the Highly Sensitive Person Dr. Elaine Aron
Big Magic Elizabeth Gilbert
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EPISODE
Episode 014
TITLE
What Exactly Is a Highly Sensitive Person, co-hosted with Matthew Morgan, LPCC
GUEST
Matthew Morgan, LPCC
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We talk about the 4 Core Characteristics that encompass being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP); how our culture views sensitivity; how to tease out our superpowers; the correlation between depression, anxiety and being a Highly Sensitive Person. Why being an HSP is genetically a survival strategy and how this trait has been identified in over 100 animal species. How to deal with overstimulation and overwhelm and ways to cope and manage. The 5 things HSPs need. All the data in this episode is based on the research by Dr. Elaine Aron who initially researched the trait, then named it.
HIGHLIGHTS
- 4 Characteristics of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) D-O-E-S
- Depth of processing
- Overarousability & Overstimulation
- Emotional Responsiveness/Empathy
- Sensory Sensitivity
- Being an HSP is an innate trait
- 30% of HSPs are extroverts; 70% are introverts
- High Sensation Seekers (HSS)
- Inherent problem with being an HSP is being easily overstimulated
- How to cope
- What is good self-care
- Sleep and the HSP
- 5 Things HSPs need
- Believe the trait is real
- Reframe the past
- Heal traumas
- Don’t live like the other 80%
- Surround yourself with other HSPs
- Mirror Neurons
- Differential Susceptibility
BIO
Matthew E. Morgan has run the gamut of careers: starting out as a youth minister after earning his BA in Biblical Studies and Pastoral Ministries, he also taught high school while earning his Master of Arts degree in Professional Counseling from Liberty University in Virginia. He has dedicated his life to helping families recover or reconnect.
Matthew has been married for over 20 years. After 13 years of struggling with infertility as a couple, they welcomed their son – a very unexpected blessing. When not spending time with his family, Matthew enjoys writing, gardening, and gaming.
LINKS
http://covenantfamilywellness.com/about-cfw/
https://www.facebook.com/ourcfw/
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
Susan Cain Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking
Movie—Inside Out
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EPISODE
Bonus Episode 31
TITLE
Afterthoughts about Episode 012 on Relationships
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Reflections about the episode where I talk about conflict I had in a relationship. Episode 012 was a vulnerable episode for me to release, and it included audio that I recorded after having a very uncomfortable conversation with a long time friend about the changes in our relationship. I was reactive and angry (and upset) when I recorded that conversation. I’ve received amazing feedback from that episode from therapists and non-therapists about how powerful that episode was. Some people said they had shame due their own struggles in their relationships, and others said it felt really validating to see struggle in the moment. I found an additional recording I made after difficult phone call, and I add my own thoughts as well.
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
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EPISODE
Episode 12
TITLE
How To Navigate Challenges in Relationships
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Navigating conflict and having competing needs in relationships can be difficult. How do we evaluate if our friendships are meeting our needs? I provide criteria that may be helpful when evaluating relationships and compatibility. What do we do when there is a stressor in a relationship, and it causes a breakdown in the relationship? We aren’t often taught how to choose relationships; what to do when our needs aren’t getting met, and as Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), we tend to be loyal (sometimes to a fault), and we feel guilty renegotiating relationships, or leaving relationships when they don’t work for us anymore. I provide information to Dr. Elaine Aron’s website if you’re curious to see if you’re a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice, and sees clients who live in California via online therapy. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.
HIGHLIGHTS
Sometimes relationships work until there is a stressor, and the relationship (or the skills that one or both of the individuals have) cannot tolerate the stressor, and this can cause a relationship to decline or end
Values to check for in relationships
- Depth of processing
- Similar interests
- Does the person have the capacity to manage intense feelings?
- What is their emotional literacy (emotional intelligence)
- are they able to identify their feelings
- Are they introspective
- Do they have insight
- Into their own behavior
- Into their triggers
- Can they handle when there is conflict
- Can they handle when there are competing needs
- How vulnerable are they willing to be
- How much time do they want to spend together in the relationship
- How available are they
- Are they dependable
- Can you count on them when you need them
LINKS
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
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EPISODE
Bonus Episode 30
TITLE
The Importance of Communication—Especially Around the Holidays
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Expectations and disappointments around the holidays are pretty common. It’s important that we name what’s going on and find ways to work through the messy stuff. We can love parts of the holidays AND feel stressed. Both can exist. There are also many simples ways we can take care of ourselves with little time and resources.
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.
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EPISODE
011
TITLE
I’ve been high achieving, and I’ve been reinforced for that;
to be moderately achieving felt like I’d lost a piece of my identity
GUEST
Allison Puryear,
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Allison talks about having to slow down for health reasons and how this impacted her sense of worth and value. What do you do when you’re a striver and you’re used to pushing through? How to set up structure to support having more balance. We talk about being in the sandwich (or panini) generation, where you’re getting “pressed” from both generations. How to manage caring for, and attending to parents and children and managing medical appointments, disappointing news, and taking care of yourself. Allison utilizes her DBT, ACT, CBT skills to manage high stress levels. We talk about how to see if you’re a Highly Sensitive Person, and we talk about that 30% of HSPs are extroverts and 70% are introverts. Jaquelyn Strickland has written an article on being an HS Extrovert. We review the 4 traits of Highly Sensitive People (DOES)—Depth of Processing, Overarousal/overstimulation, Emotional responsiveness/empathy and Sensory Sensitivity. WE talk about courage and vulnerability and Brene Brown’s work. We also talk about Allison’s guest appearance on Lauren Selfridge’s podcast This Is Not What I Ordered.
BIO
Allison Puryear is an LCSW with a nearly diagnosable obsession with business development. She has started practices in three different states and wants you to know that building a private practice is shockingly doable when you have a plan and support. She teaches everything you need to know about building a private practice in the Abundance Party, where you can get practice-building help for the cost of a copay. You can download a free private practice checklist to make sure you have your ducks in a row, listen in on consultations and interviews on the Abundant Practice Podcast, and hop into the free Facebook Group full of over 13,000 other clinicians in private practice. Allison is all about helping you gain the confidence and tools you need to succeed.
HIGHLIGHTS
- 4 Characteristics of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) D-O-E-S
- Depth of processing
- Overarousability /Overstimulation
- Emotional Responsiveness/Empathy
- Sensory Sensitivity
- Monthly check-in asking What is important to me?
- My health
- Managing stress levels (which is a trigger for poor health)
- Making sleep a priority
- Family
- Business
- It’s easy to use scheduling as a way to avoid feelings
- Feel the feeling, AND look at the schedule
- What are the things that are important (paper and action)
- Does your schedule reflect your values?
- Leave computer at home
- No work apps on phone
QUOTES
- My worth doesn’t lie in what I create
- I had to sit with the feeling that people are disappointed that I’m only putting out one piece of content now instead of four. What if people are let down by the shift? What does that mean about me?
- It doesn’t mean anything, what somebody else thinks about me.
- For my whole life I’ve been high achieving and I’ve been reinforced for that
- To be moderately achieving felt like I’d lost a piece of my identity
- I was driving myself too hard for something people weren’t even asking for
- I would love to be one of those people who learns from others’ mistakes, but most of the time I have to fail on my own
- I have this rule—If it’s not a hell yes, then it’s a no
- You can have frustration tolerance and be tough and handle what’s thrown at you, AND be highly sensitive
LINKS
https://abundancepracticebuilding.com/
https://abundanceparty.com/join-now
Allison’s guest appearance on the podcast This Is Not What I Ordered with Lauren Selfridge-- http://thisisnotwhatiordered.libsyn.com/27-entrepreneurship-chronic-illness-with-allison-puryear
Dr. Elaine Aron’s website—https://hsperson.com
HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
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EPISODE
010
TITLE
Healing Takes Place When We Are In Connection With Others
GUEST
Justine Froelker, LPC, author, speaker, Dare to Lead Facilitator
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Courageously living Brene Brown’s work as a Certified Dare To Lead Facilitator, Justine talks about vulnerability, shame and how we can find healing in connection. Justine shares about being a grieving mother and miscarriage, and how she chooses to see the gifts in everything. She talks about the 6 ways we avoid feelings (based on Brene Brown’s work), and not taking things personally (based on The Four Agreements). We talk about how this impacts the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and Dr. Elaine Aron’s work. Justine has raised Monarch Butterflies since they are near extinction, and she talks about the awe of watching the transformation. Justine has written 4 books; she has done 2 Ted Talks, and is also certified to teach Brene Brown’s The Daring Way (in addition to Dare to Lead).
BIO
Full of grit and grace,Justine Froelker uses her fiery passion, the occasional curse word, and her witty humor to share her vulnerability and truth to light up the world. Justine is an advocate for speaking about shame and learning to thrive when life doesn't turn out how you hoped, dreamed, or even planned that it would. Justine is a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Certified Dare to Lead™ Facilitator (based on the research of Dr. Brené Brown) with over 19 years of mental health experience, speaker, and author. She is the author of her best-selling books,Ever Upward and The Mother of Second Chances and recently gave two TEDx talks. Justine currently lives in Saint Louis with her husband, Chad, and their three dogs. She enjoys her childfull life by spending time with friends and family, practicing creative self-care, laughing (many times at herself) and building butterfly gardens on her acre of land, which has made her an accidental butterfly farmer.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Shame (as defined by Brene Brown—A deeply painful feeling of being unworthy of love and belonging
- Shame—that feeling of “not enoughness”
- The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
- Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
- Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. - Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life. - Always Do Your Best Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
- We are in angst when we don’t get curious
- Six ways we hurl
- Chandeliering—we stuff and stuff and stuff our feelings until we explode (rage, cry, freak out) at the smallest things
- Bouncing Hurt—anger, blame and avoiding
- Stockpiler—we stuff and stuff and stuff—the body keeps score, so they get sick, insomnia, depression, anxiety, stomach pain
- Numbers—offload the pain by taking anything (perfectionism, sleeping, sex, alcohol, eating, Netflix, food, work)
- Umbridge—someone who’s not integrated—our light and dark side. Will say I love you and then will say I hate you
- High Centered—You’ve lived this life a little. You’ve experienced vulnerability, you’re stuck.
| QUOTES |
- None of us have a life that turned out as we had hoped, dreamed or planned
- We all have trauma, losses and tragedies; I call this grief
- We all have shame stories that center from—I’m not enough; I’m not deserving; I’m unworthy
- Those traumas, losses and tragedies also tell us we’re not enough
- Most of us didn’t grow up in homes where we were encouraged to get curious about our emotions
- None of us like to talk about shame, but the less we talk about it, the more we have it, or the more it runs our lives
- If you’re not learning how vulnerability functions in your life, it’s going to rule your life
- Healing will never ever take place in disconnection
- If we are not showing up and living our lives in an authentic and vulnerable way, there is no connection
- We all yearn to be seen and known and loved
- What is one thing you can do differently today to be happier and healthier?
- I am a forever grieving mother, and I choose to see the gifts in everything
- You are not too much; you’re not too dramatic. You’re just right, and it is that part of you that will help so many people.
LINKS
www.instagram.com/justinefroelker
www.youtube.com/justinefroelker
www.facebook.com/justine.froelker
The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz-- http://www.toltecspirit.com/
Rachel Hollis Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies about Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be
Justine Froelker
- Ever Upward: Overcoming the Lifelong Losses of Infertility to Define Your Own Happy Ending
- Taking Flight: An Ever Upward(tm) Coloring Journal
- The Mother of Second Chances: The Struggle Bus of Rewriting My Story of Infertility and Loss
- The Complicated Gray: A Big Story of Resilient Redemption
Ted Talks Justine Froelker
The Permission of the “And” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9UjzHTjHEqg
The Donut Effect: Owning our Stories https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZLTl3l6YE6o
Brene Brown The Gifts of Imperfection, Rising Strong,
Ted Talks Brene Brown
The Power of Vulnerability https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability?language=en
Listening to Shame https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame/transcript?language=en
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EPISODE
009
TITLE
Developing Empathy Guided Me To Hear Myself
GUEST
Timothy Wienecke, MP, LPC, LAC
EPISODE OVERVIEW
The term Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) was charged and heavy for Tim. He talks about violence against women; interpersonal violence, feminism, learning to have empathy; the ways men are taught to express only anger or happiness and they have no emotional vocabulary. Tim works with men, and he has a podcast that is primarily for men called Stories and Lessons.
Highlights
- 4 Characteristics of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) D-O-E-S
- Depth of processing
- Overarousability & Overstimulation
- Emotional Responsiveness/Empathy
- Sensory Sensitivity
- Learning the skills of how to develop empathy and listen guided me to hear myself
- I don’t think that your empathy and your explorations happens without community
- Empathy is a skill that can be developed
- Men are sexualized to only feel anger
BIO
I have spent the last two decades learning with and helping people navigate the hard times life throws at us. I have served as an advocate, representative, Airman, Sergeant, mentor, organizer, educator, and counselor. I will use my experience, passion, and education to empower you with the skills and knowledge needed to find the best way forward.
LINKS
Tim Wienecke website & podcast--https://empoweredchangece.com/
Dr. Elaine Aron— https://hsperson.com/
Highly Sensitive Person Self Test https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
Highly Sensitive Child Test https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Dr. Ted Zeff— http://www.drtedzeff.com/
Feelings Wheel-- https://www.simplemost.com/feeling-wheel-will-help-better-describe-emotions/
Jackson Katz Ted Talk—Violence Against Women—It’s a Man’s Issue https://www.ted.com/talks/jackson_katz_violence_against_women_it_s_a_men_s_issue?language=en
Alan Alda If I Understood You Would I Have This Look On My Face?
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The infection in my son's foot got worse, and he was hospitalized. At the same time, my mom's neurologist said it was emergent that I bring her in to see him (and I told him my son had just been hospitalized and could we see him at the regularly scheduled appointment on Monday). Talk about feeling pulled and having to handle a lot of information. I talk about my hypervigilance, and how I communicated to attempt to get more support.
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My son got sick at college, and told us he wanted to come home, but we didn't realize how sick he was, and we told him to go to Health Services the following day. His roommate called us late that evening and told us our son needed to go the hospital. How do you teach your kidults to communicate that they are really ill? How to you teach them how to communicate their symptoms? I also talk about the dilemma when we haven't taught our kids how to negotiate when we say no, and we're not hearing their needs. If anyone is caring for children and an adult, I talk about the mental load of caring for two different generations and how as a Sensitive, it impacts me.
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EPISODE
Episode 8
TITLE
Because You are Sensitive, It Leads You To Be Creative
GUEST
Rachel Moore, LMFT
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Many Sensitive’s are creative, but don’t consider themselves to be creative. We talk about the different ways that creativity shows up in our lives. There is a false belief that trauma is the origin of creativity, but Rachel asked Gabor Mate about this and his response to her dispels that myth. Sensitivity is what makes you creative; it is a function of your being. We talk about Julia Cameron and her book The Artist’s Way, and Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Big Magic and her podcast Magic Lessons. We also talk about Brene Brown and the origin of courage. We talk about creativity and the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) and Dr. Elaine Aron's work.
BIO
Rachel Moore, LMFT, earned a bachelor's degree in Creative Writing from The College of Idaho in 1996. She was a newspaper copy editor for 14 years, including being awarded the Pulitzer Prize in 2006 along with her colleagues at the San Diego Union-Tribune. Rachel is also an experienced singer, having performed on several stages around San Diego. She shifted careers and earned her master's degree in Marriage & Family Therapy in 2013. After completing her post-grad internships, including at hospice and private practice, Rachel is now a Licensed MFT. The focus of her practice is to help writers, artists, and musicians overcome creative anxiety and fulfill their dreams. Rachel also has completed Basic Training for EMDR therapy and is currently seeking certification.
LINKS
Website— https://www.rachelmoorecounseling.com/
Sparkles Podcast--https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/sparkles-podcast/id1356954034?mt=2
Dr. Gabor Mate--https://drgabormate.com/
Elizabeth Gilbert—book Big Magic
Elizabeth Gilbert—podcast https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/magic-lessons/
Julia Cameron—book The Artist’s Way
Julia Cameron—podcast https://soundcloud.com/james-nav/the-artists-way-a-podcast-with-julia-cameron
Brene Brown--https://brenebrown.com/
Dr. Elaine Aron—self-test https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
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An exclusive meditation made by Chel Hamilton of Meditation Minis just for our listeners, and for those that are Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs). Chel's podcast has over 12 million listeners. Check out her meditations. They're amazing!
LINKS
Where to find Chel Hamilton--
https://audioboom.com/channel/meditation-minis-podcast
APPLE PODCASTS:
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EPISODE
Bonus Episode Day 26
TITLE
Everyone Gets to Own Their Awesome! PLUS exclusive meditation just for our listeners!
GUEST
Chel Hamilton
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We talk a lot about play and inhibition, and I ask Chel how do we take those first steps when we want to let go, but we’re really scared. The interview takes an unexpected turn when Chel asks me something, and I get tearful, and have a pretty big insight! I was NOT expecting this. The is so much freedom and joy on the other side of letting go of fear and inhibition and we talk about how to get there. This leads to a conversation about the importance of community, support, validation and knowing that you’re not alone as a sensitive. I wonder about the connection between childhood wounding and our preferred love language because I can see a direct correlation since my preferred love languages are Quality Time and Words of Affirmation. Chel talks about the benefits of meditation and silent meditation for Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) as well as hypnosis. Guided meditation can be really helpful when you’re having feelings of overwhelm, stress, overstimulation because your body and mind will engage your relaxation response—your parasympathetic system, which is going to soothe your entire system, which will also create more calm for you, which also improves our emotional responses. Chel ends with talking about the quote Brene Brown uses about The Man in the Arena by Teddy Roosevelt and how to focus on feedback from those that are actually in the arena doing the work.
BIO
As a certified Clinical Hypnotherapist in practice for over a decade, and over 20 years of working with addicts and alcoholics, Chel has helped thousands of people let go of habits and thought patterns, and re-design their lives for more joy, freedom, and confidence. Through her guided meditation podcast “Meditation Minis” (with over 12 million downloads) she has helped people create more calmer, clearer, and happier lives. Her mission is to be an agent of change of powerful, positive change for the planet, and her passion is to that light that sparks in people’s eyes when that change occurs.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Silent Meditation or focal point meditation (when you focus on your breath, or an object or a word) is good for training your brain to focus, and letting go of distractions. It can also be good for mindfulness, which is the practice of noticing what you’re thinking and feeling in the moment because you no longer become distracted by those things
- Guided Meditation is closer to hypnosis. It can cause focus to increase, but it also reprograms the brain to have different reactions
- What happens with guided meditation or hypnosis is that your body is in a trance-like way your body and mind starts having difficulty differentiating between reality and what you’re picturing. This is the power of imagination and visualization.
- Hypnosis has more direct suggestions, so it’s similar to doing a guided meditation, but it often focuses on literally changing habits
QUOTES
- Girl! There is only one of you in the Universe!
- Everyone gets to own their awesome!
- The more you own your awesome; it gives others permission to own their awesome
- I want to renew my sense of play in life and set aside perfection
- I think everybody gets to do a happy dance much more frequently than we typically do
- As a Highly Sensitive Person, it’s important that we do bring more play in
- If we’re going to feel all the feels…why can’t feel all the outrageously positive feels too?
- We get to choose what we believe
- Beliefs that are nourishing to us, we get to choose to have more of, and beliefs that are depleting to us, we get to acknowledge and set aside(ren)], and party with them
- Most of what we choose to take as truth, are actually beliefs we choose to believe
- All of this is for play and exploration, and adventure and fun, and I get to create more of that
- I’m talking about incorporating play and fun into what we’re already up to. Even in a more powerful way
- In those times when you are feeling overwhelmed, and/or are in a place of doubt or dread, there is so much power in just acknowledging where you are at, and taking 3 deep breaths
LINKS
Where to find Chel Hamilton--
https://audioboom.com/channel/meditation-minis-podcast
APPLE PODCASTS:
https://itunes.apple.com/podcast/id963597166/
SPOTIFIY:
https://open.spotify.com/show/4bSTeVDsXWKQCRptxuZnVQ
How weird are you? JP Sears--https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XaPjy7FB254
Saying YES! to your Weirdness | JP Sears | TEDxCardiffbytheSea-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=79zra755WgA
SHOW PAGE:
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EPISODE
Bonus Episode Day 25
TITLE
My Son’s Perspective on Sensitivity
GUEST
Daniel Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
I hadn’t really discussed what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) with my boys since I found out I was an HSP when they were in high school, so I was curious to see how my son viewed sensitivity. He talks about how sensitivity is viewed when you play sports (he played baseball from Kindergarten through high school). He talks about having to get “tougher skin,” which is when I believe he started to push down some of his sensitivity.
BIO
Daniel is a freshman at Cal State University Long Beach where he is studying criminology. Daniel is a talented rapper who writes and performs his own songs. He is an amazing graphic designer and photographer. He took all the headshots on my website (and the pic of me podcasting that I use for the podcast).
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EPISODE
Bonus Episode Day 24
TITLE
Working Together and Respecting Different Needs and Expectations
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
After surviving a long 9 days when my kids were home from college with their guests, I talked about how I needed to figure out how to create and maintain balance in Bonus Episode 23 since my boys will be home for a month for winter break. Jacquelyn Strickland, who has been running the Highly Sensitive Person--HSP Gathering Retreats for many years commented on my post encouraging me to rethink my statement to “It will be important for the group [my family] to come up with ways that allow everyone to enjoy each other’s company while also respecting different needs and expectations.” This got me thinking about how I have made my HSP needs my problem instead of seeing that as a family, we need to figure out something that works for everyone. We also came up with the idea of setting up my son in the “North Wing” when he comes home (aka garage!).
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.
LINKS
Dr. Elaine Aron—www.hsperson.com
Jacquely Strickland/HSP Gathering Retreat--http://www.lifeworkshelp.com/hspgathering.htm
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EPISODE
Episode 7
TITLE
The 5 Love Languages
GUEST
Dr. Tom Murray
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Dr. Tom Murray explains why it’s important to be able to speak your partner’s love language. Most people identify their top 2 love languages.
- Words of Affirmation-the person needs to hear, “I love you,” and receive compliments. There is a sense that words hold value. This will strengthen the bong to hear that your partner cares deeply about you.
- Quality Time-giving your partner undivided attention. Spending time together feels comforting and satisfying. Your partner may be bothered if you’re on your phone during these times
- Receiving Gifts-Receiving tokens of appreciation shows the person that their partner is thinking of them. It’s showing signs of appreciation, and it’s not so much about being materialistic
- Acts of Service-for these people, actions speak louder than words. They feel loved and cared for when their partner does things that help to make their life easier (washing the car, picking up something on the way home, doing the dishes).
- Physical Touch—this can be things like holding hands, kissing, public displays of affection, sitting close together.
HIGHLIGHTS
- It’s possible for us to want a certain type of love language to be used with us, and we resent it at the same time
- Tom believes that it’s really helpful when a partner recognizes that the other partner may be loving them with the love language that is their partner’s preferred love language.
- If you want to figure out your partner’s love language, you can observe how they respond to other people in their relationships
- Men, culturally have a harder time acknowledging that they have needs
- Men need support in allowing themselves to receive in a way that’s meaningful to them
- When we have parents that don’t provide a rich emotional environment, many times we don’t recognize our needs since it wasn’t modeled for us
- Improv can be great for Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) to help them be less in their heads and more in the moment
BIO
Dr. Tom Murray, international trainer, educator, and couples and sex therapist, is a widely sought-after expert in the fields of sexuality and intimate relationships. For 15+ years, Murray has worked with everyday folks to embrace their weirdness, shed labels and shame, lean into anxiety, and build better and stronger relationships. Murray's appeared in numerous venues, including the Huffington Post and The Daily Mail, as well as radio, television and podcasts, including the Practice of Being Seen and Shrink Rap Radio. Murray directs a group practice in Greensboro, NC and holds a faculty appointment at Northwestern University’s Family Institute.
LINKS
Website— https://drtommurray.com/
Self-assessment for the 5 Love Languages-- https://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/
Downloadable self-test-- https://www3.canyons.edu/faculty/rafterm/0%200lli%20loveandloss/Day%20Files/Day%201%20Files/5%20Love%20Languages%20Assessment.pdf
Dr. Elaine Aron-- https://hsperson.com/
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EPISODE
Bonus Episode Day 23
TITLE
How to Care for Ourselves When We are Depleted
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
After having 4 teenagers staying with us for 9 very long days, I talk about how depleted I am, and how challenging it was to be the only Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) who is sensitive to sounds, people and noise in a household of 6. It brought back those old feelings of feeling like I’m a freak and not asserting myself because I felt like I was being too picky. I realize that I need to assert my needs and figure out how to negotiate with others in order to have an environment that works for everyone. I realize that because of this, I haven’t done a very good job of teaching my boys how to be sensitive and considerate of others’ needs. I always made it about me, and I didn’t require them to be more mindful about this. They kids will be back for close to a month over spring break, so it will be important for me come up with some ways to allow myself to maintain peace and balance.
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.
LINKS
Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com
Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/
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EPISODE
Bonus Episode Day 22
TITLE
When No One Shows Up to the Party, Send Out More Invitations
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
I have an weekly online group, and for 2 weeks, I rushed to be there on time, and I was the only one. I felt angry and resentful and disappointed because I count on this group and the connection. For 2 weeks, I cut things short to be on time because I value this group. I realized that I need to add more members to the group (I’ve just been too busy, so I haven’t made it a priority, but my resentment was an indication that I need to take care of myself). HSPs tend to be very loyal, conscientious and committed to what we do. It’s not uncommon for us to overwork and overdo in relationships. If this works for us, there’s no problem, but often we end up feeling resentful or feeling like it’s more important to us than the other person(s). It’s our responsibility to take care of ourselves and our needs.
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.
LINKS
Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com
Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/
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MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
EPISODE
Bonus Episode Day 21
TITLE
Losing My Sh*t! It’s NOT about the Gravy!
GUEST
Solo episode—Patricia Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
I win the triple crown award for B*tch of the day for Thanksgiving! It was a stressful day filled with noise, overstimulation, too many people, overwhelm and some mishaps. I dropped a handful of swear words with all of my guests present in my home over a gravy mishap. It’s NOT about the gravy. There were stressors leading up, but I shamed my husband (which is totally NOT ok). I also talk about “the bank of mom,” and how when the bank of mom is depleted, you cannot make withdrawals before making some deposits or it impacts our relationship. A friend crowned herself “Victim of the Day,” and my neighbor dropped a whole pie before they left the house. How was your holiday? I’d love to hear all about it! The good, bad and ugly.
BIO
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.
LINKS
Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com
Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
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MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Vulnerability alert! I'm getting caught up with the number of downloads (listeners) to the podcast, and I'm feeling a little depressed because I'm connecting my sense of value and worth to how many people are listening. I'm questioning, "Do I matter? Am I important? Is what I have to say important?" and I'm thinking that, "No one wants to hear about me." My friend Laura Carr, LMFT reminds me that this is like dieting and getting on and off the scale and feeling good if the numbers go down, and feeling bad if the numbers go up. My value and worth are not connected to downloads. My "why" for doing this podcast is to create a tribe and a culture where we embrace sensitivity, and we feel really good about who we are.
This is a simple episode thanking all the listeners (and I mention all of the countries that you are listening from!). I give a special shout out to my husband Steve Young, my mom Judy Winkler, and my 2 best friends Laura Carr, LMFT and Maureen Fitzgerald. I offer a simple exercise in gratitude.
The holidays can be a really stressful time. In preparation for the holiday, what are you really wanting? It's easy to get focused on perfection (the perfect house; the perfect family; the perfect meal), bt we often lose the opportunity to connect with those we love because we're so focused on perfection.
EPISODE
Episode 6
TITLE
Creating Peace Through the Holidays
GUEST
Sharon Martin, LCSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We talk about ways to make the holidays smoother—in terms of travelling, having guests, dealing with family members who may be challenging, feeling obligated, overspending, expectations, and lots of ways that Sensitives can provide better care for themselves during these times of overstimulation, high expectations and lots of activity. Sharon explains what it’s like if a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) has a narcissist (or someone with narcissistic tendencies) in their life. We talk about feeling criticized, and no matter what you do, it never feels like you’re enough or you’re good enough. We talk a little about anxiety and depression and how counseling or therapy can help to gain insight into patterns that are from childhood. We talk about ways to take breaks; looking at new traditions, and being sure to take care of our basic needs
BIO
Sharon Martin, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist, mental health writer, and media contributor on emotional health and relationships. Her psychotherapy practice, in San Jose, CA, specializes in helping perfectionists and people-pleasers embrace their imperfections and overcome self-doubt and shame. Her own struggle to feel “good enough”, inspired her passion for helping others learn to accept and love themselves. Sharon writes the popular blog Happily Imperfect for PsychCentral.com and is the author of the forthcoming book The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism.
HIGHLIGHTS
- Which parts of the holidays are overwhelming?
- You don’t have to do everything
- Take a lot of breaks
- If you are travelling to see family, consider staying in a hotel
- Be sure you’re taking care of your basic needs—sleep, nutrition, time alone, exercise, quiet time
- How to deal with challenging family members who may be narcissistic or are very critical
- Setting realistic expectations
- Prioritizing your values
- Recognizing limited resources
- Identifying where you feel obligated
- Fear of disappointing others
LINKS
website: https://LiveWellwithSharonMartin.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sharonmartinlcsw/
blog: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imperfect/
Dr. Elaine Aron www.hsperson.com
Dr. Ted Zeff www.drtedzeff.com
Movie—Sensitive The Untold Story
Podcast—Highly Sensitive Person highlysensitiveperson.net/book
A Highly Sensitive Person’s Life: Stories and Advice for Those Who Experience the World Intensely by Kelly O’Laughlin
Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com
Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
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e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
EPISODE
Bonus Episode Day 17
TITLE
One of my favorite stories about Josh and empathy
GUEST
Joshua Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Josh talks about his perspective about sensitivity. We talk about my anxiety and how it impacted him and what was helpful in how I communicated with him. I talk about how when Josh was applying for college, at one point, I was asked to NOT talk with him about it, then my husband coached me to only ask him 2 questions at a time, which was very effective. I talk a lot in the introduction about the mental load we carry when we have to remember all the details for everyone we care for, and what a toll it can take. I give some suggestions about what worked for us.
BIO
Josh Young is a freshman at Cal State University Fullerton where he is a business major. Josh has a wicked sense of humor, and loves to push the rules until they just about break. Josh loves doing distance cycling, and he did his first triathalon a few years ago. He also participates in marathon napping!
LINKS
Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com
Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/
Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Often we are afraid of feeling disappointed or angry and frustrated if we ask for something and we don't get it. I share a few stories of taking a risk and asking, and getting some really positive responses and an unexpected outcome. Also, I have a really exciting surprise for you that's really the reason why I recorded this episode. There are 2 upcoming episodes that are geared to you as the listener and the holidays.
I mention Chel Hamilton who has a podcast Meditation Minis. You can find all things Chel here https://chelhamilton.com/
LINKS
Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com
Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/
Instagram--@unapologeticallysensitive
Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
My son Josh talks about what it's like having a therapist who's a mom. We also talk about our relationship, and the areas where we are similar. I ask Josh about the relationships his friends have with their parents.
Daniel Young (one of my twins) talks about how he feels about self-disclosure, and how he handled communicating with his teachers when he was in school. Daniel has ADHD and we talk about how he feels about this, and how he feels sharing it with others. I also ask him, "What do you want to say about me as a mom?"
EPISODE
Bonus Episode Day 13
TITLE
Would I Be a Twin If I Had a Choice?
GUEST
Josh Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
I had delightful conversation with one of my twins, Josh. We talk about self-disclosure and why Josh chooses to share the way he does. We talk about what it was like for Josh to have a twin, and the challenges it posed for him. Josh has a theory about why he thinks he and his twin are so different. I have a different perspective, which I share in my introduction to our conversation. Josh talks about telling his teacher his grandma was going to live in our backyard (before we added on to our house). I talk about some of my shortcomings as a parent since Josh needed more protection than I gave him. I also talk about the tattoos that they boys got on their 18th birthday and why it is so significant.
BIO
Josh Young is a freshman at Cal State University Fullerton where he is a business major. Josh has a wicked sense of humor, and loves to push the rules until they just about break. Josh loves doing distance cycling, and he did his first triathalon a few years ago. He also participates in marathon napping!
LINKS
Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com
Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/
Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
EPISODE
Bonus Episode Day 12
TITLE
When your kidult is engaging in behavior that doesn’t align with your values
GUEST
Daniel Young
EPISODE OVERVIEW
My twins were home from college for the weekend, and my son Daniel sat down with me to chat. I asked him what it’s like to have a mom who’s a therapist. We also talk about how we navigated when Daniel started engaging in behaviors that did not align with our family’s values. It’s controversial since most families would probably forbid the kidult against engaging in the behavior. My relationship with my son was more important, and since he was going to be 18 soon and heading off to college, it felt more important to have open and honest conversations with him about his behavior; how to stay safe and what my concerns were. I also think I may have been manipulative when I tell Daniel at the end that I love him. I think I wanted you all to hear that my son tells me he loves me.
BIO
Daniel is a freshman at Cal State University Long Beach where he is studying criminology. Daniel is a talented rapper who writes and performs his own songs. He is an amazing graphic designer and photographer. He took all the headshots on my website (and the pic of me podcasting that I use for the podcast).
LINKS
Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com
Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/
Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
EPISODE
005
TITLE
005 I gave myself permission to be me, and not place undue expectations about who I should be, with Melvin Varghese, PhD
GUEST
Melvin Varghese, PhD
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Melvin talks about what it was like being born in India, and coming to the U.S. as a sensitive, minority male in a new culture. Melvin talks about the collective consciousness in India compared to the individualistic values in the U.S. Before Melvin had the baby, he got up at 4:30 every morning; and he talks about his pre-baby morning routine, and what it looks like now. Melvin also talks about how he had to prepare for his first child, who was in the NICU after birth, and the values he wants to instill in his daughter. Melvin candidly talks about his fears and what he has done to create multiple successful business ventures. Melvin’s business success is tightly yoked with his strong values for social justice. Melvin is creating a scholarship fund for kids who have been rescued from brothels from some of the proceeds from one of his businesses—Selling The Couch Directory
BIO
Dr. Melvin Varghese is a psychologist and successful entrepreneur, as well as the host of the podcast Selling the Couch, which was listed as one of the top 15 podcasts in iTunes in 2015. It has grown by leaps and bounds since then! Melvin also has a podcasting course called The Healthcasters, and an online Directory for therapists called Selling the Couch Directory. Melvin also has a private practice where he helps entrepreneurs overcome the mental roadblocks that prevent success. He uses a variety of research-based strategies including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and mindfulness. In 2007, Melvin spent 3 weeks in Bombay in Bombay, India working with an NGO helping to end human sex trafficking (Bombay has the largest concentrated red light district in the world.). He decided to use his abilities to better the world and not just create income. Melvin met his future wife on a humanitarian trip to New Orleans in 2010 helping rebuild houses hit by Hurricane Katrina. He never imagined a Cowboy’s fan and Eagle’s fan living in one house. Melvin loves playing basketball weekly, and he loves spending time with his wife and new daughter.
QUOTES
- My needs shouldn’t be so, that I don’t think of the needs around me
- The point of parenting is to have a daughter who is kind and caring and develops the capacity to think through decisions and makes decisions that aligns with who she wants to be
- Business has never been just about business; there has to be a social mission or social justice to it
- Business success doesn’t just end with the financial goal. What we’ve done has impacted someone’s life—maybe for a generation
- Life was about who you were surrounded by. How do we serve those around us?
- Parenthood is teaching me to appreciate the moments
- Be kind and gracious to yourself. Don’t feel the pressure to conform. You’re not going to fit in a perfect box; nor should you
LINKS
Website— http://melvinvarghese.com/
Selling the Couch-- https://sellingthecouch.com/
Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com
Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/
Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
EPISODE Bonus Episode Day 11 TITLE Not Allowing Others to Define Us GUEST Solo episode—Patricia Young EPISODE OVERVIEW How wounding from our past can cause bigger reactions in us than the situation warrants. This can also trigger a strong sense for us to want to be right about a situation (and to want to make others wrong). This is due to shame and wounding. I talk about how I show up in the world, and my expectation that others will fully embrace who I am. Obviously, this doesn’t always happen (LOL). This triggers my gremlins that tell me that I’m too much; I share too much; I don’t have boundaries and that I should reign in back in. Sometimes we allow others to take up too much space in our head even though it keeps us stuck, and there are people who are providing support. We get to choose to live our lives out loud and to be exactly who we are. This is how we claim what is true for us. I also talk about how HSPs often take longer to accomplish things. We beat ourselves up, but often we need the extra time, and there are payoffs and benefits that come from taking the extra time. The use of mindful self-compassion is what helps us honor our rhythms. BIO Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. LINKS Podcast—How to Be a Girl by Marlo Mack Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Knowing we are an introvert, extrovert or Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), can bring relief, and it can help us understand why we are the way we are. It can provide comfort, validation, understanding and knowledge. However, it’s important to be mindful HOW we’re using these “labels.” I always thought I had social anxiety, but in retrospect, I think it was overwhelm and overstimulation. I also thought I was an introvert, so I avoided social situations thinking this was how to take care of myself. I recently learned that I’m a highly sensitive extrovert, and I need to find the right balance of stimulation and “out” time to feel really nurtured and fulfilled. When I thought I was an introvert, I took a lot of down time thinking it’s what I needed to recharge, but it left me feeling listless and a little depressed, because what I needed was connection to others.
I talk about the importance of play, and how it’s easy to lose the joy and connection we felt when we were younger, and how having that sense of connection can bring joy and energy to our lives.
I end up talking about how it took me 14 years to get my BA degree, and 8 years to get my license (which is a 2 year process), and then it took me 17 months to launch this podcast. This is where the use of self-compassion comes in, and trusting that as HSPs, we often need more time to do things. It’s not a bad thing.
I also talk about author Susan Cain and her book Quiet, the Power of Introverts, and how she blends traits of being Highly Sensitive with being an introvert. I also mention Jacquelyn Strickland’s article called Introverts, Extroverts and the Highly Sensitive Person which can be found on Dr. Elaine Aron's website. You can find references to these in the show notes.
Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC--https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/
Quiet, the Power of Introverts by Susan Cain
Podcast—How to Be a Girl by Marlo Mack
Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Many HSPs have wounding from childhood because their caregiver(s) were not able to attune with them (to understand their needs, and respond in a way that would have nurtured the HS child). This leads to anxiety and depression (shown in Dr. Elaine Aron's Research www.hsperson.com). Many HSPs grow up hating their sensitivity because it wasn't embraced or supported when they were young. These HSPs didn't learn how to honor their gifts, and often they have been told what's wrong with them, so they bring these wounds into their relationships, where they are told again that they are too sensitive. It's not the sensitivity that's the problem! It's the wounding. Then I go off on a little rant about the benefits of therapy and how to choose an HSP knowledgeable therapist.
We never know who we will impact, or how people will be impacted by our behavior. This is a little change of pace, and I feel pretty vulnerable putting this out there. There is so much power in receiving forgiveness! I was bully when I was younger, and although I apologized to the boy I was ruthless to when I saw him many years ago at my high school reunion, when I launched this podcast, he was following me on social media, and I felt like I didn't deserve to have him share my episodes and support me because I had been so terrible to him. I reached out to him via messenger and I read his response to me in this episode.
Sometimes where there are unexpected changes, we have a little bit of a harder time going with the flow. This episode talks about some of the types of big and small changes that might throw us off, and how we can work with our reactions so that when life gets bumpy, we learn how to ride the bumps
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When there is too much going on, and we need to find a quiet place to retreat in order to get some balance, what can we do? In this short episode I give a tip on how to get grounded if you're at work or home and only have a few minutes. Sometimes we just need to take what we can get.
Matt Marr is a therapist, actor, podcaster & activist, just to name a few. Matt brings an open and refreshing view about growing up being an effeminate kid with a lisp in the South, and the mixed messages he received. We talk about the intersection of sensitivity and being gay in terms of degenderizing the world. Matt takes Dr. Elaine Aron's self-test to see if he rates as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). The was the very FIRST interview I did for the podcast, and Matt was exceptionally kind and supportive as I felt my way through the interview. We talk abut code switching, and how it affected Matt. We talk about bullying and playing sports as a kid when he wasn't athletic and didn't respond well to being athletic. Matt talks about his involvement with Camp Brave Trails and The Trevor Project.
https://twitter.com/themattmarr?lang-en
https://www.youtube.com/user/talktomattmarr
Camp Brave Trails https://www.bravetrails.org/
Trevor Project https://www.thetrevorproject.org
Dr. Elaine Aron HSP self-test https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/
unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
show hashtag #unapologeticallysensitive
MUSIC--Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Highly Sensitive People are extremely conscientious. We care deeply about the work we do. We show up on time; we're prepared and we work hard. We think everyone has the same work ethic and values that we do, but it's not true.
As Highly Sensitive People, our nervous systems often get overwhelmed and overstimulated. Learn how you can calm and soothe your overactive nervous system.
Highly Sensitive People often feel more connected when they are in nature, or listening to music, or watching performing arts. We feel things deeply and pick up on subtleties, so these things nurture our spirit.
Highly Sensitive People think deeply about things that have happened; conversations they have had, and even about upcoming events. We take in so much information, that we explore multiple aspects of things we've experienced. Sometimes this means that we play "Could have, would have, should have" and it's usually not in our favor. We tend to be hard on ourselves and beat ourselves up wishing the conversation might have gone differently. Sometimes we need more time to process, and don't say what we want to in the moment.
Highly Sensitive People are easily overwhelmed by sensory input (think the 5 senses--taste, touch, smell, hearing and sight). Bright lights and bright sunshine can feel like too much, strong smells, loud noises or unappealing noises can feel assaulting to our finely-tuned nervous systems. The texture of clothes can strongly impact us (tags, itchy fabric, restrictive clothing, tight belts or waistbands). We may have a favorite blanket or pillow because it is soft and comforting. It might be difficult to tune out noises in the environment that others don't even hear or notice.
Lauren talks about the power of mirroring in relationships, and how it positively impacts her work as an interviewer and a therapist--mirroring is reflecting back what the other person has shared in order to improve communication. Lauren beautifully describes how she intentionally feel into emotions before and during sessions/interviews as a way to be an even more effective practitioner practitioner/interviewer. We also talk about friendships, and Lauren talks about specific exercises and tools that can be sued with a partner or friend to get closer and learn more about each other.
QUOTES--
- This emotion is perfect for this moment
- My goal is to feel everything that arises in me
- Feeling are superpowers
- Another name for HSP--A person who gets the texture of life
BIO--
Lauren is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist in San Francisco, California. She works with couples, individuals and people living with chronic illness. Lauren was diagnosed with Relapsing Multiple Sclerosis in 2015, and has found that although living with an autoimmune disease is not an easy path, it's brought more joy and fulfillment into her life than before. This January (2018) she launched the podcast "This is Not What I Ordered;" a weekly interview show about full-hearted living with chronic illness and health challenges. She believes that the biggest difficulties in our lives are often invitations into a deeper, richer, more conscious relationship with ourselves.
HIGHLIGHTS--
Imago Couple's Dialogue
- Sender (no blaming, shaming or criticizing)
- Receiver mirrors word for word (provides summary and validating
- Validation--why it makes sense based on who the sender is (not based on the receiver)
Two styles of conflict
- Minimizer
- Maximizer
- Both partners are needed to maintain the ecosystem (the balance in the relationship)
Reflections to do weekly with your partner
- Something you did to support our relationship this week
- What was it like when you did that?
- Something I did this week to support the relationship
- How was it helpful to me
- If I could have a do-over this week, this is what I would do differently
LINKS
www.laurenselfridgetherapy.com
www.laurenselfridgephotography.com
Twitter: @NWIOpodcast and @HelloSelfridge
Instagram: @NWIOpodcast @LaurenSelfridgeOfficial
Facebook: www.facebook.com/thisisnotwhatiordered
Show hashtag: #NWIOpodcast
Website-- www.patriciayounglcsw.com
Podcast-- www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Youtube-- www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6foodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Show hashtag-- #unapologeticallysensitive
MUSIC--Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive!gmail.com
Annie talks about overwhelm, and how she has created an environment that works for her, and as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), what she needs when she travels. Annie talks about how she helps others create fulfilling businesses. We talk about podcasting (and as an introvert), what this has allowed her to do. Annie talks about being called a crybaby, and she would say now to her younger self.
Quotes--
- You're not fragile; you're very strong
- Annie's response to being an HSP--"I love me, and it's absolutely a part of me."
- I am strong, and I want to be in difficult conversations
- Another name for HSP--"Highly Perceptive" or "Tuned in"
Bio--
Annie Schuessler, LMFT, is a business coach and the creator of The Superpower Method for therapists Program and the podcast Therapist Clubhouse. She's been a private practice therapist for over 15 years, and since 2010, she's been helping private practice entrepreneurs build profitable and fulfilling businesses by leveraging their unique superpowers. You can find her resources for entrepreneurs trained as therapists at www.coachingwithannie.com
Highlights--
- The card game Annie talks about is Settlers Catan (or simply Catan)
- Associations made with the term HSP--difficult, sensitive, fragile
- Annie helps clients identify ideal working hours, what drains their energy, and how to make more room for themselves
- We talk about perceived weaknesses and the corresponding strengths of being an HSP
- Annie talks about the myths that clients have when trying to decide what their ideal business looks like
- The challenges Annie experiences when anticipating new situations
- How podcasting has allowed her to have full creative control and the unexpected gifts it has brought her
Links--
Annie's website--www.coachingwithannie.com
To learn more about Patricia--www.patriciayounglcsw.com
podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
facebook--www.facebook.com/groups/20997055880047619/
youtube--www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO31w0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
e-mail--unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com
show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music--Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
If you've ever felt like you're alone, weird, different, this is where you may find your tribe. You may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), introvert, INFJ, ENFJ, deep thinker, deep feeler, creative, maker, healer or just someone who loves in-depth conversations. I talk about what to expect from this podcast, and I play clips I recorded before I launched talking about my fears. Some of the language is explicit in this episode (at least for now, I'm trying to keep it clean in future episodes--this may change). We talk about the gifts and strengths associated with sensitivity, the cultural perceptions of sensitivity and we talk about play. For more information www.patriciayounglcsw.com www.unapologeticallysensitive.com www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
